I cruised in my car in my late teens and early twenties met a lot of different guys really really nice it's been about 40 years I can still look back at those cruising days and remember just about every guy
I discovered a beach house glory hole when I was 16. Quick in & out. Brought a friend with me sometimes. After about a year of quick visits I noticed my dads car in the parking lot and I thought I was busted. He was going there too. He never found out I knew it was him.
@@bravoprojectrunwayfans he clearly said he still enjoys watching and the content creator thanked him in case you can't read 😂 you don't have to necessarily be into something personally to enjoy someone's content.
i’ve been watching your videos with captions and muted for a few weeks at work or school etc, and today i finally listened and i didn’t imagine your voice like it is as all! you do sound better than what my brain assigned you though, lol
When I was in hs my friends showed me the cruising area in South Beach Staten island. That was the first time I ever heard of this as a straight female. I knew of the NYC porn movies from a kid because I had family that lived near those areas., and I heard of bathhouse. I learned some new things from your channel. I went to Toronto and Niagara falls. Canada is nice. Have fun and success always.
I loved the idea of bringing a banana to seductively mow down while waiting. Genius! 😂 Years ago, before I even knew parking lot cruising was a thing, I would regularly go to a forest preserve parking lot on my lunch hour from work just to eat lunch and get out of the office. I was wondering why other guys were always looking at me. One time I had the window down, was smoking a cigarette and talking on the phone and a guy approached. I was so oblivious at that time I ended up saying excuse me, I'm on the phone. Later I learned this forest preserve was a popular cruising area. I was told one of the signals that you were available to cruise was that you were sitting in your car, pulled in backwards in the parking spot, with the window down. Damn it, what a missed opportunity. I don't know if I would ever have the nerve but I always think about that whenever I pass a forest preserve to this day. 🤔
It's too scary now to cruise in the parking lots. I did it back in the 70's but not now. Too many police and undercover cops. At least here in NY. Will do it if they start putting charging stations than that changes things. Lol
Sorry I have to say, parts of your society's ridiculous! It the religious/prude/crackpot element that has far too much control over others. -who cares really. Who does it harm? Nobody.
In Nassau and Suffolk, the L.I.E. "park and rides" have been a thing for a while now. Only issue is that cops are well aware and nowadays they'll constantly be patrolling, or a cop will be parked there undercover. It's still hot on sniffies it seems but I've never been there, too risky.
Back in the 70s 80s in okc the majority off us cruised the parks and the rest areas all ways had lots of fun and the adult book stores has glory holes. Plus hitch hikers were always fun to pick up. And find a private bathroom. The lake was also fun in the bushes. Than came the gay hotel .
I had one of those horror experiences one time. Guy got in car and we found a secluded spot. Then he grabbed my keys out of ignition and tried to throw them out into a huge field and it was pitch black. I fought with him and finally got the keys back and kicked him out. Don't know or care how he got back to his car.
@@PatrickMarano I noticed at nearby cruising area in my city there would be like 50 cars on the road and hardly find 5 guys in the woods . These folks must have been in army and trained well in hiding in the woods .
Great video! I have just started back cruising and this was a great "refresher" You are doing such a fun and interesting job with these vids, thank you!
Okay, old-school here... first of all you got to get them to stop. To do this, Flash your parking lights or if you drive by someone tap your brake lights 3 times. This is how it was done back in my day. Also back in my day we had a bench seat up front. The first time I had a car with bucket seats somehow or another, just saying... the back portion broke away from the seat. Love your videos sweetheart!
Bench seat. LOL yeah you're definitely dating yourself. Yeah seats now are not that great for car sex other than maybe road head, but even that can be tricky with the armrest etc.
@@johniii8147 speaking about showing my age... I bet you didn't know that a 1960 Rambler station at wagon had all folding down seeds that made one big bed! Talk about camping!
after the bars sways were to that lot ..its in Toronto by a boat club ...met so much hot guys there this was over 30 years ago ..no apps then didnt like bathhouses ...i liked to met guys you can see what they are like it was fun and never had a problem...
Patrick mate, the whole planet is a cruising spot for you. If you were an astronaut, then I'm sure you'd try to figure out how to cruise in a space capsule. "This is a long voyage, what shall we do to entertain ourselves?"
Thanks 😊 for the #info on #parkinglots #cruising, I’ve done it back in 2007-2015, but since the pandemic 😷 came into the scenerio, it’s been tough getting out, and having a great 😊 time, once everything is back to normal I would definitely take your advice on these cruising habits!!!! And luv your cruising info
If some of the cars are parked in reverse. If it's an area where people can exercise discretion. If it's an area/park with low traffic and off the beaten path. If the person is sitting in the car alone. If the guy sitting in the car is going out of his way to make eye contact with you and seems overly friendly. If the guy starts touching himself casually/subtly as he strikes up a chat with you. The type of garbage strewn about and graffiti on the restroom walls will be a big hint too.
I always failed at cruising in parking lots when I tried it personally years ago and now I am too chicken shit because the cops and State Police in Connecticut are always on the lookout. But it use to be about flashing lights in the old days if you flashed your lights others knew you were cruising but now with auto lights on cars and day time running lights it isn't that cut and dry anymore I guess. Love your trash bag suggestion never thought of that personally time to keep some in the car for the day I might grow a pair of balls again to try this. Lord knows on the apps a lot of people do say car play preferred. Still don't get that one when I have a place instead?!
Oh it goes on ( or at least did). I'm not sure if it's still a thing, but in my 20s there were known places to go for it back late 80s, early 90s. It was probably more of pre internet thing I'd expect. Now if you're looking to hook up you open an app to find potential candidates.
