Women of all ages is dealing with situationships like these. You have to know your position in folks lives and act accordingly. Take people and situations at face value.
really? Im 39 now and legs closed until marriage and then only open with condoms.She behaved like a slave . I am sorry to say. Once your legs are closed , these men aren't around and buying you things. Always the same stories TG is telling, after 10 min , you hear the women opens her legs .Yeah right .
Friends with Benefits... is the worst thing a women can allow herself to be involved in. bottom line YOU'RE BEING USED !!!! until someone better comes along.
This story breaks my heart!💔 She wants the person that broke her heart and he doesn't want her on the same level. I hope she continues to watch Tony's videos and work on her healing.
It also sounds like since she was light-skinned and "cute" she couldn't and still can't fathom a man playing her. Preferences get done dirty everyday baby - looks are surface only ... it is about what's on the inside and one's mental maturity (of both ppl). Men don't treat racially ambiguous chics any better - they make them baby mommas DAILY. Guard your heart, your box, energy, and time. 💯
The amount of women judging this young lady is disgusting. We’ve pretty much all been there before (young and dumb to the situation) - is that not reason why we’re here? I pray for her and hope she learns to love herself. These men will use you as a placeholder and keep dogging you out until you practice self-love and leave them where they’re at. Well wishes to this young lady! 🙏🏽
I applaud this woman’s transparency & courage to write in & get sound advice, I believe sometimes we don’t just go through things for ourselves but so others can also learn & be delivered from our story as well, sometimes deliverance comes in the form of new knowledge & that’s what Tony shared with us tonight through this letter. This sister literally could have just shifted the culture by writing in & getting Tony’s advice, because even if you cant relate to her story line by line, I’m sure we can see a part of ourselves or a former part of ourselves within this story, & now that we know better we can do better as we move about in this world being the change we want to see- I pray God continues to be close to her heart and reminds her of her inner beauty & worth and she knows that God has someone & something better in store for her! As I remember a book title that said: You Are a Prize to be Won! Don't Settle for Less Than God's Best.
Why do we do this to ourselves? I was a fool like this many times ...but when I finally recognized my worth and learned that I was chasing the need to be accepted because I never was accepted by my father. It takes time to heal and change your mind set but with God and good and wise teachings from people like Tony we can love ourselves back to a healed life filled with peace and respect. Thank you Tony. I hope the woman who wrote this letter continues to do the work on her self so when the right man comes along she will recognize him and how valuable she is.
This resonates with me so much. I feel like after years of selling myself short, I ultimately gave myself to Lord to restore my self esteem and showed me my worth. It took time but oh so worth it.
Girl!!! Same here… I used to feel like I had to pretzel 🥨 myself and literally turn myself into a clown to get any attention from my Dad and make him laugh. As an adult, it’s freaking weird to look back and see the dynamic. And then we go into life repeating those patterns with males! What he should have done is praised me and respected me for my beauty and grace. And then we wonder why someone like Britney Spears has issues, look at her Dad!
I know women who are married and dealing with these same things from their "husband". Paying most of the bills, disrespected daily and just being used and abused because the wife isn't truly who they wanted in the first place. Many women settle for this horrible treatment.
It’s very difficult for women to understand that what you feel inside for him is NOT what he feels for you. He saw her as a mobile sp3rm toilet and not an actual human being. He didn’t care about her at all except to use her for comfort and sex. Whenever he was lonely, he came back to her. And he wanted her to KILL their child. He’s a demon. Block him, and NEVER speak to or think on him again. The new girl probably isn’t prettier. But that doesn’t matter. She probably doesn’t love him as much as this girl does, and men don’t like women who like them. They like the woman who knows he’s a dog and isn’t afraid to leave him.
It’s sad that some women are so down bad in their own stuff that they could confidently bash this woman 🤦🏾♀️ she made a mistake thinking they could be friends. Yes she wanted her cake and to eat it too but the fact remains that she wrote into TWT to get guidance on how to get through this. Y’all should really be more careful before casting these stones smh
@@FitPasson and seeing the error in that, she reached out to Tony because she’s aware it’s dysfunctional. This is one of the heaviest topics he’s spoken on, and these responses are the exact reason people don’t reach out when they need help. It’s clear that experience broke her yet people somehow feel the need to still pick at the pieces. We really need to check ourselves before we speak, especially on other people’s issues, to decide whether what we want to say is productive or not. If you can’t improve on the situation or show compassion, why speak?
@@FitPasson I hope you don’t have a kid specifically a daughter. Everything she wrote into Tony went right over your head and instead of really listening you rather be negative about it. It says A LOT more about YOU.
I haven’t commented on a video in awhile as I have been busy with my life but I always watched & support Tony’s videos. As a flight attendant myself, my heart breaks for this woman who wrote in to Tony. Not only do I understand the struggle of constantly being away from home, friends, & family bc of the career we have.. it’s a very mentally draining job being around so many different personalities including co-workers and it can really mess with your mental health. There are a lot of individuals in aviation who struggle with mental illness bc at the end of the day, you could be on the beach in Cancun “living your best life,” but you’re going to go to bed alone in an empty hotel room, wishing the ppl you love the most are with you. I can see from her perspective why she made the decisions she made. Only God can judge her. But I just pray she can find her peace and realize God will grant her a man in her life who will love her for who she is and not what she has to offer. It took a long time for me to learn how to be content with being single and traveling around the world for a living. I simply remind myself that if God wants me to be with someone, he’ll make it happen when the time is right. God bless her… 💙 from one flight attendant to another 🫶
Exactly!! Being a flight attendant is such a lonely job and all you see are couples going on trips at work or people heading to see family so it’s just a constant reminder that you are by yourself at work😩
Sir, You are single-handedly changing the game!! You are saving lives, inspiring women of all ages to see the light within, and helping us to take an authentic look at ourselves to do better! May God continue to bless you and your family.
