Why It Seems Like Everyone Has More Money Than You

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  • @AccordingtoNicole
    @AccordingtoNicole  Місяць тому +18

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    • @jeffmunkynutz1568
      @jeffmunkynutz1568 29 днів тому

      If you owe $1 in credit, you are part of the arbitrarily, bank decided, approved participant only, global ponzi scheme cult that collectively, has now racked up 300 trillion in debt, my question is, who did YOUR $50k per person share of that come from, and hows that made THEIR life look?
      (Not really a question, more of a math/moral statement if anything, but worth pondering even if only to ultimately dismiss)
      Also you DONT see the vids you mentioned because yt relegates them to the "purgatory server" 😉

    • @dor1994
      @dor1994 29 днів тому

      I wish delete me was available to us Canadians too instead of US only as it says on their page

    • @AccordingtoNicole
      @AccordingtoNicole  29 днів тому +1

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  • @fredflintstone8048
    @fredflintstone8048 29 днів тому +110

    Don't compare yourself to other people. It's a fool's errand.

    • @jay-j6l
      @jay-j6l 22 дні тому +5

      this is why I compare down...oh you poor bastards lol

    • @colinrussell2017
      @colinrussell2017 18 днів тому +1

      ​@@jay-j6l"Things could always be WORSE" always adds some glimmer to my day!

    • @ignaciogodoy7095
      @ignaciogodoy7095 6 днів тому +1

      The answer is debt, is all a house if cards, you lose your job and all goes down hill from there

    • @mocheen4837
      @mocheen4837 3 дні тому

      There are so many people who are millionaires that you will never be able to compare.

  • @HectorBailey-zi7du
    @HectorBailey-zi7du 21 день тому +404

    It can sometimes feel like everyone else is doing financially better, especially with social media making it look like people are always on vacation or buying new things. But often, what people show doesn’t reflect their actual financial situation. Debt, loans, and credit cards can make it seem like they have more money than they really do.

    • @rodgertim2881
      @rodgertim2881 21 день тому +6

      Exactly! It’s easy to forget that a lot of people might be living paycheck to paycheck or are in debt trying to keep up appearances. Just because someone seems well-off doesn’t necessarily mean they’re financially stable.

    • @MartinHicks-dw2su
      @MartinHicks-dw2su 21 день тому +4

      Plus, I think a lot of people prioritize different things. Some are willing to spend more on luxury items, vacations, or dining out, but that doesn’t mean they’re saving or investing for the long term. They may have nice things now but could be sacrificing financial security in the future.

    • @sebastiaanthijn7982
      @sebastiaanthijn7982 21 день тому +2

      And everyone has different financial responsibilities. Some people might have help from family or inheritance, while others may be paying off student loans or supporting relatives. There’s so much going on behind the scenes that we don’t always see.

    • @sebastiaanthijn7982
      @sebastiaanthijn7982 21 день тому +2

      Also, personal finance isn’t just about income; it’s about managing what you have. Even with a modest income, smart saving and investing can lead to wealth over time. Sometimes people look wealthy because they’re spending everything they earn, not because they’re actually building wealth.

    • @JoshuaWright-h7x
      @JoshuaWright-h7x 21 день тому +2

      Definitely. Comparison can be discouraging, but staying focused on personal goals and making consistent progress matters more. Small wins, like saving, investing, or budgeting, add up over time.

  • @edwardkerr2951
    @edwardkerr2951 27 днів тому +125

    "a man with no bills is a rich man" - Jack Morgan RLP

    • @jay-j6l
      @jay-j6l 22 дні тому +1

      homeless people with no money have no bills and never pay taxes, I would never want to be like them.

    • @24Ruiner
      @24Ruiner 21 день тому +6

      Chill out… *INHALES*… take a hit

    • @Bozzyman2
      @Bozzyman2 15 днів тому +4

      @@24Ruiner metaphorically, speaking, of course

    • @lllllllllllll31lll
      @lllllllllllll31lll 13 днів тому

      That guy is the millenial version of gerbert johnson

    • @ChangYu-wi4ez
      @ChangYu-wi4ez 12 днів тому

      @@jay-j6ltheres worse things than being homeless. Like making/stressing about a house payment.
      Live by your means.

  • @colinrussell2017
    @colinrussell2017 29 днів тому +161

    A person I work with gets phone calls from a collection agency all the time. A month later she's off on a tropical vacation. YOLO!!!

    • @Iquey
      @Iquey 28 днів тому +5

      Imma be the part time temp working from home on the other line on my days off from my full time job. It's the one legal way to get a bit of revenge on the mean customers who think they are above retail workers.

    • @BrandonLeech
      @BrandonLeech 28 днів тому +3

      livin that Yolo life🤣

    • @stevestruthers6180
      @stevestruthers6180 22 дні тому +5

      Eventually, she'll be forced to file for bankruptcy or a consumer proposal. because eventually, all the credit card debt she took on to finance her trips will catch up with her and she won't be able to pay any of it.

    • @rcas350pilot8
      @rcas350pilot8 21 день тому

      @@stevestruthers6180 no worries, some simp, I mean guy will help her out.

    • @No._1_Karen
      @No._1_Karen 19 днів тому

      Good for her! 💪

  • @sailingwiththegods538
    @sailingwiththegods538 27 днів тому +226

    Most of the people with money are the ones who look like they're poor.

    • @scottgray636
      @scottgray636 21 день тому +12

      Exactly, they don't spend money on unnecessary things.

    • @Mystic_Edge
      @Mystic_Edge 21 день тому +2

      Right!

    • @kangaroo9299
      @kangaroo9299 20 днів тому +7

      The outcomes are driven by behaviors.
      1.save-invest-save resulting rich but looks poor
      2 spend-loan-spend resulting poor but looks rich
      3. The offsprings of the save-invest-save are rich and look rich 😂

    • @Joe_334
      @Joe_334 17 днів тому +2

      I hate how my mother, even when I am past the age of 30, still tries to justify overspending and never paying off a damn credit card. She should be grateful I am not even coming to her and constantly begging for money, but she is still so damn invasive. I have a 2001 camry that I was fortunate to keeping care of, and the car is paid off. I am in between jobs right now, and she is STILL trying to dictate what she thinks I should spend money on. My sister went and got another car, over small preventable issues with the last car. BOTH of them are so far behind in taxes, trying to tell me how to recklessly spend.
      I take after the father, and actually refused to keep using the credit card, unless I know I can cover what I borrow shortly after. He did not care for the red flags of her being in deep credit card debt, and bad credit when they met.

    • @notyourbestie
      @notyourbestie 11 днів тому

      Yes. Because they live in simplicity.
      I was an immigrant and I remember my parents in the 3rd world country I left. We have a house, they dont have debt. And then I went to Canada. I have car loan. Dont have own home yet bc cannot afford yet but if I will buy, I need to mortgage and pay it for 35 yrs. And thats when I realized, riches are superficial. My parents can have a day off anytime they want to, yet I'm stuck like a slave bc if i stop working, I will be homeless 😢

  • @2ChukBuk
    @2ChukBuk 29 днів тому +346

    "Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants." - Epictetus

    • @theglowcloud2215
      @theglowcloud2215 29 днів тому

      Sure, that's what the ruling class wants you to believe; they have great possessions, but they've done a hell of a job selling minimalism to the upper middle class as a lifestyle choice.

    • @VV-fj5lh
      @VV-fj5lh 25 днів тому +15

      The philosopher Diogenes was sitting on a curbstone, eating bread and lentils for his supper. He was seen by the philosopher Aristippus, who lived comfortably by flattering the king.
      Said Aristippus, "If you would learn to be subservient to the king, you would not have to live on lentils."
      Said Diogenes, "Learn to live on lentils, and you will not have to cultivate the king."

    • @jay-j6l
      @jay-j6l 22 дні тому +2

      because the rich people have all the things they want, so, ya they end up with few wants lol

    • @elegantsimplicity5811
      @elegantsimplicity5811 14 днів тому +1

      this statement is so simplistic, it's ridiculous

  • @mi-da2920
    @mi-da2920 29 днів тому +64

    I have only financed a car once in my life. Felt relief once it was paid off and decided never to do that again. My last payment was in 2017 and I stood behind what I said.

    • @wcg66
      @wcg66 6 днів тому +1

      It’s not always bad. We financed our Prius with a 50% down payment and 0.99% interest. We were earning more than that in our savings account. However, current rates make this approach less appealing.

