7 Things Teens Wish They Could Say to Their Parents

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  • @flextalk6536
    @flextalk6536  6 років тому +24

    Check out the companion article for this video at FLEXTALK.org here: www.flextalk.org/7-things-teens-wish-they-could-say-to-their-parents-youth/

  • @fxrnweh-hd5dq
    @fxrnweh-hd5dq 4 роки тому +691

    We're expected to act like adults, but are treated like kids.

    • @njay6494
      @njay6494 3 роки тому +48

      THIS IS LITERALLY, EXACTLY, AND ON POINT ON HOW I FEEL.

    • @makayla2816
      @makayla2816 3 роки тому +17

      YES!!!! exactly how I feel.

    • @beep1070
      @beep1070 3 роки тому +7

      This is so true thoughh

    • @localhappypotato6499
      @localhappypotato6499 3 роки тому +7

      Pretty much sums it all up

    • @YasirUddin07
      @YasirUddin07 3 роки тому +1

      Yas!!

  • @GLORIOUSCHONK
    @GLORIOUSCHONK 6 років тому +634

    You want to say "Mom, I think you're wrong." but fear stabs you in the heart. You'll get grounded if you say that.
    I've been told by my parents that my voice can change the world. But they tell me "Shut up, I'm the adult. I'm big, you're small and there's nothing you can do about it."
    I'd say that's a double standard.

    • @flextalk6536
      @flextalk6536  6 років тому +9

      Check out this topic on FLEXTALK about parents apologizing:
      www.flextalk.org/teaching-kids-how-to-say-sorry/

    • @lumi2431
      @lumi2431 4 роки тому +7

      Nice Matilda reference

    • @mushr0omz347
      @mushr0omz347 4 роки тому +4

      여자예쁘다 or irl reference from a parent or guardian

    • @agoldfish4382
      @agoldfish4382 3 роки тому +3

      They fr say it in those exact words

    • @epicsandvich014
      @epicsandvich014 3 роки тому

      God damn that hits home. You are 100% right

  • @cobaltbluevision
    @cobaltbluevision 8 років тому +563

    Admit when they're wrong is a good one. Even when they know they're DEAD wrong theyre just too proud to admit it or feel like theyre always right

    • @togoodtobeat0_074
      @togoodtobeat0_074 6 років тому +7

      Cobalbluevision this is how I feel

    • @flextalk6536
      @flextalk6536  6 років тому +4

      Check out this topic on FLEXTALK about parents apologizing:
      www.flextalk.org/teaching-kids-how-to-say-sorry/

    • @matthewcooper4248
      @matthewcooper4248 5 років тому +8

      Exactly. And then if we say something they go on a tirade.

    • @darkfuhart9626
      @darkfuhart9626 4 роки тому +1

      Ikr so relatable

    • @unorig1nal656
      @unorig1nal656 4 роки тому +9

      Yes one day I was fighting with my mom and she was just quiet because I said something and I knew in her head she knew she was wrong but she wouldn't admit it because apparantly the parent always has to be right.🙄 and my parents always make fun of my generation saying that we dont admit to our mistakes or when we are wrong yet she does the same thing.

  • @sequoiadawn253
    @sequoiadawn253 7 років тому +502

    Another thing is when they won't let u grow up. They won't let u have social media or go anywhere alone for some teens. She also doesn't let me have an opinion on things like my hair out fit etc.

    • @candybun6950
      @candybun6950 5 років тому +33

      I cant go out with my friends unless she is right there behind us. My friends are having so much fun and im home, alone with no one

    • @unorig1nal656
      @unorig1nal656 4 роки тому +36

      Ugh social media. Like I know you're trying to protect me but let me live a little and learn how to use it properly. Geez and also STOP READING MY MESSAGES like, can I have a social life too without you knowing everything????

    • @JBforJSEN
      @JBforJSEN 4 роки тому +15

      I get that sometimes there scared for me, but at times I only feel like there more controlling.

    • @00RaveRat
      @00RaveRat 4 роки тому +5

      @Sadeem Alotaibi I’m sorry about this my mom does the same thing you’ll get through this

    • @jakegames2736
      @jakegames2736 3 роки тому +7

      Me I want my hair to grow a bit long and my mom always wants to get me a haircut and dose

  • @artnsol700
    @artnsol700 6 років тому +360

    These teens make good points. But the young man at the very end really hits it on the head. "Understand that we aren't adults yet, and that they aren't kids anymore. Be relatable. Have relation and be intentional." I wish more teens carried this mindset and wisdom. (Coming from someone who is no longer a kid, and will one day be a parent)

  • @j_isnt_available
    @j_isnt_available 4 роки тому +195

    Another thing is "no" I really wish that I could just say no to them sometimes without having to explain why

    • @lucasceleste4743
      @lucasceleste4743 4 роки тому +24

      Yeah, also the other way around. We deserve an explanation sometimes. Never get it

    • @send_help560
      @send_help560 3 роки тому +4

      so tru, most of the times i just say yes becaz i cant/ dont want to tell them y not

    • @walqqr1
      @walqqr1 2 роки тому

      @@lucasceleste4743 i agree, but then if your parents always explain the no, you'll also have to explain it. It should go both ways.

  • @hunydew
    @hunydew 5 років тому +168

    I'm not you so dont expect me to handle my problems the way you do.

  • @paytonk2910
    @paytonk2910 5 років тому +172

    No, I'm actually NOT just being dramatic... I'm actually struggling. I actually need you. I'm actually suicidal. Please don't brush this off...

