Mom = borderline/ narcissistic Dad = covert narcissistic/ OCD I never had emotionally safe or nurturing parents there by not seeking nurturing partners. I now seek them after years of recovery. I still have trouble sitting and reading the Bible. I get it through many sources but it’s hard to connect with Gods love sometimes. One day at a timd
@@kaylahays4717Yes I can relate. I pray spontaneously. It still is talking to God. I do, like you said, get anxiety about prayer. This works for me, for "today." Reading the Bible was a "work" for me. I prided myself how often and long I read it. Very performance-based Now I enjoy it. I read the NT letters a lot, as they are the Gospel of Grace 🙂💯📖
Yes Adam, I relate. I struggle connecting to the love of God with the parenting I had and patterns I took on..performance, perfectionism..After years of being a Christian and in ministry..resting in love that I've not received much of (so it seems) can be hard and a dry place to live in..I've found just being honest about my situation- to myself, to God..helps. I believe God knows where we're at, where I'm at..and must feel for me. I'm just thinking that perhaps an affirmation of what I/we believe about God's love personally helps when we're feeling disconnected totally from God's love..I will try that!! We need to feel God's love..I think that's true, but thankfully we don't need to wait on feelings. Faith is not dependent on feelings. Yes, and practicing rest in God's love..that's a good thing to work on..
God loves us so much. Earlier today I was thinking about my children and their future, and I said "Lord please don't let them suffer much in this life, put all their pain on me." And I felt the Holy Spirit say "Jesus already did that for you!."
I have decided (after years of wavering, therapy, and church) that Jesus Christ is everything. I believe that He died for me, redeemed me, and that my sins are no longer counted against me. I am loved, accepted, and free. I talk to God about everything and I refuse to put up with doubt and unbelief.
I have been saved many years and am now getting quite old. Never to late to learn eh! Your teaching i came across about a month ago (nothing happens by chance) It has brought me out of years of insercurities and bouts of condemnation. many steps of faith now taking place and healing and a spring in my step. I thank Almighty God for putting me under the influence of your gift from Him.
I also am old. Looks like God had us wait for this wonderful teaching, until now. I discovered Mark's teaching a month ago. What an eye opener. Self condemned for many years. Mike
I searched struggling to rest in God's love and peace and this came up. (sorry in advance for spelling mistakes) i am not sure why I am typing this response as I sit at my work desk, who knows, God does Im sure. I have struggled with my sense of identity and anxiety for as long as I can remember. Watching this video it wass like my sprirt did littel dances resonating with the battle and the struggle. I hoenstly think in over 40 years of being a believer (with on and off levels of obedience and surrender) i have failed to grasp love, forgiveness and grace. Yes I can intelectualise it and at time think i may step into it, but mostly struggle as Mark describes so conscicely to my own story with striving, checking, ruminating and a whole large amount of catastophising. Yes i feel exhausted most of the time, and seek His rest. I pray for everyone, beliver or not to find the Love and Rest of God through Jesus. I know I'm not givig up and He isn't giving up on us. God bless.
Amen. I just prayed for you. The Lord is for you and not against you! You can find the perfect mom and dad in Him so trust Him and don't lean on your own understanding. Just trust Him❤️
Definetly been battling perfectionism and burning myself out due to neglect and.lack of nuture as a kid.need Abbas love so I can love myself .get off the performance orientation roundabout.western society extols perfectionism as a virtue. Sad but true.
It seems to me that we think only fathers are made in God’s image because God calls Himself Father, but women are just as much made in God’s image as men are, and God likens Himself to a mother hen gathering her chicks under her wings or a mother nursing her child in Scripture too. Every aspect of motherhood we value - nurturing, empathy, compassion, unconditional love, those things we see as feminine qualities all come from being made in God’s image.
When people talk about wanting a vacation or to run away or relax that seems to me as more of a signal they need some life changes. Change diet, go to bed earlier, change your hours, change work path, interactions with toxic people, breathing better, walking slower etc. Better personal boundaries.
I have no idea how to rest fruitfully. And yes it’s so true that I avoid tuff things because of the lack of confidence. I have very perfectionistic tendencies and without nurture I am constantly striving or avoiding and the fear of failure rises up every time while doing that…
I'm there too. I strove for perfection to give myself a sense of value that I never got growing up. And yet, I find myself failing at everything. I wonder if I can even feel love.
@@thekangaroo42 Sounds like me, and I don’t feel love either. I’m sure some people do love me, but don’t feel it at all… It’s pretty lonely being this way, as no one can really come in…
This so perfectly describes me. I have very little capacity to deal with hard things. I once thought I was strong but I went through a trial that I feel like robbed me of my identity. I feel like chaff in the wind. I would fight but I don’t know where to put my feet. I am thankful that you put this out there. The message that really resonates with me is that I must stand in the gap and fight when the time comes, and do so from love.
“We are soldiers fighting from God’s love.” Whoa, never heard anyone say it like that before. I know that I know that the Holy Spirit led me to your channel. I’ve struggled on and off with ocd for years, but it seems to always heighten during resistance when I’m taking a step of faith. I’ve noticed it, but your words confirmed that. I’m definitely going to save this video for when I need to go back and listen again! Good stuff!
This entire video helped me. You describe me to a “T”. I’ve been searching for how to rest in God’s love all summer. Praise God for this video teaching. God bless you. 🙌
Thank you Mark. Didn’t grow up with my dad and my mum was absent a lot emotionally and physically. I really appreciated your insights in this area. My relationship with God my Abba has been everything to me for the last 33yrs. I’m now 56 and have a healthy relationship with my two daughters and my son, because of God’s nurturing and loving care towards me. It took many years for me to surrender my life to Him 100%. But when I did, He amazed me with His continued strength, grace and presence. I feel like life is hard, but things come easily. For example, time: I have managed to do many tasks that would usually take 4 plus hours in and hour and a half. It’s as if He says to me, trust me, I am with You. Do what I ask and I’ll be there. He consistently does this in so many areas of my life. I am so thankful for your unique ministry brother. May He continue to bless it and the people you help. In Jesus’s precious name I pray. 🙏🏼❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
I know God led me here! This lets me know that I have not been ministering from my own heart. I asked God a few weeks ago why do i struggle with doubt to trust him even with all the good he has shown me and he’s told me it was because my parents being absent and I see him through the eyes that I see that. Psalm 27:10 Although my father and my mother have abandoned me, Yet the Lord will take me up [adopt me as His child]. He has really been expounding on his love for me and building my trust and confidence. Bless you brother for this one time word!