When I was younger, I had a guy drive out into the countryside and then say "If I kicked you out right now, could you get home?" He meant it as a lesson, but it was terrifying
@@PatrickMarano Let’s start by saying you really never have to worry about the cops… My Fav cruisy spot is by Frankfurt Airport good lord it’s a meat market in summer . Park the car find the break in the fence walk a bit into the woods and if they’re not sunbathing and jerking or trying to get your attention then you’ve got the leather men ….grrrrrrr , since it is part of a wooded area and it has motor paths and walking paths there are bicyclists too that well hard on galore in their Lycra….mmmmm love it now going south there’s a bathroom area that bathroom is cruisy then when hit the autobahn to go towards France that first rest area walk through cut in fence and voila all over again…. Mmmm Now England has also cruisy areas I was mostly around Cambridge areas but mmmmm ( I do find English me. Have thick C…) France something, Holland, same … and all the time I was ( a few years ) never once worried about the Polizei… oh lord and I know you’ve been Spain ( coast) or Ibiza , Canary Island , Mallorca, or Greece need I say more !
@@nxs3374 yesss!!! Europe cruising scene is sooo epic. Don’t even get me started on the beautiful men that also cruise vs the states !! London metros and parks 🤤 Berlin has great cruising pretty much anywhere. Such thick C’s and all uncut 🤤 gimme gimme ! The men of PARIS and their amazing cruising and bathhouse scene. I didn’t start cruising until my late 20s unfortunately. I studied abroad in Europe and it was amazing. Had my first “dark room” experience at Arena in Barcelona
Thanks for the info, but you don't even seem to know the extent of this. Am I the only one who notices this now happens in every single parking lot now? Malls, supermarkets, etc. I'm a good looking muscular guy. I'm not looking for it but if I pull into ANY parking lot in the past couple of years by myself, especially at night, there is a 100% chance I will have men pulling up to me, flashing lights, honking, following me into the store, out of the store, they will see me walk in and pull up in front of/next to my car and wait for me to come out, honk at me or flash their lights. Lot's of black SUV's with tinted windows and I usually cant even see who's in them but when I do they all seem to have beards or some kind facial hair. I don't know if that's a sign their looking or just a stylish trend. I awkwardly pretend I don't notice it and am careful to never make eye contact and get in and out of my car as quickly as possible. I've even been followed. This NEVER would happen a few years back and it happens EVERYWHERE now! And if anything I was younger and hotter 10 years ago. Even if I'm parked on the street and sitting, a car will likely slow down and pull up somewhere in front of me. This is such a major shift in culture and think this would get a mention on the news (or at least a couple of online articles) but I can't believe this video is the ONLY thing I found online that address this and it doesn't even tell the whole story!
I have to admit that this isn't something that I have ever done. The few times that I guess I could say that I was cruising were basically unconscious actions. Like once I was visiting relatives in L.A. and decided to go for a walk in Hollywood/West Hollywood (?). After walking several blocks in the summer afternoon sun I sat down to rest on a bus stop bench on a main thoroughfare. Cars would slow down as they got near the bus stop and I began to get the idea that I was being "checked out".
Damn, all I seem to get in parking lots are guys who are selling speakers from the back of their van or wanting to sell me "jewelery". Then again, I don't drive. Lol
went to a known place seemed guys never wanted to make it happen. Just park, maybe stare but no moves were made. Took too much of my time for nothing. So, I went down to a dry creek got completely naked and layed out like getting sun. Got three guys to blo that day!
Any tips for a young homeless straight man? I park and sleep in a lot public parks and metro lots at night. At first I couldn’t tell why so many sometimes creepy often effeminate guys were parking next to me or trying to make prolonged unnecessary eye contact, and feeling threatened, I would cock my pistol (keeping it out of site) and stare back ready to defend myself. I HAD NO IDEA😂 Little did I know I was only attracting them more by staring back. Then they would repark right next to me! I’ve also had guys come up right next to my roadside parked car at night and stare me down not more than 2 ft from my window in pitch night. And Ofcourse being like 1 am I again prepare to execute someone. Upon seeing my scowl in the light they take the hint and turn or if not I pull my car out and flash my high beams on them and that has worked thus far, they eff off. idk if I feel safer now or more terrified. Why so much shame ? It’s so sad. I guess I’m lucky to come from a family that accepts homosexuality,,, That being said, this can’t be a safe practice . I could’ve legitimately killed one of you by now. I’m glad I know this now so hopefully I can spot the dif between a creep and a nonviolent guy who’s just looking for gay sex. But seriously wtf, it’s 2023, why can’t the gay men community evolve out of these shady fetishistic practices, not to mention incredibly dangerous!!! Any thoughts are greatly appreciated. I’m a filmmaker in Los Angeles and I’m thinking of starting to ask these guys if I can interview them on camera while blurring/protecting their identities to illuminate this culture to the greater public and do a study on shame in gay men in modern America and ultimately make a safer world for the next generation of gay men. Again, all contributions appreciated! I’m new to this culture and being an outsider doesn’t diminish the fact that it’s freaking fascinating. Additionally, if you’ve got stories please come forward. I will absolutely protect your identities. Persecuting innocent gay men is the last thing I want to do. So again, anyone with stories please reply to this post or reach out somehow! Even if it’s just to criticize my deep misunderstanding of the culture. Lastly, please be safe you guys! There are genuine monsters out here at night.
