I agree. Unfortunately I didn’t know about that until recent years. After 15 years together and 8 kids later, I’m a separated single mom but it’s easier without him around all the time.
The story with the abusive fiancé was needed. I didn’t realize I was in an abusive situation until 6 years in. I really thought a lot was normal, but seeing others reactions woke me up from it. So thank you for sharing this story for others to hear and learn
Sophia and Riley are such lovely people. Sam and John are too but i love how wholesome Sophia and Riley are and how often Sophia teaches Riley something and he takes it to heart.
@zin6730 Idk, they're basically colleagues now. There's been more examples of social media couples where it ended very badly once the relationship ended.
Sorry not sorry if you’re tired of this comment: Sophia and Riley are my fave dynamic. Love Riley’s humility and ability to self reflect. Love Sophia, period. Love their natural platonic chemistry and lightheartedness. Dynamic duo.
I grew up with a dad who had anger issues and it definitely traumatized me. Anytime someone yells, I have similar reactions as I did as a kid. I have seen people who don't yell when they get angry and it's made me realize that yelling the way my dad did is not normal and I can never be with someone who yells when angry.
I think your awareness is really important Riley. That you are asking questions and self reflecting is a great reflection on you as a person. And if you are still worried about your anger then therapy. You don't need to be at the boyfriends anger issue levels to talk to someone about it. Maybe someone could help you come up with techniques to help with any anger. Not that I'm worried about your anger at all! But therapy is a good thing regardless. 😊
sophia x riley eps are like therapy. gives u warm fuzzy feels & rly makes u think. sam x john eps are comedic & lighthearted. takes the edge off. when it’s all 4 it’s a perfect storm lol
I am a 47 year old Female and yall are somewhat near my children's ages. (22 and 28) I gotta say that watching yall go thru these stories and learn how people behave at times and the best way to react/take action to support your OK fam.... I feel like it is teaching you, as well as the ok fam, how to be the best people you can. How to cope with the bad things and how to support each other. This gives me hope for the future. Thank you for doing what you do... It's not just spilling the tea and gossip, it truly is supporting your fam. I love yall, I AM subscribed, and SEE YOU TOMORROW!!!
I have been in story twos situation, he yelled and cursed and insulted and guilted me all the time, but when things progressed to punching the wall next to my face and speeding and swerving in traffic when angry, and I shit you not telling me while gripping the steering wheel, “you’re so lucky I’m a better man, other men would have hit you by now”, and from my experience this will only get worse. He’s getting up to being worse and worse and worse and he doesn’t care about making her uncomfortable, scared, let alone putting her in danger. Hard listen for that story, but good to reflect on my own life story.
This was what I was about to say. It was hard to hear story 2 because so much of it resonated with my past relationship. I was with my ex for 17 years. From age 14. I was so blind to the abuse that after everything when I was told that I was a victim of domestic violence, I broke down. It hurt so much to know that I had been in it for so long. The trauma is real and there are so many triggers. I wish I had told someone earlier as she is exactly right. You protect them to your friends and family and once you say something, you can’t take it back. It is not you making them look like an arsehole by telling someone what they did, they made themselves look like an arsehole……. Because they are an arsehole.
I would be curious if the boyfriend has ever had trouble controlling his anger around other men or around the police officer. If he can control himself in those situations, then his aggression went in front of OP is a choice.
36:33 Riley is smart and thoughtful for this. When I got my wisdom teeth surgery, my boyfriend came to my parents house and made me soup and fed me jello and mashed potatoes and bought me some pudding and he binge watched King of the Hill with me. Best boyfriend ever. 😊 Made recovery from surgery a lot better. We all need partners who will feed and care for us when we're sick or in recovery.
A person definitely has the right to do whatever they want with their body, like gauging their ears. However, it is their partner's choice to not find it attractive and leave the relationship. Neither is the a*hole for having those feelings.
I agree. Personally I hate gauges and piercings anywhere on the body. I don't mind other types of earrings on the ears as I have my ears pierced but to me I don't like how Gauges look. If someone can pull it off, more power to them, but I've seen a video where a lady wanted surgery to fix her stretched earlobes and it officially grossed me out. Pertaining to my own relationship, I love when my boyfriend is clean shaven. I don't like facial hair because it reminds me of my dad as he has a huge beard with lots of facial hair. Idk any time I see facial hair I either think of my dad or Shaggy from Scooby Doo. That's just my personal preference. I don't think he's unattractive with facial hair, I just prefer a clean face
Agreed! I have tattoos, piercings, and stretched ears - would definitely just break up with him. Not because he's wrong but because we'd be incompatible as hell if it meant that much to him.
I genuinely find gauges to be disturbing to me, I would never judge someone for having them but i definitely could not date someone with them. The few times I’ve seen them up close it’s enough to make me vomit because of how uncomfortable it makes me. I could not live with that kind of feeling 24/7
Knowing you don't like alternative girls, but choosing to date an alternative girl and then trying to stop her from doing what she wants with her appearance does make you kind of an asshole.
I was with a man for 15 years we didn’t move in together until almost 7 years in. I noticed he had anger issues with various things over the years. When I moved in it was gradual. At first the perfect guy and then it changed over time. It ended up being a terribly abusive situation and was horrible to get out of. So confusing, and such an awful time. Glad OP got out safe, it’s a very difficult thing to do.
Sounded like a normal long-term relationship question to me. If you've committed to a person for 10+ years you just have to include that person's preferences in some situations. There isn't a person on earth who's going to like/agree with 100% of all the choices you're going to make. If OP had been telling about being a pushover while being miserable for not being able to express in the way she wanted I would've agreed with the abandonment issue. But that's not the case here. She said she already got a big tattoo he didn't like and started the ear stretching he didn't like. And he let her do that, cuz it's her body. Only after a certain time she realised she might damage the relationship with this, which is a mature thing to think about.
If your partner hate tattoos and pircing why did he date her to begin with when its common for people to get more who have them. He sounds like he is embarrassed of her look. I was with a guy like that and i left and a bunch of other reasons @Nathan_Bookwurm
First story: I love tattoos, I like pricing but I think gauges look disgusting. It really makes me a bit nauseous to look at them. My boss has them and in over 2 years I can't get used to them. So I totally get when there are things you really don't want your partner to do appearance wise.
Also, unlike other piercings, they don't disappear when you take them out, and at least with a tattoo, It won't be visible most of the time. I don't really mind them aside from the smell. I don't want my partner to smell bad, period lol.
I watched a video of a lady who got surgery to fix her stretched earlobes and it just looks awful without the gauges in. It just looks like 2 floppy strings of connected skin.
I do appreciate Riley making a conscious effort to understand the perspectives, and concepts, that Sophia speaks on. There has been growth there, and we love to see it 🥰
We have them in Canada too, different kinds of meat, some have veggies mixed in too with graveyard. Not my thing but yes they are tasty, you can get them regular pie size, medium size (like a ceral bowl), small size and mini size
It's your body but you would have to put in consideration that without the gauges you can't do earrings because of the stretch skin. A majority of people may love their gauges but there are a handful who regret getting them.
