My husband is bipolar. It's hard for both of us. I think he can really benefit from your videos. Thanks for being so gentle because it's so easy to trigger people with BP. You have our support.
YES!!! Approach is everything. There are days I'm manic and make videos - but I have to calm myself before and stay grounded so I don't feed other people's manic energy too. I'm so happy you noticed that and let me know if the videos help your hubby. Welcome to Polar Warriors Jodi!
I learned a long time ago to never make decisions on temporary emotions. My battle with bipolar had been since I was about 13. I am now 56. I can't believe that I am still alive.
Annette Travis there is definitely wisdom in what you said about not making emotionally driven decisions. A very warm welcome to my channel and for what it’s worth, I’m very glad you’re still here 😊😊
I have bipolar and have been drumming since i can remember. Drumming is bilateral stimulation. If you're a drummer just make the hand/finger exercises more complicated. This helps alot
Journaling helps me a lot. I will write down everything I am thinking about and what I am itching to do. When I read it in a couple of days it helps me see things more clearly and make a better choice.
Absolutely. Thank you for watching the video and taking the time to comment Dana. It means a lot to me. It's so exciting to see the channel growing and helping others is truly my calling. It's the highest reward for me =) -Rob Whittaker, Polar Warriors
I’m not bipolar but your advice is really good to consider to make the best choices. I also have a good friend who has bipolar and your videos really help. Thank you.
I am bipolar with PTSD Marine combat Veteran. I love your videos and I can say I feel you speaking directly to me. Each video seems to be exactly what I need at that time. Thank you
My husband was in a manic crash and announced he was moving across the country and left kids and I without any warning. 10 days he was gone and of course he realizes his mistake and wants to come back. Second time he has done this.
We are having a problem finding the proper help. Therapists need to hear what our experiences are with my husband and they do not want to have our input. We cannot get a proper diagnosis by only relying on his viewpoint as his perspectives of events are not what we experienced. Thanks for these videos. They are helpful in our understanding.
I remember a decision I made in a total panic. I had accepted a new job and was in training for a week. The person who was training me was so busy writing down everything she could think of to tell me that she did almost no training. By the end of the week, I was so afraid that I couldn't do the job, that I didn't understand the job at all, that on Monday, I just froze. I could not make myself go back to the job. I got in my car and just started driving. By the time I was a state away, my brain turned back on and I started going over everything I had learned, in spite of the lack of training, and realized I could have done the job. Unfortunately, when a panic attack hits, it isn't always possible to make a sane decision. If I had had the time to sit and think about it in a calm fashion, I would not have made the escape. But, I couldn't just sit in my hotel room and not go to work. It was either force myself to go to someplace where I had felt more and more scared each day or run.
In combination with my medications, your videos are helping me to change the way I am thinking. I am trying to find a job and it has been hard to choose which job will fit me best. I was denied disability for my bipolar 1. I just lost my favorite pet monitor lizard, disability case and my disabled dad was diagnosed with stage 3 esophageal cancer. So making choices right now is very difficult because I am afraid of not choosing a place of employment that I can last doing mentally. I'm college educated, that was a fight and a story for another time, but I do not have a masters degree since I dropped out of grad school. I was diagnosed in my late twenties and seriously barely made it out with a bachelor's (no meds and I was getting worse). Thank you for making this channel :0)
You are a gift to all those suffer alone as they don't even know what is causing such feelings.I have used many of these guidelines and have benefited by them.
I am at a stage where I rather not make any decisions.... It is very likely to be impulsive in a rather negative way. And this really makes planning beyond the next few days very hard.
A big help not only for those who are bipolar but also to those who sre not. Praying 🙏 does helps a lot! Appreciate your generosity Sir and you'll be blessed more with the work/mission you're doing. GOD bless you and your family!
I would like to say thank you for how you handle the issues concerning Christian's and religious people. I have appreciated your attention to it in other videos and as a Christian have a lot of respect for that and you all together. I was diagnosed 9 years ago and though those your videos have been the greatest encouragement to find. I want to expand on not making a decision when there is fear or anxiety surrounding it. If you have prayed and searched scripture as we should and there are still those feelings, then still don't make them and leave it alone or discuss it with your network of support and seek your God further. Know you're totally confident and any fear surrounding has subsided and every every recommendation Trey made is considered as well before making any decision. Even the decision to be a believer in Christ or not should not be a decision based solely on fear of eternal damnation. If it is then you're missing the most beautiful part. another great video brother. You're an awesome inspiration... I'd like to add, if you are a non-believer pleas be just that and scroll on by this is a wonderful and peaceful experience to many. anti-believers are not beneficial to anyone.
Bama Machinist Thank you for such a beautiful message and a very warm welcome to my channel. Spirituality has actually been a huge part of my growth and ability to cope with the illness. I try so hard with my channel to stay as neutral as possible… Not talking about politics, religion, recommending medications or products, or anything else besides helpful information that can benefit as many people as possible. I would hate to have someone turn away from potentially helpful information because of saying something that impacts others beliefs. It’s a really delicate balance, that’s for sure, and thank you so very much for noticing and respecting what I try so hard to do❤️🙏😊 -Robert
Bama Machinist , True Christianity is not religion, it is relationship with JESUS CHRIST, the creator and the SAVIOUR of the world. I know that HE is always there no matter how I fell or what I might've said when I've been off from BP.
Thank you . My life partner is Bi-polar 2 . I’m learning many things here . Thank you for your contributions with regard to understanding the Bi-Polar Diagnosis and treatment.