    • @drecksaukerl
      @drecksaukerl 5 днів тому

      @@wcg66 Exactly! Paying cash for a new or used car is not financially smart if the loan rate is zero or much lower than what you earn from investments. When I bought my VW 4 years ago, they offered a 0% interest loan so I put down enough to avoid being upside-down and financed the rest. Meanwhile my investments have continued to grow. That said, I can't blame people for wanting to avoid debt by paying cash. The peace of mind of being debt free means alot to many folks.

    • @stephenmisener1659
      @stephenmisener1659 3 дні тому

      I think it depends, right now im financing a car for the first time my prior vehicles were older that id paid in cash. This one is a vehicle that while not my favorite, will last me decades and wont require much in maintenance at all over that time. While id love to have not had a payment, it was better for me than using my old car that needed constant maintenance. But i do know after i pay this car off, i will trade it in for the vehicle i really want (thatll last me a really long time) and put as much down as possible. By that point ill have far more money saved, much better financing experience, better credit, and so my rates will be alot better.. Or ill just buy a car off a private seller and sell my old car and have little/no financing involved at all.

    • @HaiRune
      @HaiRune 2 дні тому

      @@stephenmisener1659Yeah I’m in the same boat. I drive long commutes for work so when my 07 CRV was totaled I splurged and got a new rav4 that’ll last me forever and has cruise control. I’m 30k in debt but I also can save 3K a month so I don’t have stress with having a car payment

  • @NATURALGC
    @NATURALGC 25 днів тому +46

    Just a little FYI. 40 isn't old. I've launched and run small businesses since i was 23. At 44 I'm opening another business and continuing to invest.
    40 isn't some year you kick your feet up and sit in a lawn chair. You'll still have goals and aspirations and alot of energy and creativity.

    • @MargaretGSmith-c1q
      @MargaretGSmith-c1q 22 дні тому +4

      My 42yr. old son just paid off his house. He’s now working on investments. Nothing was handed to him, he worked hard for what he has. Quite an accomplishment for someone his age.

    • @yeshalloween
      @yeshalloween 21 день тому +7

      Seriously. I’m 42 years old and I just had a baby. I also just started a business this past year.

    • @nicolasdupuis114
      @nicolasdupuis114 15 днів тому +1

      What kind of business ? What country do you live in ?

    • @brianandrews7099
      @brianandrews7099 9 днів тому +2

      People don’t understand how young he is. Yes Mr Trump.

    • @DragonsFrogs
      @DragonsFrogs 4 дні тому

      Yeah totally agree, I’ll also chime in with the fact that I think people sometimes forget that a lot of hard work up front can go a long way if you’re strategic with it. Not everyone with a medical doctorate is “touching butt holes” or whatever was said. I’ve used mine to work a consulting/liaison type role that is work from home 25-30 hours a week and a salary thats top 1-2%. Those 8 years working on the doctorate were crazy hard work but I was done by mid 20’s and had some amazing times during those 8 years as well. I’ve also known people with a bachelors who have gone back and done that program in 4-6 years as well in their 40’s. There’s no right way or too late with most of this stuff, the only mistake is basing your life around materialism, but that’s another topic.

  • @ayg2199
    @ayg2199 29 днів тому +411

    i’ve been saying this for years. everyone is driving a nice car, takes vacations, and wears nice clothes. maybe my perspective is skewed because i drive a 20 year old pickup truck, don’t travel, and have cycled the same 5 shirts to work for the last 5 years. it’s ok, i’m not fooled by any of it.

    • @rowlandwetmaker
      @rowlandwetmaker 29 днів тому +23

      Sorry but I cycle 5 shirts to work for 6 years, but hey, no debt to anyone.... LOL

    • @bbb_888
      @bbb_888 29 днів тому +24

      I think the problem is, you are comparing yourself to others when you should be comparing yourself to you! Really evaluate your current life to see if you're better, worse, or the same as before.

    • @clint6716
      @clint6716 29 днів тому +41

      They're not buying anything, they're financing. Big difference

    • @johnepperson8867
      @johnepperson8867 29 днів тому +2

      I'm with you , for sure !!!!

    • @VictorMaxol
      @VictorMaxol 29 днів тому +8

      You're what I see in the mirror. One thing about my low status, I could just do nothing for a few years if I wished.

  • @lmusima3275
    @lmusima3275 29 днів тому +33

    A lot of people are fake rich 💰 huge credit card 💳 debt 💸 or scammers of some sort. Some have rented mansions, fancy cars 🚗 pretending it’s theirs

  • @colinrussell2017
    @colinrussell2017 29 днів тому +159

    "Wealth is not measured by how much money you make. It's measured by how much money you KEEP."
    -Some wise person

    • @d3r4g45
      @d3r4g45 28 днів тому +5

      Money you KEEP will be eaten up by inflation.

    • @Netop222
      @Netop222 27 днів тому +6

      @@d3r4g45 This concept of "investing" will blow your mind, then...

    • @Tryp-j9d
      @Tryp-j9d 27 днів тому

      @@d3r4g45DAMN, you’re DUMB!!

    • @timothy4557
      @timothy4557 26 днів тому +1

      But I can't keep it if I don't make it.

    • @rhall3919
      @rhall3919 26 днів тому +6

      @@d3r4g45 Yes, which is why you put some of your money into hard assets.
      Also inflation isn't much of a factor until you spend, so reducing wants gives you more to deploy on needs.

  • @TheBigdog868
    @TheBigdog868 29 днів тому +119

    The guys at work have new pickups, and I'm tooling around in a 20 year old Mercury Grand Marquis.
    When it's slow season, they're sweating the payments, and I'm enjoying my time off. Anything that costs me my peace of mind is too expensive.

    • @BD-qq4fn
      @BD-qq4fn 29 днів тому +8

      Grand Marquis one of the greatest cars ever made! Bulletproof V-8, 20+ MPG, great suspension……and about every 100-150k miles, needs u joints. That’s a 400k+ mile car if you keep the rust at bay. Sure wish they continued those great machines.

    • @elzbietamiet1635
      @elzbietamiet1635 29 днів тому +6

      Mercury Grand Marquis is a damn good car. The REAL quality is there with that one. I salute you. 👏 👏

    • @lilblackduc7312
      @lilblackduc7312 27 днів тому

      You should pamper that Grand Marquis. That's a fine automobile!

    • @grantog123
      @grantog123 25 днів тому

      Hahahahaha. I love it. Me too. Beaters for life!

    • @RabidRango
      @RabidRango 23 дні тому

      panther cars are the only good cars B)

  • @jhouser972
    @jhouser972 24 дні тому +21

    If I had to estimate, 80% of people finance everything to seem wealthy, 15% outright lie about what they have, and only 5% can genuinely afford what they have and do.

  • @dwagner58
    @dwagner58 29 днів тому +51

    I give you an immediate like because it's so true. I have the exact thoughts when I'm at a red light noticing cars...great commentary and thank you for speaking truth.

  • @goodmorningluly
    @goodmorningluly 27 днів тому +26

    Everything is becoming so dull. It’s like a constant competition of who’s better than who. Life isn’t supposed to be like this. Sometimes, I feel like selling everything I own and moving to a beach town where no one knows me, living a simpler life. It feels like, in the city where we were born and know so many people, we always have to look good and show we’re doing better than others. I don’t see myself as that kind of person, even though I live comfortably. But honestly, what I truly want is to live somewhere where no one knows me and be who I really am.

    • @lucialuciferion6720
      @lucialuciferion6720 27 днів тому +1

      I want to move to Skyrim. Is this possible? Just a simple life with my loved ones, would be absolute bliss.

    • @skarab9
      @skarab9 26 днів тому +1

      Do it. And dont look back

    • @Arienrhod
      @Arienrhod 25 днів тому +2

      As you get older you’ll stop caring as much.

    • @colinrussell2017
      @colinrussell2017 18 днів тому +1

      ​​@@lucialuciferion6720People in Skyrim live hard lives. No one there is happy. Trust me, I've spent a lot of time there and I know!
      Edit: I'm currently living in Night City and it's pretty bad here too😢

    • @lucialuciferion6720
      @lucialuciferion6720 18 днів тому

      @@colinrussell2017 The cold might get to some, but I love it cold 😁

  • @EvanDelay
    @EvanDelay 28 днів тому +25

    Everyone needs a wise person like you in their lives. Thank you Nicole.

  • @dawn4224
    @dawn4224 26 днів тому +11

    To each their own. My daughter always wanted to be a doctor and she was not rich so it was a tough journey for her. She did not do it to become wealthy; that is what her whole being wanted to do. Proud of you for doing what you wish and proud of my daughter for doing the same. So true about so many struggling to look like they are wealthy. The true goal should be to follow your dreams and not the dreams (often false illusions) of others. I admire that you walk your own path and are so grounded. Enjoy your day.

