TikTok's viral "boyfriend tests" BACKFIRE. They keep getting WORSE.
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In the modern world of dating, the biggest challenge happy relationships face come down to two words: social media. And the latest trend is testing your partner to see if they are husband or wife-material-courtesy of creative TikTok users. But is this the right move? Are TikTok relationship tests saving people from bad relationships? Or are they causing otherwise good relationships to end?
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0:15 "Creative TikTok Users" ??? No! they are brain rot low life
Basically tests are an intentional way of personally choosing to identify if someone will give the answers and provide results that the tester deems correct....Hence not genuinely allowing for any genuine anything especially the genuine Truth✔️.. Revealing of those who hand out tests I'd say✔️Upgrade Better Living
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not everyone gives a fek about birds omg
Honestly if you're taking relationship advice from social media, you should break up with that person and save them because you're a walking red flag.
Truth
Depends on who you are watching. There are a couple of relationship coaches on here that give really solid advice. Such as not playing games with people and dealing with your trauma before jumping into a relationship. It’s common sense I know, but common sense isn’t so common.
There is also so much to learn to start dating because you may never expect what you have to do for them. I may be wanting some help from others on things im struggling with or having a hard time
@@derrickjuinor17 Then it is good to find out before making it more permanent.
tbh, i take advice from stangers on discord, but i dont take it to heart; i would go on vent channels and ask for advice or opinions about X topic that has been bothering me, could be romantic or mundane, the core thing that differentiates from mindless scrolling is critical thinking, does the opinion fit with your view? does the opinion resemble you reality? is is something you have considered before? etc etc
Stop. Testing. Your. Partner!
And friends. And family members.
Just. STOP!!!!!!!!
If you want to test somebody, you should test yourself
@@armtdawg99 Best answer ever! All people need to do that in this modern age. I test myself all the time because it helps me learned what I did wrong, grow from it, and evolved to be my better self. Everyone can benefit from it.
If my wife poured ketchup on the counter to test me it would stay there until it grows mold.
Or I would clean it up and then pour ketchup on another piece of furniture.
Yeah, how many men "fail" because this is just one of so many "tests" and they know it and get sick of all the tests?
@@ugaladh
Most men, these days, know that women SH*t test their partner.
Meaning - if you act subserviant, she realizes she can get better.
If she starts sh*t testing - do an instant bail ...if she comes crawling, you've taught her something. If she doesn't, you've dodged a "crazy".
If you really loved your partner, you wouldn't treat them like a lab animal. No one wants to have a camera pointed at them and basically told to "dance monkey dance"!!!
Exactly dude
And "Guess which irrational answer I want you to guess or else I'll be pouty."
That was my first thought with the guy that “failed” the dancing test. Dude looks STRAIGHT at the camera with an “ick” look. He probably hates cameras and social media almost as much as I do, no other reason. “After the recording he joined in” because he doesn’t want to be in the dang fishbowl for internet clicks
Partner shaming turns into "waeponized" incompetence. These "relationship tests" are so toxic
i would leave if my gf or wife test me just to satisfy other FemFAILS at social media, all for what? 5min. of fame or shame? ya, this is duimb as a rock. i WOULD leave and find a new girl. These women think relationship is a game, it's suppose to be partnership and also no one is perfect, if you want a perfect partner, fcuk off and be alone.
At this point we can call this self-sabotage. People will do literally anything except openly communicate with each other.
This is exactly my feelings on this too. Why can't people just help other people?
Fr like at this point, its so hard to even have a relationship at this point
Communication is key
Yet apparently everyone sees everyone as a rubiks cube
Note especially that last sentence
But at least they got the vieeeeews lololol🤪🤪
Honestly if you feel like you need to “test” your partners like this to see if they’re good enough then you’re probably not mature enough to be in a relationship
Exactly.
This.
I've been married 20 years. If my husband deliberately spilled ketchup on a counter in front of me and then asked for me to clean it up, I would assume he needed medical attention. Conversely, that sauce would stay there until we both died. I fail either way.
I don't know...I like doing the tests for fun. I guess it depends on the context. If you don't care about the results of the test and you aren't filming it it's probably fine 😅
@@VictoriouslyRandom😅
I could not date an advid tiktoker or influencer... its super cringe.
