Hard Work and Patience
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- Опубліковано 28 сер 2017
- In this episode I keep it simple and answer two questions that needed a little more time and info than I could give in last week's Q&A. Hope things make a little more sense.
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A karate black belt is just a white belt who never gave up.
Keep following your dreams Mary. Stay true and strive for excellence. We love you. 🎸 👍👏😉
Your commentary is as honest and emotional as your music, Mary. I have two daughters right around your age, and they're in the same boat, working hard and trying to find their way in life, following their dreams. Wishing you continued success, and hope to see you perform live over here in the colonies in the future.
This is the most inspirational thing I’ve ever seen. My daughter is 15 and wants to be a drummer. She’s taking theory grades and violin grades as well as the drum grades. I’ve sent her this video which is better than anything any of her teachers could tell her. Thank you.
Dear Mary, I am indeed new to your channel and I am devouring all your Tuesday talks, and more. I am working back from the present so it took me some time to get here and find this.
I am not sure whether you are changing my life already, but I feel your warm and kind words are injecting something in me that I hope will change my life.
So thank you, so much!
Consistency and a scalloped fretboard, recipe for success.
Don't forget the recipe for donuts!
So did Yngwie...... 😂
she doesn't need to repeat scales up and down the whole day like robots. She is a human being, she got soul.
Don't be an idiot - consistency means that you are consistent in your efforts, no matter what they are, the scalloped fretboard thing is clearly a lel.
don't be an idiot, explain yourself from the beginning about what do you think consistency means. Scalloped fretboard, what a joke.
"and the wind...cries....Mary...!...! ", Please don't ever ever stop!
Well said,there is in my opinion no easy way to succeed in music. But what is success. I think the short answer is being content that after all is said and done you did what made you happy. I’m 64 years young and am planning on retiring into music. I think you’ve already succeeded just by inspiring this old man. I wish you all the happiness and success you deserve.
I have nothing but respect for you. I tried so hard to be a musician in the early 2000's I was freshly graduated from the Guitar Institute in Wapping and thought I would get work easily. 2000-2005 I gave it everything I had, working 9-5 for regular money, gigging, practicing, recording every other available hour. After 5 years, I was broke. Someone wrote off my car whilst it was parked and I couldn't afford to fix it, or buy a new one (insurance gave me £250) and I had no way to get to the work I had lined up, including my day job. I looked at the state of my life, looked at what my friends were doing and decided I was going nowhere and my long term future looked bleak. The brutal truth was that I was neither good enough, or thick skinned / pushy enough. I applied for a job as a ski rep (aged 27) to take a break and my world changed, I've not been back to the UK since and I have settled in Europe. 12 years later and I can't imagine ever stepping into that world again. I still love music, I still play, but as a hobby. I have massive respect to anyone who can carve a career out in this industry. The energy and drive required is enormous. I wish you nothing but success.
As someone who's been a part-time musician for decades now - I'm pushing my music harder now as I'm getting ready to roll back my day job. Thank you for the inspiration Mary. Yes, the news that it takes hard work is inspiring :D I can work hard for someone else and not get anywhere or I can work hard on my own behalf. Less money, but it feels a lot less like work when it's a passion.
Don't you ever lose that wonderful quality you have and uphold - that of Honesty. I truly hope for wonderful things for you! I can tell you favor the lunch you buy yourself because a free lunch just doesn't taste as good as the one you've slaved for! AND deserve!!!
Be Happy and feel good about what you're doing as you are going the right way about it! Truly enjoy yourself in what your doing and enjoy these years now because you will look back on them... just don't be too critical as you 'are' a very lovely, level headed lady who deserves things that make you "smile" ! Do things that make you Happy! You have a lovely 'smile'! I wish you the best!
Mary - Thank you for all our hard work and patience. It's a cruel fact of life that the arts do not pay as well as they should. It's never money for nothing. I hope there will come a day when you can make a living making music full time and your fire burns as bright as ever. I am not a musician, but I have known many and I recognize you are "the real deal", there is no faking that. I wish you all good things because you deserve to be happy making music
Thank you, Mary, for the real talk.
