How to get better at dating apps (Tinder, Bumble and Hinge)

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  • Опубліковано 27 лип 2024
  • Dating apps are easy to download and try, but they aren’t so simple to master. In this episode of Workflow, The Verge’s Ashley Carman offers the best tips to succeed on dating apps. You’ll learn how to send the first message, pick your photos, and respond to prompts.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 310

  • @TheVerge
    @TheVerge  5 років тому +68

    Which dating app do you use and why?

    • @praveen_kay
      @praveen_kay 5 років тому +4

      i use tinder because i want both of us to be matched like a magic

    • @Tommy-nb1wo
      @Tommy-nb1wo 5 років тому +14

      I use some tweezers for cable management

    • @thejasonhowell
      @thejasonhowell 5 років тому

      All of them

    • @peterbest4943
      @peterbest4943 5 років тому +6

      I used Instagram and that’s how I met my girlfriend

    • @erik8618
      @erik8618 5 років тому

      I’m swiping

  • @qbgabe12
    @qbgabe12 5 років тому +288

    1. Be Handsome / Pretty
    2. Be Attractive
    3. Don't Be Unattractive

    • @Lucalaurin
      @Lucalaurin 5 років тому +8

      a fellow reddit user I see

    • @raminshakeri1485
      @raminshakeri1485 5 років тому +2

      I am attractive but i dont recieve likes so its not only the reason to be attractive

    • @bhaveekasmith3975
      @bhaveekasmith3975 4 роки тому +1

      Add “be fit”

    • @essajazaeri4043
      @essajazaeri4043 2 роки тому

      Trust me…there’s a lot more than that, I mean yes it’s the number 1 rule, but it’s DEFINITELY not enough

  • @allthingsfascinating
    @allthingsfascinating 5 років тому +399

    A few years ago I was watching videos on How to get better at dating. Now I'm watching a video on how to get better on a dating app. Man, the Black Mirror days are beginning.

    • @rocketval9288
      @rocketval9288 5 років тому +8

      The bad thing is I didn't improve my chances.

    • @rileysmiley9585
      @rileysmiley9585 4 роки тому

      This is sad... education is opening more doors...give it a try.🐦

  • @rea8585
    @rea8585 5 років тому +967

    You forgot step one: be attractive!

    • @donjulio1166
      @donjulio1166 5 років тому +17

      Quick Fix - Thought Provoking Videos Anyone can look attractive with a good photographer! Bring a good friend and go take photos of each other for a day

    • @Tyrone98
      @Tyrone98 5 років тому +74

      Step 2 .. don't be ugly

    • @danielimmortuos666
      @danielimmortuos666 5 років тому +58

      Step three: be white

    • @danielimmortuos666
      @danielimmortuos666 5 років тому +1

      @@donjulio1166 that'd be semi-catfishing. People would eventually meet you in real life and see how unattractive you really are and never want to see you again

    • @Marrow1ne
      @Marrow1ne 5 років тому +1

      Anyone can look good on photo with the right angle and proper selfcare

  • @Smharry92
    @Smharry92 5 років тому +300

    Something tells me if a guy did this video, it would be very, very different advice.

    • @mgdp12
      @mgdp12 5 років тому +33

      "It's a numbers game"

    • @robertp457
      @robertp457 5 років тому +11

      Men and women are different?!!? What?!?!!?

  • @NeuroticKnight9
    @NeuroticKnight9 5 років тому +75

    Avoiding all photos with friends is actually shown to be a bad thing, because it indicates isolation. Having last as group photo signals you as socially desirable and if other people find you valuable, the potential partner might trust you more too. Humans are social animals after all.

    • @cartonet8186
      @cartonet8186 5 років тому +2

      Women actually like it when you have pictures of other women. It's an instinct that women ahve to want to see tha tyou're wanted.

    • @mauiswift6391
      @mauiswift6391 5 років тому +21

      @@cartonet8186 nonsense

    • @ssnthyh3781
      @ssnthyh3781 2 роки тому +3

      @@cartonet8186 clearly coming from a guy

  • @rychan7
    @rychan7 5 років тому +19

    5:00 - 'try a confident statement' ... 'spinach and artichoke dip is the best'....

  • @minhdil7596
    @minhdil7596 5 років тому +54

    Sooooo shouldn’t we be getting advice from someone who actually went through this and formed a real relationship? Obviously if she’s still on the app and is teaching us something’s not right.

  • @ValenNitto
    @ValenNitto 5 років тому +66

    How about: I'm gonna binge watch Ozark, wanna join?