Thanks so much for the comment. I appreciate the interest and the non judgemental curiosity. You're right, it's not safe, but that's part of the thrill. These guys do put themselves in a bit of danger every time. But you have nothing to fear from these guys. They will not hurt you and they'll leave you alone once you tell them you're not interested or there for that. As for shame, that's not why it happens. Cruising will always be around regardless of the APPs or how much "equality" we get. It's a hunt for sex. It's about the thrill of the chase, the excitement of being outdoors, the not knowing what could happen (if anything even does). That being said, some guys are on the "downlow" and this is their only opportunity to hook up. Again, thanks for all the questions and the willingness to learn!
@@PatrickMarano dude, thank you for the thoughtful answer! I did a deep-dive last night and I’ll be watching “cruising” with Al Pacino tonight while reading more anecdotes! I’m glad to hear that and the more I read the safer I feel knowing these guys really are just trying to get off. Cheers!
I had cycled to the first time to a state park on the bay. I was enjoying the view of the water when I realized I was being stalked by someone who apparently wanted some "action" I wasn't in the mood.
Nothing worse than guys who make it so obvious you are cruising and they advertise they just can't leave you alone or the ones that seen to be so uptight and quiet and act like you're about to murder them or they're about to have major panic attack 😳🥺😱
I like to designate parking spots, like the 3rd one from the dumpster or directly facing the employee entrance/loading door. They're less likely to have people walking by or at least less frequently, as most places have a whole routine around trash runs or going outside for breaks. Just kidding, I've never cruised before but the same rules apply regarding generally avoiding people in public. Except that one time, in a sauna, in Vegas. Whoops.
I don't bring a small plastic bag for disposal of used items. I carry a roll of twenty-five, 45 gallon black trash bags! Orgies -always. Thank you for the vid.
It's funny that " grass is greener on the other side " as an English guy I love the idea of cruising in the US and Canada as I'm a fan of cut cocks , I also like the understall anonymity which h is virtually impossible in the UK. Fortunately the police don't take much interest in guys cruising unless they get a prudish complaint 😉
I can attest to that!! I was on a crowded bus in Rome. I mean crowded! Peoples bodies were touching because of the cramped space. I was standing in the aisle in the front third of the bus. I noticed a very handsome man (they're all handsome in Italy,no lie) facing me in the back of the bus. He kept looking at me. Italians do not have a sense of personal space or how long to look at some until it becomes creepy (it never is creepy) like Americans do. I noticed every time the bus stopped he got closer to me. I was intrigued, he was so handsome. We locked eyes. Soon he was standing in front of me with his body pressed against mine. Our noses were almost touching. I smelled a combination of him and his cologne. Intoxicating. I would love to continue but suffice it to say that being groped on a crowed bus in Rome was something i will never forget! Totally hot!!
I'm here because I saw something unusual this morning. A guy had his hood up on his car. I asked him if he needed a jump. He said no and sat there with his door open and shoes off. A red flag 🚩 immediately went up. I'm like he's either signaling for a hook-up or stalking.
Interesting video I found here I have been cruising since 1969 the best way to do it is discreetly on some of your old Hollywood streets streets of Greenwich village and San Francisco on Polk I haven't done it in a long time going back out there last time I did it I wore spandex in 1989 stuck a sock in my crotch and had a hairy chest that seemed to attract a lot of men I think the old ways are the best ways to do it just walk around hang out in the bushes a lot of parks alleys the areas be careful cuz there's narco cops out there policeman like to bust us good luck everyone
Not so much in parking lots but lots of time spent cruising the main street of my town... Yonge Street, Toronto in the late 50s and 60s. Back then, hitch hiking was a normal way to get around and on Friday and Saturday nights, there were dozens of guys "hitching" on every block downtown. I just drove along until I saw someone that gave me a tingle and stopped. We'd do the usual intro dance... "Hi, where ya goin'" or "How far are you goin". The RIGHT answer was "all the way". Then off we'd go onto a side street to find a spot between streetlights to boogie. I always found the risk of being caught to double the turn on... either in the car or washroom or even the bushes or parks. And back then, the cops took great pleasure in entrapping and busting every "fag" they could. Raids on the bath houses were frequent. Somehow I escaped their nets... just plain lucky.
Thank you so much for sharing those stories with us! Love to hear how things were compared to how they are today! I woulda been the guy saying "all the way" lol
@@PatrickMarano My pleasure, Patrick. I'm now heading for the age 85 milepost, sadly without the zesty "Weapon of Mass Destruction" that existed before the medical profession gave me the choice of dying soon from bladder cancer or living with a limp dick for the rest of my life. No contest, eh? Going from the "Speed Limit" to "Parked" has been one of those speed bumps on the road of life that I hadn't expected. Learning to deal with it psychologically has not been as difficult as you might expect. If it had happened at age 40, I'd have been real pissed. But now, I have a lifetime of encounters to populate the theatre of my mind while waving my overcooked cannelloni around to little effect. I bring all this up, not to bore you, but to thank you for your excellent presentations and to tell you how much enjoyment they bring. I'm hope the young Up and Cummers appreciate having this kind of resource. Back in my day, all we had were Men's Health Body Building magazines and our wildest imaginations. This was long before "The Baths" or the St. Charles Tavern. Jeez, what I slut I must have been!
I still Cruze till this day. My first time I was sitting in my car and I looked in the mirror and a guy had showed me his ass. I got out and went into the woods and got some action
I am sure that's nice but be careful. I would not as I would feel I was being raped in some ways alas. Also if the police saw you what would you do. Best place for some ass really is at home but each to their own though too I guess.
You can't Cruise now you don't know who's there just on their phones it was easier in the old days if you were parked and doing nothing it was kind of obvious what you were up to but now if you're parked and you looking down you can't tell what they're doing they're on their phones
Always wondered why the guys just sit in their cars and not give any kind of signal. Tapping tail lights, blinking parking lights… are they looking to give or receive fun times?
