IKR! It's pathetic. Then you have grown males not knowing what they need in a woman. So this grown man, Tony, has to tell them. What kind of sense does that make? smh
Very pertinent analysis on what a man should look for in a woman. Some of us men have difficulties clearly articulating what we are looking for with the opposite sex. Great reference video for brothas out there SERIOUSLY looking for a wife. Thank you Tony! 🙏🏾
@@mmills860 I meant what I said and I said what I meant. I do not have to be a man to state this point. This information has come from the mouths of MEN themselves.
@@keepsit100atalltime9 I don't care what you meant, you are not a man nor can you advocate because of what multiple men told you. This is one of the issues now with the opposite sex🙄 A person can't even express themselves without someone telling them what they think they know...Goodness
@@mmills860 And I don't care about your opinion. I don't need you to suggest anything to me. I said what I said. It is not my fault that you are sensitive. Learn how to listen and take constructive criticism.
I Love it C.I.A 💯 Character, Integrity and Ambition. , I listen to you daily…. Didn’t realize how broken I am and how my marriage is in trouble…. Until you shed light on a few things Please do not 🛑 ✋ !!! Pouring into our lives… You are a GIANT a Warrior for the Lord… ooops !!! I know they have so many so called LORD , However, I know the one you serve. The Adversary is trying to penetrate it’s way onto your platform . because you have been more open about your marriage, past and flaws… The Adversary wants to say “See I told you so” but I’m standing in agreement with you and your beautiful family . People eyes 👀 are opening. If only one at a time While GOD have me in Silence…. Churell Quote ### SILENCE SPEAKS VOLUMES 🤐 🤫 Tony ??? is it too late to be working on yourself at 51 😂 😆 You are a Mentor of Mines
I’ve met “men” who don’t think I’m exciting because I trust them and don’t pick fights or show jealousy. In their heads, if I’m not possessive, I don’t care about them.
It means you’re a woman with a secure attachment style. I have this same “problem” with men too. I think men are confused on what they want because that possessiveness and jealousy they seek is also one of the things that they run away from later on.
I love how you touched this subject with a REAL MAN perspective. Thank you! I have your book "A Woman's influence" and I found it incredibly rich in many ways with the 3 C's sticking with me Cool, Calm And Collected ... that is how we can communicate openly and it has helped me improve in that area whilst pointing out some childhood experiences of unhealthy cimmunication... and how, whilst i cannot change that experience/s, it has affected me, now that i understood the influence these had, and acknowledging better ways... it automatically proofed to me i have the power, as a healed adult, to operate differently and be a good example to young generations! We should be getting better and not worse!! Thank you Tony and be blessed!!
You are very correct, recognizing the hurt or trauma we went through how it impacted us and starting the Healing journey. Sticking with the journey and healing us important 🙂
I’m a very head strong type of woman and I can definitely intimidate by my wit and debate skills, but I find most men that I’m attracted to or have compatible personalities with love that I force them to think. They said they feel safe knowing I cannot be easily influenced by others 🤷🏽♀️
Mr. Gaskins, I was with you all the way until you said, “If a woman is concerned and worried about who and what a man is looking at or who he is texting” then that woman is being controlling, nagging and is pushing that man away. The man is looking for someone that’s not concerned with those things because it shows she’s confident in herself. This maybe true that’s what some men like and would want but I disagree that’s what a REAL MAN wants. I feel that’s more of what a boy or an immature man wants. I’m saying this because a REAL MAN should only have eyes for the one woman that he desires to be with. He should not want to be looking at other women. Don’t get me wrong…I’m not saying that ALL woman and men don’t look at other men and women that they find attractive nor that they should not look. I’m saying it’s the way you look. It’s all about RESPECT. Respect for the person you’re with and respect for your relationship. A REAL MAN should want to show LOVE and RESPECT for a REAL WOMAN if he LOVES her. Most women just want to be loved and respected no different from what a man wants. I could be wrong but that’s just my opinion. I’m not even going to touch the part about you saying how a man does not want a woman that debates AKA quarrelsome woman. In other words don’t have a brain or a mind of your own. Keep your thoughts and opinions to yourself. Let me do what I want and how I want to do things no matter how it makes you (the woman) feel. Keep your feelings and thoughts to yourself. Let me…do me!! If that’s the case…why does a man need a woman?