When you spoke about God cheering for us, even when we fail, because He sees us moving forward, I felt a shiver down my spine. I truly feel like God has spoken to me abundantly through this message. May this message bless others as it blessed me, amen in Jesus name!
Psalms 27:10 NKJV When my father and my mother forsake me, Then the Lord will take care of me. Hey God got you 😊. You know what people are struggling for having bad parents and also for not having parents at all. But our God is bigger than anything else. Many people even get sexually abused by their own parents. Hence don't put position of parents higher than that of God, there should be no idol before God and that includes parents too even we can idolize absence of parents too that I used to do before unless Holy Spirit put my eyes off of my neglectful parents and put my eyes on Jesus and His love for me. As you are here listening to Ps. Mark God loves you and He has personal plans for you. Love you 🤗💗 The Lord be with you and the Lord bless you. 🙌🏻🕊🔥
Thank you for this. I realize I’ve definitely become kinda complacent or I totally avoid things because the anxiety and ocd and fear in general make me feel worried that it’ll start an episode and make it hard to return. I’ve also heard people say that we don’t have to be afraid of failure with God because God isn’t measuring us by the same yard stick we use on ourselves
Such a great video! "Here, take my wallet, take everything!" , so true. I've never met such resistance as I have lately. Learning to step forward (away from fear) one step at a time. Order my steps, Lord. When you stated we are fighting FROM love, not FOR love, WOW! Been fighting for love my entire 60 plus year life!
Total quiet rest and relaxation is so important - I don’t think most ocd ers have problems with keeping going but in stopping. They need to allow themselves to let go and rest in the arms of Jesus on a daily basis.
Still struggling nonstop with this, had a panic attack when I got a D since it reminded me of abuse from my dad when I failed in high school. My life shares the turbulence of my upbringing, 3 divorces, verbal abuse, alcoholism, narcissistic addiction, my dad getting cancer when I was little, abandonment, guilt trips of having emotions, and a heaping of wealth to assuage the guilt of my parents. My sister had two kids out of wedlock, and she's losing her mental health. Honestly, I don't think my family has ever had rest. Always conditional love, constantly shifting sands of approval; I'm a worthless piece of trash when I fail, but you love me? Yeah right. 32 years old, and I still desire vengeance against my parents. They gave us nothing but wealth and bipolar disorder. Lifelong resentment/hatred against them has made me seriously doubt God's care for me, and my mom still hasn't apologized for what she did to us. I was never allowed to feel anything, and it killed me. I no longer care for anyone's pity; I keep my head down and serve and work, pity be dammed.
I walk through...take step...facing fear... resistance develops my muscles.... awesome truth 💞 learn to be love soldier.. fighting from being loved...every day. Thank you💞
Please know that I struggle GREATLY in this area. Just last night I resisted the Holy Spirits' comfort yet again and turned to food. I needed to understand my problem at this level, you explained it beautifully! Thank you for what you do brother!
I NEEDED to watch this particular instruction video. I've been a Christian for over 50 years, yet life's events have me constantly on the defensive and wondering why I can't handle things better. I've saved this to view over and over - as you say, to practice nurture. I could go on, but this is new insight for me, and I need to get going with this!
Talk to God about everything you are thinking about. I write my stuff every day. Immerse yourself in getting healthy physically and mentally. Find a good Counselor that can help you. God will show you. Tell yourself- I refuse to put up with sadness!
If no one has told you they love you today, I love you! Remember, we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Lot's of prayers for you! When I was lost and spirituality bankrupt I took one small step towards God and he came running towards me with arms wide open. God bless you 🙏
God does love us so much, but he will allow suffering to grow our purpose, spiritual perseverance, calling, resilience, trust in Him, and alternative focus to the world (eyes on Him ). Didn't think I was OCD but always struggle with 'not working' and although I had a loving mother and father who were 'good enough' in terms of psychological health and general wellbeing, I endured child abuse from my brother, on two occasions, which I stopped happening/anything really bad happening - could have been a lot more, and then the family system chose to ignore and even scapegoat me. I often feel like I 'should be always doing something/making something better' - I find it easy to nurture others. I think as adults we can reparent ourselves with God's help and both accept comfort and challenges. Love the expression 'loved soldiers'.
I receive so much from your teachings. This journey is truly not for the weak, but I’m grateful for your wisdom and the peace I receive from the Holy Spirit. God is so faithful!
Need that do much. How to go into rest when i'm forced to rest with chronic pain and syndrome fatigue.😢 I trust Jesus to make me go through that with perseverance and love. Thank you for your prayers and conforting teaching. 🙏❤️
He is sustaining you through everything. There is rest in his arms always. He is holding you through all of it. I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time. You are loved and you are held through it all. 🩷
Your messages are always on time! I need to work on the resistance and pushing past the fear. I am sitting back everyday hoping tomorrow I will feel more like getting up and going. My resistance has atrophied. I feel like I need a goal list but I am not sure what is enough for the day, and when to increase activity. I am also healing from just getting out of a 6 yr toxic relationship and leaving a mother and sister that were narcissistic and I feel so free now, I just embrace the fact that they can't torment me anymore unless I let them in. My mother did not know how to nurture and my father never affirmed me. I working on rebuilding my faith because I had a traumatic spiritual scare and thought I lost salvation and I have been trying to restore my hope and confidence because I feel like a flat tire a lot of the tme. I thought I i was in burn out or dark night of the soul because I have no goals or even any idea about where I am going from here.. I am in a new city and it's unfamiliar also.. It makes me just want to stay in. I notice that even though I am all alone, I still feel a little anxious. Not as much as I did in the relationship but I still have to catch myself shallowly breathing and tense and take deep breaths. I don't know if I need therapy or what. I feel like a mess but I glad I am FREE! (Or am I) I want to be an overcomer am I being defeated? Thanks Mark!