Unless I must make an unavoidable snap critical decision, I will simply reject pressure to decide until I feel ready. I allow several bipolar waves to pass, to allow time to mull things over and avoid regrettable life choices. I have no regrets about my life choices because I use this self created strategy. I works for me.
Love your comment about "sleeping on it" or "giving it a weekend to mull it over." I think that could be an entire video by itself! When hypomanic, my brain races and my thoughts tumble over one another and I'm on some sort of hyperspeed internally. I have to consciously tell myself to WAIT! I tell myself, "This doesn't have to be decided right now. In fact, it would be best to think over it the next few days." I don't have to dash off an email or make a decision on my own. When ill, it's even more crucial to ask my friends for help in decision-making! I have come to realize the blessings of seeking counsel now - not an easy switch for someone who of necessity was very independent for most of my life. But the realization was so beneficial and I am blessed to have many wonderful people with whom I can go for advice on all sorts of things, from mundane to crucial.
I’ve been diagnosed for more than ten years and had ups and downs. I recently got a new job which I’m very pleased with. I see now hypomania had been building since February and I went too far... that’s my biggest problem, I don’t do anything before it’s to late. I can’t remember last time I crashed this hard. In the end everything was a blur. It took me three weeks getting out of the fog, been back at work for a week now. I have seen a lot of your videos and subscribed. I’m determined to get more aware and manage my bipolar everyday now and your content helps so much! I don’t feel so alone, I don’t know anyone with bipolar. It can be so frustrating at times trying to explain myself to others. I have worked with my trust issues with my therapist and the feeling of being able to really be me now is great. Thank you!!!❤️❤️❤️
Tina Bülow-Berntzen i’m really glad you found my channel and I hope the videos continue to help. Stop by anytime. You are very welcome here 😊😊 -Robert www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Decisions, decisions, decisions...that is my pet hate because I have a long history of being so dreadful at it. My main tactic now is to present my questions to 2 or 3 trusted others for advice and opinion before making a final decision. Hence, it delays it.. putting breaks on my impulsive responses and gives me balanced feedback - which often signals that I am unwell and unable to even see it.
Thank you so much! I needed this today. Im over emotional, sensitive some say. Im a mandated reporter at my job. I report, therefore im suffering harassment that comes with reporting. I so want to run away..but it would not benefit my future goals. Making a list as you suggested, going to talk with another doctor today. Been trying to hold it together. Thank you for sharing 💗
You're doing the absolute right thing, being self aware, holding it together best you can and reaching out for help to your doctor! Be proud🙏 Dianna Polar Warrior Team Member For additional content consider joining us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Thank you for this important video. It's also important not to blindly ENTER a relationship when you are in a manic phase. It seems great at the time until reality sets in and you can end up hurting innocent people.
I see years later that such a thing happened to me... three years in a difficult relationship - the decision made when I was somewhat manic and looking for some benefit instead of the overall picture. The relief that comes from someone loving and accepting us is a natural motivator - the desire for connection and companionship is powerful. We are all doing the best that we are able to at the time... Robert's got a great relatable way of speaking to this subject and I resonate with his descriptions of BPD... Cheers to you.
Hi good afternoon,,I was so amazed at your knowledge abot Bipolar,,and its best coming from sumone who has or had it,,,,my daughter was a bipolar patient for 13 years its been very hard for her her husband,,her son who is 10 years old and myself,,,its a terrible illness off the mind,,,I could write a book,,,you know the rest,,,your faithful friend off Bipolar,,,Bernadett will keep in touch,,,keep sending those beautiful stories,and how to cope.
Thank you for the information and all the help. Please keep posting this kind of videos. They are really helping me with my oun difficulties. God bless you and all the people who are involved in this process💐💐💐💐💐💐💐🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💖
i failed at each one those on Thanksgiving...i went into no rule total self centered...except i didn't fear much...i make my own rules and suffer big time...i am progressing as i regress in moments...i pray i am graced like you...tks❤
Hi jcjs! I'm so sorry that you had some difficulty at Thanksgiving! Holidays are really hard for us bipolar folk. Family can be so triggering! Your not alone friend! In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and we have a support group for patrons only. Would love to have you! Take gentle care!! Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
I just love you and your website. You are incredibly informative, but also so gentle and welcoming. It's your delivery of everything that makes the difference. God bless you for all you're doing for others. Thank you !!! Just love you.... the website is great because of you, your nature, and how you are able to explain with examples, analogies... you make it understandable that it really is like any other illness. You take away the judgments, stigmas...and mostly the isolation for many... allowing one to feel understood. That's all you !! Thank you so much !!! You're awesome !!
Thank you so so much I have a huge problem of making horrible decisions it’s so hard to control and make so many people mad at me and think I’m mean Jekyll and Hyde
When we are manic our decision making becomes rushed. The pros and cons are a good exercise. When we write things down we can think more clearly.Writing a journal is a way of clearing our minds
Before I got diagnosed, I lost a friend because I suggested we drive to Mexico. I was (mostly) joking, but it’s okay. I think it was for the best, but my diagnosis explains my fluctuations in personality from when I originally met her until we stopped hanging out, about a year and a half later. Something you said just brought that rushing to the forefront of my mind.