  • @carolherm
    @carolherm 29 днів тому +27

    Thanks again! I love your authenticity and honesty.

  • @l.5832
    @l.5832 29 днів тому +55

    I live in a tiny condo that, fortunately, I own outright. A few blocks away there is a neighbourhood of really huge and expensive homes where I like to take walks. I often wonder how people afford these homes. Then I realized each home had about 5 vehicles. What they do is rent out the basement, usually carved into several suites, then upstairs they rent out all the spare bedrooms. The actual square footage the owners occupy is probably not much more than my tiny condo. Some of the homes also house 3-4 generations and they are all paying rent to the generation that holds the title.

    • @JustBee03
      @JustBee03 27 днів тому +3

      This is EXACTLY what's common these days.

    • @crybebebunny
      @crybebebunny 27 днів тому +1

      I live in a 2 bedroom/ 1 bathroom apt. I do most of the house work while my husband works very hard. I am disabled. Yet the neighbors who lives with their sister-in-law, mother-in-law, father-in-law with girlfriend, like a minimum of 10 people with one more bathroom. Only a lady there works full-time, everyone else works part-time if any. They make fun and deminer the full-time worker. They must collect money from the government. Seems to me that how they party, and can afford the pot they consume. We truly couldn't live with some many people. I and my youngest have Autism, that would be overwhelming.

    • @Jaythetruckerr
      @Jaythetruckerr 19 днів тому +1

      Yes, and they are smart because all those people are paying off their mortgage and eventually they will own that giant house by working smarter and not harder

  • @benjamindejonge3624
    @benjamindejonge3624 29 днів тому +36

    I’m comfortable, no cars but a bike, not a big house but a non mortgage apartment etc. savings in the bank. If the water heater, fridge telephone computer etc breaks I can repair/replace them instantly, have honeybees, and a great photo camera, respectfully wife. And happy living on a small Mediterranean. Do I live a glamorous life? no but I do have good friends. Like you

    • @MiteshDamania
      @MiteshDamania 28 днів тому +1

      Congrats. Sounds like a life I want

  • @mrgtmodernretrogamingtech6891
    @mrgtmodernretrogamingtech6891 29 днів тому +18

    Living like you have nothing to prove is my mantra ever since I woke up from this system, ergo, escaping the matrix in my early 30s pandemic... Saves me a lot of time, energy, and money... And the most important, having freedom and peace of mind... No amount of money can buy that...

  • @MM-kk8uh
    @MM-kk8uh 29 днів тому +38

    Never underestimate the power of NOT having to to pay rent, even if I only paid half what I pay already I'd be able to go on a vacation every 2 months

  • @rcas350pilot8
    @rcas350pilot8 29 днів тому +16

    It does seem as if everyone is doing quite well. When I compare myself to them there is one big difference. When morning comes, they have to go to work, I don't.

  • @davea691
    @davea691 29 днів тому +22

    Drive a 2010 Toyota Camry....paid $10k five years ago. Plan to keep it at least another 5 years. I do not like to stand out.

    • @johnborron1059
      @johnborron1059 23 дні тому +1

      Man we had an '05 for 10 years, went everywhere in it, gave it to our son after he got his licence and he wrote it off after a couple of months. Loved that car, would own another one any day. That said I'm fortunate enough to genuinely not care what anyone thinks about my vehicles, but I'm also good with fixing them so I have that advantage I guess.

  • @MoreCoffeePlease.
    @MoreCoffeePlease. 29 днів тому +51

    Shout out to GI doctors and proctologists. They’re necessary and provide life saving services to their communities.

    • @alinatamashevich3354
      @alinatamashevich3354 28 днів тому +8

      And my doctor that has more degrees than a thermometer, he drives a 160K Range Rover. But 20+ years in school, he can drive anything he wants.

    • @MoreCoffeePlease.
      @MoreCoffeePlease. 28 днів тому +6

      @@alinatamashevich3354 Absolutely agree. I don’t think Nicole meant it the way it landed (for me), but I felt like doctors and highly educated professionals were sort of being disregarded as money hungry. I can’t see myself ever spending money (that I don’t have 😹) on a luxury car but didn’t care for the repeated reference to prostate exams, as if proctologists sell out for money.

    • @clray123
      @clray123 27 днів тому

      I was confused, thought she was talking about homosexual people, but they usually render their services to each other for free...

    • @alinatamashevich3354
      @alinatamashevich3354 24 дні тому

      @@MoreCoffeePlease. My b/f told me his Dr grabs his wallet and sez ..."cough".

  • @nohandlehere55
    @nohandlehere55 29 днів тому +67

    I make six figures and have some means, but no one seeing my outward lifestyle would be jealous. Older (but well kept) SUV, a modest home in a good community, clothes that are decades old and "dad" fashion...all paid and saving/investing for retirement. I'm either too old (or tired) to care about Joneses. It helps that I live in a smaller city where wealth flexing is considered tacky and folks who are wealthy tend to keep it low key.

    • @theglowcloud2215
      @theglowcloud2215 29 днів тому

      So what's the plan, once you retire? Seems like a lot of people are saving for retirement and living extremely frugal lifestyles in the meantime, with no plan to actually enjoy life when they retire. Maybe financial planning is what truly brings them joy 🤪

    • @MJA5
      @MJA5 29 днів тому +5

      @@theglowcloud2215no, having resources gives you options that can be decided upon at one’s leisure. That is a luxury, not fancy things. Things end up scrap or in the dump.

    • @elzbietamiet1635
      @elzbietamiet1635 29 днів тому

      I like you. 🤔

    • @vltruan
      @vltruan 29 днів тому +1

      @@theglowcloud2215Some people just don’t give a shit, and want to be stress free when they retire. And you’re right, some people just enjoy making/investing money as a hobby.

    • @nohandlehere55
      @nohandlehere55 28 днів тому

      @@theglowcloud2215 I've done a lot of traveling and seen lots of the world as part of my career choice so yeah...no regrets there. Yeah, I know the trade-off of youth vs. investing for the future, so again no regrets there. Plan? Just live life and have your own purpose...there is no need to have some grand-scheme. I enjoy my weekends and vacation, so will do more of that after I retire! Good food, some travel and some giving (financially and of my time). So yeah, not everyone needs a bucket-list to feel fulfilled, but each their own. I've done my mountain biking in my earlier years and flying over the handle-bars might not be a good thing now. 😀

  • @tonymazz1721
    @tonymazz1721 27 днів тому +24

    We live in a class conscious society. We spend money we don't have on things we don't need to impress people we don't know.

  • @lincmerc1581
    @lincmerc1581 29 днів тому +46

    I haven't had a car payment since 1996. No plans to do that again! No mortgage since 2010. No plans to relive that either!

    • @ozyrob1
      @ozyrob1 29 днів тому +3

      Yep, debt is slavery

    • @alinatamashevich3354
      @alinatamashevich3354 28 днів тому +4

      @@ozyrob1 Gotta love driving by all those fancy bank high rises and wonder who is paying for all that.....

  • @mentalmadness9783
    @mentalmadness9783 29 днів тому +127

    I do the opposite, trying hard to look poor/average even though I could easily cash a car that most people have huge loans on or worse, they lease it for twice as much my house cost each month. I drive a VW polo, don't need anything more fancy than that, I love that car. I've had fancy cars in the past and the only thing you get is a black hole in your wallet.

    • @carolherm
      @carolherm 29 днів тому +20

      Awesome. I love my paid off house and paid off car, so much more than fancy "stuff". Its freedom at its finest.

    • @paddymurphy-oconnor8255
      @paddymurphy-oconnor8255 29 днів тому

      Do you enjoy playing the part of a poorer person? It probably makes life more interesting.

    • @Livingthedream157
      @Livingthedream157 29 днів тому +12

      I’m with you! I love looking average, knowing I’m sitting on a very comfortable retirement portfolio, with no consumer debt. Net worth is everything!

    • @seltzermint5
      @seltzermint5 29 днів тому +4

      love this. A few months ago I was on a girls trip with my friends and 2 of them were talking about buying newer cars and sharing links to the cars they liked and wondering if they could save up enough to have a reasonable monthly payment etc. They were really excited about these cars and I was just thinking oh dang I have plenty in the bank to just outright buy these cars (they were 3-4 yr old not brand new). It was a wild wakeup call.

    • @BrianK-zz4fk
      @BrianK-zz4fk 29 днів тому +11

      Yup rich people look poor, poor people try to look rich.

