Thanks for everything Pathra. You did the story justice :) soon "Maddie" and "Jasper" and I are going to drop a video portraying the side of his friends, how they experienced the whole thing, and how we are doing now..... and the other horrors that we have since uncovered. I think it'll be nice for them to have a platform to vent too
Hey! In case you are indeed OP in the story, I have a small group of friends in Phantom that have very recently started playing the game (getting them to actually clear MSQ is a nightmare 🥲) so if you need people to just hang out with, feel free to search me up, my user is also my char's first name!
We look forward to any updates! So sorry you had to go through this entire ordeal. I've known my fair share of pathological liers and manipulators and they're very good at getting what they want from people. Almost parasitic in their behavior. I hope this all works out better for you in the end
Heeey, OP I'm offering myself to become part of the army you're recruiting for as a fellow Chaos (although on Phantom) player 🤣 Beginner Savage (started and cleared this tier), hopeful future ultimate raider who just kind of vibes in the game a lot if I'm not busy with something. I'm pretty open to just chatting and vibing, running content be it fate farming, roulettes, fishing, or anything really, so if you're interested, my main's name is Kuura Lunaris ^^
@@StygianCorvus oooh I think we've been in parties together, I recognize your name! You should deff try ultimates if you want to, you might enjoy it ^^
My husband and I met in WoW and we've been married this coming June now 10 years.... but I tell EVERYONE it's a unique and fate driven way we met and we are LUCKY it worked because I've heard so many horror stories of people meeting in games, meeting IRL and it's a disaster..... Also I don't blame the OP at all for her wanting him to go away. Personality is important but you have to be physically attracted to someone for it to work. It sounds shallow but it's a fact. If you are repulsed by someone's appearances, or even smells, it'll never work out for you in the long run.
I met my bf on ffxiv but i am the first person to tell ppl NOT to actively look for partners there. Tbf, my bf and I met purely by chance, bc i invited him to my party by mistake, so we ended up just... doing content together with my other friend, bc why not? i found out we lived in same country and started talking. eventually he became interested to know me better but i said i don't date online, and if he was interested, he could travel and meet me irl so that's what he did and the rest is history, as they say.
I also met my s.o. in wow more than ten years ago. I was very cautious with our interactions for months. We met 1 year later and we fell more in love. We visited each other often and then i moved in with him later. Id heard lots of bad stories about meeting someone online and some that worked out. I guess for ppl who are dating ppl online be very cautious who youre talking to. Always talk via camera if possible and be transparent to each other. And try to meet in person asap. Imo having to see that person irl early will give you a sense of who they really are and if you have attractionat all with them.
"you have to be physically attracted to someone for it to work. It sounds shallow but it's a fact. If you are repulsed by someone's appearances, or even smells, it'll never work out for you in the long run." You're literally just proving the black pill to be true LOL
@@morablaze486 How in the world is that "black pill"? The guys who say this stuff would never be willing to date some woman they found repulsive - for some reason it only ever goes one way.
Avery, If you do see this or when you see this please know there are things both beyond one's control and in one's control. You can change what's in ones control not be angry at those pointing it out.
This Drama story followed by the great interview is one of the wildest ones I've heard. I almost couldn't believe it but I have met individuals who are like OP's ex. Thanks for sharing.
What makes this story so different from the others is that it is so genuine and authentic. A lot of the stories Pathra reads come off as fiction and completely dramatized. I hope OP can heal and move on, and us as the viewers learn when something is a red flag.
... Its a bit of a stretch to call all of them fake. Mayby dramatised and embellished but since many actually date back a long time, you cant expect them to remember everything word for word...
Probably because most stories are just silly/cringe-y and just forget about it for the most part. When you have financial fraud and cheating happening, it's hard to forget.
@@Elany Maybe... who is to say? Like OP here said, there is no way we'll ever find out. For simplicities sake, I just go for "its all true, even if details may be hazy" by default - until proven otherwise :D
This is crazy!, I’m also an obese guy but I’m losing weight and working towards employment (I do volunteer work so I can get work experience for my CV). It’s very hard to work and exercise but not trying is worse.
Yeah nothing wrong with struggling with weight issues and employment especially in this economy (im not struggling with weight but am with employment). Lying to people about it though is a big problem. Working to improve yourself is important to though taking care of your own mental health and not putting yourself down too much over it is also important
Yep, after watching the last video, and now this one. All my time went to him too, and would say the same stuff in different ways in different context. Thank you for sharing these stories. It makes me feel so, so much better about my decision.
My father always says, you cannot change a person beyond the age of 5 (five!). And I was always like, no way! But... well... I changed my mind: you really cant change people - they can only change if they want to. So, yeah, maybe he will change... Circumstances being as they are, he might turn a new leaf... and find new friends... and hopefully he wont manipulate them. But... yeah... we wont know that. It could be a happy ending, but thats up to him, not anyone else. Kudos to OP :)
yeah... and all the stories were like this, after cross referencing the last 10 years with his friends that he was living at, friends that supported him since elementary, we uncovered such a mountain of lies... I feel like, maybe he wanted to vent to me about bad stuff that was happening? So with this job, he wanted to express that it had happened? Yet then made himself look like the good guy and condemning the bad guy? All the stories that I heard from him that depicted this righteous, forgiving, loving persona all turned out to be The Other Side of the story that was not him.
I've never even played a final fantasy game, but I love watching your videos when my roommate watches them (he plays). So I don't understand everything you read, but you make it interesting
I feel so much for OP, and saw myself in many aspects in it as well. Had a similar relationship with a guy I met in a game online (I have stayed single since), betrayal, lies, toxic and manipulative ppl, the woes of getting into your 30s and not being able to start a family soon - but also very sweet and supportive parents and friends so I can stand my ground. I play on NA sadly, otherwise I would've suggested to do Roulettes or go fishing or do FATEs and such, but hopefully with DC travel it might be possible to do soon! I hope you will find the friends you are seeking and I dearly believe in Karma, and you will find the person of your life soon 💜 Wish you all the best!!
Op seems like a very sweet person and I'm glad she is dealing so well with that horrible situation. A lot of things about her ex felt very close to home, luckily the positive things. I met my boyfriend on FF and the way she described Avery, with deep voice, funny, good at the game etc. But I can gladly say my guy is not a scammer and lier with poor hygiene. If I was on Chaos I would gladly hang out with OP, although from what I hear is that Chaos raiders are coming over to us for raiding anyways :P but I'm also a filthy casual not ready for raiding XD
I have a story. A long one and I have been thinking about sending it. The problem is that my story includes being a second in command to one of the very known jerks and egomaniacs of Jenova. Even Mr.Happy has referenced him (I believe). Started at World of Darkness patch of 2.4(?) and with the influx of new people that flooded the game at Shadowbringers I think his notoriety has fallen, but... Lol SOMEONE will know and I don't want him around me again. All I will say is Dex Tank. (Mr.Happy didn't say names, but he did say this in a video.)
I am intrigued. It is your choice in the end of the day and it will be all anonymous so even if people think its you they wont actually know who wrote it up or who its about. Could have happened to any other person out there too.
If it weren't for the fact I live on the opposite side of the world where my morning is their evening, I'd totally jump over to EU servers to look for an opportunity for a static. I hope OP finds many friends and more ❤❤❤
Oh yeah, been there done that. My catfish was in Alabama and it took 3 and a half years before I broke things off. The pathological lying didn't end there. Went on for years after that. I knew there was something seriously wrong when he didn't want me to see him or come visit even if I paid for the plane tickets to SoCal. It's great that you're moving on and reflecting on what happened. You've got your whole life ahead of you. Keep your dreams alive, even if they don't come in the timing that you had anticipated. I wish you well on your journey 🌺🍵🙏
no it isn't, but after 10 years there was just zero confirmation of anything. I think it's the combination of zero online presence with never meeting his friends or anything is what made it unauthentic
Yeah idk what they mean with online presence, I literally never put myself out there in social media. My mental health improved significantly the moment I dropped social media so I no longer have a presence on social media but still have a small circle of friends I talk to online regularly.
