Living Alone: Is it Worth it? | Pros and Cons
Вставка
- Опубліковано 29 чер 2024
- Today we're talking about the benefits and the not so great parts of living alone. I am lucky to have lived on my own for two years and as great as it has been, I'm also sharing some of my worries and anxieties around living alone for anyone who may be considering.
Hope you like it!
Kirsten
My Amazon Storefront: www.amazon.com/shop/kirstenas...
I'm surprised you didn't mention as a pro that you get to decorate your space the way you want without compromising with a roommate. 😉
Ugh, it was number 2 on my list and I completely glanced over it!!
I’m in my 40s, I’m an elementary school teacher, and I love living alone! I actually have 2 fur babies and they are great company, but I definitely prefer the quiet time to myself. I am very neat & particular, and like things a certain way. I like not having to share my things, having a more flexible schedule, and just doing my own thing. Spending time with friends, family, co-workers, and students is great; but once I come home, I really enjoy time for myself without any disruptions. I highly recommend living alone! 😊
Had several anxiety attacks during my first month of living alone but happy to report that at the 6 month mark I’m doing pretty well. Will not be renewing my lease or continuing to furnish the place due to noise issues from the surrounding areas which kinda sucks but I’m ok with waiting to go all out when I move this fall! Pray for me y’all. xo!
Aw I hear you!! Hoping you find a really awesome place when your lease is up. I had similar issues at my last apartment (noise, etc.) but am much happier now and not having those problems.
Being in my 20’s, living alone has been the BEST decision I have made. I am very proud I was able to achieve this milestone while living in NYC because rent is ridiculously high here. I can relate with EVERY. SINGLE. POINT you discussed. You had me at the first pro, which was the reason I decided to live alone, to begin with.
I worked as a nanny for 8 years in Manhattan and was around kids, their parents, their friends, their household, their staff, and everything that entails for hours on end. I wanted the ability not to socialize after I got home and just do me. A lot of people don’t realize how consuming a full time nanny job can be in the city. I am also very clean, neat and organized, so I love the ability to keep my space looking spotless if I can help it. Ironically, I can also be lazy, so if I don’t feel like worrying about my apartment for a few days or week(s), I just don’t.
So far what I’ve enjoyed the most has been my privacy and the ability to bring guests over, without having to coordinate with a housemate about it.
I'm single have always lived alone aside from when I lived with my parents until I was 23 and I'm 42 now. I think because I've always been alone so long, I kinda prefer it honestly and when I go on trips or vacations with friends, I always want my own room because I most comfortable that way I'm a loner anyway. I also don't have to worry about someone else's habits and lifestyle that might conflict with mine and that can really be a big adjustment. I had someone stay with me for six months to help her out she paid half the rent and utilities but she was always there which was hard especially if I wanted to bring a date home or watch TV in my living room she was watching TV so a adjustment for me but I was able to save alot of money with her there and I felt more secure with someone there especially at night.
Yes! It is so nice not to have to worry about catering to anyone. You're so kind to have let your friend stay with you for so long - glad you were able to see the perks!
Great video!! You made some very interesting points about living alone. I lived alone about three years before getting married and I often think back on those days and missed it sometimes. I definitely learned a lot about myself during that time and enjoyed it.
Yes!! I will one day share my space with a special someone :) but for now i'm glad to be content with my own company.
I love this video! I’ve never lived on my own and I’m dying to. Unfortunately as a New Yorker, rent is astronomical. I feel at peace when my roommate is gone and I’m completely alone. I’m hopeful I can find a place on my own
Loved this video girl! I've been living alone in a studio for the past year and and I do get lonely at times but for the most part I love it! Thanks for the video girl!
Yes! Cheers to the studio girlies. Glad you're loving it!