We’ve all been fooled and deceived by someone in our lives that we didn’t see coming. My dad would always tell me never put anything past anyone because on the news people ALWASY say “I would have never thought so and so would do that!” when someone they knew murdered or hurt someone else. It’s not always easy recognizing a wolf when it’s in sheep’s clothing. At least this poor woman didn’t end up marrying the wolf… Betrayal doesn’t come from your enemy and when we’re are in situations we are blind. That’s why we turn to our friends and loved ones for advice and reassurance. She wrote in about the biggest regret she’s ever made and that she’s learned from it and people joke about it and persecute her. I hope others who want to be vulnerable about their situations don’t read some of these comments. Hearing this letter, it doesn’t seem like this was easy for her especially with there being typos. Sounds like maybe she was crying as she was writing this. She is probably desperate for answers. Praise God for those strong enough to see error in their ways and invite others into their mess to help them change. These comments are exactly why men don’t want to share their stories and keep their stuff bottled up inside. Why tell people they need help then judge them when they seek it. Maybe she needed to let this out and didn’t have anyone to talk to. Abortion probably isn’t the easiest conversation to have with people who know you personally. I hope that when people come across Tony’s videos they can see a community of love and understanding rather than ridicule.
Amen! There's a reason we are told to Pray for Understanding ✨️❤️ Some people truly have NONE. I applaud this Young Lady! I'm sure her decision wasn't easy for her. However I can hear that it truly wasn't her decision... and I pray she Forgives herself one day🙏🏼✨️❤️ I know women who have been in similar situations, where it truly wasn't there decision, but influenced into it. And they are not the same... Praying for GODS Peace on Her heart and Healing, in the name of JESUS 🙏🏼
I had a situation like this but i was never physically intimate w my friend… we had a very strong connection just by spending time together & talking and out of nowhere he switched & basically ghosted me w/o even a goodbye - Sometimes you have to trust God & trust he has your best interest… it does hurt but for whatever reason, God allowed the separation so again, just trust him❤️
Gosh this is probably one of the toughest videos/stories I heard on this channel. So sorry to hear she had to endure that. My heart goes out to this young lady. Things will get better.
Men like him love to help people who can "help" him. Which is why he did not want the baby because kids need a lot of help but they can not reciprocate that help. Men like this are very selfish and they need some help!
As a flight attendant, I can see how she fell victim to that grown boy behavior. Being a flight attendant is definitely a glamorized career but it can be very lonely , traveling to so many place and sitting in your hotel room alone with your thoughts everyday. Her meeting up with that guy could have very well been the highlight of her life aside from the day to day of work. Especially with moving to Denver, where I’m assuming she doesn’t know anyone… so he being around him would essentially be her place of comfort. ☹️ If you know a flight attendant , check up on them🙏🏾
Sounds like he took advantage of her deep care for him. I'm glad that she found God cuz with time and her perseverance in obedience to God, God will deliver her from that soul tie. And one day she'll wake up and she won't think about him anymore and she would be fully healed.
My guy friend and i have been friends for a few years now. We didn't really hang out or anything in the beginning. In the past two years we have. He takes me on dates, picks me up and we talk when we have the time. We are not best friends nor have we been intimate but our conversations are about dreams, goals, etc. Im slowly going to continue to spread the distance because of what ive been learning from your videos. To make room for my husband. Thank you.
This story resonates with me because I’ve been through a similar story. Glory and Praise to God for keeping me alive until this day because if it has not been for the Lord, I would have been gone. I pray the young lady who wrote this letter will find her comfort, strength and healing in Jesus Christ ❤️ I pray the Lord will heal her, purify her soul and body, and renew her IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST ☦️👑❤️ AMEN AND AMEN 🙏
I want to give this lady some advice. Don't sit around waiting for him to come back because that energy is what is going to keep him away. Men always come back but it is not always for the right reasons it can be boredom or the need for intimacy so the only thing you have left is your pride so dont go back no matter what. Thats the only way you can take a little control from the situation and let him feel like crap too. He showed you who he is. He is not a real one, point blank period. This is not love, this is just a rejection wound because you never wanted him. This is someone that doesnt deserve you or your child. Take care of yourself and your health and please never let a man force you to get rid of a baby ever again. Make a list to work with, improve yourself in different areas to keep busy. Level up like Ciara did and then you will find ypir real husband
You are absolutely welcome. I am currently going through a similar situation and these are the things that are helping me move forward. It is so easy to get addicted to the fantasy, we lose sight of who we are and we think this is all love, but it's not. Love is a verb. What is he doing to show love here? This is just pain of rejection or abandonment. They seen that wound early on and it made us easier to manipulate. We trust them so much that when things go wrong we start to question ourselves as if we were to blame. Then we manipulate ourselves until we are so broken we end up finding someone else just like that again, because we need to heal. So we keep having the same problem, different person until we finally learn the lesson. Biggest tip is, trust your gut instinct. Take time to take time out to listen to your body and what it is trying to tell you. I am sorry for anyone going through this, but remember this is all just a reflection of what is going on inside. We need to stop looking into broken mirrors for a true reflection of ourselves. If you want to know who u really are and get the truest reflection, then look for what God says in the bible about how we are fearfully and wonderfully made. Every day is new day..give yourself grace and ask God daily for strength. Be blessed❤
@@jamieleigh807 Thanks @jamie Leigh for your wisdom. I, too, recently come out of a similar situation. 3 weeks in and I was like, "No. I'm not doing it. And this is not my fault. It's not going to work. Just walk. Just move on." Painful yes but the freedom you feel from letting go is an even better feeling.
