The fact that he had to keep reiterating "I don't expect anything in return"🥺 like it's okayyyyyy that you were just used to another form of behavior but you still going out of your way to help random strangers, knowing you won't get any recognition in return, shows such a kind heart
@@pericopinero1035no you can tell it doesn’t. He repeats it a lot trying to convince himself he doesn’t but clearly he’s missing some form of gratitude in his own life so he’s seeking it from randoms so much to a point he’s on UA-cam talking about it. Kinda sad dude needs more people in his life.
@@thekidd2323understand that we can all feel this way, show gratitude for the possibility of people(the small things we choose notice), nothing is permanent and to say it is sad is rude. it is a reality, a reality we can show appreciate and gentleness towards while still being honest. be kind, be good, everyone's going thru something
I can understand why Koreans struggle so much with loneliness when no one will acknowledge you in situations like this. It must feel like you are in your own world or invisible.
maryamelfaruk8289 I’ve been in Korea for the last couple of months and no one in Korea looks at you even if you look really out of place. They’re literally always on their phones or just looking straight ahead with headphones on. They don’t even acknowledge you unless you accidentally bump into them, and then you exchange sorrys and that’s it
@@maryamelfaruk8289the older people might comment on your looks but in Seoul no matter how you look you’re getting ignored. They don’t do small talk. If a stranger approaches you and starts a conversation on the street it’s probably a cult member out recruiting
@@Fartsquad_ i think they will look at you for a bit then ignore cause its not their business so they just dont care. Its also like that here on japan so im assuming its the same thing for korean people too?
I’m 18 male and I was walking out of a restaurant one evening, and I saw an elderly black lady walking towards the door so I opened it for her and her reaction was so sweet, she said, “ Ahh, why thank you, your such a gentleman.” The way she said was so kind, it put a huge smile on my face.
A friend of mine recently moved to America for school and he said the first thing he noticed is that Americans acknowledge people around them. He said he never noticed how isolating South Korea was. People don’t acknowledge you in South Korea. He said and I quote, “it makes me very very sad for my little brother. I don’t want him to be ignored. I want him to be seen.”
that is exactly the first thing i thought of. i’ve been deciding on whether to transfer colleges on a student visa to South Korea or not, but as I am learning about their culture I am getting very discouraged on doing so. being a foreigner from America and loving small interactions with strangers, random conversations with great people, smiles from others at random, opening doors for the elderly that opens for convo… the disconnect in South Korea can be very isolating and depressing. Especially as a foreigner open to wanting to make friends in an area you don’t know anyone, I couldn’t imagine not getting a smile back on a random day or being ignored by everyone, no eye contact or simple have a good days. I follow many people who have chosen to work in South Korea as a foreigner, they all have one thing in common saying how lonely it is and how they’ll often break down because they don’t have anyone to talk to in South Korea. having phone calls and facetimes from distant family and friends can only help so much!
@@samgyeopsal569 I say~~ don't smile at young people in Korea. They will def find it weird. But, I smile at 아줌마 /아저씨 all the time and have even exchanged numbers with a few if them because of it. I had one say I can call him 아빠 because I reminded him of his daughter and he hoped that being kind to me would bring kindness to his daughter ,who was studying in the U.S - same major too!
@@Monica-yu2wd I've been living here for 2 years. It really seems that Seoul is more isolating than other parts of Korea, alot of other smaller cities and towns have a tight knit foreigner community and in my experience ( and those of my friends) the local Koreans tend to check in on you. I remeber when I caught covid, so many people left fruit at my door, i was so touched. They are often worried that you are lonely. I was told it's called 정 .
@@Lxmxn97 this makes my heart happy ❤️ I’m so glad they did that for you ❤️ I lived in Germany for a few months during college and while German is my first language, I am American and for some reason, the town I was in didn’t like me much (I’m a gay man and present slightly “country lumberjack”) so they assumed I was “lying to them, and hiding behind my gay agenda” lol it was slightly isolating and they refused to talk to me in German and only spoke in English which frustrated me 😅 I moved from Munich to Berlin and once in Berlin I found an amazing group of people and stayed in Berlin for 9 months before I moved back in early 2020 right before covid 😅🥴
Holding the door for strangers is so common in the U.S. that when I don't or realize too late that I should have held it, I feel a small sense of shame like, "Man, I really hope they don't think I'm a snob now."
Exactly! For some reason, I think this would be one of the biggest culture shocks for me if I ever get the chance to go to Korea. I don't think I'd get shocked much, but this is something so second nature to me.
I hope he can keep on doing it even if its seen as strange. Being nice is nice and even if the other person doesn't recognize it, it still good for your soul.
Problem is people that hold open doors in Korea end up holding it for minutes upon minutes as everyone keeps walking through and you never get a chance to stop and go in after them unless you just walk through in front of someone and give up and “be the asshole” in your own eyes :( lol
Even people you would literally NEVER interact with in any other situation will hold the door open for you or at the very least, give it a wide push so it's still open for you when you get to it. 😂
In Germany we usually hold the door open, while at the same time also walking into the direction we need to go. So when the other person still takes some time to reach the door, it is oftentimes basically somebody leaning back, having nothing left but their hand on the door, over stretching their arm and waiting until the other person reached the door lol.
It's not our culture so ppl don't even recognize it as a "kind gesture". You shouldn't expect what is considered mannered in your country is same in other countries
@@inquistionofknowledgeI also agree w you. "Truth" is subjective. It's even biological. The brain edits our memories of the day every night when we sleep, & we have no conscious control over this editing.
@@leak3856 It's literally a BASIC Human decency! Not a culture.. & thanking someone for a good gesture should be common everywhere! Well, Except To The ALIENS LOL
I’ve been in korea for two weeks and tbh this is something i cannot get used to, people genuinely don’t help each other out here or even acknowledge each other it’s so bizarre… I was in hongdae the other night and this very clearly underaged girl collapsed to the ground and not one person even acknowledged her. I literally picked her up off the ground myself while 2 men just stood there and watched. Weirdest thing ever, she was so young too like??? Update: I've read a lot of the replies.. to be clear this girl looked about 15 years old, and when I say collapsed I don't mean she fell, I mean she literally went unconscious momentarily. It wasn't a matter of embarrassment. She was so drunk to the point I wondered if someone drugged her, but I think it was likely just alcohol poisoning. It was really terrifying and I am a student nurse so my immediate instinct was to respond and make sure she wasn't dead or someone kidnaps her. My Korean sucks too, but I was able to communicate with her. It turns out she was there with her sister and after she threw up, I got her some water and we found her sister.... but my god, shame on her for letting her little sister get so drunk and not even keep an eye on her. Also.. I am not trying to paint Koreans in a bad light whatsoever. I enjoyed Korea a lot, and Koreans are generally friendly and kind. I had a lot of wholesome interactions while there, but socially this was something I noticed that I couldn't really understand because in my community people always watch out for each other, especially women.
that’s so scary!!! thank goodness you were there to help! community is one of the biggest human experiences and that means helping others when needed, South Korea is very lacking in that part. I can’t stand when others are passive and ignore people that need help or assistance when they are fully able and capable enough to provide help 🥲
Well, south korea dont have the good samaritan law (which could apply to this case), so they wont help you brcusse they could be criminally charged if somethin happens.
Omg that poor girl. Thank the lord you were there for her. It’s strange that South Korean people are like this. Again it is a culture thing :// but still…
Wow that is definitely truly very strange and weird…definitely not normal at all. I have never seen a reaction like that from a human…Koreans seem like aliens from another planet
For 6 yrs I have been coming back & forth to korea, it's still shocking how people just don't care for others. They will see you struggling and will just walk away. I always wondered why they always struggle to be nice to others but it's so easy for them to insult & criticise, it's indeed depressing. Nobody pays attention when you're doing good but when you've done wrong they're suddenly all nosy and have lots of opinion, it's like everybody's waiting for you to make a mistake.
Wow…I didn’t realize it was this bad. But it really does cost nothing to be nice to the next person. Indeed, media is manipulative cos I wouldn’t have believed this from the media they put out about themselves.
@@music4ursenses185 it's sad for real, I was an Esl in SK tho, lots of my students doesn't have confidence and are timid because of such environment. They don't get that much praise and appreciation for their hardwork in their academics and they're always compared, so I make sure to always compliment and reward in their every progress in our class to make them feel better. They visited me in my home country when I went home.
I have a penpal from korea and she is the kindest korean I've ever met, she sent me flowers pictures whenever she passed them on the street, and make me a snowman. But we lost contact after she graduated from college, I hope she have a good life there since last time she have struggle here and there, things that I notice is even though we're penpal for like 2 years it's still not easy for them to being open and telling their private life, it's like they're hiding their problem instead of trusting someone to have talk about it. Other korean I met online are mostly like to show off their expensive stuff, lifestyle and food.
Same here 😅 I was a kid when it first happened. When I went back to the US I started to check if someone was behind me to keep the door open for them. I didn’t realize how rude it was until it happened to me 😂
I always hold the door open for people in Korea if they are close or if they have a stroller or kids. I've always gotten a thank you or at the very least a glance with a nod. I always think it's interesting when I hear how people have experiences with people ignoring them holding the door open.
Once when I was in US I held the door and 1 korean family passed without any expression they got out they did not see, smile or even glance at me. I felt embarrassed and horrible. I couldn't sleep that night thinking about it.
@@ritikamahajan3216Damn. You shouldn’t lose sleep over people like that. I used to feel the same, but these days when people are strange or rude I choose to laugh about it and think, “At least I’m not like that.” It’s more uplifting for me and I can go on about my day feeling better.
Omg, if it was me, i would close the door midway, to make them stuck in most discomfort situation. and if they dare to look at me in disbelief, i will act like i just dont see them at all.
That is the one thing that as an American I'm proud of and happy when I see it. A small little gesture of kindness to a stranger just saying here you go, hope your day is a little easier. It's nice with all the other bs going on
Yupppp. Went to Korea and also happened to me. When I asked for help with directions they seemed super visibly annoyed and I felt very bad for asking. After awhile I stopped asking and just accepted it if I got lost lol. In Japan though, they saw me visibly lost and came to my rescue without me asking. They would even try to translate on their own phones just to try to help me. I was so thankful!
Because their are cult recruiters which tactic is to ask directions. It's very common there. That's why they cannot comprehend genuine from the cult, because people nowadays use Kakao map or Google maps.
For me the experience is very opposite. And it's what it is, just a limited personal experience that can't be applied on millions of people in one country.
i’ve visited korea a lot of times in my life and this wasn’t the case for me ever D: i can admit they don’t acknowledge people as much and they can be silently judgmental, but i’ve asked for help with directions a LOT and they were very kind. someone even came up to me in the subway noticing i was lost and walked me in the right direction. i think your experience is just from your time visiting korea, which isn’t invalid at all, but please don’t use it to generalize an entire culture!