I watched a video of a lady who got surgery to fix her stretched earlobes because they were just stretched beyond repair and only surgery could fix it. It just looks awful without the gauges in. It just looks like 2 floppy strings of connected skin.
I’m scared of ear gauges kinda like a phobia I wouldn’t want to date someone with them… I also wouldn’t tell them to stop I’d simply end the relationship so they can do what they want with their body…
That’s how I am! It makes me scared and uncomfortable and seeing them up close has literally made me vomit. They are one of the few things I could not make an exception for
It was telling someone my ex had r#ped me that then opened to talking about the rest of his behaviour. Several years of financial, emotional, verbal abuse, manipulation and stuff. To be honest things still come out randomly that me and my own mum were lied to about and its been years. He created such a wedge with me and my family and making me believe he was all I had. When I ended things finally he even said I would not get better than him, that people think I am a looney leaving him etc etc. I still hear his poison today in my head as he pulled a number on me. It still impacts me. He hated that i found the courage i did though and started telling people things. I lied to my parents for a little while after about some stuff like the financial abuse and bits, due to manipulation, but that didn’t last long with getting stronger after leaving. My parents seemed quite broken about what happened once it all came out. I felt bad about that on top of everything. Unfortunately wasn't my first abusive relationship but was one of the worst. With OP i am so glad that she got out and i hope she goes from strength to strength. She never deserved any of what happened and I hope she finds someone who treats her right 💜
Aussie meat pie is basically meat with gravy sauce in a short crust base with a very flaky crust on top. They're usually hand-held size - about the size of your hand - and they are DE-LICI-OUS! As an Aussie, can recommend. I'm actually having one for lunch. They also come with various fillings - chicken and vegetable with a white gravy sauce is very nice, curry beef is fire, vegetarian with a dark gravy is also pretty fire - but the basic meat pie is beef (usually ground up) with a thick, rich gravy. Oh, and pepper steak is so good, too. Highly recommend trying a pie from a local bakery if you ever come to visit Aus.
"his angry driving is an everyday occurrence" no. No way. I'd run fast. Angry drivers are one of the worst and most dangerous people on the road. I could never be with someone that can't let go of road rage. That's so immature. I would never get in the car of someone with that level of anger issues. I'd be scared that he'd kill us
First story: my husband is such a professional (aerospace engineer and software engineer degrees, 8 yrs of college, dresses the part) I have a sleeve, have 00 gauges, a nose ring. At no point has he ever tried to tell me he would love me less for doing something that I genuinely want to do with my body. He even helped me dye my hair pink when I wanted to. If he truly loved OP stretched ears wouldn’t have him walking away from 10 years with them. It’s sad she backed down and didn’t do what she wanted to with her own body bc she was worried about him not being attracted to her (she says it’s not true but deep down we all know it’s subconscious insecurity).
Only when not taken care of properly. I have plenty of friends who do take care of theirs and there is no issue. I don't find them attractive, but it is their choice.
My first serious boyfriend was clingy like the sick guy. I finally just gave in and told him to come bring me soup if he wanted to so badly. "Sure, come over then. If I throw up on you, I'm not apologizing, and if you catch my sick, then I'm not nursing you. I refuse to take my sick back." He was so offended when he did catch my sick, but I warned him. I even called his mother and asked her to let me know when he was well because I catch other people's sicks too easily and didn't want to be sick again.
I think of tattoos as stickers, and they once they are there, they stay there. Otherwise, they rip or fade away, or you layer them on top of themselves. I just haven't found my stickers yet
I feel so sad for people growing up now and trying to always be right and accommodating. Riley is on point that your person could have preferences and lose attraction over something you do. Whether it’s getting guages, tattoos, or even gaining 100+ pounds. Sophia comparing it to a haircut is so off base. A risky haircut grows out. You can’t really undo tattoos or stretched ears. While that gal in the first story may have a right to choose what she prefers to do to herself and likes, her man equally has the right to find it repulsive and leave because he doesn’t think it’s attractive.
I can already tell this episode is a lot better Editing wise and Just the flow thank you for listening to us We appreciate it and we understand you guys are just starting out so thank you
"let me feed you soup" was super adorable!!! Reminds me of my man, he won't feed it to me, but he will go to the store and buy it, buy me a ton of my favorite cupcakes and watch a movie with me while I eat.
My parents owned a duplex where we lived in the front and they rented the back and a house with a granny flat. This policeman and his girlfriend along with their 3 year old son rented the duplex from my parents. My parents never did an expection. My parents sold the duplex and moved to a house with the granny flat so offered the tenants to move with us and live in the granny flat. The day of moving from the duplex the back unit had holes in the walls, bullets on the floor, poo on the floors , taps missing ,the stove oven had to be taken out and hosed down. I was 10 years old at the time. Now my parents were stuck with these people moving into the granny flat. I would go down and visit the lady and I saw her trying to hide the hole above her headboard while she was in bed. Thinking back I must of just walked in. Annoying little kid. I told mum and that’s when they asked to see the granny flat saying I saw a hole. Sure enough there were more holes in walls everywhere. So they were evicted. The lady and her son moved out and we wondered if she left the boyfriend. We were in the house worried how he was going to be when he came home to see her gone. He just walk out and never saw him again. Until in the papers he was jailed and was caught in a police corruption case that was huge in Queensland Australia. He was holding escorts under gun point demanding free sex. Well that’s my hole in the wall story. Don’t trust a man that punches holes in walls.
Wow Riley! That’s so great you are so open to learning! Apologizing without repeatedly for the same mistake without genuinely trying to change and grow.. whether intentional or not, in the end it’s just manipulation.
2nd story is literally a copy paste of my previous relationship, minor details are different but 100% manipulation. run girl it will only get worse I promise.
I feel the commitment issue with tattoos. My first 5 tattoos are all in places I can hide/don’t see all the time. I was 30 before getting one I could see all the time.
I have commitment issues when it comes to tattoos. Ever since I became an adult my dad asks me every so often when I'm getting a tattoo. He has 2 full sleeves and tattoos all over his chest, stomach, back and legs. My mom also has a few tattoos so tattoos were never taboo in my family. However I'm just scared of regretting a tattoo, hating the placement, hating the art in the future, the healing process, etc. It's such a permanent decision that idk if I'll ever be ready for it. Although I do have 3 ideas on a tattoo I would want. I'd want to get a hummingbird tattoo for my paternal grandma who passed away last April (it's her favorite bird), a Filipino sun for my maternal grandma (my mom's side is Filipino) and a Dragon Ball for my uncle who passed away from suicide (our favorite anime was dragon ball).
As long as you stretch your ears slowly it could still close up to size 00g or maybe 1inch. Past that size it might not ever fully close. But if you stretch them too quickly, you can tear the skin and it will be harder for them to close up if not impossible. Story one: seems like they aren't going to work out longterm. People grow and change and sadly sometimes they grow apart.
