I Feel Lost
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- Опубліковано 9 чер 2024
- Sharing some of the struggles I've been experiencing over the past year❤️
I'm mostly good now, and some days are easier than others. We're both so grateful you guys are here with us, and we wouldn't change anything that has happened for the world❤️ We love you all!
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We’re Oskar🧔🏻 and Dan👱🏻♂️, and we believe that anyone regardless of who they are deserves to live their dreams! For the past nine years, we’ve continued pushing boundaries by traveling and living all across the world, from Japan and Australia to Mexico and Saudi Arabia. In 2022, we reached a huge milestone by visiting 100 countries and we’re now on a mission to keep sharing our journey and hopefully make the world a little more open, compassionate, and peaceful along the way❤️
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- Instagram: oskaranddan
- Music: share.epidemicsound.com/nqD7H
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Thank you for watching❤️
0:00 Why I wanted to share this
0:55 Hard to accept that I've been struggling
1:12 Backstory, 100 countries
2:04 Purpose
2:37 Drained
3:30 Knowing what to do every day
4:55 What do we do now?
6:15 The UA-cam question
6:55 Pushing us to travel again
7:29 Loneliness
8:31 Therapy, negative spiral
9:40 Self-confidence and self-esteem
10:15 Feeling like a failure even after success
10:50 Entrepreneurship
11:45 Focusing on other passions
12:06 Gratitude
12:57 Scary to share this...
13:55 You are not alone❤️
Thank you guys so much for being here❤ I went back and forth about posting this video a million times because I feared no one would understand what I'm feeling. However, I'm glad it's up, and I hope this video helps anyone who is/has been experiencing something similar❤ I'm much better now, but it's a process that will take time. We hope you guys are enjoying 2024 so far and we can't wait to share more of this new phase of our lives this year❤
Such a wonderful video and honest insight into what so many of us experience, no matter the direction someone is taking but especially in creative fields. We definitely understand a lot of what you were saying - especially the loneliness and although we love what we’re doing and each others company, we crave the social connection.
Thanks, Oskar! ❤
Have you ever thought of getting a 9-5 job? It sounds like you are the type who thrives on having constant tasks to do and need some type of schedule to be happy. Since you no longer wants to travel frequently, I think it would be a healthier for you to concentrate on something whether it be actually doing a 9-5 job for the moment which I think will help you mentally, or start a new project that you are passionate about. Maybe going back to school would be a good thing for you while Dan does his airline reviews. Check out Tyler and Todd. They started off travel in camper vans and then ended up getting a plot of land in Canada and started to build their channel around construction of their dream home from scratch. If you thrive better at staying put and make steady friends, then perhaps you want to get a place and do home remodeling (if you are talented that way)? People's lives constantly change and there is nothing wrong with changing the direction of Oskar and Dan channel.
@@kevinhsu8184a good idea
We have been travelling for almost 4 years full time now. Unlike you, we are “slow travellers”, which I think makes it much easier. We usually like to stay in one place for at least a few months and do our exploring. This allows us time to relax and make multiple videos about the location we’re in. We do miss our friends and family, and we try to get back home as often as we can, but it can feel lonely at times. Hope you can find a new purpose now that you are slowing things down :)
Thank you for sharing and for being so transparent with us!! 🫰🧡🫰🧡🫰🧡
Thank you so much, Oskar, for sharing your honest feelings in that beautiful video. I have a suggestion for you: why not write a book about your challenge of visiting 100 countries before the age of 25? You have a unique story to tell and writing a book could be a wonderful new purpose for you.
Might already have something in the works...❤️
*Oskar, you are not alone either!*
Take the time you need and the love from your support system to find new joy in new directions.
(And, please keep in mind that the record of your past travels is still providing joy to people who find you two on UA-cam.)
What you have done is important...what you will do is important!
*May you find the peace you are seeking.*
Oskar, I am much older than you, but back when I was your age I had a lot of those feelings. I like what you said in the end of the video, the part about just being planted. More doors will open for you throughout your life journey. You are super talented. Enjoy that and know you are loved and appreciated ❤️✈️
Beautifully expressed!