A man will never stop looking. Looking and pursuing are two different things though. You are not blind just because you are with someone. They have to make the CHOICE to just look and not pursue
Angela, Tony is describing a woman that feels the need to be a detective. Usually that comes from a place of insecurity which could have come from his past behavior in their relationship, or unhealed wounds from her previous relationship. A healthy relationship should be built on trust. If you can't trust each other, then the relationship is over. The quarrelsome comment doesn't mean that you can't have an opinion, or your own mind. He's meaning don't stay in a place of being disagreeable, or combative. Also, it's how you vocalize your disagreement. A soft answer turns away wrath. If a disagreement arises, you have the option to engage in an argument or wait until you both have had time to think about the issue. It may not even be worth the argument and you've entered into a conflict for no reason.
I definitely can understand and agree with the quarrelsome explanation. That is not where anyone in a relationship should want to stay in. I believe it doesn’t start out that way…at least it shouldn’t. I believe it starts off as wanting to be heard and understood on both sides. Just like a relationship takes two so does a disagreement. It’s never one sided. As for the detective…you are correct. There are a lot of detectives out there both men and women but I still do not agree that for the most part it’s due to insecurities. I feel like it’s due to how the person they are in the relationship with is making them feel. Are they giving them a reason to play detective. I never go into a relationship thinking the worst of anyone. Everyone starts off on a clean slate. I have no reason to play detective until you give me a reason to play detective. Thank you for that explanation as to what Tony was describing.
@@Fr3sHTiNa At LEAST don't gawk at other women when your wife is around. It's so disrespectful! If she did the same thing literally eye undressing another man in front of you and other people are watching her, would you totally be okay about it? You wouldn't feel disrespected at all? I doubt that.
Why do I get overlooked if I am on the right path for the first time in my life? No, I’m not looking or desperate, I am just wondering why I’m being passed when I have all these qualities. I can be told that I’m pretty but it doesn’t go beyond that.
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Go where men hang out or shop like the library,gym,local parks,grocery stores,if Walmart or Academy(the fitness sections)Lowe's,Home Depot,car part stores.I encourage you to ask the Lord to show you Mr.Right this year&see what happens!MAKE SURE TO DRESS APPROPRIATELY,HAVE A WHOLESOME CONVERSATION WITHOUT PROFANITY IF THIS APPLIES,SAY THANK YOU WHEN MEN HOLD DOORS&GIVE COMPLIMENTS&OH YEAH DON'T FORGET TO SMILE!I'VE BEEN MARRIED 13 YEARS!MY HUB IS 52&I'M 41.GOD CAN MAKE A WAY FOR YOU TOO!
This is a great video. But I have a question; why would a man want an ambitious woman but a woman should be able to take a chance on a man that has potential It’s a greater risk for a woman to only work off potential because when they have children and he can’t provide they may make life stressful for the entire family I see your point that a man doesn’t want a woman that may be opportunistic but what if a woman has other feminine qualities that overshadow her ambition; like she can run a home, cook, clean, and good with children?
Men like the idea of an ambitions women but when reality sets it, they start to despise her. When she doesn't spend as much time taking care of her self, or the kids, or him, when she is stressed and not relaxed it all backfires. It think it boils down to not wanting a clingy woman especially when he's busy, yet she's around and looks pretty when he wants her present. Hence the selective "ambition". It's cherry picking without choosing a package (full time working woman VS stay at home mom). We women should do what suits us because even men don't know what they want.
@@BashaerB-h2c you are picking between 2 extremes. Either FULL time working woman OR a house wife. You can have a part time work and be a house wife. Or even run your own business online from home. It's all about balance.
@@Random.sachen1 I run an online business from home. You are underestimating the amount of work a person has to put in to be successful online. It's a 24 hour job and people constantly message you even at 2 a.m. If I had a new born, no way in hell would I deal with that AND with a infant that wakes up zillion times a night because they are hungry. How will a woman keep her spirit and mood high while she has to deal with her clients, her baby, her husband and herself? Do you know how long it takes for a woman to keep herself looking good? My brothers wouldn't let my mother shower in peace when they were little because they would constantly cry if she was gone. Rasing kids is a FULL time job that many men take for granted.
