My new life in Paris, France
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If you floss in the morning, you’re already winning your day.
I know you. You're a UA-camr that lives in Paris, too. By the way, you're awesome.
Only if it is mint 😃
The hardest lesson in my life so far im (43) just because you love someone and they love you just as much doesn't necessarily mean that you're right for each other.
Phoebe Purvis I agree, sadly 😔
6mos later and as soon as i read this i am crying over my coffee. You're right and nothing hurts as much as trying to make peace with that
absolutely true 🥺
Yup. And sometimes you change and they change and the person you loved doesn’t exist anymore. Even if the new versions of yourself are better. Right now I wouldn’t choose to date the woman my girlfriend was in the past, because I’m not the same person I was either, and we both have an extremely strong relationship now with each other that’s completely new and built on our new selves that I don’t feel I would want to date either. But when I think back to the relationship I think about how much I loved THAT her at THAT time and it’s not sad really it’s just almost another universe. Love can change forms and change back all throughout life. Just like you, and there are people who will stay in your life and change with you and match you and there are people who will change without you and vice versus and then there’s people who will change with you but not always match.
TLDR: yes lol
Malgorb
Oh what I wouldn’t give to be able to just pack my sh*t and disappear to another country 😭😂 ✈️
Well.... there are volunteer opportunities where you can do it for free (if you choose to)! Make it happen 🌎
@@itsblitzzz i think she meant the trap of maintaining 40 hour work weeks college and family etc
@@itsblitzzz like what?
Long term relationships are hard AF, whether you're married or not. I feel you girl.
THE TRUTH
I already got my bags packed just gotta get my passport done hopefully I will be there also. Been going through some things. Need a vacation and hopefully get my surgerys done will getting some peace and mind. 🤟💌
@@itsblitzzz احلي،لايك،اناصغيرعمري،اثنعش،سنةاسمي،خالدالمفتح
L89 not everyones the same, feels the same, loves the same, has lived the same life... so i don’t agree with your statement and the way you projected your thoughts and experience was a bit much and bias
It’s funny that you mention your uniform because you inspired me to wear a black turtleneck tucked into high-waisted jeans and I always feel so good about myself while wearing it. So, thank you for that.
And I sincerely hope you find peace and happiness in the way that’s the healthiest for you
I feel the same way. Wardrobe sisters from afar ♥️
Change the changeable, accept the unchangeable, and remove yourself from the unacceptable. ❤❤❤
Love this ✨
Alysha Rodriguez wow what a great quote 👌
Row row, fight the power
My fiancé passed away on September 10th. He was the love of my life. Everything to me.
Life is hard.
Kelsey Sradeja my heart goes out to you 💗
So sorry for your loss. That's rough. :'(
Prayers of support to you, may you heal in your own time ❤️
I really hope you’re ok and I’m thinking about you. Sending you love.
I'm so sorry Kelsey. I hope you have a good support system of family and friends to help you get through this. ❤️
Sometime when people grow in their own way they can overgrow the relationship, but it can be just a test, every couple has it at a certain point
I am so sorry. I hope that doesn’t sound patronizing. It’s like you said, you’ve always been so open that it feels like we “know” you, generally speaking. So, to see you hurt...well, it hurts to see you hurt. I earnestly hope that things will get resolved in due time for you both. ❤️
Thank you for the love ❤️
I've been married for almost 32 years. I know exactly what you're going through. When finances get better or children grow up and you have no distractions from your relationship things become very clear. Do what's right for Julia. You only get one shot at this life. Don't wake up 32 years later and wonder how did this happen. I know it sounds selfish but you are the only one living your life! XOXO
I’m sooo sorry you’re going thru this. Sending you both loving prayers and support and light to find your way.
He mary
From personal experience my relationships that took too much work never ended up working out. In the moment it seems like the right thing. Eventually I found someone who didn't take that much work to be with. 13 years later and 3 kids later it's still amazing.
Thank you for sharing this, this is really validating to hear
oasisfan1994 I agree with this as well, also from own experience only. My husband and I have been together for 10 years now with two kids and it’s never felt like work.