@@jennifera777 Hey sis, I can really recommend watching marks videos about the love of a father, I think you need to grow strong and build your confidence there after all the trauma you went through. Talking with a counsler is not wrong either and can absolutely help, as long as they dont go out of Gods ways. You sound free to me but now you need rest, rest is everything and I notice in my own life going through OCD pretty strong especially in my young days I really never restes in anything and when I started to listen to brother mark it was the first time someome told me to rest and it almost changed everything and blessings came out of it because I stopped taking things out of control and letting God. Go in your chamber Sister and pour your heart to the Lord, you are loved! ❤
@Jennifer A I totally get that, and I feel the same way. I have a hard time figuring out when I should move forward, and what goals I should have, and exactly how much I should push myself, so I usually just end up doing nothing and waiting for God to "make me" do something lol. I think OCD makes it tough to figure out next steps, because I think we get overwhelmed when we try to push too much, but we feel guilty if we feel like we're not pushing enough. I've been trying to learn how to rest in Christ and also to step out in faith at the same time, but it's definitely a slow learning process. I agree that this message from Mark was right on time, and I hope you'll experience God's love more and more on your OCD journey!
You take your whiteboard with you on your walks?! 😉 Jogging and jotting. 🤣 I’m cracking up at your calisthenics, brother!!! Now that I’ve had TOO MUCH fun, I’ll get serious for a moment. Did you make this video specifically for me?! God keeps bringing up the themes of self-compassion and nurture, even when I’m not looking for it. I’ve devoured every video you have on those subjects, so I’m thrilled to see you teaching on nurture again! Please do more on this topic ... just the way you talk about nurture is nurturing. Thank you so much, Mark!!!
I tell people that if I lost everything and had to live under a bridge, I would still have a white board, and I would teach myself into breakthrough. lol
@@marktdejesus Ha ha, yes, I remember you telling me that on a premiere live chat. I even had a dream once where all your equipment was destroyed in some natural disaster. I offered comfort by promising to donate money for a whiteboard and a marker “so you’ll have what you need.” 🤣
Everything makes sense to me what you have said. I grew up motherless of nurturing and an absent father. No wonder I couldn’t figure out my issues. Rejections have been my journey in this world but it’s interesting how God showed me His acceptance and praise of me in personal ways. I had become so hard because I don’t really understand nurturing very well and confidence was driven by things I became good at. Listening to you, just seems to show me how messed up I am.
So much wisdom in this teaching!!! Mark de Jesus is the one UA-camr whom I most frequently share on my social media because he offers so much practical advice on living in Father's love.
This is the kind of discipling I never know I needed. I never understood what resting in God even meant and did exactly what you talk about here. Find comfort and literal rest, as in falling asleep. Lol.
Holy... Mark... I haven't had a chance to watch yet but I am so grateful to see you talking about this (and so many other needed topics) because the Lord, in my struggle with OCD and to do and perform things just right, has been reminding me to "Be still" and "rest in Him"... and guess what? The enemy has tried to attack me from even doing that because after I say those two phrases in my head, I get an intrusive thought that I don't want... this recently caused me to spiral into a depressive episode granted it was the final straw after 48 hours of near-constant OCD. But by His grace I am here today coming through the other side of it and here you are talking about the VERY thing I have been hearing from our God (and somewhat struggling with). Looking very forward to watching this one. I have so many of your videos on my watch list already that I'll admit avoidance keeps me from watching (not because I don't want to)... but I am working on accepting the past, processing instead of ruminating, and being present and forgiving myself for all of my shortcomings as I struggle so much with thoughts and feelings that I have ruined things. It is a tough battle but the Lord is healing me and I know is delivering me, even though I still make mistakes and will continue to no matter how hard I try. Thank God for His grace and Mercy. Romans 8:28 is one of my favorite Bible verses because I struggle so much with thoughts that I have ruined things. God bless you, sir, for your ministry. You are such a blessing and I know I don't just speak for myself when I say that.
I bought and listened to your audio series on Nurture earlier this week - I highly recommend it - it gave me a great foundation for what is said here. Comfort from the mother, confidence from the father and learning, with hope and courage, how to rest and relax in His love now … one step, one act of faith, at a time. Thank you and Melissa for being such comforting, confidence sharing communicators of His Will and Word, for me and for all of us. Comfort and confidence born from your own challenging and courageous journeys of trials, trust and triumph.
Thank you so much Brother Mark 💖💖🙏 This helped me so much, I even asked in prayer today "Lord show me your love? I pray for wisdom and understanding because I just don't know?" And this video was the first I seen 💖💖💖🐸🙏 Thank you so much and God Bless!!
Good grief this describes me to a T (plus some church leaders I know who have deeply wounded many in their effort to “help”). Ok God. I hear ya. I receive it.
Powerful video Mark. I’m rewatching back to back because I’m really wanting to absorb this into my heart and soul. This is so profound. I’ve been leaning into walking through the valley of the shadow of death and you are to thank for shedding that light for me. God bless you Mark
Thank u Mark for these videos. Each time I watch your videos, it makes me realize things about myself & my relationship w/ God. It truly is helping me on my journey to mental & emotional wellness🙏🏼🤍
Hey Mark just wanted to say thank you for all your videos. I’ve been dealing with OCD my whole life without knowing. But after my recent break up, it started to manifest really powerfully in my life. From Harm OCD to POCD, to rumination the list goes on and on. But your videos have been so helpful and I can confidently say that I am now in my healing journey. Thank you and God bless you Mark!
❤❤❤I thank God everyday because I came across your teaching. It's literally Holy Ghost that led me to your channel and all your 📚books. Thanks Ps. Mark.❤❤❤
Thank you for this wonderful message. What a change of a mindset. This is setting me free! I was beginning to believe I am doomed and a slave to OCD. I was wondering why does God see me suffer yet allows me to go through this. But this changed my mindset. Thank you for this wonderful wisdom.