    • @christin9481
      @christin9481 4 роки тому +5

      * confused Pikachu face *

    • @christin9481
      @christin9481 4 роки тому +8

      No seriously ur right dude

    • @kimtaehyung7074
      @kimtaehyung7074 4 роки тому +10

      Same. Only people at school know about me being suicidal, and some about my depression.

    • @kimtaehyung7074
      @kimtaehyung7074 4 роки тому +6

      Sadeem Alotaibi That's sad. But the thing is no one in my family knows. Only those few people people at school, and some people I tell online, like right now.

    • @vitalityfox
      @vitalityfox 4 роки тому +15

      I've suffered from depression from quite some time (I'm 22) My relationship with my parents has been me ignoring them 90% of the time and keeping to myself because they never fucking listen to me. Something as simple as a pizza that is the best in town every time I tell them to get that one they just say no and get the shitty one every goddamn time, then they finally get that one and are all like "oh this is the best pizza ever why didn't we ever get this one" and then I looked at them like I wanted to tear their fucking head off cause they never listen. Then there's depression nobody listens and nobody fucking cares. I have to keep my feelings to myself because of the state I'm in we have baker act laws that has pretty much prevented me from expressing myself or they'll just call the police and take me away. I fucking hate Florida. anytime I get into a shouting match which is probably twice a month on the off chance that I do interact with them they want to call the police on me because I'm yelling. My father never fucking taught me how to do anything but luckily the internet exists and I have a drive to want to know how to do things instead of being completely fucking useless when I'm 30 like my father is. My profile name is Dad because I am my own dad. If not for enough experiences and self awareness I'd be just as brain dead as all the other people my age. When election ends and everything opens back up and I can finally go to the cocksucking dmv I'm getting my ass up out of here.

  • @kathysu3213
    @kathysu3213 5 років тому +113

    I wish my parents would stop saying that it’s bad to cry or show emotions. It’s not bad it’s healthy to cry, being told that my whole life has made me rely on my friends more than my own family. And to the point where I can’t open up to them with out breaking down and getting yelled at

    • @00RaveRat
      @00RaveRat 4 роки тому +15

      Same. It’s hard to show emotion when your taught to show no weakness but u fight this your gonna make it

    • @tuszajnojneeg0052
      @tuszajnojneeg0052 4 роки тому +9

      You are right. There's nothing wrong with showing emotions and expressing them in a healthy manner.

    • @iris9464
      @iris9464 3 роки тому +4

      I can’t even rely on my friends.No one cares about me.

    • @Julia-fg2nm
      @Julia-fg2nm Рік тому

      I'm sorry your feelings were downplayed, I think the ability to cry is not a sign of weakness but it's rlly powerful because it's an expression of how you feel.

  • @pencilonpaper1026
    @pencilonpaper1026 6 років тому +233

    Dismissing our feelings as moods is good.
    Happens a lot to me.

    • @flextalk6536
      @flextalk6536  6 років тому +1

      Check out this topic on FLEXTALK about parents apologizing:
      www.flextalk.org/teaching-kids-how-to-say-sorry/

    • @pencilonpaper1026
      @pencilonpaper1026 6 років тому +7

      That was a good talk.

    • @weehoozy4454
      @weehoozy4454 3 роки тому +3

      But they're allowed to be upset and angry. Funny innit?

    • @epicsandvich014
      @epicsandvich014 3 роки тому +4

      Oh you have depression? It’s just hormones

    • @zekiro2644
      @zekiro2644 3 роки тому +1

      Pfff and i comfort them when their feeling down funny right?

  • @TeamHatchet64
    @TeamHatchet64 4 роки тому +44

    For me I just wish I could tell my mom to stop calling me a failure and to stop reminding me of my anxiety problem.

    • @00RaveRat
      @00RaveRat 4 роки тому +9

      I had the same issue but please don’t hurt yourself because it’s all gonna be ok she wants you to live up to your expectations but never let her control your life I pray for your safety and for your better metal health

  • @nicolejeon6642
    @nicolejeon6642 6 років тому +125

    My mom just took away my phone and she won’t let me hold it now she said that I can only use it whenever I go to school. Well, normally I would’ve just ignore it ‘cause I don’t actually care since I don’t use my phone very often and I still have my Ipad so it was fine. Yeah, it was fine...not until my mother mention my grades. My grades actually went up especially Math, from a grade of 82 to a grade of 90. But I don’t actually get it. Why does my mom need to get angry for my grades? If my grades were low, then I’m sorry and I understand that she might get mad or upset but why is it that even though I’m getting high grades, my mom would be like, get so mad at me. And there’s this issue with my father which always ask for my passwords for my social accounts and my cellphone. Including my ipad. It’s like, can I just have some privacy? I understand that they are just worried about me. Well, at least that’s what they said, but actually, THEY JUST DON’T TRUST ME. EVERYTHING THAT I DO IS WRONG AND THEY ARE ALWAYS RIGHT.

    • @grapejelly1323
      @grapejelly1323 5 років тому +20

      My mom called me on the phone earlier becuase i was texting someone on insta..i forgot to sign out on her phone😳 when i answer she told me then started laughing
      ..then she told me she refuses to be a awful nosey parent and then she logged out for me then we talked and laughed..as i was hanging up i heard her say :oh man i love her sooo much....
      That made my depressing self get outta bed and actually walk my dog and take out trash and just do stuff other than netflix and food

    • @matthewcooper4248
      @matthewcooper4248 5 років тому +15

      Hey there, don't know if this is still happening but here's my two cents as a random stranger on the internet.
      You need to talk to them. Respectfully, of course, but you need to tell then why you disagree and what you need. Taking away your phone for having a B is ridiculous, and your dad requiring your passwords is incredibly disrespectful AND childish.
      If it comes to it (with your dad anyway I know you said you never used your phone that much), you may just have to respectfully but firmly say no. Put your foot down, and tell them if you continue to be treated like this there's no way you'll be ready for the real world.

