Getting Rid of OCD Patterns!
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- Getting Rid of OCD Patterns!
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Getting Rid of OCD Patterns!
You may think that to get rid of OCD you have to stop yourself from doing the patterns. Discipline. But OCD just preys on discipline, often turning it around against you.
Self-judgment and guilt feed the OCD, so wouldn't it make sense to stop those? If you stop those, you don't have to put effort into stopping the patterns. They stop on their own.
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i think what she is saying is dont push back against the thoughts. just let them be. but its also important not to do the rituals.the golden rule is it's not what you think but what you do that makes all the diffrents
Yep! I explain it better here: ua-cam.com/video/12--7NEkIWM/v-deo.html
Yes you're totally right, because the most important tip to get rid of it is not to engage on the rituals which are the ones that give OCD power.
I started bawling when you said "it takes it away." I've been struggling with OCD since I was a born. My mom would have to fix things for me until they were right as per the directions I gave her by pointing from my crib as a baby. As I grew up it kept getting worse and worse. Every second of every single day I'm continuously counting and repeating phrases in my head or rotating my left arm over and over. At one point I even stopped breathing because I felt I had to exhale properly before I could take in my next breath.
I can't wait to try this out because this OCD is so unbearable at times. Glad I found others on the internet who feel my pain as well because other people don't seem to understand the struggle.
Jasmine Rossol I can relate to you in so many ways! I do the same thing when it comes to breathing. It's drives me insane. It's good to hear that I'm not alone.
Jasmine Rossol of course other people don't seem to understand our struggle with OCD and when we tell them that they think that we are responsible for these bad thoughts but we indeed can't stop our thoughts
Ya!
OCD does go away and fades. It takes time though. But it can be done
Jasmine Rossol I think I've had OCD for as long as I can remember. And hearing everything that Jodi Aman said in this video were things I've done and still do as an OCD sufferer.
I understand completely and you're right. You're not alone.
One tip I picked up a while ago is a mental technique called Parallel thinking. When you get a negative thought, you counteract it by telling your brain to do the opposite of what you want it to do.
For example: you tell your brain to not think about a pink elephant. And what's the first thought that comes into your head? A Pink elephant.
I hope that helps.
And what Jodi has said is advice I've heard before where you just let the intrusive thoughts just sit there. You don't give them power, they just get less and less.
I find that if I give in to my OCD compulsions it only makes it way worse.
same
Yes
Just let it rot your brain then you heal
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The thoughts are ridicluous. Your birthday and the speech are relatively unrelated. Don't let the anxiety trick you into thinking they are connected. This is just a power tactic. It needs you to believe it. Ask yourself: Why do you believe it? Use your intellegence to realize you have nothing to wrry about and then when the thoughts come distract yourself. Throw yourself into a creative endeavor to keep you busy.
I have really bad ocd wich is very personal and makes you think if you don't do this something will happen to things you care about
+Phoenix dragonlord Girl me 2
can u give me your number so that personally i can contact with u for the solution .
Navida Saher plz help me m also suffering with ocd.......madaharg@gmail.com
Jodi Aman hey I have OCD bad thoughts and I tell myself to not think about don't ask your mom your just giving in and I keep thinking about more and more till I get a head ach and I don't know what to do!?
OCD takes over your life.
It seems honestly hopeless at times, and it's easy to cling to moments where you weren't as occupied and feel as if you'll never be happy again.
But don't worry. Stay positive and keep fighting. OCD won't go away overnight, but it will subside and you can learn to live easily over time. Let's fight this together.
I could not agree more.
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Getting rid of ocd pattern = don't fight it, go with it.
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I have OCD myself and I really relate to all that you are saying! But what works with me is to not give in to all the patterns that I have to do. You say that it is okay to do all the patterns but I think that by trying to not do them it really makes progress to get rid of them. To all the people with OCD I wanna say that it can go away! Even though sometimes it don't feel like it.
Yes because many of the patterns ocd wants us to do are compulsions. And we must eliminate compulsions, not give in
Thanks
this just gave me immediate relief wow. I developed several rituals with my breathing and hard eye blinks I could not get myself to stop doing, and it has been driving me crazy. I have never been diagnosed but i have struggled with this most of my life to varying degrees. Just the idea of relaxing as this lady suggested immediately calmed me down and subdued them. Thank you
I've had OCD since I was 5 and I was diagnosed at 19. Today I am 52 and despite the huge amount of time and effort and research put into treating my condition with CBT, SSRI/SNRI medication, benzodiazapines, augmentation with neuroleptics such as Risperadal, ACT mindfulness, in patient treatment, etc we have really come no further in better treatment strategies since the 90's. Even Deep Brain Stimulation and Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (which I have tried) are not new and are still only used in trials. It's very sad that a condition as treatment refractory and debilitating as OCD is still not taken serious by the scientific community in comparison to say depression and psychotic disorders like schizophrenia. The personal cost to OCD is a wasted life or a life seriously compromised from living to one's fullest. On top of this the socio economic cost to society is even bigger with people being unable to work, pay tax, etc. The sooner we have effective treatments for all forms of OCD or a cure the sooner the suffering and wasted lives will end.
people with OCD refuse to be uncomfortable or think they might be even though they are safe and it will be temporary. This is why people keep it so long.
Im from russia and i have ocd. And in russia no researches has been made on it. Nothing at all. Very little information about ocd you can find on the russian sites. And so much i found on the foreign sites. Thanks god i know a bit of english, while most of the russians dont.