God cured my life long anxiety after 50 years when through seeking to get closer to Jesus and to ask him to be able to love others as he loves them. He filled me with his Holy Spirit and I was on the floor. I felt the anxiety leave me along with my upset for others who hurt me and were doing wrong to my wife. I said I forgave them but I relived the pain and thought about justice and them suffering for what they did to us. A Christian can not resent anyone without giving ourselves permission to disobey Jesus. This can not be practiced or reached with our world. This is loving Jesus for who he is and what he did for us and loving the Father as a father and friend. We will want to do his will for us more than anything else. He hides us in the shadow of his feathers where the enemy can not tempt us. You will not get burned out or exhausted or even angry with another human being ever again I can promise you when you are shown by the Holy Spirit how much Jesus loves you. Some of this talk seems to be about works and no faith and no power of the Holy Spirit. Our will power will never be enough. I had never seen any sermons online or in person where people get anointed and laughing and crying by the humbling of the Holy Spirit but it happened to me all alone at home reading my Bible. I saw Jesus said the answer is the greatest commandment that is loving God with ALL of our heart and ALL of our soul, and ALL of our minds and in that order only. I told God I could not do this as it was too big for me to forgive the person who tortured me physically and psychologically. I have been living with PTSD and nightmares for decades and I struggled all my life with neurological disorders and panic attack. OCD is demonic oppression. I knew I has no anxiety in Sunday morning worship when we gather and sing to God and he fills us with his Spirit. I asked god for this feeling every day and he gave it to me every minute of every day and all night long also. My wife recorded me singing to god in my sleep smiling ear to ear. Nothing can touch this. It's been 3 years and God made me a soul winner and messenger and healer and I can take no credit. It is him working in me. I did not know any of this and did not learn it in Church. I had to seek his face because I needed his help to be more like him so I could be who he wanted me to be for my life an my wife and my ministry I felt him calling me to.
Can I say how amazing your teachings are! Just found your channel today. I have been trying to tie together the messages I’m teaching in therapeutic healing art. Thank you!
The Holy Spirit really is our helper for the revelation of all these things! Fathers love and nurture ❤️. Great comforter, always pointing to Jesus and helping us see💗
Your videos have been very encouraging and a blessing to my life. The Lord Jesus saw it fit to allow me to find your videos and i praise Him for that. Thank You for answering the call my brother from another mother but from the same Heavenly Father. May you continue to grow in the Love of the Father, Son and the Holy Spirit! Blessings 🙌🏼
Thank you very much Mark. This has been a theme I sense God working in my life for quite some time now. It's fascinating to be able to step back in moments of clarity and gently notice what is needed by viewing what you're struggling with. This video is definitely a witness
I realized that I didn't get these things that you listed from my mother. Me and my brothers were viewed through the prism of materialism and what benefits they could give to my mother... and when I needed to comfort, understand, talk, there was rejection and dissatisfaction from her. I lost my father when I was 6 years old. But I forgive her becouse I love ❤️
This is so interesting. I didn’t even know. I was hyper vigilant until Iyears ago I saw a therapist- intern () but that made an impression- This is something that’s new to me but when I hear it, I know that it’s true. I just happened upon this video, but I’m thankful I did.😇
I get it now walking or practicing in rest. Be diligent to enter rest. "Rest is confidence in his love for you that fuels hope and faith." That takes all the worry and stress out of doing. I am probably going to do much better in my undertakings.
This is what I need more then anything, you are a huge blessing! I'm going to make a commitment to listen to you! I've got a lot of trauma from fear and guilt! Thank you for doing this UA-cam channel!
Mark, my life has hugely changed since I've heard your teaching on receiving the father's love as the source of... Well everything, confidence, faith, identity, rest, worship, etc... Just wanted to share that God has changed another person's life through your ministry. 👍 Bless you brother
Thanks 🙏 for your labour! That is very eye opening for me. Can you discuss how to reorganize dismissive avoidant attachment style from the Biblical point of view.
Mom = borderline/ narcissistic
Dad = covert narcissistic/ OCD
I never had emotionally safe or nurturing parents there by not seeking nurturing partners. I now seek them after years of recovery.
I still have trouble sitting and reading the Bible. I get it through many sources but it’s hard to connect with Gods love sometimes. One day at a timd
@adam444Tv I’m the same. It’s so hard to connect and I get anxiety and depression when I go to read the Bible and to pray.
@@kaylahays4717Yes I can relate. I pray spontaneously. It still is talking to God. I do, like you said, get anxiety about prayer. This works for me, for "today." Reading the Bible was a "work" for me. I prided myself how often and long I read it. Very performance-based
Now I enjoy it. I read the NT letters a lot, as they are the Gospel of Grace 🙂💯📖
Yes Adam, I relate. I struggle connecting to the love of God with the parenting I had and patterns I took on..performance, perfectionism..After years of being a Christian and in ministry..resting in love that I've not received much of (so it seems) can be hard and a dry place to live in..I've found just being honest about my situation- to myself, to God..helps. I believe God knows where we're at, where I'm at..and must feel for me. I'm just thinking that perhaps an affirmation of what I/we believe about God's love personally helps when we're feeling disconnected totally from God's love..I will try that!!
We need to feel God's love..I think that's true, but thankfully we don't need to wait on feelings. Faith is not dependent on feelings.
Yes, and practicing rest in God's love..that's a good thing to work on..
Are your parents belong to the baby boomer generation?
Forgive your parents and they are not perfect. Heaven Father is perfect. Surrender your pains Just received God love
God loves us so much. Earlier today I was thinking about my children and their future, and I said "Lord please don't let them suffer much in this life, put all their pain on me." And I felt the Holy Spirit say "Jesus already did that for you!."
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Wow amen
I appreciate your passionate pursuit of healing and learning @Tony Pino
Oh such a wonderful message, I hope that God blesses you and your loved ones abundantly, amen!
Great to be reminded that He has taken this pain.
I have decided (after years of wavering, therapy, and church) that Jesus Christ is everything. I believe that He died for me, redeemed me, and that my sins are no longer counted against me. I am loved, accepted, and free. I talk to God about everything and I refuse to put up with doubt and unbelief.
Bless you...
Praise God!!
AMEN. Praise the Lord ☝🏼
@thehylers1021 Amen brother.
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I have been saved many years and am now getting quite old. Never to late to learn eh! Your teaching i came across about a month ago (nothing happens by chance) It has brought me out of years of insercurities and bouts of condemnation. many steps of faith now taking place and healing and a spring in my step. I thank Almighty God for putting me under the influence of your gift from Him.