  • @TopQGuy
    @TopQGuy 26 днів тому +11

    Problem will be….when those people reach retirement age, they will have virtually zero income. Change of lifestyle hits hard when used to overconsumption. Better to live a balanced lifestyle from a younger age. Excellent video Nicole.

  • @Adelina-293
    @Adelina-293 29 днів тому +11

    There's a lot of truth to the old saying that those who look rich aren't and those who look poor are rich. Every millionaire I know looks middle class at best.

    • @bbb_888
      @bbb_888 29 днів тому +1

      Mark Cuban has THREE private jets!! That doesn't look poor to me.

  • @cl1924
    @cl1924 29 днів тому +89

    I’m retired now but I remember when I was a VP at a company and drove a Toyota Tercel that I bought used. Some of the folks who were in my groups would not let me drive to customers because (they said) they would be embarrassed showing up in that car - so we took their Lexus. Hey, it got from A to B with no fuss and no muss. That’s all car does. We had no debt about 15-20 years before we retired. Thanks.

    • @BrianK-zz4fk
      @BrianK-zz4fk 29 днів тому +9

      yup remember 2 of our assistant general mangers driving around in 20 year old beaters and knew they were loaded 😂. Thefancy cars in the lot were broke 😂

    • @notsocbr
      @notsocbr 29 днів тому +2

      Yes, I always bought five-year-old cars not flashy ones but reliable. I always made my coffee before I went to work. Did not stop off at Starbucks. I didn’t have the money I wouldn’t buy it. I’d never put anything on credit. I retired at 55 and I’m living very comfortablybecause I didn’t give all my money to the bank

    • @supersteve8305
      @supersteve8305 29 днів тому +3

      I wish they still sold affordable cars like the Tercel, Fit, etc. I think they still make them but don’t sell them in the states.

    • @theglowcloud2215
      @theglowcloud2215 29 днів тому

      I buy all my cars at police auctions.

    • @musashi4856
      @musashi4856 28 днів тому +1

      Moving to a location that doesn't require a vehicle is the ideal.
      The lack of shenanigans to maintain a vehicle saves a lot of time and money.
      And a daily walk or bike ride is far healthier.

  • @MassEffectFTW
    @MassEffectFTW 27 днів тому +15

    I once heard the phrase “People who like stuff, never have money. People who like money never have stuff.”

    • @jerrybarry3148
      @jerrybarry3148 22 дні тому +1

      If you don’t necessarily like stuff and doing things, then there isn’t necessarily a need to make money above the bare minimum and funding a retirement. If you’re working hard for retirement, then you also have to realize that tomorrow is never guaranteed.

  • @ChrisPTY507
    @ChrisPTY507 29 днів тому +125

    Simple: people live off of appearances. Wealth is silent, Rich is loud, and Poor is flashy.

    • @esterdrass4964
      @esterdrass4964 29 днів тому +13

      Yes, wealth whispers. I worked for a company owned by a very wealthy man but if you saw him walking down the street in his flannel shirt and jeans and unshaven face, you would never know he had any money at all.

    • @suefleming
      @suefleming 29 днів тому +9

      I am very poor and very subdued and very quiet .... I have no debt; I live beneath my means.....and no one notices me... 😂😂😂

    • @ChrisPTY507
      @ChrisPTY507 29 днів тому

      @@esterdrass4964 I'm not going to get into specifics, but let's just say that I have zero debts and live far below my means. I don’t use social media other than this platform (to watch videos about self-improvement, my professional niche, and retro gaming) and LinkedIn. I don't waste time bragging or watching the curated, fake, and superficial lifestyles of others. If you saw me in real life, you'd think I'm an average guy: not wealthy, but not poor either.
      And that’s my point: I'm a strong practitioner of the concept known as 'stealth wealth.' Many of the most successful people I know also follow this mindset. We don't seek or need attention or approval from others because we know who we are and what we have.

    • @MrDecessus
      @MrDecessus 29 днів тому +1

      @@esterdrass4964 It does not, like the poor everyone is different and plenty of rich people scream, look at me. That not all do it well not all poor people are flashy.

    • @davidbrayshaw3529
      @davidbrayshaw3529 29 днів тому +5

      Wealth whispers. Debt screams.

  • @esterdrass4964
    @esterdrass4964 29 днів тому +9

    I know a man, 60. He has been driving the more expensive cars for about thirty years now. BMW's, Mercedez, Lexus and I forgot what he has now. He has been leasing them. He has been making lease payments for over 30 years and yet, never owned a car. I forgot to add, he still lives at home with his mother. She owns her house that he will inherit as well as her money (from a 2nd or 3rd wealthy marriage). When he gets into cc dept, his mother pays it off for him. He is her forever 18-year-old son. I worked for a woman who worked in finance, and she told me most of what we see out there is a facade. People are in dept, bad dept up their eyes in dept to look rich.

  • @IzzyOnTheMove
    @IzzyOnTheMove 29 днів тому +12

    I'm getting 200k next week for a piece of my yard I sold to my former neighbor who regretted leaving the neighborhood and is coming back and I keep thinking about things NOT to buy with it lol ❤ Thanks Nicole. I'm paying off credit cards (and flying to Vancouver for a week) and most of it is getting invested.

  • @CELLPERSPECTIVE
    @CELLPERSPECTIVE 29 днів тому +32

    It's funny to look back on all of the "dumb" purchases you've made in your life and see how much you could've saved up if you hadn't been completely impulsive in the moment (fyi doing this is painful b/c the total is a LOT, at least for me), but what hurts my very core is all of the purchases that I've made to "keep up appearances" b/c the people around me went into debt trying to buy the latest and greatest products just to show off. I didn't need the latest Jordans, I didn't need to upgrade my iPhone and I certainly didn't need to buy that shiny watch b/c my friend bought one. Hindsight.

    • @random.oddities
      @random.oddities 29 днів тому +2

      I recently did the math on $6000 (which was half of a bonus I received in 2010) and if I would've bought Bitcoin then before all the hype, that 6k would be over 1 Billion today. Frustrating but hindsight is always 20/20. At least I paid a few bills off with the 6k. Drank the rest away haha

    • @nibekus
      @nibekus 29 днів тому +1

      I can relate. I've bought a lot of crap in the past and now it's sitting in a storage unit. I go through my boxes and asked myself why I bought this stuff in the first place. I'm gonna start donating and selling stuff I don't need or want anymore. I could have so much more money in my account now if I hadn't impulsed buy.

    • @esterdrass4964
      @esterdrass4964 29 днів тому

      Been there and done that too. Decades ago, I bought a very expensive brand name umbrella, and I am too ashamed to say what I paid. I wanted the label. I don't even like umbrella's, but this has the name all over it. I think I bought it at Neiman Marcus. I bought expensive shoes that looks great but killed my feet. Too ashamed to say what I paid. It was long ago but the memories are there.

    • @l.5832
      @l.5832 29 днів тому

      I've always lived frugally and have never carried debt. But I DON'T regret the splurges I did make because they were well thought out and were things I really did want. I have more regrets on things I stupidly passed up....especially what with inflation and general quality decline now. I was never one to purchase things to 'keep up appearances'.

  • @pgstravels
    @pgstravels 22 дні тому +6

    100% accurate. People don't post the downsides. I love to travel & travel about 4 - 5 months a year, but to be able to afford it I have to work 12 hours a day 5 - 6 days a week, when back home & have to live with family so it's cheaper.

  • @falcorthewonderdog2758
    @falcorthewonderdog2758 26 днів тому +7

    I drive a 20 year old Subaru. I wear cheap clothes bought at second hand stores. No one would ever suspect im filthy rich.

    • @rhall3919
      @rhall3919 26 днів тому +1

      I'm not sure we qualify as filthy rich but we have accumulated assets into the 7 digits, starting from zero after college 30 yrs ago.
      We drive paid off years vehicles around 10 years old, only eat out once or twice per week (usually happy hour deals) and we don't blow cash on useless stuff or maintaining an image.
      One exception for us is international travel, 1-2x per year. Because we prioritize experiences over stuff. Even there we plan everything ourselves to minimize expenses.
      I'm sure people wonder how we afford frequent big trips, because we appear to live a low key lifestyle. That's precisely the reason why we can afford it.

    • @youtubename7819
      @youtubename7819 12 днів тому +1

      Please do not buy clothes at thrift stores. Poor people can no longer afford these gentrified thrift stores. Please stop gentrifying thrift stores.

