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“I was born black I will die black I just don’t want to die because I’m Black”
Wow👍👌
Amen!!
😢
This gave me chills 🙏🏿
This needs to be in bold hun for the globe, not just the U.S.!!!
If society doesn't want an angry black man, then society needs to stop creating them. We need to grow up as a society.
Honestly. Its very simple. When a child is raised in an environment with no support system, constant violence, and a weak education system then you have a "broken" child. With the way America has treated black people in its entire existence they expect black people to come out as astounding citizens? They're crazy! Theres numerous studies on the effects slavery had on people all over the world. Theres deep trauma and we won't be able to fix it without acknowledging it.
@@whatoh3407 you are 100% correct
Unfortunately most of us are perpetually children. The school bullies that never grew up. Makes 'em feel good about themselves. Losers. Sore ones, at that. All validated by the biggest sore loser bully ever, and I think we all know to whom I am referring.
@@cindismith4342 said perfectly.
But why can't we let them be angry with the same consequences as a white man would have. People get angry...equality in it is what he means.
"Just because I prefer peace doesn't mean I forgot how to be violent", this is well said.
Exactly!!
Love that quote..words to live by really.
"Because my skin tone isn't viewed as a weapon"
Man, that cuts deep.
It truly does.😞
I see it more as "my skin tone is viewed as a crime", and how does one respond when actions/comments come from people of authority (law enforcement) from that point of accusation (just looking for an actual law infraction)?!
Yes it cut deep but spot on.
Nobody notices when you're being provoked, only when you retaliate. Then the provocateur plays the victim, and you're punished for retaliating.
Every single fucking time.
They notice. They WANT you to react
So true. Patrice O'Neil even had a bit about this. Chasing after a white kid who called him a name and the kid ran to a teacher and Patrice was the only one that got in trouble. It's not like you're gonna murder him, you just want an apology and some mutual respect but the fucker ran lol. Ah, memories!
@@privateprivate5302 Yes, it's a provocation that they know they have the high ground on. I've always claimed there is a blurry line between racist sentiments and anger because when a person gets pissed and wants to fight then the racism comes out. IMO it's a cultural and societal conditioning that if there is this divide in an interpersonal conflict then the white person can always defer to the law to make their case, implicit in that is that structural racism benefits them. I've watched this play out my whole life and watched as some political parties platform gaslighting and claim it doesn't exist. I don't see it as much anymore because we've progressed and I live in a diverse community now. But growing up in an all-white community you watch racism ooze out as they forget you're different from them. But to be fair there is also an element of curiosity where they are genuinely interested in your experience of being different. Which by today's standards would get trashed by the woke. But it is coming from a sincere place of wanting to understand. You can only know the distinction between experiencing it rather than through a tweet or post.
@@YukonBloamie I am 44yrs old. I live is Missouri. My knowledge of racist actions, reactions and the motivations behind them come from first hand experience. Just like it's a "culture of racism" I am from a generation where elders TEACHING black children how to NAVIGATE racism is also a"culture". I was blessed to be born of a generation that DIRECTLY benefitted from the civil rights movement
I was blessed to have grown up in an era, where white flight was in full effect, but the neighborhood i grew up in, though predominantly black, was predominantly working class. My school district was one of the wealthiest in the state. where living in a black neighborhood didn't automatically mean disenfranchisement.
My neighborhood was black, my schools were predominantly black, my teachers were of ALL races and ALL had marched on Washington.
St Louis is a segregated city, but my part was only predominantly black.
ALL our teachers cared for us. Taught us black history. Explained racism and the motivations behind it. And taught us as black kids how to navigate it. On field trips when we were going to be mixing with "the white schools from the racists parts Missouri"
Our teachers, like parents, taught is what we would encounter from those segregated farm land schools. Prepared us to be provoked by students and their teachers calling us Niggers, and micro and Macro aggressions.
As kids, that's just the way of the world.