Yeah I feel like its only a red flag in combination with a lot of other things, on its own it might just mean you're a private person. I have no social media presence with my real name attached except this youtube account. I just don't like the idea of sharing my personal stuff with the entire internet lol. But I'm also an Elder Millennial, so my days of sharing everything on the internet were already almost over back when Myspace was brand new.
I hate how much I really appreciated this story, thank you so much for telling it!! I felt really alone with my experience, despite it being so very, very similar to this one. I don't intend on telling it myself, but it was pretty much the same, minus the fact that he wasn't living in another country. The situation was absolutely terrible for me and I am really proud of OP that they pulled through this themselves and may now enjoy their life in the best way they can possibly do. I wish you all the best. ♥
“Maddie” here again; “Avery” and I used to watch reaction videos ALL the time to stuff like this. Cinnamon toast Ken, Penguinz0, creators like that. I’m hoping to send these videos to them, and maybe just maybe they’ll do a video on it too. It’s honestly just the justice I think he deserves. 🤷🏼♀️
You should spread it everywhere u can lol which server r u in? I'd like to join your fc with my gf after our own fc imploded lol looking for good people to play with
It's probably because those two races are the 2 that most females (including myself) are most attracted to. XD Thus, females find themselves in these weird relationships more often I think. At least that's my theory. 😅 I'm also attracted to the male buns but I think most of us females know that most of the male buns are gay XD so we kinda steer clear of them. lol
It's funny cuz I'm a straight dude and I play catgirl and I ALWAYS get the most outta pocket, creepy, horny tells from other dudes playing male characters and it's pretty much always male au ra, if not then it's a male miqo. Like the lalas, the roes, the buns, and hyur be chill af, but u gotta watch for those catboys and lizard dudes 😂
@@CmonstahxD Really? Funnily enough, I'm a female who plays on a female miqo and I actually get hit on by other female miqos. 😅 (it even says I'm married on my bio lol) I'm pretty sure it's really dudes just trying to get some lesbo action out of me or something. XD Sorry if this ends up being TMI or sounding too political but I don't blame guys for playing a female avatar though (literally all my male friends do this) because let's be honest, you'd rather be staring at a nice plump female booty and bobas rather than a male's if you're a straight man, but boy do I wish more straight guys played on actual male avatars especially if you're a straight single man looking for a connection with a single straight/bi female, because as a female I actually get turned off by guys who play as females because it's not giving us that manly/masculine energy through the screen that us females crave. (I'm actually bi but I obviously favor males given that I have a husband lol) I actually miss getting compliments by male avatars. (especially handsome ones)😂 I've actually made a few cool friends that way just by admiring each other's avatars, because mine is modeled after KDA Ahri from League of Legends and a lot of people seem to love the look so it's always nice hearing kind compliments about my glam. 🥰 (So I encourage people to approach me :p) I have a couple male avatars that I play on sometimes when I'm bored on my main female miqo, and I notice that a LOT of people but mainly females will stare at me and/or run around me checking me out... but NONE will actually try and message me. XD It's wild how timid and scared females seem to be at approaching men, so I can understand what men have to go through to get us to notice you or approach you. (females have it easy when it comes to dating) You want to be friendly and respectful first to test the waters and get to know them before you try to jump into the flirting stage and I think that's what most people (both males and females) forget to do online and in MMOs sadly and it gives certain people and races a bad rep. 😅 People just need to have more respect for each other while also not being too afraid/scared to message/approach someone you think looks cute/cool or is giving off nice vibes. I feel like sooo many people would have more connections/relationships and friends and feel less alone if they did this. It truly breaks my heart seeing people comment that Avery was able to get multiple gfs while they can't even get one... it just makes me wanna grab society and smack some sense into them. 😭
@LinkIsMine I hella feel where ur coming fro. You are spot on 😂 and yeah some people don't understand how to take it slow and get to know someone first before tryna flirt, let alone get in someone's pants . It always cracks me up when I get the most thistiest horny tells in game and I can't help but face palm on behalf of my gender 😂😭😂😭 I'm like damn women rly have to go through this on the regular 😩
I wanted to give props to OP for eventually putting a stop to everything. She was so patient and kind considering the situation and there are others who would allowed themselves to be stuck in that nightmare. I’m similar age and it truly does suck to have your heart broken so badly with so much deceit. You look at others and wish that you had that someone. It affects you for a long time if not forever. Sending love OP
I tried to leave him him for a good year and a half but was blackmailed into staying with him because he was depressed and suicidal. He begged me to stay with him and out fear I did. He even threatened me multiple times and I was terrified of what he might do.
These story got me reminded of a guy that i know in the game turned out to be more than friends type relationship and am married irl like crazy love all the storys so far on these story
Hey OP if you read this I hope everything gets better for you and you get that army of friends. Your a sweet person and deserve the best. Keep that chin up and have a great time in ffxiv
OMG just came from the other video, and learning that the dad had really done that and he lost his mother made me sick. I hope he gets real help and gets better and can be a normal person in life, he is clearly so broken from trauma. Not an excuse for his behavior of course, but I have known people like this and after getting help they can finally become functional people. And I hope OP gets her happy future.
He was pretending the other liars in her videos were so bad of people But then actually he's just sighing like "ugh these amateurs are so bad at lying and manipulating I'm so much better at it!"
The way I see it, this is a tragic story for both of them. OP got her dreams crushed and was lied to and "Avery" clearly has many underlying issues and needs help. He is the result of childhood trauma and I feel sorry for him too. I understand why his friends got mad at him for all the lies but now that he is alone what hope there is for him to get help? Very sad imo Also one thing baffles me in this whole story. It is very personal and should have not been exposed like this to the world, specially not this soon. I see OP and Avery's friends are planning on even doing one more video ranting, why? It's looking like you all want attention at this point, sorry but really can't see it any other way :/
OP was so nice and sincere. I feel bad for her but happy she’s good and honest and she STILL hopes he’s ok which is understandable after all the time she put into him.
Good interview but I'm so sick of people using therapy speak to diagnose someone. This behavior is not sociopathic and once the internet discovers a new word they want to subscribe it to everything. The guy has serious issues but there is literally no evidence that points to being a sociopath - in fact quite a lot of evidence against it.
Went to highschool with "Avery", was friends with him for a long time purely because"Jasper" was, and he's one of my best friends to date. He sent me here to keep up with the story lol. Also it's male pattern baldness and some serious dandruff under that beanie. The theories are hilarious though so keep em coming. Man honestly I'd have never expected this from him. So glad she made this video, I was just slowly getting updates from "Jasper"
Wild stuff. Meanwhile he asked Miranda if shes single. Found out he was calling Miranda while still in my house, from day 3 and onwards... really messed up stuff.
That last video made me gag just from the description of the beanie alone, and i wear beanies somewhat often. Wash your clothes and clean yourselves people, seriously
She's really sweet tbh... keep that family dream alive! PS: Avery if you're reading this walk into your local electrician union and apply. At 28 it's easy to turn your life around if you put in the effort.
@@miktats yes Im trying to get "Tucker" his money back so I contacted his dad. Also to thank him for taking the PC away from him, and to tell him that I think it is safest for all women alive if he never gets it back.. mhm.