    • @peachiee1
      @peachiee1 4 роки тому +5

      kid u not my dad goes through my phone regurlarly and found my....ahem collection he was so mad and this and that also reads my instagram dms

    • @jijiloop8182
      @jijiloop8182 4 роки тому +2

      @@grapejelly1323 you are lucky never make you'r mom sad

    • @sunflowerr4808
      @sunflowerr4808 4 роки тому +9

      Oml can relate to you so much, I literally feel like I have no privacy. I’m not even allowed social media so I also feel like I’m not included with anything people my age are doing. Like I get there so scared that Im be in constant danger but I can watch out for myself on the Internet. I get there are lots of creeps out there but it still feels like I’m not trusted😢

  • @juliab.75
    @juliab.75 5 років тому +65

    I wish I could say that I wish we had a better connection and that sometimes I wish you were more nurturing instead of aggressive. And care more about my feelings. Please. I'm not just self-pitying. And just because I say something against you doesn't mean I'm incorrect.

  • @muzanabaker5714
    @muzanabaker5714 5 років тому +60

    They look so uncomfortable

    • @landendrake8131
      @landendrake8131 5 років тому +23

      I would be if there was a possibility of my parents seeing it lol

  • @aspertree4673
    @aspertree4673 3 роки тому +42

    Another thing they need to know is that they need to stop saying that I'm DEFINITELY going to have a family. I may or may not have one, I haven't felt romantic interest to anyone and my mom knows it, yet she says that I'm going to have kids and a family. I get that she has me and my sibling, but I don't want a family, so leave me alone

    • @iquitmlalongtimeago3616
      @iquitmlalongtimeago3616 3 роки тому +8

      Me too,I don't want to have a family but my parents like 'You're definitely going to have a family' like leave me alone,I really wanted to tell them that but like I'm afraid they might take my phone away and I can't talk to my friends anymore since there's still covid.

    • @anonymouslearner2454
      @anonymouslearner2454 2 роки тому

      I feel you (⊃ •́︿•̀ )⊃

    • @MisterWerewolf
      @MisterWerewolf Рік тому +2

      Not my mom saying "when you have kids" like I'm actually going to have kids and be stuck caring for a baby at 22 like you. High school's bad enough, I'm not trying to have my freedom taken away again by watching kids.

  • @makotoakiyama6765
    @makotoakiyama6765 3 роки тому +33

    I wish I could tell my parents "If we weren't related, we could never be friends"

  • @lolimsquidward2855
    @lolimsquidward2855 4 роки тому +19

    This relates to #4 but when you ask for my opinion, don’t get mad or upset when/if my opinion is different then yours. Like my parents ask for my opinion every once and a while, but if my opinion doesn’t match theirs they get upset and start lecturing me on “why I’m wrong” which really degrades my self esteem and sense of individuality

    • @Zahra-fk6qo
      @Zahra-fk6qo 3 роки тому +2

      Yes!! Oh my God I can relate so much . When I have different opinions and specially when I make a little feminist statements they really question my existence. Tbh my entire family is living in the wrong Era

  • @avaturner6986
    @avaturner6986 4 роки тому +30

    When they yell at me for no reason and don’t listen so I have to raise my voice then they get mad at me and it pisses my off do much and my dad says I do stuff on purpose and I don’t really mean to do it that makes me really annoyed, yelling won’t fix anything and don’t yell at someone because there trying to do something for you and you mess up like I was fixing my dad a salad and I was putting dressing up there and I was also getting something for him and got some dressing on the table and he yelled at me trying to say that I was trying to be funny and I was getting upset at this point so I told him I didn’t think it was funny and if I did I would be laughing and he yelled at me more the reason I get a attitude with them is because they won’t listen to me and think that there always right and I can’t remember a day where my mom hasn’t called me hateful so that makes my attitude even worse because she calls me hateful for saying that her makeup is a little uneven and there is many more things

  • @winnie7922
    @winnie7922 3 роки тому +21

    I’d say “let me be myself, don’t try to shape me into this person I’m not, I’m sorry that I’m not perfect”

    • @iquitmlalongtimeago3616
      @iquitmlalongtimeago3616 3 роки тому

      That's right!,I wish I could say that to them too..but they are like 'were big and your small you don't know everything,were right your wrong,suck it up and accept the truth'...

  • @Dolly_the_Witch
    @Dolly_the_Witch 6 років тому +88

    This is a good video

  • @_mokke_6661
    @_mokke_6661 3 роки тому +21

    The fact is that parents should watch this more than we should I'm so pissed off. Just because they gave birth to us doesn't mean they own us and can controll our lives

    • @walqqr1
      @walqqr1 2 роки тому +2

      You could get more freedom if you try to earn their trust. Idk, try to show really responsible behavior and talk to them in a polite way, it shows maturity.

  • @eviloutlaw-9-1-17
    @eviloutlaw-9-1-17 6 років тому +66

    My parents recently took my internet to 3 hours a day to only 15 minutes a day, when that happened I said some mean stuff to them like "When I move away I done with you, I'm not talking to you anymore. And "When I move away I don't you in my life" but some of those things that I've said have really made my parents sad, since then when I said those things they stopped talking to me and they got rid of the restrictionions, when I miss eating dinner with my family, they don't care, when I'm late for school or get in trouble, they don't care.
    I enjoyed having them leave me alone but now I feel bad and I want my parents to love me more, what can I do to help them?