My daughter has been in Korea for a year. One day, she fell down the stairs on her way to the train station. She bruised up pretty bad and her ankle was also pretty swollen. I can tell she had a bad fall. She said no one helped her even though she stayed on the ground for several minutes almost in tears but no one asked if she’s okay or help her get up. She said she’s more hurt inside than outside. 😢We’re from California.
I'm glad in the US people still interact even minimally with strangers. Like literal strangers will interact with each other or make friends while being out.
It’s especially common here in Midwest America. So much that there’s the term “midwestern kindness” and it’s usually a culture shock to people who come here for the first time. Complete strangers will talk like they’ve known each other for years. One time I was at a gas station and I turned to the person next to me and said “if you could choose a flavor of this drink, which would you choose?” and they said blueberry and then someone across the store chimed in and said “the strawberry one is really good”. I said id buy both and wished I could tell them my thoughts. I ended up seeing one of the people around town and they remembered me and asked how it was. Simple things like that are so heartwarming.
Its funny that there is like a huge difference in courtesy between states. I didnt realize how different it was until i traveled north to visit my husbands family and me saying Hi to a cashier and asking how they were, was met with wide eyed glances and some serious side eye from people. Apparently we're much friendlier in the south than I'd realized! It's a bit of a shock at how kind of rude some people can seem/be when you get to the northern states. People there find us southerners weird and overly friendly.😂😅
@@Cissablack708I had an uber driver from up north come to the south and he said the same. He felt less isolated and that ppl were friendlier to him in public.
@@Cissablack708where in the North though? I’m guessing East coast. I live in Wisconsin and it would definitely be common here to strike up conversation with a cashier or even a random stranger on the street. It’s that good ol “Midwest nice” 😊
@Cissablack708 I live in NYC and have lived here for 15 years. We don't like small talk, but that is completely different from kindness. It takes nothing to be kind but it takes a lot to make small talk. Nyers are extremely kind but maybe not very nice and that's why people think that people are cold in the north because we won't entertain your small talk when both of us know that neither of us really care and it's just small talk
Aside from judging if it’s right or wrong, this is actually quite common. In my home country in Asia, people are fast-paced and they’re all very impatient. They press the ‘close the door’ button 10 times until the door is fully closed (the button really works). It’s like wasting 10 seconds of their lives if they don’t do so. It’s only when I’ve moved to Australia that I’ve found that people are so friendly and they hold the doors open for you, or even press the ‘open the door’ button and wait for you. And actually I’ve realised that in here a lot of the close buttons aren’t actually programmed to be working 😂 Still, what I said doesn’t represent everyone. There are still good people everywhere.
So I would imagine you pressed the close the door button alot before you realized😂 My grandmas first and third husband were Asian and her first 4 kids were half Asian including my mom. So I grew up surrounded by my Chinese family. Unfortunately, I did not get any Asian genes😔 (I was the only odd one🤦🏻♀️)but you are right everything is fast paced😂 even though they didnt grow up in China.
When I visited Korea with two big suitcased and a backpack I had to carry them down and up stairs at a subway station and all the young people who could have helped didn’t care at all and walked by except for an old Korean grandpa to whom I felt sorry to let him carry anything but he insisted in helping me 😭 Thank you so much dear grandpa, I will never forget you 😭 I experienced that Korean eldery people are so so much more helpful. Another example was when I visited the Bulguksa temple, there were quite big stairs and a group of grandmas noticed me wanting to go downstairs and one of them held my hand and led me down 🩷 Thank you grandma 🫶
an elder Korean metro worker directed my friend and I to the elevators when he saw us (with our heavy suitcases) walking towards the stairways of the subway exit
you should expect others to help, if they help you fine, you can't be mad at them because they didn't help you. You have put yourself in this kind of situation
@@pkhaloobonaccio9883 I didn’t expect anything, I was just very surprised that young people who obviously were physically stronger did not decide to help while elder people who could have injured themselves were so much more willing to help. That just made me emotional in that situation
One thing I noticed in Korea was that people would bump into you or bump their shoulders on yours and not even stop to apologize. And I’m not talking about light tap or something like that. I would be losing my balance and the person who bumped into me would just go on with their day without even acknowledging my existence
YES. This! Literally the people would bump into me and some older folks even elbowed me very hard when we were trying to get into elevators. I was so shocked and they didn’t even apologize
Nah that's when I'd lose it 👏🏻 cause that triggers me into wanting to punch someone. I hate being brushed off, or pushed, or even slightly touched by strangers. It would not end well 😂
I seen this happen in the US between non Koreans and the guy who did it was hurt and embarrassed. The woman he did this too saw him coming and warned him. He ignored her she shored up and he spun, fell and slid sideways in the mud. The next day he was in a sling.
Thank you, these small anecdotes should help people understand that America isn’t some place of assholes, we get a bad rep from media and our government
This is so surprising to me because I thought Korean culture really values respect. There's this whole hierarchy thing of respecting your elders and showing you acknowledge them or are greeting them, so I thought it would extend to being respectful of strangers.
This is usually applicable for Korean elders, they don't do this often to foreigners. Sometimes foreigners are treated like an entire different species
As a korean, I learned from my parents not only to be respectful for others but also to be on guard towards strangers. I think that's why koreans don't smile to strangers or make eye contact with strangers. Usually the younger cares much more about this and elders are less likely and easily be helpful for others. But I swear that you ask sth politely and show that you aren't harmful, most of koreans will show their best for you😅
Something also happened with my friend a drunk guy tried to drag my friend in car and she was shouting but people were just staring and they just opened their car window and stare and did nothing 😭 and then he was shouting and cursing at her and pushed her
While I was living in Korea, I was carrying two big suitcases by myself, someone CLEARLY saw me and then proceeds to close the door in my face 😑 Edit: For clarification, I am not saying all Koreans are like this, so let's not villainize the *entire* country. I'm just sharing a funny experience.
That exact situation happened to me too 😭 also just in general, Koreans don’t offer to help carrying something even if you’re obviously struggling.. they just stare and keep walking
@@ThingsUShouldLike, I would say that is not a general thing. Last year I was in Korea and I was struggling with my luggage in the metro and some random person came to help me.
Its weird that Korean have specified more polite way to speak to elder while they wont hold the door for the next person… or appreciate and acknowledge when others does… 😂
Something also happened with my friend a drunk guy tried to drag my friend in car and she was shouting but people were just staring and they just opened their car window and stare and did nothing 😭 and then he was shouting and cursing at her and pushed her
@@tharushafernando4410I’ve lived in Seoul for 7 years. Strangers would take so much time out of their days to help me. They are on average some of the most kind and competent people. This channel just likes to shit on them I swear.
@@betterdrugsthanyoursI thought the guy explaining his experience was Korean. 🤔 there are many pros and cons in every country! For example when I was pregnant in central America I never had to stand in line for anything because they would have an express lane for elderly and also pregnant women. If I was in a bus or public place and all seats were occupied someone would always offer their seat for me. This was very helpful as we cant be on our feet due to swelling. Here in the US I went to the grocery store and when I was getting my card at the checkout I realized I left my wallet. A very kind man behind me saw my concern because they were closing and I wouldn’t have time to make another trip and he paid for over $20 in groceries. I felt so embarrassed but the items were for my kids breakfast the next morning. I was very greatful! Regardless of where we are there will be good and bad people or even just indifferent people.
@@rogue1537 Of course but I also think a lot of foreigners in Asia (I also lived in China for 3 years) make the decision to visit or even live here and then complain that it is not like their native country. They make zero attempt to assimilate and instead expect the locals to adapt to THEIR culture. They don’t understand the nuances of the politics/language/culture/traditions but criticize it regardless and see it as inferior to their own values. It is incredibly arrogant and disrespectful ie. what 1975 just did in Malaysia. Just look at the comment section on 90% of this channel’s videos. It is all foreigners who have never been to Korea for any extended period of time judging Koreans for being judgmental with a complete lack of self awareness to their own hypocrisy. Projecting their insecurities into an entire country that they have zero understanding of.
In india whenever I had held the door for someone they just smiled at me and that's what I have done too when someone held the door for me I also smile just that smile was enough to say yes we are thankful and appreciate it.
Yet there has been instances where people in India don't even glance in my direction while I'm holding the bloody door open for them. 😂 What I've noticed is that youngsters are the most appreciative of such small gestures but middle-aged people are the worst. Nonetheless I still continue to hold doors open for people because I don't want to change a good habit just because of some rude entitled people.
I agree. America is an amazing country with great people and culture. It’s a shame no one recognizes the good and only focuses on the bad. We have more good than bad, but people seem to prefer negatives.
@@Medi_us yeah, everyone wants to complain about our country it seems. Well if it’s so bad here, how about they leave and see how much they like it in other countries!😂
I’m live in the Midwest, that would not go over well here. Here we say thank you for everything, smile at every stranger (if in a crowd, only if your eyes meet), and we could possibly stay a good 5-10 minutes holding the door open if a big enough stream of people is coming in (think events). It’s kind of funny that a country that has such an intricate honorific system doesn’t also have a lot of social obligations towards strangers. But I guess that does kind of make sense, because what we can manners in the USA is a lot like just being friendly, but in South Korea, you aren’t supposed to be friendly to people who are older than you, you are expected to be subservient. And I guess friendliness can come off as you wanting something in return, so the lack of acknowledge could be a defense against strangers who might try to take advantage. If that’s the case, I hope that anyone visiting the USA from South Korea are informed beforehand that Americans will be “overly” friendly and aren’t all trying to scam them.
Yep, you're absolutely right! As you stated all the honorific mannerisms but it goes out the door if you need them to help you if you have a full arm of things, lol😅! SMH, whatever, just bizarre. Again, they need an update, get electric doors! 😣
@@garlicgirl3149 That right there. Btw, off subject. Do you love garlic? I'm asking because of your thread name. I Love Garlic, it's so healthy for you. Also, cast off unwanted attention @ times. Works for me😁🤣🤣🤣! I don't like unwarranted attention. I like Peacefulness and not to Share @ times! 🤣🤣🤣
Right in the Midwest you’ll be holding the door for a group of people and then someone from another group will notice and feel bad that you’ve been holding it for so long that they offer to take over being the door holder and then they’ll hold it for a bunch of people 😂❤ Or the uno reverse when you walk in a double door entrance and you hold the first door, and then the person that you held it for will open the second door and hold it for you 😂😂
I remember one time holding the door for a Korean couple and the women bowed and said thank you, but she seemed very happy that I held the door for the both of them which I thought was sweet since people in the uk just say thank you and carry on, even my friend noticed and asked me “why did she just bow?” And then asked “why was she so happy that you held the door for her?” I’m guessing my gesture was just a cultural shock for her.
in korea a lot of people on the streets dont even want you talking to them, they just want to go on with their day and ignore anyone and everyone they see
NYC is a lot like that. It’s rare to meet nice people to talk to. Everyone will mostly ignore you. I learned that the first time I went there in 2005 and was happy to have GPS on my phone the subsequent times I’ve been there since.