And in my country psycho problems are really not taking seriously. Its bit of shame you feel when you have them.
No, the 1% of us who actually do have severe OCD this is a load of crap
Right? Haha.
That belief will keep OCD in your life.
Just stop all of your compulsions.
You will feel terrible for 3 weeks , but after that it's gone.
Trust me , I did it .
My life is now infinitely more productive .
yeah, I've got to do this. OCD has taken over my life to the point where I can't function. As you say, you have to stop the compulsions and let anxiety flood you.
You are right bro...thats exactly what i did...and my ocd is much better
I’m crying rn because I’ve never felt so relieved in my life BLESS THIS VIDEO AND I hope you have a way better life than mine
Giving in to complusions for me really didn't work well, no matter what attitude I had towards my compulsions. I tried this way of doing it, it really didn't work,it made it much much worse. The ONLY thing that worked was ignoring my compulsions completely, not doing them no matter how hard it was or how it made me feel. It was very very difficult to do that but I did it. I am now at a place where I am rarely triggered or have ocd episodes.
I had terrible fear of contamination/germs/chemicals ocd since I was a child. One day I literally just said ”enough. you fix this or it’s over for you.” and I stopped EVERYTHING unnecessary and started leaving the house and doing things even when my mind was screaming at me. Now I’m 23 and my ocd is so much better that I can live without being preoccupied by thoughs and compulsions.
duck everybody who says that it doesn't work.
i tried it for a day with everything i have a ocd with.
and you know what? it ducking works
things that usually took me half an hour, i can now do in 3 minutes
just want to say thanks for the advice
So you just kept doing your compulsions, and now you don't have them anymore, or they've reduced a lot?
Peter Melillo Peter, No.
Did you watch my other video on OCD ua-cam.com/video/12--7NEkIWM/v-deo.html
It explains it better. Just doing the compulsions is NOT the answer. Read through my answers to others asking the same question AFTER you watch the other video IF you still don't understand.
Get more help here:
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Right, so do the compulsions but don't worry that you're doing them? Like if you try not to do them, you're saying that is not the right thing to do, right? So if I was reading a book and this obsession to go back and reread the sentence so that it "sounds right", I should just go back and do that but say "No big deal, it's okay to do this." That's what's you're saying as far as I understand?
Sort of. Don't try to figure out whether to DO them or not. Just stop hating yourself for feeling compelled to do them. Stop being annoying or shameful for doing them. By asking me, you are still worrying about them. THIS, and getting what I am saying right is becoming another obsession. You are thinking too hard. Just play with it and see what works. There is no right or wrong here. Just get rid of guilt that you may be wrong.
Jodi Aman my mum has OCD everyday THE OCD BOTHERS HER!! I FELL SAD FOR HER I HOPE YOU CAN HELP ME MY MUM STARTS WORKING 15 HOURS A DAY SEE ISN'T HEALTHY ME AND MY FAMILY TELL HER TO STOP BUT SHE NEVER STOPS IT!!! PLEASE HELP!!
I suffered with terrible thoughts and worries in my head when I was a teenager. I didn’t understand what I had until fairly recently from watching UA-cam and doing research on the internet. I used to read papers and watch the depressing stories on the news and think I would go on to commit some of the horrible crimes I would see mentioned. I know I would never do any of those things. I’m a good person and I have never done harm to anybody. At the time I just couldn’t stop the thoughts coming into my head though. I took terrible panic attacks.
Very inspiring, Im going to try this approach. I'm just a little woried about what you're saying in the end because honestly, Im almost 21 struggling with OCD and my life would probably be a lot easier if I had gotten help 10 years ago. I've been in therapy for several years but my patterns have manifested a lot over time, even though I am making progress. Fighting my mental disease takes literally almost all my time and energy, early intervention could have prevented this.
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tldr; she says to do what ocd tells you to do
good tip, very good tip
Clearly Jodi, you have never expierienced OCD
There is no other way to handle ocd if u don't what ocd asks you to do but this is what we all ocd patients do n guess what this become worse n worse
That is not what I'm saying.
This is terrible advice. If I just obey the OCD, then I will develop the habits even more, making them harder to break. How I tamed my OCD was to treat my OCD as a little tweenager with a shitty Walmart Xbox headset screaming at me to do something; that way, I can develop a feeling of contempt towards my OCD, and, thus, not take it seriously.
I do see the risk on this suggestion. But I see also this one is a long fade out to get rid of ocd too. The thing is how long..
But treating the ocd as a yelling kid is one piece of great advice! Wonderful! Thanks!!!
I like your idea lol I'll try this from now on lol
Josh Hummel nice
kulik03 how can we obey orders of OCd wat sought of advice is this ?????! plz explain
Dont listen to this shit its bullshit... my ocd is pretty much cured and all i did was keep my self occupied
I have OCD for having OCD.
Just Some Guy Without Hair yessss. Ever since i did more research on it, I felt like it got worse
That does happen
Thanks for sharing this, I’ll give this a try and hopefully it will help. The thing is, I don’t think that any of my family believes I have this kind of OCD. But I understand, because they haven’t had OCD and it’s hard to imagine what it’s really like and to feel like you HAVE to touch the door knob 4 times before you can leave or something bad will happen. Anyway, I’ll hope this works. Thanks.:)
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This is what I came up with and works 100%
Good enough is good enough thing doesn't have to be perfect
So you give into your compulsions in order to stop them?
