It truly is taxing being a self aware black guy but I find peace in myself by being an individual above everything. Being one of the "good ones" is probably the most passive aggressive shit I've been told in life. I know the cards are stacked against me and I know I hate some aspects about what comes with being black but I feel like the more I think about it the more I'll just hate myself even more. Being an individual first and black last has helped me beyond belief and I wish other black dudes find peace within themselves as well. This self hatred thing is very real amongst black guys and I wish more people spoke on this.
@@Nozoroth Not biracial but my parents never raised me in black culture either thank god. Its even worse for biracial people because you don't really fit in anywhere beyond that grey area. A lot of half black people I've met typically had some sort of identity issue since they aren't fully accepted by either race.
Idk the context in which you were told you are “one of the good ones”. But, I’ve had that exact phrase said to me by a white person (I’m white). My understanding of the phrase never had a racial significance. But, I’m sure it could depending on context.
Imma talk for the other side, cause I hear way too much of some of you guys' opinions on the Internet. I'm fully black(American), dark skin, in poverty, the whole 9. My only real difference is that I'm not from a major city (10,000 pop. Town). That, and the fact that I was surrounded by black people instead of whites, because my town has an over 50% black makeup. My upbringing really helped me feel comfortable in my skin. For my identity not to clash with my individualality. I'm nerdy, I was the weird kid who was good at his books in school, also I'm only college age now btw. They were calling me school shooter and everything back in highschool (by the nerd kids too, ironically. The hood kids didn't mess with me by that time, probably because I had grown up on that side and they already knew what I was about, but still). I definitely am not the model image for our people, that's for sure. Not that I cared. It didn't matter. I still felt and currently feel black. Cuz I found people just like me. Who look like me, talk like me, and laugh with me. Right in my little bumduck town in the middle of nowhere. That's y'all's problem. That's everybody's problem. The world's problem with black people. Y'all are conditioned and don't even know it. Y'all blaming "black culture" is the biggest TRAVESTY, let's me know that y'all are cutoff. That's the media's portrayal of black culture. That's white people demonizing and bastardizing our culture, and disseminating for American consumption. It's poison and a lie, but it is a lie based in truth. An over-exaggeration, that's unfortunately becoming truth as screens takeover our realities. I feel bad for you guys, because it's your fault you're mad at us. You can't know what you haven't been shown. Just thought of a metaphor, it's ironic, a bit messed up, but it fits. What you guys are, is like a child who's been raised by a single mother. She's told you stories about your father, but you still don't really know the guy. He comes around every now again, but never long enough for you to actually know him. Your whole world view of the guy is really shaped by your mother, and you end up hating your father or maybe being ashamed of him. Because deep down, that's how she feels. Because that's how America feels or maybe at least white people. And that's no blame to them. I've got no hate for white people. I'm not one of those hotep/white people need to give us reparations/duck the police, type people you find on Twitter. I'm just calling it like I see it. The whole country needs therapy and we don't know what to do about it.
@@Nozoroththank your dad for that. Some of these other guys have paralyzed themselves with a victim Mentality . Any parent that instills that in Their child is borderline evil .. The black guys I know that don’t fixate on race all the time do the best and are by far the happiest ..
Ngl ive wanted you to talk ab this. In year 11, i broke a white guys nose because he said i was whitewashed as i look down on drugs (got suspended for like 2 months), i hate the stereotypes around our race, and at one point questioned if i even like my own race. I hate people that try too hard to act hood as well like nobody can be themselves anymore
@njoguszn what culture? If your family doesn't have heavy influence from an African country you're cooked. - can't speak a language other than English unless you study it at school. - The food is terrible if it isn't African. - you either need to get dreads or braids to be considered black according to some dickheads that aren't even black. - Baby mama and deadbeat father culture is only getting worse - family values/morals are non existent 💀 again unless you got heavy African influence Honestly all of these stuff are the reason i dont see myself in a relationship with a black woman.