@@ntmn8444I heard about a study about people actually getting offended about others holding doors opening for others up north. Down South I always say, “you don’t have to run,” and it’s the same with me. You basically have to jog because people open doors for people across parking lots. I’ve been astounded about the amount of kindness I’ve experienced from everyone I’ve encountered lately. People going way above and beyond in too many situations it’s like YT videos you see where people say, “more people should be like this.” I just feel like I’m living those YT vids. I’ve always said that’s the main reason I’d never leave the South. You try to go to the grocery store sometimes and leave knowing someone’s life story…I can’t imagine not acknowledging people. I have heard a few people say it’s fake kindness, but I can tell you it’s absolutely not.
It's 100% me and I see nothing bad about that. I just don't like people, but I am from Russia. Such ignorant bastards can be from any county across the world
I've also been to some east counties that are considered to be "warmer" than west countries. People think that there everybody would surely don't mind to interact with you with their heart open... But... In reality it's not the case Believe it or not but nowadays most people in their everyday life would rather not communicate to strangers on the streets
Holding the door and saying thank you when someone does it for you is common courtesy and good manners. It would irritate me if someone let the door go in my face! 😠
Yeah in general it’s something literally everyone does in the US. People I don’t know will hold the elevator doors for me like from 50 ft away bc we all know it’s such a pain to have to catch the next one 😂
@@ExLibris-Alys Yes its just good and basic manners to do so. I hope that it doesnt get eroded by bad mannerd ignorant people. At least some manners are still remaining here in England. Social niceties must be preserved.
@@LotsielotsYes, but I can't really blame South Koreans. Imagine if you were never taught to hold open a door for people. If someone did, it probably would be kind of like, "What? That's odd." Or "Oh .. thank you?" Type reaction. I think it's only perceived as basic manners because the country you may live in follows it so everyone knows it. In a country where it's not taught, the people would have never been taught that while growing up. It's a culture thing
@@pandaevenstarit's not only in US. it's pretty universal I am middle eastern and we do it too and many Europeans Africans also do it. it's just courtesy. S.Korea and Japan are the odd ones
It’s so true. I remember my momma teaching me to hold the door open for others by the time I was 7. I find other cultures beautiful, but wouldn’t change being an American from the heartland for anything.
Because it’s essentially forcing someone to interact w you. Although you might see it as a courtesy it can feel coercive for some people to be forced to talk to or thank people for something they didn’t ask you for.
It's really commonplace in Australia too so since moving here (SK), while I might get some acknowledgement for holding the door open because I'm so clearly foreign, it's the having to actively avoid having the door slam in my face because no one holds it for you that irks me 😅
idk about korea specifically, but ive even found that in some countries where they dont hold doors open for you despite you being 30cm behind them, they sometimes actively pull the door closed a bit behind them😭 so i really will just bounce my head off the door
I saw in a interview, if a pregnant lady's starts labour pain in public place, none approach her to help rather they feel disgusted & ignore..japan & korea have this problem. & mainly this problem created bcz the whole nation is overworked right after their birth..students have to overstudy for 16 hours.. Working hour is like 12-14hours..Everyone grow up with irritations & fustration which lead them to become materialistic & selfish.. Government should step out & treat the citizens as human
That's fascinating... they have so many rules regarding respect towards elders like bowing or adding a word at the end of the pronoun/name to show seniority, but don't hold doors for them lol
Well, I live in Japan but I've seen a lot of people holding doors when there are old people or kids around. Maybe you felt that way because you were in Tokyo or some other big cities, but Japanese people have totally different personalities depending on the region. It is impossible to know everything about Japan after just one year in Japan, and you should quit generalizing like "oh, Japan and Korea are exactly the same".
I'm Mexican and where I live we do that too. When I was in Korea I did the same thing and I was surprised that they didn't looked at me, no even once, it was a cultural shock for me.
Koreans manners obviously appears rude for westerners. Especially how they generally treat delivery men, cashiers, hotel staffs. Basically taking stuffs in a angry way without greeting for example. Not holding the door is only one of the things
@@coleslow5519 do you have something productive to say or are you just riding the "I call everyone Karen to shut them up" train. In that case you are outdated.
I do remember people ignoring me or looking definitely surprised, especially guys who would thank me profusely when I held the doors, living in Korea lmao
I'm from Africa. I was new in the UK in 2020 and carrying 2 big heavy suitcases in the train station tunnels struggling to get them down the stairs. 2 young black men helped me and I was so grateful. When I was in university in Malaysia, I'd hold building or elevator doors open for others who'd ignore me when they walked in. Me and my Yemeni friend in a wheelchair took an uber and the driver didn't bother to help me fold open or close her wheelchair and put it in/take it out the trunk. Left me to do it myself and it was not easy and quite heavy.
aww too bad you have to experienced that here in Malaysia, coz for me, most of the time, as in this matter, holding out the door for others, Malaysian still have the courtesy to glance and smile the least, some do say thank you too. probably it depends on the individual.. hope you don't hate Malaysia for that,do visit us some times 😄
@@TheNinjaBussiness Don't worry about it. There's some great Malaysians who were good to me too. And I have some of my best friends out there from my uni days.
That is true for China as well. I have never seen people holding door for the next person when I was growing up in China. However, I noticed the people in the U.S does it all the time and now I start doing it as well. I think these small gestures are nice and maybe that is one of the little reason that I like to live here. Sometimes even stranger are nice to each other
I’m doing my best to change this part of the culture 😂 I’m living in Korea now and continue to hold the door open. Hoping someone makes me go viral and it becomes a new trend lolll
my Korean tour guide literally warned us before we took our first public transport that we should expect a lot of pushing from the locals even though they could've swerved, and to not expect any "excuse me" from them. Lots of shoulder checks during that trip.😂
Yes! Totally agree. I actually had to get out of the habit during my study abroad. I was more mindful about holding the door open for elders, children, or pregnant woman though. They seemed to welcome the gesture more.
I find that Americans who cross in front of you will also always say EXCUSE ME and PARDON ME all the time when reaching over you to get something they need and the person should always respond with “it’s okay” “no problem” or “go ahead” but when it’s Asian people especially Chinese, and Korean they never even acknowledge you….I find it extremely rude and off putting. I just have to remind myself it’s just difference in culture. Out of all the Asians I find Filipino to be the kindest and most respectful.
I think it can be applied in Japan too? As Japanese, I experienced the opposite cultural shock in the US when I studied abroad! Everyone held a door open till I went through, I was like how nice Americans were💓😂 American people definitely do that way more often than people in Japan!
Amen. It's so RUDE when I hold the door or when my 9 y/o holds the door for someone & they walk right through and SAY NOTHING. I'm sorry but NO. Or I'm right behind you & I KNOW you see me & let the door slam in my face or my kids face!!!!! Unacceptable 😡 I ALWAYS hold the door and now that I'm getting older & our culture is getting out of control... Every time I hold the door for someone & they don't say anything, I say "Your Welcome." - If someone doesn't teach them, who will????
My co-worker asked me about a culture shock I had. This was also the example I gave her too. She basically said it's because they have tunnel vision when they are going somewhere. We laughed it off, but I've noticed recently that now the teachers hold the door for each other .
Yeah, you go out for a walk around the neighborhood and everybody waves at you, there's always a smile, even ppl in their cars passing by would wave at you.
Aah I remember this. When I was in Korea and held the door for people, they’d just zoom through without saying anything, and then I’d have doors slammed in front of me by men and women alike. I was surprised, and made me appreciate the hospitality we have at home 😅
From my point of view its a nice and respectfull gesture to hold the door for others ...i would find it very rude when i be near the door and the person before me dont care that I'm coming..greatings from middle europe ..also common is it if the eyes meet on the street to send a nice smile to people i pass on my way....i like that...😊
Do people smile at each other randomly or is a behavior from women to men and vice versa? Would a man randomly smile to a man? I am from Souther Europe, I think you ‘ll say it doesn’t depend on the gender but I am curious and had to ask.
@@martafiord I dont know how men are managing the smile thing.. but I as a woman do it to men or women on the street .if the eyes meet a little smile follows...
@@prich7989 this can be problematic though because it’s normally a learnt behavior that aligned with the teachings of patriarchy: women must be pleasing and caring and helpful, etc. It is a very complicated thing to discuss obviously in UA-cam, but me, as a woman, have learned that behavior and although I have it internalized, I am annoyed of people always expecting me to be smiley and polite etc. It’s a social pressure to women by patriarchy. Anyway, just some thoughts
I go to a english university, i always hold the door open for anyone, some people will acknowledge and say thank you or smile, whilst others will just continue to walk, it doesnt deoend on your culture or beliefs, but anyone who shows a little kindness, like holding the door open, deserves my respect for them, it honestly makes my day 💛
That's very common in Mexico too. Also saying "good morning/evening" to strangers (in an elevator for example) or "buen provecho" that means "enjoy your food" on small restaurants or taquerías.
Americans don't realize this, but as a foreigner now living in the US, Americans are some of the most tender and kind people I know. And I've lived in 3 different countries besides the US.
My Japanese teacher was saying just the other day how here in Melbourne, it's so normal to say "thank you" to the bus driver when getting off, or the cashier at the store. But in Japan, unless you live in a small town, it really isn't
I totally feel this. I stayed in France for 5 years and then back home to Indonesia. When I was in France I learned that people just hold door for other people and they would say thank you. I feel that it is expected there as part of the culture. Since I came back to my home country, I still do this but just like this guy, I notice that people really don't care that a stranger holding the door for them. Be it young, old, women, men, a mom and her baby, a dad and her baby, from my experience, they all don't care. They don't even look at you. I mean this is a country that is proud of being friendly and I believe we are friendly in general towards foreigner. But yeah not part of the culture ... I still do it though.
