Agreed. I wish I was smarter when I was a teenager and in my 20s because I notice now that all those people I was friends with weren't trusting only one I can trust and I wasted my time with losers. Not anymore
Jermaine, I definitely understand. My only friend is my husband. It’s hard making friends as an adult in general, it’s so weird but I’ve learned to accept that I’m not one of those that will have a ton of friends.
You are not lame. And you are not alone; many men don’t have even a single close friend. You are quite unique and trying new fashion choice means you aren’t giving into the rat race of life. I think what’s happening is that free time people use to spend with friends and even family is being spend doing side hustles to make ends meet. Back when the middle class lifestyle was the average person’s experience, everyone had some free time and disposable income to spend on hobbies and social events. P.s. probably why many people call everyone a friend is because calling the “friends” as work colleagues or acquaintances or neighbors is probably considered rude, while previously it was an accepted form of being friendly but not overly so. Due to high cost of living people have to be so transient that they can’t afford to lay down roots and the people that are SF natives (and got into their places when they could lock down their housing costs) probably feel they live in almost different community, and share their friends that they grew up with. For many of them, an economic downturn where the transients leave lets them have back “their city”, as long as they keep their jobs, isn’t seen negatively. That’s the mindset here in parts of the gentrified New York, so it’s perhaps the same in SF. Also, large parts of NYC haven’t been gentrified, which is why it’s still affordable for many. Basically everyone is struggling (and competing) to make ends meet and have to give up what we use to take for granted.
I moved away from California when I sold my home. I am now in Virginia and do not have one friend. I have co-workers. I'm 69 and got.a part time job in a vegan cafe. Been there for 1 1/2 years. At least I have a work "fam"...Thanks for this post Jermaine!
I’m right there with you it’s weird making friends plus I’m an introvert. I’m happy chilling with my wife and kids. I’m open to making friends but I’m not actively looking
I understand why in a sense. SF is a very fast-paced city. People are always rushing from their first job to their second (or third) to make ends meet. When I was there for Folsom last month, I met three amazing people (separately). They were tourists visiting like I was. We exchanged social media and we're still chatting. Deep, meaningful friendships there take a lot of effort for both parties.
I think the definition of friends has been too loosely thrown around. Friends are folks, like you said, you can just reach out and ask them to help you out in a jam just because. Acquaintances (or even close acquaintances) are people you run into because you have some interests, but beyond that, don't really mix. Then you got work colleagues, people that you know because you are in close proximity with them. Then all this shit is in a venn diagram because there might be some actual crossover.
Ah, trust? Friendships or relationships require hard work, compassion, understanding, tolerance & acceptance to name a few. But to be fair, standards for friendship is important. Anyhow, you are very friendly with people in your comings & goings as far as I can tell so....❤I appreciate your insights here Jermaine.
I used to feel like that too, Jermaine. I was living in San Francisco in a toxic relationship, but I didn't see it at the time. I didn't notice that all of my time was being taken up by this person I was dating and I didn't notice how much of my life was being swallowed up by them. We weren't right for each other, but we were both so lonely that it felt better to be with one another than to let each other go. I realize now that more friends wasn't what I needed.
It’s normal..especially for those who can make the distinction from who is a friend and who is not whether the latter be associates or frenemies..I think it’s important folks can identify what friendship is and not just claim it because you “know” somebody ..
I totally understand where you're coming from. I don't have any close friends nearby and my closest friends live in other states and countries. The thing is that I have other priorities since I have a full-time job, a part-time job, family responsibilities and other things I'd like to spend my time on and cultivating friendships is not a major priority. I would be open to more friendships, but as a guy it can be difficult to create those friendships since they take time to develop the trust and respect needed for them to thrive and everyone is short on time and attention these days. I'm also not fond of those that think they're friends with everyone when in fact they're blurring the line between meaningful friendships and friendly acquaintanceships. I think COVID had a lot to with it since it put a stop to a lot of gathering, meeting and network opportunities especially in some places like the SF Bay Area. Bottom line is whatever happens, happens and if you're okay with yourself then things will be fine. Thanks for this video. Lots of food for thought.
