I am running on 4 hours of sleep with my almost 11 month old and I needed to hear your words today. This method might not work for us right now but cry it out just turns my gut inside out. On the other hand, I am obviously so ready for my baby to sleep through the night. At the least your video has made me feel like it’s ok to go with my gut and that lots of people struggle with getting their baby to sleep.
I'm a grandma of an one year old and I'm having the same issue with getting my granddaughter to sleep in her crib bed by herself 😁.....this video is very helpful for me 💯.....and I just Subscribed to your UA-cam channel on 1-22-23 🥳🥳
There are so many different opinions on this topic. Some make you feel like an absolute monster. My daughter is 8 months old and we just moved her crib into her room because she would absolutely not sleep in her crib and was waking up every hour on the dot. I don’t know if this is the right thing. But I want to thank you for being open to both sides and not making you feel like a failure for trying one way or another.
This was really encouraging for me. My son is 9 months old currently. By 2.5 months he was sleeping through the whole night 12 hrs and then we had the 4 month “regression” and things were never the same.., at around 7 months I tried to sleep train with a gentle cry it out, never leaving for longer than 10 mins. After 4 days he was able to fall asleep on his own but was still waking 1-4 times through the night and wasn’t always able to self soothe. Now, I don’t know what to do. I don’t really want to do cry it out, this age is so fragile I feel because they are getting so much teeth and learning so many new skills. I would never want him to be crying because he was in pain and me just leave him there to cry. I think once my son can walk we will try this and I might enlist my husband to do it like yours did. Your story was so precious, a boy and his daddy! And my husband is stronger than me, so I think he will have more success with being strict with it. Love the idea to use the same word each time. Right now my baby falls asleep so well he just can’t STAY asleep! It’s frustrating. I’m hoping he’ll grow out of it before then, but if not I will try your gentle method.
Thank you so much for this video. I was struggling with trying to sleep train my 7 month old. I just didn’t feel right letting her cry. This video has made me realise I should follow my gut and do what I feel is right for my baby. Thank you x
A Letter From a Sleep-Training Baby NOVEMBER 8, 2011 BY ALTERNATIVE MAMA 197 COMMENTS Dear mommy, I am confused. I am used to falling asleep in your soft, warm arms. Each night I lay snuggled close to you; close enough to hear your heartbeat, close enough to smell your sweet fragrance. I gaze at your beautiful face as I gently drift off to sleep, safe and secure in your loving embrace. When I awaken with a growling stomach, cold feet or because I need a cuddle, you attend to me quickly and before long I am sound asleep once again. But this last week has been different. Each night this week has gone like this. You tucked me up into my cot and kissed me goodnight, turned out the light and left. At first I was confused, wondering where you’d gone. Soon I became scared, and called for you. I called and called for you mummy, but you wouldn’t come! I was so sad, mummy. I wanted you so badly. I’ve never felt feelings that strong before. Where did you go? Eventually you came back! Oh, how happy and relieved I was that you came back! I thought you had left me forever! I reached up to you but you wouldn’t pick me up. You wouldn’t even look me in the eye. You lay me back down with those soft warm arms, said “shh, it’s night time now” and left again. This happened again, over and over. I screamed for you and after a while, longer each time, you would return but you wouldn’t hold me. After I had screamed a while, I had to stop. My throat hurt so badly. My head was pounding and my tiny tummy was growling. My heart hurt the most, though. I just couldn’t understand why you wouldn’t come. After what felt like a lifetime of nights like this, I gave up. You don’t come when I scream, and when you do finally come you won’t even look me in the eye, let alone hold my shaking, sobbing little body. The screaming hurt too much to carry on for very long. I just don’t understand, mummy. In the daytime when I fall and bump my head, you pick me up and kiss it better. If I am hungry, you feed me. If I crawl over to you for a cuddle, you read my mind and scoop me up, covering my tiny face with kisses and telling me how special I am and how much you love me. If I need you, you respond to me straight away. But at night time, when it’s dark and quiet and my night-light casts strange shadows on my wall, you disappear. I can see that you’re tired, mummy, but I love you so much. I just want to be near to you, that’s all. Now, at night time, I am quiet. But I still miss you
erliuke you destroyed me with this. I’m going to try the most gentle way possible for my baby if not then he will sleep with me and I will be exhausted and tired and stressed out and just hating my life.