To be honest about the dad and mom thing thats a dual edge sword if he was lying hes a complete sicko, But it being the truth means he unfort had to experince it
I bet you he is lying to everyone about his dad unaliving his mom. Like who gets out of jail. And also would you go live with him? None of what this guy said was true
Yes. Its strange that someone could kill their girlfriend or wife, and then get out only like 20 or so years later. And why would Avery want to live with the guy who took his mom from him? Its probably made up
Can we just talk about how "Avery" popped into the stream at the end? I really hope he went back and reflected on how his choices affected people who REALLY cared for him, and that he is reflecting on the fact that they still want him to get his life together and be in a good place even after his lies and the pain he caused them.
The bit at 30:00 where you talk about his face always being blank and having no body language while his voice is lively, I think he is maybe autistic? My niece is like this, and it has been a big struggle for her because she has to actively try to remember to animate her face and body when she speaks, she was teased about it very badly in school and because of this she lacks confidence in speaking to people in person and prefers to interact digitally through text or voice-only communications.
if OP comes to midgar she's welcome to come run rolos and chill at SFW venues with my friends and I. My free company runs a rp cafe and the group I venue hop with are always looking for people to join us and hang out
No I don't believe so. I have an aunt who was completely disfunctional well into her 40s and who finally got help, turned it around, and now is a well adjusted, productive, and happy person in her 50s. Its never too late, the person just needs to get professional help, they clearly have deep seated mental health issues, once those are being treated its all about just putting in the effort and working on yourself. I don't think this guy is evil or hopeless, I think hes broken.
I highly doubt this guy paid real money for gil. The thing people often forget about gil is that it's also like real life money. TIME in the market is the real money maker. When most people "think" about gil. They think about how they are as a new player and all the new stuff they want to buy. They want gil, because they want to spend it. But you have to remember that some of these people have spent years playing this game. If you mastered crafting and bought everything back in 2.0 or HW, you're not spending crazy money to 'catch up.' You end up just dog piling more money on your collection. And the reverse of the poor-person tax also applies. If you see a really great deal like someone trying to liquidate 300 million gil worth of items for 50 mil because they're transferring or taking a break -- having the 50 mil on hand to snap that stuff up helps. Additionally, if you play so much that you have everything memorized, you can also recognize when people have underpriced things. Finally, if you have 100mil+ gil, you can also sweep a market. Buy it all up, and reset it at a higher price and control the market. Doing so requires a lot of investment and you can't spend or use that money if it's tied up in merchandise. But if you imagine you can gil cap one character an expansion, it's not hard to imagine someone with a handful of alts all capped if they've been playing for 3+ expansions. Additionally, all alts get more retainers, and more market share. The best profit I ever made was making about 3 billion gil in the month Kugane housing came out. I had spent a lot of time preparing for the housing market and crafting shit. And then when the patch came out, I signed up for all 8 retainers. 8 retainers at 20 slots each times 5 characters is a lot of market share. And while everyone is leveling up and throwing money away. I'm in town crafting and playing the market board. Granted, unlike OP's crazy guy, it did cost me RL money to hire extra retainers for a month. Pay to win feature, that is. ----------------------- It's been a long time since I've played FFXIV. I quit after the Endwalker saga, but drama like this is pretty fun to listen to! OP should still get therapy. When she explains why she fell for this guy, she states some pretty obviously stupid reasons. His voice was hot. He's knowledgable in the game which translates to powerful/rich. He's a bad boy, he had a troubled childhood. She's not looking for legitimately healthy characteristics. She's falling victim to vanity. She wants a hot dude that has power. And she's blinded so much by her lust that she overlooks all the red flags. Typical scam victim falling for delusional qualities. She takes zero accountability for her own delusions, and will make the same mistake again in the future, because she didn't learn the real lesson. She learned how to spot red flags, but she's not learning how to spot green flags. And again, green flags aren't "sounds hot and has power." ====================== I'm not sure how smart or stupid the Avery person is, but if he's really good at playing the market he could translate that shit into the stock market. That's what I did. And there's no way in hell I can ever play the gil game again. Fake money has nothing on the highs from making real money. The same can also apply to challenging content. People out there doing ultimates for a challenge. It's great if you enjoy that content. But restoring a house brought me much more joy than any gaming accomplishment I've ever done. I think sometimes people get carried away in the idea of doing something 'worthwhile' but have nothing to compare it to, so video game accomplishments feel a lot stronger. But the sad truth is, after 5 years, no one will really care. In 5 years no one will remember or care that you cleared an ultimate, or even if you ranked first on the server. So my advice for anyone looking for unsoilicted advice. Find something worthwhile to invest in, and live your best life. Don't get stuck on the treadmill of mediocrity. And no, no random hot or powerful man or woman is going to fall in your lap and save you. Your future is yours alone to conquer. The Endwalker walked alone. Empowered by his friends, but still they had to walk that path alone in the end.
Hey bro question I read all this cuz you were just spitting facts after facts one thing I wanna know is how do I start learning about playing the market most places just want you to pay and feel like a scam but I genuinely want to learn but don’t know where to start if you have any advice that would be awesome if not then you I get it but back to the video I agree with you a lot especially with her view on Avery she wanted a hot gamer dude but got reality lots of her views or vain hope she learns and doesn’t fall in this trap again but who knows that dude is scummy for what he did
Hey bro question I read all this cuz you were just spitting facts after facts one thing I wanna know is how do I start learning about playing the market most places just want you to pay and feel like a scam but I genuinely want to learn but don’t know where to start if you have any advice that would be awesome if not then you I get it but back to the video I agree with you a lot especially with her view on Avery she wanted a hot gamer dude but got reality lots of her views or vain hope she learns and doesn’t fall in this trap again but who knows that dude is scummy for what he did
@@andyramirez4293 Please don't actually try and do this as a serious thing (assuming you're talking about the real market and not the FF14 one). There are no secret tricks, and most people who claim to be making good money from it are either lying or haven't been doing it for that long. A lot of the time people will start trading during a growing market and wrongly come away thinking that their own skillful trades caused them to profit. Or they just get lucky. But in the long run that luck won't continue. Unlike FF14, real markets are monitored and traded on by algorithms and institutions in real-time. Unless you're Nancy Pelosi and have information lots of other people don't (and by definition any information you can easily find online is information lots of other people have access to), it's not going to reliably make money. (it can still be fine to mess around with if you have some money you're okay with losing, but it's not a good idea to try and make a career, or even significantly supplement your income, with day-trading)
I do remember Aura Kingdom I actually used to play it years before I was able to play FFXIV, I only had a rubbish laptop at the time, until I eventually got a computer capable of playing FFXIV then I actually abadoned Aura Kingdom, but yeah as Op says it's a really bad P2W korean game 😅 Edit: I thought Op was very brave and so respectful even though they would have every right to tear into Avery, instead they chose not too. I really love how chat was so supportive and welcoming and kind towards Op! Well if Avery does watch this and read the comments, that comment is spot on "Avery wash that beanie, touch grass and become better" Indeed and another, be honest! Just be straight up with people don't lie or anything it does no good improving yourself is the first step! Another Edit: I'm actually on EU and love making new friends! :D
OP sounds very sweet. Truth needs to be known from the start. I do not understand why people lie about their life like that. Like why?! Everyone has problems everyone has things they don't like about themselves. So why lie about it? I mean I'm 45 single been that way for 12 years an I live on Social Security an my part time job. I don't have a lot of money but my life is my own my apartment is my own my car is my own. My Hobbies Consist of D&D, FFXIV, and if I had a little more money I would do more out doors things like Camping an what not. Its a struggle but its my struggle. I am self sufficient. An I like my Peace. I'm clean my home is clean because it has to be I have two Boys. An family means more to me then anything. I mean I could go on an on but that's insane that people can't be truthful which was the whole point of this rant.