    • @rodneydsouza2454
      @rodneydsouza2454 5 років тому +1

      Watched it already it's amazing

    • @YoungBlaze
      @YoungBlaze 5 років тому

      @@rodneydsouza2454 I hate the daughter she gets on my nerves.....why was this video in my recommendations anyway? welp i watched it and here we are

    • @rodneydsouza2454
      @rodneydsouza2454 5 років тому

      @@YoungBlaze UA-cam knows that what you need is a new partner sooo gl

    • @YoungBlaze
      @YoungBlaze 5 років тому +1

      @@rodneydsouza2454 yeah......."i love you youtube,"

    • @PaulDavison-eb2jf
      @PaulDavison-eb2jf Місяць тому

      Hi there ​@@YoungBlaze

  • @cancel2394
    @cancel2394 2 роки тому +3

    I could use a video about 4x as long as this one for each app, I need that deep dive and love the visual examples!!

  • @OscarDaGenius
    @OscarDaGenius 5 років тому +25

    “I’m a tech reporter, that’s not very exciting...”
    Me: What?!!

  • @LongclawGG
    @LongclawGG 5 років тому +7

    Honestly, I quit dating apps a long time ago. I’ve had way more luck just randomly finding people on Instagram I have mutual friends/interests with.

  • @freddyromeroiii
    @freddyromeroiii 5 років тому +3

    I fee like this could have made into its own series but I still loved the video!

  • @jefm3598
    @jefm3598 5 років тому +157

    Taking tips from someone single... sound good.

  • @erickillmonger1101
    @erickillmonger1101 5 років тому +57

    Hey Ashley, I was reading through the book of numbers and realized I didn't have yours 😁

    • @RaghavKumar-vl5qo
      @RaghavKumar-vl5qo 5 років тому

      ThatWasEpic......All one word..... Video will be up tomorrow 😂

  • @DimusTech
    @DimusTech 5 років тому +7

    To be honest I'm sort of frustrated with dating apps and "dating life" but I can tell that you are an awesome person so I really wish you luck and finding someone who will truely deserve you.

  • @ListenTwiceSpeakOnce
    @ListenTwiceSpeakOnce 5 років тому +20

    "How to get better at dating apps" 1. Uninstall 2. Go out 3. Speak to people. 4. Repeat steps 2-3 until you find an significant other

    • @gabrielaborjas6221
      @gabrielaborjas6221 4 роки тому +12

      I’m just watching this video, and I liked your response . I completely agree with it, but it’s difficult after you graduate from school. School is the one place where you can meet people and of course, work , but that’s off the table for many. Where do you meet people besides work?! Bars and clubs, been there done that and nothing good came from it. It is difficult to date now, especially when everything is done online. Has your advice work for you ?

    • @rileysmiley9585
      @rileysmiley9585 4 роки тому

      Ikr

  • @saintwithatie
    @saintwithatie 5 років тому +9

    2:00 "It takes a long time to fill out your Hinge profile. You have to include a bunch of photos and answer a bunch of questions."
    lolwut? You only have to upload six photos, answer three prompts, and fill in some other basic info.

    • @crystalfullerton3908
      @crystalfullerton3908 4 місяці тому

      If someone can't be bothered to fill out their profile then they'll not be good relationship material. We all have cameras in our phones, it takes 5 sec to upload more than one terrible picture of yourself in sunglasses.

  • @SnazTasticKobe
    @SnazTasticKobe 5 років тому +29

    Step 1: be perfect

    • @raminshakeri1485
      @raminshakeri1485 5 років тому

      You cannot be perfect because human made from gold is not exist

  • @tifftom
    @tifftom 5 років тому

    Great video! I recently discovered your podcast, really love it!

    • @hammadwaseema3309
      @hammadwaseema3309 Місяць тому

      Hey hammad here nice to meet u lets be friends if u don't mind me il

  • @akki015
    @akki015 5 років тому +1

    I believe I'm a decent 7 in real life but on tinder i was like a solid 4. I think I'll keep my rejection prospects to just face to face interactions.

  • @john_gyver
    @john_gyver 5 років тому +2

    Nice video, but separate app for serious relationship and another app for fling etc? I thought I could find a variety of people with different objectives on any of these popular dating apps.