M gonna give up. My baby must b feeling like this. Don’t know how other moms do it but I certainly not made for it. I did let her cry for 3-4 days more or less but it’s hurting me a lot. I haven’t had any sleep coz even if she is sleeping, I keep watching her through camera n do not get any sleep plus m on guilt trip as I don’t know whether m doing right or wrong.
Nice video.... I have 10 months old baby ....we are planning for sleep training ...she wakes up if she is not on breast feed...continuous feeding in night just like pacifier.... Anyways will patient and try like you thanks
Interested to hear what how things turned out and where are you now, 7 months later? I'm in a similar situation right now and I do not see a way out at the moment!
Hi ysis thats just what i needed.thank you. Lol when i used to put my son now 2years old to sleep i always use to say shhhuu shhhu and he picked it up too. When u said about James saying shhu to ur husband my son hear u while i was watching the video he took his dummy out his mouth said shhhhuu to me with that tiny finger on his mouth and started to laugh. (that was priceless) :p
I am currently doing a gradual sleep training. My son is 1.5 years old and i used to lay with him until he fell asleep. Now I sit at his bedside till he falls asleep. He still wakes up in the night and sitting with him is tough in the middle of the nighy- i feel he might will do better if i get a mattress next to his bed, but am nervous about having to break the habit one day. Did your husband just go in to sleep on the mattress when he was ready to sleep or did he only go in to sleep on the mattress after your son woke up in the night?
What would you suggest... we are in a similar situation. We have a floor bed now for our 16-month-old right next to ours. He wakes up several times throughout the night and is soothed by me laying by him, then I sneak back into our bed until he wakes up again. I am due in Feb with our second child and I won't be able to get out of bed so frequently to lay by him with a newborn that will be in our bed. I totally agree with a gentle yet firm approach. I am just at a loss with what to do. I would love your opinion. Also, are there things you learned with your first that you will be changing with your second?
I have an18 month old with exactly the same situation and this video encouraged me sooo much n it’s just what i needed at the moment🥰 thankyouu so much for sharing
No, we left the mattress in his room, just in case he woke in the middle of the night upset, but he slept through, which just showed to us that he was already sleeping through for a while in the old house. We just needed to pluck up the courage for Matthew to leave his room. ❤️
I'm going to try this. I'm finding it so hard to get my 14 month old to sleep throughout the night. She gets yo 8-10 times a night? I'm so exhausted. She has eczema so it's even more difficult as she is constantly itching.
Amazing! I just uploaded a video about how I got my 1 year old sleeping in his cot. Was tough going and we saw a sleep specialist. Any mum out there who needs advise or just a ear to chew, I’ve got your back
I am running on 4 hours of sleep with my almost 11 month old and I needed to hear your words today. This method might not work for us right now but cry it out just turns my gut inside out. On the other hand, I am obviously so ready for my baby to sleep through the night. At the least your video has made me feel like it’s ok to go with my gut and that lots of people struggle with getting their baby to sleep.
Skip to 7:40 to avoid a backstory
Thank u
Love the fact that it was gradual and made him (James) and his needs priority.
I'm a grandma of an one year old and I'm having the same issue with getting my granddaughter to sleep in her crib bed by herself 😁.....this video is very helpful for me 💯.....and I just Subscribed to your UA-cam channel on 1-22-23 🥳🥳
There are so many different opinions on this topic. Some make you feel like an absolute monster. My daughter is 8 months old and we just moved her crib into her room because she would absolutely not sleep in her crib and was waking up every hour on the dot.
I don’t know if this is the right thing. But I want to thank you for being open to both sides and not making you feel like a failure for trying one way or another.