  • @AK-gh6cp
    @AK-gh6cp 29 днів тому +25

    "Daddy Bezos and Space Carrot".... bahahahahahaha!! Fellow Canadian here. I appreciate your videos very much, and I think you are doing great work telling it like you see it and clarifying things for folks who want to hear it. (For example, I often feel like the only person I know who gets irritated with people talking about how it isn't worth making more because it will get taxed away- and not understanding progressive taxation- and your video with example numbers to illustrate it was so refreshing!) :) Thanks for your content!

    • @CSpottsGaming
      @CSpottsGaming 27 днів тому +8

      Pretty sure she said, "Space Karen" but funny either way

    • @AK-gh6cp
      @AK-gh6cp 27 днів тому +2

      @@CSpottsGaming Thanks for setting me straight on that. :)

    • @CSpottsGaming
      @CSpottsGaming 27 днів тому

      @@AK-gh6cp No prob 😅 Also, absolutely agree on your point about marginal tax rates. I used to work O&G and knew people that had turned down raises for that reason.

  • @catsupchutney
    @catsupchutney 15 днів тому +3

    I live in NYC and I have no idea how so many restaurants and cafes can have customers.

  • @maryannelawless4447
    @maryannelawless4447 15 днів тому +2

    What a refreshing video. Great job! When I was in my twenties, my then boyfriend, now husband, paid for so many trips for us to go on. Now that I am in my 30s, I told him I don't care about traveling anymore. I am so thankful coming home to a house we own! I want to save money for retirement and have financial goals. I think he feels he needs to keep up with his wealthy friends who travel all the time. I just don't care anymore. Being financially responsible is the new "cool" for me.

  • @7Write4This9Heart7
    @7Write4This9Heart7 29 днів тому +37

    I wear thrift store everything, don't own a car, walk everywhere, never leave my house if I can help it, never go out to eat, don't travel (no interest, lol), my hobbies are free or cheap (just require an internet connection), and I wear and use everything I own until it falls apart. I'm sure everyone thinks I am broke AF, but actually, I'm just more than content with what I already have and don't see the value in looking like I have money. (Plus, in my area, I don't wanna get robbed, lol.) I have more money than virtually anyone else my age that I know of, and it's BECAUSE I save like crazy and live WAY below my means. Everyone can do it, majority of them just don't want to 'cause they don't want others to look down on them for 'looking poor' or w/e! WHO GIVES A SHIT WHAT OTHERS THINK?! They can kiss my ass, AFAIC! Fuck 'em! If you're doing well financially, IMO, it's BETTER to not flaunt it! The world's just getting crazier! Never know what weirdos will think of next! X'D AKA "The Millionaire Next Door", baby! lol.

    • @clray123
      @clray123 27 днів тому

      Except that one day your money will disappear because all the broke people will collectively decide that you must pay higher taxes to support them and that it is generally unfair for "hoarders" like you to have possessions. And they will also argue it would not hurt at all to have your wealth redistributed because you were not making use of it anyhow. Or maybe it will be spent on a higher goal like waging the next war against not-so-thrifty individuals in a neighboring country. Alternatively, it will turn out that you technically have money, but practically cannot buy anything because, you know, "don't wanna get robbed" if you do (you're hinting that you've already close to that stage). That is how humanity works, generally. Your "big savings" are an illusion and a hazard unless you also have some way of protecting them. And that turns out to be getting increasingly more expensive.

    • @aliali-ce3yf
      @aliali-ce3yf 22 дні тому +1

      thrift stores not cheap anymore. they're trendy and prices skyrocketed. gentrification ruins everything

    • @7Write4This9Heart7
      @7Write4This9Heart7 21 день тому

      @@aliali-ce3yf True, true! I should clarify that all my thrift store stuff is YEARS old, back when things sold for WAY cheaper! When I go now, I usually think, 'You call this thrift store prices??' and leave! lol. I just keep wearing the same stuff till it wears out! It's sad that they raised their prices! NOT cool!

  • @paulineb66
    @paulineb66 18 днів тому +2

    Thank you. I have wondered too why everyone else has remodeled their homes, drive expensive cars, and take luxurious vacations when I know they don’t make more money than I do.

  • @blizzard762
    @blizzard762 29 днів тому +13

    Upvoted for "Space Karen" 🤣

  • @danflip1
    @danflip1 29 днів тому +8

    You hit the nail on the head, as they say, Im retired 64, I have no credit debt, but I saw a video that says the average person owes $7,000 in credit card deb, and most people are owe $5,000 over what there car is worth. Back in the day we use to call it "keeping up with the jones".

    • @mafp22w
      @mafp22w 29 днів тому +1

      65 here. For 20 years my wife has packed my lunch to eat at my desk. We rarely go out to eat. I now have a 2016 company truck. My wife’s car is a 2014 Ford Fusion. Our only debt is down to $20,000 on a rental unit. We grow a lot of our own food. We don’t impress anyone. But, as we near retirement, we should be well ahead of those that spend a lot more.

  • @InflatedPufferfish
    @InflatedPufferfish 29 днів тому +10

    Unlike you and the others in the comments, I am a spender. But it doesn't really show, it's not for the external world to see. I am not attracted by the classic signs of wealth that people notice. I don't even own a car because I live close to downtown (I think it's my best frugal tip: choose to live in a part of town where driving and parking a car is a nightmare). I struggled with debt for years tho, but I got tired of the overtime I was doing to pay for all my stuff and trips and music lessons, so I worked on myself to find a better balance between saving and spending. I am still a spender because I love my little treats all the time, but now I also find joy in saving some money for security and bigger treats later :)

  • @Ramblin_Dan
    @Ramblin_Dan 29 днів тому +10

    I have a minivan and a motorcycle. I bought both with cash. Both are at least 20 years old. No one wants to steal them. They're extremely reliable. Insurance isn't expensive on them because I'm a good driver. I have never had a car payment and never will. Just gas, routine maintenance, and insurance. I've done multiple DIY repairs to both (brakes and rotors, oil changes, broken handle replacements, paint correction etc.) thanks to UA-cam university. I don't have to pay a subscription for features to work on my vehicle. I don't have to worry about my car shutting down because the new software update bricked it. My vehicles have no way to track my movement. Buying new cars is financially idiotic.

  • @poonpoonsmith399
    @poonpoonsmith399 14 днів тому +4

    I read a book called "The Millionaire Next Door" when I was in my 20s. Reading this book was like opening Pandora's Box. Talking with my neighbors, I can tell who has "cattles" and who has "big hats."

    • @JJL206
      @JJL206 14 днів тому +2

      I read it too. Loved it. Then I wrote “The Frugal Millionaires”…

    • @daniellarson3068
      @daniellarson3068 9 днів тому

      I guess its human nature. The people she talks about are sooo far away from Mr. Money Mustache.

  • @Scoutmhen
    @Scoutmhen 29 днів тому +16

    A lot of those people driving those luxury cars are leasing them.

    • @seltzermint5
      @seltzermint5 29 днів тому +1

      I have seen that a lot with young people (college/20s) driving very new cars, not necessarily luxury but new cars they lease (or parents lease for them). It's weird to me but whatever.

    • @Shell2014
      @Shell2014 29 днів тому

      Leasing = spending even more money over your life time on vehicles…. Crazy!

    • @esterdrass4964
      @esterdrass4964 29 днів тому

      Yes. I know someone who has leased cars for over 30 years. He wants to only drive the high-end fancy cars and the only way he could afford to do it is to lease them. I don't know if it ever occurred to him that he has been making car payments longer than a mortgage loan and still doesn't own a car.

  • @colleenmarin8907
    @colleenmarin8907 29 днів тому +29

    I drive a 2004 Toyota, bought second-hand in a Southern State - no rust!! - and I've never had the urge to keep up with the Jones'

    • @seltzermint5
      @seltzermint5 29 днів тому +3

      I'm not quite in the South but close, and few cars in my area have rust. My 2006 vehicle is totally rust free. I never realized rust was a serious issue until traveling in Michigan and other northern states.

    • @lmusima3275
      @lmusima3275 29 днів тому

      I’m looking for an affordable used car, a Ford Focus or a BMW

    • @seltzermint5
      @seltzermint5 29 днів тому +3

      @@lmusima3275 I'm not a car person but my husband is, and he says everyone with a BMW has it in the shop all the time (new or old). Beautiful cars and very unreliable.

    • @lincmerc1581
      @lincmerc1581 29 днів тому +1

      I bought (yes, he made me buy it) 2004 Accord. He could no longer drive. It just turned 100k miles. Here's to another 200k miles!

    • @Whitetiger187
      @Whitetiger187 29 днів тому +2

      I'm a car guy but my number one source of Transportation is a 1998 Toyota 4 Runner that I bought for cash. It's a reliable, fuel efficient, street legal tank that I can camp out in.