Thank you for this one. I always wondered how this was connected. Just in the last months I’ve broken all of these rules and now the battle is so hard to control. I have to make a new list to fix it up again. The problem with lists tho... why do the making of lists make so much sense when you’re way up or deep down? In the horrid between lists are just a messy paper with dust and irritating scribbles that makes me confused just seeing it, trying to read it and follow through, no way. Mania and depression really despise each other😒 Writing comments on UA-cam vids... gonna regret it tomorrow. All we want is someone who knows all the solutions to hold hands when we fall and fall and fall... then those days arrive when we are kings and queens and we need no one else cause we control everything and everyone around us with our brilliant genius minds. It hurts and I want it to stop. Damn I always watch your awesome videos in the wrong times hehe
If I get a thought while manic, it is SO hard to not act on it regardless what I know and tell myself. The harder I fight the impulse, the worse my mania gets.
Your videos are amazing and You help so many people. And I am one of them. Some quick advice. Keep your videos at 5 minutes or less. With UA-cam I always look at the amount of time. It makes a huge difference in watching it or not. What a odd thing to base watching such a good video on. By wonder if others don't feel the same way. Have you had other Have you had others comment on this.keep up your great work. Thanks. Michael
Thanks so much. Just your information gives me hope that God will get Cyndi the helps she needs and get away from the alcohol addiction and opioid addiction. 30 years of this mess and not getting the proper help will make any relationship a disaster and come to a bad end. Doctors need to understand handing out drugs is not a solution in many cases it is making life worse for many families and relationship. God bless you and keep up the good work. Later.
I need more help with making the small decisions. I make big decisions with my husband anyways so I don't struggle with this. But I have such a hard time with simple decisions (what to watch on TV or what to make for dinner.)
Awe... That can be a big part of the cognitive affects and aspect of Bipolar disorder. Feeling foggy or having trouble making decisions can be a product of our cycles, medications, and more. Thank you so much for all the comments on my channel. It means a lot to me. Have you always had a hard time making decisions like you described or is this something new? Stay well and welcome to the Polar Warrior club Kathleen =) -Rob Whittaker, Polar Warriors
I would like to highlight your excellent English pronunciation, and thank you for it. Where are you from? It makes it very easy to understand for those to whom English is not their native tongue, like me. As for decisions... I guess everybody has the same criteria to make decisions in life. The problem is that we overreact and go too far. I think it could also be a big mistake if we deny our perceptions or instinct systematically, cause It would place us in a lose-lose situation. I have commited very mistakes in life because of being bipolar, but I am also aware that I have an intuition and sharpness beyond the average (I am not hypomaniac, I take my meds hehe).
I struggle to get the events of the triggers out of my life. I think about a mean person everyday for a whole year. I really need EMDR. I heard that it helps with trauma. I also need to teach how they should treat me. They must know that if they treat me in a certain way, they are out of my life.
I have a counsellor who does EMDR and it's really helped me. It's weird, I have therapy with her over zoom since I moved away and we have done EDMR by camera and it still works!! Take gentle care! 🍓 Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds For ten dollars a month, you can message Rob directly, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community. www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Hey there ! Rob is available on patreon. You can message him, text or even have a call with him there. For a very limited time he is offering free support phone calls for all patrons right now in which he can lend an ear, give advice or answer questions. Take gentle care. Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community. www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Wow I’ve always been a a type competitive top of the class after the label of bipolar I couldn’t imagine going back there the symptoms and being in hospital made other people think differently I changed so so much lost self confidence in myself I wonder if I can get back to that type a again I wonder if I can have same respect from people I feel judged on my decisions now and worry about what people think especially when I’m crashing I don’t want people thinking lm against them at this time it’s just about my bipolar
If it's an important decision I seem to always make the worst one. And now I am terrified to make one. Making decisions out of emotion is like a habit with me. I am now 72 and have wanted to be dead since 30. Sometimes I have an idea and do the opposite, because of so many poor decisions. O do appreciate your suggestion of asking myself: who will this affect; what will be the effect on them'; is it kind.
Hi Robert can u do a video where u can tell us about yourself... like a bio data kinda thing ur education , why bipolar support and so on....bcoz i like u so much that u understand us and wanna help...
Hi Dew Shine! Rob is available on Patreon only right now. He talks to Patrons by phone or by private message on there. Take gentle care! Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community. www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
I’m worried that I made a big decision at work a few days ago which I regret I was in a very emotional state but it might be too late now maybe it was for the best. It was causing me stress anyway and didn’t seem suitable. I’m still not sure if it was right or wrong.
These are 4 reasons I have not thought of, this is great. Decisions I made based on these 4 "don't"s - Let's get more dogs!.... I need to trade in this car I had a wreck in, for a more expensive car.... Screw this, I'm going to go to bed and feel comfy and sleep, rather than helping clean up during a flood.... That mother hen doesn't want that baby chick, I'm gonna save it.... I'm going to give hatching eggs to ALL of my mother hens. ----- NOW - bad decisions I thought twice about and avoided: I REALLY want a pet monkey. I'm going to trade in my normal vehicle for a giant cargo van that I don't need. I think I deserve that house that's $100K over my budget. Ya know, I'd really enjoy a $5K Roland electronic drum kit, I KNOW I'd practice if people can't hear me. I'm sharing in hopes of making someone else feel better :-)
I’ve put a comment on here before.. I know this may sound very trivial it’s just about a trip that we took.... I know this can seem like a really small thing but still it’s a question... my girlfriend is bipolar I love her very much and I have put a lot of time and studying and learning because I love her... I gave her space when she needs it I gave her understanding and I understand that’s what it’s going to take and I am happy to do so... she’s never been to New York City and she always wanted to go so I surprised her with a trip to go.... can something like this turn someone manic... I know you you must be thinking wow he’s asking a question about something so petty... but anyway she had already been really good about seeming normal for lack of a better way to put it... but when I picked her up to go to the airport she was all over the place she said she needed some wine she did not seem like ever before ... she that she was really worried about everything it seemed... get a situation like that trigger someone to turn manic because the whole trip she acted just like we were friends.... and prior we have had a very Pleasant pleasurable relationship... I just seem like from the moment I picked her up in the whole time we were friends and she was very distant... do you have any observations on this... I guess my question is for the situation that triggered her to be manic... she says her doctor is really good and her medicine is spot on.. but can it overpower the medication sometimes.?