For anyone watching this, don't forget survivor bias; just because hard work is starting to pay off for Mary doesn't mean it will pay off the same way for everyone. If you work your ass off, you might eventually "get lucky" and build some traction. Maybe one in twenty who bust there ass will get lucky. The other nineteen will toil in obscurity. Hard work is a prerequisite, but not a guarantee. Dumb luck is always part of the equation.
Please understand I don't mean to diminish Mary's talent, hard work, and dedication. It's just good to acknowledge that it's not entirely up to us how things work out.
Open. Honest. Authentic. Great stuff!
A really honest, upfront and informative video Mary. Well done and stay true to your dreams...
Just wanted to echo most of the comments below. Its really nice to hear someone talk honestly and openly about how hard it is to achieve a career in music and how hard you have had to work. Thanks Mary
To be honest, I was in a position at 26 years old to choose. I had a child, a good job, a new house and a record deal, if I signed....I chose well. Godspeed Mary. I think you are super cool and I truly wish you the best.
Mary, your openness and honesty is just refreshing, awesome, and inspiring. Good on ya.
This principle applies to every thing in life. You can find a thing that gives you comfort and enjoy your weekends, or you can fight your way out and do whatever makes you feel awesome.
Good work. Persistence is a rare trait. But one of most successful people
Thank you for posting this! I work a 9-5 job, play cover shows on evenings and weekends with various groups, and write in the remaining time. Sadly, I live in an area where original music and art is not preferred, or able to be supported (I live in a small island province with an exceedingly high number of ridiculously good musicians, but a very small population). I have no delusions of "making it", I simply love to play and write. It can be extremely overwhelming and tiring trying to maintain a balance, but it is about hard work, regardless of the outcome.
Sure, in 20 years I might be worn thin, but I'll know I tried. I'll know I put in the effort to do what I love.
It's so very refreshing to hear someone say these things. Again, thank you for posting about it.
If you love it and get joy performing then all sacrifice is worth it. I find that true of my endeavours and I don't regret a day. Hope you continue to move forward. Good luck Mary 🤗
Thank you Mary for your honesty and for sharing your life. You are inspiring.
I can so hard core relate to this. I've got friends who are married with kids who are younger than I and i'm a newly moved out bachelor working a 9-5 as well working hard at my craft and thinking of ways to quit that job to make music my living. The sacrifices are worth everything. I would rather spend my evenings and weekends doing what I love to do than sit around (like im doing now haha) and just be lazy all evening. One thing non-musicians dont realize is that music isnt just a career for us but a lifestyle. We cannot turn off the music inside our heads and in our hearts. Its who we are as people which is fantastic! I've driven hrs back and forth from gigs before and ill do it again. Thanks for making this video and being vulnerable. Its not easy to do but so freeing
The people that do the best in there field love what they do. Work to hard at it, you can loose that love for the craft. Balance. Lastly when your feeling down, take a bit and reflect on how far you have come, sometimes in the end it was the journey and steps you took to get there is the true success remembered.
Way to go Mary! You're doing what you love and that it what it takes to be successful but more importantly, happy with your career. I wish you much success and happiness from the U.S.
Hey Mary, I play very different music to you but you have a really good honest attitude. Total respect to you.
Mary, each of your songs tells a story. Expand those musical stories into a Rock Opera or musical with dances, etc.
This will just promote your music more at local theatres. You came this far, just try one more step!🌺
Candor, humility and several teasers for future possibilities - I'm intrigued! I'm sure you have moments of quiet desperation, but your persistence is inspiring to me. To thine own self, be true.
You are so amazing! Thank you for your videos, I love your honesty and such a positive and inspiring way of expression🙏✋
It's great that platforms like you tube can offer an audience to dedicated and talented musicians like Mary. I am envious that it wasn't and when I was trying to find an audience. I really do hope that the cream can rise to the top and both the creators and the audience can benefit. Good luck with your career!