Of course there's the biggest con (now that Prep has mitigated some of the health risks), oddly not mentioned here, which is getting busted by the vice and becoming a con, not to mention immediate membership in the Sex Offender list, which I understand is very difficult to get off of. Sometimes I wonder if Patrick Marano could be a cop. Not to judge or put a downer on things, but the risk is real, so watch your step.
Well ive said it before and il say it again: you gays sure know how to have a good time. You cant imagine all the fuss i have to go through to score with a girl these days. With that said: dont you find sex in cars terribly uncomfortable??
It definitely tends to be easier to get laid when it's two guys. That's why even some str8 guys will dable with other dudes since it can be so much easier and don't have to pay for it. Just depends on the car I suppose. I've made it work well in the back of our Jeep with the rear seat removed and the other one down. Only draw back there is there tends to be a lot of dog hair (LOL) since the that's where the dogs usually ride.
That's why straight or Bi guys go after gay guy's, better sex no hassle,easy in n out, annonomus,and a lot less work,no words need be exchanged or wineing and dining.
@@PatrickMarano I honestly didn't mean for you to take it to heart 🧡 It always been a hush hush🤫 thing for the public not to be aware of things like this still going on in these times. The more aware that everyone have the same knowledge, makes it dangerous! When grindr was made known. Many of the new generation kids were lured out just to get gay bashed.
@@cedricksamaniego9146 I think the cat's been out of the bag about cruising in car parks, woods, and toilets for a while now. Like I knew it was going on when I was a kid, and I ain't particularly young now.
I cruised in my car in my late teens and early twenties met a lot of different guys really really nice it's been about 40 years I can still look back at those cruising days and remember just about every guy
you remember them? that's crazy!
@@PatrickMarano I remember several, but man there's been more than i can remember anymore lol
I discovered a beach house glory hole when I was 16. Quick in & out. Brought a friend with me sometimes. After about a year of quick visits I noticed my dads car in the parking lot and I thought I was busted. He was going there too. He never found out I knew it was him.
😂😂⚰️
Damn are you fine
Take a In &out burger bumper sticker black out the b and the second r. Now your set to cruise. Your bumper sticker says “In & Out Urge “
Just trick and get it over it
@@lukehoffman4389 I mean that's not really such a big deal
I don't cruise, I'm not into random hookups, but I enjoy these videos WAY more than I should lol. Informative and entertaining!
Thanks David!
Puleeeeze queen
Don't watch than 🤷
i feel the same! i’ve never cruised and am in a mostly monogamous relationship (occasional hookups) but love these videos
@@bravoprojectrunwayfans he clearly said he still enjoys watching and the content creator thanked him in case you can't read 😂 you don't have to necessarily be into something personally to enjoy someone's content.
I have friends who used to go on the local interstate in a convertible with no pants on cruising for truck drivers. More fun than a herd of turtles.
sounds awesome!
Back in the day all we needed was 5 Dollars in gas and pick of Benson and Hedges cigs and a 32 oz super size drink we were ready to go!
It was fun to watch everyone else just driving around, wasting gas, and not hooking up. While I was parked, and having fun.
LOL
Gay Dating & hook ups
i’ve been watching your videos with captions and muted for a few weeks at work or school etc, and today i finally listened and i didn’t imagine your voice like it is as all! you do sound better than what my brain assigned you though, lol
that's hilarious!
You are devilishly accurate. Love you Patrick
Thx Greg!
When I was in hs my friends showed me the cruising area in South Beach Staten island. That was the first time I ever heard of this as a straight female. I knew of the NYC porn movies from a kid because I had family that lived near those areas., and I heard of bathhouse. I learned some new things from your channel.
I went to Toronto and Niagara falls. Canada is nice. Have fun and success always.
I loved the idea of bringing a banana to seductively mow down while waiting. Genius! 😂 Years ago, before I even knew parking lot cruising was a thing, I would regularly go to a forest preserve parking lot on my lunch hour from work just to eat lunch and get out of the office. I was wondering why other guys were always looking at me. One time I had the window down, was smoking a cigarette and talking on the phone and a guy approached. I was so oblivious at that time I ended up saying excuse me, I'm on the phone. Later I learned this forest preserve was a popular cruising area. I was told one of the signals that you were available to cruise was that you were sitting in your car, pulled in backwards in the parking spot, with the window down. Damn it, what a missed opportunity. I don't know if I would ever have the nerve but I always think about that whenever I pass a forest preserve to this day. 🤔
haha, thx for sharing that story Scott. It always comes to you when you least expect it doesn't it?
Guao
It's too scary now to cruise in the parking lots. I did it back in the 70's but not now. Too many police and undercover cops. At least here in NY. Will do it if they start putting charging stations than that changes things. Lol
Sorry I have to say, parts of your society's ridiculous! It the religious/prude/crackpot element that has far too much control over others.
-who cares really. Who does it harm? Nobody.
In Nassau and Suffolk, the L.I.E. "park and rides" have been a thing for a while now. Only issue is that cops are well aware and nowadays they'll constantly be patrolling, or a cop will be parked there undercover. It's still hot on sniffies it seems but I've never been there, too risky.
Back in the 70s 80s in okc the majority off us cruised the parks and the rest areas all ways had lots of fun and the adult book stores has glory holes. Plus hitch hikers were always fun to pick up. And find a private bathroom. The lake was also fun in the bushes. Than came the gay hotel .
ahhh the good 'ol days... but I've seen too many horror movies involving hitchhikers hahaha
@@PatrickMarano back than it was Good
It keeps gettin' better and hotter! 🔥
Thx babe!
