How I Stopped Overthinking

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  • @vergil2
    @vergil2 10 місяців тому +118

    I overthink the things that dont matter and dont think enough about the things that do. Im stuck in a miserable loop socially

    • @RCB1823
      @RCB1823 7 місяців тому

      That's the exact problem I'm facing 🤦🥲

    • @kalam_29
      @kalam_29 6 місяців тому

      What’s the solution for it?

    • @vergil2
      @vergil2 6 місяців тому

      @@kalam_29 stoicism is a good way to help. Ive been feeling better after learning some stoicism (im like 30% better im getting there)
      Stoicism requires dedication to learn so unless youre serious

  • @yousr9847
    @yousr9847 2 роки тому +22

    “Good is better than perfect, because perfect is never done”

  • @time4psychology
    @time4psychology 2 роки тому +38

    1:17 Facts " the problem is that we struggle with acting too slow because we are stuck in our heads trying to overthink all the time "
    Thank you Ali

  • @SpawnPoiint
    @SpawnPoiint 2 роки тому +81

    This is very valuable advice. It’s easy to overthink and completely lose track of your end goal. This can be detrimental to your future. Thanks Ali!

  • @kitokid86400
    @kitokid86400 2 роки тому +456

    Thanks for the excellent tips, Ali!
    0:33 - What is Overthinking?
    4:32 - Thinking in terms of "Experiments"
    5:48 - Thinking in terms of "Expected Value"
    7:58 - Fear is Your Compass
    8:52 - The Foundation of Consistent Action
    10:49 - Mental Board Advisors (MBA)

    • @iMak01
      @iMak01 2 роки тому +8

      The commenter we don't deserve: saving the day with the chapter outlines. Ty sm!

  • @roselinededua
    @roselinededua 2 роки тому +28

    Fear is a compass! I’ve never thought of this that way but I think it’s brilliant

  • @lailafayed9743
    @lailafayed9743 2 роки тому +10

    I received the notification just after finishing writing my daily morning pages where I made a promise to my self to stop over thinking and start the project I wanted to start a month ago.
    And because of over thinking I kept procrastinating and telling myself I'm still not good enough and I need more time to work on the project, despite knowing that I only get better when I do a certain thing multiple times, but I was afraid of starting anyhow.
    Thank you so much for this video, it gave me a huge push and made me realize that I won't gain anything by over thinking. Thanks again ☺️☺️

  • @DóndeEstáAlejandro
    @DóndeEstáAlejandro 2 роки тому +3

    Crazy part about your new video structure is that you’re subliminally making us use the “memory palace technique” to remember the different points as you sit at various places around the office. genius, man. Haven’t seen that done before. 👏

  • @ThreeTwentyTech
    @ThreeTwentyTech 2 роки тому +646

    The best way to stop overthinking is understanding that no amount of overthinking will lead to positive results. In fact, all it will do is cause more stress and anxiety for yourself, more likely leading to the problem only getting worse.

    • @channiedhillon
      @channiedhillon 2 роки тому +10

      Worry will not end worry.

    • @jamesis360
      @jamesis360 2 роки тому +3

      Good one

    • @JanetLee-wh1if
      @JanetLee-wh1if Рік тому +5

      Now I'm overthinking about how much overthinking is too much .. and what is the desired result of stopping the overthinking

    • @QamarAftabVohra
      @QamarAftabVohra Рік тому

      Gn CPCb

    • @Fahodinho
      @Fahodinho Рік тому +3

      wow omg how did i not think of that. thank you for solving this problem.

  • @khalilahd.
    @khalilahd. 2 роки тому +146

    I’ve been an overthinker my whole life too so it’s really cool to see someone I look up to discuss this and explain how to move through it. I’ve been talking myself through these moments of paralysis but these tips seem much more helpful so thank you! I’ll give them a try 🙏🏽

  • @zohalarbabzada9654
    @zohalarbabzada9654 2 роки тому +4

    This video came at a perfect moment where I've gone down a spiral of overthinking. This video and these comments have helped!

  • @manishchitre5130
    @manishchitre5130 2 роки тому +11

    Awesome! Having been suffered from anxiety I know the root cause of it is overthinking to get to the exact outcome when in turn we actually don't have control over our results.