Yes it gets lonely but most times it’s peaceful
I love living alone mainly for your first pro… when I come home from work I need to unwind/decompress and literally just not speak. There’s something about just coming home to your own space with your home heated or cooled to your liking. There’s something people don’t mention when your used to cooking for a certain number of people it’s almost hard to reduce it. I cook way too much food (that I never finish). *Also you can buy a zipper helper on Amazon
True my husband and I are alot alike after work this is why I don't have kids
@@melb4116 I’ll be child free forever also
@@ooooooashley 😁
Hi Kirsten!🕊 Enjoyed your video! Your transparency is appreciated!😉 I think it’s a good thing that you are learning yourself and what you like and don’t like about living alone. You mature in a lot of ways and learn responsibilities needed for ALL things.
I personally loved it! I now live with my child and we are so happy! He is the sweetest! I teach him lots of things as he is growing. He too is learning a lot being independent and self sufficient. He enjoys his alone time as well.👍
I know there will come a time when you will be ready for that “alone” season to be over with until then…ENJOY YOUR SPACE!😀
Many sweet blessings your way!🌷💚🌷
Hi Kirsten, Love the color of your outfit and pillows. You have such fabulous taste.I agree with everything you said about living alone, except for the company leaving 🤣. I am very when they leave so I can clean up. May your days always be happy and may you always have the best of health. I love all your videos .✨
I love living alone and I like it tidy. I never get lonely but I’m older so there’s that. I do have a cat I love and he keeps me company. So would recommend having a kitty. No need to walk him or listen to barking, just meowing. The down side is I have no one to go on vacation with. But I’m going to venture out and maybe go to Mexico.
I *love* love love your videos! When I was married--- I was with a pilot so he was home 3 days, gone 4--it was PERFECTION for me. I enjoy As soon as I missed him he would return. I admire the lovely life you've created for yourself there. PS... the key example is a great point--- living alone is blissful but it's ALL on us. You become very self-reliant!
Absolutely! The freedom is unmatched. Oh a pilot - that sounds like a good deal 😆
I recently started living alone 3 weeks ago and watching your videos and listening to your thoughts has helped me so much to make my decisions and also not feel as lonely with my thoughts knowing we all feel the same way 😂❤️
Aw yay girlie! That's so awesome. It's going to be so fulfilling :)
Hi Kirsten! 👋🏼 What a thoughtful, endearing, candid review of pros and cons! This was a truly enjoyable video and I applaud your transparency. I believe many of us share your views. Having lived alone, with roommates and with a spouse, I can say that I gained very beneficial life skills living alone. In fact, though you have sole responsibility for everything, learning your capabilities can become useful in later life. When I married, only God knew my spouse would one day become disabled. But because I learned independence, money management, ingenuity and resilience living alone, I was able to draw on that experience when suddenly facing crises in my married life. You are WINNING, sweet Kirsten❣️ Here's a tip for things that go bump in the night or hallway: invest in really good earplugs on Amazon. I used to use the drugstore foam plugs for years, but the rubbery earplugs are the best! They reduce that concerning ambient noise, while allowing you to hear something that matters. They're washable, come in a case and will change your life! I just love your vlogs, Kirsten. Keep being wonderful YOU❣️
Wow, April. Thanks so much for sharing. I'm so glad you were able to remain strong and get through that hurdle. I always appreciate your thoughts and feel extra grateful that you are so vulnerable with me. it's incredible how the internet can bring people together ❤️
I don't live alone but I've only been married for 2 years and my husband works full time so I have mornings and afternoons to myself which I LOVE!!! I always have my alone time then when he comes home late afternoon I'm ready to be with him 🤗 it's funny because sometimes when my parents call they feel bad because they think I feel lonely or bored when I'm alone but I try to explain that's it's okay I literally never feel lonely and I don't really get bored. I love being home by myself and just doing me 🤍 I'm trying to enjoy this time while I can before I have children 🥰
Ahh the best of both worlds!! That sounds amazing - enjoy it!
@@kirstenashley2864 thanks!! You keep enjoying your alone time as well 🥰💕
I’m in healthcare and work full time , I’m the same I like to come home and be quiet. I’m married and my husband is a talker , but thank goodness he likes to watch tv and I don’t . I also love to cook and he says if I cook he cleans so that works out great, and yes my husband always steals my snacks :)
Haha I guess if I were married i wouldn't mind sharing my snacks 😉☺ It sounds like you have a good situation going!