I also am old. Looks like God had us wait for this wonderful teaching, until now. I discovered Mark's teaching a month ago. What an eye opener. Self condemned for many years. Mike
I searched struggling to rest in God's love and peace and this came up. (sorry in advance for spelling mistakes) i am not sure why I am typing this response as I sit at my work desk, who knows, God does Im sure. I have struggled with my sense of identity and anxiety for as long as I can remember. Watching this video it wass like my sprirt did littel dances resonating with the battle and the struggle. I hoenstly think in over 40 years of being a believer (with on and off levels of obedience and surrender) i have failed to grasp love, forgiveness and grace. Yes I can intelectualise it and at time think i may step into it, but mostly struggle as Mark describes so conscicely to my own story with striving, checking, ruminating and a whole large amount of catastophising. Yes i feel exhausted most of the time, and seek His rest. I pray for everyone, beliver or not to find the Love and Rest of God through Jesus. I know I'm not givig up and He isn't giving up on us.
God bless.
Amen. I just prayed for you. The Lord is for you and not against you! You can find the perfect mom and dad in Him so trust Him and don't lean on your own understanding. Just trust Him❤️
Definetly been battling perfectionism and burning myself out due to neglect and.lack of nuture as a kid.need Abbas love so I can love myself .get off the performance orientation roundabout.western society extols perfectionism as a virtue. Sad but true.
It seems to me that we think only fathers are made in God’s image because God calls Himself Father, but women are just as much made in God’s image as men are, and God likens Himself to a mother hen gathering her chicks under her wings or a mother nursing her child in Scripture too. Every aspect of motherhood we value - nurturing, empathy, compassion, unconditional love, those things we see as feminine qualities all come from being made in God’s image.
The Blessed Holy Spirit is very much like a mother.
Yea and amen. ❤❤
When people talk about wanting a vacation or to run away or relax that seems to me as more of a signal they need some life changes. Change diet, go to bed earlier, change your hours, change work path, interactions with toxic people, breathing better, walking slower etc. Better personal boundaries.
I feel like shame is the biggest barrier. So much shame.
🙏🏾I pray the Lord would remove your shame in Jesus name. No weapon formed against you shall prosper! You are a child of God!
@@meganmcpherson3292 Romans 8:1, Shane and guilt is not from God, it’s from the enemy. Remind yourself what you are feeling is not from God
Agreed
I have no idea how to rest fruitfully. And yes it’s so true that I avoid tuff things because of the lack of confidence. I have very perfectionistic tendencies and without nurture I am constantly striving or avoiding and the fear of failure rises up every time while doing that…
You’re not alone
I'm there too. I strove for perfection to give myself a sense of value that I never got growing up. And yet, I find myself failing at everything. I wonder if I can even feel love.
@@thekangaroo42
Sounds like me, and I don’t feel love either. I’m sure some people do love me, but don’t feel it at all… It’s pretty lonely being this way, as no one can really come in…
This so perfectly describes me. I have very little capacity to deal with hard things. I once thought I was strong but I went through a trial that I feel like robbed me of my identity. I feel like chaff in the wind. I would fight but I don’t know where to put my feet. I am thankful that you put this out there. The message that really resonates with me is that I must stand in the gap and fight when the time comes, and do so from love.
Your way of teaching is a direct answer to my desperate prayers to God; so thankful to have found your channel! Please keep making videos.
I feel the same way!
“We are soldiers fighting from God’s love.” Whoa, never heard anyone say it like that before. I know that I know that the Holy Spirit led me to your channel. I’ve struggled on and off with ocd for years, but it seems to always heighten during resistance when I’m taking a step of faith. I’ve noticed it, but your words confirmed that. I’m definitely going to save this video for when I need to go back and listen again! Good stuff!
Wow praise God for this message, I am completely exhausted and wrecked, tormented daily
This entire video helped me. You describe me to a “T”. I’ve been searching for how to rest in God’s love all summer. Praise God for this video teaching. God bless you. 🙌
Thank you Mark. Didn’t grow up with my dad and my mum was absent a lot emotionally and physically.
I really appreciated your insights in this area.
My relationship with God my Abba has been everything to me for the last 33yrs. I’m now 56 and have a healthy relationship with my two daughters and my son, because of God’s nurturing and loving care towards me.
It took many years for me to surrender my life to Him 100%. But when I did, He amazed me with His continued strength, grace and presence.
I feel like life is hard, but things come easily.
For example, time: I have managed to do many tasks that would usually take 4 plus hours in and hour and a half. It’s as if He says to me, trust me, I am with You. Do what I ask and I’ll be there. He consistently does this in so many areas of my life.
I am so thankful for your unique ministry brother.
May He continue to bless it and the people you help.
In Jesus’s precious name I pray. 🙏🏼❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
I know God led me here! This lets me know that I have not been ministering from my own heart. I asked God a few weeks ago why do i struggle with doubt to trust him even with all the good he has shown me and he’s told me it was because my parents being absent and I see him through the eyes that I see that. Psalm 27:10 Although my father and my mother have abandoned me,
Yet the Lord will take me up [adopt me as His child]. He has really been expounding on his love for me and building my trust and confidence. Bless you brother for this one time word!
Youre not the only one bud
When you spoke about God cheering for us, even when we fail, because He sees us moving forward, I felt a shiver down my spine. I truly feel like God has spoken to me abundantly through this message. May this message bless others as it blessed me, amen in Jesus name!
No parents growing up, so I definitely struggle receiving from God. I didn't even realize it.
Psalms 27:10 NKJV
When my father and my mother forsake me, Then the Lord will take care of me.
Hey God got you 😊. You know what people are struggling for having bad parents and also for not having parents at all. But our God is bigger than anything else. Many people even get sexually abused by their own parents. Hence don't put position of parents higher than that of God, there should be no idol before God and that includes parents too even we can idolize absence of parents too that I used to do before unless Holy Spirit put my eyes off of my neglectful parents and put my eyes on Jesus and His love for me.
As you are here listening to Ps. Mark God loves you and He has personal plans for you.
Love you 🤗💗
The Lord be with you and the Lord bless you. 🙌🏻🕊🔥
Immerse yourself in this subject.
Talk to God about everything.
Find a good Counselor to help you.