Peter, You want to take away the energy of the compulsion. Shift it and not be stressed. Watch this where I explain more. ua-cam.com/video/12--7NEkIWM/v-deo.html
Your words hit me and I realized that that's what OCD is. It's just wanting perfection which is impossible. Thanks for that. I'm gonna keep trying.
Thanks so much! OCD has been taking over my life for years and now I watched this and used the tips, it's starting to to away slowly! Thank you
You are so welcome!
Dear Jodi,
I have suffered from OCD for 10 years, and I didn't expect that you would solve my problem completely. I used medications and went to many psychiatrists, and nothing helped. Your 5 minute video changed my whole life. I was thinking about quitting my job, and all of a sudden, I started to look for administrative work and be higher and higher in my career. Thank you so much for this memorable help. You helped someone beyond the oceans after years of despair and failure. Let me explain how this happened.
I have eye contact OCD for 10 years, and this is one of the horrible diseases you would ever imagine. Please those who do not have it, do not say anything about it until you go through it because it coincides with all aspects of your social life (work, family, etc). You will be a big loser! I started to withdraw from the community and I started to hate meeting people. Now, I am happy to meet with them for any period of time. Once I started Jodi's strategy, I noticed a huge progress in a few days. So wonderful. I am still hearing her saying "it is amazing", and I couldn't believe her until I found the truth. It is really amazing.
During these days, I failed terribly in one conversation and sweated, but I resisted and said: remember what Jodi says: no anxiety, be excited about yourself; let them say whatever they say about you. I noticed that other partners are getting nervous with me too, because I got out of control; they really noticed that I am not OK but I resisted again and again. I didn't want to surrender. I started to laugh at them being clumsy and being afraid of me lol while saying to myself: I am ok with this, let them say whatever about me, but I am happy about myself. You can call me names and whatsoever. I do not care. I swear after a few seconds, the conversation suddenly took a new course of confidence and strength to the degree that I asked the other partner to keep talking rather than going. I became totally normal, and even the partners stopped looking at me as abnormal. I noticed that clearly. This is a proof of success. In the past, I was hoping that they go, but at that time I wanted them to stay more and more. What a great change that I have never had in 10 years.
Now, I do not want to see other solutions or videos about OCD but the video above. I am not promoting anything, but I swear I reached the solution. There are many solutions, but Jodi's solution solved mine, and for this reason, I am very grateful to her. I didn't even read the comments below, because I do not want to read that people cast doubt on this helpful strategy and get back to this OCD, because it completely works for me. But let me convince others how this happened to help people understand how effective it is. I am part of you and I want to help you too after I got helped, so read carefully.
OCD consists of three stages: obsessions (obsessive ideas) ==> anxiety (fear) ==> compulsions (obligatory behaviors) and the cycle goes on and on. I realized that my obsessive ideas/thoughts are not special with me, I noticed that normal people are thinking about them, too (that is the first discovery: I am normal like them). I also realized that my actions are done by normal people too, not special with me (another wonderful discovery). Yet, I realized that anxiety is the only thing I have that normal people do not have (this is the first realization that I am ABNORMAL). I found that anxiety is the link that I have alone. I am so anxious and nervous about the ideas, I am afraid of judgement, afraid of rejection, afraid of shame and guilt, afraid of being let alone, afraid of being judged as bad, afraid of being unwanted, clumsy, worth laughing at etc. I then reached the conclusion that if I overcome this anxiety, the link between "obsessive ideas/thoughts" and "compulsory behaviors" shown about will be broken. If this link is really broken, then, I will think about the same ideas like normal people, but I will never be anxious to do actions repetitively.
After I saw this video, now, I do not care about what other people say about me. I am not worried, and I feel much better and better in my entire life. What a big jump I made, and what a relief I have. This OCD is totally gone. In fact, I started to say: I do not have OCD (although I am diagnosed with it), but I have anxiety. Anxiety is the whole problem and fear of others' judgement. Trust me, no cure will be helpful if you cannot overcome this anxiety, and do not say that my type of OCD is different, because we all share the same problem: anxiety. Let other say whatever they say about you, but be happy and excited about what you are doing and do not feel your actions are wrong. Laugh at people who reacted negatively with you so much and say "it is ok, do not be afraid, what I am doing is fantastic lol". This shameful feeling is the obstacle for all OCD people. If you cannot get over this, maybe no progress will be felt which is the ugly truth. If you are behaving carzily once the idea is coming, this is the anxiety not the idea. Without anxiety you will be relaxed. I am part of your community, I really know that it will be so hard for you to know that people are judging you badly, but over time, you will realize that this hardness is the start of hope and cure. I had a10 year suffering and was fearful of my OCD, and now it is totally gone. Thank you Jodi for this, and I am mentioning your name because you made a great impact on my terrible life even if people are negative with you, you taught us to accept ourselves. I wrote this long essay because I got the solution, and I realized how many people are suffering and waiting for people to help and I wanted to help them too. The first days, they will be hard on you, you might need days or weeks, but eventually you will be normal. Once I said to myself: Will I really be back to normal again? Is this possible? I had no hope. I didn't realize that it is totally possible if this anxiety is gone. You will behave automatically as a normal person. Abnormality is associated with anxiety.