  • @helenhs.
    @helenhs. 2 роки тому +3

    these angles are really making me feel like a bee that happens to be in the room while you prepare for your monologue...

  • @okokbyebye273
    @okokbyebye273 2 роки тому +1

    omggg this is my biggest problem. today when i was overthinking so much i thought i might have a psychosis episode, i thought to myself about how this problem messed up my mind. AND now i came across this video!!! this is defo a sign of the universe. thank you Ali!!!

  • @imrankhanmac
    @imrankhanmac 2 роки тому +1

    Usually I watch subscribed channels whenever I am free. But now I have made it a habit to watch yours daily. Sharing with friends and family as well.
    Thanks. You are awesome bro

  • @mehditate
    @mehditate 2 роки тому +4

    I always wanted to start a UA-cam channel and kept overthinking it to the point that I never started until 3 months ago. Now i am glad I’m in the space 🙏🏽

  • @FinancialShinanigan
    @FinancialShinanigan 2 роки тому +116

    "Perfection is the enemy of process"
    Hope this quote makes sense, I didn't think too much before typing it

  • @legendofchrono
    @legendofchrono 10 місяців тому

    I'm making some changes recently and taking some (what I perceive to be) risks. I've never been happy about overthinking and paralyzing myself out of doing something, it's always made me feel worse. There hasn't been one situation I can think of where I've backed out of something because of fear or overthinking and been like "Man, I'm so much better off!".
    This was an incredibly helpful video. Thinking in terms of experiments and positive EV kind of blows my mind a bit. I've also recently heard from others how fear of something generally means that's the thing you want to be paying attention to, not running from.
    Awesome video, thank you.

  • @ZoeysMusings
    @ZoeysMusings 2 роки тому +892

    Future wife?! We're going to have a "how to have a productive bachelor party/wedding" series soon 😁🎉So true that social threats get us all wound up. Viewing things as an experiment takes off a lot of pressure because you're focusing more on the process than the end result. I like that mental board of advisors thinking. Great video, Ali 🙂

    • @abigailmate5155
      @abigailmate5155 2 роки тому +41

      episode 1, how to date productively 😂😂

    • @drealdavidj
      @drealdavidj 2 роки тому +1

      Hahaha 😊

    • @drealdavidj
      @drealdavidj 2 роки тому +3

      @@abigailmate5155 that would be a nice topic to talk about.

    • @buckyducky2581
      @buckyducky2581 2 роки тому +24

      how to have a productive child making session

    • @abigailmate5155
      @abigailmate5155 2 роки тому

      @Alice I have to search for it lol I need it desperately

  • @Akta
    @Akta 2 роки тому +18

    I can’t even imagine you being an overthinker because of how chilled you are (vs me being super neurotic and overthinking everything) so it’s good to hear you talk about this 😊 also future wife, that is so cute 🥹🥹

  • @kairitukeeru
    @kairitukeeru 2 роки тому +3

    As usual, Ali brings the gold. I've gotten so much value from this channel I can't believe it's free

  • @shivanibhargava6607
    @shivanibhargava6607 2 роки тому +36

    Future wife!!!!! I’ve been celebrating all your milestones through the years and look up to you as an elder brother, and this makes me so happy from the core of my heart ahhhh a massive massive congratulations to you and her Ali! ❤️

  • @galateamiscelanea
    @galateamiscelanea 2 роки тому +2

    I feel very inspired by you, I have been struggling with things inside for a long time, this year I separated from the person I loved the most in my life and I am trying to change

    • @galateamiscelanea
      @galateamiscelanea 2 роки тому +1

      I left my studies at 17 due to anxieties that I had due to previous insecurities and abuses,I try to fight again but I'm scared

  • @lucam7790
    @lucam7790 2 роки тому +1

    Thankfully, UA-cam reads my mind and browser history so I can get recommendations like this.
    Just what I needed. In under 15 minutes. Thank you.

  • @BilalFazalShaikh
    @BilalFazalShaikh 2 роки тому +1

    I was consultant plastic surgeon in Pakistan and currently working as CF in NHS. When I was your age I used to teach and guide my younger co-workers, now I see your video for guidance for me.