OP's story happened similar to me but not in a 10 year scale. More of like 7 months before I caught it. But he's still ingame and has singlehandedly made enemies of all the lala population (for creep reasons) and raiding community won't even bring him due to being so toxic and he's likely going to get banned at this rate lol But gezz I feel for her.
I wasn't expecting to hear "Aura Kingdom" after all these years... She's right, it's a crappy game but dang it used to be good (or it was my rose-tinted glasses back then, not sure)
i can honestly say i side with the guy on certain things, especially when i was younger. certain things she told i can 100% remember me going through. early childhood drama, losing a parent, depression, anxiety, and ptsd can really mess with people. i feel bad for her and i hope he gets the help he needs.
As somebody who you would call fabulously wealthy in FFXIV (as in, gil is not a 'thing' and I'm referred to as a gil dragon from hoarding it), he absolutely did not make that kind of gil that way. The answer he gave to you is the presumed answer everybody thinks is real until they start getting good at making gil.
Sounds like the guy needs some serious mental health guidance and help. Childhood trauma does often lead to child like adults or worse, violent ones. Shes lucky she just found an adult who hadnt grown up. I do pray this guy gets some serious help that he needs so he doesn't live off manipulation for the rest of his life.
Yea with the amount of stuff I had to put up with in my life and constantly screaming on the inside….i just don’t date anymore. I have checked out. I don’t believe it’s fair to do that to someone and bring all of those trauma to a spouse who might just walk away from it all.
I feel bad for her honestly but I don’t remember fully why she left her first bf but it’s kinda crazy to leave someone irl for someone online (oh wait nvm I think it was because they never saw eye to eye on certain things)
OP. If this person's name is Snow or starts with Snow. Hi! I'm Eden! He was a white haired catboy. To add to it, he was white with thin blonde hair. He had a really deep voice and spoke pretty slow. If he liked reading stories to you while you slept as well, then that's totally him. I feel so vindicated. We dated for only about a week and he threatened to unalive himself when I broke up with him. He also never was on cam with me without being in a super dark room and was VERY VERY good with words and a smooth talker.
Jesus. I'm a kind of heavy guy myself (not anywhere near morbidly obese.) so i get being self concious about it but this guy lied about literally anything. It's insane. He has no personality, he's just saying anything to please other people and to make him look like the nicest & best guy possible... I feel bad for what he went through but he needs help. Professional help. I feel much worse for OP for having to go through all of this. He needs to work for what he wants and not just spout empty words to get what he wants. If he's self concious about his weight, try to lose weight. (I know it's not easy.) If he's broke and needs money, try to earn money. I'm sorry for OP's loss of time. It's very sad to have wasted so much time believing something that was a lie for so damn long. Best of luck. If i was in chaos i'd have loved to join.
yeah for sure... and his knowledge about it all makes me believe that at least on that one char he couldve farmed it. But no idea about the NA ones right, cause I never saw those.
I feel like he needed to taste advantage of being in Europe and go to the doctor for his beanie disease, it sounds like he has psoriasis and it got infected. Also I also agree with op in the way you read these stories! I’m hooked I may need to submit some of mine😂
@@bubblesaur10 yes! I said omg what a coincidence when I saw the name in the chat. During the live I didn't think it was him then found out later when he came to the discord it actually was him.
also like as someone with severe trauma, idk if op is still here or reading but you cannot save people. It actively scares me when people try to "save" me from a lifetime of bad luck. all I want is ppl to sit there and let me exist without feeling shame over it, its too big for one person to unpack and thats OKAY. Some people are actually attracted to er. "projects" to fix and something like severe lifelong trauma isnt exactly 'fixeable" you can manage it but you can love people without trying to do too much. any friend who actually cares about your well being in return will recognize this and say just having your love and care is enough of a gift. we all help each other when and where we can but when its too one sided it gets sketch regardless of circumstance.
The gil part is not as hard to get as you think it is if you are an active crafter and have submarines to rake in gil. So I don't think he bought gil, he probably genuinely just spent all his time crafting when new content came out. There are a few youtubers who got multiple characters with max gil too
I think another reason OP ended up in that human garbage bin's web of lies is that a lot of time energy and even money was already spebt on yhe relationship- ten years worth! Anybody that gets in so deep would certainly have a difficult time untangling. You would end up second-guessing every little thing and it would get so exhausting. Easier to ignore it and hope it sorts itself out. My heart goes out to OP.
Damn OP, I wish you all the best in your life. You’re fantastic and deserve to be treated and given the love you were able to give ! You’re surrounded by great and supportive people, you’ll get through and have a great life ! Karma will repay you !
I starting to believe there was a rat under the beanie controlling him to play the game Ratatouille style
I always asked him to take it off because I’ve never seen what his hair looked like. He never did and now I know why
@@Miranda-rc9sw perhaps he was just balding and very insecure about it
It's probably like Tim Pool and he's bald.
@@dains6623 the only time he showed me himself without a hat was when he shaved his head. He was bald af
Thanks for everything Pathra. You did the story justice :) soon "Maddie" and "Jasper" and I are going to drop a video portraying the side of his friends, how they experienced the whole thing, and how we are doing now..... and the other horrors that we have since uncovered. I think it'll be nice for them to have a platform to vent too
Hey! In case you are indeed OP in the story, I have a small group of friends in Phantom that have very recently started playing the game (getting them to actually clear MSQ is a nightmare 🥲) so if you need people to just hang out with, feel free to search me up, my user is also my char's first name!
We look forward to any updates! So sorry you had to go through this entire ordeal. I've known my fair share of pathological liers and manipulators and they're very good at getting what they want from people. Almost parasitic in their behavior. I hope this all works out better for you in the end
Heeey, OP I'm offering myself to become part of the army you're recruiting for as a fellow Chaos (although on Phantom) player 🤣 Beginner Savage (started and cleared this tier), hopeful future ultimate raider who just kind of vibes in the game a lot if I'm not busy with something. I'm pretty open to just chatting and vibing, running content be it fate farming, roulettes, fishing, or anything really, so if you're interested, my main's name is Kuura Lunaris ^^
@@vaskud ooh will do, always happy to help some sprouts
@@StygianCorvus oooh I think we've been in parties together, I recognize your name! You should deff try ultimates if you want to, you might enjoy it ^^
My husband and I met in WoW and we've been married this coming June now 10 years.... but I tell EVERYONE it's a unique and fate driven way we met and we are LUCKY it worked because I've heard so many horror stories of people meeting in games, meeting IRL and it's a disaster.....
Also I don't blame the OP at all for her wanting him to go away. Personality is important but you have to be physically attracted to someone for it to work. It sounds shallow but it's a fact. If you are repulsed by someone's appearances, or even smells, it'll never work out for you in the long run.
I met my bf on ffxiv but i am the first person to tell ppl NOT to actively look for partners there. Tbf, my bf and I met purely by chance, bc i invited him to my party by mistake, so we ended up just... doing content together with my other friend, bc why not? i found out we lived in same country and started talking. eventually he became interested to know me better but i said i don't date online, and if he was interested, he could travel and meet me irl so that's what he did and the rest is history, as they say.
I also met my s.o. in wow more than ten years ago. I was very cautious with our interactions for months. We met 1 year later and we fell more in love. We visited each other often and then i moved in with him later. Id heard lots of bad stories about meeting someone online and some that worked out. I guess for ppl who are dating ppl online be very cautious who youre talking to. Always talk via camera if possible and be transparent to each other. And try to meet in person asap. Imo having to see that person irl early will give you a sense of who they really are and if you have attractionat all with them.