Totally forgot about the language aspect. A lot of people learn the language of their home country from their family and knowing their roots. Thanks to slavery westernized blacks only know the language of their oppressors washing away their identity. This is a problem only black people face ( I guess Hispanics too because of Spanish)
ngl watching as an asian, I see similarities and what not, making me feel like I am not the only one here on earth with some certain type of BS. Had chinese people calling me "banana" which means that I am "yellow" outside but "white" inside lmao great video man
@@kurisechan88 lots of things I could say. I don't really think too much about high education and prioritize socialising more. Which is sorta looked down on... I mean you might have heard some stereotypes and jokes about, how some asians compare with their relatives and bring up their success. That stuff is hella stressful and messed me up when I was younger. Still could potentially affect me if I would date some asian chick with parents who have that sentiment... So I stopped bothering with that, I only have one life and I want to chill 😂 Hitting the gym feels good, having a cold drink with friends or them taking me to some random locations is fun imo and it changed my depressing life to something much more meaningful, each their own ig haha I also don't know how to write mandarin or read it lmfao
I relate to this more than id like to admit. People back on secondary school thought i wasnt black enough for not fitting the stereotype but i was pretty chill so i never really gave a fuck. Im kinda lucky to have african parents since they kept me in line as a kid.
This video is a 50/50 thing for me, in terms of the dating aspect it’s weird, average black men by all means can date but what’s considered ‘average’ for black is very different compared to any other race, in my experience I’m 182cm living in Spain (then Germany and currently UK) and I’m pretty decent looking, so when girls approach me they think that every black guy they ‘think’ they know or have dated is about my range or taller, more swag, more attractive etc. in short, you have to be either very tall or attractive with an average height to overcompensate because irl the bbc thing is absolutely a joke unless you’re already good in other aspects. Now in my day to day life, I’ve experienced girls from all races (yes including ‘our own’) say that they wouldn’t date a dark skin or darker skin guy but they can make an exception compared to purely lightskin dudes who are the default when it comes to black beauty, swagger, athleticism etc. Some sistas WILL give you some disdainful looks, I hate to say this, but if you’re looking to date or be in a relationship you almost HAVE to be a stereotype in some way, no way around it (unless you’re passportmaxxing)
BMWW is a myth, most BM with BW and most WW with WM. BM has Three options, Athlete, Rapper or Drug dealer. If you aren't any of those you aren't gonna get play with women.
Aye g, imma finna drop some hard to swallow knowledge to you. It's only difficult because of who WE are. I'm talking me and you. Not our race, but our personality. Being quiet and awkward and just SHY is our downfall. I'm just finishing up working a blue collar job I was working to get myself through college. I've been here for about 9 months or so. and my community is mostly black, so it's a lot of black dudes around, of all ages and sizes. Listen to me, Everybody else gets play. EVERYBODY. Short, tall, ugly, handsome. Everybody BUT me. And it's really only because of one thing. I won't open my f'ing mouth. Thinking too much is our sin. Call me conceited, but Imma say what I think. I'm tall(6'2), handsome, and I've got a decent sense of humor. I KNOW I should get play. I've got a template for it with a guy who I've grown-up with, who's honestly just me but better. Taller(6'4), older(by 2 years), more handsome, and most importantly, more outgoing. The only thing I've got over him is that I'm smarter. The guy has a roster of like 8 girls. This was also two months ago, before got his own car and was promoted at the job. I ain't got an exact number from him again, but he's told me his roster has gotten bigger just last week. I say this, to impart upon you, the most irritating and profound knowledge. Just like they say, CLOSE MOUTHS DON'T GET FED. Think about your competition. They won't be silent. Girls constantly hit up by the same couple of idiots who will try everyone and anyone. You gotta speak up too. Just talk to them G. No feelings, no nothing. It works. Just go out and laugh and talk. Things will work themselves out from there.