It’s a reverse culture shock for me. Grew up in Thailand but later moved to the US, so I started holding doors for others. But when I come to Thailand, people close doors on my face 😅
I grew up in Texas, and interactions like these are commonplace. Holding the door open for strangers, cracking jokes in the grocery line and getting people to laugh through the mundane. I've written poetry about conversing with strangers at my lowest points, and how important these little gestures can be can be for humans. I moved near Los Angeles for several years, and I definitely noticed people did these things way less. Not NEVER, but enough to be noticeable, or they would be taken back/confused by me doing something. People were just in their own little worlds and I'd feel a little disconnect/discouraged when they wouldn't even look at you. I often got told I was "too nice" like, I'm just interacting with the people/world around me? After gaining perspective from this type of person/culture, they saw being "nice" as manipulative, or that you MUST have some ulterior motives. Like, if you do something for me, you're going to want something from me in return, or it opens doors to complications. Like geeze, I'm opening a door for you, you think I'm gonna ask to sleep on your couch if you say "thank you"? or something? I wonder if it's a similar perspective over in SK
Rude. Cultural differences, maybe, but lack of manner nonetheless. A thank you, a nod, a smile... so easy and simple ! I don't understand. I feel sorry for him that people don't acknowledge his small gesture of kindness and hope he will still continue to be kind to strangers regardless. There will be people who are appreciative, I know I would.
Korea used to be a country that values family, and respecting elders(not just on power trips but actually respecting old people)But Now they are so hungry to get successful that they forget the importance of family, and they even forget their manners. Became robots who make money, and spend money on luxury goods.
Honestly for me when I moved to the states from korea, holding the door for others was the biggest surprise that Im still not used to. This might be just me, but while I do feel thankful for the person, I get anxious bc I feel like I have to get to the door faster to not let them wait.
Haha, that's a rite of passage. Happens to us all where we have to jog up to the door for someone who was just a bit too far ahead of you and where it wouldn't have been rude for them not to hold the door but they are so you have to hurry up.
I’m in Korea and I open the door for everybody. This lady could be 10 seconds away and I hold it open for her. Haha And they don’t say anything … I love it …
@@이효민-w8hI live in France and it happens to me to do it, people have done it to me too and when it happens people are always very grateful for the effort
@@이효민-w8hyeah atleast thanks or eye contact gesture is okay as some people are shy and not speak their true gesture also and as korea is like more people are busy in themselves and closed for other unknown people
@@이효민-w8husually people are willing to hold the door as long as it takes…no rush. If they see you’re too far behind them and don’t want to wait, they wouldn’t be holding the door.
He is right we open the door for anyone-man, women, older, younger!! And yes majority of the time people will say thank you or at least show by their body language they appreciate it.
The Art of the Door-Hold! Too prevent from standing there all day, just hold the door halfway so the person behind you know that you didn't let the door close on them. But they have to catch it themselves. 😂😂😂 When my son was 8 years old he would get stuck holding the door forever😅. (He would just hold the door for women and old people) They thought he was so cute and always complimented me on his manners. But he said Mama no will take the door from me. There sould be a rule that after 5 people you have to take the door. So he came up with this strategy of the halfway gesture!
This is quite common in Asia. Coming from Europe, I am still surprised majority of people don’t hold the door when they clearly know there are others coming their way. It doesn’t mean they are unfriendly or unkind though. It’s just not a part of manners that get taught.
Not same for all Asian countries,being an Indian we definitely recognise people. It is common for us to great each other and to be polite and helpful to strangers.
If you mean east asia then say EAST asia. In central asia people are ready to share a home with you just to make sure you have a roof over your head and food in your stomach as a guest of their country.
Same here in Australia, we always hold doors open for others and even let them go first, after you. It’s just good manners isn’t it and also offer help if you see someone in need?
I live in korea and most common place is mostly city people dont say thank you when you hold the door etc but in small towns or big ones too all the people are nice they hold the door for you even the workers take they're time to go and opan a door for you
That's why I personally believe that if someone wants to explore any country then they should visit small Town and villages to know the real culture and real family of that country Villages and small Town are real gem of any country
ik a lot of people are talking about how lonely it must be there but honestly I thrived in Korea, no one really bothered me or talked to me and its really an introverts dream. I did have friends there but friends are friends and strangers are strangers ykwim? the only time I was spoken to in public was when another foreigner spotted me, another foreigner, and decided to spark up a conversation and wouldn't you know it hes American!
Lol they have one of the highest suicide rates in the world so I’m sure even this plays a role in why mental health in Korea is lacking. It’s actually sad. People don’t look out for each other
Aww oh no that is so sad! We are all humans, interactions are so important for us all. Especially kindness, brightens up our days and helps us feel less lonely.
As an introvert, sometimes I hate when people hold the door for me. 😂 Because then I have to smile and say thank you. I just want to be invisible today, thanks. 🙈
when I went over to Korea last year I would do the same thing and hold doors open for those near me when I’m entering or exiting because it’s just a habit for me. I didn’t experience any ignoring of my presence or anything but Koreans would be a bit shy or awkward and I guess maybe it’s because I’m a girl, I don’t really know. but there was one time I was leaving myeongdong station and there was a group of elderly ppl behind me so I held the door open for them and they were a bit surprised but were very appreciative.
YES!!! THANK YOU!!!! 😂I'm from Oklahoma, and when I open the doors for people, they act like the door just magically opened for them and keep on walking with no acknowledgment. 😂 I occasionally still do it out of habit, but I've mostly stopped. Lol
I was just in South Korea and I had heard this before visiting and out of habit held the door open to let someone carrying a bike through an underground mall door leave before I entered and got a really kind thank you, in Korean ofc
I thought every human with good upbringing holds the door open as a natural gesture of politeness. Don t they hold the door for their mothers who carry heavy things ? It s the last country i expected to not do that considering how much emphasis they have on family life.
Like in dating I heard Korean men do open the door, pull the chair for their girl,which my country's men don't understand (like they don't understand "treat your girl well " concept")I am sure Koreans do it for their family/friends.But they don't acknowledge stranger's gestures at all
@@SadiaIslamShouki regarding their traditional confucian view of life i thought the door opening thing would be a part of ”respect your elders thingy“ . Ehh whatever.
The fact that he had to keep reiterating "I don't expect anything in return"🥺 like it's okayyyyyy that you were just used to another form of behavior but you still going out of your way to help random strangers, knowing you won't get any recognition in return, shows such a kind heart
You can tell the gesture is coming from a genuine place because there aren’t any expectations for reciprocation attached
@@pericopinero1035no you can tell it doesn’t.
He repeats it a lot trying to convince himself he doesn’t but clearly he’s missing some form of gratitude in his own life so he’s seeking it from randoms so much to a point he’s on UA-cam talking about it.
Kinda sad dude needs more people in his life.
@@thekidd2323understand that we can all feel this way, show gratitude for the possibility of people(the small things we choose notice), nothing is permanent and to say it is sad is rude. it is a reality, a reality we can show appreciate and gentleness towards while still being honest. be kind, be good, everyone's going thru something
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@@BLALS32 just admit you're jealous, be good and kind. There's enough negativity ☹️😕shame on you
I can understand why Koreans struggle so much with loneliness when no one will acknowledge you in situations like this. It must feel like you are in your own world or invisible.
You are right
But when you dress or look slightly different or generally different, then all of a sudden, you're visible, everyone is weirdly looking at you😂😂
maryamelfaruk8289 I’ve been in Korea for the last couple of months and no one in Korea looks at you even if you look really out of place. They’re literally always on their phones or just looking straight ahead with headphones on. They don’t even acknowledge you unless you accidentally bump into them, and then you exchange sorrys and that’s it
@@maryamelfaruk8289the older people might comment on your looks but in Seoul no matter how you look you’re getting ignored. They don’t do small talk. If a stranger approaches you and starts a conversation on the street it’s probably a cult member out recruiting
@@Fartsquad_ i think they will look at you for a bit then ignore cause its not their business so they just dont care. Its also like that here on japan so im assuming its the same thing for korean people too?
I’m 18 male and I was walking out of a restaurant one evening, and I saw an elderly black lady walking towards the door so I opened it for her and her reaction was so sweet, she said, “ Ahh, why thank you, your such a gentleman.” The way she said was so kind, it put a huge smile on my face.
Getting compliments from elderly women is the best thing istg
@@ic4nsuHonestly. It feels good all the way to my bones.
Normal
Lovely
U want a cookie
Why both of them have such soothing and smooth voices??? Like I want them to read me a bed side story
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I agree 🫣
Totally 😂😂😂😂
Yes
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A friend of mine recently moved to America for school and he said the first thing he noticed is that Americans acknowledge people around them. He said he never noticed how isolating South Korea was. People don’t acknowledge you in South Korea. He said and I quote, “it makes me very very sad for my little brother. I don’t want him to be ignored. I want him to be seen.”
that is exactly the first thing i thought of. i’ve been deciding on whether to transfer colleges on a student visa to South Korea or not, but as I am learning about their culture I am getting very discouraged on doing so. being a foreigner from America and loving small interactions with strangers, random conversations with great people, smiles from others at random, opening doors for the elderly that opens for convo… the disconnect in South Korea can be very isolating and depressing. Especially as a foreigner open to wanting to make friends in an area you don’t know anyone, I couldn’t imagine not getting a smile back on a random day or being ignored by everyone, no eye contact or simple have a good days. I follow many people who have chosen to work in South Korea as a foreigner, they all have one thing in common saying how lonely it is and how they’ll often break down because they don’t have anyone to talk to in South Korea. having phone calls and facetimes from distant family and friends can only help so much!
@@Monica-yu2wd don’t smile at strangers in Korea, that’s weird and not necessary. If you want to be friendly then you can do it with your friends
@@samgyeopsal569 I say~~ don't smile at young people in Korea. They will def find it weird. But, I smile at 아줌마 /아저씨 all the time and have even exchanged numbers with a few if them because of it. I had one say I can call him 아빠 because I reminded him of his daughter and he hoped that being kind to me would bring kindness to his daughter ,who was studying in the U.S - same major too!
@@Monica-yu2wd I've been living here for 2 years. It really seems that Seoul is more isolating than other parts of Korea, alot of other smaller cities and towns have a tight knit foreigner community and in my experience ( and those of my friends) the local Koreans tend to check in on you. I remeber when I caught covid, so many people left fruit at my door, i was so touched. They are often worried that you are lonely. I was told it's called 정 .
@@Lxmxn97 this makes my heart happy ❤️ I’m so glad they did that for you ❤️ I lived in Germany for a few months during college and while German is my first language, I am American and for some reason, the town I was in didn’t like me much (I’m a gay man and present slightly “country lumberjack”) so they assumed I was “lying to them, and hiding behind my gay agenda” lol it was slightly isolating and they refused to talk to me in German and only spoke in English which frustrated me 😅 I moved from Munich to Berlin and once in Berlin I found an amazing group of people and stayed in Berlin for 9 months before I moved back in early 2020 right before covid 😅🥴
Holding the door for strangers is so common in the U.S. that when I don't or realize too late that I should have held it, I feel a small sense of shame like, "Man, I really hope they don't think I'm a snob now."
Rightt it feels mean
Me cuz sometimes I really don’t be paying attention to ppl behind me and then I end up shutting the door on their face by accident
I have literally turned around and apologized for not holding the door.