I was just about to post the exact same thing. I think we have all gone through this at this very age. It honestly sucks when you go through it, to be sure. But it does get better! And I think we all need to take a minute in our lives and regroup and look at where we are and where we're going--literally and metaphorically. I think you're doing great, Oskar. Hearing what you've had to say I can tell you're going to figure it out. And I'm so grateful that you've had the courage to post this--it's a big help to everyone else going through this. And we all are--or will be--at some point!
Right now I just want to reach out and give you a virtual hug. Don't sell yourself short: you ARE valued as an important person in the lives of many people. You are a great individual. We are all plagued with self-doubt (heck, I'm 70 years old now and I still have to deal with it). Take all the time you need to work through this. Focus more on your music. Be assured we'll all be here for you when you need us.
Such a lovely and great comment ❤
Thank you, this warmed my heart❤️
I wish I could give you a big hug. ❤️❤️ I think what you’re going through is more common than you know. I went through something very similar at your age. Like you, I studied abroad and then lived in NYC working an amazing job. I’m now a stay home mom which was never on my radar. Big changes are scary and hard but let your heart guide you to what is right for you. I love your travels w Dan but would also love hearing your piano music. Your viewers and fans will be here when you’re ready. Lots of love. 💕
I'm glad you posted this. Sharing your lost experience will help a lot of us. Thank you. I'm glad you have returned to your music. I find I get way more lost when i stop doing my music.
Wow! What a wonderfully honest, authentic and worthwhile video! I saw the thumbnail a day or so ago, and was worried, but thenI incorrectly assumed that the title was clickbait, and you were going to say that you’d taken a wrong turn while travelling from one location to another. Now that I’ve watched it, I’m very moved by your words. I’m also mightily relieved that you and Dan are still together. Oskar, you are a terrific person, and I’m sure we viewers would be more than happy to watch whatever content you create. I will pray that you (and Dan) discover what your next ‘move’ is. Thank you both for all you’ve given us. You are loved! I’m in my 60’s, and am very grateful for all you both have taught me. Whatever you do in the future, I, and so very many others, will be.cheering you on.
Oskar, I want to give you a hug for being so open and candid about what’s been going on. I am grateful that you feel comfortable with sharing what you’ve been feeling. I retired at the end of 2022 and 2023 was my time to travel. I did a lot in spite of nearly having a full blown heart attack in the summer. This year I’ve already done 3 trips but I’ve been faced with what you described, lack of purpose, I’ve been trying to enrich my mind now that I have the maturity to understand more then when I was in college. Take care of yourself and feel all of those feelings, good or bad. Regards to Dan👍🙏😎
Appreciate this insight into what the past year has been. Thank you for your openness and honesty. As you know, 2023 has been a pivot year for us too and a big part of that has been figuring out: who are we outside of travel? Like you and Dan, travel became such a huge part of our identities and how we related to each other, that I think along the way we lost a certain kind of connection. It’s hard to explain to those who haven’t experienced it, but I 100% felt everything you shared in this video. Sending love as always! ❤
Love right back❤️ You guys are amazing regardless of what you do!
appreciate ur vulnerability! you and Dan are so inspiring, and yes i do hv these feelings of being lost/purposeless too once a while, u r not alone! love u two ❤❤❤❤ we dont give up, we keep searching for what to do next in life!!!!
Hi Oskar! You and Dan have gained so much experience through your travels together. You can leverage that experience to create new content.
For example:
5 minute micro learning videos on the top 5 favorite experiences in each country. You make one for each country you want to talk about and that right there are 20-30 videos of content.
Another suggestion is to have someone interview you and Dan about each country you visited. It could be a series of videos on "reflections from our 100 country travels"
There is so much value you've already created. Leverage it to build someone new, like connection videos.
I'm sending you both a big virtual hug. Thanks for teaching me so much about the world ❤
The kind of bravery, vulnerability, and openness you've displayed in this video I believe shows you are willing to face your challenges because you've clearly defined them. I think your introspection shows you are far closer than you realize to your next breakthrough.