    • @annesunflower1231
      @annesunflower1231 6 років тому +15

      EvilOutlaw-9-1-1 been there done that. Talk to your parents about the situation and say that you're actually sorry about it.

    • @stickerlady1774
      @stickerlady1774 6 років тому +11

      I assume your parents restricted your internet for good reason , such as you being disobedient, disrespectful, etc. I suggest you work on your maturity and think about the reasons your parents feel the need to discipline you. It’s because they care about your development and wellbeing. So, wisen up, think about ways you can show them appreciation for providing for you and showing their care for you. Stop acting like a little punk, work hard in school, do your chores and other things expected of you. Work on becoming a functioning adult & stop looking at privileges as rights. Your access to your parents’ internet, that THEY pay for, is a kindness they show to you. Internet is not something you are entitled to have. Don’t be an entitled brat! Peace.

    • @grapejelly1323
      @grapejelly1323 5 років тому +1

      Just tell them there not doing the whole parenti g thing right...i mean...they dont get to smother you..or stop caring about you

    • @dickinmymouthnohomo2093
      @dickinmymouthnohomo2093 5 років тому

      Matthew Cooper I laughed for some reason :/

    • @oro-oluwatoromo-thewordoft7339
      @oro-oluwatoromo-thewordoft7339 4 роки тому +3

      EvilOutlaw-9-1-1 pray and the Lord God Jesus is on the throne, I will be praying for you as well. May the Lord God be with you all in the mighty name of Jesus Amen❤️

  • @HaileyA110
    @HaileyA110 4 роки тому +15

    I agree with all of these wholeheartedly

  • @jackiebaer878
    @jackiebaer878 3 роки тому +4

    1-admit when wrong
    2- affirm once in a while
    3- don't dismiss feelings a moodiness
    4-ask my opinion
    5-talking is hard somethings
    6-just be honest
    7-be relatable

  • @grapejelly1323
    @grapejelly1323 5 років тому +36

    Im turning 14 in a few...and...my parent wont let me watch certain movies or drink red bull..she always asks why i dont hang out with friends..when i say its becuase you wont let me she immediately gets defisive...

    • @tortoiselover2044
      @tortoiselover2044 5 років тому +20

      Dude the first two restrictions make sense.

    • @rheah4133
      @rheah4133 5 років тому +13

      The first two restrictions make perfect sense. There is a reason 14 isn't the "officially becoming adult" age.

    • @rheah4133
      @rheah4133 5 років тому +3

      The third one. Idk. Guess you'll just have to wait it out and grow a bit older.

    • @JLeeS24
      @JLeeS24 3 роки тому +3

      @Sadeem Alotaibi they are 16 now lol

    • @inquiringminds782
      @inquiringminds782 3 роки тому

      Girl, you don’t need Red Bull. My mother is a registered nurse and one of the ladies on her work unit died drinking Red Bull on a highway. She was always drinking so much until she had a heart attack.

  • @tch7416
    @tch7416 3 роки тому +14

    Just because he's my brother doesn't mean I have to like him, mom.

  • @vincyjazy
    @vincyjazy Рік тому +2

    I know this was 7 years ago, but it is so relevant. I am a therapist working with adolescent teens and their families, and this will be a powerful resource to share with the parents because it captures so many of the reasons why the youths are sometimes defiant, combative, or argumentative with parents and/or adults. The fine line between not yet an adult, but also not a child is where parents need to develop the skills to parent/guide their "becoming adults" youths. It's that slow, gradual transition for both youths and parents; from childhood to adulthood and from parenting to guiding and everything in between.
    It's interesting how, as parents, we sometimes model the behaviors to our youths that we don't want them to do (arguing, stubbornness, etc.), without realizing that we are doing so.

  • @user-xf4ef2zn6q
    @user-xf4ef2zn6q 3 роки тому +10

    What I want to say to my parents us that:
    "You have sooo high expectations for me, everyday I want to reach those expectations
    But they get higher and higher
    To the point I can't reach them.
    I have my own dreams, but you keep giving me dreams far from mine,
    Everytime I have a bad grade you always compare me with peoples who are in a higher rank then me,
    I'm a teen
    Not an adult who have a well developed mind.
    I am not albert einstein
    I am not Tesla!
    I just want to be who I am without feeling guilty for not being the person you want me to be"
    That's all 🥄😐

  • @mtn4140
    @mtn4140 5 років тому +20

    The guy with the hat on grew up with those problems so he understood it. The rest are just teenagers.

  • @sheemmoonwalker81597
    @sheemmoonwalker81597 4 роки тому +15

    STOP COMPARING US TO OTHERS

    • @callmebabydoll6565
      @callmebabydoll6565 4 роки тому +1

      Sheem Moonwalker RIGHT! I CANT STAND THAT

    • @00RaveRat
      @00RaveRat 4 роки тому +1

      IM NOT AS SLIM AS OTHERS AND IM NOT AS “GOOD” AS OTHERS IM TRYING TO GROW SO LET ME GROW

  • @blackxsamurai981
    @blackxsamurai981 4 роки тому +10

    I just keep my problems to myself because I’m terrible on conversations and stutter a lot and talk to fast then I just give up on trying to talk so I just keep to myself because when I do try to talk to them they don’t really understand

    • @00RaveRat
      @00RaveRat 4 роки тому +1

      Tell me ur problems because if ur parents won’t listen I will

    • @iquitmlalongtimeago3616
      @iquitmlalongtimeago3616 3 роки тому

      My parents said this to me 'why are you talking loud when you talk about your score in gaming it doesn't make you special or anything you won't achieve something in online games,but when you talk about how your doing in school your like a mice' the reason why I speak loud about my score in gaming is bcuz I was the MVP and the reason why I talk like a mice when I speak about how I'm doing in school is bcuz I don't wanna talk about it, they compare me to other kids saying 'you should be like them' I tried to but I don't wanna,they don't appreciate my high grades I get from my studies,I just wanted to finish my school live with my lil sis(I'm taking her with me,I won't let her get hurt from our parents)and get a job,I don't have interest in having a husband so Im just gonna adopt 2 kids 1 girl and 1 boy. Saying I'm a failure makes me cry and making me feel bad about myself they body shame me...I just know I have a great and big future ahead of me and I'm going to work hard for it Have a good day everyone!