Y'all need to hide the snacks..yeah l had to do it with 3 teens..
I'd love to see a video on how you style your wardrobe. Casual, work and going out outfits please 🥰 You always look so beautiful and classy!
Oo this is a good one! I'll try to make it happen :)
New subscriber!! I loved this video!!
Thank you! Welcome to the little family 🫶🏼
I’ve been living alone in a studio apartment for since November last year! I have my moments of being alone I have a dog she keeps me company but other than that it’s pretty good! My work schedule is from 1-9 but that will be changing next week so the loneliness I feel hopefully that will go away soon! Thanks for this video!
Yes, I love that you have a dog to keep you company! I often think about getting a pet - maybe one day.
GREAT VID!
Same, I talk to myself a lot and started doing this when I began living alone!
haha it's the best!!
Hi Kirsten! You have the best style! You should consider an Amazon storefront with all your faves!! Just a thought 😊
Thank you! I have one 😌 I've linked it here: www.amazon.com/shop/kirstenashley
Kirsten, I think there is a tool you can buy to zip up your dresses (not a hanger, literally a tool that is sold for that purpose). I don’t think I like living alone. the only time I lived alone (sort of) was when my daughter was young. I got married when whe was 11 and haven’t been alone since but my home is big enough that my husband and I can have our separate spaces when we want.
Living alone is great! If you want company, they can stay and then leave the next day! Same with dating , I got my space, he has his🤗 Maybe get a dog, they will alert you when someone is around! Their good company, even though you work all day , like myself, they wait for you to come home!
Time will make you get more adjusted to your situation, best of luck
buKirsten, some of us married people still have those options. My diet is a little different than my husband’s but I still cook things that he likes. But the great thing is, he cooks too. So, if I can’t eat it or am not feeling it, he can cook things for himself. But a lot of things come over time and being with someone for a few years.
Thanks for sharing! Glad you have both figured out a routine that works for you. Just sharing from my own personal experience, but of course I can't speak for everyone.
When i was in my late teens and early 20's all i did was work friends work and school. I remember coming home after a long day to a quiet home and just relaxing to recharge. Now married with 2 little ones there is no down or quiet time so if i ever get quiet time its uncomfortable lol but such as life
Aw haha your home life must be so exciting! I'm looking forward to the day I have little ones running around :)
Solitude ROCKS!
OMG agree 100%! About doors, if you are allowed to do so where you live, could you putan additional dead bolt on your door? Or you can get a chain bolt lock - with an adjustable chain - so you can open the door only 1 to 2 inches instead of the entire length. That's if your landlord allows it!
Yes! I'm lucky that my door came with one of those additional locks so that I can open it a few inches. I always keep it on which definitely helps me feel more secure :)
I have become stronger by living alone and I wouldn't change it for anyone 😊I don't believe in compromise particularly on the way I want things done. Hosting someone every now and then isn't the same as sharing your space every day. I used to live with someone for many years and I was always exhausted from the responsibilities of taking care of us both...Never again 😉 I've been single for so long and I love it 😁
I'm so glad you've realized that you're better off alone! I'm feeling really good about living on my own now as well, but do hope to one day share my space with a special someone ☺
@@kirstenashley2864 I wish you the best sweetie pie, especially in love 😊It's not easy to connect with someone, but when it happens it can be magical 💖
I need that recharge too, I loved that when I lived alone. I am married now and I have to ask for that alone time, my partner is very understanding and supportive.
Everyone should be able to take some time for themselves! It's so great that you are able to communicate those needs.
Another pro to living alone is being able to control the temperature in your place. This has always been kind of an issue for me. I’m always cold, meanwhile, the other person/people are always hot.
Yes! I never thought about this but I do run very cold
I have real life trauma from living with roommates. Now I live alone 10/10 !!