No Jermaine!!! You are not lame or a loser! You are a good man sharing a common concern. It is hard to make true friends unless you meet people who share important values and interests over time. Think of an activity you like and would like to do with others. Join a group of people who like that too. Take a class, dance, cycle, or learn to do or make something. Become a volunteer with people who do something you really value. Whatever you choose, if it really means something to you, people around you will soon learn that you are someone truly worth having as a friend.
I have a few friends in my area. A bunch more acquaintances. But I don't always have time to hang out. I end up drifting a bit between different people online and in-person.
After 40+ years, I have seven great friends....ones that I can count on. And three, great friends on East Coast from college. It takes time. Just keep living. 😊
Yo, Jermaine. This is quite a bit to think about. First off, I also didn't have a big social circle growing up due to not fitting in with the cool kids for this or that reason. Second, being punked out of CCSF made me rethink how I viewed friends and how I should go about finding them. Yeah, I had to bring that up again. Third, I'm able to be cool with most people whom I see frequently, but I can also accept that I can't have many close friends whom I can really count on. Finally, we all have to part ways at some point, but we have to try to leave on good terms. Shame that those who went to school with me didn't seem to understand that.
Ur not lame. Ur not alone. Sf is like that. It is different than nyc. Not sure why but other cities provide more social connection. Sf has many positives but ease in finding and meeting like minded friends and forming actual relationships isn’t one of them. I think all of us out here are just navigating that landscape. thank you for acknowledging the reality.
Haha I guess I'm a loser to lol. I was born here and all my friends and fam have been forced out by high rents. I'm here and and only have one friend who is 77 and has alzheimer so limited capacity for anything. I really miss my friends, but I don't want leave my beloved city albeit as damaged and traumatized and corrupt as it is. I'm still holding on. I get it and glad your here to.
Yeah it honestly depends on what you value. You're already subconsciously making all these choices that result in the lifestyle you have because it's probably what you want deep down. Maybe you value freedom and autonomy? Maybe you value not being chained up of pressured by social stuff? But like, everyone always has these moments of doubt like "am I doing this right?". The thing about making friends *while* having a bf, I mean, I have a bf and I still make new friends from time to time. A lot depends on your relationship with your bf. We have a ton of basic trust between the two of us, and we like operating like that. We're both stupidly straightforward. He likes hearing about random stuff that happens with my friends and vice versa. But yeah, I get your point. It honestly depends on the kind of person you're with. Thanks for your thoughts bro, good luck with stuff.
Yes it's hard. I meet people all the time, but they have different interest. Some places I would like to visit but don't because I don't wanna go alone, the beach, Don Pina's restaurant, the waterfront.
I feel the same way although I only moved here to the city beginning of the year, my friendship circle now vs before is totally minimized but I have way more freedom to achieve things. Might sound like an excuse but it’s true, especially the vibe in sf seems to be individualistic and people doing their own thing
this video made ALOT OF SENSE... i don't have alot of friends .. once u get a certain age everyone Moves Away and it takes YEARS to acquire "REAL FRIENDS" like someone you trust.
I think that’s generally true of big cities, where people tend to be more self reliant rather than having large social circles. And if you are in a relationship you tend to spend more time with your partner or meet up with other couples. I’ve always found it difficult to stay friends with the same people over a long period of time, as our interests have changed. But during Covid I contacted some old friends and colleagues I had not spoken to for some time and, although we are not very close now, we are up to date with what we are doing. It would have not occurred to me otherwise.
The city can be very tribal and cliquish. I’m from there but now live in Austin. My hubby is from Texas and is my best friend and his family has been a lifeline for me. I was told I was very cold when I moved from the city and realized yeah you become kinda calloused and jaded living around such affluence and educated people with a transient population. I miss home but would not want to retire there.