There are a lot of red flags in these tests ... mostly on the part of people doing a "test" to post online for validation from randos on the internet
"Testing" people is a great way to ruin trust in your relationship.
Exactly.
Isn’t it crazy when you think about it? Testing your partner in & of itself is super insecure but couple it with narcissistic obsession with broadcasting your relationship on social media for other people’s approval? Bad news bears. Arguably, I think they care more about other peoples’ opinions of their partner over their own opinion. People are toxic.
It's what women do, all women. Tik tok didn't start this bs it just shows it to the world.
For real. If you’re constantly testing your partner then that’s a bad sign you don’t actually want to be with them
@@jgamer2228 Testing them for social validation from others is a black flag event, it implies if that others can determine your relationship trajectory by appearances, therefore I'd simply cut her loose to be with someone else who is okay enough to have another person in their polyamory relationship. Relationships should only be between man, woman, and GOD, no one else.
If my partner filmed me to ridicule me on the internet I would break up with them immediately.
Literally though, none of these are cutesy tests, it's just partner shaming.
Yes
This is the way
Any woman who does this has the maturity of a toddler and needs to be sent back to kindergarten
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Dude is so tired of her TikTok antics
Run, dude
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The bid for connection is the opposite of the contemptuous look
If a person feels a constant need to test the relationship, that in itself is a failed test of them
Here's all the 'test' anyone needs: if your S.O. lives their life through social media such as tik-tok, then that person has already failed, and you can either help break out of that poisonous habit, or start formulating an exit strategy.
Anyone who records you without your permission is a red flag.
Not just as partner but friends too
Married for 21 years. This is ridiculous. Y'all want someone to worship you, not be a partner with you. Especially if you need them to react a specific way.
Especially after the dog test
Is she not on all fours, wearing a collar and calling you master 24/7 then clearly she not wife material nor she worth being otherkin
100%, couldn't have said it better
They want a servant, not a partner. If anything, this is a litmus test for how mature your partner is.
Agree. I'm glad I grew up where there were those silly teen magazines but people could pose question to a column where a professional in behaviour science could respond that the girl (the person who asked) that her behaviour, expectation, attitude was unreasonable.
A guy who say that he is not a husband may be concerned about whether the mind of the girl is not in the actual reality, which is a sound reaction.
21 years married and you said it perfectly.
The test exposes how gullible some people are, it also exposes the stupidity of TikTok...
Well said.
+1 reason why excessive cringe in combination with mind-numbing short videos are detrimental af.
I think if the test is for fun, and not a real judge of character then it's fine.
Also, if you have been feeling off, then a test may also be appropriate.
But these things should always be followed by a meaningful conversation. And letting your partner express how they feel afterwards.
Yeah they need to ban it already. But noooo government got spy on it's gullible short attention span having citizens.
Most men are not interested in being draw into a TikTok clip. Full stop
I like how the one woman expects someone to read her mind to know she expects the orange to be peeled for her.
Right?!
Nah. My wife trying to check me like I’m a dog will end with me pouring the ketchup on the floor and telling her to clean it.
I would not seriously date anyone who relies on tiktok relationship test.
Tiktok and reddit.
@@LadyBernReddit is simply just a forum. How you can compare the two is beyond me.
@@davernrush same thing, i dont think ive ever read a sane take on reddit the user base is mental patients mostly
I would not seriously rely on you :/
@@FairyOfLight-Ivy haha you're funny! I hope you have a great day.
If someone poured ketchup on the counter on purpose and asked me to clean it up, I would laugh and say "no." Unless they gave a good reason for why I should clean up their purposely made mess.
Right.
Yup for me I'd only that if it was genuine accident and/or their hand was injured prior hence the spill.
Yeah atp that's just manipulative and/or trying to have more 'power' over someone in a relationship
@@coki3_crumle670 Yeah it looks like a shady form of control and power. Than a way of testing a good relationship.
@@ShawnStafford-1978 Yea
tbf I feel like after the "test", the person who did it would slowly start to do more of this sh-t, and then wonder why their partner leaves :/
Who pours stuff out on purpose? Then ask someone to clean it.😂🤦♀️
Karens who have permanent attention-starvation
If my partner intentionally made a mess, I'd refuse to clean it for them.