"you have to be physically attracted to someone for it to work. It sounds shallow but it's a fact. If you are repulsed by someone's appearances, or even smells, it'll never work out for you in the long run." You're literally just proving the black pill to be true LOL
I know a couple who just got engaged who met in XIV, but the difference is that they had some irl mutuals who could vouch for each other’s character.
@@morablaze486 How in the world is that "black pill"? The guys who say this stuff would never be willing to date some woman they found repulsive - for some reason it only ever goes one way.
That guy was born with that beanie on, its part of his head. OP however, so kind-hearted, i hope your future is peaceful!
Avery,
If you do see this or when you see this please know there are things both beyond one's control and in one's control. You can change what's in ones control not be angry at those pointing it out.
This Drama story followed by the great interview is one of the wildest ones I've heard. I almost couldn't believe it but I have met individuals who are like OP's ex. Thanks for sharing.
"Jasper" here. Glad to see that this is in the public for everyone to see. Thank you @Pathra for giving this story a platform.
What makes this story so different from the others is that it is so genuine and authentic. A lot of the stories Pathra reads come off as fiction and completely dramatized. I hope OP can heal and move on, and us as the viewers learn when something is a red flag.
thanks, that is very kind of you to say
... Its a bit of a stretch to call all of them fake. Mayby dramatised and embellished but since many actually date back a long time, you cant expect them to remember everything word for word...
@@markup6394 I said a lot of them, but yeah. There's just some stories that feel like people are writing their own fantasies or wattpad stories.
Probably because most stories are just silly/cringe-y and just forget about it for the most part. When you have financial fraud and cheating happening, it's hard to forget.
@@Elany Maybe... who is to say? Like OP here said, there is no way we'll ever find out. For simplicities sake, I just go for "its all true, even if details may be hazy" by default - until proven otherwise :D
my and my friend were watching this and were so sad that you didnt have the interview up this has made my day HAHAH
Omg, I was looking forward to this interview nice to listen to this while studying for my nutrition final tomorrow!
good luck with the nutrition final!
Please keep doing these readings in Jenova! It's great attending these and being it my home world, even better
This is crazy!, I’m also an obese guy but I’m losing weight and working towards employment (I do volunteer work so I can get work experience for my CV). It’s very hard to work and exercise but not trying is worse.
Yeah nothing wrong with struggling with weight issues and employment especially in this economy (im not struggling with weight but am with employment). Lying to people about it though is a big problem. Working to improve yourself is important to though taking care of your own mental health and not putting yourself down too much over it is also important
Yep, after watching the last video, and now this one. All my time went to him too, and would say the same stuff in different ways in different context. Thank you for sharing these stories. It makes me feel so, so much better about my decision.
My father always says, you cannot change a person beyond the age of 5 (five!). And I was always like, no way! But... well... I changed my mind: you really cant change people - they can only change if they want to. So, yeah, maybe he will change... Circumstances being as they are, he might turn a new leaf... and find new friends... and hopefully he wont manipulate them. But... yeah... we wont know that. It could be a happy ending, but thats up to him, not anyone else.
Kudos to OP :)
I've seen plenty of projection before but him being upset with his father for losing his job when it was actually himself is absolutely insane.
yeah... and all the stories were like this, after cross referencing the last 10 years with his friends that he was living at, friends that supported him since elementary, we uncovered such a mountain of lies... I feel like, maybe he wanted to vent to me about bad stuff that was happening? So with this job, he wanted to express that it had happened? Yet then made himself look like the good guy and condemning the bad guy? All the stories that I heard from him that depicted this righteous, forgiving, loving persona all turned out to be The Other Side of the story that was not him.
I've never even played a final fantasy game, but I love watching your videos when my roommate watches them (he plays). So I don't understand everything you read, but you make it interesting
I feel so much for OP, and saw myself in many aspects in it as well. Had a similar relationship with a guy I met in a game online (I have stayed single since), betrayal, lies, toxic and manipulative ppl, the woes of getting into your 30s and not being able to start a family soon - but also very sweet and supportive parents and friends so I can stand my ground. I play on NA sadly, otherwise I would've suggested to do Roulettes or go fishing or do FATEs and such, but hopefully with DC travel it might be possible to do soon! I hope you will find the friends you are seeking and I dearly believe in Karma, and you will find the person of your life soon 💜 Wish you all the best!!
Op seems like a very sweet person and I'm glad she is dealing so well with that horrible situation. A lot of things about her ex felt very close to home, luckily the positive things. I met my boyfriend on FF and the way she described Avery, with deep voice, funny, good at the game etc. But I can gladly say my guy is not a scammer and lier with poor hygiene.
If I was on Chaos I would gladly hang out with OP, although from what I hear is that Chaos raiders are coming over to us for raiding anyways :P but I'm also a filthy casual not ready for raiding XD
are you from Light? Yea that is where we raid haha xD
I have a story. A long one and I have been thinking about sending it. The problem is that my story includes being a second in command to one of the very known jerks and egomaniacs of Jenova. Even Mr.Happy has referenced him (I believe). Started at World of Darkness patch of 2.4(?) and with the influx of new people that flooded the game at Shadowbringers I think his notoriety has fallen, but... Lol SOMEONE will know and I don't want him around me again.
All I will say is Dex Tank. (Mr.Happy didn't say names, but he did say this in a video.)
oh yikes.. that sounds awful.
I am intrigued. It is your choice in the end of the day and it will be all anonymous so even if people think its you they wont actually know who wrote it up or who its about. Could have happened to any other person out there too.
If it weren't for the fact I live on the opposite side of the world where my morning is their evening, I'd totally jump over to EU servers to look for an opportunity for a static. I hope OP finds many friends and more ❤❤❤
so sweet to say!
Oh yeah, been there done that. My catfish was in Alabama and it took 3 and a half years before I broke things off. The pathological lying didn't end there. Went on for years after that. I knew there was something seriously wrong when he didn't want me to see him or come visit even if I paid for the plane tickets to SoCal.
It's great that you're moving on and reflecting on what happened. You've got your whole life ahead of you. Keep your dreams alive, even if they don't come in the timing that you had anticipated.
I wish you well on your journey
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Op was cool as hell, hope everything works out great for her in the future!
Now interview Beanie Dude, people want to know whats under it.
Big splotches of red and scales of psoriasis, with him being wildly unhealthy.
17:37 tbf, i dont have much of an online presence either. i dont think its that uncommon to not have socials like instagrame or twitter etc..
no it isn't, but after 10 years there was just zero confirmation of anything. I think it's the combination of zero online presence with never meeting his friends or anything is what made it unauthentic
my only online presence for the last couple years is just talking with my friends on discord, nothing else lol
Yeah idk what they mean with online presence, I literally never put myself out there in social media. My mental health improved significantly the moment I dropped social media so I no longer have a presence on social media but still have a small circle of friends I talk to online regularly.
Yeah I feel like its only a red flag in combination with a lot of other things, on its own it might just mean you're a private person. I have no social media presence with my real name attached except this youtube account. I just don't like the idea of sharing my personal stuff with the entire internet lol. But I'm also an Elder Millennial, so my days of sharing everything on the internet were already almost over back when Myspace was brand new.
I hate how much I really appreciated this story, thank you so much for telling it!!
I felt really alone with my experience, despite it being so very, very similar to this one.
I don't intend on telling it myself, but it was pretty much the same, minus the fact that he wasn't living in another country.