I really appreciate this video thank you, Five years ago I retired at the age of 51 after a pretty successful career. I’m in a wonderful relationship, I’m financially secure but I totally lack purpose now after a life time of being driven. Meditation, yoga and volunteering have been my life savers. Thank you again for your vulnerable sharing. Holding you in the light x
You are a brilliant and talented guy- it comes through in all of your videos. Transition moments in life are difficult but you will come through it bit by bit. You’ve got this!
It’s raw and brutal. Love it, but also ….. there are times where life seems endless and tiring. But by sharing your fears and doubts … I cannot thank you enough!
I’m with you. I was a nurse for 30 years and was fired for caring too much about the patients. In a way I was relieved because seeing the healthcare system decline I just could not be that kind of nurse. It is very easy to feel you have no purpose. I too work with my therapist to work on ways to fulfill that void. Thanks for sharing this and all your videos as they help me.
Thanks for sharing Oskar ! 💖
All the very best for 2024 !!!💖
Best quote ever! Take care and thank you for your honesty.
Thank you for sharing, Oskar. Huge fan of your videos which often help me get through rough times which are very similar to yours. I am over twice your age and feeling pretty lost as well. I've always admired you and Dan for being so driven chasing your travel dreams. I truly hope you can start feeling less lost and continue to live your dreams.
Thank you so much for sharing!🙏 I feel like all of us sometimes feel lost and it is so important to talk about it.
For what it’s worth, I’ve been watching your videos for a long time and it’s always been a joy hearing you tell interesting facts about a new country or joking around with Dan.🤗I’m sure you will eventually find a new sense of purpose, even if it will be from something completely unexpected.😊 Thank you for being so open and vulnerable!💗
Thank you. You are amazing. We have gratitude for you sharing your lives. We are thankful for the big adventures as well as the small moments. The thrills and the insecurities are both powerful and meaningful. This video may be the most important one that you ever make. I hope millions see it and listen to the message. We need to relish and be thankful for our lives. We are blessed by whatever higher power or energy in which we may find meaning. While there are low moments, of course, there will be another time filled with brightness, joy and incredible energy that follows. Take care of yourself. You are loved and we are grateful to know you.
I hear you and I see you! I’m gay, loved geography and the cultures that came with it. Also travelled into a deep dark hole around some of the issues you discuss. I questioned my self worth and, at times, felt like an imposter. Difference - I am 60. I wish I had the foresight and introspection you are sharing at your age! I didn't have the tools or insights into myself to do so at your age - it took awhile to get there! Stick with therapy, build your tool kit, make social connections where you live, dive into your music, communicate with your husband, and stick to it one day at a time. It gets better! Thaks for bringing joy into my life through your adventures. Come to Philadelphia - you’ll love it here!
Thanks for the like! My career has been in the heritage industry -- the museums and historic sites I've led support my and feed my love of travel. History and travel has been the salve during dark times. Again, if you find yourself in the Philadelphia area, it would be a pleasure to show you around! :) Hang in there. There is a light at the end of the tunnel -- it may be a bit distant and hazy, but IT IS there!
Hello Oskar this is a message from someone several decades older than you. The most ridiculous of all our emotions is worry. Life is binary. Most of the things which causes us to worry are beyond our control. Let the problems which we can not affect dissolve and let them go. Then only focus on the issues which you can affect. Next learn to understand the importance of being able to shit one's focus. If you can effect even a slight change in one's perspective you will be very pleasantly be surprised. When you do this you will discover the joy of impermanence; nothing lasts. All we have is now. When one really can only live in the now the shackles of the past and the future will disappear and one will discover genuine deep happiness. Once discovered this happiness can be sustained by being kind to those we encounter.
This is a very wise comment. I’m not sure one can learn this other than the hard way though, through internal realisation and making mistakes. Most people don’t even learn from that. But I wish this whole way of thinking and viewing the world was more intuitive so people could learn this without doing it the hard way.
It’s just “the way”. We get it when we are supposed to.
Oskar, I acknowledge your vulnerability and self love within this video. Posting about self growth and self realization is powerful and screams confidence within itself. I enjoyed the whole video and I jusst wanna say im proud of you and DAn for taking on the courage of discovering yourselves more and finding more purpose within your lives. Your feelings are beyond valid and I hope you both keep on growing and thriving.