I agree
i agree. i get relationships are "difficult" to some degree, but they shouldn't be difficult to the point where you feel the need to fly to a different country to figure out where you both stand. it shouldn't feel like work and she shouldn't feel anxious. sometimes relationships don't work out, and that's ok.
People do grow apart, find they have different needs and wants. If it's becoming too much work then neither person is enjoying themselves. Better to separate before things could turn toxic. Been on that side too and was the worst.
My exboyfriend and I separated in November. While being in the relationship I couldn’t imagine being happy without him but after we broke up I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders bc helping the partner made me feel really disconnected from myself. I had to learn that if you need your partner to change in order to being able to stay in the relationship, you should leave. I love growing together with people in my life but I didn‘t grow with my bf at a certain point, I was his caregiver and my whole life was consumed by his problems. I don‘t want to be pessimistic and only you can know whats right for you, bc you feel heart and head. Maybe its okay to let go, let him grow on his own and eventually you get back together, real love can’t be threatened...
Sending you lots of love!
MädchenAusDemMeer man! I am going through similar emotions as well. My ex partner and I broke up in November. We were together for 8 years. At first I felt defeated but now I feel free. It’s crazy.
MädchenAusDemMeer oh my god, you just wrote my life story. My partner and I separated in November as well and I am actually happy and thriving now, good luck loves! It gets way better 💕
I have been like your ex in my two last relationships. My mental health was at its worst and they tried to love me out of it but that is just not possible. I'm choosing to remain single until I get better. I refuse to be a burden or hurt those I love anymore.
If I never get better no matter how hard I tfy then I will stay single forever. Guys fall for me fast and hard but I know how it ends... I love someone but we are not together bc it is better this way.
Sometimes love is not always enough, but oh how we wish it was.
im actually sad to even see the small amount of comments about Nick. they are negative and horrible assumptions based off n o t h i n g. its not fair to him, and its disrespectful to you.
liv kealy I agree with this deeply
Yeah, I read some of the comments and felt the same. Like seeing the insensitive ”dump them” comments when people talk about relationships. People struggle in so many different ways/styles and that doesn’t lessen their inherent value as human beings. Wishing the best and hope things work out for everyone.
Julia my heart goes out to you. I was in a relationship for 8 years and the last 2 years of that relationship were so hard and I kept pushing through but ultimately I ended it. It was hard because we loved each other so much but it's exactly how you described Nick to be. I moved on way quicker than I thought once the rose coloured glasses came off I realised it wasn't a healthy relationship. I have now found someone so fucking wonderful who is so easy to be in love with. I wish you all the best! Sometimes doing the scary thing is the right thing to do.
I usually don’t watch these types of videos before bed but I’m glad I did. I’m going through something similar right now and I really appreciate your vulnerability to share. I needed to hear it. Right now I’m feeling like less the victim and more so the accomplice. (I obviously don’t know the details of your relationship but based off of what you said, I’m the nick of my situation). Cheers, tomorrow is a new day to change things up, let’s make it happen 🌈
I know exactly what you mean, I kind of feel like the other side as well. Like why can't I be happy with the person I'm with when they're so freaking amazing and I love them so much?
Your video intros are by far some of the best that I've ever seen. I always feel like that set up the "story" of the video.
Hang in there sweet girl. You’ll be ok. Sending you love and prayers for a calm mind and body.
Relationships are hard. Same boat. Hang in there ♥️
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@@aliahmet3849 and clearly you'd be one of those because you thought this was an okay time to say this to two strangers online instead of telling a close friend at the right moment.
@Ali
That's a load of bullshit. She has every right to feel what she feels and none of what she is saying suggests she likes suffering. She is being honest and expressing herself in a healthy way. Also, it's not always the "women's" fault, sometimes it's the man's or both parties' fault. ( I know such a shocker right?!! ) Sometimes relationships don't work out and its neither person's fault. In many cases, people aren't a good match for each other. In other cases, people go through a rough patch, learn and grow as people and their relationship comes out fine. Your comment overall is just really ignorant. You sound like you have a gender bias. This is 2020, not the 1950s. Get your head out of your own ass and start paying attention... or I guess don't and continue to be an ignorant fool.