Exactly! For some reason, I think this would be one of the biggest culture shocks for me if I ever get the chance to go to Korea. I don't think I'd get shocked much, but this is something so second nature to me.
Me too.
I hope he can keep on doing it even if its seen as strange. Being nice is nice and even if the other person doesn't recognize it, it still good for your soul.
魂？あなたは何について話ですか?😂😂😂
@@aik936then what are you talking about huh
@@aik936frl what are you talking ab ? 😂
I don’t know, doing it a lot while not receiving anything could also be annoying in the end of the day
Problem is people that hold open doors in Korea end up holding it for minutes upon minutes as everyone keeps walking through and you never get a chance to stop and go in after them unless you just walk through in front of someone and give up and “be the asshole” in your own eyes :( lol
Even people you would literally NEVER interact with in any other situation will hold the door open for you or at the very least, give it a wide push so it's still open for you when you get to it. 😂
The wide push LOL
The wide push hehe 😂 same in Bulgaria and in Austria
Same in the Netherlands 🤣
In Germany we usually hold the door open, while at the same time also walking into the direction we need to go. So when the other person still takes some time to reach the door, it is oftentimes basically somebody leaning back, having nothing left but their hand on the door, over stretching their arm and waiting until the other person reached the door lol.
Yes same here in Canada. It's just a culture thing
it’s human decency. If someone does u a favor…you show gratitude.
It's not our culture so ppl don't even recognize it as a "kind gesture". You shouldn't expect what is considered mannered in your country is same in other countries
That’s a very ethnocentric perspective.
I think it's partly because Asian populations are so dense. We have lots of elbow room in the States.
@@inquistionofknowledgeI also agree w you. "Truth" is subjective. It's even biological. The brain edits our memories of the day every night when we sleep, & we have no conscious control over this editing.
@@leak3856 It's literally a BASIC Human decency! Not a culture.. & thanking someone for a good gesture should be common everywhere! Well, Except To The ALIENS LOL
I’ve been in korea for two weeks and tbh this is something i cannot get used to, people genuinely don’t help each other out here or even acknowledge each other it’s so bizarre… I was in hongdae the other night and this very clearly underaged girl collapsed to the ground and not one person even acknowledged her. I literally picked her up off the ground myself while 2 men just stood there and watched. Weirdest thing ever, she was so young too like???
Update: I've read a lot of the replies.. to be clear this girl looked about 15 years old, and when I say collapsed I don't mean she fell, I mean she literally went unconscious momentarily. It wasn't a matter of embarrassment. She was so drunk to the point I wondered if someone drugged her, but I think it was likely just alcohol poisoning. It was really terrifying and I am a student nurse so my immediate instinct was to respond and make sure she wasn't dead or someone kidnaps her. My Korean sucks too, but I was able to communicate with her. It turns out she was there with her sister and after she threw up, I got her some water and we found her sister.... but my god, shame on her for letting her little sister get so drunk and not even keep an eye on her.
Also.. I am not trying to paint Koreans in a bad light whatsoever. I enjoyed Korea a lot, and Koreans are generally friendly and kind. I had a lot of wholesome interactions while there, but socially this was something I noticed that I couldn't really understand because in my community people always watch out for each other, especially women.
that’s so scary!!! thank goodness you were there to help! community is one of the biggest human experiences and that means helping others when needed, South Korea is very lacking in that part. I can’t stand when others are passive and ignore people that need help or assistance when they are fully able and capable enough to provide help 🥲
Well, south korea dont have the good samaritan law (which could apply to this case), so they wont help you brcusse they could be criminally charged if somethin happens.
Omg that poor girl. Thank the lord you were there for her. It’s strange that South Korean people are like this. Again it is a culture thing :// but still…
Wow that is definitely truly very strange and weird…definitely not normal at all. I have never seen a reaction like that from a human…Koreans seem like aliens from another planet
that’s disturbing
For 6 yrs I have been coming back & forth to korea, it's still shocking how people just don't care for others. They will see you struggling and will just walk away. I always wondered why they always struggle to be nice to others but it's so easy for them to insult & criticise, it's indeed depressing. Nobody pays attention when you're doing good but when you've done wrong they're suddenly all nosy and have lots of opinion, it's like everybody's waiting for you to make a mistake.
Exactly
Wow…I didn’t realize it was this bad. But it really does cost nothing to be nice to the next person. Indeed, media is manipulative cos I wouldn’t have believed this from the media they put out about themselves.
@@music4ursenses185 it's sad for real, I was an Esl in SK tho, lots of my students doesn't have confidence and are timid because of such environment. They don't get that much praise and appreciation for their hardwork in their academics and they're always compared, so I make sure to always compliment and reward in their every progress in our class to make them feel better. They visited me in my home country when I went home.
Why do you think it's like this? Now I get why there's so much suicide there and also the amount of hate that happens among kpop fans.
I have a penpal from korea and she is the kindest korean I've ever met, she sent me flowers pictures whenever she passed them on the street, and make me a snowman. But we lost contact after she graduated from college, I hope she have a good life there since last time she have struggle here and there, things that I notice is even though we're penpal for like 2 years it's still not easy for them to being open and telling their private life, it's like they're hiding their problem instead of trusting someone to have talk about it. Other korean I met online are mostly like to show off their expensive stuff, lifestyle and food.
Him Repeatedly saying "Which I don't expect them to" just breaks my heart.
I had doors slamming on my face in Korea. Not a common gesture there 😂
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Same here😂
Yes they're so racist
Same here 😅 I was a kid when it first happened. When I went back to the US I started to check if someone was behind me to keep the door open for them. I didn’t realize how rude it was until it happened to me 😂
Yeah. It was terrible for me too. Ajushis would cut the line in front of me too. Some experiences there, I did not appreciate.
I used to hold doors open for people in Korea. They just walk in without acknowledging you like you're a door holder. I don't do it anymore.
I always hold the door open for people in Korea if they are close or if they have a stroller or kids. I've always gotten a thank you or at the very least a glance with a nod. I always think it's interesting when I hear how people have experiences with people ignoring them holding the door open.
Once when I was in US I held the door and 1 korean family passed without any expression they got out they did not see, smile or even glance at me. I felt embarrassed and horrible. I couldn't sleep that night thinking about it.
@@ritikamahajan3216Damn. You shouldn’t lose sleep over people like that. I used to feel the same, but these days when people are strange or rude I choose to laugh about it and think, “At least I’m not like that.” It’s more uplifting for me and I can go on about my day feeling better.
Please don’t let their behavior ruin yours. 🙆🏻♀️❤️🔥👀 CONTINUE TO TREAT OTHERS LIKE YOU WANT TO BE TREATED. 🙋🏻♀️🇺🇸👍🏽
Omg, if it was me, i would close the door midway, to make them stuck in most discomfort situation. and if they dare to look at me in disbelief, i will act like i just dont see them at all.
That is the one thing that as an American I'm proud of and happy when I see it. A small little gesture of kindness to a stranger just saying here you go, hope your day is a little easier. It's nice with all the other bs going on
Yupppp. Went to Korea and also happened to me. When I asked for help with directions they seemed super visibly annoyed and I felt very bad for asking. After awhile I stopped asking and just accepted it if I got lost lol. In Japan though, they saw me visibly lost and came to my rescue without me asking. They would even try to translate on their own phones just to try to help me. I was so thankful!
Because their are cult recruiters which tactic is to ask directions. It's very common there. That's why they cannot comprehend genuine from the cult, because people nowadays use Kakao map or Google maps.
@@yengcapote7922 that isnt the case all the time . I've seen both easy to spot. We have people like that here in the U.S
For me the experience is very opposite. And it's what it is, just a limited personal experience that can't be applied on millions of people in one country.
i’ve visited korea a lot of times in my life and this wasn’t the case for me ever D: i can admit they don’t acknowledge people as much and they can be silently judgmental, but i’ve asked for help with directions a LOT and they were very kind. someone even came up to me in the subway noticing i was lost and walked me in the right direction. i think your experience is just from your time visiting korea, which isn’t invalid at all, but please don’t use it to generalize an entire culture!
You should study history before you continue talking. If you only knew.
My daughter has been in Korea for a year. One day, she fell down the stairs on her way to the train station. She bruised up pretty bad and her ankle was also pretty swollen. I can tell she had a bad fall. She said no one helped her even though she stayed on the ground for several minutes almost in tears but no one asked if she’s okay or help her get up. She said she’s more hurt inside than outside. 😢We’re from California.
This is unbelievable...
Really bad. I too feel hurted to hear this
Why is she in Korea?
@@iris089 She’s an English teacher
Is she white?
I did it once in Seoul for a granny and she opened the other door 😂
😂😂😂😂 lmfao
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She may confused that you are holding door for someone else which is your company. She may not want to bother you.
I'm glad in the US people still interact even minimally with strangers. Like literal strangers will interact with each other or make friends while being out.
Many people here are kind but not nice.
Most americans can have pleasant interactions with complete strangers, as long as you dont say anything political.
It’s especially common here in Midwest America. So much that there’s the term “midwestern kindness” and it’s usually a culture shock to people who come here for the first time. Complete strangers will talk like they’ve known each other for years. One time I was at a gas station and I turned to the person next to me and said “if you could choose a flavor of this drink, which would you choose?” and they said blueberry and then someone across the store chimed in and said “the strawberry one is really good”. I said id buy both and wished I could tell them my thoughts. I ended up seeing one of the people around town and they remembered me and asked how it was. Simple things like that are so heartwarming.
yeh and get cancelled ok buddy
This is one of the few things I love about the US, just the simple courtesy doing this for someone makes me feel good inside
Its funny that there is like a huge difference in courtesy between states. I didnt realize how different it was until i traveled north to visit my husbands family and me saying Hi to a cashier and asking how they were, was met with wide eyed glances and some serious side eye from people. Apparently we're much friendlier in the south than I'd realized! It's a bit of a shock at how kind of rude some people can seem/be when you get to the northern states. People there find us southerners weird and overly friendly.😂😅
@@Cissablack708I had an uber driver from up north come to the south and he said the same. He felt less isolated and that ppl were friendlier to him in public.
@Piph17 southern hospitality at its finest! 🤌😁
@@Cissablack708where in the North though? I’m guessing East coast. I live in Wisconsin and it would definitely be common here to strike up conversation with a cashier or even a random stranger on the street. It’s that good ol “Midwest nice” 😊
@Cissablack708 I live in NYC and have lived here for 15 years. We don't like small talk, but that is completely different from kindness. It takes nothing to be kind but it takes a lot to make small talk. Nyers are extremely kind but maybe not very nice and that's why people think that people are cold in the north because we won't entertain your small talk when both of us know that neither of us really care and it's just small talk
Aside from judging if it’s right or wrong, this is actually quite common. In my home country in Asia, people are fast-paced and they’re all very impatient. They press the ‘close the door’ button 10 times until the door is fully closed (the button really works). It’s like wasting 10 seconds of their lives if they don’t do so. It’s only when I’ve moved to Australia that I’ve found that people are so friendly and they hold the doors open for you, or even press the ‘open the door’ button and wait for you. And actually I’ve realised that in here a lot of the close buttons aren’t actually programmed to be working 😂 Still, what I said doesn’t represent everyone. There are still good people everywhere.