Thank you for your honesty and openness. You are amazing.
Loved this video! You are such a kind and getle soul! SENDING YOU MUCH LOVE!
Thanks for being so open and vulnerable! This is your experience and it's valid. Love seeing more videos like this. We all struggle in life in different ways but the more we open up about it I think we then realize we're not alone as much as we think and alot of connection comes through that ability to be open and share.
Very brave of you to share and be so open! Thanks for doing so! Wishing you all the best with your new projects this coming year ❤
Thank you for sharing Oskar. It's only human to go through feelings like you are experiencing and it helps to put it out into the world. I'm grateful for this and it opens endless opportunities for your future by being honest with your Audience. Sending lots of love your way and take care.
Thank you for sharing, this is great to hear because it's easy to forget that "online people" are living a whole life outside of the snapshot we see as the viewer.
Wow. You don’t know how much I am able to relate to this. The big difference is I am 53 and you’re still so young. You see, I worked for a famous mouse in Orlando for 29 years. In 2020 my position was eliminated due to the pandemic. Working at the World was all that I knew. It’s 2024 and I’m still working to find myself. I started a travel UA-cam during the pandemic and it has been my “focus”. Luckily, my hubby and I are now following our dream and we are about to move to Bali permanently. I’m nervous and excited for this new chapter. Anyway, all the best to you and Dan. Here’s to the future…AND YOU! Come visit!
Thank you SO much, Oskar, for sharing this. So much of what you said actually put feelings that I have felt into the words I’ve never quite been able to find. This was such a moving, touching, and relatable video. It
Wishing you all the luck as you continue to find yourself and your passions! I can’t wait to see where this year takes you both! We are here for you too!
Hi Oskar, thank you so much for all the videos on this channel ❤️ I found you recently and have been binge watching your videos. Just wanted to say you and your work are so appreciated. I feel so enriched watching your travels around the world.
Thanks for sharing Oskar!!! I’m sure there will be more ideas and doors waiting for you and Dan to be open! Salute!
Thank you for sharing your life with your channel! You are amazing! We all go through these times in our lives. You got this!❤
wow Oskar, you brought me to tears feeling your truth and conviction in your words. your soul is so amazingly beautiful and gleaming bright. my only truth for you is to feel the love around you at all times through the countless souls you encounter on your journeys and the bond with your soulmate Dan. love is the most powerful frequency you will find peace in. heal your chakras that may be out of alignment.
Traveled 15 years for work. Life changing experiences happened every week. Your eyes, brains and emotions can't take in everything offered on each new adventure. There are sacrifices and compromises that come along the way. At first, seemingly insignificant and a low price to pay 'for all this'. Then the personal costs increase, the enthusiasm drains. The body and mind fail to rebound as quickly as they once did. The things that recharge you no longer work. Eventually spending more time being still, slowing down and finding a place to sooth the mind, soul and body becomes a stronger inner motivator. Thank you for voicing your journey so openly. You are well equipped to make the better choices for yourself. For me, home is living at 9,000' on a mountain, in the middle of a desert in a forest. Occasionally leaving by car to explore and spend time in other natural setting. The breathe of life in these places are life-giving and healing. Life simplified has been the right choice for me. You WILL find your place.
Thanks for sharing how you’re feeling. It’s truly helpful to know others I respect and look up to have similar thoughts, challenges, and feelings. Please share more when it makes sense and as you make progress. Sending lots of strength and positivity your way!
Thank you Oskar talking about mental health is so important. Especially depression. So thank you for your honesty. Love an prayers.
Thank you for sharing lifevon the road with you two!!😊😊 Always be safe traveling.😊
I continue to hope that the both of you two are safely traveling as you two become more mature and exposed to different cultures, people and great food! Plus, you two are with each other and you two likely love each other.😊 Well, always be safe travel with each other.😊😊
Oskar (and Dan!) thank you for being vulnerable and honest about your experience. I feel like many travel-related channels only focus on the glamorous and rewarding parts of traveling the world, but don't acknowledge the toll it can take on you physically and mentally. I am like you in that I like to have everything planned out in life, but as I get older I'm constantly reminded that so much of life is unpredictable, and sometimes that can be a good thing! I have no doubt you will find your next path or calling. You should feel proud of where you are now - much love to you both!