I watched a video of a lady who got surgery to fix her stretched earlobes and it just looks awful without the gauges in. It just looks like 2 floppy strings of connected skin.
About 20 years ago, my ex and I were having an argument in the car. To scare me into silence, he fullstopped the car (my car) in the middle of the Autobahn, 90° across the lane with my side to the following traffic. We were alone on an unlimited speed, 6 lane highway, guys...
1 thing my ex husband and I learned in therapy, that actually worked lol, was what we referred to was "Time Out". Everyone knows the real reason u give ur kids a time out is so u can have minute to calm down, so if we got angry with each other, or had a bad day at work we'd say I/we need a time out. We'd go to seperate rooms or outside take 5 to 10 minutes and then talk. I recommend to everyone
I personally am made very uncomfortable by any size gauges. It’s the one thing I could never handle being with someone if they decided to get them. They make me extremely anxious to the point that up close they have made me vomit before. I could not live with that no matter how much I loved someone
@@emilyjohn2034 well if it’s any solace, they are literally 1000 times more comfortable than wearing stud earrings. you’d be surprised how tough human skin is. They don’t even hurt when you tug really hard on them.
I had a friend who was like this with me. He called his “alter ego”Bundy. Bundy was the one who was terrible to me, not him. I was young, so I put up with it for way too long before I stood up for myself.
I have an ex with similar anger issues. Especially driving. He would chase people who would anger him in his car. Throw phones and smash the drywall with it beside my head and scare me followed by love bombing. There's something about the love bombing that makes you feel so special at the moment but it is definately a form of manipulation. It's crazy because when we ended it I didn't recognize the terrible person he became. And the kicker he told the new person he bounced to that I was the crazy one. Crazy to stay with him for 10 years for sure.
15:29 I grew up in a domestic violence home. I struggled to control my anger as a kid and it was so bad that my deadly sin is Wrath. I have better control over it now, but yeah, you never want to unlock my wrath. The reason why I have better control over it now is because I didn't want to be like my dad. You have every right to feel angry when you do, but you have no right to be aggressive when you're angry.
Just gotta say that it's beautiful to see Sophia is well educated about DV, this type of entertaining content that also teaches people to see red flags will save people from staying in relationships for too long. I wasted 6 years of my life with a man like that. I sure not wish it to anyone.
Yah Riley. GET a Woodstove. That will be a good outlet. Always need to be done ,plus if you need to hit something longer , the winter needs more chopped wood and you can stock up! Best and cheap durable advice. ❤❤
I've done several things with my appearance that my husband wasn't fond of, but I always wanted to try. (Unnatural hair colors, certain hair styles, certain piercings). At one point, he called his mom and said he was worried I was trying to make him unattracted to me. She told him that was the stupidest thing she'd ever heard him say. His mom is one of the most anti tattoo, anti hair dye, anti piercing people I've ever met, but even she respects people's personal choices.
2. story: I love Sophia's analysis of the relationship and BF's behavior. I have sat in a car with my ex where he smashed the windscreen by kicking it sitting in the front seat. It is developing and not in a good direction!
19:15 meat pie is a beef equivalent to a chicken pot pie. 21:29 I have been in this situation but on the otherside. I'm the one with an anger issues. I've talked with others and clearly I am right for being angry. I am wrong to hold that anger and expel that rage in the ways I did. Either you learn to control the control your rage (do not do those room demolitions because it will only make an unhealthy coping with anger and when that is not available you'll do it still but not in a controlled place.) OR! The option I chose, is to be alone. This undying rage is not healthy for me and I don't want to burden anyone else with it.
I have very small attached earlobes so if I didn't have my gauges my ears would not look like normal ears. Plus babies love putting their tiny fingers in the holes 🤣 just gotta make sure they don't get little intrusive baby thoughts and rip them.
There is a difference between ‘anger’ (an emotion) and ‘aggression’ (an action). Also, physical abuse/domestic violence that does not involve a direct assault of another person (like throwing things, property destruction, reckless driving etc.) is still physical abuse/domestic violence. Anger is an emotion which, like sadness, like joy, that you learn to process, and experience. Actions like threats, blame etc. are a choice (and a not very skillful one) which people make in response to difficulty tolerating certain emotions. Just a few clarifications from a mental health professional- you guys are great, keep doing what you’re doing. (Also I’m an Australian therapist, and Sophia is right, meat pies are the best)
19:26 we have them in South Africa too! We’re in Vegas and there isn’t any out here like the ones from home. I make them for my family a couple times a month. But ours are stake and gravy, sometimes with mushrooms. They are sooooo good 😊
Ok so the first story. Dating a clean cut person vs being an alternative person, can be hard depending on the others' views. When I was 16-18 I dated someone like OP but for me it was absolutely suffocating with how restrictive he was. When I was 18 he said he would leave me BEFORE I get any tattoos/piercings because he hated them. I've now been with a fellow alt person for 11+ years and whenever I mention a new body mod, he is all for it, encouraging me to do everything I want. I've also been stretching my ears! No flies going through my holes xD
Regarding that situation with the angry partner, another reason to tell people what's happening is in case something happens to you (in case they do something to you). That's an extreme, but unfortunately not unheard of, situation people in a similar situation to OP could be facing.
The story about the angry manipulative boyfriend sounds exactly like my husband.. and I just like Opie never really thought about it as abuse now I'm questioning if it is....
The story with the abusive partner is just like my friend's previous relationship. I realized how bad it was when he had a rage moment while driving. It was awful realizing how bad it was. I knew it wasn't great but that really made me worry for her safety
My husband is completely opposite than me. I have tattoos and piercings and my husband has nothing. Every time I decide to get something he doesn’t even think twice cuz it is my body and he still loves me no matter what so the look should not matter
When I met my husband he had some anger issues. He would punch the wall or throw things when he was upset. His anger was never directed at people only inanimate objects. He would react then immediately feel embarrassed and apologize. I told him I understand he needs to vent his frustrations but coming from a traumatic childhood it made me very uncomfortable, he never did it again. I bought him a punching bag for Xmas so he could vent that anger in a healthy way. He is the most amazingly considerate and kind husband and girl dad. The bf in this story is abusive, the reason I stayed is as soon as he saw he was making me uncomfortable he made changes. It's ok to mess up but learn, grow and change. Don't be sorry be better.
When I was 16 I started gaging my ears, after not wearing earrings for 4 years. My mom first noticed when I was at a 12g, told me I couldn't make them any bigger. Months after this interaction I had stretched my ears to a 00g before she realized that they were much bigger than the size she told me to stop at 😅
This one hits home way too hard with my second husband. That is another okop call in again, and I will talk about... I was a call in yesterday during the live
As someone with anger issues most of my life (big reason I love martial arts) I have learned that I need to remove myself from the situation to go calm down. I will always warn a partner of this, but unfortunately some of them do not listen and will try to follow me because "You are being immature, we need to talk this out." If you are aware that your partner has severe anger issues and does have a method of removing and calming themselves, you need to listen for everyone's safety. If they don't, however, have a method, you need to remove yourself from them because I know what I am capable of when I get truly angry and so do they.