2:53 Growing up is realizing that slavery never ended in Africa most. At least in America there’s an opportunity try getting money when you live in a place like 🇧🇮. And yeah the whole “not like other black guys” is odd, I’ve never been told it, but there was one time when I was in juvie a long time ago I’m 20 now, and the officers were asking us what we like to do they asked all of us and finally I came up, they asked me “what do you like to do” and I said “ i love growing plants” and all of them even the other inmates gave me that look, and I said I’m into botany, they all of sudden got confused and asked me, what’s that?, I said it’s the study of plants, and they all had that embarrassed look on their face.😂 Everytime now when my passion comes up I just say nothing, because people automatically assume I like growing weed it’s so dumb, personally weed taste and smells awful to me.
Im not worried I'm mixed and experience it from both sides it's alright tho I know I'm chosen by the lord, they can hate all they want to gets my faith stronger with him 🤣 he'll provide a table for me infront of my enemies
@@walnutstudio502 all to commit an act of terror. That part, especially with the vampires was a confusing and weak bit of the story. Still a great manga.
Bruv I was black in Japan traveling solo last year. The Japanese treated me well. The whites, people i assumed were American, didn't rock with me ... at all. Turns out they weren't even American.😅 😅 😅
3:32 why do you think we should get used to it? Why not try to change it? You sound content with all this. Me and you are more alike than you think, I relate to everything you say, except for you self hatred towards being black.
To be fair get used to it wasn't the best choice of words. Obviously I don't think it's right black people being killed by the police but it happens so frequently. It's going to keep happening when there's more quantity than quality police officers. I personally can't think of a realistic solution to the whole police situation without changing western society as a whole if you have any ideas feel free to share them. Also I literally said ar the start and multiple times in the vid I don't hate being black so I don't know where the self-hatred comment comes from
@@DaVoid-fd8md Yeah, I agree with you. Your word choice wasn't 'accurate', but because you were rambling and developing your thoughts in real time. I completely understood what you meant and know you were just picking an adequately sufficient words to express the idea. You will be accused of 'self-hatred' if you are critical of 'blackness' or 'the black community'. You will also be called a 'xoon' or 'xambo' for not engaging with 'popular activities and past-times that the media portrays as black peoples hobbies'. You literally said at the beginning of the video, MULTIPLE TIMES that you don't hate being black. You were just reflecting on the things that come with it, and how they make it more complicated. I'm African. People want you to NEVER say any critical thing about being 'black' or ' the black community' or how being black affects your personal self-expression. Especially amongst other black people. The 'community' will police you to PERFORM your blackness to the adequate required level or you will be found to be in contempt. You can't just be black n be 'nerdy' or interested in computers n gaming n stuff. You will be seen as a 'disgrace' or 'outcast'. But we need these people. They should not be denied their heritage or connection to their peers. This is them deciding to be an individual and think for themselves and live how they wish to live! great video, post more!
You have interesting videos, I’ll never be black pilled because I believe in myself and other blacks, but being black shows that we have to grind harder and be better until the Goverment makes us better laws
"until the government makes us better laws" this guy must have been high when he typed this, always these types of people why we are in the situation the world is in "just gotta wait until someone fixes everything for us shieeet"
It truly is taxing being a self aware black guy but I find peace in myself by being an individual above everything. Being one of the "good ones" is probably the most passive aggressive shit I've been told in life. I know the cards are stacked against me and I know I hate some aspects about what comes with being black but I feel like the more I think about it the more I'll just hate myself even more. Being an individual first and black last has helped me beyond belief and I wish other black dudes find peace within themselves as well. This self hatred thing is very real amongst black guys and I wish more people spoke on this.
Yeah I’m 1/4 black and 3/4 white and have never really felt black. My dad who is half black luckily didn’t raise me to fall in line with black culture
@@Nozoroth Not biracial but my parents never raised me in black culture either thank god. Its even worse for biracial people because you don't really fit in anywhere beyond that grey area. A lot of half black people I've met typically had some sort of identity issue since they aren't fully accepted by either race.
Idk the context in which you were told you are “one of the good ones”. But, I’ve had that exact phrase said to me by a white person (I’m white). My understanding of the phrase never had a racial significance. But, I’m sure it could depending on context.