Your explanation of the change from childless living to having a child is spot on👌🏾
I’m currently in the sleeping on the toddlers floor part of this! This video has given me hope!! Thank you xx
This was really encouraging for me. My son is 9 months old currently. By 2.5 months he was sleeping through the whole night 12 hrs and then we had the 4 month “regression” and things were never the same.., at around 7 months I tried to sleep train with a gentle cry it out, never leaving for longer than 10 mins. After 4 days he was able to fall asleep on his own but was still waking 1-4 times through the night and wasn’t always able to self soothe. Now, I don’t know what to do. I don’t really want to do cry it out, this age is so fragile I feel because they are getting so much teeth and learning so many new skills. I would never want him to be crying because he was in pain and me just leave him there to cry. I think once my son can walk we will try this and I might enlist my husband to do it like yours did. Your story was so precious, a boy and his daddy! And my husband is stronger than me, so I think he will have more success with being strict with it. Love the idea to use the same word each time.
Right now my baby falls asleep so well he just can’t STAY asleep! It’s frustrating. I’m hoping he’ll grow out of it before then, but if not I will try your gentle method.
Thank you so much for this video. I was struggling with trying to sleep train my 7 month old. I just didn’t feel right letting her cry. This video has made me realise I should follow my gut and do what I feel is right for my baby. Thank you x
Man, your husband is a saint. My husband have always excuse of I have a job to go to tomorrow, I can't function without sleep.
same! like how do we function then
Same!!!
Same!! I need to to all the job
Thank you for being so real! and sharing your struggles like any other brand new parent
You are so welcome!
A Letter From a Sleep-Training Baby
NOVEMBER 8, 2011 BY ALTERNATIVE MAMA 197 COMMENTS
Dear mommy,
I am confused.
I am used to falling asleep in your soft, warm arms. Each night I lay snuggled close to you; close enough to hear your heartbeat, close enough to smell your sweet fragrance. I gaze at your beautiful face as I gently drift off to sleep, safe and secure in your loving embrace. When I awaken with a growling stomach, cold feet or because I need a cuddle, you attend to me quickly and before long I am sound asleep once again.
But this last week has been different.
Each night this week has gone like this. You tucked me up into my cot and kissed me goodnight, turned out the light and left. At first I was confused, wondering where you’d gone. Soon I became scared, and called for you. I called and called for you mummy, but you wouldn’t come! I was so sad, mummy. I wanted you so badly. I’ve never felt feelings that strong before. Where did you go?
Eventually you came back! Oh, how happy and relieved I was that you came back! I thought you had left me forever! I reached up to you but you wouldn’t pick me up. You wouldn’t even look me in the eye. You lay me back down with those soft warm arms, said “shh, it’s night time now” and left again.
This happened again, over and over. I screamed for you and after a while, longer each time, you would return but you wouldn’t hold me.
After I had screamed a while, I had to stop. My throat hurt so badly. My head was pounding and my tiny tummy was growling. My heart hurt the most, though. I just couldn’t understand why you wouldn’t come.
After what felt like a lifetime of nights like this, I gave up. You don’t come when I scream, and when you do finally come you won’t even look me in the eye, let alone hold my shaking, sobbing little body. The screaming hurt too much to carry on for very long.
I just don’t understand, mummy. In the daytime when I fall and bump my head, you pick me up and kiss it better. If I am hungry, you feed me. If I crawl over to you for a cuddle, you read my mind and scoop me up, covering my tiny face with kisses and telling me how special I am and how much you love me. If I need you, you respond to me straight away.
But at night time, when it’s dark and quiet and my night-light casts strange shadows on my wall, you disappear. I can see that you’re tired, mummy, but I love you so much. I just want to be near to you, that’s all.
Now, at night time, I am quiet. But I still miss you
erliuke you destroyed me with this. I’m going to try the most gentle way possible for my baby if not then he will sleep with me and I will be exhausted and tired and stressed out and just hating my life.