It might be time for Boo and yourself to have some little ones -and all the associated other dad friends that present. A little Jermaine Boo? maybe 3 or 4? You'll be one of those awesome dads taking them/picking up on your bikes and having adventures. Maybe its time to start showing these other SF corporate tesla dads who the real alpha dad is.
When I was younger I had quite a lot of actual friends. I mean people that I had close relationships with. People that I laughed, cried, partied, learned, shared and grieved with. We were close and could count on each other in times of need. But, now that I'm older I can count my friends on one hand and I'm not really so sure about them. 😒 There's an old saying that goes, "If you have one true friend when you leave this place then you've done better than most".
It depends on your location (some places are more sociable) and where you are in life. Friends are good when you are in your early 20's while you are establishing yourself. Friends are extremely important when you are in your 70's and 80's because that's when people become more isolated due to death of peers. It's always good to have someone to workout with or take a road trip together but to have someone to lay around your house all day and play video games and waste hours on end hanging out is immature after a certain age.
Same boat, used to go into city every weekend. We've probably even been at the same parties more than once pre-covid. When I travel now to other big cities, I feel like I used to in SF. The people feel like it to. You're not cheating on SF to consider it, but maybe your mind is telling you the same thing a lot of people before us heard also. It doesn't feel healthy here anymore imo. Going somewhere like NYC or london is like going back in time to life in SF pre-covid.
Bro it's depends,if you see like most of the people are cool n all that so for sure you will want to have friends, but if you understand that you had to be a good person as much as you want you friends to be,n in another words, it's not that easy to find a good friend,so i can tell you about myself friends did me all kinds of dirt,so i think if the person not take care of himself learning spertual things do meditation n all those things,any day that i dont got "friends" around me it's a blessing.
If you don’t go to college. It’s kinda hard to meet people as an adult. Co-workers as friends is really rare. Going out isn’t like the 70’s-2000’s clubs are basically just really expensive bars, no one interacts with strangers in public places especially if you’re a guy. Everyone has very different interests because we don’t interact with the same stuff in masses anymore. Financial differences etc. it’s honestly just hard meeting people nowadays. It’s like you said you should be able to ask someone hey let’s hang. A good example is I’m 30. So my age group is usually Married, or kids, married with kids or they’re just established in their own group. No complaints. It just seems this is a lot of people’s reality.
I AGREE 100%..I HAVE MY HUSBAND. ❤ PEOPLE I KNOW ALL MOVED OUT OF STATE...YOU ARE IN THE MAJORITY..🎉 THERE ARE NOT MANY PEOPLE WHO ARE ARTISTS WHO ARE LEFT HERE... I MOVED HERE FROM NYC..I MARRIED MY HUSBAND. HIS BEST FRIEND PASSED AWAY. I LOVE THE CLIMATE. MY HUSBAND HAS NO FRIENDS LEFT..
My father said that if you only have 4 good friends in your whole life, you are doing well! Also, some friends belong to a section of your life and then fade away. You might be surprised that someone you feel close to does not reciprocate while someone you barely tolerate actually feels very close to you and is very loyal. Who would you call? Ask someone if they will be the person that instantly responds if you have an emergency - you might be surprised who says "yes." California is indeed strange because almost random strangers will divulge quite intimate details about themselves but then the next time you see them be quite cold. Keep on, keeping on - life is fun and strange but it's all good.
My dad said same but he narrowed it to 2. He's not wrong. Knowing people socially is not friends. Also not American but I have noticed Americans are quick to call someone a friend whom they just met. That's very odd.
Also, Ive lived in SF for 6 months now and I dont have many friends here either and Im totally okay w/that. I think ive met enough ppl here to honestly say its not us yo. It's them 😆
People have different definitions of friends. Your definition means people that really care about you. Probably what you call acquaintances are what others call friends. And people are different. Some people need only a few close relationships while others have a lot of more superficial relationships. It's just the way we're built. I'm more like you. I have a few really solid people that know me and I can say anything to. The rest are just good people I interact w.