Bruh, same; I'm a big fan of personality over someone's looks. If you sit there and nerd out with me about anything I like, I will not shut up. Also, Reliys laugh is so contagious stop!!!!!
Each to their own, personally I find stretched ears revolting 😬 You can do what you want with your body but you also can’t expect your partner to still be attracted to you. It seems like he’s already compromising a lot with the smaller ones and piercings and tattoos
I wish I could keep stretching but my right ear doesn't want to be stretched. It's fine at 10 but any time I put an eight in there even though it's big enough it starts to crack and bleed and won't heel. It's been years and it fits right in with no effort or taper but it just doesn't like it for whatever reason.
@@redbunny22 yeah I really messed up my left ear it got really infected bc I got to cocky with it so now it's above a half inch and I don't have enough skin to fix it but I'm planning on getting it surgically cut up so they'll match again lol I love them tho
I was driving in the left hand lane on a freeway while my ex boyfriend and I were arguing. He put the car in neutral when I refused to stop the car immediately and let him out.
I knew a married couple, in which they almost got evicted because their space was covered in holes that he put in the walls....hallways, bedroom etc....even in their kid's room. They are divorced now.
Not a bf, but my dad and how he treated my mom, me, my siblings and then his future GFs. I had to sit one of his GFs down and come clean to her about his repetitive abuse/love-bombing cycle. She worked for a halfway house for battered women and even then she fell for his manipulation. I've since gone NC with my dad but the trauma has aged me in so many ways. There were a few times when me or my Mom asked my dad to stop speeding and he broke nearly all of our dinner plates. All of my childhood moments are hoarded in his basement and I've given up ever seeing them again. Growing up with that left me vulnerable to a lot of messed up relationships (not just romantically) and now at almost 30, I'm starting over after fleeing a dangerous situation. The biggest problem with people like that is that "attempting to change" performance is just part of the love-bombing. If they don't truly believe that they're in the wrong or that they need help then they'll never change. In their minds, they've lived like this their whole lives and done fine. It's other people who have the problems.
As someone in a relationship with someone with anger issues that man is definitely abusive. When my partner feels an episode coming on he goes outside and yells, throws rocks in the river, or cuts wood (funnily enough since you mentioned that) he has never ONCE done aggressive things in anyway towards me or even adjacent to me. He is very good at communicating if he ever needs a moment, and if he even thinks I might be feeling scared (I’m sensitive and scare easy so not really do to him doing anything wrong confrontation in general scares me) he has immediately changed composure entirely and assures me everything’s okay it’s just a normal disagreement. And while I know anger issues are a spectrum his have been diagnosed as pretty severe so to me if my partner who has diagnosed severe anger issues wouldn’t even excuse behavior like this there is no way this guy could blame it all on the mental illness.
Meat Pie in Australia - Basically cooked ground beef (or chopped small)mixed in gravy, wit short pasty base and pastry top. Here we lift the lid off, put tomato sauce in and on the lid and eat the lid seperately or dip it into the gravy meat mix, then eat the base. If in a car it is messy, it is very difficult to keep the meat gravy from spilling out if eating it like a sandwich
It took me 17 years to leave an emotionally, physically, verbally abusive relationship, if it wasn't for being evicted I don't think I would've ever got the chance, I took me, my babies and left..
I have unfortunarely been a relation ship with an angry man and it took me 3 years to get out of it. I left him on my bday. Best birthday gift ever. (too many things happened and I was tired to be scared)
They're pretty awesome! A standard one is mince, with a gravy type sauce, inside pastry. U can get so many types tho, bacon and cheese ones rock, as do pepper steak 🤘 generally hand sized pies too (not a full size pie) I also feel it necessary to mention the USA stereotype of everyone loving pumpkin pie, ngl, we think that's weird AF, meat pies are where it's at!!! 😂
My ears pricked up as soon as I heard meat pie haha my mind definitely went to Aussie straight away. As an Aussie pescatarian ( going on 23 years) can confirm that meat pies are one of the only things I truly miss not eating. They are hard to describe but they are one of THE most loved foods in Oz.
you don't have to change your look if you get tattoos. i dress about the same as i did in high school & got a tattoo when i was about 23. i still dress w/ solid colored t-shirts, skinny jeans, yoga pants, & hoodies. the only thing i do differently is i wear crop tops & other form fitting shirts that show skin in different places (like a lot of back in particular) but that has to do w/ the fact that i am now skinnier than i was growing up & it took me a while to bevome comfortable in my new body. i lost the weight when i was 24 but didn't start incorporating those shirts & a few other things (like form fitting dresses for nice occassions or when going out to do something at night) until about 4yrs ago when i was about 29.
Regarding the "great boyfriend" with anger issues... An apology without change is manipulation. 🖤
💯 This! Run OP, run!!!
Yes, there's only so many times you can make the same mistake again and again. Your sorry will loose value every time you say it.
New Zealand has them too
Ryle they are delicious
I agree. Unfortunately I didn’t know about that until recent years. After 15 years together and 8 kids later, I’m a separated single mom but it’s easier without him around all the time.
The story with the abusive fiancé was needed. I didn’t realize I was in an abusive situation until 6 years in. I really thought a lot was normal, but seeing others reactions woke me up from it. So thank you for sharing this story for others to hear and learn
Sophia and Riley are such lovely people. Sam and John are too but i love how wholesome Sophia and Riley are and how often Sophia teaches Riley something and he takes it to heart.
They should be together if of course they aren't already with other people.
@zin6730 Idk, they're basically colleagues now. There's been more examples of social media couples where it ended very badly once the relationship ended.
Sorry not sorry if you’re tired of this comment: Sophia and Riley are my fave dynamic. Love Riley’s humility and ability to self reflect. Love Sophia, period. Love their natural platonic chemistry and lightheartedness. Dynamic duo.
I grew up with a dad who had anger issues and it definitely traumatized me. Anytime someone yells, I have similar reactions as I did as a kid. I have seen people who don't yell when they get angry and it's made me realize that yelling the way my dad did is not normal and I can never be with someone who yells when angry.
I think your awareness is really important Riley. That you are asking questions and self reflecting is a great reflection on you as a person. And if you are still worried about your anger then therapy. You don't need to be at the boyfriends anger issue levels to talk to someone about it. Maybe someone could help you come up with techniques to help with any anger. Not that I'm worried about your anger at all! But therapy is a good thing regardless. 😊
Sophia/Riley banter is my favorite part of the week
sophia x riley eps are like therapy. gives u warm fuzzy feels & rly makes u think.
sam x john eps are comedic & lighthearted. takes the edge off.
when it’s all 4 it’s a perfect storm lol
I am a 47 year old Female and yall are somewhat near my children's ages. (22 and 28) I gotta say that watching yall go thru these stories and learn how people behave at times and the best way to react/take action to support your OK fam.... I feel like it is teaching you, as well as the ok fam, how to be the best people you can. How to cope with the bad things and how to support each other. This gives me hope for the future. Thank you for doing what you do... It's not just spilling the tea and gossip, it truly is supporting your fam. I love yall, I AM subscribed, and SEE YOU TOMORROW!!!