Again, it will be hard on you to listen to your whispering self saying: people are now judging you badly. You are being bad, what is wrong with you? come one! get out of here, be nervous and get lost!! It is really hard to accept this process, but once you accept it, you have no OCD at all, that's the truth and nobody can judge you any longer later on in your life because you will never need to act abnormally. You will be totally fine because you have no abnormal actions to be judged on. I swear I wrote this long essay just for you so please do not say anything about me or so and so, or you can say it because I really do not f**king care. I hated my life because of this fear. Your judgement of me is now much easier in my life to tackle than having OCD. Life is short.
Thank you!
Jodi Aman, thank you.
As someone who has suffered with OCD for most of my life, it's comforting to know there is advice from supportive people like yourself who know how to understand and help people.
I appreciate the advice. Thank you very much
Indeed, The consequences of OCD are much easier to nullify if you percieve OCD as a midget instead of a dragon. But a real expert on OCD would never advise to act on your compulsions.
Nor am I. I'm saying forgive your compulsions and you won't have to act. I reshot the video, but this one gets more traffic. Sorry!
It makes me so emotional when Somebody Articulates it so Well and Accurate . 🌺💕
thank you!
thank you so much its really hurt when having an ocd because this started aug 8 2021 i cant get enough sleep
U got this xx
I understand your pain my friend, I have had mine since early 2019, but just fight, I know its hard, but it will be okay
I'm so sorry. Please talk to a counselor. Don't try to do this yourself. You may really like my book: Anxiety...I'm So Done with You!, too.
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Sorry, but it doesn't work long term....maybe a day or two but builds up again and irritates the sufferer.
Jason Riddle OCD irrates, you have to keep practicing getting rid of shame.
You don't attach to it, you shrug about thinking of it, not doing it. And then move on to a constructive task. Don't get upset by it and the compulsions will fade faster.
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You would like my book Anxiety, I'm So Done with You! amzn.to/2zudoHZ
I struggle with semi-mild OCD, that fucks me up a lot but also tends to be *somewhat* managable on my own, and I think the advice given here is pretty good for people like that. What she talks about is pretty much stuff I've realized on my own, after trying really hard to improve. Not sure that goes for someone with really heavy OCD, though. But I'm not entirely sure
This is good. I lived with undiagnosed OCD for 35 years and worrying that you are actually having the thoughts is 90% of it. I have to say, in my opinion, this is a better mindset for the intrusive thoughts and not the compulsions. Also, she should become a bit more educated about OCD. You should not say to someone suffering from OCD Harm (or really OCD in general) "Okay, I'll do it!" Because you have no idea what is going on in their mind. It might not be something like taking the second plate, lol. If you suffer from OCD Harm (or Pure OCD) when the terrorizing thoughts come into your mind, take control for a moment. Try saying something like, "Everyone has weird thoughts sometimes, it's not a big deal." Then get back to what you were doing, laundry, going to the bathroom, taking care of a loved one or pet. You're going to panic a number of times doing that, but don't give up. The intrusive thoughts will start feeling like a memory of actually thinking it. Keep going, you can be completely free from OCD. This is a complicated subject and only those who suffer can truly know what a hell it is. If you ever feel alone, know my thoughts and prayers are always with you.
Thank you for sharing!
I think this video is important. I feel like a lot of therapists and people on UA-cam with similar videos see the person with OCD as having a behavioral problem, which is judgemental. People with OCD don't behave incorrectly. They are responding to more frequent firing of danger signals in the brain that trigger fight, flight, or freeze responses in a way that any other person would in their situation. I think treating people with OCD with compassion is really really important. We have to deal with really difficult situations just like people with depression or other disorders or trauma, even if it's in a different way. Having compassion and understanding how difficult it is is what will get people with OCD to do the at first difficult work of overcoming OCD, not saying they have to be more "brave" or just "stop giving the thoughts meaning" as if the thoughts are just some simple thing we are doing something wrong with and are not overwhelmingly scary. I started reading the self-help book "The Self-Compassion Workbook for OCD" and it talks about similar things to what you mention in this video and another video about having compassion for yourself and not having shame about your actions. It made me realize I'm sabotaging my own work to fight OCD because I'll be giving into what my old therapist wanted who I felt didn't fully understand how bad my OCD was and who I felt thought I wasn't brave enough to fight it but what I needed from a therapist alongside CBT was to be heard. The book says it's not okay to judge a person with OCD or think they're weak or doing something wrong. People with OCD are some of the strongest people, especially those actively struggling with it. I'd like to see the same therapists who give off the judgemental vibe try to live with OCD. (Actually, I wouldn't, because I wouldn't even wish it on my enemies.)
Obviously in the end doing CBT by avoiding doing the OCD actions and letting the fears pass by you is important and what allows the fears to become less and go away eventually, and people first realizing what they have is OCD who may not know a lot about it would need to be educated on how OCD treatment works. But a lot of people with OCD already know about this and this video just brings up another consideration.
thank you!
My “rituals” only take place in my house. As soon as I get home stress builds up when I see that my family has caused “mess” causing rearrangement in things I have previously arranged the day before and I feel like I’m in a continuous pattern. However if I don’t do this pattern I feel lazy and unmotivated and start crying over the fact that I let the house get so unorganised. I don’t understand it. But when I let myself do these compulsions, I realise more and more different objects are out of place and start to add more to my “routine”. It ruins my life because I end up accomplishing nothing considering I have to repeat these steps every single day of my life. I don’t have negative thoughts though. I don’t feel like my family is in danger so I’m not even sure if it is considered ocd. My friends and family think it’s all a big joke for attention considering this routine only takes place in my living space (including rooms I am “living” in during a holiday / vacation). I just feel hopeless to control it when if I carry on, I get more stressed. But if I don’t I also get stressed. It’s a continuous loop.