"White people from those far out farm lands are just racists and ignorant and not exposed" we were taught
We. Even had to protect our white students, we were predominantly black, but not completely
And it was more uncomfortable for our white classmates to be in the middle of or bear witness too racist aggressions toward us, than it was for is as black kids
But as kids we were protected
As a young adult though armed with all my knowledge on race relations, experiencing it without the protection of an elder was like The Matrix
I didn't realize it was as bad as it was under the protection of an all black school in an all black neighborhood with progressive former civil rights activists as my shields
I had to see and understand the reality of racism beyond the farm hands and the segregated school children
I learned in college, white girls provoke and then play Victim
I learned that even when they are wrong, administration will take their side
I learned that a lot of the sht they did was MANIPULATIVE in that they THOUGHT they could predict how i would react and how they would be able to USE my reaction against me
I learned NOT to be their puppet
I learned to predict their games and the motivations behind those games
I learned to choose my battles when I was attacked
I learned life as a black person has to be lived BEYOND the guise of what's purely right vs wrong
What I know is that for a black woman at least, it's a little bit easier, because hateful white men aren't also intimidated by me like they are with the black men that they hate
Lesser threat meant decreased mistreatment
Navigating racism is a life long journey. It will never end. Not in the United States
As a 39 year old Black Veteran, I think I like this answer more than anyone you could've tried to give.
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Sorry about that spam reply, I reported it. I was going to say I agree with you. I was bullied throughout school, not because I was black (I'm not) but because I had to wear glasses and was (still am) ugly as home-made sin.
@@sophierobinson2738 💖
55 year old black man….. AND native. ALSO a veteran………
And I wholeheartedly agree!
Thank you for your service. You are appreciated 🥰
As a Black Woman I really appreciate how you responded, many wouldn't have even tired to respond. This is why I look forward to your videos every day.
As another black woman..Alabama to be exact🙌🏽..I agree with you.. his videos make so much sense ..it’s very refreshing to see people who give honest- from the -heart responses..🥰🥰
Sometimes you just have to kill a person and if you care enough they'll get the point I am a black person and some of us rather die then cry
@@brianmartinez7530 that's the only way by any means necessary
Black men need to tune in..
@@brianmartinez7530
Really you compare a vaccine to slavery and racism. A global pandemic which has now killed more people here than the Spanish flu...and all we had to do was all pull together and you call yourself a pure blood...like you've never had any vaccinations or blood transfusion. Slavery, racism is not yours to change your selfish stance on a United front to help save lives....just leave us out of your false narrative.
Beau, I appreciate your honesty. One thing that African Americans don’t like is someone with a “white savior” complex. I think you know what I mean by that. In this video you are showing us that you are not the white man with all the answers and it is very much appreciated.
This black brother’s agony and pain is palpable. Brought tears.
yes
me too
Not black, but a mother and it made me cry too
same
It's sadly a common story and a common set of thoughts among minorities who've faced violence, especially black men*. And that is truly a tragedy. We shouldn't have to life in fear or develop trauma disorders purely because abuse is deemed acceptable when it's toward someone who doesnt fit societal standards.
@@1____-____1 focus the anger, rather than let the anger control you. Lashing out due to the anger is the problem.
Beau, I’m a 38 year old black man and watching this felt like having a beer with my oldest best friend who really really gets it. Can’t wait until the next one my friend. Keep the thoughts coming.
That's how I feel. Also the reason why I subscribed to this man. Genuine
I'm a 44 y/o White Woman and I agree 100%! He and his beautiful Wife are the epitome of Good People
Beau is like the bartender in a smokie old lounge !
Man I was thinking the same thing. As black people in America we've all had to build a shell around us to deflect all the nonsense from America at large and from the personal interactions that happen from time to time that remind us there's something really inhumane about certain people. Sometimes I get angry and upset and my wife will ask me why and I just tell her it can all be too much. What's frustrating is I'm an optimist and I know the world can get better. I'm just super impatient about it.
❤️❤️❤️
I'm with Beau. My heart goes out to black men caught in this toxic minefield. The fact that more have NOT fallen into this trap is a testimony to the character of these men and how much white Americans can stand to learn from their fortitude.
I needed to read this comment today. Thank you brother.
"Because my skin tone isn't viewed as a weapon..." That small statement, within the bigger message, made me cry. I'm am so worried for humanity....
Substitute "angry black man" with "angry black woman" and that's me. I felt all of this.
Right up there with savage for indigenous girls. Hate not being allowed to get mad. ❤
@@carrieullrich5059 People call you savage?
@@carrieullrich5059 One of many words my son hears a lot. I constantly worry about what ignorance he will have to deal with today. It is a rage that Noone deserves to live with and I have very few answers for him. I pray a lot. My hope for you is to always get home safely.