Yep! Some will play the friend role while actively trying to drive off other guys while they quietly wait for their moment or mood to make their move. OR they do get the chance, only pull some revenge move for all the time they resentfully kept themselves in the friendzone. A LOT of guys are just snakes in the grass lying in wait. Sometimes for yrs too!
Tony you really gave this young lady that father daughter talk. I can relate to the writer and didn’t realize that some of my own trauma wounds still exist until now. Thanks you for your gentleness and beautiful heart🙏🏽.
Can you do a video on why women shouldn’t date a man who we are not physically attracted to? I hear people say all the time that women can do that easily ( I mean actually women who date to marry ) , but I have found that to be not true. We are visual just as much as men and shouldn’t be expected to settle.
Many women play this "charity case" game with men, but end up catching major feelings & emotional withdrawals when he leaves. Don't underestimate the power of soul ties/emotional connections that gets established from being with him for a length of time. And yes, we end up playing ourselves big time. Let the pain make us wiser.🙏🏽🤍🤍🤍
This was hard to listen to....so heart breaking 💔. I pray this young lady is able to heal and eventually get past this pain. By the way, I hope he never comes back you deserve better.
These comments need to be cut off. I can’t believe the amount of judgement im seeing from women who have already been through this, don’t get on a high horse because you’re past it now. Tony is already giving her the hard truth. Let’s be a little more supportive.
This is heart wrenching and makes me sick. Further along Tony speaks on this and explains the man's perspective it makes sense but it still makes a woman want to give up.
This is heartbreaking and def have been there. I believe when I man cuts you off that quickly/short, it's bc another woman has his heart or u know what. So sorry and praying for strength to continue to let go bc its hard.
Sister, my heart goes out to you! May you be covered in peace and comfort as you heal. Please allow the emotional scabs to fall off over time, to reveal a sweet, confident, conscious woman, ready to share love with a beautiful, deserving man.♥️🦋
I went through this with my Fathers daughter he was so nice then played me. As soon as i told him i was pregnant he asked me what i was going to do then tried to convince me to get an abortion. I never thought i would be in a situation that i would even consider that option. It was only through my faith and a lot of prayers that i decided to keep my sweet baby girl. He kept to his promises and is only paying child support sometimes lol. He did not come and see her when she was born and has not tired to build a relationship with her until just recently. It was so painful for me because i couldnt understand what i had done to make him treat me like trash. Then i realized i was broken before i met him and nothing yougo through will be waisted. I pay that this young lady finds her worth and moves on any man that will disregard you and treat you the way he did is not worth your thoughts or energy. I pray that she heals and finds her happy place.
I literally just declined a situationship offer the other day from a “so-called friend”. Fortunately he’s across country and much younger so it wasn’t super difficult. The spirit is willing but flesh is weak, during this waiting season. At the end of the day there’s no blessing or benefit from it. Thank you for reminding me that I dodged a bullet. 🙏🏾
Mannnn Brother Tony your advice to her was golden 💫 and even though this isn’t my story I took some nuggets from it myself and I’m sure many women did too.
I pray this young lady really listens and takes heed to Mr. Gaskin's advice. If she reconnects with him, it is not going to end well for her. The pain is sometimes greater the second time around.
This story is very sad 😞 I pray the lord continues to heal this woman’s heart ❤️ some of this women and man dynamic can get really tough. May God help us all.
We've all been here maybe not in her exact situation but we've all been lost liking someone and getting caught up in our feelings. This young woman has a long way to go to wake up and learn from this experience. I wish her the best🙏🙏🙏
He sounds deceptive and scared of basic accountability. Sounds like he spent those 5 years deflecting, sabotaging, and toying with her. He was cruel for even suggesting that she choose between him and what was possibly the only child she would ever have.
I truly hope and pray that this woman works on dismantling the soul tie she has with this man. She, like many of us, thought that his so-called good deeds meant that he loved her. To be honest, the way that he turned so cold blooded and heartless when she got pregnant, I wouldn’t be surprised if he would’ve tried to harm her if she decided to keep the baby. Thank God she dodged that bullet. I hope she never EVER speaks to him again.
Your advice speaks volumes. Being so called friends with a man and allowing him to lay with you is not a good idea. It's been some years with a man I called a friend but there were benefits when we would hang out and when you said the jump off friend hit hard and the depth of my heart hurt because that's not what I wanted and I accepted it because I have love for him and do want him more than what we are but after listening to this video I have to understand it won't ever be. Thank you 😢
It’s always sad when this happens to a woman. If she can take the lesson out of it and apply it moving forward. I guarantee she won’t waste her time like this ever again. Learn lessons never get repeated.
This is dynamic information and advice! Thank you to the woman who allowed you to share her story AND most of all thank you for great sound advice. God bless you and your family Tony!