  • @sirtalented8465
    @sirtalented8465 3 роки тому +13

    It’s sad but you can’t say a word to a black parent without being called spoiled or disrespectful. When you have real advice for them is the worst because your just forced to sit and watch them go down a rabbit hole because they can’t listen

  • @pitzlily7067
    @pitzlily7067 2 роки тому +2

    A problem my parents had was they were the kind of parents that would never let me make a decision.Parents tell you to do something,you say you're about to do something else and then they just ask me to explain why.Honestly I hated adults in my childhood mostly because of that.They would either cut you off,make you explain or just start ranting about how they're adults and we should listen to them.

  • @NeemahRosee
    @NeemahRosee 3 роки тому +9

    I wish they would stop comparing our 2000s generation to their 1970s, 1980s and 1990s generation. You may have been a teenager, but this is a different generation, so, stop doing that. It's just going to make me annoyed and not care for what you did along time ago. 😠

    • @elliefuller3667
      @elliefuller3667 3 роки тому +3

      Exactly. Times change, and if you try to compare the beliefs and ideologies from decades ago to the present day, it doesn’t matter what the present day is, your ideology just can’t line up with the modern world. I mean, segregation was still around in the 60’s. That’s very recent history. Life evolves so quickly, it is only logical to evolve your beliefs with it.

  • @spiritualelement757
    @spiritualelement757 3 роки тому +4

    My parents often do things that make me lose respect for them. I’m a sensitive person but I don’t show facial expressions that much reasons being that I see no point in expressing them because crying or yelling is deemed a bad thing. My mom gets mad at me when I cry even though it’s her fault why am I crying. Both of my parents are insensitive my mom in a mean way and my dad in an emotionless way. I know they don’t study psychology like I do but they should think about how the words affect their own kids. I’m not saying my parents are the worst in existence but they are certainly not the best by far.

  • @damiencurrency15
    @damiencurrency15 3 роки тому +2

    I really do sympathize with these guys. Because I have parents that ALWAYS have to be right about EVERYTHING and if they are wrong, they treat me like an idiot telling me to “shut up, you don’t know-“. I just find it hard for me to talk to them because they never consider that I know things that they don’t think I know, but because I’m the 16 year old in the house and they’re the ones that have jobs and money that I can’t be right.

  • @svp6718
    @svp6718 5 років тому +12

    Some Times my parents ask me stuff but when i tell my opinion they ignore it

  • @lythrum2081
    @lythrum2081 3 роки тому +3

    My friends tell me mom is pretty supportive for someone in a society as conservative as ours. She gives me my privacy, admits when she's wrong, makes sure I've witnessed her grittier sides, learnt more about how hard life is and such and such. Sounds great right? No, no it isn't.
    I may sound ungrateful and trust me, I'm glad she's trying to be a good parent. But at the same time, our relationship still isn't healthy. She was diagnosed with clinical depression and her issues with my father and family haven't been making her mental state any better. I had to watch her fall apart and sit next to her during her panic attacks since I was ten. My sister and I were the first people she'd yell at or slap after an angry phone call from her older brother or our father.
    Above all, she was explicit about her feelings to a point where she'd state that people already make things bad for her and I need to try refrain from doing so. That's good, I understand but that also puts me on panic mode and paranoia twenty-four seven. I was made to feel I couldn't make mistakes because i knew she'd blow up at my face and hurt my own feelings in the process.
    Sometimes she didn't need a reason to yell at me.
    So I am putting forward my own point for parents. Don't be hypocrites and when a child does approach you with an issue, don't bring it up later on.
    My mother always told me I could approach her and talk to her about my issues but as the years passed, I stopped doing it when I noticed a trend popping up. I'd tell her about something on my mind, I'd admit a flaw or a mistake and trust her to keep it to herself and help me through it. Weeks, sometimes even HOURS later, when she's angry and I'd have made a mistake, she'd bring said subject up or even hint at it while yelling at me.
    I started keeping things to myself and worse off, refused to try speaking up when she was being unnecessarily harsh because "she's going through her own issues". I would keep those feelings of hurt inside me because even CRYING in front of her around this time would just be me feeling sorry for myself, at least according to her. I did tell her about how I felt one time, I told her she was hurting my feelings. she said she didn't care and she'd be just as nasty the next time as well.
    Well, at least she admits she can get nasty, RIGHT?????
    Now that I have distanced myself from her, she's even angrier since she simply assumes I'm now being apathetic. I'd literally hold my feelings in and break down in front of my friends at school. Now I'm stuck with her during lockdown and it's not been easy for me. Maybe I have disconnected myself emotionally but I'm far too afraid to talk to her about it, even when she's in a good mood.
    Advice number 2, don't assume your kids don't want to talk at all when they say 'no'.
    We had an argument once and it messed me up to an extent where I couldn't bear to look at her without my mind feeling like scrambled eggs. I wanted to be left alone and when she told me to try talking to her about it, I told her I didn't want to. My mistake was that I said it with the typical teenage angst. But this was only a day after the argument and i was still pissed off. I wanted my space.
    She took offense to it and the next time we argued, she brought that up. I couldn't bring myself to fight back when that was mentioned.
    so yeah.

