9:12 right on the money, and glad to see someone point out how religious values are so deep rooted in our society after centuries that it influences many secular people even when they don’t know it.
So perfect. Everything you said I’ve recently learned already but unfortunately my subconscious is still beating me up for standing up to my parents abuse. What’s so frustrating is my parents agree I shouldn’t say anything to them and I live with them 🙄. At 27 they still want me to stay home and not have my own life.
Thank you for your video, I now realize how horrible my childhood really must have been... I was the youngest of 4 and unwanted by both my parents... I was not allowed anything, no hobbies, no new clothes, no help with homework, no motivation, I was just a burden to them, while everything was done for my sister and 2 brothers, I can't remember any birthday gifts, let alone birthday parties,, I was abused by my father and 2 brothers and their friends , I was left home alone, while my parents went to cafe, if I got bad results in school, it was because I was stupid and good for nothing,, I was called a whore when I was 8, I was beaten when I cried because i was bullied by my brothers, my parents got divorced when i was 12, and i was glad dad was gone, my mom was devestaded, and self-pity, and got depressed from the divorce, so i felt sorry for my mom and took over the duties, such as s cleaning the house, grocery shopping, and cooking, when I was 14 my mother met my stepfather, she was head over heels in love, so she started enjoying her life again, going on trips and vacations, eating out, I stayed at home alone, without money, or food, on my 16th birthday, she married my stepfather, 14 days later I was allowed to leave, because they preferred to be alone without children, I had become pregnant in the meantime, mother knew this, I gave birth at the end December '91 I was homeless and slept in cars, occasionally with friends and sometimes I could stay with my brother or sister, I also let a colleague of my brother's use me because I wanted shelter for my baby, which made me again got pregnant when I was 17 by the time I turned 18 I ended up in a refuge for women with children, from there I started building my life, got my first apartment, I started a relationship again, with my oldest childs dad, which I gave shelter because he was also homeless, this man was very aggressive, physically and mentally, but had 2 more children from him, i only left him when our youngest daughter was 15 and she wanted to leave home because of her father's behavior.. My connection with my kids, is fantastic i love them to the moon and back, i raised them totaly diffrent, , my oldest son lived with me unti he was 28 and my youngest until she was 23, i also took my big sisters 4 kids in as their guardian, when she passed away at 39 i have a wonderful connection with them also, i am now gratefull for the horrible childhood my parents gave me, and the very toxic relation i had with my husband (father of 3 of my kids) because the connection i have whit my kids is without a doubt the most beautiful thing in the world Currently i am taking care of my mother ( 3 years now) whose suffering from dementia, high blood pressure, diabetes, and see her as my unwanted child, but i take responsibility for her, this is the difference between us.. I dont want a statue or applause or anything else, i dont expect anything in return, because the appreciation i feel is more than enough..
I pretty much felt the same way. I feel your pain. I took care of my father and mother before they passed away. I was like the black sheep of the family and I did not realize why until I was 22 years old then I found out and it wasn't even my fault. Like you i am grateful for my past. If it were not for my past I would not be the woman I am today. I do not have a relationship with my children. I wish I did. Hopefully that will come. Take care! 🌹🌹🌹
Kenny, it so awesome what does you have opened foe me! It's been a minute since I communicated. But, I ve been busy, in a good way. Ouldnt have made without you mr knowledge. Thank you for sharing. 1. Yes, I said I'll never do this to my children. I didn't, he's better off for it. 2. I did parent my child different, he's better off for it. 3. Nope, I parented my child my way, I did make adjustments. He's better off for the it. 4. My parents were perfectly imperfect. I love them for it. They worked with their tools cause that's all they had. Crap rolls downhill. 5. Perfectly Imperfect, one of the best things I have ever heard. It has allowed me to give grace and forbearance. God bless you Kenny Weiss. 6. It's been way to long, I know. I've been super busy at self development. I have missed you. Bryan:)
OK, you said to leave our comments. Here goes! I do not remember my mother or father ever showing me love, kindness, protection, nurturing, etc. I didn't feel love even one day in my life growing up. My brother and sister were very abusive to me and my mother and father did not protect me. I was determined to be better than my mother and thought I was doing a great job but I do not have a relationship with four of my adult children except one and that is very minimal. Three of my children do not talk with me and they even abuse me. One son threw me to the floor cussing at me saying vile things I can't even remember. He threatened my life in front of my husband and my husband did not even want to correct him in any way. I am surprised I have lived with this pain for years. I finally have hope that you can show me how to get past the pain. Thanks.
