( Finding the Will to Live ) A Transparent look Inside my Mental Health
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
- Mental Health is very important to me. Too many people suffer alone. So In this video, I share with you the things most people like to keep hidden. I open up about insecurities, my rock bottom, and how I have been managing my mental health.
God is with you!
I can’t tell you how much I relate to this video . I’m glad you were open enough to share this with people . Therapy is something I’ve been putting off for quite a while keeping myself busy and making excuses on why I don’t need to go but hearing how your sessions caused you to reflect and establish a sense of self kinda makes me think I need to adjust some of my priorities . Maybe I’ll be in a better spot if i do .. and find clarity
Therapy had definitely helped me understand myself , thoughts and actions better. I feel like I would be further along if I we’re consistent. I don’t think it’s the "end all be all" of solutions out there, but I do think it is very valuable to have a person who can help you get to the root of your problems. I hope you find the clarity you need. Thank you for being here 🧡
I am so glad I found you! i wish we could meet irl I already feel like a kindred spirit. Please know you are so beautiful naturally inside and on the outside you have radiant glowing skin amazing hair you are so articulate and have a natural easy flow to your discussion which makes it both insightful and interesting but also easy to digest exactly as if it’s a chat with a friend. You are clearly a creative soul who is very wise and has gleaned a lot of wisdom from the past - please, keep shining! Oh and in case it seems weird that I wrote all of those different aspects of compliments it was going back to your self love point and feeling “good enough” it was to kind of help remind you of all of the good about you, and your uniqueness ❤
😊🥰 Thank you so much! It is greatly appreciated and no I don’t think it’s weird at all lol . It’s nice to be reminded positive things because I definitely don’t always see it in myself. I would love to meet another kindred spirit as well but I’m assuming you live in a whole other country or something. At least we have the internet. Thank you again for your sweet comment!
hey, i got ur video recommended to me and felt compelled to make this comment
so although our live paths arent the exact same i related a lot with ur mental health journey and in the same order. i related to the negative thoughts, the pragmatic thoughts, the coping mechanisms, the "flaws" or faults that i saw in myself that i worked so hard to fix by self discipline, i really related to the self critics (i dont believe its necessarily bad to critic and evaluate ourselves btw).
im talking about myself a lot in this comment but what i wanted to share is im currently 27 and just got an official diagnosis for being in the autism spectrum, and as i learned more about it and how it shapes who i am as a person i can say that a lot of this started making more sense and im learning that a lot of these this that (coincidently or not) u mentioned in the video that i personally related were characteristics (and not flaws) and coping mechanisms related to autism.
that being said im not suggesting u are or may be on the autism spectrum, but since u mentioned u believe in therapy and are working with urself i though i could share this perspective, just in case u would find it valuable and relevant or might want to seek an autism diagnosis. i can at least speak for myself that now that i know, i have been accomodating and understanding my needs that i didnt even know i had, and life as been getting easier, although it is also hard to adapt and accept a new reality for urself.
i hope this comment was worth it to read and if not please disregard completely or just notify me and ill delete the comment.
i hope u find the life and state of mind u are looking for
also if u have any questions u would like me to answer or if u want me to elaborate on something let me know :)
Thank you for sharing! It’s always comforting to know that i’m not alone. That is an interesting perspective that I have never thought of…I suppose it wouldn’t hurt to be tested but it does sound like a difficult reality to accept in addition to the current one I’m trying to accept. I literally just got out of my first therapy session in over a year and it just reaffirmed what seems to be the root of all my problems is that I don’t feel like I’m enough. So currently I’m going to try an figure that out …it all feels very complicated. But I am glad you go some answers and are able to adjust accordingly. I hope that I will find that same clarity.