Love this video great advice
I had one of those horror experiences one time. Guy got in car and we found a secluded spot. Then he grabbed my keys out of ignition and tried to throw them out into a huge field and it was pitch black. I fought with him and finally got the keys back and kicked him out. Don't know or care how he got back to his car.
wow, scary
That's scary 😨
@@PatrickMarano I noticed at nearby cruising area in my city there would be like 50 cars on the road and hardly find 5 guys in the woods . These folks must have been in army and trained well in hiding in the woods .
Great video! I have just started back cruising and this was a great "refresher" You are doing such a fun and interesting job with these vids, thank you!
Thanks so much!
Your sense of humor is wicked.
Your cruising videos always bring back a lot of hot memories Patrick🔥Looking forward to the next one handsome.🥰🥰🥰
Thanks Victor!
Great set of pro tips, thanks!
You bet!
The internet. Cops. And all the Cameras every where have ruined cruising.
Think of it as just more... challenging
peel your banana from the other end
I totally agree 😢
The US has gotten more and more prude territory. In Europe, cruising will never get you in trouble
Indeed!
I agree about cameras now ruined it all.
Okay, old-school here... first of all you got to get them to stop. To do this, Flash your parking lights or if you drive by someone tap your brake lights 3 times. This is how it was done back in my day. Also back in my day we had a bench seat up front. The first time I had a car with bucket seats somehow or another, just saying... the back portion broke away from the seat. Love your videos sweetheart!
Bench seat. LOL yeah you're definitely dating yourself. Yeah seats now are not that great for car sex other than maybe road head, but even that can be tricky with the armrest etc.
@@johniii8147 speaking about showing my age... I bet you didn't know that a 1960 Rambler station at wagon had all folding down seeds that made one big bed! Talk about camping!
@@neilschipper3741 True. I haven't seen a station wagon other than brady bunch back as a kid in the 70s
Wow Neil! Thx for the history lesson! Flashing the lights is genius
@@PatrickMarano whoever said that old dogs couldn't teach young pups new tricks? Say... here's a suggestion... puppy play!
the '90s was one thing but I can't even imagine it now. plus my car is trashier than the local dive bar.
lol
About ready to fly right out of there!
You are a hilarious pup! lol!
after the bars sways were to that lot ..its in Toronto by a boat club ...met so much hot guys there this was over 30 years ago ..no apps then didnt like bathhouses ...i liked to met guys you can see what they are like it was fun and never had a problem...
Patrick mate, the whole planet is a cruising spot for you. If you were an astronaut, then I'm sure you'd try to figure out how to cruise in a space capsule. "This is a long voyage, what shall we do to entertain ourselves?"
OMG hahahahaha!
Back in the Fairmont Park in Riverside, Calif., was the place to be. Lots of hot action. Now park rangers run everyone off.
Thanks 😊 for the #info on #parkinglots #cruising, I’ve done it back in 2007-2015, but since the pandemic 😷 came into the scenerio, it’s been tough getting out, and having a great 😊 time, once everything is back to normal I would definitely take your advice on these cruising habits!!!! And luv your cruising info
My pleasure!
How would you know if a parking lot is a cruise place?
Great question... usually word of mouth
If some of the cars are parked in reverse. If it's an area where people can exercise discretion. If it's an area/park with low traffic and off the beaten path. If the person is sitting in the car alone. If the guy sitting in the car is going out of his way to make eye contact with you and seems overly friendly. If the guy starts touching himself casually/subtly as he strikes up a chat with you. The type of garbage strewn about and graffiti on the restroom walls will be a big hint too.
I always failed at cruising in parking lots when I tried it personally years ago and now I am too chicken shit because the cops and State Police in Connecticut are always on the lookout.
But it use to be about flashing lights in the old days if you flashed your lights others knew you were cruising but now with auto lights on cars and day time running lights it isn't that cut and dry anymore I guess.
Love your trash bag suggestion never thought of that personally time to keep some in the car for the day I might grow a pair of balls again to try this.
Lord knows on the apps a lot of people do say car play preferred. Still don't get that one when I have a place instead?!
Bring paper towels along or wet wipes and a trash bag, so you can push the liquids out and wipe before driving.
Good one!
Ew
Yes and be careful too.
I always wear sweats with my lacy panties and stockings underneath.
No car cruising...never thought of it!
LOVE the looks that you do! It's makes ya laugh/smile in a good way.
Thanks handsome.
I've never done this , never even knew this went on
Oh it goes on ( or at least did). I'm not sure if it's still a thing, but in my 20s there were known places to go for it back late 80s, early 90s. It was probably more of pre internet thing I'd expect. Now if you're looking to hook up you open an app to find potential candidates.
It still exists for sure... maybe more for guys on the DL
When I was younger, I had a guy drive out into the countryside and then say "If I kicked you out right now, could you get home?"
He meant it as a lesson, but it was terrifying
You must have grindr tips. I'm going to subscribe. Lol
No mention about police.
well, I think it's understood
@@PatrickMarano I assume they mean don't cruise in a police parking lot? 😂
I found out about your great channel _ i love it : thank you 👍
Welcome!
Ahhh How I miss Europe , Cruising there is, oh what do I say … Soooooo much better than here in states …..
Do tell....