Seeing these "tests" already shows me that the majority of the people aren't ready for a marriage, any less a relationship
The majority of people need therapy and lots of healing.
Only if "people"=women
DUDE I FOUND THIS REALLY GOOD RELATIONSHIP TEST! Its called the Bea Yuh Good Pardner test! Its where you dont take advice from strangers on social media!
Omg lol that’s genius
Nah that doesn't sound "trendy" enough
That's revolutionary!
That's not herd mentality enough. How can an average ape, especially a female one know, that they've made a correct choice, without getting confirmation from the rest of their tribe?
Test your woman by buying her an extra game controller and invite her to share a connection with your favorite game. If she declines she failed and then throw away your relationship because her perceived 'fail' of your test. Wait...maybe that's not a good idea. Grow up before you grow old ladies, or you'll grow old alone.
Bulls eye.
I think I would rather know my partner would pull me from a burning car then whether they will peel an orange.
I will never do this stuff to my husband. Narcissist way to way to set your partner up for failure when they don't understand the situation. Not everyone likes to be on camera or care for what is trendy.
The partner who is being tested could be a narcissist too and pass the test exactly for that reason! He will peel the orange but later in the day he could gaslight and abuse the soul out of you.
Truth.
I agree on principle but I resent the fact that many people believe it's reasonable for a grown adult to be completely overwhelmed and powerless in the face of a ketchup stain.
If your partner uses TikTok to gauge your relationship, leave them. They're looking for validation from strangers instead of working on the relationship.
Here is the problem with all this BS!
These people are playing games instead of communicating - you know like mature adults would do!
Different people react differently to the same stimuli but actual communication does away with most of the ambiguity.
Communication is more akin to honesty while "testing" is dishonest game playing.
The test is to see if you're a pushover and will do as you're told even in unreasonable scenarios. A high value man will call you out on your BS and make you clean the table.
People thinking they can judge an entire person and relationship on a 20 second clip never ceases to amaze me.
But you can. I would never record my partner (or anyone else) to upload to social media. And anyone who tests their relationship in these ways has an objectively bad relationship, otherwise they would just communicate with each other, the people who are actually in the relationship.
@@mydogeatspuke Bingo! The testers are too emotionally immature to be in an adult relationship.
id argue that making a mess and just to get someone else to clean it is a stronger example of "weaponized incompetence" than not putting effort into cleaning up a mess that was solely made so youd have to clean it. like, whats more incompetent than making a mess on purpose and refusing to clean it?
THIS EXACTLY!
Tbh, I wouldn't ever clean it or even talk about it until they realized it was still there, and if they didn't either and someone came by and ask, I'd say what happened
This pisses me off because we see videos of a guy getting something wrong and Weaponised Incompetence is assumed. We see videos of a girl openly engaging in Weaponised Incompetence and it's all "You go girl".
Condiments also tend to be notorious for spreading. Which makes it even more weaponized on the part of the tester and how big the mess is an even worse indicator.
@@goawayleavemealone2880especially when they get the battery connections backward and set the car on fire 😂
I'm a girl and I too found that extremely manipulative.
How is the orange peel test not the female equivalent of weaponized incompetence?
It is, but they are women, so it’s okay.
Weaponized incompetence pisses me off...that was one of many reasons I ended things with a girl I really liked. Won't do it.
If my boyfriend suddenly called me his wife, I would be caught off guard too. It doesn't mean I love him any less. It really depends from person to person and their boundaries.
A lot of women would actually call it a red flag and say they crossed their boundaries too
@@ermygurl Exactly! It's the same as those dreadful "will you marry me?" proposals in public.
Honestly yea, I'd be pretty freaked out too
@ermygurl only if he's not a chad of course
People for some reason sleep on that point, that after brofist he said "Not yet." Then she attacked him. And then people start crying red flag...
I remember this one chick destroying her husband's gaming console and having no concept of why he was that upset and even shrugging it off to the camera. Shivers, man.
Luckily, most of those are actually staged. The actual reality of destroying your partners things is categorized as a form of "domestic abuse without violence" as these things are usually done during anger. You probably remember the trend 5-8 years ago of the "Angry" boyfriend/girlfriend breaking gaming consoles or laptops owned by the person they are "mad" at for whatever reason. It's like: Congrats! You just now showed 1.5mil people that you are an abusive, psycho partner that nobody should ever be in a relationship with.