  • @nattynoodlenutkin
    @nattynoodlenutkin 2 роки тому +20

    Are you reading my mind? I was literally sat here thinking I need to work out how to stop overthinking when your video popped up. I need to watch intently now! Thank you!

  • @robjorgit
    @robjorgit 2 роки тому +1

    started to build my channel and indeed i notice my own overthinking on not only subjects but what to include and not to include in a video. did just release video that did better then expected. happy with that.

  • @CtMiraAziz
    @CtMiraAziz 2 роки тому +1

    "whenever I'm scared of doing something it's probably the right thing".....that words make me think maybe everything that me scare to start doing is right thing

  • @nipun_surnilla
    @nipun_surnilla 2 роки тому +1

    I see that Ali is trying to move around in the video which makes it more interesting! Ali had tweeted a typeform for suggestions and I had suggested that moving around and changing the background will make the audience wanting to watch the video... Happy to see a change!

  • @kareenakayla4302
    @kareenakayla4302 2 роки тому +1

    Three things:
    1) I really needed this
    2) Production quality is top notch, keeps getting better wow
    3) Future wife?! Sheesh I’ve been with this channel a long time

  • @reemked1908
    @reemked1908 11 місяців тому

    Fantastic advice! I just applied it 2 mins after I listened to the video. I was so apprehensive about a job role that I might be considered for. It was completely out of my comfort zone and experience. But then I thought it could be a great Experiment! Suddenly my anxiety got replaced by curiosity!

  • @aminiacreativedesign2700
    @aminiacreativedesign2700 2 роки тому +15

    Hello Ali!
    I've missed your chill videos that start like this... You walking in, with a mug, seeing the plants and such. Thank you Ali for this...
    This truly feels like hanging out with a pal in the living room chatting it up about personal experiences a.k.a. Overthinking

  • @epickid1064
    @epickid1064 2 роки тому +3

    I am only in year 8 and I feel motivated by you to work hard and go to cambridge.

  • @OmarKhanMOK
    @OmarKhanMOK 2 роки тому +6

    The coincidence is unreal. Was listening to your "Not Overthinking" podcast, and had some "how not to overthink" vids recommended to me. Decided to give one a watch, went down a rabbit hole and here we are haha. Full circle

    • @pitafren
      @pitafren 10 місяців тому

      It's not really a coincidence, it's Google's algorithm haha It can do good if you're watching the right content!

  • @alimariwankamal1937
    @alimariwankamal1937 2 роки тому +7

    The one about experiment really resonated with me because I do it already. Whenever I do it, the results are very wonderful

  • @jayverasummer
    @jayverasummer 5 місяців тому

    I am a wellness coach and have all of my clients work in weekly experiments instead of goals. It helps a lot in terms of letting go of feelings of shame or "failure." You can't fail an experiment!

  • @arjunkhandelwal9174
    @arjunkhandelwal9174 2 роки тому +4

    This video really helped me start *not overthinking*

  • @bsewall
    @bsewall 10 місяців тому +1

    Great information and I love this conversational filming style. It's very engaging!

  • @Osama_Alkadomi
    @Osama_Alkadomi 2 роки тому +2

    I'm definitely taking your advice considering that you have a podcast literally called "Not ovethinking"

  • @JoyceKao
    @JoyceKao 2 роки тому +2

    love the tips! very similar to the book "the courage to be disliked" which speaks on a lot of these points

  • @kaijukingz5446
    @kaijukingz5446 2 роки тому +1

    Ali my take on overthinking is whatever is going on or is going to happen is just for a short period of time and it ease my stress and helps me stop overthinking

  • @PerfumegirlAdaeze
    @PerfumegirlAdaeze 2 роки тому +2

    I just couldn’t STOP thinking about where next you’d go to in your studio 😅 I’m definitely distracted by it

  • @m.vignesh3186
    @m.vignesh3186 2 роки тому +702

    Me overthinking while watching this video^

  • @zac99991
    @zac99991 2 роки тому +1

    The walking around was great, a dynamic change was nice, like to see how this change pans out.