It used to be SO EASY to have tons of friends in SF, back before people were all about making money to pay the ridiculous rent. There used to be a disco practically on every block! And lots of 24-hour discos! I was SO EASY to have cool friends having fun all the time. San Fran today is all about tech, not humanity. Can't be friends too easy with a robot car or an algorithm.
You’re not a loser. Fashion sense, wellll, you’re just different and that’s ok but you’re far from being a loser. I’d rather have 2-3 good, loyal friends than 100 of people who are fake. I’m 67 and the 2-3 people I truly call friends we can go years or months without talking to each other and pick up where we left off. They’ve always had my back and vice-a-versa. Sure, we don’t always see eye to eye but they’re still with me and I with them.
Hey do you remember yesterday being on Market street & a girl w/long brown hair getting on a bus saying "Jermain, Jermain, youtube" and you said "hey whats goin on?"? If so that was me, my name is JC. I was on my way to work or else I wouldve introduced myself. When I got to work & told a co worker I had just seen you, he told me he knew of you too and that you sometimes shop there. So now that I know this I can hook you up. How can I send you my # privately here?
Away with you, Jermaine! It's not hard to make friends in a big city like San Francisco with so many people. You should try doing it here in South Dakota, where your nearest neighbor might be 30 miles away. Most of us are pen-pals with the folks "next-door" and, as the old phrase goes "great distances make great neighbors". My advice to a healthy young lad like yourself would be get yourself down to South Dakota. Buy yourself a nice plaid shirt and a pair of overalls and you'd be right as rain. My wife Nelly found it a bit hard when she first moved here from Los Angeles but she soon took up with a nice church group, the Quivering Brethren and she hasn't looked back. Her hymn singing is coming on a treat and her hand-clapping, well I'm not boasting but it's major league. Maybe the Brethren have a branch in your neighborhood there? Check it out. We''d always provide references on godliness and right living for ya. Another great idea would be for you to take up a hobby so you won't be moping. Wife Nelly once scorned quilting, crochet and glee singing but after 10 years here, you can't stop her now. Don't despair, or think that you'll be stuck in San Francisco for life. Go Plainswards, young man!!
The fact that you don't have too many friends tells me that you are an intelligent man.
Most don't have friends. They have acquaintances. People now do not know the difference
Not even.....@@KittyKat-vb1nd
Agreed.
You don't need many friends the older you get you need trust worthy people in your life.
Agreed. I wish I was smarter when I was a teenager and in my 20s because I notice now that all those people I was friends with weren't trusting only one I can trust and I wasted my time with losers. Not anymore
Jermaine, I definitely understand. My only friend is my husband. It’s hard making friends as an adult in general, it’s so weird but I’ve learned to accept that I’m not one of those that will have a ton of friends.
You are not lame. And you are not alone; many men don’t have even a single close friend. You are quite unique and trying new fashion choice means you aren’t giving into the rat race of life. I think what’s happening is that free time people use to spend with friends and even family is being spend doing side hustles to make ends meet. Back when the middle class lifestyle was the average person’s experience, everyone had some free time and disposable income to spend on hobbies and social events.
P.s. probably why many people call everyone a friend is because calling the “friends” as work colleagues or acquaintances or neighbors is probably considered rude, while previously it was an accepted form of being friendly but not overly so. Due to high cost of living people have to be so transient that they can’t afford to lay down roots and the people that are SF natives (and got into their places when they could lock down their housing costs) probably feel they live in almost different community, and share their friends that they grew up with. For many of them, an economic downturn where the transients leave lets them have back “their city”, as long as they keep their jobs, isn’t seen negatively. That’s the mindset here in parts of the gentrified New York, so it’s perhaps the same in SF. Also, large parts of NYC haven’t been gentrified, which is why it’s still affordable for many. Basically everyone is struggling (and competing) to make ends meet and have to give up what we use to take for granted.