@@gabriellebragg7097 dear gabriella, i just mean that you are precious and dont take any bullshit of men. If anyone who doesn't care you, you need to break up. just take care of yourself and protect. SUFFERING IS NOT LOVE.
@@Saatkraehen ''you have to be cruel to be kind'' i dont want her to suffer.
I hope everything works out for (the two of) you.
Thank you
I hope Nick chooses to get the recovery and healing he needs so he can be his best self and fully present in your relationship and the Partner you need and deserve. I have so much compassion and empathy for both of you. Look after yourself! Much love x
I’m sorry you’re going though this love. I truly hope Nick can get things figured out.
I think the way to “change” someone is to change yourself: Take ownership of your half of the conflict, and then set personal boundaries on what behavior that’s hurtful or toxic to you, and consequences if necessary. Then, the person only has themselves to look at. If he wants to be in your life and have a relationship with you, he’ll change. I highly recommend reading the book “Love cycles” by Linda Carroll - it’s a very hopeful book on long term relationships and negative patterns.
Happy Valentine’s Day Julia 💘 wishing you the best!!
I never usually comment on videos but want you to know that this was so brave to openly talk about and I’m so sorry your heart is aching. Sending love and light to you 💖 I’ve been journaling a lot lately and it has been so therapeutic, it may be nice to sit at a cafe and journal? Xoxo
It sounds like you've really figured yourself out and gained a lot of confidence. You've done a lot of work on yourself, and maybe he's not meeting you there.
You have no idea how much I get what your going through rn with your relationship. Same hun same except I'm married. Most days I wish I could just get away and reset.
kelley currier Same
kelley currier wish you the best mamas. We all deserve the best. 💓
Life happens... ride the wave... relax and enjoy even the bad times...sit with discomfort... and hug yourself often...
^This........
That's what I do too
Okay, thank you for sharing this hard thing with us. It's true that some of us will be able to relate. I don't know the full history or details of your relationship, but having been in an emotionally abusive relationship before (not saying that's what you're in, just saying I can relate to some things here), I have learned 1. You can't make someone change just by loving them hard or doing everything you can if they don't want to change 2. Relationships are not always easy but they shouldn't make you feel like sh*t all the time 3. No one else can tell you or convince you that the best option is to end said relationship - only you will be able to decide the right time to leave (or not leave). I just feel it in my heart that you're incredibly anxious and not in a good place and I don't think love is supposed to drag you down into dark places. The people we love should be helping to lift us up. It's sad that because of this you can't seem to enjoy much time in Paris, but I hope you're able to sleep and finally relax. The socks are so cute! Please do more of these small things that bring you moments of pleasure, however tiny! Please take care and remember that it's okay to put yourself first. Don't sacrifice yourself to please him or make things work if he's not budging. ENJOY PAAARISSSSSS!! xx
This!!! ✊👏
Best response on here 👍🏾👍🏾
Sometimes you can't save and fix someone... think about your happiness
It’s sounds cliche, but life really is too short to feel like you’re always struggling to be happy. Sometimes you just need to focus on your own happiness. Sending ❤️ you’ll get through and figure it out
Thank you for this vulnerability. You are so strong. Just be guided by your intuition and take care of yourself.
“You can’t really change someone if they don’t want to change” - nailed it. This was so hard for me when I saw the potential in my partners and they just couldn’t see it for themselves. Healthy boundaries seemed like it was the only way to not go insane when it came to these type of relationships. I hope time will help heal and restore you ♥️♥️
My 10yr relationship came to an end last year and I can relate so much to the anxiety and heart racing you described. Thank you for sharing the vulnerability, you’re not alone ❤️
Hey Emily, so sorry to hear this. I'm sure it was for the best but I can imagine how difficult and painful that was for both of you. I hope you are in a better place this year and taking good care to be kind to yourself. ❤️
I don’t know how I missed your response- thank you for the kind words ❤️ You said in your new video that problems can be worked out, but only if both people want it. It was hard but the right choice...and now I’m living that single dog mom life 😂 thank you for being such a genuine and inspirational person! Also, I 100% relate to your struggles you mentioned of sleeping alone and living alone has been hard. Your ASMR videos have been such a comfort.