I have been in story twos situation, he yelled and cursed and insulted and guilted me all the time, but when things progressed to punching the wall next to my face and speeding and swerving in traffic when angry, and I shit you not telling me while gripping the steering wheel, “you’re so lucky I’m a better man, other men would have hit you by now”, and from my experience this will only get worse. He’s getting up to being worse and worse and worse and he doesn’t care about making her uncomfortable, scared, let alone putting her in danger. Hard listen for that story, but good to reflect on my own life story.
This was what I was about to say. It was hard to hear story 2 because so much of it resonated with my past relationship. I was with my ex for 17 years. From age 14. I was so blind to the abuse that after everything when I was told that I was a victim of domestic violence, I broke down. It hurt so much to know that I had been in it for so long. The trauma is real and there are so many triggers. I wish I had told someone earlier as she is exactly right. You protect them to your friends and family and once you say something, you can’t take it back. It is not you making them look like an arsehole by telling someone what they did, they made themselves look like an arsehole……. Because they are an arsehole.
As a person with 1 1/2 inch gauges, I can say I’ve never had a fly go through my holes (thankfully)😹
That you know of...
Lmao I've never considered that q possibility but if it happend to me I'd just say I trained the fly to do it 😂
@@pugbae love that😹
With gauged ears, you keep your jewellery in 24/7@@firesignstudio
**yet**
I would be curious if the boyfriend has ever had trouble controlling his anger around other men or around the police officer. If he can control himself in those situations, then his aggression went in front of OP is a choice.
Riley is a really good listener! I love how these two communicate when they disagree 😊
36:33 Riley is smart and thoughtful for this. When I got my wisdom teeth surgery, my boyfriend came to my parents house and made me soup and fed me jello and mashed potatoes and bought me some pudding and he binge watched King of the Hill with me. Best boyfriend ever. 😊 Made recovery from surgery a lot better. We all need partners who will feed and care for us when we're sick or in recovery.
A person definitely has the right to do whatever they want with their body, like gauging their ears. However, it is their partner's choice to not find it attractive and leave the relationship. Neither is the a*hole for having those feelings.
I agree. Personally I hate gauges and piercings anywhere on the body. I don't mind other types of earrings on the ears as I have my ears pierced but to me I don't like how Gauges look. If someone can pull it off, more power to them, but I've seen a video where a lady wanted surgery to fix her stretched earlobes and it officially grossed me out. Pertaining to my own relationship, I love when my boyfriend is clean shaven. I don't like facial hair because it reminds me of my dad as he has a huge beard with lots of facial hair. Idk any time I see facial hair I either think of my dad or Shaggy from Scooby Doo. That's just my personal preference. I don't think he's unattractive with facial hair, I just prefer a clean face
Agreed! I have tattoos, piercings, and stretched ears - would definitely just break up with him. Not because he's wrong but because we'd be incompatible as hell if it meant that much to him.
I genuinely find gauges to be disturbing to me, I would never judge someone for having them but i definitely could not date someone with them. The few times I’ve seen them up close it’s enough to make me vomit because of how uncomfortable it makes me. I could not live with that kind of feeling 24/7
Knowing you don't like alternative girls, but choosing to date an alternative girl and then trying to stop her from doing what she wants with her appearance does make you kind of an asshole.
I was with a man for 15 years we didn’t move in together until almost 7 years in. I noticed he had anger issues with various things over the years. When I moved in it was gradual. At first the perfect guy and then it changed over time. It ended up being a terribly abusive situation and was horrible to get out of. So confusing, and such an awful time. Glad OP got out safe, it’s a very difficult thing to do.
Story number one definitely has fear of abandonment.
Sounded like a normal long-term relationship question to me. If you've committed to a person for 10+ years you just have to include that person's preferences in some situations. There isn't a person on earth who's going to like/agree with 100% of all the choices you're going to make.
If OP had been telling about being a pushover while being miserable for not being able to express in the way she wanted I would've agreed with the abandonment issue. But that's not the case here. She said she already got a big tattoo he didn't like and started the ear stretching he didn't like. And he let her do that, cuz it's her body. Only after a certain time she realised she might damage the relationship with this, which is a mature thing to think about.
If your partner hate tattoos and pircing why did he date her to begin with when its common for people to get more who have them. He sounds like he is embarrassed of her look. I was with a guy like that and i left and a bunch of other reasons @Nathan_Bookwurm
First story: I love tattoos, I like pricing but I think gauges look disgusting. It really makes me a bit nauseous to look at them. My boss has them and in over 2 years I can't get used to them. So I totally get when there are things you really don't want your partner to do appearance wise.
Also, unlike other piercings, they don't disappear when you take them out, and at least with a tattoo, It won't be visible most of the time. I don't really mind them aside from the smell. I don't want my partner to smell bad, period lol.
I watched a video of a lady who got surgery to fix her stretched earlobes and it just looks awful without the gauges in. It just looks like 2 floppy strings of connected skin.
Riley's comment around 43:03 "..oof she just called herself a 5..ahh you're not a 5, you're a funny 7.." was the best thing ever! So funny! Love! 😮😂❤
Low-Key watching Sophia and Riley in this real life RomCom lol
are they a couple tho
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I do appreciate Riley making a conscious effort to understand the perspectives, and concepts, that Sophia speaks on.
There has been growth there, and we love to see it 🥰
Aussie here. A meat pie is a pie with minced meat and gravy it’s delicious and the best thing to eat at footy games in winter.
We have them in Canada too, different kinds of meat, some have veggies mixed in too with graveyard. Not my thing but yes they are tasty, you can get them regular pie size, medium size (like a ceral bowl), small size and mini size
@@heatherscea853We call the mini size "party pies" in Oz because they are a party staple. They are definitely also a party for your mouth lol.
It's your body but you would have to put in consideration that without the gauges you can't do earrings because of the stretch skin. A majority of people may love their gauges but there are a handful who regret getting them.
I watched a video of a lady who got surgery to fix her stretched earlobes because they were just stretched beyond repair and only surgery could fix it. It just looks awful without the gauges in. It just looks like 2 floppy strings of connected skin.
I’m scared of ear gauges kinda like a phobia I wouldn’t want to date someone with them… I also wouldn’t tell them to stop I’d simply end the relationship so they can do what they want with their body…
That’s how I am! It makes me scared and uncomfortable and seeing them up close has literally made me vomit. They are one of the few things I could not make an exception for
Not an Ahole for wanting stretch your own ears but also be prepared to face consequences.