Really great comment! I have experienced that when I have travelled. Things super exciting can trigger some manic behaviour just as a bad thing happening can trigger depression or mania in me. I would say though, what all this sounds like is anxiety. Many of us with Anxiety really take change hard. I know when I went to Montreal once, and it was the first time going to a big city, it was really really overwhelming, especially the first day. Don't be afraid of asking her about how she's doing, or if there is something you can do to support her. You sound like a really great partner and alley!! Also, medication is not a cure for bipolar, we still have episodes but it makes our episodes shorter and less frequent. We also go through a lot of medication adjustments. My psychiatrist says any mania over three days and any depression over two weeks I need an adjustment. Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nd For ten dollars a month you can message Rob directly, watch videos that are more personal in nature and have access to a great community. www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
@@PolarWarriors Also there’s been some episodes where she is like the only coping mechanism I have is to get real busy and work in the yard and I just wanna be quiet I don’t really talk to anyone I still love you I just don’t want you to put off by my behavior if you come to my house.... our relationship is long distance and we cherish these weekends where I get to come and spend time with her and I have two kids so our time is limited... are you familiar with this behavior I asked her was she manage or was she down and she said she didn’t really know... i’m just curious your take on this?!
Thank u again Sir for a great advice. I do have a question: If I wanted to make a business decision (start something I enjoy, for example) how do I know is not my manic side speaking to me (which has happened before). Thanks again.
Rob has a video called bipolar thoughts on trial and he gives some advice. Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member Rob: I really need your help to keep a good thing going here... PLEASE consider supporting Polar Warriors work on Patreon. Even just $1 a month makes a huge difference. Thank you so much
Great video! Shared with a group member to reinforce her good decisions. Positive spin on intimidating topic is much appreciated! Search bipoBoss in Facebook to find our club!
Hi my dear friend! About 15 comments got held for some reason. Sorry I didn't see this one until now! I also made sure I approved the ones with links to share the page. Hope you are having a GREAT weekend. I'm trying to get through comments and then to bed =) Talk to ya soon!! -Rob
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. For the month of July he is offering free phone calls to patrons. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! Take gentle care! 🙏 Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
I must have pen and paper and write to make decisions. Writing your ideas is good when down and the mind is foggy. It clarifies my thinking. When high, I need to slow down my brain with so many ideas coming thick and fast and causing chaos. Writing slows the mind down and I can impose order on chaotic though often good ideas. If I didn't write, I would talk to myself and that would arouse a lot of suspicion and probably land me in some Looney bin. When all I am doing is trying to think clearly to make a smart decision. Society is extremely crazy, I find... But there are not enough places in jails or looney bins for all these conformist crazies. So they put us minority crazies in there instead. Saving beds,I guess.... Ha ha ha...
I am a Christian and everyone needs Jesus Christ! Just accept that God sent his son , Jesus, to died on the cross to cleanse us of all our sins. You also need to ask Jesus or God to forgive you of your sins.(repent of your sins)
My husband is bipolar. It's hard for both of us. I think he can really benefit from your videos. Thanks for being so gentle because it's so easy to trigger people with BP. You have our support.
YES!!! Approach is everything. There are days I'm manic and make videos - but I have to calm myself before and stay grounded so I don't feed other people's manic energy too. I'm so happy you noticed that and let me know if the videos help your hubby. Welcome to Polar Warriors Jodi!
I learned a long time ago to never make decisions on temporary emotions. My battle with bipolar had been since I was about 13. I am now 56. I can't believe that I am still alive.
Annette Travis there is definitely wisdom in what you said about not making emotionally driven decisions. A very warm welcome to my channel and for what it’s worth, I’m very glad you’re still here 😊😊
Polar Warriors thank you for your positive attitude and honestly.
Annette Travis you are very welcome :-)
Annette Travis - I'm 58, and the same as you, I can't believe I'm still here.
I have bipolar and have been drumming since i can remember. Drumming is bilateral stimulation. If you're a drummer just make the hand/finger exercises more complicated. This helps alot
Interesting! Thank you for sharing!
Journaling helps me a lot. I will write down everything I am thinking about and what I am itching to do. When I read it in a couple of days it helps me see things more clearly and make a better choice.
Yes making a decision on an emotional state reaction can be an awful permanent mistake or decision.
Absolutely. Thank you for watching the video and taking the time to comment Dana. It means a lot to me. It's so exciting to see the channel growing and helping others is truly my calling. It's the highest reward for me =)
-Rob Whittaker, Polar Warriors
I’m not bipolar but your advice is really good to consider to make the best choices. I also have a good friend who has bipolar and your videos really help. Thank you.
I am bipolar with PTSD Marine combat Veteran. I love your videos and I can say I feel you speaking directly to me. Each video seems to be exactly what I need at that time. Thank you
Thank you for your service Christopher
My husband was in a manic crash and announced he was moving across the country and left kids and I without any warning. 10 days he was gone and of course he realizes his mistake and wants to come back. Second time he has done this.