The situation was absolutely terrible for me and I am really proud of OP that they pulled through this themselves and may now enjoy their life in the best way they can possibly do.
I wish you all the best. ♥
I just started ff14 on that server couple weeks ago. Now I'm not sure if I wanna continue anymore
“Maddie” here again; “Avery” and I used to watch reaction videos ALL the time to stuff like this. Cinnamon toast Ken, Penguinz0, creators like that. I’m hoping to send these videos to them, and maybe just maybe they’ll do a video on it too. It’s honestly just the justice I think he deserves. 🤷🏼♀️
You should spread it everywhere u can lol which server r u in? I'd like to join your fc with my gf after our own fc imploded lol looking for good people to play with
I’m sure Asmongold would do a video on this too.
OMG CinnamonToastKen would be so fun to watch covering this stuff. I hope all of you are doing well by the way!
I FUCKIN knew hed be a miqo/au ra 😂 why is it always those giys that end up being weird af. 🤔
It's probably because those two races are the 2 that most females (including myself) are most attracted to. XD Thus, females find themselves in these weird relationships more often I think. At least that's my theory. 😅 I'm also attracted to the male buns but I think most of us females know that most of the male buns are gay XD so we kinda steer clear of them. lol
Finally someone agrees
It's funny cuz I'm a straight dude and I play catgirl and I ALWAYS get the most outta pocket, creepy, horny tells from other dudes playing male characters and it's pretty much always male au ra, if not then it's a male miqo. Like the lalas, the roes, the buns, and hyur be chill af, but u gotta watch for those catboys and lizard dudes 😂
@@CmonstahxD Really? Funnily enough, I'm a female who plays on a female miqo and I actually get hit on by other female miqos. 😅 (it even says I'm married on my bio lol) I'm pretty sure it's really dudes just trying to get some lesbo action out of me or something. XD Sorry if this ends up being TMI or sounding too political but I don't blame guys for playing a female avatar though (literally all my male friends do this) because let's be honest, you'd rather be staring at a nice plump female booty and bobas rather than a male's if you're a straight man, but boy do I wish more straight guys played on actual male avatars especially if you're a straight single man looking for a connection with a single straight/bi female, because as a female I actually get turned off by guys who play as females because it's not giving us that manly/masculine energy through the screen that us females crave. (I'm actually bi but I obviously favor males given that I have a husband lol) I actually miss getting compliments by male avatars. (especially handsome ones)😂 I've actually made a few cool friends that way just by admiring each other's avatars, because mine is modeled after KDA Ahri from League of Legends and a lot of people seem to love the look so it's always nice hearing kind compliments about my glam. 🥰 (So I encourage people to approach me :p) I have a couple male avatars that I play on sometimes when I'm bored on my main female miqo, and I notice that a LOT of people but mainly females will stare at me and/or run around me checking me out... but NONE will actually try and message me. XD It's wild how timid and scared females seem to be at approaching men, so I can understand what men have to go through to get us to notice you or approach you. (females have it easy when it comes to dating) You want to be friendly and respectful first to test the waters and get to know them before you try to jump into the flirting stage and I think that's what most people (both males and females) forget to do online and in MMOs sadly and it gives certain people and races a bad rep. 😅 People just need to have more respect for each other while also not being too afraid/scared to message/approach someone you think looks cute/cool or is giving off nice vibes. I feel like sooo many people would have more connections/relationships and friends and feel less alone if they did this. It truly breaks my heart seeing people comment that Avery was able to get multiple gfs while they can't even get one... it just makes me wanna grab society and smack some sense into them. 😭
@LinkIsMine I hella feel where ur coming fro. You are spot on 😂 and yeah some people don't understand how to take it slow and get to know someone first before tryna flirt, let alone get in someone's pants . It always cracks me up when I get the most thistiest horny tells in game and I can't help but face palm on behalf of my gender 😂😭😂😭 I'm like damn women rly have to go through this on the regular 😩
Oh my god! Louisoix is my world too!! the way i gasped
small world
@@0fluu0 wow louisoix players (us) really exist!
I really hope for Op happiness!!!! You will prevail!
The mystery of the beanie
I wanted to give props to OP for eventually putting a stop to everything. She was so patient and kind considering the situation and there are others who would allowed themselves to be stuck in that nightmare.
I’m similar age and it truly does suck to have your heart broken so badly with so much deceit. You look at others and wish that you had that someone. It affects you for a long time if not forever.
Sending love OP
I tried to leave him him for a good year and a half but was blackmailed into staying with him because he was depressed and suicidal. He begged me to stay with him and out fear I did. He even threatened me multiple times and I was terrified of what he might do.
Feel bad for her sounds like a really sweet person. Didn’t deserve being lied to like that.
These story got me reminded of a guy that i know in the game turned out to be more than friends type relationship and am married irl like crazy love all the storys so far on these story
Hey OP if you read this I hope everything gets better for you and you get that army of friends. Your a sweet person and deserve the best. Keep that chin up and have a great time in ffxiv
OMG just came from the other video, and learning that the dad had really done that and he lost his mother made me sick. I hope he gets real help and gets better and can be a normal person in life, he is clearly so broken from trauma. Not an excuse for his behavior of course, but I have known people like this and after getting help they can finally become functional people.
And I hope OP gets her happy future.
28:06 "That's Wild" lol, truly, that's wild!
He was pretending the other liars in her videos were so bad of people
But then actually he's just sighing like "ugh these amateurs are so bad at lying and manipulating I'm so much better at it!"
The way I see it, this is a tragic story for both of them. OP got her dreams crushed and was lied to and "Avery" clearly has many underlying issues and needs help. He is the result of childhood trauma and I feel sorry for him too. I understand why his friends got mad at him for all the lies but now that he is alone what hope there is for him to get help? Very sad imo
Also one thing baffles me in this whole story. It is very personal and should have not been exposed like this to the world, specially not this soon.
I see OP and Avery's friends are planning on even doing one more video ranting, why? It's looking like you all want attention at this point, sorry but really can't see it any other way :/
I still want to know what was up with the beanie, I think that question will haunt me. But now I want to find the story OP mentioned as her favorite.
OP was so nice and sincere. I feel bad for her but happy she’s good and honest and she STILL hopes he’s ok which is understandable after all the time she put into him.
Good interview but I'm so sick of people using therapy speak to diagnose someone. This behavior is not sociopathic and once the internet discovers a new word they want to subscribe it to everything. The guy has serious issues but there is literally no evidence that points to being a sociopath - in fact quite a lot of evidence against it.
Went to highschool with "Avery", was friends with him for a long time purely because"Jasper" was, and he's one of my best friends to date. He sent me here to keep up with the story lol. Also it's male pattern baldness and some serious dandruff under that beanie. The theories are hilarious though so keep em coming. Man honestly I'd have never expected this from him. So glad she made this video, I was just slowly getting updates from "Jasper"
Wild stuff. Meanwhile he asked Miranda if shes single. Found out he was calling Miranda while still in my house, from day 3 and onwards... really messed up stuff.
That last video made me gag just from the description of the beanie alone, and i wear beanies somewhat often. Wash your clothes and clean yourselves people, seriously
She's really sweet tbh... keep that family dream alive!
PS: Avery if you're reading this walk into your local electrician union and apply. At 28 it's easy to turn your life around if you put in the effort.
i am so hear for this sweaty beanie!
This story is a reminder that I wanna hear you read a happy uplifting story from time to time 😅
I'm dying. I know Aura Kingdom. Even played it for a while. That's CRAZY to hear that name.