This is really sad. I hope she heals, physically, mentally and emotionally. I really hope she hasn't ruined her chances for having children later in life (if she so chooses) abortions can be taxing on the body and can cause problems. That must of been so hard of a decision to make, believing you can't have children, then having an abortion knowing that thos could be her only chance...Wow! My heart goes out to her.
Well said. I don't blame the women for not knowing which way to go with that man. The man's energy he invested in the women is confusing and deceitful, which in return is actually manipulating her into thinking he truly cares about her. When the man disappeared and returned when he felt the presence of a child was gone, speaks volumes of what is in his heart and how he truly values that women.
God bless you Tony, this is absolutely draining. Praying and Best wishes to anyone still going through this type of stuff, stay strong. My young & dumb days few and far, I just can’t deal at this time 😫
I'm confused. She didn't lose a best friend. She lost a f buddy. I don't believe her when she states she only had sex for his pleasure only. Wow, to delete a child is horrible. We can't predict his feelings in the future. I'm so sorry the she had to suffer this pain. Our bodies are a gift and treasure from God. We have to protect the gift that is given to us. I love you too.
He showed me his real colors when I told him I didn't like him anymore than just friends he became angry and until this day he doent talk to me I'm glad he showed me the real him
This happens to me constantly. These “men” get so mad I don’t see them as more than a friend and they want to cut me off after I set that boundary… like what happened brother??? Lol
If a man wants to kill your baby , he does not give af. Men like this will do anything for sex & control. It’s not so much the drive to see you; it’s knowing that your loyal to him despite him not committing to you. 💖
Sounds like she's a preference who thought she was going to be treated better. Instead, she got the same treatment as BW. Move on. Go no contact. Work on yourself
Yep ! It’s sad but men are men not all but regardless of how you look does not determine your worth . Trust I’ve learned the hard way have been in her same exact spot minus the sex . But it’s was a wake up call for myself my ego and how I go about relationships.
Hey! Brother Tony, this young woman already has the answer to the question she is asking you especially if she has watched all your videos before writing n sending this email. He has a narcissist spirit, "god complex"
Women of all ages is dealing with situationships like these. You have to know your position in folks lives and act accordingly. Take people and situations at face value.
Yup
Exactly.
This right here! 📠📠📠
really? Im 39 now and legs closed until marriage and then only open with condoms.She behaved like a slave . I am sorry to say. Once your legs are closed , these men aren't around and buying you things. Always the same stories TG is telling, after 10 min , you hear the women opens her legs .Yeah right .
Friends with Benefits...
is the worst thing a women
can allow herself to be involved in. bottom line
YOU'RE BEING USED !!!!
until someone better comes along.
Period.
I felt this one. 🥺
They ( the women who participate in that) are in denial and will keep sliding on these men not interested in them
This!
That part
He probably couldn't wait to do that to her. Some men are absolutely sick and evil.
This story breaks my heart!💔 She wants the person that broke her heart and he doesn't want her on the same level. I hope she continues to watch Tony's videos and work on her healing.
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She has low self-esteem and is overly obsessed with this loser!! She needs therapy with Tony, lol...
Not to mention a man who is happy to MURDER his own child, and coercing her to kill her own baby. Gives literal meaning that "sin leads to death." 💔😔
It also sounds like since she was light-skinned and "cute" she couldn't and still can't fathom a man playing her. Preferences get done dirty everyday baby - looks are surface only ... it is about what's on the inside and one's mental maturity (of both ppl). Men don't treat racially ambiguous chics any better - they make them baby mommas DAILY. Guard your heart, your box, energy, and time. 💯
This the comment lol
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You're right! If Halle Berry can get played, anyone can get played.
lmaoooooo I was this person a long time ago 😭😅 until I found out that beyonce got cheated on 👀
@@SpiritPhilosophy So did Halle Berry + they put hands on her ... women of every shade and size have to be safe out here.
The amount of women judging this young lady is disgusting. We’ve pretty much all been there before (young and dumb to the situation) - is that not reason why we’re here? I pray for her and hope she learns to love herself. These men will use you as a placeholder and keep dogging you out until you practice self-love and leave them where they’re at. Well wishes to this young lady! 🙏🏽
I applaud this woman’s transparency & courage to write in & get sound advice, I believe sometimes we don’t just go through things for ourselves but so others can also learn & be delivered from our story as well, sometimes deliverance comes in the form of new knowledge & that’s what Tony shared with us tonight through this letter.
This sister literally could have just shifted the culture by writing in & getting Tony’s advice, because even if you cant relate to her story line by line, I’m sure we can see a part of ourselves or a former part of ourselves within this story, & now that we know better we can do better as we move about in this world being the change we want to see- I pray God continues to be close to her heart and reminds her of her inner beauty & worth and she knows that God has someone & something better in store for her! As I remember a book title that said: You Are a Prize to be Won! Don't Settle for Less Than God's Best.
Why do we do this to ourselves? I was a fool like this many times ...but when I finally recognized my worth and learned that I was chasing the need to be accepted because I never was accepted by my father. It takes time to heal and change your mind set but with God and good and wise teachings from people like Tony we can love ourselves back to a healed life filled with peace and respect. Thank you Tony. I hope the woman who wrote this letter continues to do the work on her self so when the right man comes along she will recognize him and how valuable she is.
Women just love. We love who we think love us whole time they really don't like us 🥴
@@cherh Been there! They show their representative and hide their real self!
@@dublingirl1691 me too! SO grateful for Tony!!!