So I would imagine you pressed the close the door button alot before you realized😂 My grandmas first and third husband were Asian and her first 4 kids were half Asian including my mom. So I grew up surrounded by my Chinese family. Unfortunately, I did not get any Asian genes😔 (I was the only odd one🤦🏻♀️)but you are right everything is fast paced😂 even though they didnt grow up in China.
i think it's only in Eastern. asean countries are kind. they helped hold the door open and said thanks.
When I visited Korea with two big suitcased and a backpack I had to carry them down and up stairs at a subway station and all the young people who could have helped didn’t care at all and walked by except for an old Korean grandpa to whom I felt sorry to let him carry anything but he insisted in helping me 😭 Thank you so much dear grandpa, I will never forget you 😭
I experienced that Korean eldery people are so so much more helpful.
Another example was when I visited the Bulguksa temple, there were quite big stairs and a group of grandmas noticed me wanting to go downstairs and one of them held my hand and led me down 🩷 Thank you grandma 🫶
an elder Korean metro worker directed my friend and I to the elevators when he saw us (with our heavy suitcases) walking towards the stairways of the subway exit
wow, how did the young ppl become so rude when their elders are like that?
you should expect others to help, if they help you fine, you can't be mad at them because they didn't help you.
You have put yourself in this kind of situation
@@pkhaloobonaccio9883 I didn’t expect anything, I was just very surprised that young people who obviously were physically stronger did not decide to help while elder people who could have injured themselves were so much more willing to help. That just made me emotional in that situation
@@mathilda333 people who are less blessed usually help more..
also srry i misconstrued your comment
One thing I noticed in Korea was that people would bump into you or bump their shoulders on yours and not even stop to apologize. And I’m not talking about light tap or something like that. I would be losing my balance and the person who bumped into me would just go on with their day without even acknowledging my existence
This is how I watched an ajusshi and a high school student bumped into each other. They walked away like nothing happened 😂
YES. This! Literally the people would bump into me and some older folks even elbowed me very hard when we were trying to get into elevators. I was so shocked and they didn’t even apologize
Nah that's when I'd lose it 👏🏻 cause that triggers me into wanting to punch someone. I hate being brushed off, or pushed, or even slightly touched by strangers. It would not end well 😂
I seen this happen in the US between non Koreans and the guy who did it was hurt and embarrassed. The woman he did this too saw him coming and warned him. He ignored her she shored up and he spun, fell and slid sideways in the mud. The next day he was in a sling.
Yes, let's wear jacket with spikes/ metal studs shoulders pad and wait for the drama
Thank you, these small anecdotes should help people understand that America isn’t some place of assholes, we get a bad rep from media and our government
This is so surprising to me because I thought Korean culture really values respect. There's this whole hierarchy thing of respecting your elders and showing you acknowledge them or are greeting them, so I thought it would extend to being respectful of strangers.
This is usually applicable for Korean elders, they don't do this often to foreigners. Sometimes foreigners are treated like an entire different species
As a korean, I learned from my parents not only to be respectful for others but also to be on guard towards strangers. I think that's why koreans don't smile to strangers or make eye contact with strangers.
Usually the younger cares much more about this and elders are less likely and easily be helpful for others. But I swear that you ask sth politely and show that you aren't harmful, most of koreans will show their best for you😅
out in the streets aint nobody got time for strangers, unless it's the market, they're not in a rush and most are friendly there if you greet them
I think US and Japan is good in value respect
Something also happened with my friend a drunk guy tried to drag my friend in car and she was shouting but people were just staring and they just opened their car window and stare and did nothing 😭 and then he was shouting and cursing at her and pushed her
While I was living in Korea, I was carrying two big suitcases by myself, someone CLEARLY saw me and then proceeds to close the door in my face 😑
Edit: For clarification, I am not saying all Koreans are like this, so let's not villainize the *entire* country. I'm just sharing a funny experience.
This is a reason why I hate South Korea. I feel sorry for you sister.
That exact situation happened to me too 😭 also just in general, Koreans don’t offer to help carrying something even if you’re obviously struggling.. they just stare and keep walking
I think that person was just rude. 😭
@@ThingsUShouldLike, I would say that is not a general thing. Last year I was in Korea and I was struggling with my luggage in the metro and some random person came to help me.
I was so lucky, there was an ajjussi who came and help me to carry my bag upstairs. There are still nice people in Korea
Here in italy it is considered very polite and people will almost always thank you or smile at you
Its weird that Korean have specified more polite way to speak to elder while they wont hold the door for the next person… or appreciate and acknowledge when others does… 😂
Something also happened with my friend a drunk guy tried to drag my friend in car and she was shouting but people were just staring and they just opened their car window and stare and did nothing 😭 and then he was shouting and cursing at her and pushed her
In korea, do you do small gesture of kindness for other random people? I am just curious.
@@tharushafernando4410I’ve lived in Seoul for 7 years. Strangers would take so much time out of their days to help me. They are on average some of the most kind and competent people. This channel just likes to shit on them I swear.
@@betterdrugsthanyoursI thought the guy explaining his experience was Korean. 🤔 there are many pros and cons in every country! For example when I was pregnant in central America I never had to stand in line for anything because they would have an express lane for elderly and also pregnant women. If I was in a bus or public place and all seats were occupied someone would always offer their seat for me. This was very helpful as we cant be on our feet due to swelling. Here in the US I went to the grocery store and when I was getting my card at the checkout I realized I left my wallet. A very kind man behind me saw my concern because they were closing and I wouldn’t have time to make another trip and he paid for over $20 in groceries. I felt so embarrassed but the items were for my kids breakfast the next morning. I was very greatful! Regardless of where we are there will be good and bad people or even just indifferent people.
@@rogue1537 Of course but I also think a lot of foreigners in Asia (I also lived in China for 3 years) make the decision to visit or even live here and then complain that it is not like their native country. They make zero attempt to assimilate and instead expect the locals to adapt to THEIR culture. They don’t understand the nuances of the politics/language/culture/traditions but criticize it regardless and see it as inferior to their own values. It is incredibly arrogant and disrespectful ie. what 1975 just did in Malaysia. Just look at the comment section on 90% of this channel’s videos. It is all foreigners who have never been to Korea for any extended period of time judging Koreans for being judgmental with a complete lack of self awareness to their own hypocrisy. Projecting their insecurities into an entire country that they have zero understanding of.
In india whenever I had held the door for someone they just smiled at me and that's what I have done too when someone held the door for me I also smile just that smile was enough to say yes we are thankful and appreciate it.
Yess we Indians are the best
Yet there has been instances where people in India don't even glance in my direction while I'm holding the bloody door open for them. 😂 What I've noticed is that youngsters are the most appreciative of such small gestures but middle-aged people are the worst. Nonetheless I still continue to hold doors open for people because I don't want to change a good habit just because of some rude entitled people.
@@sonam9487🤓
@@Commendatori 😂
Dude i have been comlimented so many times in india due to my kindness , but dont know why the complimenta always makes me feek akward 😅
Americans, let’s be grateful for our country. People are generally nice and polite
Depends where you live for one
I agree. America is an amazing country with great people and culture. It’s a shame no one recognizes the good and only focuses on the bad. We have more good than bad, but people seem to prefer negatives.
@@Medi_us yeah, everyone wants to complain about our country it seems. Well if it’s so bad here, how about they leave and see how much they like it in other countries!😂
I’m live in the Midwest, that would not go over well here. Here we say thank you for everything, smile at every stranger (if in a crowd, only if your eyes meet), and we could possibly stay a good 5-10 minutes holding the door open if a big enough stream of people is coming in (think events).
It’s kind of funny that a country that has such an intricate honorific system doesn’t also have a lot of social obligations towards strangers. But I guess that does kind of make sense, because what we can manners in the USA is a lot like just being friendly, but in South Korea, you aren’t supposed to be friendly to people who are older than you, you are expected to be subservient.
And I guess friendliness can come off as you wanting something in return, so the lack of acknowledge could be a defense against strangers who might try to take advantage. If that’s the case, I hope that anyone visiting the USA from South Korea are informed beforehand that Americans will be “overly” friendly and aren’t all trying to scam them.
I'm from the Midwest too, and this is a great point! Never thought of it like that
Yep, you're absolutely right! As you stated all the honorific mannerisms but it goes out the door if you need them to help you if you have a full arm of things, lol😅! SMH, whatever, just bizarre. Again, they need an update, get electric doors! 😣
I was thinking the same thing!!! But I see this is what makes cultures different. We have to understand each other.
@@garlicgirl3149 That right there. Btw, off subject. Do you love garlic? I'm asking because of your thread name. I Love Garlic, it's so healthy for you. Also, cast off unwanted attention @ times. Works for me😁🤣🤣🤣! I don't like unwarranted attention. I like Peacefulness and not to Share @ times! 🤣🤣🤣
Right in the Midwest you’ll be holding the door for a group of people and then someone from another group will notice and feel bad that you’ve been holding it for so long that they offer to take over being the door holder and then they’ll hold it for a bunch of people 😂❤
Or the uno reverse when you walk in a double door entrance and you hold the first door, and then the person that you held it for will open the second door and hold it for you 😂😂
I remember one time holding the door for a Korean couple and the women bowed and said thank you, but she seemed very happy that I held the door for the both of them which I thought was sweet since people in the uk just say thank you and carry on, even my friend noticed and asked me “why did she just bow?” And then asked “why was she so happy that you held the door for her?” I’m guessing my gesture was just a cultural shock for her.
Maybe they are Japanese and you mistook them for Koreans.
@@wavemaker2077 koreans have bowing culture lol
For westerners they show respect with words like thank you , For asians it body langauge like bow
He’s so humble, it’s so wholesome.
in korea a lot of people on the streets dont even want you talking to them, they just want to go on with their day and ignore anyone and everyone they see
NYC is a lot like that. It’s rare to meet nice people to talk to. Everyone will mostly ignore you. I learned that the first time I went there in 2005 and was happy to have GPS on my phone the subsequent times I’ve been there since.
True. Lots of ppl including myself don’t want any type of interaction with strangers.