I’m curious as to how or what made you think to get tested for autism and not adhd or some other disorder?
thats very fair, the timing is very important.
to answer your question first id like to say i am also diagnosed with adhd so i guess u could say i also searched for that and my doctor also told me that if you have autism it is statistically more likely to also have adhd than just adhd alone. but i suggest fact checking that.
but specifically with the autism diagnosis: when i booked the appointment i was already 90% sure that i was autistic at that time, because i think it was a whole process. i started to relate a lot to the experiences that autistic people shared, then i started to learn more what autism is and how it modified the way the brain thinks and processes information and how the autistic person (and body) experiences and processes the world. then i started implementing some autistic accommodations into my life like using earplugs to block excessive noise, wearing sunglasses to block too much brightness, using coping mechanisms that some autistic people use and sugested to deal with extreme anxiety and discomfort etc... (which most i wasnt even aware that they were bothering me until it was brought to my attention by other people talking about it) because i thought even if im not autistic if these things help me feel calmer and more comfortable why not do them. and yeah then i just kept thinking and analysing "am i autistic?" and the more i was familiar with autism and recognised that in myself i was like "yeah definitely lol" and then got a doctor appointment to close the deal. also i tried bringing it up to a past therapist and they dismissed it but i felt like it was something that was really impacting my life so i kept my search and found a place specialised on diagnosing autism in adults which i think is key.
sorry if i was wayyy to in depth i thought it was clearer to explain that way
also there is this book which was used in my diagnostic process called autism and aspergers syndrome in adults by luke beardon. that really explained everything that was going on
@@IPLCF I appreciate your openness and willingness to share. I’m also glad you found the help and comfort you needed. I’ve thought about getting tested for adhd at the very least ..hmm I guess I’ll go where the wind blows lol but you have given me something to think about. Thank you 😊
Thank you for your transparency. I'm happy that you sought therapy and didn't resort to any self-harm. Glad you are in a better space. Wish I could say more, but you covered all the bases lol. I am cis, or straight, hetero? Idk the correct term, but I sincerely want you to embrace who you are, and feel no shame in it. I'm working on that for myself in my own way. Much love from NC.
Thank you for the comment ! I never know how to respond to these but I really appreciate the support. I’m working through it and I’m sure with support like this I’ll get there a little faster. I hope the same for you. 🧡✨
Oh gosh, this video was recommended to me. I think ive been dealing with depression for almost...9 years now? I remember thats when I started feeling like I was on autopilot and drifted into isolation. Social anxiety as well, im currently at school and have to give a lot of presentations and they're absolute hell. I got into my first relationship at 24 and it is the best thing in my life, but the danger of that is clinging to somebody too tightly...and depending on them. Ok thats enough of my story for sake of talking about myself like a narc, but thank you for this video. I see a lot of similarities between our experiences with mental health and even little things like talking to yourself hahaha i do that a bunch. Thank you for letting others like us that we're not alone ❤
It’s sucks that we are both dealing with .. suckiness but I do appreciate you telling me about you! I fear clinging on to someone for the wrong reasons also which is why I stay away. But now I fear I will be an old spinster if I don’t gather myself in time lol. Looks like we are in this together and I’m wishing you and everyone else nothing but the best ! Thank you for being here 🧡
I have social anxiety too and empathize with your story. I wouldn't even have the confidence to upload a UA-cam video, so well done!! I've thought about doing improv as well, would you recommend it ?
Thanks for sharing your story ❤
😊 I would definitely recommend it. It’s been a great way to get out of my comfort zone. It’s definitely been challenging. But I think it pushes you in the best ways , mostly by getting real weird and playful. Plus it’s all about support. I’ve met a great group of people and had a lot of fun. I say go for it !
Whats up Reva, just checkin in saying hi. Hope you are doing well!
Hey thanks for checking in on me ! :) I really appreciate it. It’s nice knowing people care. I’m doing ok. I hope you are doing well also. I will be posting a vid tomorrow talking about what’s been going on in my life. Check it out if you can! Thanks again!
Why did you move to Mexico?
The goal was San Diego and all the opportunities there…but I couldn’t afford it. Mexico gives me access without the financial worries. But there is always give and take.