@@PatrickMarano
Let’s start by saying you really never have to worry about the cops…
My Fav cruisy spot is by Frankfurt Airport good lord it’s a meat market in summer . Park the car find the break in the fence walk a bit into the woods and if they’re not sunbathing and jerking or trying to get your attention then you’ve got the leather men ….grrrrrrr , since it is part of a wooded area and it has motor paths and walking paths there are bicyclists too that well hard on galore in their Lycra….mmmmm love it now going south there’s a bathroom area that bathroom is cruisy then when hit the autobahn to go towards France that first rest area walk through cut in fence and voila all over again…. Mmmm
Now England has also cruisy areas I was mostly around Cambridge areas but mmmmm ( I do find English me. Have thick C…)
France something, Holland, same … and all the time I was ( a few years ) never once worried about the Polizei… oh lord and I know you’ve been Spain ( coast) or Ibiza , Canary Island , Mallorca, or Greece need I say more !
@@nxs3374 yesss!!! Europe cruising scene is sooo epic. Don’t even get me started on the beautiful men that also cruise vs the states !! London metros and parks 🤤 Berlin has great cruising pretty much anywhere. Such thick C’s and all uncut 🤤 gimme gimme ! The men of PARIS and their amazing cruising and bathhouse scene. I didn’t start cruising until my late 20s unfortunately. I studied abroad in Europe and it was amazing. Had my first “dark room” experience at Arena in Barcelona
Everything there is better.
Cruising on a cruise ship? A lot of married guys hit on me, then get cold feet when their wife is nearby. How do you do it?
You gotta strike when the iron is hot
Yes i have
Patrick you are just so cute and fun you make me PLOTZ!
Ham, thy name is Patrick. Hilarious. (From another Canuck)
lol
Canuck here as well ⚜️💙
Patrick, is there any topic or scenario you don’t know about? Love you, man! 😊😊😊
haha
Great advice!
what is you have tinted windows, can cops still bust you even if nobody can see whats going on ?
I guess if no one can see.... what can they do?
Holy Shit, Patrick! The channel blew up! Congrats and keep it up!
Thx Nathan!
Yes I cruise parking lots. All the time.
awesome, any good stories?
I love u🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
U are funny ASF
Yayyyy
I did it back inthe day. Not today.. too risky
Police?
Too many cops 👮♂️around. Once caught, they put you on the sex offender registry
I’ve cruised in my 20’s
Thanks for the info, but you don't even seem to know the extent of this. Am I the only one who notices this now happens in every single parking lot now? Malls, supermarkets, etc. I'm a good looking muscular guy. I'm not looking for it but if I pull into ANY parking lot in the past couple of years by myself, especially at night, there is a 100% chance I will have men pulling up to me, flashing lights, honking, following me into the store, out of the store, they will see me walk in and pull up in front of/next to my car and wait for me to come out, honk at me or flash their lights. Lot's of black SUV's with tinted windows and I usually cant even see who's in them but when I do they all seem to have beards or some kind facial hair. I don't know if that's a sign their looking or just a stylish trend. I awkwardly pretend I don't notice it and am careful to never make eye contact and get in and out of my car as quickly as possible. I've even been followed. This NEVER would happen a few years back and it happens EVERYWHERE now! And if anything I was younger and hotter 10 years ago. Even if I'm parked on the street and sitting, a car will likely slow down and pull up somewhere in front of me. This is such a major shift in culture and think this would get a mention on the news (or at least a couple of online articles) but I can't believe this video is the ONLY thing I found online that address this and it doesn't even tell the whole story!
Interesting.............
Perhaps you're hotter now than you were then you just don't realize it
I really learn from you thanx
Yayyy
I bet you have a lot of fun making these videos, 😏 lol. Might as well do what you love so you can love what you do!
I do!
@@PatrickMarano
Hell yeah, go get you some of that best life you saucy B! 😜
Keep up the good work! 👍
I have to admit that this isn't something that I have ever done. The few times that I guess I could say that I was cruising were basically unconscious actions. Like once I was visiting relatives in L.A. and decided to go for a walk in Hollywood/West Hollywood (?). After walking several blocks in the summer afternoon sun I sat down to rest on a bus stop bench on a main thoroughfare. Cars would slow down as they got near the bus stop and I began to get the idea that I was being "checked out".
You were being cruised my friend
Thank you. Awesome. Play safe. 2022.
Damn, all I seem to get in parking lots are guys who are selling speakers from the back of their van or wanting to sell me "jewelery". Then again, I don't drive. Lol
hahaha
Awesome video!!
I guess this only works…well in the gay desert, no need to practice cruising, lol…still a great video!
What's a good type of parking lot?
one that is secluded lol. Best to check the cruising apps and sites like Sniffies or Squirt for one near you
Excellent and informative video, as always, Patrick. If I had to have a gay son-in-law (or one closeted and married to a daughter), it'd be you.
That's sweet , thanks Connor!
Any places in Denver area/Mountains---
went to a known place seemed guys never wanted to make it happen. Just park, maybe stare but no moves were made. Took too much of my time for nothing. So, I went down to a dry creek got completely naked and layed out like getting sun. Got three guys to blo that day!
Any tips for a young homeless straight man?
I park and sleep in a lot public parks and metro lots at night. At first I couldn’t tell why so many sometimes creepy often effeminate guys were parking next to me or trying to make prolonged unnecessary eye contact, and feeling threatened, I would cock my pistol (keeping it out of site) and stare back ready to defend myself.
I HAD NO IDEA😂
Little did I know I was only attracting them more by staring back. Then they would repark right next to me! I’ve also had guys come up right next to my roadside parked car at night and stare me down not more than 2 ft from my window in pitch night. And Ofcourse being like 1 am I again prepare to execute someone.