Hello Mary still loving the channel. Thanks for being so open and honest. It's refreshing to know.
Enjoy your channel and your spirit, you can make it! will be watching
Mary, thanks for your honesty and your hard work!! Your hard work shows through on the quality and content of your videos/music you create!!
It's kind of ironic that the internet has killed the music industry but a musician can make good money here on UA-cam. I had a pretty successful UA-cam channel, not huge but pretty good size (100,000 subs) and it made me a LOT of money. Great video Mary, keep on keeping on!
Respect for the honesty. People look at certain personalities in music, Adele, Beyonce, Metalllica whatever, and see the success and the associated trappings. What they don't see is the hard work involved to get there. And yeah the luck element as well. Being in the right time in the right place or being an innovator. The Arctic Monkeys created a massive buzz for themselves via MySpace for example. I've read biographies on Guns N Roses and Nirvana, and they put the hard work, were in the right place and time and had luck. For those that make it thousands don't. Mary keep on being true to yourself and doing the thing you love.
Not sure Adele is a great example. She has only released three CDs. Of course her song writing and singing have generated great success but put me right if I’m wrong but I don’t see her of a great example of the hard work theory.
Hi from New Zealand Mary, it's all about hard work. Thanks for sharing
Great and inspiring video, Mary. Very brave of you! Thank you for speaking so candidly and from the heart. You are amazing!
I'm smelling a John Mayer collab :) Good for you Mary! I know musicians struggle in their careers, and I thank Lee Anderton for inviting you to Anderton's TV, which is how I found out about you. Stay humble, and keep writing songs. You're one of the singers alongside Metallica, Nirvana, Iron Maiden, that are an inspiration to me. And I've learned a lot from you. Thank you
More please - along with your festival tips video your most constructive and informative video I have seen so far. And a comments section full of many wise and insightful words to boot. Candid stuff from both sides of the camera. Great stuff.
As a non-professional musician I would like to say that you can get to where you want to be, it just takes time and sacrifice. I am 41 years old and I work 7am to 5pm in IT. I get up at 5am and practice, I practice when I get home. I have a house, a spouse, 2 kids and a dog. My goal is to retire at 50 and play music. Not trying to brag or anything like that, just saying if you have a dream and the drive you can get to where you want to go. We all take different paths in life, find yours and get to walking :) Mary seems like you are going to be blowing up soon, good for you!
Good job! It is traditional for an artist/artiste to 'struggle'; it goes with the territory. Your smile, your singing, your playing, and that little twinkle in your eye brings me back every time I see a new vid posted. Keep going, stay strong, work the craft, be kind to yourself, and most of all - chin-up!
FWIW: good stuff comes to those who 'struggle'. DV
8:22 truer words have not been spoken...took me more than a few years to learn this lesson!
Mad respect Mary! You are an inspiration...you give me the courage and the kick in the butt I need to follow my dreams and commit...while remaining grounded in reality!
Thank you love! Wish you the very best :)
btw I just turned 27 last thursday!
and after watching the entire video..I have a question for you.
Everything said and done, is it worth it?
I only discovered your channel recently... I really appreciate your honesty in this video. I can tell it was hard for you to explain at times.
My sister went into music on leaving college and I’ve admired her for it ever since. Being able to have your hobby for a job is fantastic, and few people get that opportunity. There are peaks and troughs as you touched on, but I think the sacrifice is worth it when you get those highs, be it through recognition (or £££ !). Hopefully those moments are what spurs you on.
Please carry on doing what you love. You have a growing audience who appreciate what you do. Thanks! (I signed up on your patron site the other day too - hope that helps! 🙂)
Thanks for sharing your life and for being so honest. I wish you continuing good fortune from the hard work you're putting in.