@@anniecole6923 I don’t pray but am sending my sincere best wishes for you and your son.
If you ever want to share more, I'm listening.
"my skin tone isn't viewed as a weapon..." such a simple phrase, but means so much. Love your content brother! Truth and positivity 🤜🏾
That shit was deep
I'm Black and I appreciate Hearing a proud White man just be so honest, not pandering, just honest, much respect !
His anguish is proof of his humanity,
and his tormentor's lack thereof.
Solidarity my friend, the struggle is real.
Beautifully articulated! Beau's telling of this black man's struggle just breaks my heart that we are still dealing with this garbage.
beautifully said
I didn't expect to be crying today but this story just broke me up. The least of white privilege is being left in peace and I can only imagine this man's torture, though I can feel the pain, and as long as this continues, we shouldn't consider ourselves free, none of us, not like this!
There are many mean posters here at Beau--- yet they think they are justified.
The author of the letter in Beaus video is commenting on Mirage Greys thread if you want to subscribe in solidarity. His profile name is FWDC Norac.
Sharing how that man felt was the best response that you could’ve given. People need to understand how dangerous racism can be. Thanks Beau🙏🏾
Grew up white in Utah, visited Louisiana, had no idea why people of color there seemed to hate me, they'd never met me! Got indignant. Also couldn't figure out why there were Confederate statues everywhere... disturbing and surreal. Later, heard a podcast, a young woman, a Black woman, explaining, shaking with emotion, why white people should try to hear her... how every day of her life looked different from mine, how even the simplest things were a challenge. Never understood white privilege until that moment.
Sir, please keep writing, and speaking. You will be heard, eventually even by shut-ins like me.
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Except R Kelly, call him anything you want....were good with that.......lol You are right, Thanks Beau
Joe Biden can call a black man, who's one of his senior advisors "boy", so that word is officially NOT racist anymore!!
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@@wassupstock I used to be against BLM until like 3 years ago , so many black people also stand up for other ethnic groups and even whites when their rights are taken away by a unjust criminal justice system that effects everyone.
Still chocked up. I've been waiting for decades to hear a white man use his privilege with the deep understanding that it's impossible to relate to what a black man (and women) has experienced yet be empathetic as well as supportive while providing space for processing and progress.
Thx Beau for being that man. I really appreciate you.
“My skin tone isn’t viewed as a weapon” stopped me cold. I can’t relate to this situation. Can’t imagine how it feels. One thing I can do is say I believe it exists. Validate it. Try my best to raise a child who sees and acknowledges the injustices as well. And hope the next generation will do better than mine has.
Beau, I'm a 62 yr old black man and your response was spot on 💯. I felt his rage but at 62 my rage subsides much quicker. Growing up in Alabama and drinking from Colored only water fountains at the country store I remember hearing my grandfather being referred to as "boy" a few time. He would then be very quite for a long time. It wasn't until I got older and reflected on those incidents that I understood the pain and anguish my grandfather felt. He never spoke on it. When we drove by a field at night with crosses burning we knew not to say anything. We didn't quite understand it but we knew that it was bad and grandpa probably was gonna be silent again for a long time. The rage and anger I felt eventually turned to tears and sadness for my grandpa. What I realized later was that our views on racism did not come from him. It came from our own experiences. When my kids were born I wasn't sure how to address racism. Each of them had a racist experience in elementary school that they still carry. When Yale recruited my son to play football one of the questions was "talk about an event that changed you as a person." He wrote about the 4th grade incident with a racist phys ed teacher. He will take that to his grave and so will I.
I remember my first blatantly racist encounter at age 7, and it was at school too. You're right you always carry it. There were other looks, mutterings and attitudes before, but that time was the first I was able to recognise it for what it was. Of course there have been many, MANY others since, sometimes worse, even here in the UK. But being dismissed, or more often than not goaded, as an 'angry black woman' sucks, no matter where it comes from.
@@LadyJoolree xx
Having no answer Beau, is better than a bull sit answers I here from whites that try to whitewash the problem or blame the black people for complaining! Thank you for your honesty.
@@thomasbrown9699 I think society could benefit from whitewashing the responsibility of racism. I stopped looking at racism as a black people's issue long ago, it's my issue to deal with, my peers and family that need to be delt with.