I moved away from California when I sold my home. I am now in Virginia and do not have one friend. I have co-workers. I'm 69 and got.a part time job in a vegan cafe. Been there for 1 1/2 years. At least I have a work "fam"...Thanks for this post Jermaine!
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I’m right there with you it’s weird making friends plus I’m an introvert. I’m happy chilling with my wife and kids. I’m open to making friends but I’m not actively looking
I understand why in a sense. SF is a very fast-paced city. People are always rushing from their first job to their second (or third) to make ends meet. When I was there for Folsom last month, I met three amazing people (separately). They were tourists visiting like I was. We exchanged social media and we're still chatting. Deep, meaningful friendships there take a lot of effort for both parties.
Making real friends as an adult is hard. I think we all have difficulty with it. I've heard SF is especially hard for some reason.
I used to believe that too. I thought it was being in San Francisco that made it harder to make friends. Thanks for sharing.
I think the definition of friends has been too loosely thrown around. Friends are folks, like you said, you can just reach out and ask them to help you out in a jam just because. Acquaintances (or even close acquaintances) are people you run into because you have some interests, but beyond that, don't really mix. Then you got work colleagues, people that you know because you are in close proximity with them. Then all this shit is in a venn diagram because there might be some actual crossover.
You are not alone. Mine all moved away. 😫
Ah, trust? Friendships or relationships require hard work, compassion, understanding, tolerance & acceptance to name a few. But to be fair, standards for friendship is important. Anyhow, you are very friendly with people in your comings & goings as far as I can tell so....❤I appreciate your insights here Jermaine.
I used to feel like that too, Jermaine. I was living in San Francisco in a toxic relationship, but I didn't see it at the time. I didn't notice that all of my time was being taken up by this person I was dating and I didn't notice how much of my life was being swallowed up by them. We weren't right for each other, but we were both so lonely that it felt better to be with one another than to let each other go. I realize now that more friends wasn't what I needed.
Living in Georgia for 37 years and I only had work friends. I’m now retired.
This is absolutely not a bad thing. Please keep your circle very small. 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼❤️
It’s not the quantity of friends, it’s the quality of friends , that’s what is important
You can count me as a friend. Anytime!
It’s normal..especially for those who can make the distinction from who is a friend and who is not whether the latter be associates or frenemies..I think it’s important folks can identify what friendship is and not just claim it because you “know” somebody ..
You should start a meet-up group for like minded people
Not a loser, at all. Shalom.
I totally understand where you're coming from. I don't have any close friends nearby and my closest friends live in other states and countries. The thing is that I have other priorities since I have a full-time job, a part-time job, family responsibilities and other things I'd like to spend my time on and cultivating friendships is not a major priority. I would be open to more friendships, but as a guy it can be difficult to create those friendships since they take time to develop the trust and respect needed for them to thrive and everyone is short on time and attention these days. I'm also not fond of those that think they're friends with everyone when in fact they're blurring the line between meaningful friendships and friendly acquaintanceships. I think COVID had a lot to with it since it put a stop to a lot of gathering, meeting and network opportunities especially in some places like the SF Bay Area. Bottom line is whatever happens, happens and if you're okay with yourself then things will be fine. Thanks for this video. Lots of food for thought.
No Jermaine!!! You are not lame or a loser! You are a good man sharing a common concern. It is hard to make true friends unless you meet people who share important values and interests over time. Think of an activity you like and would like to do with others. Join a group of people who like that too. Take a class, dance, cycle, or learn to do or make something. Become a volunteer with people who do something you really value. Whatever you choose, if it really means something to you, people around you will soon learn that you are someone truly worth having as a friend.
I'm sure that you have made many virtual friends through your many years of work here on UA-cam.