@@BashaerB-h2c I have an online business and I know what it is. Mine is automated. I don't spend that much time on it. It all comes down what works for you. And I don't know where you're from, but in Europe mothers take 1YEAR fully paid maternity leave and then start working part time. I'm not saying women gotta continue working while they just gave birth to a newborn. But, later something can be managed if she still wants to work.
@@Random.sachen1 Yes, I agree it depends what you are doing. However, I don't think women should feel any less just because they aren't traditionally ambitious in the sense they bring money in. Ambition can be put into raising kids well with a strong sense of self (which many people lack these days) and maintaining a peaceful home. These contributions are priceless and often taken for granted. A woman should have an option to want to work, but shouldn't be forced to because her husband doesn't find her "ambitious" enough.
How can y’all want peace when you bring chaos? So you want women to still be your peace in the midst of YOUR self prescribed troubles? What a man pours into a woman he will receive. It’s his job to create an environment/relationship where peace resides.
I want that in a man but thats too much to ask. So I just go with no ab*se, no cheating, but thats even too much to ask nowadays. Must be nice to be so priviliged to demand these qualities from a woman while you dont give anything of those qualities back.
Great video Tony, I did notice it cut off in the middle of your sentence though. I don't know if you meant it to be that way or if it's Utube doing that.
I’m frustrated with these apps! I am sick of the textualships!! What’s up with these guys acting like pen pals and not asking to meet? Could be married maybe but he wanted to do a video chat so….. so frustrating
@@catcat9582 ugh! He agreed to meet then asked if we can wait on meeting. Said he didn’t want to unmatch or anything but just needs to take some time for himself. I told him sure and whatever he needs and how I’d be happy to continue texting to get to know each other in the meantime. He responded “Ditto 😊”. Like WTF???
Thank you brother... Women can tell the world what type of men they want i.e. 6ft tall 6 figures with a six pack but it"s a problem when we want a woman who"s plesant to be around..takes care of herself mentally physically and emotiomally...with a serants heart?
Yes women want a man with six figure income while she drives an old banger with a job at McDonald's 😂 I want a God fearing man, first and foremost! If he's faithful to God he's going to be faithful to humans....
I think most women on this channel are beyond that thinking. Most women are already aware or willing to learn from HIS perspective and receive his message well. That's why women love Tony because his perspective comes from a place of love but he also isn't holding any punches. When you can speak on what you want, and who you want without coming from a place of bitterness and a kind heart its more beneficial than using an abusive tone. I rarely see women argue with Tony and that's why.
@@theehardpill I respect every place a man or woman is coming from if it's love💯 But what I feel is missing is understanding daddy's love verse mommy... It's a totally different experience... Daddy's love can hit you like bricks
@@zaniellowery6926 I see men like Tony as an uncle or big brother. I been here a while and watched hundreds of his video, even when it wasn't in favor of women, I never once felt offended. He's a influence and I respect him as such. I also don't lack emotional intelligence so a critique is just that there's no reason to take offense to it or say what happens typically when dealing with men blah blah blah obviously two things can be true at the sane time. I think people lack staying on course with topics. When you understand you're not perfect and need sharpening you just receive, agree, and apply the messag. Men and women both can't except that even if the message is in love.
Great information as usual Tony. Emotional Intelligence is an Excellent book by D.B. Bedford. I'm a EI Ambassador under him. His program and taking many courses on your Academy Tony have help me tremendously. Blessings and Abundance.
I have heard multiple people say that men are not concerned with how much money a woman makes. I say that's not necessarily true. For example, You hardly ever see someone who makes 6 or 7 figures dating some one who makes like 50K. So in a sense, that statement is not completely true. Depending on the caliber and type of man, they are concerned with how much you make. Maybe not the majority but some. They may not be concerned directly about it but indirectly they are because the amount of money you make determines the quality of life you have or will have.
I work at a hospital and a male nurse told me that he would ask out a girl who works at McDonald’s, hypothetically. He said he makes enough money so is not worried about that.
I dpnt know id you realize this tony but if listeners listen to the end you cut off. That did that on another video you uploaded recently. Apologies if you have a part 2 to this video. Maybe its youtube, because you always sign off with god bless
Most women nag because they're put in a mother's role. The man-child's mama didn't give him a proper home education. Most women do not want to nag, but want a mature connection so she can shine hwe love on the relationship.
this is really good information. it is similar to what i thought. i am a woman and this is how i think men are. i read the book emotional intelligence a while ago.