@@daughteroflight8624 Thank you so much for the encouragement and understanding 💕 💗 I appreciate you 💗
20 minutes of pure gold.
Thank you for this. I realize I’ve definitely become kinda complacent or I totally avoid things because the anxiety and ocd and fear in general make me feel worried that it’ll start an episode and make it hard to return. I’ve also heard people say that we don’t have to be afraid of failure with God because God isn’t measuring us by the same yard stick we use on ourselves
Such a great video! "Here, take my wallet, take everything!" , so true. I've never met such resistance as I have lately. Learning to step forward (away from fear) one step at a time. Order my steps, Lord. When you stated we are fighting FROM love, not FOR love, WOW! Been fighting for love my entire 60 plus year life!
Total quiet rest and relaxation is so important - I don’t think most ocd ers have problems with keeping going but in stopping. They need to allow themselves to let go and rest in the arms of Jesus on a daily basis.
Im so grateful God led me to this channel
Still struggling nonstop with this, had a panic attack when I got a D since it reminded me of abuse from my dad when I failed in high school. My life shares the turbulence of my upbringing, 3 divorces, verbal abuse, alcoholism, narcissistic addiction, my dad getting cancer when I was little, abandonment, guilt trips of having emotions, and a heaping of wealth to assuage the guilt of my parents. My sister had two kids out of wedlock, and she's losing her mental health. Honestly, I don't think my family has ever had rest. Always conditional love, constantly shifting sands of approval; I'm a worthless piece of trash when I fail, but you love me? Yeah right. 32 years old, and I still desire vengeance against my parents. They gave us nothing but wealth and bipolar disorder. Lifelong resentment/hatred against them has made me seriously doubt God's care for me, and my mom still hasn't apologized for what she did to us. I was never allowed to feel anything, and it killed me. I no longer care for anyone's pity; I keep my head down and serve and work, pity be dammed.
I walk through...take step...facing fear... resistance develops my muscles.... awesome truth 💞 learn to be love soldier.. fighting from being loved...every day. Thank you💞
Please know that I struggle GREATLY in this area. Just last night I resisted the Holy Spirits' comfort yet again and turned to food. I needed to understand my problem at this level, you explained it beautifully! Thank you for what you do brother!
Mark has had the same struggles with turning to food for comfort. You’re understood. ❤
Yes, I do understand that struggle. I have tried to fight the devil many times with a fork. :-)
My jaw dropped from everything said in this video. I don’t know quite how to thank you? I’m…..so grateful🥹🫶🏻
Amen
Me Too❤️ Gods pretty Awesome for reaching me through this Solid Man If God❤️
I NEEDED to watch this particular instruction video. I've been a Christian for over 50 years, yet life's events have me constantly on the defensive and wondering why I can't handle things better. I've saved this to view over and over - as you say, to practice nurture. I could go on, but this is new insight for me, and I need to get going with this!
Please pray for me... I'm dying on the inside...
Talk to God about everything you are thinking about. I write my stuff every day. Immerse yourself in getting healthy physically and mentally. Find a good Counselor that can help you. God will show you. Tell yourself- I refuse to put up with sadness!
Praying for you ✝️
If no one has told you they love you today, I love you! Remember, we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Lot's of prayers for you! When I was lost and spirituality bankrupt I took one small step towards God and he came running towards me with arms wide open. God bless you 🙏
I know that feeling and pain.
God does love us so much, but he will allow suffering to grow our purpose, spiritual perseverance, calling, resilience, trust in Him, and alternative focus to the world (eyes on Him ). Didn't think I was OCD but always struggle with 'not working' and although I had a loving mother and father who were 'good enough' in terms of psychological health and general wellbeing, I endured child abuse from my brother, on two occasions, which I stopped happening/anything really bad happening - could have been a lot more, and then the family system chose to ignore and even scapegoat me. I often feel like I 'should be always doing something/making something better' - I find it easy to nurture others. I think as adults we can reparent ourselves with God's help and both accept comfort and challenges. Love the expression 'loved soldiers'.
I receive so much from your teachings. This journey is truly not for the weak, but I’m grateful for your wisdom and the peace I receive from the Holy Spirit. God is so faithful!
Need that do much. How to go into rest when i'm forced to rest with chronic pain and syndrome fatigue.😢 I trust Jesus to make me go through that with perseverance and love. Thank you for your prayers and conforting teaching. 🙏❤️
I thank God and agree with you that you find and feel rest despite every challenge, you are victorious.
Aw, Annie, I wonder the same thing, as I have adrenal exhaustion. Hugs. ❤
He is sustaining you through everything. There is rest in his arms always. He is holding you through all of it. I'm sorry you're going through such a hard time. You are loved and you are held through it all. 🩷
@@katiesanders96 Just fond your message today. Thanks God for your kindness. Stay in his arms Katie and be blessed❤
Your messages are always on time! I need to work on the resistance and pushing past the fear. I am sitting back everyday hoping tomorrow I will feel more like getting up and going. My resistance has atrophied. I feel like I need a goal list but I am not sure what is enough for the day, and when to increase activity.
I am also healing from just getting out of a 6 yr toxic relationship and leaving a mother and sister that were narcissistic and I feel so free now, I just embrace the fact that they can't torment me anymore unless I let them in. My mother did not know how to nurture and my father never affirmed me.
I working on rebuilding my faith because I had a traumatic spiritual scare and thought I lost salvation and I have been trying to restore my hope and confidence because I feel like a flat tire a lot of the tme.
I thought I i was in burn out or dark night of the soul because I have no goals or even any idea about where I am going from here.. I am in a new city and it's unfamiliar also.. It makes me just want to stay in. I notice that even though I am all alone, I still feel a little anxious. Not as much as I did in the relationship but I still have to catch myself shallowly breathing and tense and take deep breaths. I don't know if I need therapy or what. I feel like a mess but I glad I am FREE! (Or am I) I want to be an overcomer am I being defeated? Thanks Mark!
You are an overcomer.🐛💥🦋
@@TheDreamDetective888 Thank you.