It takes a huge amount of self awareness to understand your feelings, especially at your age. It takes even more courage to post it online. Kudos.
Oskar thank you for sharing. I have been in awe of your travel and documentation that travel with Dan. I may have somehow sensed something was up through the past year. Remember you have each other and don’t let anything change that.
I thought this was touching and heartfelt and vulnerable in all the best ways and I also think it gives a fascinating insight into the pressures attendant on being a content creator. It’s very easy to see the fun and the glamour and forget about the relentless need to produce content, regardless of your inclinations at the time. Thank you for highlighting this unspoken but undeniable aspect of being on UA-cam.
What a nice guy you are! Watched your travels together for years. Love every vlog. Good on you for sharing this side of your life. Stay strong, keep sharing and you’ll be fine. ❤
Brave of you to share! You guys are so young and have accomplished so much. But your worth does not come from what you've done, but from who you are. A break to recharge and reprioritize is so valuable. I'd love to hear some of your compositions as backing tracks to your (or someone else's) videos one day.
Thanks for sharing. I know I'm not alone when I say that it's refreshing in a weird way to watch someone like you Oscar, open up about this kind of thing - especially as for many of us you guys are synonymous with a couple of guys out there having a blast 24/7 and "living their best life" having amazing experiences that so many of your viewers would love to do. And many of us are also admittedly curious about what life for you guys is really like BTS (as it were) as you do what you do. Being vulnerable like this helps people like me realise that when we feel lost or low sometimes it's not necessarily because we're not out there travelling the world and seeing all there is to see... we might feel that way even if we were/had done all that. In other words it not about wishing you had a "better" or more exciting life, its about finding things in the life you DO have that bring you joy and purpose.
Love you guys !! ❤ Love all that you do !! ❤ You talked awhile back of finding a home-base somewhere in the world that would give you access to good flights everywhere (though you fell in love with New Zealand it was too far off the beaten path to fit that need). I cannot imagine how hard it would be to live out of a suitcase for most of the year. You 2 deserve a home to call your own and to be surrounded by friends and family. Make that your priority this year and find happiness. Know that you are loved. ❤❤
Thank you for being so real. We all have ups and downs. Hope you are happy and well
Thank you so much for posting this, Oskar. I adore you guys and so appreciate your honestly. Yes please share more of these types of videos. I look forward to seeing how you evolve ❤❤❤
Oskar, thank you so much for posting this. I can't say how much I appreciate and resonate with what you had to say. I'm sure it was very difficult for you to be this vulnerable, but know that it's much appreciated and you are helping so many other people through sharing your honest experience. Much love.
Thank you so much Mike❤️
Hi Oskar. Thank you for sharing your feelings. From the bottom of my ♥️ wishing you strength and sending you love. Remember 🇨🇦 loves you!
What a beautiful guy you are, in every sense. Takes real courage to be open and honest and is a real strength. I'm sure this phase of your life will allow you to recharge and find unexpected and fulfilling purpose after your huge achievement over the past few years. Have enjoyed watching your videos and thank you for sharing. Be happy x
Omg I just wanted to say thank you ! Thank you for being so open and honest, when we watch your videos I feel like we are friends,I feel like we are lucky enough to be part of your life and with life sometimes we have our ups and downs. Just know that we will always be here and have your back ! Sending a huge hug from Australia xx
I’ve been in a similar period of transition and it is comforting to know you’re not alone in feeling that way. This has completely spoken to my heart and I feel very grateful to you for putting this video out. 🙂
Oskar! Thank you so much for sharing your feelings on this platform. That takes so much introspection and bravery. Your feeling of being lost as a world traveler was heart wrenching. As a musician, I am highly encouraging you to keep up with playing and composing! Keep up the gratitude work and don't forget to take in the non documented magical moments whilst traveling and make time for magical musical moments daily. Best wishes to you and Dan.