Im surprised he didn’t invade the comments for this vid yet
it didnt work out that well for him in the previous video.. or maybe his dad took his phone now, since I shared that video with his dad? who knows
LMAO OP YOU DID WHAT 😂 you legend
@@miktats yes Im trying to get "Tucker" his money back so I contacted his dad. Also to thank him for taking the PC away from him, and to tell him that I think it is safest for all women alive if he never gets it back.. mhm.
@@0fluu0 oh shii u op??? :o and u shared the vid with his dad???? Man u savage 😭😭😭😭
To be honest about the dad and mom thing thats a dual edge sword if he was lying hes a complete sicko, But it being the truth means he unfort had to experince it
yeah my thoughts exactly
Finding game knowledge attractive still blows my mind. Maybe I am too casual of a gamer :'D
The next horror film “the beanie”
I bet you he is lying to everyone about his dad unaliving his mom. Like who gets out of jail. And also would you go live with him? None of what this guy said was true
Yes. Its strange that someone could kill their girlfriend or wife, and then get out only like 20 or so years later. And why would Avery want to live with the guy who took his mom from him? Its probably made up
Can we just talk about how "Avery" popped into the stream at the end? I really hope he went back and reflected on how his choices affected people who REALLY cared for him, and that he is reflecting on the fact that they still want him to get his life together and be in a good place even after his lies and the pain he caused them.
The bit at 30:00 where you talk about his face always being blank and having no body language while his voice is lively, I think he is maybe autistic?
My niece is like this, and it has been a big struggle for her because she has to actively try to remember to animate her face and body when she speaks, she was teased about it very badly in school and because of this she lacks confidence in speaking to people in person and prefers to interact digitally through text or voice-only communications.
my favorite drama story was the one about the nightclub "after midnight"
if OP comes to midgar she's welcome to come run rolos and chill at SFW venues with my friends and I. My free company runs a rp cafe and the group I venue hop with are always looking for people to join us and hang out
I wonder what kind of voidsent he hid inside the beanie
The same age as me and acting like this?! Oh he’s far from saving.
No I don't believe so. I have an aunt who was completely disfunctional well into her 40s and who finally got help, turned it around, and now is a well adjusted, productive, and happy person in her 50s. Its never too late, the person just needs to get professional help, they clearly have deep seated mental health issues, once those are being treated its all about just putting in the effort and working on yourself. I don't think this guy is evil or hopeless, I think hes broken.
I wish her the best, but I also hope Avery can alter his ways.
Poor lady, getting stalked like that. Happy to hear its silent for now, but you never know where they will relapse.
I highly doubt this guy paid real money for gil.
The thing people often forget about gil is that it's also like real life money. TIME in the market is the real money maker. When most people "think" about gil. They think about how they are as a new player and all the new stuff they want to buy. They want gil, because they want to spend it.
But you have to remember that some of these people have spent years playing this game. If you mastered crafting and bought everything back in 2.0 or HW, you're not spending crazy money to 'catch up.' You end up just dog piling more money on your collection.
And the reverse of the poor-person tax also applies. If you see a really great deal like someone trying to liquidate 300 million gil worth of items for 50 mil because they're transferring or taking a break -- having the 50 mil on hand to snap that stuff up helps. Additionally, if you play so much that you have everything memorized, you can also recognize when people have underpriced things. Finally, if you have 100mil+ gil, you can also sweep a market. Buy it all up, and reset it at a higher price and control the market. Doing so requires a lot of investment and you can't spend or use that money if it's tied up in merchandise.
But if you imagine you can gil cap one character an expansion, it's not hard to imagine someone with a handful of alts all capped if they've been playing for 3+ expansions. Additionally, all alts get more retainers, and more market share.
The best profit I ever made was making about 3 billion gil in the month Kugane housing came out. I had spent a lot of time preparing for the housing market and crafting shit. And then when the patch came out, I signed up for all 8 retainers. 8 retainers at 20 slots each times 5 characters is a lot of market share. And while everyone is leveling up and throwing money away. I'm in town crafting and playing the market board.
Granted, unlike OP's crazy guy, it did cost me RL money to hire extra retainers for a month. Pay to win feature, that is.
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It's been a long time since I've played FFXIV. I quit after the Endwalker saga, but drama like this is pretty fun to listen to! OP should still get therapy. When she explains why she fell for this guy, she states some pretty obviously stupid reasons. His voice was hot. He's knowledgable in the game which translates to powerful/rich. He's a bad boy, he had a troubled childhood.
She's not looking for legitimately healthy characteristics. She's falling victim to vanity. She wants a hot dude that has power. And she's blinded so much by her lust that she overlooks all the red flags. Typical scam victim falling for delusional qualities. She takes zero accountability for her own delusions, and will make the same mistake again in the future, because she didn't learn the real lesson. She learned how to spot red flags, but she's not learning how to spot green flags. And again, green flags aren't "sounds hot and has power."
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I'm not sure how smart or stupid the Avery person is, but if he's really good at playing the market he could translate that shit into the stock market. That's what I did. And there's no way in hell I can ever play the gil game again. Fake money has nothing on the highs from making real money.
The same can also apply to challenging content. People out there doing ultimates for a challenge. It's great if you enjoy that content. But restoring a house brought me much more joy than any gaming accomplishment I've ever done.
I think sometimes people get carried away in the idea of doing something 'worthwhile' but have nothing to compare it to, so video game accomplishments feel a lot stronger.
But the sad truth is, after 5 years, no one will really care. In 5 years no one will remember or care that you cleared an ultimate, or even if you ranked first on the server.
So my advice for anyone looking for unsoilicted advice. Find something worthwhile to invest in, and live your best life. Don't get stuck on the treadmill of mediocrity. And no, no random hot or powerful man or woman is going to fall in your lap and save you. Your future is yours alone to conquer.
The Endwalker walked alone. Empowered by his friends, but still they had to walk that path alone in the end.
Hey bro question I read all this cuz you were just spitting facts after facts one thing I wanna know is how do I start learning about playing the market most places just want you to pay and feel like a scam but I genuinely want to learn but don’t know where to start if you have any advice that would be awesome if not then you I get it but back to the video I agree with you a lot especially with her view on Avery she wanted a hot gamer dude but got reality lots of her views or vain hope she learns and doesn’t fall in this trap again but who knows that dude is scummy for what he did
Hey bro question I read all this cuz you were just spitting facts after facts one thing I wanna know is how do I start learning about playing the market most places just want you to pay and feel like a scam but I genuinely want to learn but don’t know where to start if you have any advice that would be awesome if not then you I get it but back to the video I agree with you a lot especially with her view on Avery she wanted a hot gamer dude but got reality lots of her views or vain hope she learns and doesn’t fall in this trap again but who knows that dude is scummy for what he did
@@andyramirez4293 Please don't actually try and do this as a serious thing (assuming you're talking about the real market and not the FF14 one). There are no secret tricks, and most people who claim to be making good money from it are either lying or haven't been doing it for that long. A lot of the time people will start trading during a growing market and wrongly come away thinking that their own skillful trades caused them to profit. Or they just get lucky. But in the long run that luck won't continue.
Unlike FF14, real markets are monitored and traded on by algorithms and institutions in real-time. Unless you're Nancy Pelosi and have information lots of other people don't (and by definition any information you can easily find online is information lots of other people have access to), it's not going to reliably make money.
(it can still be fine to mess around with if you have some money you're okay with losing, but it's not a good idea to try and make a career, or even significantly supplement your income, with day-trading)
this was filmed same day and it was long stream
yes it was :D
5:51 i sure hope its not a pink/white haired miqote 💀
Thankfully in 7.0 you can truly block someone's character from stalking or harassing you in game
I do remember Aura Kingdom I actually used to play it years before I was able to play FFXIV, I only had a rubbish laptop at the time, until I eventually got a computer capable of playing FFXIV then I actually abadoned Aura Kingdom, but yeah as Op says it's a really bad P2W korean game 😅
Edit: I thought Op was very brave and so respectful even though they would have every right to tear into Avery, instead they chose not too.