🤗❤💕
@@jennifera777 Hey sis, I can really recommend watching marks videos about the love of a father, I think you need to grow strong and build your confidence there after all the trauma you went through. Talking with a counsler is not wrong either and can absolutely help, as long as they dont go out of Gods ways. You sound free to me but now you need rest, rest is everything and I notice in my own life going through OCD pretty strong especially in my young days I really never restes in anything and when I started to listen to brother mark it was the first time someome told me to rest and it almost changed everything and blessings came out of it because I stopped taking things out of control and letting God. Go in your chamber Sister and pour your heart to the Lord, you are loved! ❤
@@FamiljenMazreku Thank you for sharing that with me :) God bless you. 🤗❤
@Jennifer A I totally get that, and I feel the same way. I have a hard time figuring out when I should move forward, and what goals I should have, and exactly how much I should push myself, so I usually just end up doing nothing and waiting for God to "make me" do something lol. I think OCD makes it tough to figure out next steps, because I think we get overwhelmed when we try to push too much, but we feel guilty if we feel like we're not pushing enough. I've been trying to learn how to rest in Christ and also to step out in faith at the same time, but it's definitely a slow learning process. I agree that this message from Mark was right on time, and I hope you'll experience God's love more and more on your OCD journey!
You take your whiteboard with you on your walks?! 😉 Jogging and jotting. 🤣 I’m cracking up at your calisthenics, brother!!! Now that I’ve had TOO MUCH fun, I’ll get serious for a moment. Did you make this video specifically for me?! God keeps bringing up the themes of self-compassion and nurture, even when I’m not looking for it. I’ve devoured every video you have on those subjects, so I’m thrilled to see you teaching on nurture again! Please do more on this topic ... just the way you talk about nurture is nurturing. Thank you so much, Mark!!!
I tell people that if I lost everything and had to live under a bridge, I would still have a white board, and I would teach myself into breakthrough. lol
@@marktdejesus Ha ha, yes, I remember you telling me that on a premiere live chat. I even had a dream once where all your equipment was destroyed in some natural disaster. I offered comfort by promising to donate money for a whiteboard and a marker “so you’ll have what you need.” 🤣
Everything makes sense to me what you have said. I grew up motherless of nurturing and an absent father. No wonder I couldn’t figure out my issues. Rejections have been my journey in this world but it’s interesting how God showed me His acceptance and praise of me in personal ways. I had become so hard because I don’t really understand nurturing very well and confidence was driven by things I became good at. Listening to you, just seems to show me how messed up I am.
So much wisdom in this teaching!!! Mark de Jesus is the one UA-camr whom I most frequently share on my social media because he offers so much practical advice on living in Father's love.
Thanks for sharing!!
The most needed teaching for these times!
@@marktdejesusAll God’s Blessings Mark🙏🏼I submitted an application to get coaching from you🙏🏼
This is soooooo helpful!
This is the kind of discipling I never know I needed. I never understood what resting in God even meant and did exactly what you talk about here. Find comfort and literal rest, as in falling asleep. Lol.
*knew
Holy... Mark... I haven't had a chance to watch yet but I am so grateful to see you talking about this (and so many other needed topics) because the Lord, in my struggle with OCD and to do and perform things just right, has been reminding me to "Be still" and "rest in Him"... and guess what? The enemy has tried to attack me from even doing that because after I say those two phrases in my head, I get an intrusive thought that I don't want... this recently caused me to spiral into a depressive episode granted it was the final straw after 48 hours of near-constant OCD. But by His grace I am here today coming through the other side of it and here you are talking about the VERY thing I have been hearing from our God (and somewhat struggling with).
Looking very forward to watching this one. I have so many of your videos on my watch list already that I'll admit avoidance keeps me from watching (not because I don't want to)... but I am working on accepting the past, processing instead of ruminating, and being present and forgiving myself for all of my shortcomings as I struggle so much with thoughts and feelings that I have ruined things. It is a tough battle but the Lord is healing me and I know is delivering me, even though I still make mistakes and will continue to no matter how hard I try. Thank God for His grace and Mercy. Romans 8:28 is one of my favorite Bible verses because I struggle so much with thoughts that I have ruined things.
God bless you, sir, for your ministry. You are such a blessing and I know I don't just speak for myself when I say that.
I bought and listened to your audio series on Nurture earlier this week - I highly recommend it - it gave me a great foundation for what is said here. Comfort from the mother, confidence from the father and learning, with hope and courage, how to rest and relax in His love now … one step, one act of faith, at a time. Thank you and Melissa for being such comforting, confidence sharing communicators of His Will and Word, for me and for all of us. Comfort and confidence born from your own challenging and courageous journeys of trials, trust and triumph.
@@kcfl3448 you are 100% right jesus christ blessed you...!!!
Several lessons in this video for me. Help me Holy Spirit!
Thank God for you Mark. You have made an immeasurable difference in my life.
I love hearing how powerful Father/Mother was /is in life. Great message! God bless you .
Thank you so much Brother Mark 💖💖🙏 This helped me so much, I even asked in prayer today "Lord show me your love? I pray for wisdom and understanding because I just don't know?" And this video was the first I seen 💖💖💖🐸🙏 Thank you so much and God Bless!!
Loved soldiers!💥Thank you Jesus.
Good grief this describes me to a T (plus some church leaders I know who have deeply wounded many in their effort to “help”). Ok God. I hear ya. I receive it.
Powerful video Mark. I’m rewatching back to back because I’m really wanting to absorb this into my heart and soul. This is so profound. I’ve been leaning into walking through the valley of the shadow of death and you are to thank for shedding that light for me. God bless you Mark
I needed this. Thank you Mark.
Thank u Mark for these videos. Each time I watch your videos, it makes me realize things about myself & my relationship w/ God. It truly is helping me on my journey to mental & emotional wellness🙏🏼🤍
So glad!
The wisdom in this video... WOW!! Praise God this!!
Thanks Mark. I see myself here. Trusting I’ll walk in the true growth that brings resilience and not the striving. Why is it so hard sometimes?
It's hard to rest in God's love because of all the disappointments
💯💯💯
Wow man.. You’re such a blessing Mark; Thank you so much bro!
Hey Mark just wanted to say thank you for all your videos. I’ve been dealing with OCD my whole life without knowing. But after my recent break up, it started to manifest really powerfully in my life. From Harm OCD to POCD, to rumination the list goes on and on. But your videos have been so helpful and I can confidently say that I am now in my healing journey. Thank you and God bless you Mark!