This resonates with me so much. I feel like after years of selling myself short, I ultimately gave myself to Lord to restore my self esteem and showed me my worth. It took time but oh so worth it.
Girl!!! Same here… I used to feel like I had to pretzel 🥨 myself and literally turn myself into a clown to get any attention from my Dad and make him laugh. As an adult, it’s freaking weird to look back and see the dynamic.
And then we go into life repeating those patterns with males! What he should have done is praised me and respected me for my beauty and grace. And then we wonder why someone like Britney Spears has issues, look at her Dad!
I know women who are married and dealing with these same things from their "husband". Paying most of the bills, disrespected daily and just being used and abused because the wife isn't truly who they wanted in the first place. Many women settle for this horrible treatment.
It’s very difficult for women to understand that what you feel inside for him is NOT what he feels for you. He saw her as a mobile sp3rm toilet and not an actual human being. He didn’t care about her at all except to use her for comfort and sex. Whenever he was lonely, he came back to her. And he wanted her to KILL their child. He’s a demon. Block him, and NEVER speak to or think on him again. The new girl probably isn’t prettier. But that doesn’t matter. She probably doesn’t love him as much as this girl does, and men don’t like women who like them. They like the woman who knows he’s a dog and isn’t afraid to leave him.
It’s sad that some women are so down bad in their own stuff that they could confidently bash this woman 🤦🏾♀️ she made a mistake thinking they could be friends. Yes she wanted her cake and to eat it too but the fact remains that she wrote into TWT to get guidance on how to get through this. Y’all should really be more careful before casting these stones smh
She made a mistake.. Correct but wanting & hoping for even more dysfunction is something totally different. Learn lessons & elevate
@@FitPasson Exactly 💯
@@FitPasson and seeing the error in that, she reached out to Tony because she’s aware it’s dysfunctional. This is one of the heaviest topics he’s spoken on, and these responses are the exact reason people don’t reach out when they need help. It’s clear that experience broke her yet people somehow feel the need to still pick at the pieces. We really need to check ourselves before we speak, especially on other people’s issues, to decide whether what we want to say is productive or not. If you can’t improve on the situation or show compassion, why speak?
This is the one. Exactly! It’s really disturbing how rude women are towards another woman and her situation.
@@FitPasson I hope you don’t have a kid specifically a daughter. Everything she wrote into Tony went right over your head and instead of really listening you rather be negative about it. It says A LOT more about YOU.
Love the reply that Tony gave to this young lady. Non judgmental and very thoughtful advice.
I haven’t commented on a video in awhile as I have been busy with my life but I always watched & support Tony’s videos. As a flight attendant myself, my heart breaks for this woman who wrote in to Tony. Not only do I understand the struggle of constantly being away from home, friends, & family bc of the career we have.. it’s a very mentally draining job being around so many different personalities including co-workers and it can really mess with your mental health. There are a lot of individuals in aviation who struggle with mental illness bc at the end of the day, you could be on the beach in Cancun “living your best life,” but you’re going to go to bed alone in an empty hotel room, wishing the ppl you love the most are with you. I can see from her perspective why she made the decisions she made. Only God can judge her. But I just pray she can find her peace and realize God will grant her a man in her life who will love her for who she is and not what she has to offer. It took a long time for me to learn how to be content with being single and traveling around the world for a living. I simply remind myself that if God wants me to be with someone, he’ll make it happen when the time is right. God bless her… 💙 from one flight attendant to another 🫶
Awesome reply. This woman need all the encouragement she can get and much more.
this is spot on Jackie ! sending you love as well from another flight attendant 💕💕 it’s not an easy job but i hope you’re still enjoying it !!
❤️🙏🏾
Perfect response ❤️
Exactly!! Being a flight attendant is such a lonely job and all you see are couples going on trips at work or people heading to see family so it’s just a constant reminder that you are by yourself at work😩
She need to implement the 3 B’s. Brains, brand, body. When I catch myself thinking on past situationships I start to focus on one of the B’s.
Never be just friends with sex and girlfriend/wife benefits.
This is a lesson well learned for her & all of us. Can’t give husband benefits without the actual husband commitment. Period.
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Sir,
You are single-handedly changing the game!! You are saving lives, inspiring women of all ages to see the light within, and helping us to take an authentic look at ourselves to do better! May God continue to bless you and your family.
We’ve all been fooled and deceived by someone in our lives that we didn’t see coming. My dad would always tell me never put anything past anyone because on the news people ALWASY say “I would have never thought so and so would do that!” when someone they knew murdered or hurt someone else. It’s not always easy recognizing a wolf when it’s in sheep’s clothing. At least this poor woman didn’t end up marrying the wolf… Betrayal doesn’t come from your enemy and when we’re are in situations we are blind. That’s why we turn to our friends and loved ones for advice and reassurance.
She wrote in about the biggest regret she’s ever made and that she’s learned from it and people joke about it and persecute her. I hope others who want to be vulnerable about their situations don’t read some of these comments. Hearing this letter, it doesn’t seem like this was easy for her especially with there being typos. Sounds like maybe she was crying as she was writing this. She is probably desperate for answers.
Praise God for those strong enough to see error in their ways and invite others into their mess to help them change. These comments are exactly why men don’t want to share their stories and keep their stuff bottled up inside. Why tell people they need help then judge them when they seek it. Maybe she needed to let this out and didn’t have anyone to talk to. Abortion probably isn’t the easiest conversation to have with people who know you personally. I hope that when people come across Tony’s videos they can see a community of love and understanding rather than ridicule.