I'm so sorry Bev!
We are having a problem finding the proper help. Therapists need to hear what our experiences are with my husband and they do not want to have our input. We cannot get a proper diagnosis by only relying on his viewpoint as his perspectives of events are not what we experienced. Thanks for these videos. They are helpful in our understanding.
I remember a decision I made in a total panic. I had accepted a new job and was in training for a week. The person who was training me was so busy writing down everything she could think of to tell me that she did almost no training. By the end of the week, I was so afraid that I couldn't do the job, that I didn't understand the job at all, that on Monday, I just froze. I could not make myself go back to the job. I got in my car and just started driving. By the time I was a state away, my brain turned back on and I started going over everything I had learned, in spite of the lack of training, and realized I could have done the job. Unfortunately, when a panic attack hits, it isn't always possible to make a sane decision. If I had had the time to sit and think about it in a calm fashion, I would not have made the escape. But, I couldn't just sit in my hotel room and not go to work. It was either force myself to go to someplace where I had felt more and more scared each day or run.
In combination with my medications, your videos are helping me to change the way I am thinking. I am trying to find a job and it has been hard to choose which job will fit me best. I was denied disability for my bipolar 1. I just lost my favorite pet monitor lizard, disability case and my disabled dad was diagnosed with stage 3 esophageal cancer. So making choices right now is very difficult because I am afraid of not choosing a place of employment that I can last doing mentally. I'm college educated, that was a fight and a story for another time, but I do not have a masters degree since I dropped out of grad school. I was diagnosed in my late twenties and seriously barely made it out with a bachelor's (no meds and I was getting worse). Thank you for making this channel :0)
Hope you are doing well.
This channel is wonderful!!! Just found it in a FB group. You gained one more subscriber.
Thanks so much for subscribing! It's so exciting and motivating for me to watch the channel grow =)
You are a gift to all those suffer alone as they don't even know what is causing such feelings.I have used many of these guidelines and have benefited by them.
I am at a stage where I rather not make any decisions.... It is very likely to be impulsive in a rather negative way. And this really makes planning beyond the next few days very hard.
A big help not only for those who are bipolar but also to those who sre not. Praying 🙏 does helps a lot! Appreciate your generosity Sir and you'll be blessed more with the work/mission you're doing. GOD bless you and your family!
You really have a gift. You ARE a gift. Your videos are so well thought-out, and your calm approach is easy to listen to.
Sandra A Wow thank you so much for such kind & supportive words! Welcome to my channel Sandra and stop back by anytime :-)
I hope to be where your at someday ..I can't get enough of your videos .
these videos mean a lot to me and i’m glad i found this channel. i hope you’re doing well, sir.
I would like to say thank you for how you handle the issues concerning Christian's and religious people. I have appreciated your attention to it in other videos and as a Christian have a lot of respect for that and you all together. I was diagnosed 9 years ago and though those your videos have been the greatest encouragement to find. I want to expand on not making a decision when there is fear or anxiety surrounding it. If you have prayed and searched scripture as we should and there are still those feelings, then still don't make them and leave it alone or discuss it with your network of support and seek your God further. Know you're totally confident and any fear surrounding has subsided and every every recommendation Trey made is considered as well before making any decision. Even the decision to be a believer in Christ or not should not be a decision based solely on fear of eternal damnation. If it is then you're missing the most beautiful part. another great video brother. You're an awesome inspiration... I'd like to add, if you are a non-believer pleas be just that and scroll on by this is a wonderful and peaceful experience to many. anti-believers are not beneficial to anyone.
Bama Machinist Thank you for such a beautiful message and a very warm welcome to my channel. Spirituality has actually been a huge part of my growth and ability to cope with the illness. I try so hard with my channel to stay as neutral as possible… Not talking about politics, religion, recommending medications or products, or anything else besides helpful information that can benefit as many people as possible. I would hate to have someone turn away from potentially helpful information because of saying something that impacts others beliefs. It’s a really delicate balance, that’s for sure, and thank you so very much for noticing and respecting what I try so hard to do❤️🙏😊
-Robert
Bama Machinist , True Christianity is not religion, it is relationship with JESUS CHRIST, the creator and the SAVIOUR of the world. I know that HE is always there no matter how I fell or what I might've said when I've been off from BP.
Polar Warriors I noticed your diplomacy on religion as well and really respected you for how you handled yourself.
Love your videos. Please keep doing them 🤗
Janice Lemke thank you so much! 😊🤗
Thank you .
My life partner is Bi-polar 2 . I’m learning many things here . Thank you for your contributions with regard to understanding the Bi-Polar Diagnosis and treatment.
Me too ..I’m in same boat!!!..love the info here!!
This video should have more views. This is SO important.
Unless I must make an unavoidable snap critical decision, I will simply reject pressure to decide until I feel ready. I allow several bipolar waves to pass, to allow time to mull things over and avoid regrettable life choices. I have no regrets about my life choices because I use this self created strategy. I works for me.
You are awesome. I bow to you
🙏 and me to you!
Wrote these down. Good thing to keep in my wallet just n case. Thanks Rob.