  • @theIndividualStar
    @theIndividualStar 2 роки тому +1

    This talking while walking around style is working magic 👍

  • @nonisoul
    @nonisoul 2 роки тому +1

    I like the idea of "Experiment", it really removes all that pressure. Thanks!

  • @cristinalee3138
    @cristinalee3138 Рік тому +3

    1. Treat new experiences like an experiment
    2. What is the worst that can happen if x doesn’t work out vs the best that can happen if it does
    3. Over thinking is okay as long as it’s on top of consistent action (back 2 basics)

  • @annaforanna595
    @annaforanna595 2 роки тому +1

    I love this new filming type

  • @BeingIntegrated
    @BeingIntegrated 2 роки тому +16

    Hi just want to say that many times ruminating is emotionally driven… there can be an uncomfortable feeling and our mind jumps in to try to either make us feel better or dwell on that feeling and feed more into it. So shifting from our mind and into our body sensations can actually be really helpful and grounding and even illuminating. When we ignore our feelings our body often starts shouting at us to get our attention, so just listening to what our body is saying, acknowledging the feelings and fears, can be very clarifying and soothing.

  • @mrnobody3665
    @mrnobody3665 2 роки тому +3

    Exactly why we follow Ali. Content is so pragmatic and applicable.

  • @inspired9239
    @inspired9239 2 роки тому +1

    I believe the MBA technique @11:00 was originally sourced through Napoleon Hill's 1937 book THINK AND GROW RICH. That book was required reading for me back in college, a great read that belongs in every library of all avid readers like yourself, Ali. Sister to that book is Napoleon's other great read THE LAW OF SUCCESS. Orne Publishing, LLC produced in 2010 a beautiful hardback of that book in its original 1925 edition.
    The newer books of today are really rehashed versions from books of old. Principles never die, but seem to age well with time like wine.

  • @lolritz9880
    @lolritz9880 2 роки тому +1

    Ali pumping out content like a god

  • @abfinances
    @abfinances 2 роки тому +6

    Your tips are always motivating and inspiring but the sad part is that I know that I can watch all these videos but I will still overthink & procrastinate😭😭💯

  • @iwillgetayorkie3262
    @iwillgetayorkie3262 2 роки тому +1

    I love this so much ❤️ ive always overthinked about contributing in class and tis has made my grades be average but now im not afraid, im smart anyways

  • @kendrick1410
    @kendrick1410 2 роки тому +1

    Absolutely obsessed with your channel and wtf! This video was amazing 😭

  • @nobodyEntertain
    @nobodyEntertain 9 місяців тому +1

    thanks for saving me from overthinking

  • @mohamedaakil8123
    @mohamedaakil8123 2 роки тому +2

    Thnkz brother that's really helpful to me. Bcz last few days I'm over thinking a lot about my higher studies this give me a relief 😌 thank a lot for that ❤️

  • @mengchunzhang3140
    @mengchunzhang3140 2 роки тому +1

    stopping overthink is very important for people especially someone who was very anxious about something which not easy to control by youself.

  • @RacetasClub
    @RacetasClub 2 роки тому +8

    Brilliant video as always, I will now make sure to try and not overthink everything you said, top notch :)

  • @The_Reductionist
    @The_Reductionist 2 роки тому +2

    Really enjoying these new walking around the office videos. seem a lot more chill - less educational vibes and more 'friend giving you advice' vibes

  • @jerinprajan8919
    @jerinprajan8919 2 роки тому +74

    1.Think in terms of experiment
    2.Think in terms of expected value
    3.Fear is your compass
    4.Foundation of consistent action
    5.Mental board of advisors

  • @phamnguyenkhanh2438
    @phamnguyenkhanh2438 2 роки тому +1

    I hope you can add the subtitle for all videos. Because so many people who may be interested in the information you provided have been not good at listening English. Thanks so much!

  • @Prin.c24
    @Prin.c24 2 роки тому +1

    Watching a single video every week is amazing 🌻

  • @BortPimpson
    @BortPimpson 2 роки тому +1

    Thinking of decision making as a sort of EV really helps to put things into the perspective of possibilities of positives rather than the negatives. That actually helped me a lot today.

  • @drdentrepair5530
    @drdentrepair5530 2 роки тому +1

    Thinking in terms of its an experiment is GOLDEN!