It was telling someone my ex had r#ped me that then opened to talking about the rest of his behaviour. Several years of financial, emotional, verbal abuse, manipulation and stuff. To be honest things still come out randomly that me and my own mum were lied to about and its been years. He created such a wedge with me and my family and making me believe he was all I had. When I ended things finally he even said I would not get better than him, that people think I am a looney leaving him etc etc. I still hear his poison today in my head as he pulled a number on me. It still impacts me. He hated that i found the courage i did though and started telling people things. I lied to my parents for a little while after about some stuff like the financial abuse and bits, due to manipulation, but that didn’t last long with getting stronger after leaving. My parents seemed quite broken about what happened once it all came out. I felt bad about that on top of everything. Unfortunately wasn't my first abusive relationship but was one of the worst. With OP i am so glad that she got out and i hope she goes from strength to strength. She never deserved any of what happened and I hope she finds someone who treats her right 💜
Aussie meat pie is basically meat with gravy sauce in a short crust base with a very flaky crust on top. They're usually hand-held size - about the size of your hand - and they are DE-LICI-OUS! As an Aussie, can recommend. I'm actually having one for lunch.
They also come with various fillings - chicken and vegetable with a white gravy sauce is very nice, curry beef is fire, vegetarian with a dark gravy is also pretty fire - but the basic meat pie is beef (usually ground up) with a thick, rich gravy. Oh, and pepper steak is so good, too. Highly recommend trying a pie from a local bakery if you ever come to visit Aus.
"his angry driving is an everyday occurrence" no. No way. I'd run fast. Angry drivers are one of the worst and most dangerous people on the road. I could never be with someone that can't let go of road rage. That's so immature. I would never get in the car of someone with that level of anger issues. I'd be scared that he'd kill us
First story: my husband is such a professional (aerospace engineer and software engineer degrees, 8 yrs of college, dresses the part) I have a sleeve, have 00 gauges, a nose ring. At no point has he ever tried to tell me he would love me less for doing something that I genuinely want to do with my body. He even helped me dye my hair pink when I wanted to. If he truly loved OP stretched ears wouldn’t have him walking away from 10 years with them. It’s sad she backed down and didn’t do what she wanted to with her own body bc she was worried about him not being attracted to her (she says it’s not true but deep down we all know it’s subconscious insecurity).
I want to give OP#2 the biggest hug and a warm cup of tea
gauges are gross and they absolutely wreeeeeeeeekkkk to high hell when not cleaned daily.
Only when not taken care of properly. I have plenty of friends who do take care of theirs and there is no issue. I don't find them attractive, but it is their choice.
In general, who doesn't wash their ears on the daily while showering!? That's just basic hygiene haha.
My first serious boyfriend was clingy like the sick guy. I finally just gave in and told him to come bring me soup if he wanted to so badly. "Sure, come over then. If I throw up on you, I'm not apologizing, and if you catch my sick, then I'm not nursing you. I refuse to take my sick back." He was so offended when he did catch my sick, but I warned him. I even called his mother and asked her to let me know when he was well because I catch other people's sicks too easily and didn't want to be sick again.
I really like Sophia and Riley together. I ❤ Riley reacting to Sophia and she giggles sometimes.
now that its past march 17 how often do sophie and riley say i love you to each other lmao
I think of tattoos as stickers, and they once they are there, they stay there. Otherwise, they rip or fade away, or you layer them on top of themselves. I just haven't found my stickers yet
I feel so sad for people growing up now and trying to always be right and accommodating.
Riley is on point that your person could have preferences and lose attraction over something you do. Whether it’s getting guages, tattoos, or even gaining 100+ pounds. Sophia comparing it to a haircut is so off base. A risky haircut grows out. You can’t really undo tattoos or stretched ears.
While that gal in the first story may have a right to choose what she prefers to do to herself and likes, her man equally has the right to find it repulsive and leave because he doesn’t think it’s attractive.
I can already tell this episode is a lot better Editing wise and Just the flow thank you for listening to us We appreciate it and we understand you guys are just starting out so thank you
"let me feed you soup" was super adorable!!! Reminds me of my man, he won't feed it to me, but he will go to the store and buy it, buy me a ton of my favorite cupcakes and watch a movie with me while I eat.
My parents owned a duplex where we lived in the front and they rented the back and a house with a granny flat. This policeman and his girlfriend along with their 3 year old son rented the duplex from my parents. My parents never did an expection. My parents sold the duplex and moved to a house with the granny flat so offered the tenants to move with us and live in the granny flat. The day of moving from the duplex the back unit had holes in the walls, bullets on the floor, poo on the floors , taps missing ,the stove oven had to be taken out and hosed down. I was 10 years old at the time. Now my parents were stuck with these people moving into the granny flat. I would go down and visit the lady and I saw her trying to hide the hole above her headboard while she was in bed. Thinking back I must of just walked in. Annoying little kid. I told mum and that’s when they asked to see the granny flat saying I saw a hole. Sure enough there were more holes in walls everywhere. So they were evicted. The lady and her son moved out and we wondered if she left the boyfriend. We were in the house worried how he was going to be when he came home to see her gone. He just walk out and never saw him again. Until in the papers he was jailed and was caught in a police corruption case that was huge in Queensland Australia. He was holding escorts under gun point demanding free sex. Well that’s my hole in the wall story. Don’t trust a man that punches holes in walls.
Wow Riley! That’s so great you are so open to learning! Apologizing without repeatedly for the same mistake without genuinely trying to change and grow.. whether intentional or not, in the end it’s just manipulation.
Your partner should never have a problem with you gaining weight; however they can be concerned for your mental and overall health
2nd story is literally a copy paste of my previous relationship, minor details are different but 100% manipulation. run girl it will only get worse I promise.
I feel the commitment issue with tattoos. My first 5 tattoos are all in places I can hide/don’t see all the time. I was 30 before getting one I could see all the time.
I have commitment issues when it comes to tattoos. Ever since I became an adult my dad asks me every so often when I'm getting a tattoo. He has 2 full sleeves and tattoos all over his chest, stomach, back and legs. My mom also has a few tattoos so tattoos were never taboo in my family. However I'm just scared of regretting a tattoo, hating the placement, hating the art in the future, the healing process, etc. It's such a permanent decision that idk if I'll ever be ready for it. Although I do have 3 ideas on a tattoo I would want. I'd want to get a hummingbird tattoo for my paternal grandma who passed away last April (it's her favorite bird), a Filipino sun for my maternal grandma (my mom's side is Filipino) and a Dragon Ball for my uncle who passed away from suicide (our favorite anime was dragon ball).
This episode was like therapy for me… except far more entertaining and effective. Immediate results! ❤
I had a 6g when I was 16 and took them out when I was 19, and they shrunk back to normal.
As long as you stretch your ears slowly it could still close up to size 00g or maybe 1inch. Past that size it might not ever fully close. But if you stretch them too quickly, you can tear the skin and it will be harder for them to close up if not impossible.
Story one: seems like they aren't going to work out longterm. People grow and change and sadly sometimes they grow apart.
I watched a video of a lady who got surgery to fix her stretched earlobes and it just looks awful without the gauges in. It just looks like 2 floppy strings of connected skin.