What a timely, specific, poignant, personal word!!
❤❤❤I thank God everyday because I came across your teaching. It's literally Holy Ghost that led me to your channel and all your 📚books.
Thanks Ps. Mark.❤❤❤
Thank you for this life giving message. God bless you! I am grateful for the blessing of this inspired message.
Amen praise be to Jesus and his faith filled followers for real love knows no fear.
I am glad I found your chanel. Thank you for this helpful videos.
Thank you for this wonderful message. What a change of a mindset. This is setting me free! I was beginning to believe I am doomed and a slave to OCD. I was wondering why does God see me suffer yet allows me to go through this. But this changed my mindset. Thank you for this wonderful wisdom.
This is so needed in the body of Christ 🙏 you are becoming my favorite channel.
You are such a blessing to so many. Thank you for this ministry ❤
God cured my life long anxiety after 50 years when through seeking to get closer to Jesus and to ask him to be able to love others as he loves them. He filled me with his Holy Spirit and I was on the floor. I felt the anxiety leave me along with my upset for others who hurt me and were doing wrong to my wife. I said I forgave them but I relived the pain and thought about justice and them suffering for what they did to us. A Christian can not resent anyone without giving ourselves permission to disobey Jesus. This can not be practiced or reached with our world. This is loving Jesus for who he is and what he did for us and loving the Father as a father and friend. We will want to do his will for us more than anything else. He hides us in the shadow of his feathers where the enemy can not tempt us. You will not get burned out or exhausted or even angry with another human being ever again I can promise you when you are shown by the Holy Spirit how much Jesus loves you.
Some of this talk seems to be about works and no faith and no power of the Holy Spirit. Our will power will never be enough. I had never seen any sermons online or in person where people get anointed and laughing and crying by the humbling of the Holy Spirit but it happened to me all alone at home reading my Bible. I saw Jesus said the answer is the greatest commandment that is loving God with ALL of our heart and ALL of our soul, and ALL of our minds and in that order only. I told God I could not do this as it was too big for me to forgive the person who tortured me physically and psychologically. I have been living with PTSD and nightmares for decades and I struggled all my life with neurological disorders and panic attack. OCD is demonic oppression.
I knew I has no anxiety in Sunday morning worship when we gather and sing to God and he fills us with his Spirit. I asked god for this feeling every day and he gave it to me every minute of every day and all night long also. My wife recorded me singing to god in my sleep smiling ear to ear. Nothing can touch this. It's been 3 years and God made me a soul winner and messenger and healer and I can take no credit. It is him working in me. I did not know any of this and did not learn it in Church. I had to seek his face because I needed his help to be more like him so I could be who he wanted me to be for my life an my wife and my ministry I felt him calling me to.
You are teaching! Thank you for sharing this powerful encouragement.
God bless you brother from another mother!
Really brilliant work!
This teaching is brilliant Mark BRILLIANT! thankyou
Can I say how amazing your teachings are! Just found your channel today. I have been trying to tie together the messages I’m teaching in therapeutic healing art. Thank you!
The Holy Spirit really is our helper for the revelation of all these things! Fathers love and nurture ❤️. Great comforter, always pointing to Jesus and helping us see💗
Your videos have been very encouraging and a blessing to my life. The Lord Jesus saw it fit to allow me to find your videos and i praise Him for that. Thank You for answering the call my brother from another mother but from the same Heavenly Father. May you continue to grow in the Love of the Father, Son and the Holy Spirit! Blessings 🙌🏼
Thank you very much Mark. This has been a theme I sense God working in my life for quite some time now. It's fascinating to be able to step back in moments of clarity and gently notice what is needed by viewing what you're struggling with. This video is definitely a witness
That’s the theme in my life currently, too!
Thanks so much Mark for this teaching. I am the hypovigilant type.
I learnt alot to move forward.
I realized that I didn't get these things that you listed from my mother. Me and my brothers were viewed through the prism of materialism and what benefits they could give to my mother... and when I needed to comfort, understand, talk, there was rejection and dissatisfaction from her. I lost my father when I was 6 years old. But I forgive her becouse I love ❤️
This is so interesting. I didn’t even know. I was hyper vigilant until Iyears ago I saw a therapist- intern () but that made an impression- This is something that’s new to me but when I hear it, I know that it’s true. I just happened upon this video, but I’m thankful I did.😇
This was awesome Lord thank you!
This really does fit a good portion of the church
Listened to this video for like the third time and I just really appreciate it brother God bless and your family
Mom-not there
Dad-ocd
Jesus - my everything
Love that I was led to your UA-cam channel. Very helpful and eye opening. ❤
Ive suffered with OCD for as long as i can remember. Your video's are truly a blessing from God to be. Thank you
Love this!! Thank you for your teaching about this☀️🌊
So good Mark! I can tell you've lived it.
I love your teachings. God bless you. I recently see subscribed to your teachings. Such a blessing.
Wow, so much great stuff in this video. Worthy of rewatch.
Omg i needed this so much today! God bless you!!!!
I get it now walking or practicing in rest. Be diligent to enter rest. "Rest is confidence in his love for you that fuels hope and faith." That takes all the worry and stress out of doing. I am probably going to do much better in my undertakings.
Thank you
I loved this so much, thank you so much Mark 🙏
So thankful for Mark DeJesus!
Thanks for this video, it helped me a lot. God bless you.
Wow! The stuff about the nurture of mothers vs fathers! Wow! I see it in my life.
Needed this today
You spoke exactly to my situation today
Thanks
This is what I need more then anything, you are a huge blessing! I'm going to make a commitment to listen to you! I've got a lot of trauma from fear and guilt! Thank you for doing this UA-cam channel!
AMEN AND AMEN 🙏 FOR SURE A GREAT HELP
Mark, my life has hugely changed since I've heard your teaching on receiving the father's love as the source of... Well everything, confidence, faith, identity, rest, worship, etc... Just wanted to share that God has changed another person's life through your ministry. 👍 Bless you brother
Thank you for helping Mark! I appreciate you!
Thanks 🙏 for your labour!
That is very eye opening for me.
Can you discuss how to reorganize dismissive avoidant attachment style from the Biblical point of view.
Thank you! So helpful