  • @jgames01
    @jgames01 5 років тому +4

    At first: oh look another video by Ashely going over something more personal and less tech.
    0.2 seconds after she refers to every one as trash humans for why she's single: ok I am 100% on board and feel this

  • @ValientRedHood
    @ValientRedHood 5 років тому +11

    sometimes go out and have conversations with real person

  • @kcdiazWTV
    @kcdiazWTV 3 роки тому +1

    Message someone, "you can trust me. muhahaha"

  • @shivashakthiagro
    @shivashakthiagro 5 років тому

    Hey Ashley which is that eye glass frame you are using

  • @chicledecafe
    @chicledecafe 5 років тому

    Hey Ashley, spinach artichoke dip is the best

  • @yasaswy
    @yasaswy 5 років тому +3

    Wow, this is depressing.. So nobody meets people these days outside before totally knowing each other from an app or is it just a New York thing?

  • @robertp457
    @robertp457 5 років тому

    Buffalo chicken dip is awesome! I thought it sounded terrible, but I'll try something even if I think I won't like it, because that's fair, right? Anyway it was awesome!

  • @luminousb9272
    @luminousb9272 5 років тому

    To get better on Tinder for average and below guys is easy ask your attractive friend if you can wear his face for your Tinder photos. Works 100% 50% of the time

  • @Mrspecter007
    @Mrspecter007 3 роки тому

    Hahahhahahah I love that full disclosure.. Im single too hahhahahahhahah. Lmao 🤣

  • @francis_n
    @francis_n 5 років тому +26

    Can The Verge do a video on How to get better at dating offline, like the old days?

    • @SomeDudeQC
      @SomeDudeQC 5 років тому +8

      Wear google glass everywhere you go

    • @francis_n
      @francis_n 5 років тому +3

      @@SomeDudeQC and swipe with my eyes

  • @vickie_g
    @vickie_g 5 років тому +27

    Playing with our insecurities!

    • @hammadwaseema3309
      @hammadwaseema3309 Місяць тому

      Hey hammad here nice to meet u lets be friends if u don't mind

  • @jamiesmith4293
    @jamiesmith4293 5 місяців тому

    I like how she keeps saying what the app's CEO keeps saying works, but the user-interface doesn't make people do these things enough.

  • @Shashank28101988
    @Shashank28101988 5 років тому +8

    Paid by Hinge* Lolol

  • @samurilip
    @samurilip 5 років тому +1

    I have gotten 2 dates from bumble....guess how many years that took?

  • @robdavies4294
    @robdavies4294 3 роки тому

    Totally put a pic of u at work, its a cool job

  • @RahulSharma10
    @RahulSharma10 5 років тому

    Hey Ashley! So, did you meet someone online, some time later?

  • @citrusandseasalt
    @citrusandseasalt 5 років тому +1

    This is kind of like reading the cosmopolitan. I don’t think the advice is bad, but it’s presented in a simplistic way that turns off more sophisticated users away.
    Also, why are you emphasizing one medium where you obviously haven’t met success? If this were to be truly useful, you’d give equal emphasis on how to better on all media. Not to mention that it’s easy to say “trash humans out there,” but there are millions of humans out there in New York. Are they all trash?
    I dated in New York for 10 years. And I met some very wonderful and compatible women. And they met me. If you really want to find someone amazing, you can.

  • @alexis2012fulvlogs
    @alexis2012fulvlogs 4 роки тому

    Honestly someone like her doesn’t even need to try. She’s already really pretty

  • @Nerdykid95
    @Nerdykid95 5 років тому +59

    Grindr is a "dating" app? What heterosexual nonsense is this

  • @Spreadlove5683
    @Spreadlove5683 3 роки тому

    What song is in the background at the beginning?

  • @rjones6080
    @rjones6080 5 років тому +2

    There should be a dating app where you just pick one thing you're looking for and it pairs you with someone who can only list one attribute, and vice versa.
    Example: "Nice Cleavage" gets paired with "Fully Loaded BMW Owner" for the shallow pond waders, "MMO Enthusiast" and "Makes Cosplay Costumes" for the geek set, etc.
    "Down to Earth" cannot be an option (at least not until people understand the meaning of that term.)
    "People say I'm 'down to Earth'.."
    Who says that about you? How do you exemplify that description? STOP USING THAT TERM, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!!
    Sorry. I ranted.

  • @saptron
    @saptron 5 років тому +2

    When i used tinder and had matches, i opened with the silly message:
    Because most guys usually will open with “hi”, “hey”, or “how are you”. I will tell you “Pizza” because i like them, so:
    PIZZA!
    This was a nice opener and most of the times i got answers, and even a pizza date!

  • @dwhopping1
    @dwhopping1 5 років тому

    Hey Ashley, I know you posted this back in October of 2018. But this information was very helpful I didn't even know about hinge until watching this video. Good luck in the dating app world I wish I lived in New York City. Lol

  • @robertbutcher222
    @robertbutcher222 5 років тому

    But also, most importantly, be honest. Even if an answer isn’t the most popular, but it fits you, choose that answer, what if someone else likes being with their dog too, for example.