Imma talk for the other side, cause I hear way too much of some of you guys' opinions on the Internet.
I'm fully black(American), dark skin, in poverty, the whole 9. My only real difference is that I'm not from a major city (10,000 pop. Town). That, and the fact that I was surrounded by black people instead of whites, because my town has an over 50% black makeup. My upbringing really helped me feel comfortable in my skin. For my identity not to clash with my individualality.
I'm nerdy, I was the weird kid who was good at his books in school, also I'm only college age now btw. They were calling me school shooter and everything back in highschool (by the nerd kids too, ironically. The hood kids didn't mess with me by that time, probably because I had grown up on that side and they already knew what I was about, but still).
I definitely am not the model image for our people, that's for sure. Not that I cared. It didn't matter. I still felt and currently feel black. Cuz I found people just like me. Who look like me, talk like me, and laugh with me. Right in my little bumduck town in the middle of nowhere. That's y'all's problem. That's everybody's problem. The world's problem with black people.
Y'all are conditioned and don't even know it. Y'all blaming "black culture" is the biggest TRAVESTY, let's me know that y'all are cutoff. That's the media's portrayal of black culture. That's white people demonizing and bastardizing our culture, and disseminating for American consumption. It's poison and a lie, but it is a lie based in truth. An over-exaggeration, that's unfortunately becoming truth as screens takeover our realities.
I feel bad for you guys, because it's your fault you're mad at us. You can't know what you haven't been shown.
Just thought of a metaphor, it's ironic, a bit messed up, but it fits.
What you guys are, is like a child who's been raised by a single mother. She's told you stories about your father, but you still don't really know the guy. He comes around every now again, but never long enough for you to actually know him. Your whole world view of the guy is really shaped by your mother, and you end up hating your father or maybe being ashamed of him. Because deep down, that's how she feels.
Because that's how America feels or maybe at least white people. And that's no blame to them. I've got no hate for white people. I'm not one of those hotep/white people need to give us reparations/duck the police, type people you find on Twitter. I'm just calling it like I see it. The whole country needs therapy and we don't know what to do about it.
@@Nozoroththank your dad for that. Some of these other guys have paralyzed themselves with a victim
Mentality . Any parent that instills that in
Their child is borderline evil ..
The black guys I know that don’t fixate on race all the time do the best and are by far the happiest ..
U gotta prove you’re not too “black” to non black people and you have to prove you’re “black” to black people, just constantly code switching 😂
God forbid your black and dont know the latest dance at a party.
God forbid you’re Caribbean/African
Ngl ive wanted you to talk ab this.
In year 11, i broke a white guys nose because he said i was whitewashed as i look down on drugs (got suspended for like 2 months), i hate the stereotypes around our race, and at one point questioned if i even like my own race.
I hate people that try too hard to act hood as well like nobody can be themselves anymore
it aint even about race, our culture is the worst of any race.
@njoguszn what culture? If your family doesn't have heavy influence from an African country you're cooked.
- can't speak a language other than English unless you study it at school.
- The food is terrible if it isn't African.
- you either need to get dreads or braids to be considered black according to some dickheads that aren't even black.
- Baby mama and deadbeat father culture is only getting worse
- family values/morals are non existent 💀 again unless you got heavy African influence
Honestly all of these stuff are the reason i dont see myself in a relationship with a black woman.
Totally forgot about the language aspect. A lot of people learn the language of their home country from their family and knowing their roots. Thanks to slavery westernized blacks only know the language of their oppressors washing away their identity. This is a problem only black people face ( I guess Hispanics too because of Spanish)
@@divinity1495 Seems like we South Africans are pretty much just like African Americans.
All you’re doing is proving the stereotype that black people are violent
ngl watching as an asian, I see similarities and what not, making me feel like I am not the only one here on earth with some certain type of BS. Had chinese people calling me "banana" which means that I am "yellow" outside but "white" inside lmao
great video man
Damn I've never heard of the banana shit before lol. It's basically the asian version of Oreo for blacks
😹 learn something new everyday
Do they call you that for not being super book smart or something?