  • @CA2SD
    @CA2SD 22 дні тому +4

    I needed to hear this today. I've been wondering how ppl are doing this. Usually the ones that drive the most expensive cars are usually the ones that are living above their means.

  • @ForestFury101
    @ForestFury101 29 днів тому +25

    I just love how real you are.

  • @JubeiKibagamiFez
    @JubeiKibagamiFez 29 днів тому +12

    1 22... Or even worse, their car is leased. Lease is just long term renting.

  • @IzzyOnTheMove
    @IzzyOnTheMove 29 днів тому +16

    Was I actually the only UA-camr in the world that tells people I could barely pay my Hydro bill even when I worked 60 hours a week and my sink has been clogged since January and I've been doing my dishes in the bathroom sink for 9 months cuz I can't afford a plumber? 😅 yeah, learn from my mistakes and I won't make them again! (to be fair, 2023 was also a very rough year where I was hit with vet bills and a pay cut, but I also made bad credit choices. Thankfully, that's getting corrected now. I never want to find myself in such a precarious financial position again!)

    • @esterdrass4964
      @esterdrass4964 29 днів тому +3

      That memory of you working 60 hours a week and still having to do your dishes in the bathroom will stick with you to never do it again. Glad you are on the right track now

  • @johnepperson8867
    @johnepperson8867 29 днів тому +8

    Nicole for the soul, on a Sunday afternoon. I'm wishing tomorrow wasn't Monday😞. Thanks Nicole ! Just blows me away how so many at work drive $100,000 (or near) vehicles, have really nice homes and travel frequently. I'm not jealous and do not want any of those things. I just want to retire soon and, with runaway inflation & over taxation, I don't know if I can or should retire.

  • @chrismantonuk
    @chrismantonuk 29 днів тому +12

    I met a bloke at a party who worked in the same industry as me (software dev) and was 15 years younger, and he was driving about in a BMW M4. I was briefly jealous, then I realised I could afford an M4 too… I just don’t want to spend £1000 a month on car payments.

    • @BrandonLeech
      @BrandonLeech 28 днів тому +3

      Cars haven't been a reliable way to tell if somebody has any money for a long time. In fact a bit the opposite. I see somebody in an expensive rig or car I assume they're an idiot with a huge payment until proven otherwise. If everybody had to drive around in a vehicle they paid cash for it would be hilarious. Unfortunately almost nobody with good credit and a stable job has that type of self control...pretty rare. And the beast system we live in beckons you into debt slavery.

    • @clray123
      @clray123 27 днів тому +1

      In other words, you can't really afford it.

    • @BrandonLeech
      @BrandonLeech 26 днів тому

      @@clray123 Who can really afford anything these days though. Look at all the EBT losers who cant even afford their own groceries.🤣

    • @chrismantonuk
      @chrismantonuk 23 дні тому

      @@clray123 interesting, I suppose there is more than one way of defining affordability. Can I afford the payments? Yes. Can I afford the opportunity cost of not putting that money into my retirement or paying off my mortgage? No, I can’t. The irony being that I’m having to invest more now because when I was in my 20s I spent most of my money on cars!

    • @clray123
      @clray123 22 дні тому +1

      ​@@chrismantonuk One could say you can "afford" something if you can pay for it without worry about (economic) negative consequences of the purchase. As you are clearly worried about how that would affect your retirement, you can't afford it. Unlike, say, an Arab prince who has multiple supercars in his garage and does not care about opportunity costs.

  • @Donkeyearsa
    @Donkeyearsa 29 днів тому +7

    My compact car is over a decade old, I live in a house that is under 1K square feet. I do own a second vehicle its a old cargo van that is two decades old that I use to go camping.
    The thing is I could VERY easily afford better.
    I could buy a brand new luxury car every five years.
    I could afford to buy a house that is four times bigger.
    I could afford to be going on vacations all around the world.
    I just don't see the point as I don't care about such things. If others want to do such things that is their issue not mine.

  • @RandyTemple-bs
    @RandyTemple-bs 29 днів тому +5

    Having a simple life where you can do whatever you want all the time. The first step in achieving this self employment.

  • @essel23fly
    @essel23fly 5 днів тому +2

    No they’re not faking it. They have earned it. Most wealthy lease cars. They’re driving luxury cars around you because they have money or high income jobs. There’s no such thing as shortcuts to wealth. The only people faking it are folks that compare themselves to others.

  • @markstebelton5953
    @markstebelton5953 29 днів тому +5

    Retired at sixy two, everything paid for. Make more money than I ever did when I was working. As usual I pay as I go.

  • @denisejohnson2731
    @denisejohnson2731 11 днів тому +2

    Ive learned to worry only about my finances and what others do with theirs isnt my concern.

  • @davidhughes6048
    @davidhughes6048 29 днів тому +9

    I just bought my first new car at 59: a $23k Kia. Then I saw that the average USED car cost is $35k. I’m like WTF!?? People are crazy.

    • @GeneralChangFromDanang
      @GeneralChangFromDanang 28 днів тому +2

      That's what I bought 2 years ago. I figured if the car market was overpriced, I would buy the cheapest new car on the market and not take as much of a hit as the ego bros buying $70k pickup trucks with $20k in dealer fees tacked on.

    • @mattcardarelli
      @mattcardarelli 12 днів тому

      Add to it used interest rates are considerably more than new, if you go the loan route. Just a massive ripoff just to get from A to B

    • @sunshadow9704
      @sunshadow9704 4 дні тому

      KIA doesn’t qualify as a car. You bought something else.

    • @sunshadow9704
      @sunshadow9704 4 дні тому +1

      KIA doesn’t qualify as a car. You bought something else.

    • @davidhughes6048
      @davidhughes6048 4 дні тому +1

      @ I love my little Kia. My kids call it “Dad’s Sh!tbox”. 🤣🤣 Found out my wife calls it that too. Makes me love it even more.

  • @emanhero6311
    @emanhero6311 12 днів тому +1

    46 years old paid off truck that is 20 years old. Haven’t been on vacation over 5 years. No designer anything mostly sheen or Walmart. But yet still struggling.

  • @andrewb2326
    @andrewb2326 27 днів тому +6

    So much wisdom, expressed with grace. Thank you.

  • @giocondakisses
    @giocondakisses 29 днів тому +7

    I have 2016 paid for Mercedes, it was $17 k and during this 5 years that I have it the only major repair was the water pump, I also live alone for my mental health, sometimes I do struggle a little bit to pay rent but I always do, I just can’t see my self living with 1 or 2 roommates, I’m so miserable when living with people, they bring strangers from the bars, do drugs inside, ask me for rides and constant favors, eat my food, tell me that they don’t have their part until the last of the month, leave dirty dishes for days, go into my room when I’m not home, let their friends use my bathroom, leaving without paying the last month bills, and so many more things, (all of that was like 3 different roommates), I’m slowly building my emergency fund and paying my credit cards, slower but enjoying being alone right now

    • @markritacco270
      @markritacco270 29 днів тому +6

      The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog. I do not care what anyone thinks of me anymore.

    • @giocondakisses
      @giocondakisses 29 днів тому +1

      @@markritacco270 sanereeeee I love my German shepherd and my cat, both adopted and adorable

    • @markritacco270
      @markritacco270 29 днів тому +2

      @@giocondakisses 👏👏😎

    • @theglowcloud2215
      @theglowcloud2215 29 днів тому

      I mean, maybe you should vet people before you move in with them? Background checks are like $50.

    • @BlueToronto
      @BlueToronto 29 днів тому

      Wow, how do you get such roommates? I'm renting a room in someone's place, and I could never even imagine doing those things.

  • @cocoa_cake
    @cocoa_cake 29 днів тому +6

    this video was so refreshing to hear

  • @ImJustKindaHere
    @ImJustKindaHere 25 днів тому +2

    Insurance agent here... those same people that buy those "high end" luxury vehicles are always calling me regarding not being able to pay their monthly insurance payments. There are very few people who buy luxury vehicles and I never hear from them regarding premium amounts. Since I get to see "signs" of people's credit scores, I know which people really are making purchasing mistakes and I know I will be hearing from them in only a few months when their honey-moon phase with the vehicle ends and now they are left with the monthly debts.
    Some clients to listen to me when I warn them prior to purchasing their vehicle, but most don't. They simply don't care about the future, they only care about now.
    I don't feel any sympathy for people with nice vehicles in their policies. I can't feel any sympathy because I am the not the one who told them to make those purchases, therefore not my problem.
    Hopefully they learn... but most will not. Life goes on.