I'm sorry you bear the consequences of my people's issues, and I'm sorry those consequences are so grave.
I to had a situation in the 4th or 5th grade that I have never forgotten (@47). It was picture day and I wore a beautiful yellow dress. just before the pictures were taken, a brown skinned girl from Hawaii (mind you there were only three brown/black people in the whole school) walked up to me and said you know what? You look like burnt toast with butter on it. I've never fogotten her.
As a kid I was told by my racist grandfather, and several other racists, never to say "sir" or "ma'am" to black people, but to always say it to white people. Ever since then I've made it a point to say "sir" or "ma'am" to black people whenever I can, as a sign of respect.
Thank you for seeing through to the humanity of all humans, black and white alike.
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Thank you Sir.
@@lmichelle80sbaby why are you thanking for the bare minimum ?
@@lulubugz2852 Probably because the bare minimum is too much effort for most people.
@@lulubugz2852 I agree it's the bare minimum, and it's far from the only thing I do... but, it's just one little thing. For years few people in the South would do that, so it is noticed, after generations of things like being called "boy." It's a little thing, but little things can add up.
Beau said "I don't see them sitting on me until I'm dead," and "My skin tone isn't viewed as a weapon," and I broke and teared up. I _needed_ to see this video, after constantly being accused of reverse racism and race card-playing in the Comment sections. Well-spoken again, Beau! God bless! ✊🏿
"If you're conscious of what's going on in this country & and you're black, you're in a constant state of rage". -James Baldwin
This is very true.
Respect! to the man who doesn’t try to speak on what he doesn’t know.
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Word.
When is Beau gonna talk about Joe Biden calling a black man "boy"?
So weird how he ignores that huh?
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And still retains his dignity and masculinity. A trait woefully absent these days
Always ❤
The only answer I have as a white woman raised in the South is to demand that those like me step up and speak out if we are a witness. It may not be much, but it isn't nothing. Which for too long has been the norm.
I, too, am a white woman in the south, and I can absolutely relate!
Empathy, compassion, education, critical thinking, humility, honesty, and solidarity are integral components in the fight to end America’s enduring disease of systemic racism.
I thank you for yours. 💗
As a white woman (although not in the South) I will be an ally to anyone I witness being racially victimized.
Well as a young black man who has a wife and 5 young black sons and 4 black daughters! Think you all thats what we need! God bless!!!🙏🏾
I too am I white woman in the south and I pledge to be a better ally to my friends of color.
To the author, I don't know the answer either but I hope you know that you are loved and supported by many people that you will never know. Your words brought tears to my eyes and touched my soul.
Thank you 🤗 🙏🏾
I feel like I just witnessed a deeply edifying conversation between two men for whom I have great respect. Thanks for sharing!
I'm crying and wishing desperately I could give the letter writer a huge hug as only a fat woman can!
"Do what you have to, to come home alive."
-Mom & Dad
This is what parents say to their children in war zones . The fact that the talk even needs to be had makes one feel as though they are in a hostile nation.
@@lulubugz2852
We are…
Man this right here!
@@notnow_stopitagain5800 good point . Sigh.
I’ve heard that growing up and I’ve said it several times this last year to my sons. It seems to never end.
The entirety of this is why we all love Beau so much.
So true... The amount of empathy is surreal. 💔
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Yes
I have SO much respect for Beau's thoughts and clarity on this situation
Just at first glance, seeing the title of this clip, “How Should Black People Respond to Racism,” literally *HORRIFIED* me!
But, then, I breathed a welcome sigh of relief …
Because my rational mind quickly caught up with my hair trigger emotional response, and it sharply reminded me:
*”DON’T WORRY, GIRL! YOU KNOW DAMN WELL THAT BEAU HAS GOT THIS!!!”*
Then I settled in to listen to Beau attempt to educate those whose white privilege supersedes their critical thinking capacity!
❤️Thank you, Beau! As always. Once again, one of your clips brought me to tears.❤️
“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”
- Nelson Mandela
This is bullshit.
A Jae what would you rather Mandela have said???
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I would love to believe it but, i just cant, i honestly believe alot of people are born with nothing but hate and get off on people suffering or manipulating people for their benefit
@@ajae... explain
"PTSD" isn't the wrong term, neither is the man's use of the word "torture" because it describes the torturer's aim perfectly, i.e. to use cruelty in order to inflict the most pain. Through his chosen words, I felt that man's insufferable pain.