THIS!!!!!!
Amen!
There's a reason we are told to Pray for Understanding ✨️❤️
Some people truly have NONE.
I applaud this Young Lady! I'm sure her decision wasn't easy for her. However I can hear that it truly wasn't her decision... and I pray she Forgives herself one day🙏🏼✨️❤️
I know women who have been in similar situations, where it truly wasn't there decision, but influenced into it. And they are not the same...
Praying for GODS Peace on Her heart and Healing, in the name of JESUS 🙏🏼
I had a situation like this but i was never physically intimate w my friend… we had a very strong connection just by spending time together & talking and out of nowhere he switched & basically ghosted me w/o even a goodbye - Sometimes you have to trust God & trust he has your best interest… it does hurt but for whatever reason, God allowed the separation so again, just trust him❤️
Gosh this is probably one of the toughest videos/stories I heard on this channel. So sorry to hear she had to endure that. My heart goes out to this young lady. Things will get better.
Men like him love to help people who can "help" him. Which is why he did not want the baby because kids need a lot of help but they can not reciprocate that help.
Men like this are very selfish and they need some help!
Yes they need professional help
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I learn so much from these videos as a 21 year old
“They done added a IA on there” 😭😭😭😭😭😂😂😂😭😂😂😭😭
As a flight attendant, I can see how she fell victim to that grown boy behavior. Being a flight attendant is definitely a glamorized career but it can be very lonely , traveling to so many place and sitting in your hotel room alone with your thoughts everyday. Her meeting up with that guy could have very well been the highlight of her life aside from the day to day of work. Especially with moving to Denver, where I’m assuming she doesn’t know anyone… so he being around him would essentially be her place of comfort. ☹️
If you know a flight attendant , check up on them🙏🏾
How do you deal with turbulence?
Sounds like he took advantage of her deep care for him. I'm glad that she found God cuz with time and her perseverance in obedience to God, God will deliver her from that soul tie. And one day she'll wake up and she won't think about him anymore and she would be fully healed.
Yes, it will happen exactly like that. I know from experience.
My guy friend and i have been friends for a few years now. We didn't really hang out or anything in the beginning. In the past two years we have. He takes me on dates, picks me up and we talk when we have the time. We are not best friends nor have we been intimate but our conversations are about dreams, goals, etc. Im slowly going to continue to spread the distance because of what ive been learning from your videos. To make room for my husband. Thank you.
This story resonates with me because I’ve been through a similar story.
Glory and Praise to God for keeping me alive until this day because if it has not been for the Lord, I would have been gone.
I pray the young lady who wrote this letter will find her comfort, strength and healing in Jesus Christ ❤️
I pray the Lord will heal her, purify her soul and body, and renew her IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST ☦️👑❤️
AMEN AND AMEN 🙏
I want to give this lady some advice. Don't sit around waiting for him to come back because that energy is what is going to keep him away. Men always come back but it is not always for the right reasons it can be boredom or the need for intimacy so the only thing you have left is your pride so dont go back no matter what. Thats the only way you can take a little control from the situation and let him feel like crap too. He showed you who he is. He is not a real one, point blank period. This is not love, this is just a rejection wound because you never wanted him. This is someone that doesnt deserve you or your child. Take care of yourself and your health and please never let a man force you to get rid of a baby ever again. Make a list to work with, improve yourself in different areas to keep busy. Level up like Ciara did and then you will find ypir real husband
Well said my friend. Well said.
ur advice was great. thank u for commenting, we all need to hear what u wrote.
You are absolutely welcome. I am currently going through a similar situation and these are the things that are helping me move forward. It is so easy to get addicted to the fantasy, we lose sight of who we are and we think this is all love, but it's not. Love is a verb. What is he doing to show love here? This is just pain of rejection or abandonment. They seen that wound early on and it made us easier to manipulate. We trust them so much that when things go wrong we start to question ourselves as if we were to blame. Then we manipulate ourselves until we are so broken we end up finding someone else just like that again, because we need to heal. So we keep having the same problem, different person until we finally learn the lesson. Biggest tip is, trust your gut instinct. Take time to take time out to listen to your body and what it is trying to tell you. I am sorry for anyone going through this, but remember this is all just a reflection of what is going on inside. We need to stop looking into broken mirrors for a true reflection of ourselves. If you want to know who u really are and get the truest reflection, then look for what God says in the bible about how we are fearfully and wonderfully made. Every day is new day..give yourself grace and ask God daily for strength. Be blessed❤
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Thanks @jamie Leigh for your wisdom. I, too, recently come out of a similar situation. 3 weeks in and I was like, "No. I'm not doing it. And this is not my fault. It's not going to work. Just walk. Just move on." Painful yes but the freedom you feel from letting go is an even better feeling.
Great advice
Glad Talks wit Tony is back . I can so relate to this letter. Broke my heart 🙁
Ikr we all been in similar stories
Exactly “a lot of men like to be needed” TG
My eyes popped out my head when I saw this 🤣🤣🤣! I love TWT ❤️ Tony conversations are frank and candid !!!
This story makes me want to throw up. Im so sorry she went through this, I hope she’s healed and moved on from this demon
“…or the man he’s dealing with” 💀💀🥴 omg
When I was younger I seriously thought men and women could be friends. Now I see the writing on the wall.
I thought so aswell, I have no male friends at alllllll
@@venda1008 same here!