My pleasure! So glad I could help you out. Let me know if you have any questions James. =)
Love your comment about "sleeping on it" or "giving it a weekend to mull it over." I think that could be an entire video by itself! When hypomanic, my brain races and my thoughts tumble over one another and I'm on some sort of hyperspeed internally. I have to consciously tell myself to WAIT! I tell myself, "This doesn't have to be decided right now. In fact, it would be best to think over it the next few days." I don't have to dash off an email or make a decision on my own. When ill, it's even more crucial to ask my friends for help in decision-making! I have come to realize the blessings of seeking counsel now - not an easy switch for someone who of necessity was very independent for most of my life. But the realization was so beneficial and I am blessed to have many wonderful people with whom I can go for advice on all sorts of things, from mundane to crucial.
I’ve been diagnosed for more than ten years and had ups and downs. I recently got a new job which I’m very pleased with. I see now hypomania had been building since February and I went too far... that’s my biggest problem, I don’t do anything before it’s to late. I can’t remember last time I crashed this hard. In the end everything was a blur. It took me three weeks getting out of the fog, been back at work for a week now. I have seen a lot of your videos and subscribed. I’m determined to get more aware and manage my bipolar everyday now and your content helps so much! I don’t feel so alone, I don’t know anyone with bipolar. It can be so frustrating at times trying to explain myself to others. I have worked with my trust issues with my therapist and the feeling of being able to really be me now is great. Thank you!!!❤️❤️❤️
Tina Bülow-Berntzen i’m really glad you found my channel and I hope the videos continue to help. Stop by anytime. You are very welcome here 😊😊
-Robert
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Wow, that's good... I'm crying. Don't know why. You touched me.
Great information- thank you!
Thx! you are really doing amazing things here! Your channel helps me a lot!
What a great video. Thanks so much. Was definitely considering a decision purely for personal gain and now rethinking it!
Decisions, decisions, decisions...that is my pet hate because I have a long history of being so dreadful at it. My main tactic now is to present my questions to 2 or 3 trusted others for advice and opinion before making a final decision. Hence, it delays it.. putting breaks on my impulsive responses and gives me balanced feedback - which often signals that I am unwell and unable to even see it.
Thank you so much! I needed this today. Im over emotional, sensitive some say. Im a mandated reporter at my job. I report, therefore im suffering harassment that comes with reporting. I so want to run away..but it would not benefit my future goals. Making a list as you suggested, going to talk with another doctor today. Been trying to hold it together. Thank you for sharing 💗
You're doing the absolute right thing, being self aware, holding it together best you can and reaching out for help to your doctor! Be proud🙏
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Thank you for this important video. It's also important not to blindly ENTER a relationship when you are in a manic phase. It seems great at the time until reality sets in and you can end up hurting innocent people.
I see years later that such a thing happened to me... three years in a difficult relationship - the decision made when I was somewhat manic and looking for some benefit instead of the overall picture. The relief that comes from someone loving and accepting us is a natural motivator - the desire for connection and companionship is powerful. We are all doing the best that we are able to at the time... Robert's got a great relatable way of speaking to this subject and I resonate with his descriptions of BPD... Cheers to you.
Thanks .....stay blessesd
thank you
Hello Rob, hope you're doing well. Your videos really help, thank you and take care
Hi good afternoon,,I was so amazed at your knowledge abot Bipolar,,and its best coming from sumone who has or had it,,,,my daughter was a bipolar patient for 13 years its been very hard for her her husband,,her son who is 10 years old and myself,,,its a terrible illness off the mind,,,I could write a book,,,you know the rest,,,your faithful friend off Bipolar,,,Bernadett will keep in touch,,,keep sending those beautiful stories,and how to cope.
Keep making the great content that you are gifting the world with. Your channel litterally both gives hope and helps so many🙌😊
Great encouragement, 🙏 thank you!
Thanks for watching Karen! 🙏
Thank you for the information and all the help. Please keep posting this kind of videos. They are really helping me with my oun difficulties. God bless you and all the people who are involved in this process💐💐💐💐💐💐💐🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💖
Thank you for supporting the channel😊
i failed at each one those on Thanksgiving...i went into no rule total self centered...except i didn't fear much...i make my own rules and suffer big time...i am progressing as i regress in moments...i pray i am graced like you...tks❤
Hi jcjs! I'm so sorry that you had some difficulty at Thanksgiving! Holidays are really hard for us bipolar folk. Family can be so triggering! Your not alone friend! In case you are interested Rob offers one on one support on Patreon and we have a support group for patrons only. Would love to have you! Take gentle care!!
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Thanks for the help
I just love you and your website. You are incredibly informative, but also so gentle and welcoming. It's your delivery of everything that makes the difference. God bless you for all you're doing for others. Thank you !!! Just love you.... the website is great because of you, your nature, and how you are able to explain with examples, analogies... you make it understandable that it really is like any other illness. You take away the judgments, stigmas...and mostly the isolation for many... allowing one to feel understood. That's all you !! Thank you so much !!! You're awesome !!
Wow! THANK YOU!!! I'm so glad you are here LD!
Thank you so so much I have a huge problem of making horrible decisions it’s so hard to control and make so many people mad at me and think I’m mean Jekyll and Hyde
When we are manic our decision making becomes rushed. The pros and cons are a good exercise. When we write things down we can think more clearly.Writing a journal is a way of clearing our minds
Before I got diagnosed, I lost a friend because I suggested we drive to Mexico. I was (mostly) joking, but it’s okay. I think it was for the best, but my diagnosis explains my fluctuations in personality from when I originally met her until we stopped hanging out, about a year and a half later.
Something you said just brought that rushing to the forefront of my mind.
This channel is helping alot and going to be sharing or watching these with family. Thank you sir
Rob, thanks for this video, i saved it to my facebook page.