Well maybe the "Post" part. This is clearly an ongoing trauma.
Yes! It irritates me when people assume combat/war is the only thing that can cause trauma, or that it's necessarily worse or more valid
“Cruelty is the point” ! Seems like I hear that all too much in our politics and in our society of late.
I wonder if that violence, of words and actions, could be defined similarly to sectarian terrorism?
Yes, as a white, Australian, woman, the only thing I can add is that PTSD can happen to anyone, not just soldiers. It can be caused by something sudden, like a car crash, or near drowning, or something prolonged, like domestic violence. In fact it seems to be pretty common in DV, which has a lot of parallels with what this man is describing - walking on eggshells, always looking over your shoulder, never knowing when something is going to blow up, always being the one at fault even when you know you're not.
To the man who wrote the letter, hugs, best wishes, and respect, from the other side of the world.
Then you have people who say “Stop playing the victim”, “that was a long time ago”, “I never owned ***, my ancestors never owned ***”, “Stop playing the race card”, “What about what you people do to each other in Chicago”, etc, etc. Deflect, Deflect, Deflect….
Exactly! I am so sick and tired of those same ass lame excuses they use.
Most white people are killed or murdered or raped by other white people...yet they never address " White on White" crime. I wonder 🤔 why ?
Bless you Beau. As a black man, in my humble opinion, that was a perfect answer.
I really appreciate the way you've handled this. Not everyone is thoughtful when addressing other people's experiences. You're a good man.
I think you handled this perfectly. I would only disagree with your thinking that someone who looks like you isn’t helpful in putting out a message such as the fellow who wrote so eloquently . It’s people who look exactly like you do Beau.. who sound like you & speak in the way you do, that WILL help change the hearts & minds of the brainwashed & the clueless. Hardcore racists? No, they’re a lost cause imho. I could be wrong. One of my many shortcomings is that’s I don’t tolerate fools for long. It’s the rest of the people who have the chance of changing. We need to come together against those who interminably divide us & keep some of us under their boot heels.. or their knees.
@@dshepherd107 I couldn't look less like Beau. I'm sure regarding skin color, I look something like the man who wrote the letter. I commend Beau because he just may get through to people who look like him (as you note). I know too deeply what happens when people who 'look like me' try to explain or describe these experiences, without support from people who 'look like' Beau.
@@cheriann6461 I think that person was actually addressing Beau?😬😁
@@Andrea.1tree Oh. That would make more sense. ;) Hi Andrea!
@@cheriann6461 😄 Some new utube user maybe? Hi to you as well. I was following your conversation with the guy whining about the neighbors. I said my two cents worth, but I didn’t think it was my place to speak for someone else. You said everything I noticed about his comment. I think it’s just another form of creating discord. The trolls are getting more insidious.
The term you're looking for is 'Complex PTSD'. Where "normal" (for lack of a better word) ptsd is caused by hugely intense 'short' moments, complex ptsd is sustained stress and fear (i.e. hypervigilance) over a long time.
Thanks for the explanation! I always learn so much from Beau's viewers.
Truth. Many of us have PTSD from childhood. I am one of those.
@@kellyberry4173 I am too.
Complex PTSD refers to sustained trauma during childhood, usually. Because it has different consequences (in brain development) than similar situations would have later. It's often likened to surviving a POW camp.
He almost certainly has it. I'd guess a good number of black people do. I do too. There are a lot of differences, but the two most relevant ones here (in my opinion) are 1 - that you are more likely to get triggered to anger more than fear, but also to suppress that anger, because it's not safe to feel and express it and you need to stay alert and clear headed. And 2 - that people don't really get your triggers, and don't take you seriously. Someone coming back from a war can point to an event that everyone can easily see is traumatic. They have only this sense of vague awfulness and can't find a comparable experience of their own, so they take it seriously. But us, with C-PTSD? Not so much. A lot of people will hear something like this man's words and they think that he's exaggerating for attention. That he's being oversensitive and unreasonable and needs to just deal. They do that because someone was mean to them in high school or their little brother always called them some annoying nickname and they think that it's the same experience. And you really don't have any good way to respond to that.