God bless you Mary don't give up on the dream
Thanks for this ,Mary. I'm pulling for all of your hard work to pay off like you want it to. Anxious to hear more about your up-coming opportunities!
Mary. You Are Awesome , Beautiful , Talented, and Honest . I am sure you will get to your destination .
I dig your honesty on the matter i was having this converation with a coworker. I think some people have this misconception that doing music is easier than having a regular job and its alot more work than people think.
Hi Mary. Thank you so much for this. It is exactly my situation right now. I'm about to graduate high school (18 years old) and I have to do something with my life. I am not the person to go and study to become a doctor. I have been believing that music is what I have to do since being 13 years old. Point is, I'm grateful to here the truth about that lifestyle instead of watching the fake stuff from a music video. Keep going!! You're doing great!!
Great video. If you give 100% effort, you will never have to wonder "What if I had taken a music career seriously,? Where would I be?" Wherever you wind up, you gave it your all and answered that question. No regrets.
Thanks for the honesty. It was nice.
you have a beautiful thoughtfulness and honesty to your videos.
Excellent advice, Mary, thank you for sharing. As someone who did the corporate thing for a number of years before stepping back for health reasons and focusing on music (mostly teaching, but some performance and recording too), I'm well aware of the sacrifices involved... I'm in the fortunate situation now where my wife has a great job with good benefits, but that too comes at a cost - we left the UK for Hong Kong, where there's not much of a music scene. And approaching 40, I'm well aware that time isn't on my side! But we keep on at it, because it's what we love. Keep up the great work!
Your progression in this past year as been very cool to see. You've built an awesome channel, and I can't wait to see what happens next.
What a great video to make, thank you! I wish I'd found you 5 years ago. So much has changed in the industry and you're so inspiring. Thank you. Keep being you
Thanks for your dedication and love of music.
Thank you for your honesty. You're so refreshing.
Thank you!
Always enjoy it Mary! I will stay tuned. Absolute! Thats what Value is all about..anything worth something takes sacrifice and the hard yards : ) you are on the right track.
You deserve every success Mary. Great honest video. Really loving your stuff.
Mary this is a fantastic video. I'm in university and grappling with figuring out what I want to do with my life, and I can feel the clock ticking with only one year left. I need to put my head down and push myself towards what I want to do and sacrifice some things. I might not know what it is yet but I know I want it to be something to do with music. God bless Mary x
Thanks for sharing Mary. Love watching your videos. You rock!
Thanks for your videos Mary, I look forward to watching them each week!!
Love love love your determination and honesty. Your voice and playing aren't too bad either ;-) Just purchased both EPs and can't wait to get them!!! Wish you nothing but the best!!!
You just made my morning Mary! thank you and i wish you the best of good luck.
Well said Mary. Well said indeed.
Your music is so much better than anything that can be called Pop. No doubt you'll succeed.
Thank you for sharing your heart with us Mary . Keep working hard , Believe in yourself always and don't take shit from anyone..You'll get there. Sacrifice and perseverance are the key . I started making them back in my 20's towards being a full time musician , And it became more than I could bare..Or wanted to bare , So , I work during the day and love My wife, my son and my guitar in everything else...No regrets .......Thanks again :)
There is an old saying "The harder you work, the luckier you get" paying your dues is what you are doing, and not giving up on your dream! Hat's off to you!! The education system we have is there to produce debt slaves. Why should you start your working life with a huge debt, just because you wanted to go to university to get a decent job, which seem to be disappearing at an alarming rate anyway? The secondary school system should be teaching kid's about money management, avoiding debt, the pit-falls of gambling, etc. But where is the profit in that, right? Keep doing what you're doing Mary! You are a smart, talented lady and you will manifest your dream, because that's what you want to do!
Well, said, Sir..that's what the world needs, anyway. Hard work and to be "money smart", moneywise, having a solid financial education is what really makes you successful. Something they don't really teach at school, unless you want to get a degree with Economics, accounting, etc. Everything requires money, right? And I'm not a fan of that saying "money is the root of all evil", it's how you use it, and spend it wisely to your own advantage and the fullfillment of your dreams.