About 20 years ago, my ex and I were having an argument in the car. To scare me into silence, he fullstopped the car (my car) in the middle of the Autobahn, 90° across the lane with my side to the following traffic. We were alone on an unlimited speed, 6 lane highway, guys...
1 thing my ex husband and I learned in therapy, that actually worked lol, was what we referred to was "Time Out". Everyone knows the real reason u give ur kids a time out is so u can have minute to calm down, so if we got angry with each other, or had a bad day at work we'd say I/we need a time out. We'd go to seperate rooms or outside take 5 to 10 minutes and then talk. I recommend to everyone
2g isn't even big???? I want 0g gauges BECAUSE they're small! this guy sounds kinda controlling..
not small but I want to hold pencils in my ear holes LOL
2g is the smallest of my 6. Literally baby plugs
I have 00 and my employer literally didn't even notice until I pointed it out
I personally am made very uncomfortable by any size gauges. It’s the one thing I could never handle being with someone if they decided to get them. They make me extremely anxious to the point that up close they have made me vomit before. I could not live with that no matter how much I loved someone
@@emilyjohn2034 well if it’s any solace, they are literally 1000 times more comfortable than wearing stud earrings. you’d be surprised how tough human skin is. They don’t even hurt when you tug really hard on them.
I had a friend who was like this with me. He called his “alter ego”Bundy. Bundy was the one who was terrible to me, not him. I was young, so I put up with it for way too long before I stood up for myself.
I have an ex with similar anger issues. Especially driving. He would chase people who would anger him in his car. Throw phones and smash the drywall with it beside my head and scare me followed by love bombing. There's something about the love bombing that makes you feel so special at the moment but it is definately a form of manipulation. It's crazy because when we ended it I didn't recognize the terrible person he became. And the kicker he told the new person he bounced to that I was the crazy one. Crazy to stay with him for 10 years for sure.
Bro was going about 100 mph because some food got on his shirt. What a man child
15:29 I grew up in a domestic violence home. I struggled to control my anger as a kid and it was so bad that my deadly sin is Wrath. I have better control over it now, but yeah, you never want to unlock my wrath.
The reason why I have better control over it now is because I didn't want to be like my dad. You have every right to feel angry when you do, but you have no right to be aggressive when you're angry.
Just gotta say that it's beautiful to see Sophia is well educated about DV, this type of entertaining content that also teaches people to see red flags will save people from staying in relationships for too long. I wasted 6 years of my life with a man like that. I sure not wish it to anyone.
17:44 (Aussie here) Meat pies are amazing! Not from the servo though, from the bakery or supermarket
Yah Riley. GET a Woodstove. That will be a good outlet. Always need to be done ,plus if you need to hit something longer , the winter needs more chopped wood and you can stock up! Best and cheap durable advice. ❤❤
Riley just let it grow long.
I've done several things with my appearance that my husband wasn't fond of, but I always wanted to try. (Unnatural hair colors, certain hair styles, certain piercings). At one point, he called his mom and said he was worried I was trying to make him unattracted to me. She told him that was the stupidest thing she'd ever heard him say. His mom is one of the most anti tattoo, anti hair dye, anti piercing people I've ever met, but even she respects people's personal choices.
2. story: I love Sophia's analysis of the relationship and BF's behavior. I have sat in a car with my ex where he smashed the windscreen by kicking it sitting in the front seat. It is developing and not in a good direction!
🥝 here!! Hell yes to the meat pies. Very very big thing here. Sophia's face lighting up talking about pies ❤❤❤
19:15 meat pie is a beef equivalent to a chicken pot pie.
21:29 I have been in this situation but on the otherside. I'm the one with an anger issues. I've talked with others and clearly I am right for being angry. I am wrong to hold that anger and expel that rage in the ways I did. Either you learn to control the control your rage (do not do those room demolitions because it will only make an unhealthy coping with anger and when that is not available you'll do it still but not in a controlled place.) OR! The option I chose, is to be alone. This undying rage is not healthy for me and I don't want to burden anyone else with it.
I have very small attached earlobes so if I didn't have my gauges my ears would not look like normal ears. Plus babies love putting their tiny fingers in the holes 🤣 just gotta make sure they don't get little intrusive baby thoughts and rip them.
12:15 my youngest brother high fived a spider I asked him to remove through my wall 😂
There is a difference between ‘anger’ (an emotion) and ‘aggression’ (an action). Also, physical abuse/domestic violence that does not involve a direct assault of another person (like throwing things, property destruction, reckless driving etc.) is still physical abuse/domestic violence.
Anger is an emotion which, like sadness, like joy, that you learn to process, and experience. Actions like threats, blame etc. are a choice (and a not very skillful one) which people make in response to difficulty tolerating certain emotions.
Just a few clarifications from a mental health professional- you guys are great, keep doing what you’re doing.
(Also I’m an Australian therapist, and Sophia is right, meat pies are the best)
47:32 I’m laughing so hard. You guys are great
19:26 we have them in South Africa too! We’re in Vegas and there isn’t any out here like the ones from home. I make them for my family a couple times a month. But ours are stake and gravy, sometimes with mushrooms. They are sooooo good 😊
Ok so the first story. Dating a clean cut person vs being an alternative person, can be hard depending on the others' views. When I was 16-18 I dated someone like OP but for me it was absolutely suffocating with how restrictive he was. When I was 18 he said he would leave me BEFORE I get any tattoos/piercings because he hated them.
I've now been with a fellow alt person for 11+ years and whenever I mention a new body mod, he is all for it, encouraging me to do everything I want. I've also been stretching my ears! No flies going through my holes xD
Regarding that situation with the angry partner, another reason to tell people what's happening is in case something happens to you (in case they do something to you). That's an extreme, but unfortunately not unheard of, situation people in a similar situation to OP could be facing.
The story about the angry manipulative boyfriend sounds exactly like my husband.. and I just like Opie never really thought about it as abuse now I'm questioning if it is....
The story with the abusive partner is just like my friend's previous relationship. I realized how bad it was when he had a rage moment while driving. It was awful realizing how bad it was. I knew it wasn't great but that really made me worry for her safety
I still ship Sophia and Riley 😂 you guys are too fun together lol
I’ve been in that abusive situation. Sophia’s comments are spot-on. I wish I would’ve seen the signs sooner. It’s total manipulation.