  • @lamya9168
    @lamya9168 2 роки тому +1

    Ali, you one of a kind! My personality changed since I discovered your channel👌. Thank you.

  • @arekkusu888
    @arekkusu888 2 роки тому +5

    "Let me awkwardly hold this glass and move to the next identical table for no reason"

  • @themelissalaurie
    @themelissalaurie 2 роки тому +19

    I think overthinking is such a big problem and a lot of people often don't know they're doing it or have an issue. I find that meditation helps, also writing things down, but also just having awareness and asking yourself 'why do I keep going back to this? And what do I need to do to stop this thought cycling through my head?'

  • @jakeobrienfit
    @jakeobrienfit 10 місяців тому +1

    Someone help this man find where he wants to sit
    Jokes aside, great as always!

  • @BrodieFarnell
    @BrodieFarnell 3 місяці тому

    The concept of Hidden Time Wealth blew my mind. It’s like finding a cheat code for productivity and defeating procrastination.

  • @HighOnLifeInCanada
    @HighOnLifeInCanada 2 роки тому +2

    Hey Adil, your channel is an absolute ocean of positive knowledge without any marketing and pure bliss. Keep up the great work and content. I love seeing your videos.

    • @aliabdaal
      @aliabdaal  2 роки тому +2

      Thanks - who’s Adil?

    • @HighOnLifeInCanada
      @HighOnLifeInCanada 2 роки тому +1

      @@aliabdaal sorry but my phone misspelled your name Ali

  • @alifarhat5193
    @alifarhat5193 2 роки тому +1

    Love the way you formatted this video where you are just causally walking around as for me it sort of helps me stay in tune with the video. The idea of expected value is something I'm going to definitely try to implement because looking back I think if I had use this idea in the past then I would have done a lot more things that I currently have. Thank you !

  • @jamiekoh6113
    @jamiekoh6113 2 роки тому +5

    Ali, you always make the perfect videos when I need them most. I've been dealing with bad anxiety after closing new deals that put me in the best monthly financials I've ever had. However, I do client-related work so everything can go away instantly if I'm not performing well enough. It's really frustrating, like I feel incapable of relaxing and needing to work 24/7 to help me feel comfortable I'll wake up with a good monthly income still.

  • @ChelseaCallahan
    @ChelseaCallahan 2 роки тому

    omg the part about consistency blew my mind

  • @HollyJaneYT
    @HollyJaneYT 2 роки тому +2

    Good golly, I needed this. Great video, Ali. Loved the chill vibes, really felt like having a chat with a friend!

  • @KinukaYokota
    @KinukaYokota 3 місяці тому

    The way Hidden Time Wealth dives into the concept of productivity is mind-blowing. Hidden Time Wealth tips are pure gold, and I wish more people knew about them.

  • @cpkthompson
    @cpkthompson 2 роки тому +1

    I don’t overthink to be honest but always nice to see a new Ali explainer :)

  • @doctoryousefpersonalimprov7970
    @doctoryousefpersonalimprov7970 2 роки тому +3

    Really it's one of my favorite videos , I like it so much that's why because of you encourage I have opened my self improvement channel thanks bro

  • @NelmaKesä
    @NelmaKesä 3 місяці тому

    Hidden Time Wealth is so unique. I can’t believe I hadn’t heard about it sooner. It’s amazing how life-changing this can be for anyone battling procrastination.

  • @frosticles
    @frosticles 2 роки тому +3

    This new format of constantly getting up and sitting in a new place every 30 sets is really stressing me out and not letting me focus on the content of the video. I'm too busy thinking about why anyone would do this, so many unanswered questions....
    Is this just me?

  • @theliteraturecoach
    @theliteraturecoach 2 роки тому +2

    Emma Gannon's book on Sabotage also explores perfectionism. Through the help of your videos and her book I've finally leaned into the process and started my UA-cam channel!