Thank you for this🤍I’m currently experiencing a similar situation with my long term partner and I completely understand where you are coming from; feeling like you can’t live without someone but also feeling so stuck in the weird cycles of the relationship and not knowing how to get your mind out of that weird place. This video calmed my thoughts knowing there’s other people who go through feelings like this.
It’s hard being with someone for so long, going through so much together, and still having pretty significant problems. The anxiety I felt being with my ex every day I know now was never worth it. Although it was impossibly hard at first, and I felt like I couldn’t live without him... now that he’s not here I don’t have a constant pit in my stomach anymore. I reminded myself of this quote constantly during that time, “Don’t hold onto a mistake just because it took a long time to make.” Good luck and hope you find what you’re looking for in Paris
Keiori Ren I agree, that hideous anxiety in the pit of your stomach all the time is never worth it. My boyfriend just broke up with me, it's really hard right now, but it's probably for the best. 😔
Awww Julia it breaks my heart to see you like this! I can relate to your situation and your feelings so strongly, so thankyou for being open with us. I truly hope you are able to relax and enjoy your trip, you deserve it. Sending good energy and love your way, beautiful lady!
This woman... mind body and spirit of a goddess.
"Weird extended part of my family"
Im already that with my own family
Julia it's so cute the way you eat pain au chocolat! Actually French eat it directly without putting it on a plate ahah ! Enjoy your time in Paris gurl! You rock!
Wojcieszynski Emilie 🍽🍫
My heart goes out to you! I remember sitting in the sacre couer in paris under that beautiful dome and feeling just an incredible wave of peace. I hope you can find some peace out there too xx
Hope you are able to relax a little bit and enjoy the rest of your time there. It sounds like there might be some self destructive behavior going on. You don’t seem like you would buy into that kind of thing. Remember you are in control and you will ultimately discern what needs to happen. You have your process and I feel you will know what to do in your own best interests.
sweetie you love him but you have yourself in a toxic relationship. i just started watching you like two weeks ago and the little things i have seen about this man on your channel and i was taken back by how defensive he is. I think you shine very brightly. dont look so hard for the answers you already know them. go home soon to be with friend and family and comfort. you triggered because this is an emotional time and the unknown environment and situation is triggering you more.
I think this is a really thought-provoking and constructive insight, but also, only Julia truly knows her triggers and her relationship fully.
I appreciate your concern and kind words but you (nor anyone else) can't even begin to label or assess anyone else's interpersonal relationships without having full insight to their life & relationships. The internet is just a very small piece of my complex life - which is mostly lived offline. ❤️
@@anamaehartley7686 That's true, but people who love each other, but have so much trouble that you even have to escape from it (to another country) and don't even miss each other, but you also can't enjoy the time in that country, counts as a little toxic. Even though maybe someone doesn't want to be toxic, the relationship can be toxic because you make each other feel bad about themselves or the relationship. You keep on going in the same circle with the same heartaches, but it never resolves. That's toxic. Toxic isn't always about someone being shitty or harmful, sometimes it is about being hung-on on each other and not being able to cut the circle. You love the person, but sometimes loving someone means letting them go.
@@jessie4188 you have made a lot of assumptions here that aren't even closely based on my reality or experiences. This is unfortunately one of the downsides of the internet - people assume they know things based on their own thoughts and ideas. Sharing experiences is great but giving advice based on assumptions or generalizations is unwise.
@@itsblitzzz it wasn't meant as a harmful comment and it wasn't only about your relationship. It was an example to spread awareness that toxic things aren't only for example harmful relationships but it's more than that. I hope that you can solve things and be fully happy in your relationship again. X
(Ive made some changes in my comment, because I can understand why it seemed like I was only talking about your relationship as if I am witnessing it every day) x
I just want to say I have been in an extremely similar situation and felt everything you described in this video. The frustration, anxiety, sleepless nights but still panic about not having the person in my life, even though they cause me so much strain. I am now 9 months out of that long-term relationship (4 years) and even though the mourning period was very painful, I am so happy to be living independently and making a life for myself on my own terms. If you are under this much stress and the relationship/person is causing you so much anxiety - it is not right for you. Nothing is worth your peace of mind. Saying goodbye is a terrifying thought but there is light at the end of the tunnel and a chance for peace and one day finding someone new who will not cause you pain and stress. I hope you do what is right for you and all the best of luck xx
Kinda late to the party on this one but where did u get ur name from? Btw I love the energy and time u put into ur life and videos been watching ur videos for a while too 👏🏾
It's Blitz is a Yeah Yeah Yeahs record.
