Rule 1 - don’t complain something you can’t change, it is a waste of time and energy. Rule 2 - don’t complain about something you can change, just change it.
I had a friend she always had something negative to say about life and then I realised I was starting to focus on the negative aspects of life too or I was starting to take life too seriously and started overthinking, i immediately dropped her. Best decision I ever made
@@ShadeZahraiplz reach me out, i have made my life so missirable that lost all my important exams ,due to introvert nature😭i am 19/5 yrs old lost all my dreams due to introvertness and nurvous.wasted 4 yrs due. To this i am still unable to deal with it .i cry out daily 4-5 hrs ,and blame myself a lot due to this scratch my head .fell like dying.
Hi @amin.3830 Well done for seeking help. I strongly recommend that you seek help from a qualified therapist to work with you. Find someone that focuses on results. Some therapists will just waste years of your time.
Sandra Pogodova:" Dont compare and dont look for culprit...People who look for culprit, dont look for solutions,...they just look for their ego to feel good."....Most posts of facebook are about comparison and not finding a solution....Start your own way of solution, dont wait for society doing it, create your healthy community.
It felt validating to share my experience with the unfair treatment by my supervisor and the accidental leak of my confidential information. However, focusing on these issues distracted me from moving forward and accepting what was beyond my control. Staying in a victim mindset only delayed my chance to build patience and discipline.
Thankyou my dear friend Shade Zahrai It's very common to our intelligence, yet weight don't think on it. Thanks to you that you let us reobserve it that way. Thankyou dear universe 😊 for giving us shade Zahrai and this important knowledge. Thankyou so much 🥰🙏 Thankyou dear guru maharaj 🤗🙂🙏 thankyou for all this and everything.
I can say that being in France, the addiction to complaining has personally increased for me. Well, I was complaining here as well 😅 I feel like a society without spiritual knowledge will lose morals and eventually lead to a society without accountability and will eventually lead to complaining.
You are absolutely right my friend. Though, even without indulging in spirituality, a society can stick to its morals and ethics, but sadly, corruption has penetrated the society.
I agree, but I just want to mention that it's not good if you forbid yourself from feeling any frustration and jump right into fixing or distractions. Processing your feelings is important.
One other thing I’m really trying to work on is to quit complaining how people drive their vehicles. I do this while in my truck. Being a truck driver and all.
Complaining isn't inherently bad or good - it depends on how it's done and the context. Here are some key points to consider: Potential positives: 1. Can highlight real problems that need addressing 2. May relieve stress or frustration when done in moderation 3. Can lead to improvements if done constructively Potential negatives: 1. Excessive complaining can be draining for others 2. May create a negative atmosphere 3. Can become a habit, leading to a pessimistic outlook The key is to complain constructively when necessary: 1. Focus on specific issues, not generalities 2. Propose solutions when possible 3. Be mindful of timing and audience
Rule 1 - don’t complain something you can’t change, it is a waste of time and energy. Rule 2 - don’t complain about something you can change, just change it.
Love it... simple and effective philosophy for life
❤ love it
Im gonna note it in my table
Thanks ❤
❤❤❤ excellent Ma'am 🎉🎉🎉
Love this❤
I am sick of people complaining.
I never complain.
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thats a complain 😂
This is what 'Complain paradox' looks like
I had a friend she always had something negative to say about life and then I realised I was starting to focus on the negative aspects of life too or I was starting to take life too seriously and started overthinking, i immediately dropped her. Best decision I ever made
@@jinhub2175 such a negative comment
This is timely. Thank you so much Ma'am 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🔥
So glad!
@@ShadeZahraiplz reach me out, i have made my life so missirable that lost all my important exams ,due to introvert nature😭i am 19/5 yrs old lost all my dreams due to introvertness and nurvous.wasted 4 yrs due. To this i am still unable to deal with it .i cry out daily 4-5 hrs ,and blame myself a lot due to this scratch my head .fell like dying.
Hi @amin.3830 Well done for seeking help. I strongly recommend that you seek help from a qualified therapist to work with you. Find someone that focuses on results. Some therapists will just waste years of your time.
It took me 45yrs to start understanding this. Thank you!
so nicely explained in so short words greatly appreciated, words of full of wisdom and energy
Well said 👏 ❤
Shade always has great context. 👍 Thx for the info ❤
I complain all the time about everything. The worst thing is being aware of that and continue doing the same. I'm sick of myself 😢
Be grateful you are aware of it and that it is something you can work on. This is in your control.
@@gregorystewart2936 💯💯👏🏼🙌
@@tmrslima welcome to my club😄. I'm sick of myself and I need to change
complaining once again
@@theGOATbakri ohhh never realized 😅
This is very important given what has become the norm in out society today.
I find your advice timely. Thank you 😊.
Sandra Pogodova:" Dont compare and dont look for culprit...People who look for culprit, dont look for solutions,...they just look for their ego to feel good."....Most posts of facebook are about comparison and not finding a solution....Start your own way of solution, dont wait for society doing it, create your healthy community.
This was exactly the thing that came to my realisation recently. Acknowledging issues in positive ways.
Mam I also follow all this things, I have many of tips written on this things for daily lifestyle growth😊
This is excellent advice. Thank you for sharing.