Glad to know that Sophia and Riley love each other by now
My husband is completely opposite than me. I have tattoos and piercings and my husband has nothing. Every time I decide to get something he doesn’t even think twice cuz it is my body and he still loves me no matter what so the look should not matter
Same with my husband and me i have all the piercings and tattoos but he doesn't have any 🧡
When I met my husband he had some anger issues. He would punch the wall or throw things when he was upset. His anger was never directed at people only inanimate objects. He would react then immediately feel embarrassed and apologize. I told him I understand he needs to vent his frustrations but coming from a traumatic childhood it made me very uncomfortable, he never did it again. I bought him a punching bag for Xmas so he could vent that anger in a healthy way. He is the most amazingly considerate and kind husband and girl dad. The bf in this story is abusive, the reason I stayed is as soon as he saw he was making me uncomfortable he made changes. It's ok to mess up but learn, grow and change. Don't be sorry be better.
meat pie (Savoury pie crust with bits of meat/steak in gravy) bit of tomato sauce on the side
When I was 16 I started gaging my ears, after not wearing earrings for 4 years. My mom first noticed when I was at a 12g, told me I couldn't make them any bigger. Months after this interaction I had stretched my ears to a 00g before she realized that they were much bigger than the size she told me to stop at 😅
This one hits home way too hard with my second husband. That is another okop call in again, and I will talk about... I was a call in yesterday during the live
As someone with anger issues most of my life (big reason I love martial arts) I have learned that I need to remove myself from the situation to go calm down. I will always warn a partner of this, but unfortunately some of them do not listen and will try to follow me because "You are being immature, we need to talk this out." If you are aware that your partner has severe anger issues and does have a method of removing and calming themselves, you need to listen for everyone's safety. If they don't, however, have a method, you need to remove yourself from them because I know what I am capable of when I get truly angry and so do they.
The Lundy Bancroft book they mentioned is called "Why Does He Do That?"
I'm also reading it.
Bruh, same; I'm a big fan of personality over someone's looks. If you sit there and nerd out with me about anything I like, I will not shut up. Also, Reliys laugh is so contagious stop!!!!!
22:04 This sounds exactly like what happened to Gabby Petito
Well what led to it
@@sophiacalon3463 Having an abusive partner.
Each to their own, personally I find stretched ears revolting 😬
You can do what you want with your body but you also can’t expect your partner to still be attracted to you.
It seems like he’s already compromising a lot with the smaller ones and piercings and tattoos
KEEP STRETCHING I have gauges and I love them balance my ears out and Riley I have never had a fly go through mine, they're almost an inch
I wish I could keep stretching but my right ear doesn't want to be stretched. It's fine at 10 but any time I put an eight in there even though it's big enough it starts to crack and bleed and won't heel. It's been years and it fits right in with no effort or taper but it just doesn't like it for whatever reason.
@@redbunny22 yeah I really messed up my left ear it got really infected bc I got to cocky with it so now it's above a half inch and I don't have enough skin to fix it but I'm planning on getting it surgically cut up so they'll match again lol I love them tho
I was driving in the left hand lane on a freeway while my ex boyfriend and I were arguing. He put the car in neutral when I refused to stop the car immediately and let him out.
I knew a married couple, in which they almost got evicted because their space was covered in holes that he put in the walls....hallways, bedroom etc....even in their kid's room. They are divorced now.
Apologies accepted without change mean nothing. Eventually, the apologies will stop, but the behaviour will continue
My husband punched walls in every room of my house, because he wasn’t punching me, right. Until it wasn’t just the wall. LEAVE NOW!
Not a bf, but my dad and how he treated my mom, me, my siblings and then his future GFs. I had to sit one of his GFs down and come clean to her about his repetitive abuse/love-bombing cycle. She worked for a halfway house for battered women and even then she fell for his manipulation. I've since gone NC with my dad but the trauma has aged me in so many ways. There were a few times when me or my Mom asked my dad to stop speeding and he broke nearly all of our dinner plates. All of my childhood moments are hoarded in his basement and I've given up ever seeing them again. Growing up with that left me vulnerable to a lot of messed up relationships (not just romantically) and now at almost 30, I'm starting over after fleeing a dangerous situation.
The biggest problem with people like that is that "attempting to change" performance is just part of the love-bombing. If they don't truly believe that they're in the wrong or that they need help then they'll never change. In their minds, they've lived like this their whole lives and done fine. It's other people who have the problems.
20:36 "why would I put MYSELF in danger" !?!?!?!?! it should be WHY THE FUCK WOULD YOU PUT YOUR PARTNER IN FUCKING DANGER!!!!
I’m a professional groomer and have gauges and they’re left alone so much I forget I have them sometimes 😂
As someone in a relationship with someone with anger issues that man is definitely abusive. When my partner feels an episode coming on he goes outside and yells, throws rocks in the river, or cuts wood (funnily enough since you mentioned that) he has never ONCE done aggressive things in anyway towards me or even adjacent to me. He is very good at communicating if he ever needs a moment, and if he even thinks I might be feeling scared (I’m sensitive and scare easy so not really do to him doing anything wrong confrontation in general scares me) he has immediately changed composure entirely and assures me everything’s okay it’s just a normal disagreement. And while I know anger issues are a spectrum his have been diagnosed as pretty severe so to me if my partner who has diagnosed severe anger issues wouldn’t even excuse behavior like this there is no way this guy could blame it all on the mental illness.
Meat Pie in Australia - Basically cooked ground beef (or chopped small)mixed in gravy, wit short pasty base and pastry top. Here we lift the lid off, put tomato sauce in and on the lid and eat the lid seperately or dip it into the gravy meat mix, then eat the base. If in a car it is messy, it is very difficult to keep the meat gravy from spilling out if eating it like a sandwich
It took me 17 years to leave an emotionally, physically, verbally abusive relationship, if it wasn't for being evicted I don't think I would've ever got the chance, I took me, my babies and left..
I have unfortunarely been a relation ship with an angry man and it took me 3 years to get out of it. I left him on my bday. Best birthday gift ever. (too many things happened and I was tired to be scared)
18:50 as much as I’m here for Riley’s maybe hate for meatloaf, meat pies sound absolutely *_AMAZING!_*
They're pretty awesome! A standard one is mince, with a gravy type sauce, inside pastry. U can get so many types tho, bacon and cheese ones rock, as do pepper steak 🤘 generally hand sized pies too (not a full size pie)
I also feel it necessary to mention the USA stereotype of everyone loving pumpkin pie, ngl, we think that's weird AF, meat pies are where it's at!!! 😂
My ears pricked up as soon as I heard meat pie haha my mind definitely went to Aussie straight away. As an Aussie pescatarian ( going on 23 years) can confirm that meat pies are one of the only things I truly miss not eating. They are hard to describe but they are one of THE most loved foods in Oz.
you don't have to change your look if you get tattoos. i dress about the same as i did in high school & got a tattoo when i was about 23.
i still dress w/ solid colored t-shirts, skinny jeans, yoga pants, & hoodies. the only thing i do differently is i wear crop tops & other form fitting shirts that show skin in different places (like a lot of back in particular) but that has to do w/ the fact that i am now skinnier than i was growing up & it took me a while to bevome comfortable in my new body. i lost the weight when i was 24 but didn't start incorporating those shirts & a few other things (like form fitting dresses for nice occassions or when going out to do something at night) until about 4yrs ago when i was about 29.
Meatloaf compared to meat pie is an insult lol. I don't eat meat anymore but meat pie was so good
I’m a pet groomer for 13 years now and my ears are stretched to 32mm! For my whole career how interesting 😊