I have a few friends in my area. A bunch more acquaintances. But I don't always have time to hang out. I end up drifting a bit between different people online and in-person.
After 40+ years, I have seven great friends....ones that I can count on. And three, great friends on East Coast from college. It takes time. Just keep living. 😊
Yo, Jermaine. This is quite a bit to think about. First off, I also didn't have a big social circle growing up due to not fitting in with the cool kids for this or that reason. Second, being punked out of CCSF made me rethink how I viewed friends and how I should go about finding them. Yeah, I had to bring that up again. Third, I'm able to be cool with most people whom I see frequently, but I can also accept that I can't have many close friends whom I can really count on. Finally, we all have to part ways at some point, but we have to try to leave on good terms. Shame that those who went to school with me didn't seem to understand that.
Ur not lame. Ur not alone. Sf is like that. It is different than nyc. Not sure why but other cities provide more social connection. Sf has many positives but ease in finding and meeting like minded friends and forming actual relationships isn’t one of them. I think all of us out here are just navigating that landscape. thank you for acknowledging the reality.
Haha I guess I'm a loser to lol. I was born here and all my friends and fam have been forced out by high rents. I'm here and and only have one friend who is 77 and has alzheimer so limited capacity for anything. I really miss my friends, but I don't want leave my beloved city albeit as damaged and traumatized and corrupt as it is. I'm still holding on. I get it and glad your here to.
Yeah it honestly depends on what you value. You're already subconsciously making all these choices that result in the lifestyle you have because it's probably what you want deep down. Maybe you value freedom and autonomy? Maybe you value not being chained up of pressured by social stuff? But like, everyone always has these moments of doubt like "am I doing this right?". The thing about making friends *while* having a bf, I mean, I have a bf and I still make new friends from time to time. A lot depends on your relationship with your bf. We have a ton of basic trust between the two of us, and we like operating like that. We're both stupidly straightforward. He likes hearing about random stuff that happens with my friends and vice versa. But yeah, I get your point. It honestly depends on the kind of person you're with. Thanks for your thoughts bro, good luck with stuff.
Yes it's hard. I meet people all the time, but they have different interest. Some places I would like to visit but don't because I don't wanna go alone, the beach, Don Pina's restaurant, the waterfront.
I feel the same way although I only moved here to the city beginning of the year, my friendship circle now vs before is totally minimized but I have way more freedom to achieve things. Might sound like an excuse but it’s true, especially the vibe in sf seems to be individualistic and people doing their own thing
this video made ALOT OF SENSE... i don't have alot of friends .. once u get a certain age everyone Moves Away
and it takes YEARS to acquire "REAL FRIENDS" like someone you trust.
I think that’s generally true of big cities, where people tend to be more self reliant rather than having large social circles. And if you are in a relationship you tend to spend more time with your partner or meet up with other couples. I’ve always found it difficult to stay friends with the same people over a long period of time, as our interests have changed. But during Covid I contacted some old friends and colleagues I had not spoken to for some time and, although we are not very close now, we are up to date with what we are doing. It would have not occurred to me otherwise.
True, our priorities do change as we get older. With friends I think it's the quality over quantity that helps.
Me too, I have no friends.
having one good friend in life is enough. don't listen to people telling you you need more friends. your good dude!
The city can be very tribal and cliquish. I’m from there but now live in Austin. My hubby is from Texas and is my best friend and his family has been a lifeline for me. I was told I was very cold when I moved from the city and realized yeah you become kinda calloused and jaded living around such affluence and educated people with a transient population. I miss home but would not want to retire there.
It might be time for Boo and yourself to have some little ones -and all the associated other dad friends that present. A little Jermaine Boo? maybe 3 or 4? You'll be one of those awesome dads taking them/picking up on your bikes and having adventures. Maybe its time to start showing these other SF corporate tesla dads who the real alpha dad is.