I always come back to watching you guys because you are genuine, kind humans. Thank you for your honesty! For what it's worth, I'm a nurse and while in nursing school (and in practice) we focus a lot on the the psychosocial stages of life and development put forward by Erik Erikson. For example, I'm married with two kids so I'm in "Middle Age" where the "task" is Generativity vs Stagnation. The virtue is "care" and the main focus is contributing to society and being part of a family. So, this means raising kids who hopefully go on to be good humans and care for the next generation of life and planet! You are in Early Adulthood which ranges from about 19-29. The "task" is Intimacy vs Isolation, the virtue is love. The goal is establishing intimacy and relationships with others. I have a 16 year old son so according to Erikson he is in the "identity vs confusion" stage (adolescence). Sometimes my husband worries about things regarding our kids but I'm always able to keep perspective because of studying Erikson's stages and it grounds me. I'm like, no - they're right where they're supposed to be and this is completely normal development! There's a lot more to Erikson than I'm hitting on here. It's worth a deep dive if you're interested (he was a contemporary of Freud but more commonly embraced today). I say all this because you are in a transition and maybe you are starting to think about the next stage of life a little.
Thank you for this🙏🏼
Thank you for sharing this. Keep up being open and honest the way you've been so far. Good luck 👍
Oscar, Dan.. First, thank you for making us a part of your private feelings and thoughts! I fell like I belong now and that you trust me. Second.. You know what I think when I watch your channels? Here are two awesome men, who are smart, free, resilient, have the right mindset to deal with the entire world and have each other to call mine. Why am I saying it? Cause you are an inspiration that you can do what you want, you can be with who you want. This is a great quality to have and, hopefully, a tiny bit of motivation for you not to question what you are doing. Really love your outlook on life. It's not always roses, so take it and own it whatever it brings. Love you!!!
Omg, this is the same way I feel now😞. After my daughter left for college and my breakup with my traveling partner/ boyfriend, I feel kind of lonely and without purpose. I've been thinking about therapy, too. Not having family and many friends around and always on the go plays a big part.
Thank you for sharing this video, and believe me, a lot of us are going through this 😩
Oskar, you are definitely not alone. I can relate so much to what you said. I live in a transient city which makes me want to change locations, travel the world, go on weekend city breaks etc. And the point on loneliness really resonates post-Covid.
And also taking decisions that are so difficult but in your gut feel right is so brave.
You aren’t alone, you guys are great, and you do you! ❤
I commend you, Oskar, for sharing your internal feelings since after your travel challenge. It seems like you're at a crossroads. I think people would LOVE to watch videos about you and Dan. Maybe consider turning the channel into more of a travel/personal vlog. You have the ability since you've been doing it on your travels and I'm sure people would love to see your day-to-day activities, your journey back to the piano, what happens when you and Dan aren't traveling. Well, it's something to consider. I'm sure there would be lots of interest and it might help bring your purpose back, re-energize the channel, and still allow you to travel part time. I'm sure whatever you decide, it'll be fantastic! Stay well, know you are loved. All the very best!
This is just what my heart needed! I can’t thank you enough Oskar!
Oskar, thank you so much sharing a part of you, for being so vulnerable and open. You rock! ❤
Love seeing you mature and grow up over time (he said fatherly😂)
Great to hear you so open about your feelings, especially purpose wise, and the help you sought!
I've had 2 years of psychodynamic counselling to help me proces some trauma's and coping mechanisms , and has helped me to find some answers and peace with that.
Keep sharing, he who shares cares !
I love all your content, I also empathize with you and what you are going through. Please do what you need to do to make yourself happy!
What a wonderful and articulate video Oskar - thank you for sharing. "Planted not buried" - great perspective.
Hey Oskar, thanks for sharing. Your vulnerability, honesty and openness about this subject is genuine and I can relate. I think many of your followers can. Its refreshing to see content like this and to get to know you a bit better.. Keep up the great work. I thoroughly enjoy what you and Dan do, and I look forward to hearing more from you guys about all things travel, Airlines, music AND your life’s journey, including both the ups and downs. Cheers from Dan in NZ
Thank you so much, Oskar, for sharing your feelings! We have always enjoyed both your videos and wish we could be there to give you a hug. Sending you and Dan much love! ❤
Thank you guys❤️
Thank you so much for sharing. I also have a business and I balance therapy with a mindset/business coach and I find it really helps me focus on the deep things in both a psychological way and in a positive and productive way. It’s hard to find the right match but so worth it when you do.