@@JaymeSplendid Half of these today are actually real. We think many of these are skits but then we see the aftermath and it ends up being real, over and over again.
Girls like that are the ones I'd be terrified to be in a relationship out of fear they might try to stab me if they ever get too mad over some nothing.
The initial one may be staged. The copycats? Doubt it.
The multiple copycats are not staged.
Dudes have lost hundreds of hours, a few of whom make a living off this stuff, to women "pranking them" by... doing the thing they are threatening to do which is the opposite of a prank.
The worst part is many of these women have no concept of how much time and effort goes into these things and how not everything can be backed up.
All the more reason grown adults who still stay stuck to social media is a giant cringe fest. They really have no regular friend groups to hang out with at that age?
If you're going to TikTok for relationship advice, you might be in the wrong place. Way too many people playing games with their partners. If a TikTok trend is able to make you break up with your partner, you might need to rethink how you approach relationships.
I’m going h worded g
+1 reason why tiktok is detrimental.
"Might be"?😅
You used too many words. Let me fix it for you: "If you're going to TikTok, you might be in the wrong place".
If you're doing a "relationship test", then you should **NOT** be in ANY relationship.
Or maybe don't do any "test" whatsoever?
It isn't a program or game you should test to detect possible bugs.
If foundation is loose, all house will collapse. These "relation tests" are loosing this foundation of trust.
Im now married but I would never date anyone that spent too much time on social media. In fact, if you want a successful relationship, stay away from social media, never compare them to others, and don’t ever open them up for embarrassment or for someone else to take shots at them. That’s the fastest way to ruin a relationship.
Just disrespecting one’s partner by testing them and going over the top by recording it and putting it on social media w/o their knowledge is invasion of privacy and gives the message you care more about strangers on social media than the feelings of your partner
If anybody testing me like this I would be offended.
nah same . id dump them imagine treatig them nice and loving them blindly and they pull this shi
the "are you pregnant??" one is hilarious lol. OMG how she took it as a fail is insane...he knows you don't usually eat fruit and is genuinely confused poor guy lol
She said "I'm craving an orange"😂😂
Right? He knows her preference and knows that this fruit desire is abnormal, and is concerned. That is a fail?!?
It's a good response but the "orange peel theory" is the condiment test in a different package?
@@Quandry1 I think it's more reasonable and respectful way to go about it. If someone poured ketchup and then asked me to clean it, that's a sh*t test, not a relationship test.
@@Xenozillex in the sense of the mess and such certainly. Less insulting in presentation as well.
The girl who failed the orange peel test, that bf was just sick of her being “I’m so gorgeous I can get ppl to do stuff for me “ vibe, dude is like you can peel an orange and you chose your nails,
this is what happens when you put your relationship on display for random people that you will never meet to opine on it, anyone that does this should know better
The person who is being "tested" should see this as bad and leave as you should not be with a people who 1. test you to prove you love them 2. are such lemmings that listen to random strangers on the internet 3. post their partners failures & 4. get advice from random strangers on the internet.
23:47
"Since when do you eat fruit!?"
I think this says a lot more than the tiktok itself 😭😭
The funny thing about that is it seems like he knows her well enough that he finds it strange that she's all the sudden asking for an orange
@@Whelp140 That's something that stood out to me too... All of the people doing these tests seem to assume that their delivery is perfect and there's no way that their partner might sense that they're not being genuine... And the fact is, they aren't being genuine... So, it's not actually a representation of reality... But the thing that's really strange about these tests is that the person testing their partner is putting themselves in a lose-lose situation... If the person doesn't pass the test, then they aren't a good partner... But if they do pass the test, then the tester isn't a good partner... So no matter the outcome of the test, the relationship should be over... Even if they pass the test, the partner would be completely justified if they're offended by being tested.... All these tests demonstrate is that, if your partner passes the test, then you don't deserve them...
My test is: if they give me an unannounced, unspecified, unscientific test regardless if I pass or fail. Time to roll on.