  • @mattw8332
    @mattw8332 29 днів тому +9

    One thing I aspire to is not having a car payment. I drive a very small 6 year old Hyundai that I paid for in cash but I would be happy enough driving a 20 year old car. So long as it fired up on the coldest of mornings and got me to and from work.

    • @dingusdingus2152
      @dingusdingus2152 29 днів тому +3

      Find out if your car's engine has direct injection. As opposed to conventional overhead injection. If your car has direct injection take it to a trusted mechanic immediately and have it inspected and thoroughly cleaned, (the valves, valve ports, air intake systems, etc. ). Hopefully the mechanic will explain this to you, believe me, the dealership's service techs will not.

    • @mattw8332
      @mattw8332 29 днів тому

      @@dingusdingus2152 It has a 1248cc chain driven engine, no turbocharger. Haven't a clue about the fuel injection. UK spec car but built in Turkey.

    • @dingusdingus2152
      @dingusdingus2152 29 днів тому

      @@mattw8332 well it sounds like a prime candidate for a di fuel system. I assume chain driven means it has a timing chain as opposed to a timing belt which is good. The reason why you don't have a clue about the fuel injection system is because they don't want you to, hence my suggestion to take it to a trusted mechanic to find out. If it has di by all means have it thoroughly cleaned because, without getting too technical and in the weeds, this engine configuration was purposefully, intentionally designed to fail at about 80k miles, so that you would have it scrapped and buy a new one. Really quick: the conventional overhead fuel injection system sprays the gas into the cylinders from up above, and the gas acts as a solvent keeping the valves and the valve ports clean. The di squirts the gas in from down below and to the side, bypassing the valves, and as a result they get encrusted with bitumen from the vaporized blow by and eventually cease functioning, getting stuck in the down position and causing misfire and ultimately engine failure. There is some fluid available in aerosol cans for like, $40 a can, which you can spray into the motor every 10k miles and this prevents the bituminous buildup and ensures maximum engine life but again, the dealers don't tell you about this because they don't want you to know. They want your car to blow up and you to buy a new one. I wish I was lying but I work in a repair shop and we have had several of these come in with the same issue in recent years. The defect appears to have been deliberately designed into them...☹

  • @ronwinkles2601
    @ronwinkles2601 27 днів тому +2

    I come from generations of ancestors who valued no debt, early retirement
    and personal freedom. My grandfather retired at 58, my father at 45, myself
    at 45 and my son at 56 and my daughter at 54. What allowed all of us this
    advantage was living within our means and owning what we have debt free.
    Real estate played a big part in achieving this freedom.

  • @stevenc6705
    @stevenc6705 26 днів тому +4

    Chasing wealth is the carrot you will never catch because you’re never satisfied. Stop chasing the carrot.

  • @MrAllan9
    @MrAllan9 27 днів тому +4

    Some people build beautiful homes on the outside while interior is insulated with plywood floors and cupboards. They look rich but aren't, t's all show.

  • @randnotiz_vienna
    @randnotiz_vienna 29 днів тому +4

    4:46 Space Karen. I'm from Austria, never heard that before. I.Died. 2 Times.

  • @zanderman004
    @zanderman004 28 днів тому +1

    "Daddy Bezos and Space Karen" killed me. haha!

  • @scottunkefer3753
    @scottunkefer3753 29 днів тому +15

    I come from an upper class, country club family and community. However I'm late middle aged and have lived in South America for 20 years now. I pay myself the equivelent of $5k u.s. monthly and live very very well. I and my other expat friends here were talking about how all our friends back home may make 100 - 200 K a year and more, and yet they are totally broke. In fact, I had to lend my business partner back in the states 10K even though he's 'rich and successful'. The absolute best part about getting out of your respective culture and societal pressures and relocating is that you don't have the pressure to live outside of your means! I didn't re-read this so sorry for any grammer and spelling mistakes.

  • @derikuk2967
    @derikuk2967 29 днів тому +5

    I like it when people believe they are better off than I am. Some of them are, but most are not. Looking poor(er) is a security feature.

    • @TheBigdog868
      @TheBigdog868 29 днів тому +2

      Especially with dating.
      They see a middle-aged guy in an old car, living an unimpressive lifestyle. I call it hiding in plain sight. 😂

  • @irememberla6460
    @irememberla6460 29 днів тому +9

    Simplicity and not comparing yourself to others is the key. True to some extent about being a doctor, it is really a calling that involves alot of sacrifice and hard work, not merely learning how to do a prostate exam!

  • @JJL206
    @JJL206 14 днів тому

    Note sure how you popped-up in my feed Nicole, but glad you did. Love your message and sense of humor. Thanks for keeping it real.

  • @belowsealevel8663
    @belowsealevel8663 29 днів тому +15

    I paid off my house in 13 years. Paid cash for my 2018 Honda Civic and I will keep this car for at least 12 years. I'll make $110,000 this year and will save $55,000 in retirement/brokerage accounts. I look like a lower class person because I live like a lower class person because I grew up as a lower class person, I wouldn't have it any other way.

    • @Bob-cd5pp
      @Bob-cd5pp 29 днів тому +1

      I bet you sleep well at night I also have 0 debt and save 40% of my income.

    • @belowsealevel8663
      @belowsealevel8663 29 днів тому

      @@Bob-cd5pp I sleep like a baby. 😂

    • @elzbietamiet1635
      @elzbietamiet1635 29 днів тому

      This is BEAUTIFUL. I salute the lifestyle. 👏👏

  • @itypethetruthnobshere8975
    @itypethetruthnobshere8975 16 годин тому +1

    Not everyone is poor.

  • @elijaprice
    @elijaprice 29 днів тому +5

    I'm a software developer, and there's a couple that live across from me, lovely people, and they have TWO new BMWs, the gal is a teacher and the guy works in a care home. Every day I look at their cars, and think, hey, aren't I supposed to be the rich bro a-hole driving a BMW? How comes my car is so shite? It's these little personal rituals that keep me grounded, remind me that people are not as rich as they pretend to be, and that I am indeed an a-hole, just not a rich one.

  • @vernshird711
    @vernshird711 28 днів тому +2

    I love the debt-iceberg analogy. The exposed part of an iceberg represents the nice things (designer clothes, car, excessive sized house, etc) people have. The gigantic part of the iceberg below the surface is their debt. Just let that "sink" in for a moment.

  • @szebike
    @szebike 29 днів тому +10

    I'm glad I never got into this strange posession= status thing. To me people who try to "flex" with things are ridiculous and I somehow feel pity ( not in the superior sense ). Its more like those people would be pretty lost if they don't have their toys to brag anymore which is bad for them I guess. Being stuck in that money cycle is not good for anyone.

  • @donaldlyons17
    @donaldlyons17 29 днів тому +2

    Well!!! Nicole your an example of someone who has more than others hence why I suspect people watch your channel..... I am self aware enough to know if I talk about having more money or "stuff" than others many online will listen to me because they think I know something or maybe will tell them how they also can.....

  • @JubeiKibagamiFez
    @JubeiKibagamiFez 29 днів тому +10

    1 04..... It sort of does, to me. The reason you don't see the cheaper cars is because they had to go to work at five am and are long since off the road. Being a bus driver, I mostly see high end cars because those are all the people who don't have to work a 9-5 or an 8-6 or a 7-7..... It could also be that wealthy people are moving from where they use to live to where you are now and your neighborhood is slowly being gentrified. Gentrification is just a consolidation of property amongst those with high amounts of disposable income.

    • @bandita2068
      @bandita2068 29 днів тому

      Yep lot of single people living in expensive suburbs close to work do not realize they see the old money and their rich kids in that area, and it is not the norm.

  • @kenconnor6823
    @kenconnor6823 5 днів тому

    Old guy once told me this and it holds true today.
    The wealthy are quite, the rich are loud and the broke are flashy.

  • @Non-Dari
    @Non-Dari 29 днів тому +9

    Okay ive never heard of you until now, but im grateful for the algorithm suggesting you! You're hilarious 😂😂😂

  • @Trewq79
    @Trewq79 8 днів тому +1

    I remember like 15 years ago there was a Lending Tree commercial. A guy has this giant smile saying he has a big home, plenty of family events, a nice golf club, etc. At the end he says “You know how I’m able to afford all this? I’m in debt up to my eyeballs”.
    Funny commercial definitely UA-cam it if you haven’t seen it.