I always just thought it was me, & tried to give more to my relationship only to realize it's just 99% hard to gina a real man or a good man ........ I just got out of a 10 year relationship, questioning my self how can I be all this and be there for this man and soon as he gets his surgeries and I help him better his life he leaves me... Well it wasn't until I watched this video now I understand I just had a bad man who was still a boy and with all my schooling I knew better.. but once I put that 10 years of time in I didn't want to leave now I only wish I had sis a screening and not wastes so much of my time ... I said after This rediculous man I'm only dating out of my race but I see now he was just a bad apple a really rotten one 2 say the lease .. Thank you for making this video ... I now know don't just date & give my heart to Amy man he has 2 be questioned first because I am a Great woman & which I will remain submissive and respectful ambitious etc ..... THANKS AGAIN !
What’s the difference between being quarrelsome and setting standards and boundaries? I feel like there’s often time some confusion there. Even for myself.
Question: I'm a tailor professionally. But I also make my own line of clothes which includes bathing suits. I model my clothes on Instagram. What are your thoughts about this as far as objectification? What would a "real man " feel about this?
That’s your job, a real man though he’s going to look deeper. Maybe the type of clothes matter and how much you feel comfortable showing as far as objectified images or body poses. First impressions matter.
I feel like we go over the same conversation over and over. When will people graduate from the basics?
IKR! It's pathetic. Then you have grown males not knowing what they need in a woman. So this grown man, Tony, has to tell them. What kind of sense does that make? smh
When people are no longer being created...
I know a quarrelsome man. I think this man picks fights and starts arguments for attention or sport. It's draining.
A lot of men love drama
Put your track shoes on 🏃🏾♀️
Yep....thats the kind that say "they don't like drama" but starts drama....smh
@@ARS-fn6px FACTS 👈
No one cared enough to ask you how are you doing or how you are experiencing them.
Very pertinent analysis on what a man should look for in a woman. Some of us men have difficulties clearly articulating what we are looking for with the opposite sex. Great reference video for brothas out there SERIOUSLY looking for a wife. Thank you Tony! 🙏🏾
🤔. A man who knows himself knows what he needs from a woman. It's not that hard to articulate.
@@keepsit100atalltime9 if you are not a man then you should definitely sit this one out
@@mmills860 I meant what I said and I said what I meant. I do not have to be a man to state this point. This information has come from the mouths of MEN themselves.
@@keepsit100atalltime9 I don't care what you meant, you are not a man nor can you advocate because of what multiple men told you. This is one of the issues now with the opposite sex🙄 A person can't even express themselves without someone telling them what they think they know...Goodness
@@mmills860 And I don't care about your opinion. I don't need you to suggest anything to me. I said what I said. It is not my fault that you are sensitive. Learn how to listen and take constructive criticism.
💯 grown man
Refreshing to see a male supporter checking in and checking in early too 🙌🏽
Handsome!
@@qscott888 Tony my Mentor in Christ. Im always in the comments seeking wisdom, what he talks about is the way my father raised me.
@@lifecoachjess967 thank you
@@gcode305 Very good to hear! Share the wealth with a friend. 🙌🏽🤔
All of that is facts 💯 and definitely doable. When God is in it, there is absolutely nothing that could stop the 2. 👑1❤👑
I Love it C.I.A 💯 Character, Integrity and Ambition. , I listen to you daily…. Didn’t realize how broken I am and how my marriage is in trouble…. Until you shed light on a few things
Please do not 🛑 ✋ !!! Pouring into our lives… You are a GIANT a Warrior for the Lord… ooops !!! I know they have so many so called LORD , However, I know the one you serve.
The Adversary is trying to penetrate it’s way onto your platform . because you have been more open about your marriage, past and flaws… The Adversary wants to say “See I told you so” but I’m standing in agreement with you and your beautiful family . People eyes 👀 are opening. If only one at a time
While GOD have me in Silence….
Churell Quote
### SILENCE SPEAKS VOLUMES 🤐 🤫
Tony ???
is it too late to be working on yourself at 51 😂 😆
You are a Mentor of Mines
I’ve met “men” who don’t think I’m exciting because I trust them and don’t pick fights or show jealousy. In their heads, if I’m not possessive, I don’t care about them.