In the thick of it as a solo parent to a five year old... and I have most definitely made a conscious choice to not put pressure on my little guy to be competitive, in any way "perfect" or "the best". That was put on me by my perfectly imperfect mom & I knew it was wrong when it was happening to me as a child. (And it has affected me fundamentally throughout life.) The irony is... my 5 year old is constantly asking if I'm proud of him (which I usually tell him, meaningfully, that I am on a daily basis) and is endlessly comparing himself to other kids now that he started kindergarten (could also be ego formation). And let's not bring up the eruption of frustration if he doesn't execute something perfectly on the first try. With the conscious action of giving him a loving, supportive upbringing with the goal of letting him unfold, as his own wondrous self I am encountering his own self-inflicted pressure & the resultant frustration that ensues. And it certainly triggers me !! 😐 No one truly mentioned what a catch 22 parenting is...I think the best anyone can do is find laughter & forgiveness through our fleeting lives. Maybe (hopefully) when he's in his 20s we can kick back & laugh about it all, together.
It’s not lie. It clicked to my mind that my parents are perfectly imperfect. Truth hurts but I don’t stay forever from the past. I have to think better into learning.
Everything that I was taught was all lies and destructive I’m surprised I’m still alive My uncle used to beat me and they said “I’m was bad and deserved it” People think it’s ok for things to be bad
I hate my mother for her beating me! I’m working on overcoming this. My father was an alcoholic don’t really like him either and he’s dead due to alcoholism died at 46 and yes I did make a conscious effort to raise my children differently and yes I’ll let them voice their opinions no I am not the perfect parent but I can honestly say I did not treat my children the way I was treated. I never belittled my children because I know how much that hurts. I know I made many mistakes as a parent and I’m very sorry for them. And I have also apologized to my children. I live with my adult daughter who is 41 now and I had this discussion with her just the other day. And she is in denial that I wasn’t the perfect parent something she has to work on. She is not ready the face it right now. I am in therapy working on my issues.
My mom used to make me pay rent as soon as I got a job at 18 They ruined my life, real strict always got involved with bad people I felt I didn’t fit in with nice people
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9:12 right on the money, and glad to see someone point out how religious values are so deep rooted in our society after centuries that it influences many secular people even when they don’t know it.
So perfect. Everything you said I’ve recently learned already but unfortunately my subconscious is still beating me up for standing up to my parents abuse. What’s so frustrating is my parents agree I shouldn’t say anything to them and I live with them 🙄. At 27 they still want me to stay home and not have my own life.
Thank you for your video, I now realize how horrible my childhood really must have been... I was the youngest of 4 and unwanted by both my parents... I was not allowed anything, no hobbies, no new clothes, no help with homework, no motivation, I was just a burden to them, while everything was done for my sister and 2 brothers, I can't remember any birthday gifts, let alone birthday parties,, I was abused by my father and 2 brothers and their friends , I was left home alone, while my parents went to cafe, if I got bad results in school, it was because I was stupid and good for nothing,, I was called a whore when I was 8, I was beaten when I cried because i was bullied by my brothers, my parents got divorced when i was 12, and i was glad dad was gone, my mom was devestaded, and self-pity, and got depressed from the divorce, so i felt sorry for my mom and took over the duties, such as s cleaning the house, grocery shopping, and cooking, when I was 14 my mother met my stepfather, she was head over heels in love, so she started enjoying her life again, going on trips and vacations, eating out, I stayed at home alone, without money, or food, on my 16th birthday, she married my stepfather, 14 days later I was allowed to leave, because they preferred to be alone without children, I had become pregnant in the meantime, mother knew this, I gave birth at the end December '91 I was homeless and slept in cars, occasionally with friends and sometimes I could stay with my brother or sister, I also let a colleague of my brother's use me because I wanted shelter for my baby, which made me again got pregnant when I was 17 by the time I turned 18 I ended up in a refuge for women with children, from there I started building my life, got my first apartment, I started a relationship again, with my oldest childs dad, which I gave shelter because he was also homeless, this man was very aggressive, physically and mentally, but had 2 more children from him, i only left him when our youngest daughter was 15 and she wanted to leave home because of her father's behavior..
My connection with my kids, is fantastic i love them to the moon and back, i raised them totaly diffrent, , my oldest son lived with me unti he was 28 and my youngest until she was 23, i also took my big sisters 4 kids in as their guardian, when she passed away at 39 i have a wonderful connection with them also,
i am now gratefull for the horrible childhood my parents gave me, and the very toxic relation i had with my husband (father of 3 of my kids) because the connection i have whit my kids is without a doubt the most beautiful thing in the world
Currently i am taking care of my mother ( 3 years now) whose suffering from dementia, high blood pressure, diabetes, and see her as my unwanted child, but i take responsibility for her, this is the difference between us..
I dont want a statue or applause or anything else, i dont expect anything in return, because the appreciation i feel is more than enough..
Sending you so much love♥️ you were very brave.