Wasn't a test, but I did ask my husband (long-term boyfriend at the time) to braid my hair once. He did a twist instead, not knowing the difference. So, he proceeded to (very poorly) learn how to braid for the first time. The unwarranted anxiety he had, and the adorable relief when I told him it was a good first try was the sweetest thing ever. He still loves playing with my hair, just not braiding it 😂
So cute
This ^^ I ask my bf to brush my hair sometimes because I like having someone else do it, and he gets so anxious and worried when he catches a snag in my hair and he think he's hurting me. I have very thick hair, so I get a lot of small knots, and no matter how often I tell him I'm fine and it doesn't hurt, he still stops every time the brush catches and apologizes.
What if he wasn't taught or has mental challenges, gosh you people are something.@@AnotherMaryJane
@AnotherMaryJane you couldn't even spell genius correctly. Why are you talking sh*t lol?
The most important part of this is that it wasn't test.
I'd give Her a reason to break up with Me. Like cleaning up the Ketchup with Her favorite dress. You don't pull BS tests on Me without consequences.
Diabolical. I love it.
"I'd give her a reason" That doesn't sound violent at all. /s
@@AG-iu9lv
it WOULD teach her to stop messing my place up. /s
@@AG-iu9lvyoure responsible for your own interpretation
@@AG-iu9lva simple thing. Don't start what you cannot finish
These "Tests" only measure a single thing: Obedience.
They are not, and never were, about whether someone is a good partner or not. They are entirely about "measuring" if the partner will silently obey the other, and act in accordance with that person's desire.
Making these tests is far more toxic to the relationship, than any "failed" person ever is.
i already told my wife, and will tell our daughters when they're older: if you want to play games, go grab a gamecontroller or set up the tabletop. Don't do this in relationships...
They call the first one a test, but I call it wasteful. So what if someone isn't good with cleaning? It doesn't mean they can't improve. Intentionally causing a mess and expecting someone else to clean it up is toddler behavior. It's just as bad as intentionally pretending to be bad at something in order to get out of doing it.
If someone is willing to clean up the mess you made without complaint, (even if they dont do it to your standards) they seem like a decent person to me. If they dont want to clean up something they watched you do on purpose, it's also valid. On the other hand, judging them for HOW they do it, is toxic behavior. So is blasting their shortcomings on social media for everyone to see. Not to mention if they know they're being filmed, they might feel compelled to do something they might not normally do just because it'll end up online. A lot of people will show their best when they know someone is watching.
Also, to the gal who threw the orange at her partner after being told no... maybe don't react violently. That's another immature and toxic behavior.
All the tests for the sake of content are manipulative af. Just learn healthy communication ffs.
Right! Not once do I ever hear them say about considerate and kind things they do for their partner and the cutesy stories that come with that.
Poor partner is always on parade instead for views.
No one is "not good at cleaning" naturally. If someone is not good at cleaning as an adult it means they never bothered to learn and always expected someone else to do it for them. That's a basic life skill no one should be "bad" at, it's not optional.
It depends on the age of course, if it's someone in their teens or early twenties it's understandable they are not that good at cleaning, if it's someone in their thirties and up however it's 100% not an accident and you can be certain it's weaponized incompetence.
Nevertheless, it's unhealthy to put your partner on the spot on social media and exposing them to ridicule instead of taking to them.
If your partner is bashing you on video then sharing it on social media, you need a new partner. The ones filming are exposing their own abusive narcissistic behavior. This is abusive. RUN!!!!
As for the guy who said, "I'm not your husband."-for all anyone knows he's been begging to get married forever and is salty that she is dragging her feet.
My first reaction is - to go "if you truly think I'm cleaning up the mess you intentionally made"...
...then, we are done.
But then I realized, that that WAS indeed the intent...
...so I would just say "Start packing your things".
TikTok - bringing out the absolute worst in humanity
No wonder Dating has gotten so bad lately.
🤣 I just thought it was because of the majority of bad people problem?
If deliberately doing a sh*t job cleaning up someone else's unnecessary mess is "weaponized incompetence" then what do you call the person who made the mess in the first place?
Every girl I ever dated was a slob. My friends deal with it too.
It ain't just MEN.
I was married for forty-five years. Till my husband passed... He was never a romantic. He was a hard worker, who never drank, never went out with mate's and all gave me his unopened pay pack every Friday, and would tell me how much he needed for the week. We had four children, we lived in a tent at one stage due to the fact that he was injured at work, and we ran out of money... But that was only for a year and a half... We went though a lot of good times and bad. But he was always my rock... I would have followed him anywhere. No he wasn't a romantic, but I could not have asked for a better man...