    • @njay6494
      @njay6494 3 роки тому

      Same. My mom cant keep her mouth shut. She can't keep given and private information to herself. She even does it to my dad. But with her friends? *no no.* Its just with me, and my dad. And anytime we do have disagreements. She would bring all the things I've told her up onto me. And at the same time she would say "talk to me." I'm in the same situation as you. And she can never admit when shes wrong. Neither can my aunt. They BOTH can't. And even when I'm speaking actual facts. They don't take it seriously. So I began to talk to my mom less, and less. And now i talk to close friends. It annoys me so much. My mom can't keep her fricking mouth shut. Neither can my aunt. Luckly my aunt is leaving soon, and I blocked her number, I also removed it. Srry i just had to vent about it. Your story is chaotic. But the advice is helpful

    • @lythrum2081
      @lythrum2081 3 роки тому

      @@njay6494 That's a pretty harsh mindset she has. I'm sorry you have to go through that.

  • @gabrielkirchgestner619
    @gabrielkirchgestner619 3 роки тому +2

    2021, some things never change

  • @mmhakumm5445
    @mmhakumm5445 4 роки тому +11

    I'm scared to tell them these things because I think I'll get beat up with whatever object #asianparents

  • @daniandkeely
    @daniandkeely 4 роки тому +2

    Awesome video! I’m a life coach for people under 25 and LOVE this. Thanks!

  • @lolaroblox467
    @lolaroblox467 3 роки тому +3

    "I don't look up to you anymore, sorry"

  • @theidiotking
    @theidiotking 3 роки тому +3

    for me one of them would be STOP MAKING ME FEEL LIKE A PIECE OF GARBAGE/MISTAKE

  • @00RaveRat
    @00RaveRat 4 роки тому +2

    This is gold we all feel this way and I never thought that everyone felt this way I’m not moody I have an opinion I need time to figure out who I am, I’m done with you trying to make me just like you, I’m gully cable of taking care of myself, I know what I must do and you divert me from what I want to do when I’m older. You’re not always correct, I have friends who I talk to that you don’t always need to know about or you will take them away from me, I don’t hate you I’m just able to be take care of myself, I have a life outside of the house will real people, just because I watch anime and read manga doesn’t mean I’m a freak ( when I told my dad I like to watch anime he said “where did we go wrong” like it’s bad for me to like things), I can’t connect to you if you pressure me to open up, don’t think that when I talk to a boy he is satan himself, don’t make me responsible for my siblings actions just because I’m the oldest, don’t protect the youngest sibling when they do something wrong when you are so much harder on me, I have limits so please at least agnowlage them , I’m not a child who is fit and healthy so don’t say I’ll be on 500 lbs when I just eat a few pieces of candy, and mainly I’m trying to be a better person but if you pressure me to live up to your expectations then I’ll just get worse.
    Thank you and stay safe

  • @isabelrambally5538
    @isabelrambally5538 3 роки тому +6

    I'm watching this and trying to remember the last time my parents told me they loved me........but I can't remember.

    • @kumarnimoni1426
      @kumarnimoni1426 3 роки тому +3

      Same.... I don't remember the last time my biological mother said "I love you"

  • @ASTRA1564
    @ASTRA1564 4 роки тому +4

    Wait until you go to college... It gets rough bro.

  • @starorcarina8525
    @starorcarina8525 2 роки тому +2

    And another thing, stop trying to turn a Joke or a Question into Lecture

  • @RaurXDberry
    @RaurXDberry 3 роки тому +2

    Parents are supposed to guide us threw life
    On this path as a kid you protect us and do thing, entell we get a certain age then you hold are hands and teach us things as we walk this path together as you eventually let us walk ahead a little bit, entell we get big enough we eventually can guide threw this path on are own , acourse it can be rough at times but eventually we can walk on are own make are own adventures ,
    Guide us, not telling us what to do in our lives
    I know sometimes your trying do the right thing but eventually you gotta let are hand go when that times comes

  • @gone1587
    @gone1587 3 роки тому +5

    I feel like most viewers are teenagers rather than adults...

    • @mavericktjo4548
      @mavericktjo4548 Рік тому

      I'm pretty sure the former is the target audience, not the latter

  • @sky9743
    @sky9743 3 роки тому +3

    *the dislikes are parents who won’t admit they’re wrong*

  • @sunnirobertson4316
    @sunnirobertson4316 3 роки тому +2

    “If I’m to young to go to a friends house by myself, then I’m to young to scoop the liter box”

    • @walqqr1
      @walqqr1 2 роки тому

      lol those things have no correlation, my 8 yo brother can clean the cat's litter box and he is too young to go out alone

  • @callmeflower6901
    @callmeflower6901 3 роки тому +1

    I wanted to tell my mom something like this
    "I'M CRYING BECAUSE I'M NOT OK MOM!AND YELLING AT ME DOESN'T HELP!I'M NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU MOM?!I'M TRYING TO NOT DO MISTAKES BUT I CAN'T!YOU'RE SUPOSSED TO LOVE ME,TO TEACH ME,TO PROTECT ME BUT YOU ALLWAYS YELL AT ME WHEN I DO MISTAKES OR CRY!I JUST WANTED YOUR LOVE,YOUR ACCEPTANCE,YOUR VALIDATION!I LOVE YOU EVEN YOU MAKE ME FEEL BAD ABOUT MYSELF,EVEN I HAVE SUICIDAL TOUGHTS AND I'M TOXIC WITH MYSELF!I STILL LOVE YOU EVEN IF YOU HURT ME AND YOU DON'T SEE IT!WHY YOU CAN'T LOVE ME TOO AS HOW I AM?!WHY YOU CAN'T ACCEPT THAT I MAKE STUPID MISTAKES?!I USED TO HIDE HOW I FEEL FROM YOU BECAUSE I'M SCARED OF YOU AND I STILL HIDE HOW I FEEL!I JUST WANTED A NORMAL LIFE!YOU MAKE MISTAKES TOO!TRY TO LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES!"

