Forgiveness as a life-long journey Self-forgiveness, Manchester by the Sea and the Women in the Wind

How can we move on with our lives if we truly struggle to come to terms with the consequences of our actions? Can we forgive ourselves if our actions did not only hurt us but hurt those closest to us? In Manchester by the Sea and The Women in the Window, we see two characters battling with these questions, each undergoing their own journey toward self-forgiveness.
This journey toward self-forgiveness can be split into four different phases. In my first video, I explored Phases 1 and 2, and you can watch this video by following this link: • Can we truly forgive o... . In this video I will continue my analysis of self-forgiveness by discussing the third and fourth phase these protagonists has to go through to ultimately reach a point of genuine self-forgiveness. I hope this video can provide a clearer understanding of how to think about self-forgiveness, and how you can practice it in your own life so that you can heal and grow from your past mistakes.
Chapters:
0:00 Introduction
1:02 Phase 3 Coping Mechanisms and the breaking point
9:47 Phase 4 Escaping the internal prison and moving on - Cleansing of the will
16:58 Conclusion
Media included:
Manchester by the Sea
The Women in the Window
And some of my own taken shots
Music:
Dreams In My Mind by Shawn Williams
Remnant by Christopher Dennis Coleman
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[@gustavmeyer6149]

Awesome video! Really captures the deeper thoughts into self forgiveness!

[@kobusroux1484]

Powerful, Gideon! 👌

[@ZEXUDO_RECORDZ]

Great video 💯🙏🏽

[@latenightreflections_]

Thank you very much! I really appreciate the comment. 🙏🏻

[@megsernst]

Love the point that although not philosophically possible, self-forgiveness is psychologically necessary. I would be curious to know more about the potential psychologically necessary conditions for self-forgiveness. I know they were discussed by the philosopher you mentioned, but what would it take for the character Lee to forgive himself for example?

[@latenightreflections_]

Thank you for your comment. I guess with regards to Lee, although this might be cynical, he will never be able to fully forgive himself. All he can do is move closer and closer to a place where he can at least live with himself. A place where he can start enjoying aspects of his life again. But I think, he will continue to have regret, guilt and shame throughout his whole life. Perhaps a possible answer for him, to at least have a meaningful life, is to use those negative affective states to create something meaningful. He can be there for Patrick. He can join communities and connect and engage with people who have also experienced tragedy in their own lives. In a way, maybe his best option is to use those strong emotions to create something meaningful, instead of trying to escape from them.

[@megsernst]

@@latenightreflections_ thank you!! I agree. I think that’s why one of the most heartbreaking moments in the movie for me is when he talks to his ex-wife and he can barely even speak to her and just keeps saying “there’s nothing there” like you showed in the video. He’s so buried in his own shame.