@@ivonalegler2032 thx 🙏😇♥️
I pretty much felt the same way. I feel your pain. I took care of my father and mother before they passed away. I was like the black sheep of the family and I did not realize why until I was 22 years old then I found out and it wasn't even my fault. Like you i am grateful for my past. If it were not for my past I would not be the woman I am today. I do not have a relationship with my children. I wish I did. Hopefully that will come. Take care! 🌹🌹🌹
@@sandrazawada5316 🙏❤️
Kenny, it so awesome what does you have opened foe me! It's been a minute since I communicated. But, I ve been busy, in a good way. Ouldnt have made without you mr knowledge. Thank you for sharing.
1. Yes, I said I'll never do this to my children. I didn't, he's better off for it.
2. I did parent my child different, he's better off for it.
3. Nope, I parented my child my way, I did make adjustments. He's better off for the it.
4. My parents were perfectly imperfect. I love them for it. They worked with their tools cause that's all they had. Crap rolls downhill.
5. Perfectly Imperfect, one of the best things I have ever heard. It has allowed me to give grace and forbearance. God bless you Kenny Weiss.
6. It's been way to long, I know. I've been super busy at self development. I have missed you.
Bryan:)
I’m happy to hear that you are learning and growing and doing better
Mother heart father head. Yes your right. I've repeated that quote and felt guilty.
My parents grew up during the depression and their role modeling for parenting was part archaic, part winging it and all it is all they knew.
I hear you on that one.
Powerful example of: “to hit a child is inappropriate, as it would be to hit an adult.”.
OK, you said to leave our comments. Here goes! I do not remember my mother or father ever showing me love, kindness, protection, nurturing, etc. I didn't feel love even one day in my life growing up. My brother and sister were very abusive to me and my mother and father did not protect me. I was determined to be better than my mother and thought I was doing a great job but I do not have a relationship with four of my adult children except one and that is very minimal. Three of my children do not talk with me and they even abuse me. One son threw me to the floor cussing at me saying vile things I can't even remember. He threatened my life in front of my husband and my husband did not even want to correct him in any way. I am surprised I have lived with this pain for years. I finally have hope that you can show me how to get past the pain. Thanks.
In the thick of it as a solo parent to a five year old... and I have most definitely made a conscious choice to not put pressure on my little guy to be competitive, in any way "perfect" or "the best". That was put on me by my perfectly imperfect mom & I knew it was wrong when it was happening to me as a child. (And it has affected me fundamentally throughout life.) The irony is... my 5 year old is constantly asking if I'm proud of him (which I usually tell him, meaningfully, that I am on a daily basis) and is endlessly comparing himself to other kids now that he started kindergarten (could also be ego formation). And let's not bring up the eruption of frustration if he doesn't execute something perfectly on the first try. With the conscious action of giving him a loving, supportive upbringing with the goal of letting him unfold, as his own wondrous self I am encountering his own self-inflicted pressure & the resultant frustration that ensues. And it certainly triggers me !! 😐 No one truly mentioned what a catch 22 parenting is...I think the best anyone can do is find laughter & forgiveness through our fleeting lives. Maybe (hopefully) when he's in his 20s we can kick back & laugh about it all, together.
It’s not lie. It clicked to my mind that my parents are perfectly imperfect. Truth hurts but I don’t stay forever from the past. I have to think better into learning.
Kenny I haven't listened to this yet but I am excited to hear this one!
Thank God I found you.
Everything that I was taught was all lies and destructive
I’m surprised I’m still alive
My uncle used to beat me and they said “I’m was bad and deserved it”
People think it’s ok for things to be bad
Thank you for the revelation
I hate my mother for her beating me! I’m working on overcoming this. My father was an alcoholic don’t really like him either and he’s dead due to alcoholism died at 46 and yes I did make a conscious effort to raise my children differently and yes I’ll let them voice their opinions no I am not the perfect parent but I can honestly say I did not treat my children the way I was treated. I never belittled my children because I know how much that hurts. I know I made many mistakes as a parent and I’m very sorry for them. And I have also apologized to my children. I live with my adult daughter who is 41 now and I had this discussion with her just the other day. And she is in denial that I wasn’t the perfect parent something she has to work on. She is not ready the face it right now. I am in therapy working on my issues.
Thank you for sharing your story. I commend you for doing the hard work and starting your healing journey.
My mom used to make me pay rent as soon as I got a job at 18
They ruined my life, real strict always got involved with bad people
I felt I didn’t fit in with nice people
Fear
How you deal with memories you can’t erase from your mind
Great question. That means you are stuck in the Worst Day Cycle and need Emotional Mastery. If you aren't ready to commit to that healing journey just yet, I have just created this new tool where you can type in any question and it pulls from all of my content to give you the solution you are looking for and it gives you direct links to the original source of the content and best of all, it is FREE. Give it a try. ;-)
kennyweiss.net/ask-kenny/
I never hit my child & she turned out to be abusive to her child so how did that happen explain please
No i challenge them all the time 😂🤣😂
Don't spare the rod
Don’t spare the rod on the kids or the wife or the dog. Is that acceptable?