I know you are feeling down however you are not alone!!! Being this transparent is hard. I appreciate your thoughts and how you are going thru the steps to find out where you are in this new role of being … at home. When you switch gears from on the road, travel travel travel, go go go to suddenly being back home, it can be jarring. Like you have empty hands - “ what now?” It is ok. It is a transition and growth for you both. Take a deep breath, meditate, talk about how you feel and find that calm in a stable and safe environment!!!
Thank you for posting this video. I cried a little. I can totally relate to what you're going through. I've had times where I've felt useless and like a failure. I retired five years ago, and I felt like "now what?". I'm also a recent widow. After 30 years of marriage, my husband passed away. It was hell on earth for the first year. It's only recently that I feel like I can see some light again. I'm also introverted, and not at all a procrastinator, so I can relate to that. I've found purpose in a new part time job and new side hustle. What you said about gratitude is so true! I'm so grateful and thankful for everything I have. I know I have more than many people do. I try to keep a perspective, and some balance. Love your and Dan's videos.
Oskar, I really resonate with your post. Early in my career, I had a job for which I traveled almost 200,000 miles a year and lived in Los Angeles, New York, and London. I too felt lost when I stopped traveling. I moved into a second career, clinical psychology, and I am grateful to say it has been very rewarding. Just want you to know that I have a deep empathic connection for you as you have completed a major goal so early in your life and are experiencing a sense of loss. You and Dan are interesting, vibrant, young men, and I know that your career will be filled with other passions in due course.
Hi Oskar, thank you for sharing this with us. Sending you all my best wishes
Oh Oscar! You were so incredibly brave to share these thoughts with us. Thank you for taking us into your confidence in such an intimate way. The two of you seem to have such a deep and close bond and, I have no doubt that you two will work out a path that is fulfilling and profitable for you both. You mentioned gratitude. That is, in my humble opinion, the most insightful of all of life's philosophies. In adapting such an attitude one first acknowledges that one is blessed, but can then appreciate the hardships of others, and your travels have certainly exposed you to that. When I turned 60 I dedicated the year ahead as a year of gratitude. It had such a positive effect on my life, that I decided to dedicate the rest of the time that I have left, to gratitude for all of life's abundant blessings. Be strong. Lean on your soulmate. Cherish the obvious bond of love between the two of you and I have NO DOUBT that, in time, you will indeed find the mission that we are all destined for in this wonderful life. Much love from Cape Town in South Africa to you both. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing. What you're describing is being human. People change, our goals in life change. Our interests change. It's normal. In the course of my life, I've been involved in so many ventures. I was a gardener, a dancer, a traveler, a mom. All these things take up different parts of my life over the years. One chapter ends and another begins. You can't stay the same all the time. It's normal to say I don't know what's next at the moment. I'm happy you're back to composing; I love your music. Long winded way for me to say growing and changing are part of life. 🥰
You are such a beautiful and talented person. I sincerely hope you find all the answers you’re looking for. Sending you love.
In a similar time in my life, its important to be vulnerable especially with those who love and support you. You can learn a lot if you let your self be open and honest and reflect on your past. So you can find a new sense of purpose or the next steps in our life. Such a nice feeling to know we are all going through this in some form or another. Much love for you and Dan hugs from NY.
Bless you Oskar, you've got this. Hats off to you for opening up like this, so many people stick there heads in the sand, but you have recognised the issues and are facing them. Both you and Dan are an amazing couple and complete team. You need to start self praising yourself you've both achieved so much. Be very proud of yourselves. Lots of love. Be strong.
Thank you for sharing! I know it must have took a lot of courage to really be honest and open. You are not alone! Follow what your heart desires… we only live once… live it through your own eyes.