  • @angierae7653
    @angierae7653 2 роки тому +1

    I have 2 teenagers and I'm not a perfect parent by ANY MEANS......but I can't stand when parents think they have to take disciplining a little TOO SERIOUSLY..... and in doing so, they install cameras everywhere and/or immediately rush to the garbage can when they walk in the door to make sure their teens didn't EAT something that WASN'T on the so called "MENU". And that's just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to my ex-husband and his new wife. SHE is the "HITLER" of the home and I SWEAR is CONSTANTLY looking for something to complain about when it comes to MY KIDS and even HER OWN for the most part. She's one of those moms Who thinks her kids have to excel in everything and if they don't it reflects poorly on her no she's basically living vicariously through her children and trying to force them to achieve certain things in THEIR LIVES that she wished SHE WOULD HAVE but DIDN’T and it causes A LOT of UNNECESSARY STRESS and ANXIETY for them. Parents like that should go get a job as a corrections officer and just let their kids be kids. I feel my ex and her try to keep TOO TIGHT of a leash on the kids which only makes them feel like their UNABLE to be TRUSTED which in the long run is going to affect them both emotionally and psychologically.

  • @shadow-nt3id
    @shadow-nt3id 4 роки тому +4

    Still underrated huh

  • @ttiity1601
    @ttiity1601 3 роки тому +8

    I wish I could tell my mom that I’m gay

    • @iquitmlalongtimeago3616
      @iquitmlalongtimeago3616 3 роки тому +1

      I wish I could live alone bcuz living with my parents..is..I don't wanna talk about it..it just makes me cry..

  • @callmeflower6901
    @callmeflower6901 3 роки тому +1

    I feel like i need to earn my mom love.Like if i will not do mistakes anymore and if i will have a job,money and a house i will make her proud and she will finally show how much she loves me and she will hug me and tell me "I'm so proud of you,i love you so much and i will always love you"

  • @coocooformycocoapuffs3235
    @coocooformycocoapuffs3235 3 роки тому +3

    I got in trouble for not wanting to hand out Valentine's Day cards because of social anxiety love this video my parents would ground me if I showed it to them though 😗

  • @vickysirch2398
    @vickysirch2398 7 років тому +3

    I can relate but on one thing not. Truth about marriage troubles my parents figjt before our eyes we're 4 kids 16,14,11 and 4 they don't hide they just don't care if we're there and listen...

  • @azrael3586
    @azrael3586 2 роки тому

    My mom would always say that kids don't have to worrie about ANYTHING so I should be more happy I mean yeah maybe won't understand the stress a mother and an adult would have but you can't just say that because there's still so much thing you could stress about even if you're a kid

  • @mrspud8869
    @mrspud8869 3 роки тому +1

    Please stop forcing me to take phone calls for you, I absolutely hate talking on the phone and my mom just disregards that completely

  • @keona5570
    @keona5570 5 років тому +3

    1:33 ........... Like the dishes

  • @urmanthenascarfan5847
    @urmanthenascarfan5847 2 роки тому +1

    I honestly wish I could just tell my mother to shut her trap as soon as it opens

  • @austinschumacher2636
    @austinschumacher2636 3 роки тому +1

    The 21 dislikes were probably parents

  • @Anna_Lindlau
    @Anna_Lindlau 3 роки тому +2

    I feel like that they can get to involved in personal relationships and I'd like to say that's not ok

  • @kalaniprice1007
    @kalaniprice1007 6 років тому +4

    I can relate.

  • @GAMEBEATER6000
    @GAMEBEATER6000 3 роки тому

    Consistency is another thing that my parents fail to be…I just wish they would stick to their promises or even be consistent with groundings!!! Idec if I am grounded for a month, please just stick to the grounding….

  • @yellowtangled3905
    @yellowtangled3905 3 роки тому +2

    The people who disliked are parents-

  • @fartpoo1470
    @fartpoo1470 3 роки тому +2

    My parents for some reason think I'm trans even though I never told them I'm trans. They think I'm trying to look like a boy because I'm trying to fit in to a certain group. I just want them to except me for me and not think I'm trying to fit in to a certain group.

  • @pamudigamage5719
    @pamudigamage5719 Рік тому

    south asian kids : wait, what?

  • @dhissallanvicknesh2254
    @dhissallanvicknesh2254 3 роки тому +1

    My parents are the worst I tried to tell a joke and they said shut up and didn't even listen to me .I know some of you might be laughing because it's just a small thing but they really hurt my fellings .

  • @Grandma_rio
    @Grandma_rio 2 роки тому +1

    I'm sick and tired of all of it😩I just know it won't end

  • @devilrose7047
    @devilrose7047 3 роки тому +1

    When I was failing school my parents didn't help me study or tired to help in anyway
    They just pulled me out of school
    What did they want me to do?
    I couldn't make myself do the work
    And they didn't make me work

  • @shamsurafiel9896
    @shamsurafiel9896 4 роки тому +1

    They should also stop comparing us to others because we do us and they do they

  • @LittleAsian_
    @LittleAsian_ 3 роки тому

    Yess this is soo true 🥺

  • @ariesrenae4163
    @ariesrenae4163 4 роки тому

    I wish my mother would do this but she narcissistic. I am always scared of what she’s going to say next!