Upon seeing my scowl in the light they take the hint and turn or if not I pull my car out and flash my high beams on them and that has worked thus far, they eff off.
idk if I feel safer now or more terrified. Why so much shame ? It’s so sad. I guess I’m lucky to come from a family that accepts homosexuality,,,
That being said, this can’t be a safe practice . I could’ve legitimately killed one of you by now. I’m glad I know this now so hopefully I can spot the dif between a creep and a nonviolent guy who’s just looking for gay sex.
But seriously wtf, it’s 2023, why can’t the gay men community evolve out of these shady fetishistic practices, not to mention incredibly dangerous!!!
Any thoughts are greatly appreciated. I’m a filmmaker in Los Angeles and I’m thinking of starting to ask these guys if I can interview them on camera while blurring/protecting their identities to illuminate this culture to the greater public and do a study on shame in gay men in modern America and ultimately make a safer world for the next generation of gay men.
Again, all contributions appreciated! I’m new to this culture and being an outsider doesn’t diminish the fact that it’s freaking fascinating.
Additionally, if you’ve got stories please come forward. I will absolutely protect your identities. Persecuting innocent gay men is the last thing I want to do.
So again, anyone with stories please reply to this post or reach out somehow! Even if it’s just to criticize my deep misunderstanding of the culture.
Lastly, please be safe you guys! There are genuine monsters out here at night.
Thanks so much for the comment. I appreciate the interest and the non judgemental curiosity.
You're right, it's not safe, but that's part of the thrill. These guys do put themselves in a bit of danger every time.
But you have nothing to fear from these guys. They will not hurt you and they'll leave you alone once you tell them you're not interested or there for that.
As for shame, that's not why it happens. Cruising will always be around regardless of the APPs or how much "equality" we get. It's a hunt for sex. It's about the thrill of the chase, the excitement of being outdoors, the not knowing what could happen (if anything even does).
That being said, some guys are on the "downlow" and this is their only opportunity to hook up.
Again, thanks for all the questions and the willingness to learn!
@@PatrickMarano dude, thank you for the thoughtful answer! I did a deep-dive last night and I’ll be watching “cruising” with Al Pacino tonight while reading more anecdotes!
I’m glad to hear that and the more I read the safer I feel knowing these guys really are just trying to get off. Cheers!
the demon story was hillarious.. lmao
Omg, it's true too!
How do we cruise without condoms and not catch STI’s?
Great question
😂🤣 those b roll actions.
Thx Larry, I'm really trying to incorporate them more!
Scary!
Boo!
Rent a VW Camper Van it has a built in bed never done it in the car 🚗 before
LOL..probably a little expensive just to get laid. But i've herd RV parks can be a good place to hook up, depending on the park I guess.
I had cycled to the first time to a state park on the bay. I was enjoying the view of the water when I realized I was being stalked by someone who apparently wanted some "action" I wasn't in the mood.
Happened to me at every park I took my dogs to in Atlanta. I didn’t even realize what was going on until it was to late.
Cruising is a lost art form.
Amen
If you guys are into cruising you should watch Al Pacinos Cruising movie. You won't cruise after that movie!
oh that's a great movie
Nothing worse than guys who make it so obvious you are cruising and they advertise they just can't leave you alone or the ones that seen to be so uptight and quiet and act like you're about to murder them or they're about to have major panic attack 😳🥺😱
hahaha true on both counts
I like to designate parking spots, like the 3rd one from the dumpster or directly facing the employee entrance/loading door. They're less likely to have people walking by or at least less frequently, as most places have a whole routine around trash runs or going outside for breaks. Just kidding, I've never cruised before but the same rules apply regarding generally avoiding people in public.
Except that one time, in a sauna, in Vegas. Whoops.
OMG Paul, I actually lol'd
@@PatrickMarano whatever works! 🤪
Does anyone in Illinois still do this?
I'm willing to bet... yes!
Next video should be about how to tell the difference between gonorrhea and/or chlamydia! 😂
then you should make it... sounds like you have experience there
you left out how to give "window service"........lol
lol
Cruising at the public pharmacy at the Hospital
oh really? I didn't know that was a thing
I don't bring a small plastic bag for disposal of used items. I carry a roll of twenty-five, 45 gallon black trash bags! Orgies -always. Thank you for the vid.
Love that! Thx Keith
It's funny that " grass is greener on the other side " as an English guy I love the idea of cruising in the US and Canada as I'm a fan of cut cocks , I also like the understall anonymity which h is virtually impossible in the UK. Fortunately the police don't take much interest in guys cruising unless they get a prudish complaint 😉
haha, ya the police are over it
You'll have plenty of fun in Italy😛
I can attest to that!! I was on a crowded bus in Rome. I mean crowded! Peoples bodies were touching because of the cramped space. I was standing in the aisle in the front third of the bus. I noticed a very handsome man (they're all handsome in Italy,no lie) facing me in the back of the bus. He kept looking at me. Italians do not have a sense of personal space or how long to look at some until it becomes creepy (it never is creepy) like Americans do. I noticed every time the bus stopped he got closer to me. I was intrigued, he was so handsome. We locked eyes. Soon he was standing in front of me with his body pressed against mine. Our noses were almost touching. I smelled a combination of him and his cologne. Intoxicating. I would love to continue but suffice it to say that being groped on a crowed bus in Rome was something i will never forget! Totally hot!!
I'm here because I saw something unusual this morning. A guy had his hood up on his car. I asked him if he needed a jump. He said no and sat there with his door open and shoes off. A red flag 🚩 immediately went up. I'm like he's either signaling for a hook-up or stalking.