  • @spiculum1836
    @spiculum1836 29 днів тому +3

    Its funny back in the day (about 15 years ago), when I went to one of my rental houses to meet a potential tenant, the tenant was driving a then current model Range Rover. I was driving a 6 year old base model Dodge Intrepid 😀I wonder what they are driving today and are they still renting... I eventually got rid of my 2003 Dodge Intrepid in 2017. I donated the car 🙂

    • @kimmer6
      @kimmer6 23 дні тому +2

      My property management office was on the ground floor of an apartment complex in the San Francisco East Bay. One tenant was a fellow in his 40's, a telemarketer who wore weird color suits, drove a brand new Ford Mustang, and was always bragging about the vacation trips he and his wife took. He would be late with the rent 3-4 times a year and always had some lame excuse. I had a 1992 Geo Metro convertible that I used as a commute car for years. One morning I was sitting in it waiting for a phone call when he walked by and made fun of my car. He said that I looked like a clown driving a shoe. He said he could get me a deal at Ford and that I should buy a new car so I wouldn't look so embarrassing. I snickered and sat there. ''A clown driving a shoe?''' Haha, pretty funny. ''At least its paid for....cost me $800.''
      After 30+ years in the rental business, I retired in 2018 at age 65 and sold most of my properties. I never told tenants that I was anything but the Area Manager and that the owner was a ''Crabby old fkkk who thinks $5 an hour is too much pay. Its my job to keep him away from you!'' Hahaha, I OWNED that building outright, no mortgage, no debts. The broker who sold my building said that the guy mentioned my Clown Car. His reply was that he shouldn't judge me on appearance. He told him that I was a ''Closet Millionaire''. I like that!
      Speaking of a Clown Car, I rented a car to make a 500 mile trip to a reunion after the sale. The agent said that the car I requested has not been turned in yet and offered me a Kia Soul. ''You want me to drive THAT???'' Either that or the 18 passenger van. They were very short on cars that morning. I took the Kia. Holy Smokes, the seat was so comfortable that my bad back didn't hurt at all during the trip. When I returned it and praised its comfort, the agent said it was on the sale list as they replace them at 30,000 miles. I ended up buying it at an excellent price and still have it. The Geo is still in my side yard, too, awaiting the Zombie Attack. I'll bet you could write a book about tenant shenanigans, too. My book would need 3 volumes.

  • @rickschlosser6793
    @rickschlosser6793 29 днів тому +2

    The wealthiest people I know are the ones that don’t look wealthy.
    I drive a 18 year old Toyota and am proud of it. But I own everything I have.
    Now that I’m retired I can afford to travel. Just booked two months in an apartment through AirBnB in Mexico. We do it every winter. But in an AirBnB, I will normally cook most of my own food. Just like average people, because that is what I am… just a normal person.

  • @dianapiesak5766
    @dianapiesak5766 29 днів тому +37

    Space Karen...LMFAO...omg that's great! I laughed way harder than I should at that

    • @BrianK-zz4fk
      @BrianK-zz4fk 29 днів тому +3

      not sure where the Karen comes into play? Hes a very smart guy with very ambitious goals and doubt he cares much about money much.

    • @elijaprice
      @elijaprice 29 днів тому +5

      @@BrianK-zz4fk He did get upset when some judge said he wasn't worth a salary of $56 billion a year. So he definitely cares about money a bit.

    • @peterwulff469
      @peterwulff469 29 днів тому

      - sour grapes, eeeeh?

    • @ljgee1
      @ljgee1 29 днів тому +4

      @@elijaprice The guy is a total dope that landed on 3rd and thinks he hit a triple. Like most of them do

    • @BrianK-zz4fk
      @BrianK-zz4fk 29 днів тому +1

      @@elijaprice it was written in the contract, would you sign a contract and meet the goals accept less than what was stated?

  • @videopsych7838
    @videopsych7838 24 дні тому +1

    The truth is most millionaires and wealthy don't live so flashy because they don't want hackers to target them for one and even if they have exotic vehicles they either don't want people to know they have them or they buy them for a future investment for resale. One way to spot some that isnt rich is if you see them with either a new house or vehicle all the time and it's because their checks are bouncing so they lose them and get a new one.

  • @labnine3362
    @labnine3362 29 днів тому +18

    Space Karen! LOL Nice!!! Great video and sage advice as usual. You are a very intelligent young lady. I shared this video with my son who needs to hear this.

  • @kaw8473
    @kaw8473 6 днів тому

    My husband and I habitually yard sale and I can confirm what you're talking about. We pull up to a nice house, in certain neighborhoods and know we won't get anything good. Everything they are selling still has the Ross stickers still on them and the people running the sale will want 2/3rd of what they paid retail. They buy nice houses, in good school districts and live paycheck to paycheck, while filling their huge houses with mass-produced garbage.

  • @egyphon
    @egyphon 29 днів тому +334

    My UberEats driver delivered my food in a brand new Mercedes today. My brain short-circuited.

    • @jmentz
      @jmentz 29 днів тому +17

      You can probably lease the car for less than a thousand bucks per month. Depends on mileage.
      Car hit maybe leased by two people together as well.
      Depending on how they restrict their expenses in other areas (having room mates, saving money on food or vacation) it’s totally possible for someone with a low income. Whether it’s a good idea is another discussion.

    • @jamestrent-nw9zb
      @jamestrent-nw9zb 29 днів тому +34

      But you should have seen their faces when he turned up driving it into the food bank drive thru.

    • @royperry2859
      @royperry2859 29 днів тому +14

      Uber is a way of making a living. Driving a nice car is a way of getting higher ratings which means that you get more rides at higher rates if they're a smart Uber driver they could write off all the expenses of operating the car off of their income

    • @40pointsdrow63
      @40pointsdrow63 29 днів тому +3

      I was going to drive for Uber when I first got my Mercedes two years ago, not that I needed the money, I just wanted to drive the car around lol, didn’t end up doing it though.

    • @jennifercaskie3895
      @jennifercaskie3895 29 днів тому +45

      My brain short circuited when you said you got Uber eats. I never do that it is expensive.

  • @MaiLaiWah
    @MaiLaiWah 8 днів тому +1

    Some people invest their money, the majority just spend it trying to look rich.

  • @JeremyRogers5
    @JeremyRogers5 26 днів тому +38

    *I wasn't financial free until my 40’s and I’m still in my 40’s, bought my third house already, earn on a monthly through passive income, and got 4 out of 5 goals, just hope it encourages someone's that it doesn’t matter if you don’t have any of them right now, you can start TODAY regardless your age INVEST and change your future! Investing in the financial market is a grand choice I made.*

    • @BrittanyDoris
      @BrittanyDoris 26 днів тому

      The wisest thing that should be on everyone mind currently should be to invest in different streams of income that doesn't depend on government paycheck, especially with the current economic crisis around the world. This is still a time to invest in Stocks, Forex and Digital currencies.

    • @DimitarPetrova
      @DimitarPetrova 26 днів тому

      That's awesome!!! I know nothing about investment and I'm keen on getting started.
      What are your strategies?

    • @tommywilliams5525
      @tommywilliams5525 26 днів тому +1

      People dismiss the importance of advisors until they are burned by their own emotions.
      I remember a couple of summers ago, following my lengthy divorce, I needed a good boost to assist my business stay alive, so I looked for qualified consultants and came across someone with the highest qualifications. He has helped me raise my reserve from $275k to $850k, despite inflation.

    • @ConorONeil-
      @ConorONeil- 26 днів тому +1

      If you are using a really good broker or account manager, it's easier to earn from the market

    • @helinabrooks7461
      @helinabrooks7461 26 днів тому +1

      Investing with an expert is the best strategy for beginners and busy investors, as most failures and losses in investment usually happen when you invest without proper guidance. I'm speaking from experience.

  • @melmjetset1876
    @melmjetset1876 21 день тому +1

    Very true. A lot of influencers flexing big homes in LA rent them out specifically for photo shoots. My bff has been a producer for over 20 yrs and I was shocked when she said a lot of those fancy cars aren’t owned a lot are leased or rented.

  • @brianbogholtz9485
    @brianbogholtz9485 29 днів тому +22

    If someone appears wealthy and they're not in debt, there's a 99% chance they don't have kids 😂

    • @AccordingtoNicole
      @AccordingtoNicole  29 днів тому +4

      #goals

    • @JFvHussen
      @JFvHussen 17 днів тому +1

      I have 2 small kids, 6 and 4 years… i got no debts (exapt mortgage but its very low), I got a bunch of money since last years but thats because I cut spending :)

    • @Joe_334
      @Joe_334 17 днів тому

      I wouldn't want to repeat the same mistake my old man did being suckered into a miserable marriage, with someone like my scam artist of a mother...

    • @JFvHussen
      @JFvHussen 12 днів тому

      The point is, that you don’t have to be broke once your getting kids ofc :p