Really enjoy all your work... and remember whilst much of your day is hard work .. your friends on the traditional career paths aren't really working a 9-5 .. at least the medical ones aren't ..they got endless expensive exam fees and weekends to work .. Your decision to pursue your craft for a living was spot on..and whether you headline Wembley or not isn't really the issue.. whatever happens your a successful creative musician.. money can't buy that experience.
Thanks for clearing up the day job reality. When I was in art college, nobody talked about money. It was a dirty word. You might get government grants or you could sell your work. Yea right! But you were expected to be a pure artist and maybe teach, if you had to. But the truth is that even if you choose your job, you have to do things that aren't part of what you would consider your job - as you said, the finances (ugh!), the PR, marketing, selling - THE HUSTLE. Romantic notion bubbles need bursting! Well done for this :)
It is all about priorities. In forty years, you won't look back and wish you had that new BMW or the ridiculously large house. You'll be living your dreams, and your Ferrari-driving Aspen-skiing friends will be jealous!
As inspiring than ever!
So glad I found this channel! As I told in an other video's comment, I'm 30 and just decided to all in for my dreams.. I quit keeping multiple jobs (and managed up how to adapt myself with this less-income-reality).. and It's awesome to listen to your story and see I'm in the right way towards the goal of doing what I love.. I'm really heartfully thankful for your words
People do need to hear about these things since many seem to believe that being a musician is a walk in the park and makes you rich. A lot of artists and band members have regular jobs on the side. This is perhaps especially true today since music does not sell like it used to, partly due to streaming services and such. One should keep in mind that only a fraction of all musicians actually can live off the music they make. So thank you Mary for this honesty. Keep up the fantastic work! :)
Thanks for your honesty. You're a breath of fresh air. :)
If I've learned anything in life, it's that even modest success in something you're passionate about, will always fill your heart more than great success in something you don't care about. Stick with it. I see a corner being turned for you very soon.
Nothing but admiration for your conviction and dedication. I am one of those people who chose a scientific path and subsequent career over music back when I was a teenager. I have recently taken up the guitar as I cannot play the Clarinet any more ( I can always hear the 18 year old version of myself when I try to play now and this is 😬😔). I wish you all the best and look forward to your upcoming content et al.
Thanks, Mary! Very good advice for anyone considering the profession.
You really do deliver Mary. Many reasons exist for delivering such very rewarding to watch video series. I really think you impulse to let us get to know you, the real you , vs. marketing Mary or showing us the goings on of a life that is music at the for and same with talented people around you. But taking questions that can only be answered by letting your viewers know you as in who you are instead of what you are was I think, having outdone yourself. A particularly musically inclined person will end up knowing Mary in a way others are unable Thanks for Tuesday Talks and the valid sense of knowing you - as a friend, a kindred spirit! Cheers!!
Thank you so much for sharing, you are truly inspirational, I love your honesty, happiness, motivation, and friendliness in your videos.
Thank you for sharing. Blessings to you.
Inspirational stuff. Thanks very much for sharing. Hope the music continues to take off.
Go for it
I wish you all the best. Thz for the openness and honesty.
Thank you for your commitment to music!
Mary thank you so much. Your such a lovely womam. Love your show and the great advice on giging for the single person
Thanks for the honesty its refreshing cant wait to see what you have in. The works!
This might be the best one of the series
Love your honesty. Thank you so much.
Open, honest and vulnerable, sensitive and forthright are likely the things about you that you could never change.
And everyone can identify and appreciate these things. Your subs adore you!
I heard you mention a list of people in the industry that you admire and love, you said that; "They Are Great People".
But this "Industry" is mean and cold and so very competitive and it has a tendency to make a hamburger out of us, so the notion that we ARE so... all those things mentioned above takes away the mystery.