Thank you. This was the comment that I was looking for. Was going to state this too. Learnt about this term in recent years of growing up. And listening to a psychologist or two online about this topic.
The fact that you can't relate and have no answer is the perfect answer, and it serves to demonstrate the gentleman's point is elegantly poignant.
When I read the title I was initially offended bc I thought to myself "you should have no opinion on how black people should respond to racism." I'm glad I watched bc your "I don't have an answer" was the best answer I've heard come from "the other side of the pool."
Now, there's a hell of an idea: a channel like Beau's by a person of color.
The content is different - he does media analysis - but F. D Signifier has a similar thoughtful, patient warmth to him.
@@jeffengel2607 I second this FD signifer
@@jeffengel2607 just checked his channel and realized that I recognize him from my recommend videos recently, guess the algorithm isn't completely wrong.
Which color yellow red black or white ! ?
If the questioner starts his own youtube channel, I'd give him a follow.
Same
Me, too.👍💯
same
I'm thinking about it. Give me time to process the fact that he even responded. I'm still sitting in the moment in quiet contemplation. Thanks for the support though.
@@fwdcnorac8574 I am with the others. I too would follow you. I am glad he made this into a video.
I'm not black, but I'm angry that anyone is made to feel like this man feels. All I can say is to realise that it's the racists who are something less than human, and to feel how you do, says you are truly human and my brother.
"My skin tone isn't viewed as a weapon." So so so sad and unfortunately, true.
I respect you Beau for being honest that you do not have the answer or can or cannot relate to certain issues that may concern black people directly.
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Honesty is so refreshing.
You don't get too many with a sound mind and honesty like Beau...like he said,the question alone is just a thought, and he didn't have an answer
Much Respect
@@descendantofchaoscontrover7046I love this brother
I always think of South Park: "I get it: I don't get it" ua-cam.com/video/3j2Pb0YwVH8/v-deo.html
You made me cry when you said, "I can't really relate to this." And you are correct...it's exhausting!! Thank you for your thoughtful, empathetic response.
I’m crying too!
I remember leaving Chicago with my dad to go to Louisiana on Amtrak cause his mom was dying. I enjoyed the train ride and dad introduced me to “ Onion soup “
which I loved. When we got down south to the ticket agent dad had forgotten his I.D. The ticket person said to my dad “ Boy don’t you know we could lynch you ? And nobody would know who you were ? “ as an 8 year old black girl that broke my heart😥 I immediately realized that my hero was just a man , I felt he was just a helpless Blackman and I was afraid for him . To this day some 50 years later I don’t care for my beloved “ Onion soup “ anymore. Hatred destroys and that’s all it does and will ever do. Thank you Beau. May God bless you and your family to prosper in every way ❤️🙏🏾❤️
When someone's words make you cry...you know they hit core. And it is PTSD isn't it? Thank you both for sharing.
I have been thinking it was PTSD that we all feel but it felt good to hear someone else confirm it
That was powerful.
When I hear the phrase "angry black man," I immediately think of two men: Fredrick Douglass and Malcolm X.
I think black people in the USA have a right to be mad. I mean, race is a social construct, but the systemic discrimination is real.
Your thoughtful pause before answering is exactly the pause everyone should take before their actions and words are conduct they ‘should’ regret.
What you say is true and your words are wise. It would be wonderful if the officers of the law did exactly the same then maybe those doing the provoking would dial it back because they would no longer have the guarantee of the police deciding the victim is in the wrong before they even get to the scene of the fracas.
Exactly. What a difference a well placed pause can make. ❤️
yes, I think that was the high point of his speech...his silence.
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"hey everyone, the way you convincingly fake caring is pausing for a few seconds to make the person your talking to think you actually give a damn... thats the right way, instead of actually giving a damn"
I often say this country is damn lucky all we are demanding is equality and NOT revenge!
As a mother of two black sons i feel the same way as this young man. My heart breaks because I feel the same way😭😭😭😭
I feel for the writer. No one should have to endure this sort of thing. He is no boy, he is a man and deserves all of the respect given to any other man. There is no excuse for this treatment.
@John Anderson I wish there were something I could say that would help even one person going through this. No one is deserving of this treatment. 😥
@John Anderson I'm sorry my sorry is nowhere near enough!