Quetzal Arevalo Okay thanks 👍🏾
Love is the greatest challenge I’ve ever faced, but it’s worth it. Hang in there.💜
I hope you're able to relax and enjoy yourself very soon
The French food looks so good. Once I had a croissant from France and it was the best thing ever.
Also I hope for you to feel peace and clarity and reassurance about the things you're going through. Thanks for sharing so honestly.
Thank you for having the strength to be vulnerable Julia 💕You’re such a sweet soul and I know you’ll get through this. I hope you get the chance to just breathe and make this trip about you and your healing 💕
I totally get with the anxiety (and the rest!). Stay well and wish you well. Remember "this too shall pass".
I’m going thru the same thing with my boyfriend and i literally said it out loud to my mom today and cried ... it’s crazy how saying it out loud triggers the raw emotions.
He. rachal
Julia, if you try your utmost and remain unhappy, you may just have to leave the relationship. You seem so kind, talented, productive, creative. You cook, you clean, you seem like a lovely partner. I wasted 12 years of my life with someone I hoped would change and the thing is, he didn’t. In fact , he got worse. He made me feel badly about myself. If I could get those years back, I would do it in a heartbeat. Don’t waste your years good luck love!
Woah, I was about to watch locke and key and this came up. So, yep. Priorities 👆✔️😂
ooh I just watched the first ep
Is it any good??
@@ibwendybASMR i kinda liked it!! going to watch the second one i think
Wendy Bowen it’s so good! Just finished the whole season
@@destinyhelenaxo this makes me excited to watch the rest of it woohoooo
I recently went through something very similar over the holidays. Everyday all I could think about was the situation I was in and was full of anxiety, not able to sleep or enjoy any down time really. Even on Christmas with my family it was constantly on my mind. Only recently after 4 or 5 months of this was I able to move forward. I sincerely hope that you and Nick are able to work through it and you are able to enjoy every moment again. Anxiety can be so overbearing and I hate that it has been so prevalent in your everyday life, especially on what was meant to be a clarifying vacation. Sending you all my positive vibes and would reccomend a solid pain au raisin or paris-brest pastry while you are there. 💜
Very sorry to hear that you went through something similar but I find comfort knowing that none of us are alone in our feelings. Thank you for your words. I'm glad you were able to move on and I hope you are doing much better. ❤️
So sorry to heard what you going thru right now. I don't think you're a quitter and I know you been working so hard on it. It's not reason to love in pain. I hope someday you figure out what to do for the best. Don't let social media affect. Sending you air hugs. I wish you happy.
Ooo babygirl you cannot change a person. That’s like rushing a plant. Trying to get it to bloom in winter. You have to decide what is best for yourself, and keep watering yourself. I’m sorry you are feeling this way. I know people who stay in a committed relationship but take time apart from one another. Truly do what you think is best for you, even if it’s hard.
Relationships can get so hard! I understand entirely - my boyfriend is the love of my life but it’s hard sometimes to get through some of the issues he forces due to his emotional baggage 💓 sending hugs!
ive probably said this before but your hand tattoos are so fukin amazing. the compass is my favorite one.
Check out the artist, Minka Sicklinger
Hello Julia, i don't know if you'll read my message but i just want you to know that i hope you'll find the peace of mind that you deserve. I live in Paris, and if i understood the neighborhood that you stay in, i live close to your place. So i know that social media can bring some weirdos (lol) but i'm not and if you want, we can meet each other whenever you want. No rush, i'm freelancer and i can easily find some time. I really hope you'll find a way to feel in peace like you do to us, thanks to your videos and your openminded words. There is always a way to find the light even in the worst time or darkness situation. Peace & Love to you Julia and have a good day
Ive noticed my depression and anxiety has taken a toll on my marriage. I love my husband but unfortunatly the pressure he has to take care of me has adversly taken a toll on him. Now in grad school im studying compassion fatigue and that is something i see my husband going through and it sounds similar to your situation. Maybe some knowledge will help you ❤️✨🌈 check out some ted talks about compassion fatigue👍🏼✨
Fuck im in love with Europe, I am from south america and from there people tend to travel to USA, but for some reason they denied mi Visa when i was little so i would travel only around there in SA or Europe. Last year I was living in London and now I am in China. The world is just beautiful.