All of those Disney movies, 3s Company, and other entertainment made us think that men felt like we did.
Yep! Some will play the friend role while actively trying to drive off other guys while they quietly wait for their moment or mood to make their move.
OR they do get the chance, only pull some revenge move for all the time they resentfully kept themselves in the friendzone.
A LOT of guys are just snakes in the grass lying in wait. Sometimes for yrs too!
It’s damn near impossible if they’re talking & hanging out consistently by themselves🗣👏🏾🤷🏾♀️
Tony you really gave this young lady that father daughter talk. I can relate to the writer and didn’t realize that some of my own trauma wounds still exist until now. Thanks you for your gentleness and beautiful heart🙏🏽.
Can you do a video on why women shouldn’t date a man who we are not physically attracted to? I hear people say all the time that women can do that easily ( I mean actually women who date to marry ) , but I have found that to be not true. We are visual just as much as men and shouldn’t be expected to settle.
Many women play this "charity case" game with men, but end up catching major feelings & emotional withdrawals when he leaves. Don't underestimate the power of soul ties/emotional connections that gets established from being with him for a length of time. And yes, we end up playing ourselves big time. Let the pain make us wiser.🙏🏽🤍🤍🤍
This is why I don’t do male friendships.
This was hard to listen to....so heart breaking 💔. I pray this young lady is able to heal and eventually get past this pain. By the way, I hope he never comes back you deserve better.
These comments need to be cut off. I can’t believe the amount of judgement im seeing from women who have already been through this, don’t get on a high horse because you’re past it now. Tony is already giving her the hard truth. Let’s be a little more supportive.
Right
Bro Tony you something serious saying don't be thinking I said you pretty lol 🤣🤣🤣
This is heart wrenching and makes me sick. Further along Tony speaks on this and explains the man's perspective it makes sense but it still makes a woman want to give up.
God Bless the woman who was bold enough to write this letter! You stay encouraged! GOD IS a GOD of a second chance! ❤️
Been there done that years ago. ITS GOING TO BE CHALLENGING SIS pray cry let it out you will bounce back 🙏 🙌
I needed this comment!
This is heartbreaking and def have been there. I believe when I man cuts you off that quickly/short, it's bc another woman has his heart or u know what. So sorry and praying for strength to continue to let go bc its hard.
.. No it's not, especially if your heart 'really' ain't into it
Never ever a women can be friends with a man!! Ain’t no way boy!! 🤦🏽♀️🙅🏽♀️
Gurl, give him to God!
Oh my, what an awful situation. Poor lady. I pray she has moved on and is doing far better.❤
A very timely video.
Yes very timely!
I pray for her strength. Be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might.
Makes me cry :( I’m
Sorry you had to go through this. Yes, we are all naive at sometimes. Praying for healing ❤️
Sister, my heart goes out to you! May you be covered in peace and comfort as you heal. Please allow the emotional scabs to fall off over time, to reveal a sweet, confident, conscious woman, ready to share love with a beautiful, deserving man.♥️🦋
Oh how I have missed this . Thanks Tony
I love Talks with Tony. Thank you for this one. Much needed 👍🏾
I went through this with my Fathers daughter he was so nice then played me. As soon as i told him i was pregnant he asked me what i was going to do then tried to convince me to get an abortion. I never thought i would be in a situation that i would even consider that option. It was only through my faith and a lot of prayers that i decided to keep my sweet baby girl. He kept to his promises and is only paying child support sometimes lol. He did not come and see her when she was born and has not tired to build a relationship with her until just recently. It was so painful for me because i couldnt understand what i had done to make him treat me like trash. Then i realized i was broken before i met him and nothing yougo through will be waisted. I pay that this young lady finds her worth and moves on any man that will disregard you and treat you the way he did is not worth your thoughts or energy. I pray that she heals and finds her happy place.
I literally just declined a situationship offer the other day from a “so-called friend”. Fortunately he’s across country and much younger so it wasn’t super difficult. The spirit is willing but flesh is weak, during this waiting season. At the end of the day there’s no blessing or benefit from it. Thank you for reminding me that I dodged a bullet. 🙏🏾
He dogged her out, my heart goes out to her. Sheesh
Mannnn Brother Tony your advice to her was golden 💫 and even though this isn’t my story I took some nuggets from it myself and I’m sure many women did too.
Omg 😪🥺😢 God wanted me to hear this message
God bless this woman and thank you for sharing your story. Truly heartbreaking.
I pray this young lady really listens and takes heed to Mr. Gaskin's advice. If she reconnects with him, it is not going to end well for her. The pain is sometimes greater the second time around.
This story is very sad 😞 I pray the lord continues to heal this woman’s heart ❤️ some of this women and man dynamic can get really tough. May God help us all.
Sound like he was in a relationship the way he responded to the pregnancy situation.
Talks /Tony I’m here for it 👏🏾👏🏾
We've all been here maybe not in her exact situation but we've all been lost liking someone and getting caught up in our feelings. This young woman has a long way to go to wake up and learn from this experience. I wish her the best🙏🙏🙏
He sounds deceptive and scared of basic accountability. Sounds like he spent those 5 years deflecting, sabotaging, and toying with her. He was cruel for even suggesting that she choose between him and what was possibly the only child she would ever have.
I truly hope and pray that this woman works on dismantling the soul tie she has with this man. She, like many of us, thought that his so-called good deeds meant that he loved her.
To be honest, the way that he turned so cold blooded and heartless when she got pregnant, I wouldn’t be surprised if he would’ve tried to harm her if she decided to keep the baby.