@@kurisechan88 lots of things I could say. I don't really think too much about high education and prioritize socialising more.
Which is sorta looked down on...
I mean you might have heard some stereotypes and jokes about, how some asians compare with their relatives and bring up their success. That stuff is hella stressful and messed me up when I was younger. Still could potentially affect me if I would date some asian chick with parents who have that sentiment...
So I stopped bothering with that, I only have one life and I want to chill 😂
Hitting the gym feels good, having a cold drink with friends or them taking me to some random locations is fun imo and it changed my depressing life to something much more meaningful, each their own ig haha
I also don't know how to write mandarin or read it lmfao
Banana lmao 🤣
For brown people its coconut.
Brown on the outside white on the inside
I relate to this more than id like to admit. People back on secondary school thought i wasnt black enough for not fitting the stereotype but i was pretty chill so i never really gave a fuck. Im kinda lucky to have african parents since they kept me in line as a kid.
Yeah all the other black kids in my school were all ghetto. I made sure not to fall into that life
we are very different on this planet, its honestly so bizarre!
This video is a 50/50 thing for me, in terms of the dating aspect it’s weird, average black men by all means can date but what’s considered ‘average’ for black is very different compared to any other race, in my experience I’m 182cm living in Spain (then Germany and currently UK) and I’m pretty decent looking, so when girls approach me they think that every black guy they ‘think’ they know or have dated is about my range or taller, more swag, more attractive etc. in short, you have to be either very tall or attractive with an average height to overcompensate because irl the bbc thing is absolutely a joke unless you’re already good in other aspects. Now in my day to day life, I’ve experienced girls from all races (yes including ‘our own’) say that they wouldn’t date a dark skin or darker skin guy but they can make an exception compared to purely lightskin dudes who are the default when it comes to black beauty, swagger, athleticism etc. Some sistas WILL give you some disdainful looks, I hate to say this, but if you’re looking to date or be in a relationship you almost HAVE to be a stereotype in some way, no way around it (unless you’re passportmaxxing)
I feel you bro. Literally me. I'm American though.
As much as people like to think race doesn't come into play when dating it does. Unless ur Chad ur kinda fucked
BMWW is a myth, most BM with BW and most WW with WM. BM has Three options, Athlete, Rapper or Drug dealer. If you aren't any of those you aren't gonna get play with women.
Aye g, imma finna drop some hard to swallow knowledge to you. It's only difficult because of who WE are. I'm talking me and you. Not our race, but our personality. Being quiet and awkward and just SHY is our downfall. I'm just finishing up working a blue collar job I was working to get myself through college. I've been here for about 9 months or so. and my community is mostly black, so it's a lot of black dudes around, of all ages and sizes.
Listen to me, Everybody else gets play. EVERYBODY. Short, tall, ugly, handsome. Everybody BUT me. And it's really only because of one thing. I won't open my f'ing mouth. Thinking too much is our sin.
Call me conceited, but Imma say what I think. I'm tall(6'2), handsome, and I've got a decent sense of humor. I KNOW I should get play. I've got a template for it with a guy who I've grown-up with, who's honestly just me but better. Taller(6'4), older(by 2 years), more handsome, and most importantly, more outgoing. The only thing I've got over him is that I'm smarter. The guy has a roster of like 8 girls. This was also two months ago, before got his own car and was promoted at the job. I ain't got an exact number from him again, but he's told me his roster has gotten bigger just last week.
I say this, to impart upon you, the most irritating and profound knowledge. Just like they say, CLOSE MOUTHS DON'T GET FED. Think about your competition. They won't be silent. Girls constantly hit up by the same couple of idiots who will try everyone and anyone. You gotta speak up too.
Just talk to them G. No feelings, no nothing. It works. Just go out and laugh and talk. Things will work themselves out from there.