  • @astrogabba1190
    @astrogabba1190 5 років тому

    is the Saturn V at the wall the one made by LEGO ?

  • @bruno3
    @bruno3 5 років тому +10

    The whole video just seems so futile.

  • @sjcsystems
    @sjcsystems 2 роки тому

    I got scammed out of thousands of pounds on Tinder. I recommend being incredibly careful as I thought I knew what I was doing.

  • @eduardovalim5207
    @eduardovalim5207 5 років тому

    Ashley! ❤️

  • @ThisIsTechToday
    @ThisIsTechToday 5 років тому +20

    "It has everything to do with the trash humans in New York City." LMAO 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 freaking Savage. You're the best, hahaha

  • @ra_bi_ah
    @ra_bi_ah 5 років тому

    Thanks 😊

  • @Roan.bot.
    @Roan.bot. 3 роки тому +1

    Maybe it’s the apps that need to be better.

  • @SaceedAbul
    @SaceedAbul 5 років тому

    Just follow rules 1 and 2 and your set

  • @DownUpMusic
    @DownUpMusic 5 років тому +4

    Well, that's a kind of a misleading title which I don't like

    • @hammadwaseema3309
      @hammadwaseema3309 Місяць тому

      Hey hammad here nice to meet u lets be friends if u don't mind me

  • @anujrana7707
    @anujrana7707 5 років тому +1

    How about I binge watch season 3 of Daredevil

  • @adrian_zombturtle148
    @adrian_zombturtle148 3 роки тому

    I got grinder thinking it was just a dating app once and I was all like "why is everyone a dude though"

  • @emiliomartinez2970
    @emiliomartinez2970 5 років тому +3

    I wish I lived in New York... Here in my hometown I get that "there's no one to swipe to" message after 5 people

  • @TANTHEMANFILMS
    @TANTHEMANFILMS 5 років тому +10

    best dating app is real life!

  • @Vionbringer
    @Vionbringer 5 років тому

    May the odds be ever in your favor! Also, spinach dip is WHERE IT'S AT!

  • @Bill0102
    @Bill0102 5 місяців тому

    This is pure brilliance. I had the pleasure of reading something similar, and it was pure genius. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

  • @kcdiazWTV
    @kcdiazWTV 5 років тому +2

    I'm single too and a tech nerd.
    A tech professional, pretty boring.
    I also like food, but I am on a seafood diet. I sea food I eat it.
    Dips are essential to all parties ... when I dip, you dip we dip.
    I have 20/20 vision but, I wear glasses because, they make me look smart.
    From California.

  • @BryantMitchell
    @BryantMitchell 5 років тому +1

    All I have are selfies ‘cause I have no friends 😭

  • @DriveupLife22
    @DriveupLife22 5 років тому +2

    Ok. I watched the whole video and did learn something. Going to use more statements and less questions.
    That being said, I really disagree with your photo choices. Guys don't care that you like fancy food. We all eat food, it's not special. The beautiful picture of you that you self vetoed was my favorite.

  • @annakush4665
    @annakush4665 5 років тому

    great stuff

    • @hammadwaseema3309
      @hammadwaseema3309 Місяць тому

      Hey hammad here nice to meet u lets be friends if u don't mind

  • @THEBIGMG1
    @THEBIGMG1 5 років тому +1

    Why did capital one sponsor this video ?

  • @alexeyp8864
    @alexeyp8864 5 років тому +1

    Ty, just got banned on Tinder for swiping left most of the time :(

  • @martinfatlee6949
    @martinfatlee6949 Рік тому +1

    Dating app not work for me 😢I don’t know how but never work

  • @Americanpatriot-zo2tk
    @Americanpatriot-zo2tk 2 роки тому +1

    Well, your very pretty I can’t imagine why nobody’s grab you up yet.

  • @IcemountainSpring
    @IcemountainSpring 5 років тому +1

    "Sponsored by Hinge"😂

  • @marionettegamingjd.2555
    @marionettegamingjd.2555 5 років тому

    I love technology

  • @nolantifft6763
    @nolantifft6763 5 років тому +3

    I used Tinder and found my girlfriend and we are very happy together.

    • @foxmulder8955
      @foxmulder8955 5 років тому +1

      said 0.000000001% of the userbase.

  • @ryN45678
    @ryN45678 5 років тому

    where are you supposed to get like 20 photos of yourself doing things?