This letter is how l imagined their baby minds think. I personally would not watch or attempt the cry it out method, it breaks my 💔.
M gonna give up. My baby must b feeling like this. Don’t know how other moms do it but I certainly not made for it. I did let her cry for 3-4 days more or less but it’s hurting me a lot. I haven’t had any sleep coz even if she is sleeping, I keep watching her through camera n do not get any sleep plus m on guilt trip as I don’t know whether m doing right or wrong.
This made me 😥
😭😭😭
Thank you!
Nice video....
I have 10 months old baby ....we are planning for sleep training ...she wakes up if she is not on breast feed...continuous feeding in night just like pacifier....
Anyways will patient and try like you thanks
Interested to hear what how things turned out and where are you now, 7 months later?
I'm in a similar situation right now and I do not see a way out at the moment!
I love this so much ♥️ it gives me hope.
How are you going to approach it with baby #2?
Hi ysis thats just what i needed.thank you. Lol when i used to put my son now 2years old to sleep i always use to say shhhuu shhhu and he picked it up too. When u said about James saying shhu to ur husband my son hear u while i was watching the video he took his dummy out his mouth said shhhhuu to me with that tiny finger on his mouth and started to laugh. (that was priceless) :p
You are a very good mother!!
I am currently doing a gradual sleep training. My son is 1.5 years old and i used to lay with him until he fell asleep. Now I sit at his bedside till he falls asleep. He still wakes up in the night and sitting with him is tough in the middle of the nighy- i feel he might will do better if i get a mattress next to his bed, but am nervous about having to break the habit one day. Did your husband just go in to sleep on the mattress when he was ready to sleep or did he only go in to sleep on the mattress after your son woke up in the night?
What would you suggest... we are in a similar situation. We have a floor bed now for our 16-month-old right next to ours. He wakes up several times throughout the night and is soothed by me laying by him, then I sneak back into our bed until he wakes up again. I am due in Feb with our second child and I won't be able to get out of bed so frequently to lay by him with a newborn that will be in our bed. I totally agree with a gentle yet firm approach. I am just at a loss with what to do. I would love your opinion. Also, are there things you learned with your first that you will be changing with your second?
hey I was just wondering was your issue resolved cause im kinda in the same situation right now. Please share :)
I really needed to see this today. I’ve just uploaded a video where I’m on the brink of giving up!! Xx
I have an18 month old with exactly the same situation and this video encouraged me sooo much n it’s just what i needed at the moment🥰 thankyouu so much for sharing
Love this because if my son cries for even 5 minutes he throws up. It’s nice finding a not crying sleep training
Same for mine. He throws up and I'm absolutely desperate, I don't know how to deal with it
12:47 How exactly did he go to sleep that night? Did Matthew sleep in the room with James at the new house?
No, we left the mattress in his room, just in case he woke in the middle of the night upset, but he slept through, which just showed to us that he was already sleeping through for a while in the old house. We just needed to pluck up the courage for Matthew to leave his room. ❤️
I'm going to try this. I'm finding it so hard to get my 14 month old to sleep throughout the night. She gets yo 8-10 times a night? I'm so exhausted. She has eczema so it's even more difficult as she is constantly itching.
Poor u, hope it got better for you. Try shea butter raw organic and unrefined
Fab video and some much needed advice so going to try this xx
Amazing! I just uploaded a video about how I got my 1 year old sleeping in his cot. Was tough going and we saw a sleep specialist. Any mum out there who needs advise or just a ear to chew, I’ve got your back
💕💖Thank you so much! It was so much helpfull. I'm gonna take on your advice.😀😇
You did a good job..make theses kind of video's more.
Can I borrow a Matthew 😭
Great video.
nice video
Please provide subtitles
Such an interesting story thank you for sharing this story I will try this for my son
My god will I ever get my sleep back
Hallo. Ysis. Guten Abend. Wie geht es dir? Du bist sehr sehr wünderschön frau❤ich liebe dich ❤