BMW
It's mostly pushed by racists who secretly have an inter race fetish
Bro you’re literally the uk version me😂
2:53 Growing up is realizing that slavery never ended in Africa most. At least in America there’s an opportunity try getting money when you live in a place like 🇧🇮.
And yeah the whole “not like other black guys” is odd, I’ve never been told it, but there was one time when I was in juvie a long time ago I’m 20 now, and the officers were asking us what we like to do they asked all of us and finally I came up, they asked me “what do you like to do” and I said “ i love growing plants” and all of them even the other inmates gave me that look, and I said I’m into botany, they all of sudden got confused and asked me, what’s that?, I said it’s the study of plants, and they all had that embarrassed look on their face.😂
Everytime now when my passion comes up I just say nothing, because people automatically assume I like growing weed it’s so dumb, personally weed taste and smells awful to me.
Holyyyy
Look up Paul Mooney - Tired of being Black.
Im white but i have felt that this must be a common thing with being a minority
Big Rube on OutKast first album said something about ones like us
@@user-yg7kb1mt9z nice
Im not worried I'm mixed and experience it from both sides it's alright tho I know I'm chosen by the lord, they can hate all they want to gets my faith stronger with him 🤣 he'll provide a table for me infront of my enemies
In soviet union we had black officers and soldiers while blacks in america had to sit on blacks only places.
Gantz
Gantz? The anime ?
@@breadtoasted2269 yea that’s what the picture is from it the manga is really good
The part he did blackface was funny and disturbing at the same time
@@walnutstudio502 all to commit an act of terror. That part, especially with the vampires was a confusing and weak bit of the story. Still a great manga.
Bruv I was black in Japan traveling solo last year. The Japanese treated me well. The whites, people i assumed were American, didn't rock with me ... at all. Turns out they weren't even American.😅 😅 😅
Bro juet be yourself.
“Some other bullshit” is hilarious
Wth bro we're the same person
Just 'ave a Sunday roast, m8.
Become Yorkshire, above all else.
3:32 why do you think we should get used to it? Why not try to change it? You sound content with all this. Me and you are more alike than you think, I relate to everything you say, except for you self hatred towards being black.
To be fair get used to it wasn't the best choice of words. Obviously I don't think it's right black people being killed by the police but it happens so frequently. It's going to keep happening when there's more quantity than quality police officers. I personally can't think of a realistic solution to the whole police situation without changing western society as a whole if you have any ideas feel free to share them.
Also I literally said ar the start and multiple times in the vid I don't hate being black so I don't know where the self-hatred comment comes from
@@DaVoid-fd8md Yeah, I agree with you. Your word choice wasn't 'accurate', but because you were rambling and developing your thoughts in real time. I completely understood what you meant and know you were just picking an adequately sufficient words to express the idea.
You will be accused of 'self-hatred' if you are critical of 'blackness' or 'the black community'. You will also be called a 'xoon' or 'xambo' for not engaging with 'popular activities and past-times that the media portrays as black peoples hobbies'. You literally said at the beginning of the video, MULTIPLE TIMES that you don't hate being black. You were just reflecting on the things that come with it, and how they make it more complicated.
I'm African. People want you to NEVER say any critical thing about being 'black' or ' the black community' or how being black affects your personal self-expression. Especially amongst other black people. The 'community' will police you to PERFORM your blackness to the adequate required level or you will be found to be in contempt. You can't just be black n be 'nerdy' or interested in computers n gaming n stuff. You will be seen as a 'disgrace' or 'outcast'. But we need these people. They should not be denied their heritage or connection to their peers. This is them deciding to be an individual and think for themselves and live how they wish to live!
great video, post more!
Bro your funny when u want to be.
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
You should speak a bit slower so I can understand you, am from Nigeria
I'm Nigerian and i can hear him bro.
You have interesting videos, I’ll never be black pilled because I believe in myself and other blacks, but being black shows that we have to grind harder and be better until the Goverment makes us better laws
"until the government makes us better laws" this guy must have been high when he typed this, always these types of people why we are in the situation the world is in "just gotta wait until someone fixes everything for us shieeet"