Thank you. Great ideas that will help me!
Yor so amazing. Im 34 and for the fist time i have hope that i can live.
Keep fighting warrior!🙏
- Rob
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Thank you for this one. I always wondered how this was connected. Just in the last months I’ve broken all of these rules and now the battle is so hard to control. I have to make a new list to fix it up again. The problem with lists tho... why do the making of lists make so much sense when you’re way up or deep down? In the horrid between lists are just a messy paper with dust and irritating scribbles that makes me confused just seeing it, trying to read it and follow through, no way. Mania and depression really despise each other😒
Writing comments on UA-cam vids... gonna regret it tomorrow. All we want is someone who knows all the solutions to hold hands when we fall and fall and fall... then those days arrive when we are kings and queens and we need no one else cause we control everything and everyone around us with our brilliant genius minds. It hurts and I want it to stop.
Damn I always watch your awesome videos in the wrong times hehe
Dear Leif. Ditto. Not that it will change anything, but hey, I am out here and I understand. Hope your doing okay. Virtual hug.
If I get a thought while manic, it is SO hard to not act on it regardless what I know and tell myself.
The harder I fight the impulse, the worse my mania gets.
Thanks. Keep making the videos.
Your videos are amazing and You help so many people. And I am one of them. Some quick advice. Keep your videos at 5 minutes or less. With UA-cam I always look at the amount of time. It makes a huge difference in watching it or not. What a odd thing to base watching such a good video on. By wonder if others don't feel the same way. Have you had other Have you had others comment on this.keep up your great work. Thanks. Michael
THIS IS GOING TO HELP BI POLAR
Polar WarriorsTHANK FOR ALL YOUR RIGHT IM IN A BAD WAY RGHT NOW EVER YEAR ABOUT THIS TIME OF THE YEAR
Thank you for sharing this with us. ♡
No problem 😊
Love your videos. Keep up the good job!!!
I know you have heard this many times but I have to say you must be my brother from another mother. Everything you say sounds like my life history.
Thanks so much. Just your information gives me hope that God will get Cyndi the helps she needs and get away from the alcohol addiction and opioid addiction. 30 years of this mess and not getting the proper help will make any relationship a disaster and come to a bad end. Doctors need to understand handing out drugs is not a solution in many cases it is making life worse for many families and relationship. God bless you and keep up the good work.
Later.
Thank you for your gidence
I need more help with making the small decisions. I make big decisions with my husband anyways so I don't struggle with this. But I have such a hard time with simple decisions (what to watch on TV or what to make for dinner.)
Awe... That can be a big part of the cognitive affects and aspect of Bipolar disorder. Feeling foggy or having trouble making decisions can be a product of our cycles, medications, and more. Thank you so much for all the comments on my channel. It means a lot to me. Have you always had a hard time making decisions like you described or is this something new? Stay well and welcome to the Polar Warrior club Kathleen =)
-Rob Whittaker, Polar Warriors
Hello.
I've watched this video several times...each time gaining new insight.Thank you for these videos .from Eve G.
Fear of doing or saying something wrong
Great thoughts thank you
Hello? This is just really good advice for all human beings! Thank you Warrior
Yes!!🤗🤗
I would like to highlight your excellent English pronunciation, and thank you for it. Where are you from? It makes it very easy to understand for those to whom English is not their native tongue, like me.
As for decisions... I guess everybody has the same criteria to make decisions in life. The problem is that we overreact and go too far. I think it could also be a big mistake if we deny our perceptions or instinct systematically, cause It would place us in a lose-lose situation. I have commited very mistakes in life because of being bipolar, but I am also aware that I have an intuition and sharpness beyond the average (I am not hypomaniac, I take my meds hehe).
I struggle to get the events of the triggers out of my life. I think about a mean person everyday for a whole year. I really need EMDR. I heard that it helps with trauma. I also need to teach how they should treat me. They must know that if they treat me in a certain way, they are out of my life.
I have a counsellor who does EMDR and it's really helped me. It's weird, I have therapy with her over zoom since I moved away and we have done EDMR by camera and it still works!! Take gentle care! 🍓
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Love your channel. it is always helpful
Thanks so much!
I have complex ptsd - i dont have emotions
wow :) great
I struggle so bad, i lost my wife because she couldn't deal with the mood swings. that hurts!
I wish I was so together like you😃❤️
Hey there ! Rob is available on patreon. You can message him, text or even have a call with him there. For a very limited time he is offering free support phone calls for all patrons right now in which he can lend an ear, give advice or answer questions. Take gentle care.
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
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Great advice.
Thanks Bobby!!!! I hope you are hanging in there this week. It's so cool to see the channel growing. I really appreciate your support a lot my friend.
Wow I’ve always been a a type competitive top of the class after the label of bipolar I couldn’t imagine going back there the symptoms and being in hospital made other people think differently I changed so so much lost self confidence in myself I wonder if I can get back to that type a again I wonder if I can have same respect from people I feel judged on my decisions now and worry about what people think especially when I’m crashing I don’t want people thinking lm against them at this time it’s just about my bipolar
If it's an important decision I seem to always make the worst one. And now I am terrified to make one. Making decisions out of emotion is like a habit with me. I am now 72 and have wanted to be dead since 30. Sometimes I have an idea and do the opposite, because of so many poor decisions. O do appreciate your suggestion of asking myself: who will this affect; what will be the effect on them'; is it kind.