So get out of your house as much as possible!
Also jodiaman.com/ocd
Hi Jodi, I've been having CBT and this therapy has been all about trying to get me to stop doing my rituals. I'm now in two minds whether to continue trying to stop doing them or not, what would you suggest please?
You stop letting them bother you admit is easy to stop.Watch my other video. This one seems to confuse people. I am not saying do them. I'm saying don't let them bother you to take attachment away.
My ocd has to do with not being sure if I just did what I did, I'm sure it has to deal with memory too. Not being sure that the door is locked and come back to check and doubt yourself is the worst feeling of all, then walking out not being sure if the door is wide open has to do with memory issues.
My heart goes out to you. I hope the video was helpful.
Hey. I have the same shit happening to me. Have you figured out what it is?
i really thought i had beaten ocd but something happened and its came back much worst. i really hate living like this. but your video helped a bit. thanks
+splinters band I'm so glad it helped! Best, Jodi
Jodi Aman
thank you
I constantly wash my hands because I’m scared of germs. I get really dry hands and my hands start bleeding and I still continue to wash my hands. I hate it ☹️. It’s soo hard to stop.
Your hate for it feeds it. It makes it harder to stop.
Same here
I wash my hands around 50 times a day
I have ocd and my family doesnt belive me 😭
Same here
that shit is hard.
my fam cant understand me
I'm kinda scared to tell them. What if they don't understand me. Is there any hope? I do think I have OCD and it's getting alot more worse lately. I just thought of commenting 5 times because I commented 2 times and 5 is the number I obsess with. Help me.
My family teases me abut it I'm so sad:(
+im Sad I'm very sorry. That's not fair. They seem uncomfortable. Remember to not judge yourself at ALL. This is the only way their teasing can bother you- if you are judging yourself for the same thing.
I'm searching for ways to help my son and his obsessive hand washing. I think this method could work. To those who say it doesn't work, you are probably right. I think you have to view it in the light of how we go about meditating. You will have distracting thoughts, but you find peace by not pushing at them. Let them be. Allow them their space and they like their power over you. Not everyone will understand this. It would do you well to study how to meditate.
Thanks!
I have a tooth that’s about to fall out and I push it in but then I wanna do it on the other side and I can’t stop. Then my jaw hurts if I don’t do it.
Hope it's better now
Isn't this a short-term fix though? Of course you'll feel less anxious if you just listen to what's compelling you, but it comes back and it will keep coming back because you listened and felt reassured. I'd be walking and then I get this feeling like I have to walk with my hands held above my head to 'expose to embrassment and humility', and I would do this and i'd be okay for a day or so, then it would come back.
You've got to let OCD flail and get pissed the fuck off until it leaves for good. I think this is what is best.
It's all about not attaching to it. Not giving it energy any way you can. If you defend OCD, you are giving it energy.
I'm so glad that so many people can relate to what I am feeling. I have recently been struggling with so many OCD actions and thoughts. For example, I have to hold down the light switch for five seconds until I let it go. If I don't, I have to start over and it gives me anxiety. Another one is if I touch something with my right hand I have to touch it with my left and make it even. If drives me crazy. This video helped a lot, thank you!
You are welcome!
This is a 5 year old post. But I like her attitude, this I think is very brain based to me meaning it has much reaction within itself.. the mind is making judgment of how we even deal with our ocd issue. Do not making a big deal , doesn’t alert the mind to something to flight or fight freeze . Important to just relax more with it. Not drawing more attention with the aggressive fix it attitude.
Glad you enjoyed! I hope you get a lot out of my other videos as well!
I’m not sure if this is ocd, but I have to make everything even... if I blink to hard on one eye, I have to blink hard in the other. You know stupid stuff like that... it’s really annoying all the little habits like that.
yes you don't have to!
She's honestly right. This is how I got rid of my OCD before I watched this video.
Hey, you got rid of your OCD by giving into compulsions?
Do think of it as giving in. Think of it as not giving them attention. No guilt. You take away the guilt and they lose their power. And you stop ahving to do them.
Great video and share! Awareness is everything and makes a huge difference! Subbed to your channel and found inspiration here for mine! Keep doing you!
I'll give this a go. Hope it works!
+Terry Bb Go for it!
+Jodi Aman Thanks Jodi. Just realised I've been doing this a long time. E.g. I have been washing my hands and not getting agitated for a while. It's only started bothering me because had a bad stomach recently and need to wash my hands after the bathroom so its time consuming. Did the people you spoke to give you a timeline for the compulsions to go away? How did it go away if they gave in to it? Im really concerned now to get rid of it.
+Terry Bb You are not giving into them. You are not being bothered. It's a change in attitude towards them. Then You don't have as much energy or stress and they go away. All kinds of time scenarios.
Thanks Jodi. I've never been so stressed in my life and greatly appreciate your response.
Does something bad actually happen?
no
My pattern is when I go to close the door I have to touch it multiple times or my family will be hurt :(
this works! have you ever heard the saying what you resist persists, well that's what happening when we try to force something away from us. this method is saying its OK don't resist - so what, its not a big deal... and then it just goes away anyway. :)
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i've done this it works
I have it too but i just cant
Mines with my bed sheets or if the tv I play on for video games is not straight or the right angle or it takes over my day.