It means you’re a woman with a secure attachment style. I have this same “problem” with men too.
I think men are confused on what they want because that possessiveness and jealousy they seek is also one of the things that they run away from later on.
You haven’t met a man. Those are little boys that’s his point of explaining the characteristics of a man.
Wow till this day this is so true
Great message Mr Tony, your channel is a blessing to me ever since I found it.
Good to see more men participating in these conversations.
Emotional Intelligence is a great book.....reading it this summer.
I love how you touched this subject with a REAL MAN perspective. Thank you!
I have your book "A Woman's influence" and I found it incredibly rich in many ways with the 3 C's sticking with me Cool, Calm And Collected
... that is how we can communicate openly and it has helped me improve in that area whilst pointing out some childhood experiences of unhealthy cimmunication... and how, whilst i cannot change that experience/s, it has affected me, now that i understood the influence these had, and acknowledging better ways... it automatically proofed to me i have the power, as a healed adult, to operate differently and be a good example to young generations! We should be getting better and not worse!!
Thank you Tony and be blessed!!
You are very correct, recognizing the hurt or trauma we went through how it impacted us and starting the Healing journey. Sticking with the journey and healing us important 🙂
Blessed Tribe checking in!! 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
Some men can't afford children. They need to be realistic about their financial situation.
I’m a very head strong type of woman and I can definitely intimidate by my wit and debate skills, but I find most men that I’m attracted to or have compatible personalities with love that I force them to think. They said they feel safe knowing I cannot be easily influenced by others 🤷🏽♀️
Tony I would like for you to talk about the arrested development many men have in today's society.
🙏🏾yesss
Women can be all of what you are talking about and still end up alone.
Self care. Do it for YOURSELF!
Mr. Gaskins, I was with you all the way until you said, “If a woman is concerned and worried about who and what a man is looking at or who he is texting” then that woman is being controlling, nagging and is pushing that man away.
The man is looking for someone that’s not concerned with those things because it shows she’s confident in herself. This maybe true that’s what some men like and would want but I disagree that’s what a REAL MAN wants. I feel that’s more of what a boy or an immature man wants.
I’m saying this because a REAL MAN should only have eyes for the one woman that he desires to be with. He should not want to be looking at other women. Don’t get me wrong…I’m not saying that ALL woman and men don’t look at other men and women that they find attractive nor that they should not look. I’m saying it’s the way you look. It’s all about RESPECT. Respect for the person you’re with and respect for your relationship. A REAL MAN should want to show LOVE and RESPECT for a REAL WOMAN if he LOVES her.
Most women just want to be loved and respected no different from what a man wants. I could be wrong but that’s just my opinion.
I’m not even going to touch the part about you saying how a man does not want a woman that debates AKA quarrelsome woman.
In other words don’t have a brain or a mind of your own. Keep your thoughts and opinions to yourself. Let me do what I want and how I want to do things no matter how it makes you (the woman) feel. Keep your feelings and thoughts to yourself. Let me…do me!!
If that’s the case…why does a man need a woman?
A man will never stop looking. Looking and pursuing are two different things though. You are not blind just because you are with someone. They have to make the CHOICE to just look and not pursue
Angela, Tony is describing a woman that feels the need to be a detective. Usually that comes from a place of insecurity which could have come from his past behavior in their relationship, or unhealed wounds from her previous relationship. A healthy relationship should be built on trust. If you can't trust each other, then the relationship is over. The quarrelsome comment doesn't mean that you can't have an opinion, or your own mind. He's meaning don't stay in a place of being disagreeable, or combative. Also, it's how you vocalize your disagreement. A soft answer turns away wrath. If a disagreement arises, you have the option to engage in an argument or wait until you both have had time to think about the issue. It may not even be worth the argument and you've entered into a conflict for no reason.
I definitely can understand and agree with the quarrelsome explanation. That is not where anyone in a relationship should want to stay in. I believe it doesn’t start out that way…at least it shouldn’t. I believe it starts off as wanting to be heard and understood on both sides. Just like a relationship takes two so does a disagreement. It’s never one sided.
As for the detective…you are correct. There are a lot of detectives out there both men and women but I still do not agree that for the most part it’s due to insecurities. I feel like it’s due to how the person they are in the relationship with is making them feel. Are they giving them a reason to play detective.