Thank God she dodged that bullet. I hope she never EVER speaks to him again.
Wow. This is so sadddd. Hugs to this woman. This is truly awful. I'm glad she got wisdom.
Amen.
Dannnnnggggg I feel so bad for her! 😭 She will never get over not keeping her baby.
Thank you Tony. You stay consistent over the years. I pray God continues to keep you and motivate you.
Tony this was soooo good. What a sad story 💔💔, much blessings her way💕
God please bless this young lady 😢😢🙏🏾🙏🏾
This story gutted me with the termination…so cold 😢 bless her Jesus!
Yessss, “Talks with Tony” is baaaccckkk!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽
Your advice speaks volumes. Being so called friends with a man and allowing him to lay with you is not a good idea. It's been some years with a man I called a friend but there were benefits when we would hang out and when you said the jump off friend hit hard and the depth of my heart hurt because that's not what I wanted and I accepted it because I have love for him and do want him more than what we are but after listening to this video I have to understand it won't ever be. Thank you 😢
The Truth is so healing🙏🏽
It’s always sad when this happens to a woman. If she can take the lesson out of it and apply it moving forward. I guarantee she won’t waste her time like this ever again. Learn lessons never get repeated.
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Beautifully said
This is dynamic information and advice! Thank you to the woman who allowed you to share her story AND most of all thank you for great sound advice. God bless you and your family Tony!
Yayyyyy!!! Talks with Tony ! My favorite . It’s always good and it’s never the same story with godly advice. I love this . Keep them coming Tony 💪🏽😊
This was the saddest story so far for me but I think he used her to help his status in the eyes of other women.
I’m so glad you bring this topic up because it is much needed here. Thank you!!
Thank you Coach TG...smile...l have learned many GEMS from watching your videos...may God bless you continuously 🙏
God bless you Bro Tony for the special treat tonight with Talks with Tony . Am here for the learning 😊❤️🙏🏾
This is really sad. I hope she heals, physically, mentally and emotionally. I really hope she hasn't ruined her chances for having children later in life (if she so chooses) abortions can be taxing on the body and can cause problems. That must of been so hard of a decision to make, believing you can't have children, then having an abortion knowing that thos could be her only chance...Wow! My heart goes out to her.
This was incredibly compassionate 😢
This was an on time video.
Thank you Tony 😊
Well said. I don't blame the women for not knowing which way to go with that man. The man's energy he invested in the women is confusing and deceitful, which in return is actually manipulating her into thinking he truly cares about her. When the man disappeared and returned when he felt the presence of a child was gone, speaks volumes of what is in his heart and how he truly values that women.
The saddest part is she may never have a child again and allowed this man to rule over her body in every way possible
Too much Nuggets in a video, mentor Tony keep dishing gems. Thank you mentor
My first inkling was that he got distant because he met a woman he really likes. This gal writing in was a filler.
Hol'up...pause! ✋🏾did she said he gave her $600 then blocked her?!!! Man he cold blooded! 🥶 that hurt me!
I had to pause the video
Real cold omg 🥺
@@t-shindalankston3621 me too! I was like hold on now...
yeah that hurt me, I can’t imagine how she feels/felt
@@slimbarbie1 yes! That's scary
God bless you Tony, this is absolutely draining. Praying and Best wishes to anyone still going through this type of stuff, stay strong. My young & dumb days few and far, I just can’t deal at this time 😫
I'm confused. She didn't lose a best friend. She lost a f buddy. I don't believe her when she states she only had sex for his pleasure only. Wow, to delete a child is horrible. We can't predict his feelings in the future. I'm so sorry the she had to suffer this pain. Our bodies are a gift and treasure from God. We have to protect the gift that is given to us. I love you too.
I stand by this comment💯
Congratulations on the silver youtube plaque Tony!!
Why would she want to stay in touch with him after the way he treated her?🤔 Smh.
Trauma bond. That is usually the case.
@@runningwithscissors1564 I guess so.
Deep emotional attachment, soul tie, trauma bond
She don’t know any better.
Poor thing. She just needs to heal & get him out of her system.
I also had a guy friend for 16 years never been intimate and one day he started acting cold towards me and no longer talk to me
He showed me his real colors when I told him I didn't like him anymore than just friends he became angry and until this day he doent talk to me I'm glad he showed me the real him
This happened to me except it was a female... I had to make it clear we'd never be anything more than friends.
This happens to me constantly. These “men” get so mad I don’t see them as more than a friend and they want to cut me off after I set that boundary… like what happened brother??? Lol
If a man wants to kill your baby , he does not give af. Men like this will do anything for sex & control. It’s not so much the drive to see you; it’s knowing that your loyal to him despite him not committing to you. 💖
OMG. ...yes
Sounds like she's a preference who thought she was going to be treated better. Instead, she got the same treatment as BW. Move on. Go no contact. Work on yourself
Yep ! It’s sad but men are men not all but regardless of how you look does not determine your worth . Trust I’ve learned the hard way have been in her same exact spot minus the sex . But it’s was a wake up call for myself my ego and how I go about relationships.
This is why I don't do friends with benefits and situationships or be friends with a man after a relationship ends.
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Shes talking about she's the catch yet she is doing all the chasing.
Hey! Brother Tony, this young woman already has the answer to the question she is asking you especially if she has watched all your videos before writing n sending this email. He has a narcissist spirit, "god complex"