Hi Oskar thanks for sharing this video! I think that living your lives so publicly in the way you both do can wear you down eventually. I think we all need some grounding somewhere to call home, we both love travelling & do so as often as we can, but i must say i do not personally envy your lifestyles. I do hope that you manage to find a way to balance your work & home life x
Thank you so much for opening up about this - it totally resonates with me (basically a carbon copy of your situation re. passion for geography / languages / travel / adapting that into your lifestyle / approaching 30 and feeling stagnant), and I can see from the comments section below that we're definitely not alone in feeling things like this! 🙏🙏
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Sincerely loved this video cause it's certainly relatable to many people around the world, that either has gone through this in the past, in the present or will in the future (perhaps) 🙌🏼 Well done for overcoming the obstacle of posting this video too!!! I believe it is for the best of spreading a positive and very purposeful message that it is of value for the viewers ✨🫶 ..who knows...may actually be part of the next puropuse, thanks to the big platform you guys have, since many don't have the same number of people to share what they're going through with ☮
Oskar, thank you for giving voice to the feelings that many of us share in these unusual and trying times. It’s important for all of us to remember we’re not alone, which can be very difficult when we’re all stuck behind screens. It’s ironic to think that even people who travel full time can have those same feelings. You’re not alone either. Keep talking and we’ll keep listening and sharing back. 👍🏽🙂
I think you, Oskar have the insight and personal awareness to grow into a wonderful therapist. Your presence alone on this channel is proof that with some schooling behind you, you’d have all it takes to help others. You’re already a success in my book!! 🤗 big hugs! Tom
I watched it and I only want to say you are a sweat, good person. Thank you. Waiting for more ❤
Oskar, you are an amazingly talented man. Thank you for being vulnerable. It shows that you are a caring and real human. I am thankful for the work that you guys have done. It's easy to be lost, especially in the busyness of your life. I'll always be grateful to you guys for my journey in Morocco. I'm happy that you realized your feelings and that you have dealt with them. Thank you for sharing. I really treasure you both❤!
You are an incredible person Oskar, both you and Dan are. Loved the openness of the chat in this video. Everything you are feeling is normal and valid and a part of life every now and then (unfortunately lol). You will come out on the other side of this knowing yourselves so much better. Wishing you both all the best♥♥
Beautiful video and message. It was very courageous of you to share. We all feel this way at different times in our lives.
Thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts, Oskar! I am sure you will (re-)find your purpose soon.
Oskar we are all with you and we appreciate you sharing and I do hope it helps you 💖
You are very inspiring to those of us suffering in silence but seaming like you have a great life outwardly 😢😢💜🙏🇦🇺Thank you
Oskar, thank you for sharing this beautiful video. Being real and vulnerable is refreshing on UA-cam. I hope you continue to work toward identifying your purpose but sharing this video seems like iit might just be part of that purpose❤.
First, of thanks for sharing, I think it's nice to see another side. It might surprise you but many people share similar experiences. The older you get friends move away and life changes. It's part of life. Talking about it is a great first step. Glad you're working on yourself and its ok to broaden your horizons and explore passions!
It is an amazing video of honesty. Many people have been at this point, especially after travelling. It is changing us and we need to find ourselves again.
Speaking as a retired psychiatrist with an interest in psychotherapy: therapy isn't like taking a pill. You need to define with your therapist a problem that you want to work on together. But what you are describing is a feeling of general discouragement. Gratitude and meditation won't help much, if at all. It sounds as though the main problem is that you say "We don't have a choice". You always have a choice. You don't have to go on YouTubing - but do it if you really want to. You could live in a house or flat for part of the year and travel the rest of the time. You are both educated, articulate and multilingual - very employable. You have each other. The most important thing is to decide what you want to do.
Thank you, Dear Oskar LOVE the video and your honesty. You are very articulate in your outlook and inner self. All my BEST to you on your continuing journey. john xoxoxo
Oh Oskar. Sorry to hear that you are struggling. Please know that you are in my thoughts. You are a wonderful, caring young man and have so much to offer . Your videos have put a smile on my face and you especially have kept me watching and wanting more. Please take care of yourself and remember how talented you are.
I commend your heartfelt honesty and am very glad you decided to share your feelings. Oskar, you brave, while being vulnerable. Please keep being you. A nice, funny, talented man who by sharing has made me reflect as well. I like where you have been planted, I look forward to watching you thrive.