  • @jacky_mo
    @jacky_mo 5 років тому

    Sadly, we don't have Hinge in Europe

  • @NebulaQuest-
    @NebulaQuest- 5 років тому +1

    Number one hack be a good looking

  • @nomad1517
    @nomad1517 2 роки тому

    Step 1: money
    Step 2: weed
    Step 3: wait
    Step 4: didn't think this through

  • @omniblast
    @omniblast 5 років тому

    Making me hungry with all those dips. Ughhh.

  • @mmp0084
    @mmp0084 5 років тому +2

    So many preconceived notions...wish things were a lot simpler and straightforward. Peace !!

  • @cileft011
    @cileft011 5 років тому

    you'd think the stay away from group shots and potential SOs in your pics thing would be common sense but clearly it is not..........

  • @tylertypewriter
    @tylertypewriter 5 років тому +1

    What does this have to do with your Workflow?

  • @MrDerekMagnuson
    @MrDerekMagnuson 5 років тому

    So this is how Capital One chooses to spend it’s money?

  • @intothebeyond8763
    @intothebeyond8763 5 років тому +1

    If you’re a man you should delete all dating apps from all and any device you own.This is the best advice that I or anyone else can give. I’ve done it and now I’m in a happy relationship. I can’t promise the same for everyone but I know you’ll be better off.

  • @TheMckenzross
    @TheMckenzross 5 років тому

    Ummmm pretty sure the chat game needs to be more substantial than being about dips...

  • @CloudsLikeThese
    @CloudsLikeThese 5 років тому +1

    WHAT ON EARTH IS PIZZA DIP???? TELL ME THIS INSTANT.

    • @CloudsLikeThese
      @CloudsLikeThese 5 років тому

      I just searched UA-cam and will be collating the best recipes and dreaming about pizza dip for the next 12 hours if anyone needs me.

  • @notagoofy3766
    @notagoofy3766 5 років тому

    Unhinged lol 😀

  • @victoriapires3854
    @victoriapires3854 10 місяців тому

    You are soo much more appealing and beautiful in this video, compared to your profile pictures

  • @moonwizz
    @moonwizz 5 років тому +1

    I'm 62 does hinge do my age group!!!

  • @ChristAndChristCrucified
    @ChristAndChristCrucified 3 роки тому

    So basically we should lie when answering prompts? 🙄

  • @SeanTheRightWay
    @SeanTheRightWay 5 років тому +29

    Yikes. So glad I met my wife the old fashioned way.

    • @SomeDudeQC
      @SomeDudeQC 5 років тому +17

      Through a satanic cult?

    • @Blittsplitt5
      @Blittsplitt5 5 років тому +9

      Through an arranged marriage?

    • @SeanTheRightWay
      @SeanTheRightWay 5 років тому +4

      In a bar haha

    • @SomeDudeQC
      @SomeDudeQC 5 років тому

      Sean The Right Way Basically dating apps are like being in a bar where hundreds of dudes are competing for the same person. What I'm saying is they're creepy.

  • @jurgenstrube4916
    @jurgenstrube4916 5 років тому

    Nice pullover...

  • @emmanuelonuoha1880
    @emmanuelonuoha1880 5 років тому +4

    Not exactly into the concept of the video, but I'll still leave a like because I can appreciate effort put Into a well made well researched video haha

  • @FrankBottazzo
    @FrankBottazzo 5 років тому

    ...or you could just come to Italy AND change your eyeglasses frame. We will devour you

  • @Jellykrop
    @Jellykrop 5 років тому

    But why would I want to date an app? 🤔

  • @xynathegamer
    @xynathegamer 5 років тому +4

    Please just dont verge

  • @hardToSignUpHere
    @hardToSignUpHere 3 роки тому

    Honest advice is not necessarily the best one. Everyone likes to eat something; people don't care about your culinary photography, beat it!

  • @Brian-jp3wt
    @Brian-jp3wt 5 років тому +1

    WAIT.........
    Is she really still rocking an iPhone 6 in 2018? Respect.

  • @VandrefalkTV
    @VandrefalkTV 5 років тому

    "Way better" then Boardwalk Empire?? Well then...

  • @gsharpshooter80
    @gsharpshooter80 4 роки тому

    Yeeaaaaa I feel like this video is geared more towards women lol

  • @pm2007est
    @pm2007est Рік тому

    Blossom

  • @frosted1030
    @frosted1030 5 років тому

    Why are dating apps reviewed by single people in any way going to show the effectiveness of said app? It's like asking someone that has never tasted chocolate to choose which color of chocolate has the best taste..