Ahh I hear that!! I love living alone too and will never have roommates again as long as I can help it and unless they're a life parter and my kids haha
Yes talking to myself started after I began to live alone and I never use to🥴
I’ve never lived alone and I seriously couldn’t bcaz I’m scared to stay alone and those noises and sounds gives me anxiety…I left my family when I got married so never experienced living alone. You’re very brave kudos to you…
I completely understand that!! It can be tough at times. I do look forward to the days of spending my life with that special someone but for now I'm content in my tiny apartment ☺
What are some tips for that loneliness feeling? Like what are things that you do to get over that hump of that bit of sadness?
I honestly like to get wrapped up in one of my favorite tv shows or take a really nice warm shower while playing my favorite podcast on my shower speaker. I get lost in the words and find that I forget about that lonely feeling!
@@kirstenashley2864 Thank you! You’re amazing 🥺!!
Hi Kristen ..Yes, living alone can be frightening at times. Agreed..... Enjoy your ideas and videos..Perhaps consider acquiring protection girl friend. As a women, I love living alone, yet, mirror your concerns......Men are much sronger than wonen. My Mom is gone. I feel responsible for
HEART
Protecting, myself, loved ones, and pets. 🐾🐾🌚🌛🍕🍰 🌼🌱🌸🦋
Thank you for sharing ❤ It can absolutely be hard, I'm glad you're taking care of yourself as best as you can!
COST-BENEFIT Analysis=LIVING ALONE WINS!(splendid isolation)
I am 55 and have lived alone for most of those years since age 18. I never want to live with someone now. Living alone is wonderful.
Thats incredible! I love hearing all of these stories of women living alone and loving it :)
❤️
I think living alone is nice. Nobody to mess with your stuff 😬
Lol exactly!!
Honestly, I don't find any joy living with q roommate. I've had good roommates and roommates where I should be on that show you mentioned... just awful. But when you live alone... there is no compromise. I love having my own space and it's always my choice to invite people over or not. My home never smells weird and if it does, that's my own fault. I have a cat though, so idk if I technically live alone, but she can't call 911 if I do get hurt. I find way more pros than cons. I sometimes dream of living in nyc 😁 Buuuuuut not with a roommate. No way. I'd personally, me personally, I'd be too miserable. Ill come visit nyc though. 😁
Haha I know! I was never interested in finding a roommate beyond my college days. Living on your own is such an incredible experience. I might need to get a pet one day like you, but for now I'm ok with just me :)
How hard can it sometimes be to save money when it comes to living alone
Our old apartment had a key pad to get in and out so if I forgot my keys I had to wait outside our apartment to be let in
I'm always so awkward when it happens!
@@kirstenashley2864 omg same
It’s wild to me that there’s people out there who’ve never lived alone. I’ve always enjoyed it but these days I could use someone to split the rent with lol.
Yes it's so necessary! Hahah I heard you on the rent though.
"SELF-Reliance ", by Ralph Emerson should be required reading in All schools
FREEDOM AND SILENCE ARE HARD TO COMPARE WITH PEOPLE...EVERYBODY TALKS TO THEMSELVES SILENTLY OR OUT LOUD
What camera did you used to record this video if you don’t mind sharing that information… I know it’s not a question related to your video
No worries! I just used my iphone 12 pro max :)
I'm sorry I misunderstood your name ! It's Kirsten
No worries! Thanks for being apart of this online community :)
Living with others is healther even though there're neucences.
Work shouldn't be so stressful, that living alone becomes the answer to stress.
You make an interesting point. I am in my 20’s and decided to live alone mostly because I wanted my alone time when I got home from work - my previous job was consuming and I felt I needed a break from socializing every night. However, my decision to take on paying rent was 100% based on my personality, preferences and wish for privacy. I am inherently somewhat of a loner who was forced to be this social butterfly due to her job.
Most importantly, the privacy aspect was huge for me as I lived with my family and had to conform to their household. Living alone gives one so much flexibility, specially while being so young, in my 20’s.
You are such a SWEETY PIE 🥧🥧🍰🍰
Thank you!! :)