I was discovered by; The First Cello Player, of the Toronto Symphony Orchestra, a Mr. Daniel Domb, back in 1997.
He brought his mobile recording studio to my farm?
I did a solo 8 hours non stop recording session, his wife was a virtuoso guitarist and u will see, they do a cello/guitar duet and have lots of albums.
I asked her for a guitar lesson, she said no John, you could give me a guitar lesson. She said she had never seen anyone express emotion on an instrument like I did, yet I had never taken a lesson in my life.
(I may have been a Natural Musician but I simply wasn't a Natural Star)
For sure he and I, my wife and his became best friends and he told me he wanted to take me down to the Grand Old Opre.
I had a good life already as an industrial engineer, I always had a gig, my act was solo quiet ballads and meaningful messages.
I didn't go.
Do I regret that? every day. Did having a substantial; Plan B change everything? Probably.
But I never saw Daniel coming, I just wrote, played and sang because I needed to, it wasn't because; I loved it, it was medicinal.
In other words; it wasn't the Glory or Fame that inspired me, but yes, I liked seeing the crowds faces receive the peace.
I did a lot of local community invites and Sunday church services, no charge no fee, but always invited to stay for lunch.
One LP Custom Black Beauty, one Fender Twin a Shure mic and stand, plugged directly into 2nd channel, no buzzers and bells, effects or stomps.
My heart and my hands and a very unworthy singing voice is all I had.
But it was there, that my vulnerable honesty was exposed. Not weepy feelings and broken relationships, portraits.
Daniel said; John; you paint Word Pictures.
I miss his friendship and I haven't seen nor heard from him in years.
The grass always looks greener, but often times when u get up close, it's all weeds.
A good friend will always say nice things, that's why we love them.
Yes, I regret it every day, but I know that I am to fragile.
I'm now an official "old man" (as in retired). Was never a musician. Was room-mates with a fair number of semi-pro and even pro musicians (those who make a full time living performing). Before the term "guitar tech" came into general use, that was me, helping my roomy's keep their stuff running, fixing gig damage, etc. What I know is you have to do what you have to do...
Any art form is unique the individual. You have to build skills and market at the same time. So it means getting out there any way you can. You have to get noticed and appreciated. If your art does not align with public taste, you either have to keep on until it does, or switch up to what "they" want. Either works, but it's a tough choice that only you can make.
You seem level headed, you have done your basic 10,000 hours and you have your craft. Now it's about appeal and market. Buzz, and support. This channel is doing you good, and keeping us entertained in a straight forward way. Good on you :)
Even amongst the hustle, it's likely important to take time to listen to the chirpy birds.
Thanks for sharing such honest insights to the realities of being a professional musician - keep at it
Thanks for the honesty Mary. :)
Hi Mary, I love your honesty. It's not easy to always follow a dream, but good on you for following your heart. You are full of integrity and inspiring to other aspiring musicians. Skiing holidays are overrated anyway :) Keep up the great work.
Congrats Mary, someone finally speaks the truth about all the hard work and the reality of being a pro musician and Internet celebrity. "Internet wonders" are just people who have worked their arses off like crazy to get where they are. Thank you for this very healthy and honest statement. Cheers
Thanks for being so upfront. I am currently a university student studying music and could understand quite a bit of what you were saying. I've already had my fair share of unpaid gigs and studio sessions. I also stumbled upon Gary Vee some time back and am trying to implement some of his mantras in my life (maybe I'll try my hand at social media). Thanks for being so honest, your information will be helpful.
its a long way to the top if ya wanna.....
Dont forget there is also talent (which you have).
Luck is where others notice the combination of talent and effort.
thanks for sharing.
Once again Mary you pretty Spender, CreativeGuitarStudio is another very good teacher, also LerningGuitarNow is another great teacher
Hi Mary! I can relate to your experiences, a lot. Thanks for sharing.
Right on, Mary! I'm forwarding this to my twenty-something...