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What a good man! You guys were blessed to have each other xo
Being romantic is just wasting money on unneeded things these people never have a chance to stop renting and stuck in debt confuses me when people spend so much on a wedding that could have been used to buy a home to live in.
Most people today don't even understand what romance is, and equate it with having things being bought for them,. or being taken to expensive places.
I once read about a couple who got married the day after they graduated from high school. From the day they were married until the day they died, they were never apart for more than four hours at a time. Every morning, she would drive him to work and then go back home and get the kids ready for school. After that, she would get lunch ready and pack it up so she could drive to his place of work so they could have lunch together. Once done, she would return home and do whatever cleaning needed to be done before going and picking up their kids from school, bringing them with when she went to get her husband from work. They were once interviewed and the interviewer noted that, throughout the entire discussion, they were in constant contact with one another, whether they were putting their arms around each other, holding hands, or just sitting so close they were touching. When asked how they made it work so well for so long, they answered that they didn't let the little things get to them, and treated every time they saw each other like it might be the last time they did. They died in a car crash in their late eighties and, when the rescue crew was finally able to reach their bodies, one of the things they noted was that they were still holding hands.
That's romance.
@@allamericanslacker2378 as cruel as it may sound, im glad they went out together. i don't think either one would have faired well apart.
that is the type of love story i wish was shown more often in literature, and media. its much more stable than the rocky relationships... but i guess that doesn't make for good stories
The ketchup thing is the equivalent of when your mom or dad ask for the remote and its within arm's reach of them...
Destroys entire house: "can you rebuild it for me?"
It's more like if they threw the remote across the room when you walked in and then asked for it.
There wasn't a mess on the counter till the person with room temperature IQ made one.
In the 80’s, kids ARE the remote 🤣
And you better NOT have an attitude about it OR point out that the thing is right next to them. 👀They already know. Diabolical.
@@kingkaza i was hoping someone would make this point.
idgaf if my man can properly clean a kitchen, bc he doesn't expect me to know how to fix our leaky roof or rebuild the engine in our car.
and if i did know how, he wouldn't let me.
we understand the values of gender roles in my home and it makes life so much easier.
@jenn2894 ma'am this isn't about gender roles :/
everyone should learn how to clean, and at least one person in any relationship should know what to do about car problems
the video is talking about people manipulating their partners, idk where you pulled gender from that
it's always surprising all these experts on internet who are able to tell you if your husband/boyfriend is a good or a bad person based on a 10 seconds video
Taking advice about your relationship from social media is like asking your least romantically successful friend for advice on your relationship. But instead of it being the worst person at relationships out of 5-10 people, it's the worst people out of millions.
I have adhd. I do my best to be a good partner anyways, but if I’m absorbed in something and I don’t notice my husband being excited and dancing it doesn’t mean I don’t love him.
Also the bird test sucks for me too. I do my best to listen but sometimes after a long day my brain is just tapped out and I sometimes default to masking and pretending to pay attention.
the bird test seems more for siblings to see if they're still as excited as they were when they were little
I guess I should explain this more, my dad or step mom will always point out birds or horses or rocks so its so creepy this is used for a "romantic" test
By tiktok logic
Your the worst person ever as adhd isn't love materal
@@noellefritz5678 this makes me think that a lot of these people doing the bird test or whatever come from deeply unhealthy families where their observations and hobbies were never validated during their childhood. Though not at all an excuse for messing with their partners, that may be the reason they crave this kind of interest in their observations. So messed up all around, I feel so bad for peole who rely on this stuff, and for their partners even more.
16:06 I think you should start a fight 😂😂😂😂😂❤ it! She’s great!
SMH. UGH! I’ve always hated when people “test” other people, especially if they’re in relationships. These “tests” are UNNECESSARY, HUMILIATING, DECEITFUL, AND HARMFUL. They shouldn’t even exist. This is how trust is broken in a relationship. And as some people are saying, if good relationships are being ruined over these asinine “tests”, those relationships were never good to begin with.
I would fail every single one of these "tests" and my wife and I have been happily married for almost 20 years.