I totally understand what you’re going through. When my fiancée and I met, we were both unemployed. Once we got jobs and started to get our shit together, we were renovating and flipping properties (while we lived in them...the struggle was real) until we saved enough to buy our dream home to settle down in. Once we finished remodeling our house our relationship started to flatline. It seemed like now that we didn’t have these projects to focus on together or goals to work towards that we lost our spark and didn’t have a way to connect with each other. 2019 was a rough year for us with figuring out how to adjust to life without projects and to find new ways to connect with one another. Now that we didn’t have life struggles to complain about it was as if we would both pick each other apart instead. It’s funny how when life seems too perfect, we find a way for it not to be. Just remember how great your life truly is and to not stress over the little things or over analyze every situation. I think you both can get through this!! I wish you the best ❤️
Yeah sometimes long term relationships could be hard to nurture. I hope you are feeling better about yourself now. I hope that you are in a better place😋
I don't know if you are into the writings of George Harrison but if you are still in Paris I suggest listening to His album All things must pass. Listen anywhere you are. Stay focused on your path and all will be revealed. God bless you Julia.
I love my SO so fucking much, but he doesn't love himself. It results in him taking out his insecurities on me. It creates a LOT of issues, and due to my own mental issues, I don't always deal with it in a positive healthy way for either of us. It can be really really hard. But it actually gives me a lot of peace to know we aren't alone, and that these types of struggles happen with others as well. We are currently living in different states from one another and just trying to spend time bettering and healing ourselves. Much like you I feel as though he's made it kind of harder for me to do that.. I do love him and I know he is so capable of making the changes necessary to get better and heal from his past, but the issue is he needs to see that. It's hard. But you're not alone in this struggle girl. I feel you.
Just because you love someone so deeply doesn't mean you will be together forever. I firmly believe we are in people's lives during the right time and place. But that right time and place may not last and it is okay. I've been in a relationship where nothing was really wrong, but we were headed in two separate directions. We split amicably and it was awful for both of us. I seriously thought my heart would stop beating and the world would stop turning without him. We would text each other about how hard leaving each other was. After months of time just healing and finding our way, we were able to move on. I still have so much love for him in my heart but it was the right thing to do.
I’m currently in Paris going through some stuff too. I understand and I hope this doesn’t come off creepy but if you ever want to get coffee I’m down ❤️
You shod come to Lisbon, Portugal you'd like it there.
Circe January hey! I’m there in August any recommendations?
Julia, I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. Know that you are not alone. Sometimes you get to a crossroads where you really have to do what’s best for you when you’ve done everything you can and it never really seems good enough because that person is stuck in their own misery. Still, the love is real and makes it harder to walk away. You’ll figure it out, Either way we all support you, sending love!
Oh sweetheart :( The way you speak about your relationship seems as if your mind is made up- you both were growing up when you met and found strength and guidance in each other. And now you’ve grown apart, and that happens. And it’s okay. It doesn’t mean either of you are bad people, just means you’re moving in two separate paths now. You can still love someone and also recognise that you need different things from a partner in this stage of your life. It’s okay.
Love and patience with one another. If your bond is one that you cannot live without, then give time if time is needed. Give space if space is needed. Give compassion and support if that is needed. Express to him what you need and how you feel. If you love each other, find that middle ground where you are both heard and move forward knowing that your decision is best for both of you. Sometimes when you love each other, what you need is not the other person's presence, but individual healing.
Relationships can be so delicate to balance. Honest, open, compassionate communication goes a long way. Speak with love for yourself and for him.