I never go into a relationship thinking the worst of anyone. Everyone starts off on a clean slate. I have no reason to play detective until you give me a reason to play detective.
Thank you for that explanation as to what Tony was describing.
@@Fr3sHTiNa At LEAST don't gawk at other women when your wife is around. It's so disrespectful! If she did the same thing literally eye undressing another man in front of you and other people are watching her, would you totally be okay about it? You wouldn't feel disrespected at all? I doubt that.
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Why do I get overlooked if I am on the right path for the first time in my life? No, I’m not looking or desperate, I am just wondering why I’m being passed when I have all these qualities. I can be told that I’m pretty but it doesn’t go beyond that.
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This is a great video.
But I have a question; why would a man want an ambitious woman but a woman should be able to take a chance on a man that has potential
It’s a greater risk for a woman to only work off potential because when they have children and he can’t provide they may make life stressful for the entire family
I see your point that a man doesn’t want a woman that may be opportunistic but what if a woman has other feminine qualities that overshadow her ambition; like she can run a home, cook, clean, and good with children?
Men like the idea of an ambitions women but when reality sets it, they start to despise her. When she doesn't spend as much time taking care of her self, or the kids, or him, when she is stressed and not relaxed it all backfires. It think it boils down to not wanting a clingy woman especially when he's busy, yet she's around and looks pretty when he wants her present. Hence the selective "ambition". It's cherry picking without choosing a package (full time working woman VS stay at home mom). We women should do what suits us because even men don't know what they want.
@@BashaerB-h2c you are picking between 2 extremes.
Either FULL time working woman OR a house wife.
You can have a part time work and be a house wife.
Or even run your own business online from home.
It's all about balance.
@@Random.sachen1 I run an online business from home. You are underestimating the amount of work a person has to put in to be successful online. It's a 24 hour job and people constantly message you even at 2 a.m. If I had a new born, no way in hell would I deal with that AND with a infant that wakes up zillion times a night because they are hungry. How will a woman keep her spirit and mood high while she has to deal with her clients, her baby, her husband and herself? Do you know how long it takes for a woman to keep herself looking good? My brothers wouldn't let my mother shower in peace when they were little because they would constantly cry if she was gone. Rasing kids is a FULL time job that many men take for granted.
@@BashaerB-h2c I have an online business and I know what it is.
Mine is automated. I don't spend that much time on it.
It all comes down what works for you.
And I don't know where you're from, but in Europe mothers take 1YEAR fully paid maternity leave and then start working part time.
I'm not saying women gotta continue working while they just gave birth to a newborn. But, later something can be managed if she still wants to work.
@@Random.sachen1 Yes, I agree it depends what you are doing. However, I don't think women should feel any less just because they aren't traditionally ambitious in the sense they bring money in. Ambition can be put into raising kids well with a strong sense of self (which many people lack these days) and maintaining a peaceful home. These contributions are priceless and often taken for granted. A woman should have an option to want to work, but shouldn't be forced to because her husband doesn't find her "ambitious" enough.
We want peace a gal who speaks life into us soft spoken and one who supports us. Thanks tony grown men
Y'all always say that but end up choosing the controlling, crazy chick lol
How can y’all want peace when you bring chaos? So you want women to still be your peace in the midst of YOUR self prescribed troubles? What a man pours into a woman he will receive. It’s his job to create an environment/relationship where peace resides.
@@INOUCIT Right!
@@INOUCIT yes they want peace so they can create chaos (in peace). Peace to them means to shut up. 🥴
I want that in a man but thats too much to ask. So I just go with no ab*se, no cheating, but thats even too much to ask nowadays.
Must be nice to be so priviliged to demand these qualities from a woman while you dont give anything of those qualities back.
Thank you Tony love from Canada 🇨🇦 🍁 🇨🇦
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Thankyou good Sir, for trying to explain to our sons and daughters what should have already been explained by our fathers. I appreciate you.
Need more on emotional intelligence
Thanks Tony! 🙏🏻
Great video Tony, I did notice it cut off in the middle of your sentence though. I don't know if you meant it to be that way or if it's Utube doing that.