When I was younger I had quite a lot of actual friends. I mean people that I had close relationships with. People that I laughed, cried, partied, learned, shared and grieved with. We were close and could count on each other in times of need. But, now that I'm older I can count my friends on one hand and I'm not really so sure about them. 😒
There's an old saying that goes, "If you have one true friend when you leave this place then you've done better than most".
It depends on your location (some places are more sociable) and where you are in life. Friends are good when you are in your early 20's while you are establishing yourself. Friends are extremely important when you are in your 70's and 80's because that's when people become more isolated due to death of peers. It's always good to have someone to workout with or take a road trip together but to have someone to lay around your house all day and play video games and waste hours on end hanging out is immature after a certain age.
'We love you, brother. I feel the same way all the time. I'm an artist and know a lot of people's but after the end of the day, it me and my 🎹
Same for most men nowadays
To all my frieeends!
word man, thats how it is. Make yo money! Make friends with your hobbies.
Someone once said ( I think in a movie ) " you want a friend ? Buy a dog "
Same boat, used to go into city every weekend. We've probably even been at the same parties more than once pre-covid. When I travel now to other big cities, I feel like I used to in SF. The people feel like it to. You're not cheating on SF to consider it, but maybe your mind is telling you the same thing a lot of people before us heard also. It doesn't feel healthy here anymore imo. Going somewhere like NYC or london is like going back in time to life in SF pre-covid.
I agree with you Jermaine i rather make friends i can trust or else its a waste of time
But we do have FRIENDS, Jermaine!
Bro it's depends,if you see like most of the people are cool n all that so for sure you will want to have friends, but if you understand that you had to be a good person as much as you want you friends to be,n in another words, it's not that easy to find a good friend,so i can tell you about myself friends did me all kinds of dirt,so i think if the person not take care of himself learning spertual things do meditation n all those things,any day that i dont got "friends" around me it's a blessing.
If you don’t go to college. It’s kinda hard to meet people as an adult. Co-workers as friends is really rare. Going out isn’t like the 70’s-2000’s clubs are basically just really expensive bars, no one interacts with strangers in public places especially if you’re a guy. Everyone has very different interests because we don’t interact with the same stuff in masses anymore. Financial differences etc. it’s honestly just hard meeting people nowadays. It’s like you said you should be able to ask someone hey let’s hang. A good example is I’m 30. So my age group is usually Married, or kids, married with kids or they’re just established in their own group. No complaints. It just seems this is a lot of people’s reality.
I AGREE 100%..I HAVE MY HUSBAND. ❤ PEOPLE I KNOW ALL MOVED OUT OF STATE...YOU ARE IN THE MAJORITY..🎉 THERE ARE NOT MANY PEOPLE WHO ARE ARTISTS WHO ARE LEFT HERE... I MOVED HERE FROM NYC..I MARRIED MY HUSBAND. HIS BEST FRIEND PASSED AWAY. I LOVE THE CLIMATE. MY HUSBAND HAS NO FRIENDS LEFT..
I don't blame you it's a lot of backstabbing energy up here You can't trust nobody
Jermaine has a vehicle now.
I'm sure you already know enough, CRAZY people.
My father said that if you only have 4 good friends in your whole life, you are doing well! Also, some friends belong to a section of your life and then fade away. You might be surprised that someone you feel close to does not reciprocate while someone you barely tolerate actually feels very close to you and is very loyal. Who would you call? Ask someone if they will be the person that instantly responds if you have an emergency - you might be surprised who says "yes." California is indeed strange because almost random strangers will divulge quite intimate details about themselves but then the next time you see them be quite cold. Keep on, keeping on - life is fun and strange but it's all good.
My dad said same but he narrowed it to 2. He's not wrong. Knowing people socially is not friends. Also not American but I have noticed Americans are quick to call someone a friend whom they just met. That's very odd.
Intelligent people usually don’t have a lot of friends. It’s hard to make a quality friend as an adult.