I really love how chat was so supportive and welcoming and kind towards Op!
Well if Avery does watch this and read the comments, that comment is spot on "Avery wash that beanie, touch grass and become better" Indeed and another, be honest! Just be straight up with people don't lie or anything it does no good improving yourself is the first step!
Another Edit: I'm actually on EU and love making new friends! :D
OP sounds very sweet. Truth needs to be known from the start. I do not understand why people lie about their life like that. Like why?! Everyone has problems everyone has things they don't like about themselves. So why lie about it? I mean I'm 45 single been that way for 12 years an I live on Social Security an my part time job. I don't have a lot of money but my life is my own my apartment is my own my car is my own. My Hobbies Consist of D&D, FFXIV, and if I had a little more money I would do more out doors things like Camping an what not. Its a struggle but its my struggle. I am self sufficient. An I like my Peace. I'm clean my home is clean because it has to be I have two Boys. An family means more to me then anything. I mean I could go on an on but that's insane that people can't be truthful which was the whole point of this rant.
My heart goes out to you, OP!
LMAO AURA KINGDOM omg what a throwback!
OP's story happened similar to me but not in a 10 year scale. More of like 7 months before I caught it. But he's still ingame and has singlehandedly made enemies of all the lala population (for creep reasons) and raiding community won't even bring him due to being so toxic and he's likely going to get banned at this rate lol But gezz I feel for her.
Lies are never forever and while they last, they drain so much energy. Lets hope Avery turns his life around after realising that.
That's wild, man didn't even learn not to lie to people. Kids learn these life lessons in elementary school!
I wasn't expecting to hear "Aura Kingdom" after all these years... She's right, it's a crappy game but dang it used to be good (or it was my rose-tinted glasses back then, not sure)
i can honestly say i side with the guy on certain things, especially when i was younger. certain things she told i can 100% remember me going through. early childhood drama, losing a parent, depression, anxiety, and ptsd can really mess with people. i feel bad for her and i hope he gets the help he needs.
she was not about to snatch the beanie man what if it bit her
As somebody who you would call fabulously wealthy in FFXIV (as in, gil is not a 'thing' and I'm referred to as a gil dragon from hoarding it), he absolutely did not make that kind of gil that way.
The answer he gave to you is the presumed answer everybody thinks is real until they start getting good at making gil.
Sounds like the guy needs some serious mental health guidance and help. Childhood trauma does often lead to child like adults or worse, violent ones. Shes lucky she just found an adult who hadnt grown up. I do pray this guy gets some serious help that he needs so he doesn't live off manipulation for the rest of his life.
Im down for the army!
omg aura kingdom is a red flag in of itself. I didnt play until endgame, but i've heard that the community can be pretty bad there
Hmm I don't believe Avery is a sociopath, I think he suffers from psychopathy, vs being a sociopath, with how manipulative he tried to be.
Yea with the amount of stuff I had to put up with in my life and constantly screaming on the inside….i just don’t date anymore. I have checked out. I don’t believe it’s fair to do that to someone and bring all of those trauma to a spouse who might just walk away from it all.
Girrrrrl, kudos to you - the beanie probably held ring worms under it.
I feel bad for her honestly but I don’t remember fully why she left her first bf but it’s kinda crazy to leave someone irl for someone online (oh wait nvm I think it was because they never saw eye to eye on certain things)
Awe! I want to play with her. This broke my heart.
OP. If this person's name is Snow or starts with Snow. Hi! I'm Eden! He was a white haired catboy.
To add to it, he was white with thin blonde hair. He had a really deep voice and spoke pretty slow. If he liked reading stories to you while you slept as well, then that's totally him. I feel so vindicated. We dated for only about a week and he threatened to unalive himself when I broke up with him. He also never was on cam with me without being in a super dark room and was VERY VERY good with words and a smooth talker.
Jesus. I'm a kind of heavy guy myself (not anywhere near morbidly obese.) so i get being self concious about it but this guy lied about literally anything. It's insane.
He has no personality, he's just saying anything to please other people and to make him look like the nicest & best guy possible...
I feel bad for what he went through but he needs help. Professional help. I feel much worse for OP for having to go through all of this.
He needs to work for what he wants and not just spout empty words to get what he wants.
If he's self concious about his weight, try to lose weight. (I know it's not easy.) If he's broke and needs money, try to earn money.
I'm sorry for OP's loss of time. It's very sad to have wasted so much time believing something that was a lie for so damn long.
Best of luck. If i was in chaos i'd have loved to join.
As far as the gil .. it's not as hard as you think to gil cap .. I know quite a few people with it .. if you have lots of time you can do it.
yeah for sure... and his knowledge about it all makes me believe that at least on that one char he couldve farmed it. But no idea about the NA ones right, cause I never saw those.
Good luck to OP in finding a squad for that end game content!
This is 'Are they the Devil' Territory, tbh.
6:54 that chat says "clitoral throbbing voice" got me wheezing in middle of my shift 😭😭😭
I hate the thought that this dude is over on NA with me ... bleh
lets hope his dad keeps the PC locked away ......
I feel like he needed to taste advantage of being in Europe and go to the doctor for his beanie disease, it sounds like he has psoriasis and it got infected. Also I also agree with op in the way you read these stories! I’m hooked I may need to submit some of mine😂
34:23 what jump scare that he did to her?
i think just seeing him in her chat was the jumpscare haha
@@bubblesaur10 ah I see.
@@bubblesaur10 yes! I said omg what a coincidence when I saw the name in the chat. During the live I didn't think it was him then found out later when he came to the discord it actually was him.
"does he have a hot voice" "he does" OKAY PROPS FOR BEING HONEST THAT GOT A LAUGH OUT OF ME
also like as someone with severe trauma, idk if op is still here or reading but you cannot save people. It actively scares me when people try to "save" me from a lifetime of bad luck. all I want is ppl to sit there and let me exist without feeling shame over it, its too big for one person to unpack and thats OKAY. Some people are actually attracted to er. "projects" to fix and something like severe lifelong trauma isnt exactly 'fixeable" you can manage it but you can love people without trying to do too much. any friend who actually cares about your well being in return will recognize this and say just having your love and care is enough of a gift. we all help each other when and where we can but when its too one sided it gets sketch regardless of circumstance.
The gil part is not as hard to get as you think it is if you are an active crafter and have submarines to rake in gil. So I don't think he bought gil, he probably genuinely just spent all his time crafting when new content came out. There are a few youtubers who got multiple characters with max gil too
Gurl we need to know what Avery said to folks in chat, dont leave us hanging.
go to the first video and scroll all the way down to the bottom of comments.
@@sunbeamseadream801 well no she said he replied in the stream chat and jumpscared her
Ill adress that in the video.. it was kinda nuts
I think another reason OP ended up in that human garbage bin's web of lies is that a lot of time energy and even money was already spebt on yhe relationship- ten years worth! Anybody that gets in so deep would certainly have a difficult time untangling. You would end up second-guessing every little thing and it would get so exhausting. Easier to ignore it and hope it sorts itself out. My heart goes out to OP.
Damn OP, I wish you all the best in your life. You’re fantastic and deserve to be treated and given the love you were able to give !
You’re surrounded by great and supportive people, you’ll get through and have a great life ! Karma will repay you !
“Daddy took my PC!” :((((( boo hoo!