I’m frustrated with these apps! I am sick of the textualships!! What’s up with these guys acting like pen pals and not asking to meet? Could be married maybe but he wanted to do a video chat so….. so frustrating
Yep they are texting crazy. My experience too 🤪
It's low effort yet feeds the ego. The little ding is addicting to both genders but men often have diff goals in the dating scene
Don’t indulge in texting point blank PE-RI-OD!
@@catcat9582 Yes that little ding is quite addicting. It’s really hard not to check it out as soon as you hear it!
@@catcat9582 ugh! He agreed to meet then asked if we can wait on meeting. Said he didn’t want to unmatch or anything but just needs to take some time for himself.
I told him sure and whatever he needs and how I’d be happy to continue texting to get to know each other in the meantime. He responded “Ditto 😊”.
Like WTF???
Men nowadays want you to be their man .... I'm so over it. 😒 God himself needs to pick mine
For the most part, this is facts. Great video
That's a good one
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Character , integrity ambition
Having a man is an accessory and not a necessity. Focus on wisdom first.
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Thanks for the video Tony. ☺️
You should do a video solely based on men mindset with relationships when they’re in there early 20’s!
Thank you brother... Women can tell the world what type of men they want i.e. 6ft tall 6 figures with a six pack but it"s a problem when we want a woman who"s plesant to be around..takes care of herself mentally physically and emotiomally...with a serants heart?
Yes women want a man with six figure income while she drives an old banger with a job at McDonald's 😂 I want a God fearing man, first and foremost! If he's faithful to God he's going to be faithful to humans....
It just seems like anything having to do with acts of service towards a man id meet with " He is a grown man' I just believe love gives 💯
I think most women on this channel are beyond that thinking. Most women are already aware or willing to learn from HIS perspective and receive his message well. That's why women love Tony because his perspective comes from a place of love but he also isn't holding any punches. When you can speak on what you want, and who you want without coming from a place of bitterness and a kind heart its more beneficial than using an abusive tone. I rarely see women argue with Tony and that's why.
@@theehardpill I respect every place a man or woman is coming from if it's love💯 But what I feel is missing is understanding daddy's love verse mommy... It's a totally different experience... Daddy's love can hit you like bricks
@@zaniellowery6926 I see men like Tony as an uncle or big brother. I been here a while and watched hundreds of his video, even when it wasn't in favor of women, I never once felt offended. He's a influence and I respect him as such. I also don't lack emotional intelligence so a critique is just that there's no reason to take offense to it or say what happens typically when dealing with men blah blah blah obviously two things can be true at the sane time. I think people lack staying on course with topics. When you understand you're not perfect and need sharpening you just receive, agree, and apply the messag. Men and women both can't except that even if the message is in love.
Keep in mind..this app,it’s to grown men only…which are far and few between….however, I personally know of two
Be Blessed 😊
I would love to be a cast member.
Great information as usual. Thank you much!!
Denial is a dangerous state of mind
Great information as usual Tony. Emotional Intelligence is an Excellent book by D.B. Bedford. I'm a EI Ambassador under him. His program and taking many courses on your Academy Tony have help me tremendously. Blessings and Abundance.
When you chase something it runs??! My man went after me, and I was *FLATTERED* ...hmmm...
I have heard multiple people say that men are not concerned with how much money a woman makes. I say that's not necessarily true. For example, You hardly ever see someone who makes 6 or 7 figures dating some one who makes like 50K. So in a sense, that statement is not completely true. Depending on the caliber and type of man, they are concerned with how much you make. Maybe not the majority but some. They may not be concerned directly about it but indirectly they are because the amount of money you make determines the quality of life you have or will have.
I work at a hospital and a male nurse told me that he would ask out a girl who works at McDonald’s, hypothetically. He said he makes enough money so is not worried about that.
@@j-tenn226 Typically, men will date women who make less than them. Most men do. But not all men.
Tony Gaskins already described the difference between a GROWN BOY and a MAN.
Right now it seems that your comment is about a GROWN BOY not a man.
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@@j-tenn226 did he asked her out? He will only say that.
@@Zen-cx5tc right, because you know the person who I’m thinking of and how he thinks. Got it
I have no time for drama. LIFE 🧬 is Too Short!
Love your videos! …. Loving the shorter videos even more! Gives me time to listen, let it soak in and re-evaluate if necessary.
The women I look up to. Serena Williams, Angela Basset, and Lupita Nyong’o .
Thank you for obeying God in your calling. Your videos always come at a helpful time in my life.