It's not about quantity but quality
I Was Born And Raised In San Francisco And Never Had Any Friends And I'm 61 yrs old
Also, Ive lived in SF for 6 months now and I dont have many friends here either and Im totally okay w/that. I think ive met enough ppl here to honestly say its not us yo. It's them 😆
Im on a pool league and most of my friends were made by playing pool. I have a few long time friends from childhood/school, but barely ever see them
How are you liking the bolt?
Jermaine you have friends here, you should make an effort to reply to their comments...not mine, I'm loser and I'm lame and I have no fashion sense :)
Thank You
People have different definitions of friends. Your definition means people that really care about you. Probably what you call acquaintances are what others call friends. And people are different. Some people need only a few close relationships while others have a lot of more superficial relationships. It's just the way we're built. I'm more like you. I have a few really solid people that know me and I can say anything to. The rest are just good people I interact w.
You don’t need a lot of friends the realist, most loyal, loving people don’t have many friends
It used to be SO EASY to have tons of friends in SF, back before people were all about making money to pay the ridiculous rent. There used to be a disco practically on every block! And lots of 24-hour discos! I was SO EASY to have cool friends having fun all the time. San Fran today is all about tech, not humanity. Can't be friends too easy with a robot car or an algorithm.
San Francisco has not been an easy place to make friends since the 1970’s or 80’s. It was easier to make friends in Oakland and especially Berkeley.
You’re not a loser. Fashion sense, wellll, you’re just different and that’s ok but you’re far from being a loser. I’d rather have 2-3 good, loyal friends than 100 of people who are fake. I’m 67 and the 2-3 people I truly call friends we can go years or months without talking to each other and pick up where we left off. They’ve always had my back and vice-a-versa. Sure, we don’t always see eye to eye but they’re still with me and I with them.
How is it different from ny? Im european and have only lived in sf
He's so masculine
this is what happens when you become mature
Be very careful 🙏🏼
I have no friends either
Doesn’t Lori have friends? 😊 Maybe you can connect with them.
its kewl i have 0 friends. god bless
Hey do you remember yesterday being on Market street & a girl w/long brown hair getting on a bus saying "Jermain, Jermain, youtube" and you said "hey whats goin on?"?
If so that was me, my name is JC. I was on my way to work or else I wouldve introduced myself. When I got to work & told a co worker I had just seen you, he told me he knew of you too and that you sometimes shop there. So now that I know this I can hook you up. How can I send you my # privately here?
96k friends bro
I don't have any in vallejo
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Believe most people your age don't have many friend either the older you get your friendship group shrinks
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Friends are overrated
Always good to succell in a career.
I'll go to the beach with you!
Your not and looser just keep doing what you want and injoy your life 😮
I'm in the city!! Hit me up!
Away with you, Jermaine! It's not hard to make friends in a big city like San Francisco with so many people. You should try doing it here in South Dakota, where your nearest neighbor might be 30 miles away. Most of us are pen-pals with the folks "next-door" and, as the old phrase goes "great distances make great neighbors". My advice to a healthy young lad like yourself would be get yourself down to South Dakota. Buy yourself a nice plaid shirt and a pair of overalls and you'd be right as rain. My wife Nelly found it a bit hard when she first moved here from Los Angeles but she soon took up with a nice church group, the Quivering Brethren and she hasn't looked back. Her hymn singing is coming on a treat and her hand-clapping, well I'm not boasting but it's major league. Maybe the Brethren have a branch in your neighborhood there? Check it out. We''d always provide references on godliness and right living for ya. Another great idea would be for you to take up a hobby so you won't be moping. Wife Nelly once scorned quilting, crochet and glee singing but after 10 years here, you can't stop her now. Don't despair, or think that you'll be stuck in San Francisco for life. Go Plainswards, young man!!
Not surprising because no one lives in SF anymore 😂
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San Francisco is the issue, not you.
I don’t have many friends too 🥹