@@ntmn8444I heard about a study about people actually getting offended about others holding doors opening for others up north. Down South I always say, “you don’t have to run,” and it’s the same with me. You basically have to jog because people open doors for people across parking lots. I’ve been astounded about the amount of kindness I’ve experienced from everyone I’ve encountered lately. People going way above and beyond in too many situations it’s like YT videos you see where people say, “more people should be like this.” I just feel like I’m living those YT vids. I’ve always said that’s the main reason I’d never leave the South. You try to go to the grocery store sometimes and leave knowing someone’s life story…I can’t imagine not acknowledging people. I have heard a few people say it’s fake kindness, but I can tell you it’s absolutely not.
It's 100% me and I see nothing bad about that. I just don't like people, but I am from Russia. Such ignorant bastards can be from any county across the world
I've also been to some east counties that are considered to be "warmer" than west countries. People think that there everybody would surely don't mind to interact with you with their heart open... But... In reality it's not the case
Believe it or not but nowadays most people in their everyday life would rather not communicate to strangers on the streets
Holding the door and saying thank you when someone does it for you is common courtesy and good manners. It would irritate me if someone let the door go in my face! 😠
Yeah in general it’s something literally everyone does in the US. People I don’t know will hold the elevator doors for me like from 50 ft away bc we all know it’s such a pain to have to catch the next one 😂
@@ExLibris-Alys Yes its just good and basic manners to do so. I hope that it doesnt get eroded by bad mannerd ignorant people. At least some manners are still remaining here in England. Social niceties must be preserved.
@@LotsielotsYes, but I can't really blame South Koreans. Imagine if you were never taught to hold open a door for people. If someone did, it probably would be kind of like, "What? That's odd." Or "Oh .. thank you?" Type reaction. I think it's only perceived as basic manners because the country you may live in follows it so everyone knows it. In a country where it's not taught, the people would have never been taught that while growing up. It's a culture thing
@@pandaevenstarit's not only in US. it's pretty universal I am middle eastern and we do it too and many Europeans Africans also do it. it's just courtesy. S.Korea and Japan are the odd ones
@@GodongoLame excuse 🤮
In the south, its almost illegal to NOT open the door for someone. Lol Man or woman, we open doors for our fellow brother & sisters.🙏
It’s so true. I remember my momma teaching me to hold the door open for others by the time I was 7. I find other cultures beautiful, but wouldn’t change being an American from the heartland for anything.
Why don't they acknowledge that politeness though?
Id like to know too..
Because it’s essentially forcing someone to interact w you. Although you might see it as a courtesy it can feel coercive for some people to be forced to talk to or thank people for something they didn’t ask you for.
Also, you have to go through a door even if you’re unsure you want to be in that space, because of the courtesy, and you have to rush in.
@@emismith4655 apparently Koreans really hate interacting with others
Or maybe they were clearly older then him so they think he has to?
It's really commonplace in Australia too so since moving here (SK), while I might get some acknowledgement for holding the door open because I'm so clearly foreign, it's the having to actively avoid having the door slam in my face because no one holds it for you that irks me 😅
That's so interesting, I am Aussie and it is very common in my experience to have the door opened for you and to hold the door for others
idk about korea specifically, but ive even found that in some countries where they dont hold doors open for you despite you being 30cm behind them, they sometimes actively pull the door closed a bit behind them😭 so i really will just bounce my head off the door
I'm Australian and I apologize for their rudeness to you Zoeskye.
@@YassyDK101I think they’re saying they are from Australia and then moved to SK
@@p1kkuma you're right! Just re-read it thanks 😁
I saw in a interview, if a pregnant lady's starts labour pain in public place, none approach her to help rather they feel disgusted & ignore..japan & korea have this problem. & mainly this problem created bcz the whole nation is overworked right after their birth..students have to overstudy for 16 hours.. Working hour is like 12-14hours..Everyone grow up with irritations & fustration which lead them to become materialistic & selfish.. Government should step out & treat the citizens as human
I'm american and studied abroad in japan for a year. It's the same over there. They would let the door close on a little old lady 😭.
That's fascinating... they have so many rules regarding respect towards elders like bowing or adding a word at the end of the pronoun/name to show seniority, but don't hold doors for them lol
Well, I live in Japan but I've seen a lot of people holding doors when there are old people or kids around. Maybe you felt that way because you were in Tokyo or some other big cities, but Japanese people have totally different personalities depending on the region. It is impossible to know everything about Japan after just one year in Japan, and you should quit generalizing like "oh, Japan and Korea are exactly the same".
@@asdfghjjhgf Fair enough.
Ok that’s just silly. An old lady? Like you really don’t need a brain to figure this out to help someone who’s fragile 😳
Wtf?!
I'm Mexican and where I live we do that too. When I was in Korea I did the same thing and I was surprised that they didn't looked at me, no even once, it was a cultural shock for me.
I'm Korean living in Korea and I agree with him. I'm the one who holds the door for others and I hate that culture as well😢
Call it cultural differences...
I call it rude, no matter how you put it.
Facts. If someone holds the door for you, you say thank you or you’re an asshole.
Koreans manners obviously appears rude for westerners. Especially how they generally treat delivery men, cashiers, hotel staffs. Basically taking stuffs in a angry way without greeting for example. Not holding the door is only one of the things
Same. A thank you isn't hard to say.
@@matyuuu honestly, it doesn't "appear" to be rude. It is rude. Just because everyone does it, doesn't make it okay.
@@coleslow5519 do you have something productive to say or are you just riding the "I call everyone Karen to shut them up" train. In that case you are outdated.
I do remember people ignoring me or looking definitely surprised, especially guys who would thank me profusely when I held the doors, living in Korea lmao
I'm from Africa. I was new in the UK in 2020 and carrying 2 big heavy suitcases in the train station tunnels struggling to get them down the stairs. 2 young black men helped me and I was so grateful.
When I was in university in Malaysia, I'd hold building or elevator doors open for others who'd ignore me when they walked in. Me and my Yemeni friend in a wheelchair took an uber and the driver didn't bother to help me fold open or close her wheelchair and put it in/take it out the trunk. Left me to do it myself and it was not easy and quite heavy.
aww too bad you have to experienced that here in Malaysia, coz for me, most of the time, as in this matter, holding out the door for others, Malaysian still have the courtesy to glance and smile the least, some do say thank you too. probably it depends on the individual.. hope you don't hate Malaysia for that,do visit us some times 😄
@@yasleyn1198 no of course not. I still have Malaysian friends who are always good to me. And I love and miss Malaysia a lot 🇲🇾 ❤️
so sad you experience from those people. I am from Malaysia and to hear your experience with bad treatment from these people really ashamed me.
@@TheNinjaBussiness Don't worry about it. There's some great Malaysians who were good to me too. And I have some of my best friends out there from my uni days.
That is true for China as well. I have never seen people holding door for the next person when I was growing up in China. However, I noticed the people in the U.S does it all the time and now I start doing it as well. I think these small gestures are nice and maybe that is one of the little reason that I like to live here. Sometimes even stranger are nice to each other
I’m doing my best to change this part of the culture 😂 I’m living in Korea now and continue to hold the door open. Hoping someone makes me go viral and it becomes a new trend lolll
Yeah that's key😂 When something virals in korea everyone will start to do it because it will be the trend. Nobody there wants to be out of trend.
😹😹😹😹😹😹
politeness, being respectful, and showing manners isn’t something to be a “trend” It’s just common sense and being respectful.
@@idk27212Koreans little rude minds don’t seem to understand that information though.
@@nataliecampos5888 yooooo chill out
He Sounds so respectful...
Great new topic 👍💫
It's good to change to other topics beyond dating and beauty standards.
This situation is giving me flashbacks from "Crash landing on you", where Ri Jeong Hyeok holds open the door for everyone behind him😂
Yes!! That scene makes sooo much sense now 😅
lol me tooooO😂
We hold the door open here in Australia aswell. It's common courtesy
Dont let it stop you boo. Your an ANGEL😊😂
my Korean tour guide literally warned us before we took our first public transport that we should expect a lot of pushing from the locals even though they could've swerved, and to not expect any "excuse me" from them. Lots of shoulder checks during that trip.😂
Wow 🤦🏻♀️😳🤔😢
Thanks for the info! Planning to do hard shoulder checks to every korean i pass by when i go now.
Yes! Totally agree. I actually had to get out of the habit during my study abroad. I was more mindful about holding the door open for elders, children, or pregnant woman though. They seemed to welcome the gesture more.
I find that Americans who cross in front of you will also always say EXCUSE ME and PARDON ME all the time when reaching over you to get something they need and the person should always respond with “it’s okay” “no problem” or “go ahead” but when it’s Asian people especially Chinese, and Korean they never even acknowledge you….I find it extremely rude and off putting. I just have to remind myself it’s just difference in culture.
Out of all the Asians I find Filipino to be the kindest and most respectful.
As a Vietnamese Canadian, I also think Filipinos are the most friendly and kind
as part Filipino, this makes my heart happy
Agree Americans are so polite and very friendly. They not afraid to talk to people.
@@Sibrah04in terms of western nations Americans are actually considered quite rude and inconsiderate by Australians, Brits, Canadians etc
@@rollingthunderinhowere just more outspoken that's all. Yeah the Filipinos are the nicest people in the world that I have ever met.
I think it can be applied in Japan too? As Japanese, I experienced the opposite cultural shock in the US when I studied abroad! Everyone held a door open till I went through, I was like how nice Americans were💓😂 American people definitely do that way more often than people in Japan!
I found that in London. In Scotland we always hold or open the door and give acknowledgment .
It’s good to know we’re still doing something right. God bless the door holders and those that acknowledge them with smiles and thank you’s ❤
Amen. It's so RUDE when I hold the door or when my 9 y/o holds the door for someone & they walk right through and SAY NOTHING. I'm sorry but NO. Or I'm right behind you & I KNOW you see me & let the door slam in my face or my kids face!!!!! Unacceptable 😡
I ALWAYS hold the door and now that I'm getting older & our culture is getting out of control... Every time I hold the door for someone & they don't say anything, I say "Your Welcome." - If someone doesn't teach them, who will????
What a beautiful young man sound so caring
I just shout ‘your welcome’ when someone doesn’t thank me.
Ha!
And how they react😂?
Hahaha. Savage!
My co-worker asked me about a culture shock I had. This was also the example I gave her too. She basically said it's because they have tunnel vision when they are going somewhere. We laughed it off, but I've noticed recently that now the teachers hold the door for each other .
Why do they seem to have an excuse for every flaw…is it not just easier to try to learn and do better?
Holding the door open and saying thank you can change a persons complete day 🙂
It is a nice gesture
#SaveSoil
yes and in American when you walk past stranger or even drive past strangers we wave or smile
I’m glad in USA it’s not a hassle to interact with others for a small moment 😁
That’s what makes the 🇺🇸 USA a strong nation right there
Yeah, you go out for a walk around the neighborhood and everybody waves at you, there's always a smile, even ppl in their cars passing by would wave at you.