You got over your OCD by giving into compulsions?
Thanks!
I suffer from a horrible number ocd where I have to do things in 2s and 4s and if I don’t do a certain something in a way I feel something bad will help and when I try to ignore it I get really bad anxiety off it like I’m being punished for it
That anxiety is lying. Once you know that, it will be easier to stop the compulsion to do things in 2 or 4s.
This isn't bad advice, but it's simplistic. It's not like you pick one method and then your OCD goes away forever. It comes back. It changes strategy, changes direction. It's a lifelong struggle, and it has no cure. When people talk about being "cured" of OCD, I think that either 1) they've learned to live with it, 2) they're currently in remission and will suffer a relapse sooner or later, 3) they've learned to suppress their behaviors so that the impulse isn't as strong. To tell people that they can just shrug their shoulders and stop caring is misinformation at best. Also, there are different types of OCD, and this method probably doesn't work for everyone.
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Hey Jodi, I was wondering, if you simply do what the OCD wants you to, then how does that get rid of the OCD?
it doesn't it makes it worse.
Because it gets rid of guilt that feeds the OCD. If you have no guilt, no pressure and frustration, the compulsion has no power. So it just stops on its own. People often don't try it because it seems counterintuitive but if you understood OCD and why it stays pwerful, you'll see that this works. It doesn't hurt to try it and you'll see for yourself.
Deya Masri hi! This is what Eckhart Tolle calls being the space for it to happen. When fully observed with total awareness but not labeled or judged, it loses its power over you. He says it is like putting the unconscious into the spotlight, the darkness will be transformed (if I remember it right). Just know that it is happening , observe what it makes u feel at that moment, if there are thoughts coming do the same. Putting attention to them makes them weaker and weaker each time. I have heard someone do this with addiction and it works also. When catching urself anxious, it will be helpful to be very conscious of the thoughts and any sensations it brings. Usually being aware of this will lessen it gradually until u don't feel the need anymore. It worked for me. Bring awareness while doing it without resistance. Just saying.
Very sorry for the late response, but I now realize (and sort of guessing) that this is CBT? Where you would expose yourself to shat makes you anxious and then handle differently i.e. bot washing your hands constantly rechecking... Is this correct?
Even if it doesn't "work", it will probably placebo it's way. The power of belief is an amazing thing.
hello i need help this is my OCD i cant stop staring at people peripheral vision ... i am worried they might notice it the more i not to the more i do it......... what should i do? its ruining me at work
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I have OCD about taking the right decision In every situation. Sometimes I can stand for an hour trying to decide if I should make food first or go to the supermarket first, and I think something bad will happen if i take the wrong decision. Or take a really long time trying to decide what bus to take, it is really important it be the right bus, and i end up getting really late. So your suggestion would be to allow myself to try and take the perfect decision and really go into making it the best decision?
You don't attach to it, you shrug about thinking of it, not doing it. And then move on to a constructive task. Don't get upset by it and the compulsions will fade faster.
if i forget about it... yes it does go away within about a month. but than something else new comes in. right now, i have a certain thing with mybreathing
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This may works when it comes to physical behavioural compulsions. But when it is regarding mental compulsions, letting us not holding back from counting numbers and doing other rituals will only make it worse. The more you let count numbers and do rituals in mental compulsions, it wil become lyk a habit, and you can't avoid it. Other things lyk how you said about touching things, if u keep on doing, u may not bother much.
This may explain it better. If you have no shame for the obsessions, it is easier to stop the compulsions is what I mean ua-cam.com/video/12--7NEkIWM/v-deo.html&lc=UgzG0FCE8mpnqLqXkiV4AaABAg
This advice is brilliant, I have overcome a lot this last 8mths then I fell for a second time since last Christmas and have went back a bit but I was determined to move forward when the ocd brought forward the fear of blinking.
Thank you for your endorsement
I have had OCD since I was 12 or 13...i honestly believe that you have to force yourself to stop... it's hard but it doesn't work if you allow yourself... it never goes away. I allow myself a few things but they have never gone away... ever.
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Jodi thank you for putting this video out there. Are you suggesting that Exposure and Response Prevention therapy will not work then? I ask because ur method is exactly the opposite of ERP
Not at all the opposite. It enhances ERP, when you get rid of the guilt, you see?
I think you don't understand what ERP is. ERP would be: I feel the urge to wash my hands five times, but I'm not going to. What you say is: I feel the urge to wash my hands five times, and that's fine, so I'm going to do it without guilt. Now don't tell me this isn't what you're saying! Your method is not ERP, it's some Jodi Aman method. Seriously.
why the dislikes she is trying to help you she is really nice
Awww, thank you!
How should I accept terrible OCD thought? should I just accept those thought that cause me anxiety. For e.g. I worry that I am fall down if I don't do certain action, should I tell myself to accept the very fact I might fall, or tell myself to accept I having a thought that I might fall? "yes, I am just a having a thought that I might fall". What can I do if I am afraid of the consequence of the thought?
You don't attach to it, you shrug about thinking of it, not doing it. And then move on to a constructive task. Don't get upset by it and the compulsions will fade faster.