  • @shreyamishra6297
    @shreyamishra6297 11 місяців тому

    Hey one thing I really want to tell you is that yesterday I was thinking that I should ask to Ali about techniques which will help me to reduce my overthinking pattern but when I see this video today I became happy that I got my solution by you
    Thankyou so much for discussing about this topic .😊

  • @rayandsammy
    @rayandsammy 2 роки тому +4

    Wow right on time. I am an overthinker and these are valuable lessons. Thank you

    • @rebeccabeecoaching
      @rebeccabeecoaching 2 роки тому

      Beautiful! I also recommend getting connected to body awareness - overthinking is driven by nervous system dysregulation.

  • @healthy_palace
    @healthy_palace 10 місяців тому +1

    Glad UA-cam recommend me to watch this video today! I need this!

  • @OliviaHarrison731
    @OliviaHarrison731 2 роки тому +3

    I loved the background music and feel to this video, it was very calming and great to help keep me in the present moment. It was also great advice but I already knew it would be :) thank you!

  • @srohitthakur
    @srohitthakur 2 роки тому +1

    Man thank you so much for the video and the way you explained and helped me to get over it!! thank you so so much!
    I am pretty now, I will not overthink about getting started with my business now!

  • @TheCreatorsAttorney
    @TheCreatorsAttorney 2 роки тому +1

    Hahah. Love the wink Ali! I had to go back to catch it. You’re so clever and congratulations on finding her!! ❤️

  • @wheevu
    @wheevu 2 роки тому +1

    Helpful insights as always, Ali! But I do have to point out the rather clumsy (shaky) camera work when you're moving between places at times.
    Don't know if it's a stylistic choice or just plain unwanted accidents but it really does get distracting since my focus was on eye contact and listening to what you have to say, and having the little zoom in here and there or just obscure camera angles makes it harder to concentrate. You could try and look into this.

  • @timjamiesonphotos
    @timjamiesonphotos Рік тому +1

    Fantastic video thank you

  • @sahi_loch
    @sahi_loch 2 роки тому +12

    Most of us hinder from expressing our creativity and getting head-on to many things due to overthinking. Managing overthinking benefits us in many ways. Ali this topic is timely. Undoubtedly this will resonate with many of us in the audience

  • @mannaphilip8631
    @mannaphilip8631 2 роки тому +2

    it was really helpful for a overthinker like me . especially the idea of experiments is great!!

  • @jellystrawberry9183
    @jellystrawberry9183 2 роки тому +1

    Ali, your videos have been FIRE lately!! Keep up the good work, sending lots of love!

  • @aliasgarchakera1759
    @aliasgarchakera1759 2 роки тому +1

    was overthinking while watching this

  • @happyheart786
    @happyheart786 2 роки тому

    Omg! Overthinking is just me. I never do and have not done most of the things in my life..just by overthinking.
    This video is relatable and let me try this "experiment" mindset and see if this helps!

  • @shsshshhs1974
    @shsshshhs1974 2 роки тому +2

    as soon as i saw ali post i clicked in.. didnt overthink it

  • @roselinededua
    @roselinededua 2 роки тому +3

    I’m excited for today’s video

  • @Dara-Favour
    @Dara-Favour 2 роки тому +2

    Really love the new style of video production I can see your growth mindset, keep it up Mr Ali 👏🏾

  • @arghyachakraborty
    @arghyachakraborty 2 роки тому +17

    I really needed this video badly! Currently undergoing psychological therapy & this video will be a great help to get over my stress & anxiety. Thanks, Ali. ❤️

    • @arghyachakraborty
      @arghyachakraborty 2 роки тому +3

      Getting a love from Ali on my birthday is awesome!

    • @k-drama_kpop_fan
      @k-drama_kpop_fan Рік тому

      Hey how are you doing now I'm also suffering from overthinking

  • @neilphilips3580
    @neilphilips3580 2 роки тому +1

    Felt weird that this video was only 1080p, but then realized it's only been 22 mins. I will have to come back to this gem when the 4K is done being processed 😂

  • @AyeshMedic
    @AyeshMedic 2 роки тому +8

    Amazing Content! Now I'm never gonna lag cuz of overthinking, like I did today. I love that Fear is your Compass part because I always thought it the other way around.
    I bet you found ways to keep your audience interacted with your video hence the walk. But your videos are always Interactive. Amazing to see you Grow!
    -Ayesha from Pakistan (Started my Med Channel, inspired by you)