If you feel the need to "test" your partner....YOU have already failed. I want nothing to do with people like this. Testing someone else is the EPITOME of YOU being the narcissist.
I have a 5 strike policy, someone that takes and uses Tick Tock advice automatically gets two strikes.
You made my heart happy as you didn't spell tik-tok correctly
Which I see as you having a life and not caring about that trash...
Ahh refreshing 🎉😂
It would bring the strikes up to four, in my book
@@alphathealphiliate Or 4 and a half!
@@alphathealphiliate that's why I made it a five strike policy to give them a handicap of sorts, it originally came from a generic 3 Strikes policy.
I can't relate. I've never felt the need to do tests on my boyfriend.
The only time I ever tested my man is by throwing him random questions about the subject he studied when his finals were coming up to help him pass, he never failed.🥰
@@rustyhowe3907oh yes that tests are helpful why can’t we do that and not toxic tests
@@K_idk It's because the modern world is far too involved in being clever for online social posturing than actually being smart.
@@rustyhowe3907 true
I wish were more people like you, you're the only people that are bringing hope to us
Relationships are meant to be built and developed, not tested for clout on the internet. The fact they are filming a "relationship test" for the internet, is itself a red flag
Having to pass tests means there's no trust in the relationship.
Definitely a red flag: instant breakup for me.
If I had a boyfriend and I handed him an orange and asked him to peel it for me, he'd probably like "Huh why? You barely even like oranges?"
As my dad used to say: 'Why, are your hands broken?".
It’s actually f up if you call someone your husband/wife and not mean it when you're really still just in the dating stage.
constantly testing your partner is a test in itself, if you keep doing it, you failed
Squirted on the counter right in front of me and say hey, can you clean that up for me? We’re done
My problem with these tests is that they demonize the partner for not babying them. Your partner isn't obligated to open an orange for you or clean up your mess. That is a kindness they offer you out of the goodness of their heart, and even if they don't do it, that doesn't make them horrible. Treating you like an adult and holding you accountable isn't evil. They are your equal partner, not your parent or servant. AND a singular test cannot define a person since behavior can be attributed to neutral multiple factors, i.e. NUANCE/CONTEXT.
If they can't do one simple thing out of kindness. Why try
@@bgos4727 Where's the kindness from the partner demanding the other peel their orange? It's a totally weird request.
I feel like this is so ridiculous. Another reason not to have tiktok
If you "test" your guy, don't be surprised if eh leaves you for someone who doesn't expect him to jump through hoops for them.
If you were part of a relationship that requires your skills to be tested while you’re partners filming, you’re in the wrong relationship
I don’t get humiliating your partner for views. On top of that, if it goes viral, it could effect their offline life… like their job 🙄.
hmmm, testing partner does show insecurity. recording it and posting it online is seeking some form of validation. this is a strange time.
Professional victim when it doesn't work, Disney Princess syndrome when it does. These people aren't living in reality, they're living a rehearsed script from a rom-com and getting shocked when reality doesn't work that way.
Most of all it's a form of deceptive insult. The real test is whether a woman tries any of these 'tests'... if she does, then time to breakup.
Yeah. I don't understand why people live their lives online.
These so-called relationship challenges are bs. I've been in a relationship for 32 years and let me tell you the _real_ relationship test(s):
Do they show you little courtesies, like letting you have the _whole_ dessert, even though you're sharing it, because he knows it's your favorite?
Do they not only _show_ you respect, but insist that others do as well?
Do you have absolute trust in each other, with no interest at all in what's in their phone, or who they talk to online because they don't have to question your faithfulness?
There are lots like this, but the main one is this:
Do you feel at ease and happy in each other's presence?
If the answer to any of those is no, then run.
Gonna write this down
Respect is earned and no one can demand respect for you. Your way of interacting influences others. It’s a whole different situation if someone’s being rude to you for no reason and your partner steps in. And the other points are kinda nothing burgers?
An actual relationship test is how you overcome hardships, arguments and disagreements together. There’s no actual testing. You’ll feel at peace no matter what you go through together.
@@Jesei1211 I disagree. A partner most cetainly can demand respect for you.
@@Jesei1211 showing unbidden consideration in daily life like the dessert thing isn't a "nothing burger". it's worth more than any obligatory candy and roses on Valentine's or after arguments. and that kind of trust is worth more than diamond rings. that's what actual love looks like.