I ended seven years of relationship seven months ago. I empathize with your struggle. Do what's best for you first, and if you can, do the best for him too. You got it, Julia♥️
I’m finally alone at 50 yrs old and I love it .Im so happy and at ✌️ peace. Sorry your going through this. It’s just part of your journey that’s building your awakening in the universe.
You can truly love someone and not be meant to be together. Life is short and actions speak louder than words. Sending positive loving healing vibes your way 💛. Love everything you and your channel are about.
I feel like I can relate to this so much. I have been going through a challenging time with my partner, which is a product of him not seeking help or practising self love. This unhappiness is then projected toward myself and the relationship.
Where it has been challenging is around me fundamentally understanding that how we move forward will ultimately depend on my threshold for determining what I’m ok with and what I’m not... in short if I care for myself enough to not stand by certain behaviours.
It’s very sad, because I too couldn’t imagine nor want to be with anyone else.
I admire your candour, and am confident that you will have the strength to make to correct decision for yourself.
❤️❤️❤️
That glass floss holder is a great idea.
Julia! I hope the rest of your trip in Paris runs smooth & i genuinely hope you make the most out of this trip before heading back to la ❤️ I’m sorry to hear about the current obstacles your relationship is facing, in the end i hope you both work it out, I know how tough it can be when someone is not present due to their own personal dilemmas, so I’m truly hoping that nick gets past this! 💕
I’ve been binging your content! I’m trying to make a lifestyle change and you are helping so much. I wish I could be your friend you seem like such an amazing person
I simply love you. I came across your videos and just fell in love with the person you are. My heart hurts for you because I have had those same exact feelings. They are one of the hardest to live with. Sending you the warmest of vibes my love ❤️
It can be so frustrating to go though the same issues with someone over and over. Especially when both people love each other and want to break the cycle. People love to say that if something isn’t easy, it isn’t right, but when is that true of life? Life is messy and complicated. It’s hard to understand our own minds, let alone someone else’s relationship. I hope you and Nick can find your way through things, together.
Also, I want all those foods. Flour butter cheese flour butter cheese yes please thank you.
Bébé Sucre would have also been cute.
* things may be tense right now, keep shining though ✨ you are a goddess. *
Life is hard . But I love you ❤❤👍👍👏👏❤❤❤❤
Oh just watched video. I've known two couples over the years who love each other very much and have great relationships with their partner because they live apart. Nearby, but not in same home. Just putting it out there.
I empathize with you, Julia. I left my boyfriend of 5 years because his internal battles were affecting my spirit too much. This is a guy who is still very in love with me and who I was very in love with. It’s such a strange dichotomy to be in and it’s so draining to balance emotions, logic, and our natural self-serving ways. To add, we may find ourselves trying to “fix” our significant other to salvage something so beautiful.
I really wish you the best, Julia. I wish I could be there with you and we could have girl chat abut this (I know, super weird). But I have a feeling we share at least some similarities when it comes to our inner selves. Enjoy Paris and all the clarity she may bring you. Take care.
This was just relaxing and chill to watch. Many blessings xx 😌
Edit: I just saw the last bit and I’m so sorry you’re going through this love, I’m sending you all the hugs, love, and care that I can.💕
You’re like a big sister to me, to many other people even. You’re a strong person, Julia. Keeping you in good thoughts.
It sucks when you can't love someone into being the person you know they can be, for you. Especially when you feel like you would do anything for them.
I know exactly how you feel. I love my boyfriend to pieces and I give myself panic attacks thinking about losing him but I feel so trapped lately. We’re stuck in the same cycle of arguments and repetition and I try to communicate but it never seems to reach him. I voice my feelings and he says that I am able to and yet when I do he contradicts what I say and I feel like I’m overreacting. I feel like I’m hurting him for reacting to how he treats me. I want so badly to work things out between us but nothing changes and I feel so stuck. When I suggest time apart he feels like I don’t want to be with him and that if I say I miss him and still want space that some part of what I’m saying is untruthful. I love that you share what you’re going through because I can relate to you almost exactly. It feels so reassuring to know that someone I look up to and someone who is successful can feel the same way that I feel and it really does make me feel less alone. Thank you for being you. ❤️❤️
I’ve been in a relationship with a guy for 10 years. We are not married. We do live together. I love him more than anything in this whole world. He is truly a wonderful man and treats me so well. But... It’s not working and hasn’t been for a long time. No chemistry anymore. Tried everything. I don’t know how to leave him....
you just do it. i know it’s hard, it’s clear you love him but if there’s no chemistry anymore and you both don’t wanna work at it anymore then you need to leave him. you’re only wasting your time. 10 years???? get out of there!