I just tried this for a few minutes and it does work! I’m blinking a lot less now (yea I have OCD)
Thanks for this video!!!
very helpful. Thank you at first I was like wat about the bad intrusive thoughts but then I was like oh just don't let them bother you. thank you for making this video
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I Have SO STRONG Ocd, it's so hard to get all perfect!
Same my thoughts are really scary and it kills me .
The perfectionism is OCD.
I keep looking at people in the corner of my eye, when I walk past. I can't stop it.
you're fine
I have habit of repeatedly(a lot)checking if the door is locked or the switch is off. Is that considered ocd? But I don't have any problem with bacteria wise.
If it bothers you, it bothers you. If not don't worry!
this helped me so much thank you
you are welcome
madam I am a student.whenever I see any sharp items I feel it that it is stabbed in my stomach even though I'm trying to ignore it but whatsoever in a day I get completely obsessed with this thoughts so can u plz provide a solution for this
You don't attach to it, you shrug about thinking of it, not doing it. And then move on to a constructive task. DOn't get upset by it and the compulsions will fade faster.
So helpful. Thank you so much
Glad it was helpful!
What about making noises or deep breathing repitively? It feels like you will suffocate if you don't do it.
But you KNOW your body breathes involuntarily. It's just anxiety. It's a lie.
+Jodi Aman you are absolutely right. My daughter asked why do you keep making noise. So embarrassing because I didn't know anyone could hear it... Actually headed to the doctor now, I hate this & not a fan of meds. Thank you for responding!
I have the same thing! It's the most annoying thing ever.
I wish this were true for my 12 year old nephew....He doesn't feel shame....We ignored it for years but during times of stress gets worse but never completely goes away when he's not...doesn't even think about what he's doing just does it....
+rebecca chandler I can help your nephew. Visit jodiaman.com/counseling/ to Skype with me.
what if OCD keeps trying to get me to repeat the same behavior 2 or more times in a row?
I have another video on OCD you may want to check out :)
I touch the middle of things and this makes me sound fat and it bothers me but I eat a lot
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I get the thing about not letting it agitate you. But for me, even if I don't let it annoy me, I still feel like I have to do a certain thing. I've heard from someone that it's best to try to not do rituals because its exercising that need to do it. The less you do it the better. Kind of like doing math. If you practice it a lot, you remember how to do it clearly. If not, you forget how to do it. Kind of like rituals. I don't know I wish what you said could work for me. But I dont think it will: (
yes, this advocates for stopping them.
how do you treat sexual orientation ocd which force you to do mental checking and imagining scenarios that you hate over and over again till you feel sick and still it does nothing for the doubts?
This is probably better answered in a private session where we would have time to go more in-depth. If you'd like to try a counseling session with me, go here jodiaman.com/counseling
But how does giving in to the OCD thought help? I have a real compulsion to wash my hands repeatedly. My fear is if I give in and accept that I want to wash my hands as Amanda suggests, it will only get worse.
Watch this ua-cam.com/video/12--7NEkIWM/v-deo.html
Thank you Jodi. I have been extremely anxious about a number of things but washing my hands and checking my bedroom for any spiders and flies before bed every night is bar the worst. So accepting these rituals and acknowledging them feels really scary. I fear doing so will only make it stronger. But having watched the video you recommended, it does help. I will definitely give this a real go and will try not focus on the anxiety I feel.
On my free time, I play video games I get mad because if my tv is not straight or in a perfect angle I can't so it or if my blanket covers aren't straight of is the sheets aren't straight.
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Yay finally I hate letting ocd take control
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Man wiped his hands ON HIS PANTS. HE DOES NOT HAVE OCD 😂
Anything can be a pattern. Compulsions are anything under the sun. And many don't make sense.
I really need ur help I think that if I touch someone or speak to someone I hate or I don't want to be i will almost be him then everything changes and no one like me and I managed to get the horrible part of it but the main part is still there i didnt tell anyone and my parents r going crazy they hate me so much plz help me
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Jodi Aman this is exactly how I feel. it has left me handicap cause I'm even afraid to do anything important things in life. it's very exhausting and at times makes you not want to be on earth! I hate it. please help me with advice please, thank you
MARZVAPOR EE same😢
If your parents and friends hate you for a disorder, don't bother interacting with them. If they can't interact with someone that is "not like them"? They are not worthy of being interacted with by anyone "not like them". Which is everyone who is not a basic, close minded idiot.
I have dermotillomania and I pick my skin when I'm happy, sad, stressed, excited, basically any emotion but mellow. How do I stop without just giving in because it damages my skin and it turns into a long period of time of me just picking at my skin.
You are supposed not feel guilty about the obsessions, and so you don't the compulsions. So the understanding happens to the feelings, and then you don't feel like you have to control yourself though picking.
I have a question. Okay so what if there are 2 events coming up for me...(for example) 1 event being my birthday and 2nd event being giving a speech or doing somthing that makes me really nervous.
My birthday is coming up first, and I feel that if I have my birthday before I do the speech my birthday will be ruined. But I have no choice. I can't change my birthday or the day of my speech. What do I do about that. My thoughts are saying that if I don't do the speech my birthday will be ruined. And to be honest I don't mind giving the speech. But I am getting really anxious. I don't know what to do.
You don't attach to it, you shrug about thinking of it, not doing it. And then move on to a constructive task. Don't get upset by it and the compulsions will fade faster.