Hi Robert can u do a video where u can tell us about yourself... like a bio data kinda thing ur education , why bipolar support and so on....bcoz i like u so much that u understand us and wanna help...
wish i had found you before
Cool!
Sounds good to me
I bookmarked this video. Hah!
Please help! I think about moving countries! It's a long story...
Hi Dew Shine! Rob is available on Patreon only right now. He talks to Patrons by phone or by private message on there. Take gentle care!
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
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I’m worried that I made a big decision at work a few days ago which I regret I was in a very emotional state but it might be too late now maybe it was for the best. It was causing me stress anyway and didn’t seem suitable. I’m still not sure if it was right or wrong.
These are 4 reasons I have not thought of, this is great. Decisions I made based on these 4 "don't"s - Let's get more dogs!.... I need to trade in this car I had a wreck in, for a more expensive car.... Screw this, I'm going to go to bed and feel comfy and sleep, rather than helping clean up during a flood.... That mother hen doesn't want that baby chick, I'm gonna save it.... I'm going to give hatching eggs to ALL of my mother hens. ----- NOW - bad decisions I thought twice about and avoided: I REALLY want a pet monkey. I'm going to trade in my normal vehicle for a giant cargo van that I don't need. I think I deserve that house that's $100K over my budget. Ya know, I'd really enjoy a $5K Roland electronic drum kit, I KNOW I'd practice if people can't hear me. I'm sharing in hopes of making someone else feel better :-)
I’ve put a comment on here before.. I know this may sound very trivial it’s just about a trip that we took.... I know this can seem like a really small thing but still it’s a question... my girlfriend is bipolar I love her very much and I have put a lot of time and studying and learning because I love her... I gave her space when she needs it I gave her understanding and I understand that’s what it’s going to take and I am happy to do so... she’s never been to New York City and she always wanted to go so I surprised her with a trip to go.... can something like this turn someone manic... I know you you must be thinking wow he’s asking a question about something so petty... but anyway she had already been really good about seeming normal for lack of a better way to put it... but when I picked her up to go to the airport she was all over the place she said she needed some wine she did not seem like ever before ... she that she was really worried about everything it seemed... get a situation like that trigger someone to turn manic because the whole trip she acted just like we were friends.... and prior we have had a very Pleasant pleasurable relationship... I just seem like from the moment I picked her up in the whole time we were friends and she was very distant... do you have any observations on this... I guess my question is for the situation that triggered her to be manic... she says her doctor is really good and her medicine is spot on.. but can it overpower the medication sometimes.?
Really great comment! I have experienced that when I have travelled. Things super exciting can trigger some manic behaviour just as a bad thing happening can trigger depression or mania in me. I would say though, what all this sounds like is anxiety. Many of us with Anxiety really take change hard. I know when I went to Montreal once, and it was the first time going to a big city, it was really really overwhelming, especially the first day. Don't be afraid of asking her about how she's doing, or if there is something you can do to support her. You sound like a really great partner and alley!! Also, medication is not a cure for bipolar, we still have episodes but it makes our episodes shorter and less frequent. We also go through a lot of medication adjustments. My psychiatrist says any mania over three days and any depression over two weeks I need an adjustment.
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
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@@PolarWarriors Also there’s been some episodes where she is like the only coping mechanism I have is to get real busy and work in the yard and I just wanna be quiet I don’t really talk to anyone I still love you I just don’t want you to put off by my behavior if you come to my house.... our relationship is long distance and we cherish these weekends where I get to come and spend time with her and I have two kids so our time is limited... are you familiar with this behavior I asked her was she manage or was she down and she said she didn’t really know... i’m just curious your take on this?!
Thank u again Sir for a great advice. I do have a question: If I wanted to make a business decision (start something I enjoy, for example) how do I know is not my manic side speaking to me (which has happened before). Thanks again.
Rob has a video called bipolar thoughts on trial and he gives some advice.
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What do you mean by crashing?
Great video! Shared with a group member to reinforce her good decisions. Positive spin on intimidating topic is much appreciated! Search bipoBoss in Facebook to find our club!
Hi my dear friend! About 15 comments got held for some reason. Sorry I didn't see this one until now! I also made sure I approved the ones with links to share the page. Hope you are having a GREAT weekend. I'm trying to get through comments and then to bed =) Talk to ya soon!!
-Rob
I just wanted to express some anger!
What if you did all wrong things your talking about and the years have not been kind.
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. For the month of July he is offering free phone calls to patrons. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! Take gentle care! 🙏
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The next dr Phil for shure
Lol - but without the mustache ;)
Try going to bank getting 250000 then crash
M bcok
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I must have pen and paper and write to make decisions. Writing your ideas is good when down and the mind is foggy. It clarifies my thinking. When high, I need to slow down my brain with so many ideas coming thick and fast and causing chaos. Writing slows the mind down and I can impose order on chaotic though often good ideas. If I didn't write, I would talk to myself and that would arouse a lot of suspicion and probably land me in some Looney bin. When all I am doing is trying to think clearly to make a smart decision. Society is extremely crazy, I find... But there are not enough places in jails or looney bins for all these conformist crazies. So they put us minority crazies in there instead. Saving beds,I guess.... Ha ha ha...
Yeah, don't end up doing slave labor in the Aleutian Islands out in the middle of the Bering Sea with 400 immigrants when you have a bachelors degree.
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I am a Christian and everyone needs Jesus Christ! Just accept that God sent his son , Jesus, to died on the cross to cleanse us of all our sins. You also need to ask Jesus or God to forgive you of your sins.(repent of your sins)
thank you