Even if you didn't outright mention it, since you've been posting about Paris I had a huge feeling that you and Nick were having problems. This might be the beginning of a new chapter and the end of the old.
Thanks for sharing. Isn't a relationship supposed to give more positive energy than it takes?
my heart goes out to you. if i can give any piece of advice, it's that loving someone very much is not a suficient reason for being in a relationship with them. i think relationships are only worth pursuing if they are functional enough and if you genuinely want and can see yourself spending the rest of your life with that person. i hope the generalized anxiety goes away, it's one of the worst states to be in, for me, at least. and i also hope that whatever you decide to do is for the best
Now you are in Europa why not take a visit to Denmark, Copenhagen? Me and my 2 best-children-in-the-World could give you the Big guide tour; Christiania, Strøget, the little mermaid, etc 😊🤗 and i got divorced 5 years ago from my childrens father which was not my choice and I still love him!!! It's the worst I've experienced and I don't want anyone to go through that hell, unless it's really necessary. Many thoughts to you from me ❤️
I really relate to that feeling of not being able to relax or be calm entirely. It’s the worst feeling to not be able to completely relax your mind, and wake up in the night from it too. I’ve been going through that consistently for the past few months due to family situations, so I understand. While the problem can’t/won’t go away right now, and you probably won’t be able to relax completely & entirely until it does, there are small things you can do to ease your mind temporarily so you can enjoy every day things - especially in Paris. I find breathing exercises when I’m out and it gets too much help - centering my thoughts back to ‘ground zero’ if that makes sense. Focusing on my senses - what can I see/hear/taste/smell/touch? Gives you a reality check to enjoy where you presently are. Listening to podcasts also when I’m walking about. Sometimes music isn’t enough to distract the thoughts in your head, and this way you can still enjoy the Parisian beauty while easing your thoughts. Focusing on self care and putting controlled thought into what I’m doing and why I’m doing it - I.e. I’m doing a face mask to unclog my pores. I can feel the pores unclogging. If you think consciously about these small tasks it helps bring your mind back to ‘the present’. And finally, may be the devils advocate here but a well deserved glass of wine or a joint doesn’t go astray either. Don’t punish yourself for enjoying ‘selfish’ things. I hope your anxiousness eases up soon Julia, and moreover your personal life/relationship finds clarity. Sending love 💚
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 8 years and I relate so much to your situation with Nick. Sending you love.
*someone on the metro coughs*
Me: CORONA!!!!!!
Julia, this is one comment out of thousands that you usually get but I appreciate your honesty and transparency so much. Shortly after you posted that video talking about grief and dealing with death and loss, I lost my grandma and got back to that video, which made me feel less alone and gave me a feeling of peace and comfort. I struggle with love too and seeing how maturely you're dealing with the issues you have in your relationship, as well as the comments other lovely people are writing, are also giving me hope to work on myself and focus on my own happiness. Thank you very much, for real, Julia (and everyone else reading this 💙)
Your friend has a lovely apartment! Wish you were there on better circumstances, though. I know it’s going to be a hard time working out what to do in the immediate future, but stay strong and decide what will make you both happy in the long run.
It’s hard to deal with mental health and a relationship
I'm a bit late to the party but I empathize with what you're going through. Especially the part where you are no longer struggling financially and therefore things should be better but they are worse. I think sometimes the struggle of life can give us something to focus on outside ourselves or our problems, and once those distractions go away, we are left with ourselves and our inner demons. So I think it actually makes sense (unfortunately). I wish you all the best and hope you can find balance and peace 💜
Julia, I admire you. You are so mindful and reflective, authentic and elegant.
Can't believe I missed you by 8 days. I went to Paris the other day too - the city has such a special vibe when you're there on your own. Sending hugs your way (from Germany)