I subscribed. Only because of your smile. Nice content. Keep it up!
It felt validating to share my experience with the unfair treatment by my supervisor and the accidental leak of my confidential information. However, focusing on these issues distracted me from moving forward and accepting what was beyond my control. Staying in a victim mindset only delayed my chance to build patience and discipline.
I agree!!! And appreciation refocus those around you ❤❤
Thank you shade... you are wonderful!!
Spot on! Thank you Shade❤
Thank you for the reminder ❤
Actually needed this, thank you for sharing 🙂
Its like negative things or thoughts attract negativity we have to think or thought positively so we can attract positivity in our life.
This is just a great thing to follow👌✌️
Rather than complaining we should be grateful for what we have 😅
It's insane that everytime I have any problems, your clip will pop up in thr exact solution for that problem. Thank you and I will try it.
Thanks!! waiting for your long video on UA-cam ❤
Thank you. Very useful information
Excellent advice! Thank you for the reminder.
Your videos are so informative and inspiring. Thank you !
Excellent advice
Thanks. I needed this today
A useful message. Thank you.
litraly i compain alot, thank you so much for this information
The most useful short I watched in my life ❤❤❤
Thankyou my dear friend Shade Zahrai
It's very common to our intelligence, yet weight don't think on it.
Thanks to you that you let us reobserve it that way.
Thankyou dear universe 😊 for giving us shade Zahrai and this important knowledge.
Thankyou so much
🥰🙏
Thankyou dear guru maharaj 🤗🙂🙏 thankyou for all this and everything.
Love your words.❤😊
I can say that being in France, the addiction to complaining has personally increased for me. Well, I was complaining here as well 😅
I feel like a society without spiritual knowledge will lose morals and eventually lead to a society without accountability and will eventually lead to complaining.
You are absolutely right my friend. Though, even without indulging in spirituality, a society can stick to its morals and ethics, but sadly, corruption has penetrated the society.
💎🏆 Great insightful & fruitful video 🏆💎
Thanks for sharing. Wow
Great Job.. Keep Up!!!
Awesome ❤
Some cases, for some people finding alternative is also embarrassing!!???
I can see the truth in this
Well said
I am your great fan! You are awesome! This is 110% effective strategy to avoid negativity and become more productive! 😊👏🏻👏🏻👌🏻👌🏻💐💐
good advice - keep posting
Love U and also your information ❤
💋💋💋 For Shade
She's awesome..... She's amazing ✍🏻
way of talking is superb keep it up.
It is natural for people to behave......
Thank you ❤❤❤
Initially I thought she was recommending complaining😂😂😂😂
Now it's clear
Good delivery
People learn to be more patient
Amen.
Give to your faithful, O Lord, a prayerful spirit of gratitude,
- that we may thank you for all your gifts.
Useful
I complain about people complaining!
Very true
Always learn something new from your videos
❤❤ your advice
Negative energy is wasted energy, Period!
Thank you
Never complain about the error in your electricity bill....deal with it, just pay😅
Make phone calls while driving, got it. 😅
This is me ohhh
Thank you 😊
Thanks so much
I LOVE TO COMPLAIN
I agree, but I just want to mention that it's not good if you forbid yourself from feeling any frustration and jump right into fixing or distractions. Processing your feelings is important.
Thank you 😊😊
I don't like people who complain..and ones who blame others for the things couldn't do because of someone..I just can't stand it...
Mrs Zahrai, I must complain, I could do with more videos from you !😅
Biblically based teaching. Thanks for sharing @ShadeZahrai.
So so true
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When I am stuck at traffic i immediately start daydreaming and start driving on auto pilot
Agreed 💯
One other thing I’m really trying to work on is to quit complaining how people drive their vehicles. I do this while in my truck. Being a truck driver and all.
i don't know why but I always feel your voice is addictive ❤❤
I like this very good 👍
Invaluable life-hack!
I love it
Thanks
Ah! That’s something very true. Doing so makes things even worse than they already are.
But, your sense of fashion is still top notch! ❤🫠
I feel attacked
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Complaining isn't inherently bad or good - it depends on how it's done and the context. Here are some key points to consider:
Potential positives:
1. Can highlight real problems that need addressing
2. May relieve stress or frustration when done in moderation
3. Can lead to improvements if done constructively
Potential negatives:
1. Excessive complaining can be draining for others
2. May create a negative atmosphere
3. Can become a habit, leading to a pessimistic outlook
The key is to complain constructively when necessary:
1. Focus on specific issues, not generalities
2. Propose solutions when possible
3. Be mindful of timing and audience
Wow
I will complain if she has said you need to plan early to avoid traffic 😂
I need earplugs. Wifey complains all day every day 😂
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Have you read the book "A Complaint Free World" by Will Bowen? If so, what do you think about it?
Not me doing this subconsciously
Cool❤
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I do the same..utilise the time
Why I meet constantly ppl tell me about all them self over... over... ?
Solutionize,seek solution rather than state the obvious.
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that is why I have stopped it after Ishtar Gate
This is why men default to offering solutions when women express problems.
We're not here to feel your feelings.
We're here to solve problems.