@@BaconSlayer69 mother of the earth U.S.A
@@pa-panamericano8802 Where are you in the USA? This never happens in Boston lol. We'll hold a door for a stranger but certainly wouldn't wave to one.
@@danieldemicco4769 Florida 😏
Aah I remember this. When I was in Korea and held the door for people, they’d just zoom through without saying anything, and then I’d have doors slammed in front of me by men and women alike. I was surprised, and made me appreciate the hospitality we have at home 😅
He's so humble and polite♥️ soo cute!! 🥺😭🫶
From my point of view its a nice and respectfull gesture to hold the door for others ...i would find it very rude when i be near the door and the person before me dont care that I'm coming..greatings from middle europe ..also common is it if the eyes meet on the street to send a nice smile to people i pass on my way....i like that...😊
Do people smile at each other randomly or is a behavior from women to men and vice versa? Would a man randomly smile to a man? I am from Souther Europe, I think you ‘ll say it doesn’t depend on the gender but I am curious and had to ask.
@@martafiord I dont know how men are managing the smile thing.. but I as a woman do it to men or women on the street .if the eyes meet a little smile follows...
@@prich7989 this can be problematic though because it’s normally a learnt behavior that aligned with the teachings of patriarchy: women must be pleasing and caring and helpful, etc. It is a very complicated thing to discuss obviously in UA-cam, but me, as a woman, have learned that behavior and although I have it internalized, I am annoyed of people always expecting me to be smiley and polite etc. It’s a social pressure to women by patriarchy. Anyway, just some thoughts
I go to a english university, i always hold the door open for anyone, some people will acknowledge and say thank you or smile, whilst others will just continue to walk, it doesnt deoend on your culture or beliefs, but anyone who shows a little kindness, like holding the door open, deserves my respect for them, it honestly makes my day 💛
England is a bit more diverse but yes
That's very common in Mexico too. Also saying "good morning/evening" to strangers (in an elevator for example) or "buen provecho" that means "enjoy your food" on small restaurants or taquerías.
Koreans should focus more on manners rather than focusing on beauty standard..
Straight fax no printer
When I was in SK, I got used to having the door slammed in my face 😭😭😭😭😭 I don't get it. They don't care.
He sounds so genuinely saddened by this
Americans don't realize this, but as a foreigner now living in the US, Americans are some of the most tender and kind people I know. And I've lived in 3 different countries besides the US.
This made me cry. Thank you. We hear such cruel things. ❤
I love my country (US). We're in danger by our government and the people who are fooled.
Definitely a big shock for most foreigners here
My Japanese teacher was saying just the other day how here in Melbourne, it's so normal to say "thank you" to the bus driver when getting off, or the cashier at the store. But in Japan, unless you live in a small town, it really isn't
I totally feel this. I stayed in France for 5 years and then back home to Indonesia. When I was in France I learned that people just hold door for other people and they would say thank you. I feel that it is expected there as part of the culture. Since I came back to my home country, I still do this but just like this guy, I notice that people really don't care that a stranger holding the door for them. Be it young, old, women, men, a mom and her baby, a dad and her baby, from my experience, they all don't care. They don't even look at you. I mean this is a country that is proud of being friendly and I believe we are friendly in general towards foreigner. But yeah not part of the culture ... I still do it though.
It’s a reverse culture shock for me. Grew up in Thailand but later moved to the US, so I started holding doors for others. But when I come to Thailand, people close doors on my face 😅
I grew up in Texas, and interactions like these are commonplace. Holding the door open for strangers, cracking jokes in the grocery line and getting people to laugh through the mundane. I've written poetry about conversing with strangers at my lowest points, and how important these little gestures can be can be for humans. I moved near Los Angeles for several years, and I definitely noticed people did these things way less. Not NEVER, but enough to be noticeable, or they would be taken back/confused by me doing something. People were just in their own little worlds and I'd feel a little disconnect/discouraged when they wouldn't even look at you. I often got told I was "too nice" like, I'm just interacting with the people/world around me? After gaining perspective from this type of person/culture, they saw being "nice" as manipulative, or that you MUST have some ulterior motives. Like, if you do something for me, you're going to want something from me in return, or it opens doors to complications. Like geeze, I'm opening a door for you, you think I'm gonna ask to sleep on your couch if you say "thank you"? or something? I wonder if it's a similar perspective over in SK
Rude. Cultural differences, maybe, but lack of manner nonetheless.
A thank you, a nod, a smile... so easy and simple ! I don't understand. I feel sorry for him that people don't acknowledge his small gesture of kindness and hope he will still continue to be kind to strangers regardless. There will be people who are appreciative, I know I would.
yeah it’s not just a culture issue it’s literally just weird af and rude as hell.
@@soupafleye Agreed. Culture difference doesn't equare to acting like an asshole, imo.
Korea used to be a country that values family, and respecting elders(not just on power trips but actually respecting old people)But Now they are so hungry to get successful that they forget the importance of family, and they even forget their manners. Became robots who make money, and spend money on luxury goods.
Honestly for me when I moved to the states from korea, holding the door for others was the biggest surprise that Im still not used to. This might be just me, but while I do feel thankful for the person, I get anxious bc I feel like I have to get to the door faster to not let them wait.
Haha, that's a rite of passage. Happens to us all where we have to jog up to the door for someone who was just a bit too far ahead of you and where it wouldn't have been rude for them not to hold the door but they are so you have to hurry up.
Btw may I ask which door you guys are talking about??
Welcome to America 🇺🇸. We are different 😊.
Nah, take your time. They saw your walking speed and made a decision.
I really like both of their outfits
I’m in Korea and I open the door for everybody.
This lady could be 10 seconds away and I hold it open for her. Haha
And they don’t say anything …
I love it …
Because that is not nice. If she is that far away she will feel she has to rush to get through the door. Its not always considered a nice gesture
How rude
@@이효민-w8hI live in France and it happens to me to do it, people have done it to me too and when it happens people are always very grateful for the effort
@@이효민-w8hyeah atleast thanks or eye contact gesture is okay as some people are shy and not speak their true gesture also and as korea is like more people are busy in themselves and closed for other unknown people
@@이효민-w8husually people are willing to hold the door as long as it takes…no rush. If they see you’re too far behind them and don’t want to wait, they wouldn’t be holding the door.
He is right we open the door for anyone-man, women, older, younger!! And yes majority of the time people will say thank you or at least show by their body language they appreciate it.
Common decency Is not so common.
This guy is truly adorable! So sweet! Feel like i want to hug him!
I never would have thought holding doors for people was out of the ordinary...feel like it's just something I do on autopilot
I’ve experienced holding the door and droves of people just walked through, like it was my job to hold the door for them.
😂😂
The Art of the Door-Hold! Too prevent from standing there all day, just hold the door halfway so the person behind you know that you didn't let the door close on them. But they have to catch it themselves. 😂😂😂
When my son was 8 years old he would get stuck holding the door forever😅. (He would just hold the door for women and old people) They thought he was so cute and always complimented me on his manners. But he said Mama no will take the door from me. There sould be a rule that after 5 people you have to take the door. So he came up with this strategy of the halfway gesture!
This is quite common in Asia. Coming from Europe, I am still surprised majority of people don’t hold the door when they clearly know there are others coming their way. It doesn’t mean they are unfriendly or unkind though. It’s just not a part of manners that get taught.
You're right. Thank you for saying this.
Not same for all Asian countries,being an Indian we definitely recognise people. It is common for us to great each other and to be polite and helpful to strangers.
If you mean east asia then say EAST asia. In central asia people are ready to share a home with you just to make sure you have a roof over your head and food in your stomach as a guest of their country.
@@anna17755 indians also dont have this thank you welcome i love you culture like west , dont lie
Same here in Australia, we always hold doors open for others and even let them go first, after you. It’s just good manners isn’t it and also offer help if you see someone in need?
I live in korea and most common place is mostly city people dont say thank you when you hold the door etc but in small towns or big ones too all the people are nice they hold the door for you even the workers take they're time to go and opan a door for you
That's why I personally believe that if someone wants to explore any country then they should visit small Town and villages to know the real culture and real family of that country
Villages and small Town are real gem of any country
ik a lot of people are talking about how lonely it must be there but honestly I thrived in Korea, no one really bothered me or talked to me and its really an introverts dream. I did have friends there but friends are friends and strangers are strangers ykwim? the only time I was spoken to in public was when another foreigner spotted me, another foreigner, and decided to spark up a conversation and wouldn't you know it hes American!
Lol they have one of the highest suicide rates in the world so I’m sure even this plays a role in why mental health in Korea is lacking. It’s actually sad. People don’t look out for each other
Aww oh no that is so sad! We are all humans, interactions are so important for us all. Especially kindness, brightens up our days and helps us feel less lonely.
As an introvert, sometimes I hate when people hold the door for me. 😂 Because then I have to smile and say thank you. I just want to be invisible today, thanks. 🙈
😂 the struggle is real
I like the effort of trying not to shame anyone 😂. The guy seems sweet❤
when I went over to Korea last year I would do the same thing and hold doors open for those near me when I’m entering or exiting because it’s just a habit for me. I didn’t experience any ignoring of my presence or anything but Koreans would be a bit shy or awkward and I guess maybe it’s because I’m a girl, I don’t really know. but there was one time I was leaving myeongdong station and there was a group of elderly ppl behind me so I held the door open for them and they were a bit surprised but were very appreciative.
I'm from the US, and I try to thank anyone that holds a door open for me.
YES!!! THANK YOU!!!! 😂I'm from Oklahoma, and when I open the doors for people, they act like the door just magically opened for them and keep on walking with no acknowledgment. 😂 I occasionally still do it out of habit, but I've mostly stopped. Lol
I was just in South Korea and I had heard this before visiting and out of habit held the door open to let someone carrying a bike through an underground mall door leave before I entered and got a really kind thank you, in Korean ofc
I thought every human with good upbringing holds the door open as a natural gesture of politeness. Don t they hold the door for their mothers who carry heavy things ? It s the last country i expected to not do that considering how much emphasis they have on family life.
Of course they hold open doors for family. They’re talking about random strangers walking about, not someone struggling to move heavy baggage
Yeah cause it's not like they have father's. Or maybe others don't feel entitled to have others hold doors for them.
Like in dating I heard Korean men do open the door, pull the chair for their girl,which my country's men don't understand (like they don't understand "treat your girl well " concept")I am sure Koreans do it for their family/friends.But they don't acknowledge stranger's gestures at all
@@SadiaIslamShouki regarding their traditional confucian view of life i thought the door opening thing would be a part of ”respect your elders thingy“ . Ehh whatever.
I agree. I was pleasantly surprised how I met a lot of strangers in the US who always said hello, opened and held the door for me