Cruising or a serial killer
@@PatrickMarano 😂
Interesting video I found here I have been cruising since 1969 the best way to do it is discreetly on some of your old Hollywood streets streets of Greenwich village and San Francisco on Polk I haven't done it in a long time going back out there last time I did it I wore spandex in 1989 stuck a sock in my crotch and had a hairy chest that seemed to attract a lot of men I think the old ways are the best ways to do it just walk around hang out in the bushes a lot of parks alleys the areas be careful cuz there's narco cops out there policeman like to bust us good luck everyone
So many men so little time what do I do
Not so much in parking lots but lots of time spent cruising the main street of my town... Yonge Street, Toronto in the late 50s and 60s. Back then, hitch hiking was a normal way to get around and on Friday and Saturday nights, there were dozens of guys "hitching" on every block downtown. I just drove along until I saw someone that gave me a tingle and stopped. We'd do the usual intro dance... "Hi, where ya goin'" or "How far are you goin". The RIGHT answer was "all the way". Then off we'd go onto a side street to find a spot between streetlights to boogie.
I always found the risk of being caught to double the turn on... either in the car or washroom or even the bushes or parks. And back then, the cops took great pleasure in entrapping and busting every "fag" they could. Raids on the bath houses were frequent. Somehow I escaped their nets... just plain lucky.
Thank you so much for sharing those stories with us! Love to hear how things were compared to how they are today! I woulda been the guy saying "all the way" lol
@@PatrickMarano
My pleasure, Patrick. I'm now heading for the age 85 milepost, sadly without the zesty "Weapon of Mass Destruction" that existed before the medical profession gave me the choice of dying soon from bladder cancer or living with a limp dick for the rest of my life. No contest, eh?
Going from the "Speed Limit" to "Parked" has been one of those speed bumps on the road of life that I hadn't expected. Learning to deal with it psychologically has not been as difficult as you might expect. If it had happened at age 40, I'd have been real pissed. But now, I have a lifetime of encounters to populate the theatre of my mind while waving my overcooked cannelloni around to little effect.
I bring all this up, not to bore you, but to thank you for your excellent presentations and to tell you how much enjoyment they bring. I'm hope the young Up and Cummers appreciate having this kind of resource. Back in my day, all we had were Men's Health Body Building magazines and our wildest imaginations. This was long before "The Baths" or the St. Charles Tavern.
Jeez, what I slut I must have been!
HAD MY REGULARS HITCHIKING
Yep
I just walking down the street people stares and hooks…
I still Cruze till this day. My first time I was sitting in my car and I looked in the mirror and a guy had showed me his ass. I got out and went into the woods and got some action
I am sure that's nice but be careful. I would not as I would feel I was being raped in some ways alas. Also if the police saw you what would you do. Best place for some ass really is at home but each to their own though too I guess.
You can't Cruise now you don't know who's there just on their phones it was easier in the old days if you were parked and doing nothing it was kind of obvious what you were up to but now if you're parked and you looking down you can't tell what they're doing they're on their phones
I likes his long hair better
Anyone near Raleigh NC? 😏
Travel to Charleston SC
@@Haircare-rz4qg haha that's not too far! Believe it or not I have family roots from Charleston.Great place for history.
Always wondered why the guys just sit in their cars and not give any kind of signal. Tapping tail lights, blinking parking lights… are they looking to give or receive fun times?
@@Haircare-rz4qg probably, Isn't that why your sitting there? 😂 It would be hard to just walk up and ask someone for a service.
Of course there's the biggest con (now that Prep has mitigated some of the health risks), oddly not mentioned here, which is getting busted by the vice and becoming a con, not to mention immediate membership in the Sex Offender list, which I understand is very difficult to get off of. Sometimes I wonder if Patrick Marano could be a cop. Not to judge or put a downer on things, but the risk is real, so watch your step.
haha, I'm not a cop. As for getting 'busted' and the repercussions of that, it depends on where you live of course
That's what tinted windows are for sweetheart.
He and Stephen Brenland need to get together and do some advice/story telling videos.
That would be fun!
Watch out for the cops
Well ive said it before and il say it again: you gays sure know how to have a good time. You cant imagine all the fuss i have to go through to score with a girl these days. With that said: dont you find sex in cars terribly uncomfortable??
Yup, it's awkward for sure lol, thx for watching Jonas!
It definitely tends to be easier to get laid when it's two guys. That's why even some str8 guys will dable with other dudes since it can be so much easier and don't have to pay for it. Just depends on the car I suppose. I've made it work well in the back of our Jeep with the rear seat removed and the other one down. Only draw back there is there tends to be a lot of dog hair (LOL) since the that's where the dogs usually ride.
That's why straight or Bi guys go after gay guy's, better sex no hassle,easy in n out, annonomus,and a lot less work,no words need be exchanged or wineing and dining.
Oh yeah I ended up married to satin for 8 years just diabolical fuck 8 years of hell never again been alone for 24 years now love your show brother
2:15... wait, WHAT?
I think he was really really high
@@PatrickMarano Glad that interaction didn’t end poorly…
It's riskier these days because of videos like this
I disagree. It's always been and always will be risky. You're giving my channel wayyyy too much credit
@@PatrickMarano
I honestly didn't mean for you to take it to heart 🧡
It always been a hush hush🤫 thing for the public not to be aware of things like this still going on in these times.
The more aware that everyone have the same knowledge, makes it dangerous!
When grindr was made known. Many of the new generation kids were lured out just to get gay bashed.
@@cedricksamaniego9146 totally agree with you
@@cedricksamaniego9146 I think the cat's been out of the bag about cruising in car parks, woods, and toilets for a while now. Like I knew it was going on when I was a kid, and I ain't particularly young now.
the cops came over to the car ruin the moment
yuck