W lines. Golden lines. Well said. Did ask.
I still need to grow up to comprehend these lines tho
Normal people don"t use Tik Tok. Mystery solved!
Whether I pass the test or not,,,
You secretly taping me and putting me on a tick tock without me knowing would be my red flag and I would leave
Are all you people crazy?!? Testing your partner?? If you’re a couple you should already know who your partner is. If you’re in a RELATIONSHIP and you’re feeling ignored, insecure, upset or unloved then you need to talk to your partner about your feelings and not “test” them. That shows them you’re not mature enough to be together with them. If my partner didn’t talk to me and filmed me while doing some ridiculous test to post to social media I would explode and the relationship would be over. These people are angry that you’re testing them or making them uncomfortable . How would you feel if the tables were turned and your partner was testing you? People need to connect with their partners without the internet influencing their relationship and behavior. Grow up.
If my significant other is dancing in front of a camera, I probably won't jump in, but no camera, I'm dancing for sure! The camera changes things either way ...
The problem isn't the tests, its trading the intimacy of your relationship for internet clout
If you are in a relationship with someone who is taking relationship advice from the internet, it is time to not be in that relationship. The irony of this statement is not lost on me. Additionally, Relationships are between you and your partner, if your partner is taking your relationship to the council of the internet, they are not ready for a relationship..
It just screams over sharing on the Internet….. like keep your relationship off social media
Exactly, all of those people saying 'leave them'! Is not helping either, if you feel the need to blast your relationship on the internet for points.. get off.
Now i understand why the government wants to ban tiktok bc of this
If the ban is successful it might create precedent for banning all sorts of similar platforms.
@@icxcnika9399 Yes, that would be the start of a better world! 👍
No, they want to ban it because China is shady. They DO want to keep the gender war going as a distraction for other bigger things
@@icxcnika9399 good, that would be something the government finally does right for once
@@icxcnika9399Is this meant to be a bad thing?
If someone squirts ketchup on my kitchen counter and asks me to clean it up then they better be prepared to leave cuz we're done
Putting your partner through a standard created by social media is just setting yourself up for stupidity.
Lol, that guy responding "I'm not your husband" is making me think of all the times my daycare students have called me "Mommy" and I was immediately like "I'm not your mom. 😐"
That's only if they're doing it on purpose, though. They seem to think it's funny or they just want to see my reaction. When they actually slip up and then correct themselves, like "Daddy- no, Mommy- NO, Miss Lisa", I can't help but actually feel a little flattered, because obviously that means I must be pretty high up there on their list of trusted adults.
My partner NEVER cleans. He makes mess all the time. I'm a clean freak. Sometimes, I'm super mad at him. But he has many other great qualities, so why would I dump him over this. Just like he could dump me over my anger issues. In a relationship, you need to find the balance of what you can get over abd what you cannot.
I like how u worded this ❤
Your relationship reminds me of my parents lol.
My mom is also a clean freak and my dad is very messy... she also has anger issues xD
Yall wild. I find out my gf is recording me and posting it online, she's my ex.
The internet needs to know nothing to make assumptions. I'm so glad I'm not on tiktok or instagram, because this stuff is really silly. The bird test is at least based on science and measures your partner's involvement in the moment.
My husband is 67 and I am 55. We have been married for 33 years. He works 7 days a week and work about 55 hours a week and we do this to help support our adult special needs children. I don't need a test to know that my husband loves me or our family. 36 years together through good times and bad times and I wouldn't change a thing (except buying a Ford Taurus - worst car ever). If you need a TicToc test to tell you if your spouse is a keeper, then maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship.
Honestly, if somebody making mess with ketchup in front of my eyes, and they expect me cleaning it up, well, that ketchup will dry if they don't clean up.
Uh boy, what a bizarre horror
If it drys, it is easier to clean up! SO LEAVE IT ON THE COUNTER FOR A WEEK OR SO!
Funny how everyone who says “break up” is unattractive and probably single.
Anyone, literally ANYONE who makes any kind of mess in front of me and then tells me to clean it up is getting told to f**k off. And if they get mad that I won’t clean it up, then I KNOW it’s time to bail.