  • @jixjix9800
    @jixjix9800 3 роки тому

    when tell them how i feel they literally laugh it off like a joke :/ I never felt like I would be depressed but like damn bro

  • @rosemania4968
    @rosemania4968 3 роки тому

    Well If you ask a teenybopper like me I am exception to that cause my mom understands me very well though the first point discussed is universal.

  • @muktapradhan8603
    @muktapradhan8603 3 роки тому +1

    Parents says that if their is anything then we can come n share with them : buttt when we try to say them they n like .... Ohh shit I'm busy now !!!😣😣😣 are we a game to them or what ?

  • @auliasyah1104
    @auliasyah1104 5 років тому +2

    It's a great video:")

  • @andjic4437
    @andjic4437 3 роки тому

    All I want to say is...Listen to me please....and...be proud of me once in a while.

  • @lulashlyn728
    @lulashlyn728 3 роки тому

    “You never listen”

  • @vanessaaguilera7464
    @vanessaaguilera7464 5 років тому +5

    The only thing I wish I can say is
    Can we get fast food😭

  • @averydepressingchannel1647
    @averydepressingchannel1647 2 роки тому

    Another one is just to stop being so protective. When a teen grows up with overprotective parents they can’t live on their own.

  • @sumitkushwaha3607
    @sumitkushwaha3607 4 роки тому +1

    I want to hangout w,ith my friends but I can't

  • @zoiemcbee897
    @zoiemcbee897 3 роки тому

    If I said this to my parents they would slap me :)

  • @jynxed4496
    @jynxed4496 3 роки тому

    They even say that who I am (my gender and sexuality) is wrong…because it’s just a phase I guess?

  • @michaelowino228
    @michaelowino228 3 роки тому +2

    Hey

  • @melissahill8613
    @melissahill8613 2 роки тому

    Thank god I’m not alone

  • @adventure_by_proxy
    @adventure_by_proxy 8 років тому +3

    Gnarly

  • @huyachwe
    @huyachwe 4 роки тому +1

    i hope my parent watch this video

  • @Jakebrooks405
    @Jakebrooks405 4 роки тому

    my parents don’t let me go out or have social media’s, im12 mad i sneak about

    • @jeenaaby5624
      @jeenaaby5624 3 роки тому

      Dude in India 12 is like 5years old in usa. Only at 20 years we are actual adults. Even 18,19 years is still teen

    • @walqqr1
      @walqqr1 2 роки тому

      Lmao you like my whiny 8 yo brother, spoiled af and pathetic. I'm 18 and let me tell you: you are too young to go out alone, and social media is for 13 yo. 🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @lumos0123
    @lumos0123 3 роки тому

    Please respect my opinions.
    No.
    Shut up.
    Let me have my privacy.
    Don't make fun of me when I am crying.
    I am crying because of you.
    Stop saying I'll be unsuccessful.
    Don't expect me to be perfect. I take a lot of time to do understand maths, don't blame me for it.
    I wish my mom was here, she probably would not have shouted and screamed at me as you do dad.
    Stop bringing topics of my marriage, I am NOT interested.
    Let me live my life...

  • @subhanasadree2869
    @subhanasadree2869 3 роки тому

    my mom doesnt let me grow come on im a pre teen i should have social media like my friends and im not aloud to have a opinion about anything and the get angry at me when im in a mood swing like i thought she understood me but no she didnt and she made the threat that she'd send me to a place which is supposed to make me a better person im already good enough and i dont need these things and my mom said she was very bad when she was a teen and then she is telling me to do things i dont want to do i just feel like im being ignored some times i know my mom loves me

    • @walqqr1
      @walqqr1 2 роки тому

      Maybe your mom doesn't trust you. Trust is earned, though, so you could try showing responsible behavior so she could feel she can trust you more and then let you have some freedom.
      Also, mood swings are normal, but its not ok to be rude to your mom just because you're not in a good mood. If you are rude, ofc she will be angry. You can think of ways to express your feelings in a healthy way without being rude.

  • @susvictor1825
    @susvictor1825 5 років тому +4

    I wanna tell my parents lemme smoke my weed

    • @heavy965
      @heavy965 3 роки тому

      "Even grandma takes it so why can't i ,mom?!"

    • @borrasca2311
      @borrasca2311 3 роки тому

      Let me vape the vape

  • @cherryflavor1719
    @cherryflavor1719 3 роки тому +1

    Wow you re so inocent in the comments...or maybe too young. My parents insults me when they don t like what i m saying, calling me in every way. My opinion doesn t matter...more like i m always wrong and they re right. Oh and the yelling...damn. Idk maybe the re right and i m crazy...i really don t know what to think anymore . Omg is that manipulation?

  • @jetwingx99awsome9
    @jetwingx99awsome9 4 роки тому

    Ho ha ha ha first when it comes to mind

  • @theawesomeone9510
    @theawesomeone9510 3 роки тому

    Parents can not relate to there kids because there older and there memory definitely would not be at 100% from when they were kids and also times are much different now like did our parents have smart phones as a kid no no no so really as a kid they only went threw like half the shit we did growing up so who ever the heck thinks that parents can relate well no they freakin can’t. Atleast that’s my opinion

  • @pennycastro5900
    @pennycastro5900 4 роки тому

    guy in the left looks like jschlatt

  • @ecarpet1272
    @ecarpet1272 3 роки тому

    Dont compare us to others

    • @JaxSmack2
      @JaxSmack2 3 роки тому

      the thing is if we compared them to other parents we would get grounded