Oops the video cut off!
I dpnt know id you realize this tony but if listeners listen to the end you cut off. That did that on another video you uploaded recently. Apologies if you have a part 2 to this video. Maybe its youtube, because you always sign off with god bless
Yesss 👏🏾👏🏾 the accuracy is so on point.
Thanks Bro Tony for these great pointers on what a Man is looking for in a woman.
He wants attractiveness and youth. Oh and a woman who's easily manipulated, controlled and used along with the attractiveness and youth.
The video cut 🥺, please record part two 🙏🏾. Great video Tony 🙌🏾
I failed them all
FACTS!!!
Thank you so much for this video
Cardi B lol 😆 ya people don’t even want her as a wife let alone a baby mana
Kim Kardashian VS Serena Williams, I chose?
Serena Williams 🙌
@@tieonneyvonne7420 exactly
This is well said.
They want stay-at-women who also work and pay bills....
So very helpful..thank you
I realized that a male can turn a female into that insecure person based off how he treats her.
Your wisdom comes from God. God bless you!
Glad to find this channel and know there are people who think and feel the way I do.
Most women nag because they're put in a mother's role. The man-child's mama didn't give him a proper home education. Most women do not want to nag, but want a mature connection so she can shine hwe love on the relationship.
Thanks Tony for your wonderful advice.
Can you post the link to the book? I looked on Amazon and could not find the book or the Author to which I heard DB?
Anybody have the link for the book he mentioned?
DB Bedford is the author & it is on amazon :)
@@givingglamor Thank you
When you keep replying the text.. it becomes a way of relating
this is really good information. it is similar to what i thought.
i am a woman and this is how i think men are.
i read the book emotional intelligence a while ago.
The book emotional intelligence D B ? Can I find it on Amazon need the link Thanks
Anyone?
DB Bedford is the author & it is on amazon :)
Thanks I found it order Amazon
For me I don’t ask for a lot. Just be kind, have no kids, something going for yourself, and be attractive.
Tony can you talk about non married committed couples who refer to each other as partners?
Semantics
It's hard to find these men nowadays that can appreciate these women's. Most of them appreciate exactly the opposite type of women!
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I agree.
Tony your cut clean 👍
I always just thought it was me, & tried to give more to my relationship only to realize it's just 99% hard to gina a real man or a good man ........ I just got out of a 10 year relationship, questioning my self how can I be all this and be there for this man and soon as he gets his surgeries and I help him better his life he leaves me... Well it wasn't until I watched this video now I understand I just had a bad man who was still a boy and with all my schooling I knew better.. but once I put that 10 years of time in I didn't want to leave now I only wish I had sis a screening and not wastes so much of my time ...
I said after This rediculous man I'm only dating out of my race but I see now he was just a bad apple a really rotten one 2 say the lease ..
Thank you for making this video ...
I now know don't just date & give my heart to Amy man he has 2 be questioned first because I am a Great woman & which I will remain submissive and respectful ambitious etc .....
THANKS AGAIN !
Wait so what’s the name of the book guys ?
DB Bedford is the author & it is on amazon :)
What’s the difference between being quarrelsome and setting standards and boundaries? I feel like there’s often time some confusion there. Even for myself.
Quarrelsome means to argue, these people like to argue. Setting standards and boundaries does not involve arguments whatsoever.
attitude is the difference. Think tone and expressions.
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What is the name of the book regarding emotional intelligence, I don't see it in the description.....
Thank you.
Blessings to everyone
Question: I'm a tailor professionally. But I also make my own line of clothes which includes bathing suits. I model my clothes on Instagram. What are your thoughts about this as far as objectification? What would a "real man " feel about this?
That’s your job, a real man though he’s going to look deeper. Maybe the type of clothes matter and how much you feel comfortable showing as far as objectified images or body poses. First impressions matter.
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This was a great video thank you uncle tony 🫶🏾❤️
Thank you Tony!! We'll explained!! Kudos 👏
Not seeing the link for the book?
Where is the link for the book
Thank you
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@@MissTracy-Ann Hey Tracy-Ann
Great video! Lots of information on here thanks!
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Thank you!
What is a woman look for in man,they both need answers
Hi Tony 😊 please put the link for the emotional intelligence book
Thank you lord for leading me to this, thank you Mr Tony.
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