I hav esvere OCD, I need to even my hearing. Like if there is a sound coming to the left i have to let my right ear hear the same thing
That sounds really tough. Did you find the video helpful? I have another one you may like. You are not alone. jodiaman.com/getting-rid-ocd-shame/
Jodi Aman thx the video did help.... atleast enough
We with ocd we do this anyway. Stop trying to stop doing it is what we are going through. If anything you do this and you will be the exactly the same as you are now. If it works for you awesome I hope it does. I struggle every day
It's all about not attaching to it. Not giving it energy any way you can. If you defend OCD, you are giving it energy.
Wth!!! I can't use this method.my ocd is telling me to factory reset my phone. And I can't do that.....
Watch my other video. A lot of people didn't get what I was saying here. ua-cam.com/video/12--7NEkIWM/v-deo.html
The only way to really get over OCD is through ERP (exposure and response prevention therapy). Doing this with professional help is the best bet, it's tough but so worth it!
yes!
Are you working with Lily Pons???🙁She has OCD 😔She struggles a lot poor lele
I mean lele Pons
Hi. I've been watching a lot of your videos and they are really helpful! I have body dysmorphic disorder, and i know this isn't really the same as ocd or anxiety, but i was wondering if you had any advice or tips that could help with something like that.
+Punk Kimono Thank you! I will try to make a video on that for you! May take a few weeks!
***** That's so kind of you. i really appreciate it. Thank you so much :):)
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My ocd is getting worse and it physically hurts!!! Idk why and how but its just does!! I'm just 15 and I'm so sick of it 😩😩😭😭😭
Try taking some actions presented in the video. I hope it helps
So doing what OCD tells you helps you get rid of it? Makes no sense
You didn't understand the suggestion
Do you have any tips for dealing with OCD as a child? I'm 12 years old and I've been diagnosed with OCD, specifically harm obsessions and checking compultions. All my rituals have to do with numbers and words I can and cannot say. I have a specific 'bad thing' and my ocd makes me unable to speak about it as most words regarding it i cannot say. Please, please help as my OCD has me in so much distress i can't bear it
I hope you've gotten some help in the meantime!
I would like to get help but I don't know if I have OCD.
I don't really have a bunch of thoughts that pop up. It's one big lingering fear and taunt in the background I'm going to commit blasphemy. I feeI have a weird feeling like my head is going to pop with anxiety and I'm going to have a break down and lose my salvation. This fear has been here for months. There's also a weird unwanted "urge" that I want to do it. I hope this is OCD and not something else.
Yes, sounds like OCD. I do video sessions! jodiaman.com/counseling
Hi I have major OCD and I'm going to try it tomorrow hope it works wish me luck
Lately I've been fearful of being depressed. Im scared what if im just by thinking I get depressed. How would I stop this fear?
Get out of your head. Just get back to the present moment and what you are doing!
What if you have OCD about Religions and which Church to go to or changing decor around - CONSTANTLY???!!!
You need to put something else in your mind for it to do.
Hi Jodi,
I'm wondering if you got this idea from Dr. Claire Weekes? It's what she advocates in her book Hope and Help for Your Nerves, in the chapter on obsession... If not, where did you come to this conclusion given that exposure and response prevention (the opposite of what you say) is the most popular form of treatment today? I don't mean this to sound accusatory, I'm just genuinely curious. I'm going to give what you say a shot...
No I didn't
Ok but how do I deal with radiation? Like if I touch something from Japan, for example there is a bottle of soy sauce from Japan in my refrigerator or a box of tea from Japan. I feel if I touch it I have to get radiation off of me. But then I have to wash everything that I touched when getting the radiation off of me. And I worry about radiation in my home everyday. I realize it sound nuts, but I don't have a single day where I feel I have to wash or avoid because of radiation.
Use logic. Anxiety just hooked to this idea of radiation. It's nothing but an idea and belief that "it's harmful", which is not true on any level - no radiation, nothing harmful. Override the anxiety with logic. (Part of you sees it as ridiculous and part of you thinks, what if it's a real threat.) Keep telling yourself there is NO threat. It's ridiculous. And get some creative project going to take up your mind space!
Such an interesting way of thinking of it!
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I have really bad ocd. I have to have everything in colored order, today I was eating Skittles at my game and I started crying because I couldn't pour them out so I took my friends nacho tray and sorted them. I have so much that I just go crazy about it
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It works, I’ve done it a couple of times actually and lasted a couple of days. It obviously wasn’t easy the first day but I was off of work for 2 weeks. So there was nothing to worry (cause yes work is stressful) about that would block or get in the way of my progress. It got easier day by day, very little by very little. Then one day I became afraid to do something and avoided it. In the span on 2-3 days a lot of things became scary to do so I would avoid them. Pretty soon It became overwhelming and I gave in. So I just came to realize that you can’t avoid your fears because that’s also fueling your OCD. Confronting your fears will only make it easier.
This video just made me have a breakdown because I'm so confused now . Do I ignore the compulsion or do I do it?? You're saying to do it and to change my mindset about it . So I did it. And it was the biggest mistake ever. I've spent 1 hour doing the compulsion and another hour having a complete breakdown
You forgive the compulsions and so you don't have to do the obsessions.
@@doctorjodi huh..I don't understand..
You can get my class jodiaman.com/ocd or work with me jodiaman.com/counseling. Read my other response to comments. I keep repeating myself. Also my other video that explains this one: ua-cam.com/video/12--7NEkIWM/v-deo.html