@@loganwollf8329 best you can do is teach yours' better
@@nastynealsmancave6574 and I have been.
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Thank you for admitting that you don't gave a solution, because you can't relate. It means that you are far more aware and honest about the situation and what is at stake for black people.
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This subject brings me to tears every time. As a black man, how do we turn this into something positive? It literally leaves me at a loss if words out of frustration and disgust.
Other ethnic groups but especially some whites do alot of talking but no listening and lack empathy.
Um... let's remember that black people wanted integration, you guys bought into "one for all" message, and never looked book.
Be careful what you wish for.
The oppressors DO NOT EVER get to tell the oppressed how to fcking react to being oppressed.
Unfortunately it happens a lot more than you'd think. I can think of a lot of current situations like that.
The only real experience I have, that might be a similar feeling, is when, as an abused spouse, I was told that if I was a good wife, he wouldn't hit me. The rage I felt, how trapped I felt, how powerless I felt. But, I eventually got away. This man can't get away from his skin tone. I hope he finds a way to find peace.
I think thextwo situations are actually very similar.
Except that why should he want to get away from his skin tone. It's the other guy who needs to find a way to get rid of his irrational fear of black skin.
@@margaretnicol3423 It's not the skin tone in itself, it's the treatment that American society gives to people with that skin tone. He could get away from it by emigrating, but that's a huge step. Just as leaving your spouse is.
@@margaretnicol3423 No arguments from me. Each person is whatever they were born. Not inherently good or bad, we all just are. Being judged for what a person is born as, no matter the topic (skin tone, gender, sexuality, nationality) is just wrong.
@@dalstein3708But even then move where? Africa? They don't know it, as that history was systematically taken from them. Move to Europe where it is better? I suppose they won't get killed as easily and quickly but even (t)here racism thrives, just in different forms. The biggest similarity between abuse in a relationship and racism would be in my very flawed opinion, that the abuse/racism is in no way the victims fault and the only thing they can do besides fleeing, is to endure it. Neither is great when it comes to the matter of skin tone. In fact, I would argue that they shouldn't have to do anything at all. Or at the very least not on their own. This is not a matter of them vs us, but solely a matter of us as human beings no matter the skin tone.
As long as we as a society do not stand up and speak out and force others to listen to their stories, they cannot speak out. The only way forward is together.
Anyway, I am just a man, who happened to be born with a skin tone that is not discriminated against in such a vile way. I do not have any answers or solutions. Most of what I said is based on feelings of how things should be and dreams of how they could be. Unfortunately hopes and dreams don't change reality and neither do my thoughts or prayers help when fellow humans experience this injustice on a daily basis. But as Martin Luther King said: "I have a dream", and it is my hope that one day his dream becomes real for all of us.
I raised a teen who had much of the same experience when he was in Middle School. Half black, he wasn't sure how to react. I was in the same position you are in as I have seen that kind of bigotry all my life, but have rarely had it aimed at me. I know how I would react, but not how he SHOULD react. I told him that and added that I would be there for him regardless. He's 35 now and has his own family. And doing great, having never resorted to reacting. Instead, he asks himself, "what is causing this person so much pain that they feel the need to lash out at me?" and reminds himself that their problem is with themselves, not him. I'm real proud of him.
And I'm proud of you. You can't make it Right by adding Wrongs. It's better today than it has been, and there's reason to think that it can keep getting better. I hope that someday our decendents will be looking at us from a better place and be thinking of us the way we think of the Dark Ages: a little disgusted and relieved that the past is past.
I bet he's real proud of you too.
@@margaretnicol3423 Thank you.
@@renegade4dio Thanks!
omg. you should be super proud of him, and super sad he had to choose. I know I am. But you should also be super proud of yourself for being such an awesome parent! Well done!
I appreciate that you did not try to answer and that you admitted as much. I am a black woman with three sons,I had my one and only daughter pass away from illness a few years back. The trauma of loss and the chronic trauma of having to live in a state of fear is overwhelming. We can not be angry,mad or even frustrated and scared. Our lives depend on taking a breath,being disrespected,and walking away. Yet we are expected to stand up for,fight for the very people that do it.
Young black guy here. Thanks Beau. One of the brightest and most thoughtful people I know.
I don't know you lol. But you get what I meant.
I was shaky coming into this. I thought "No, not Beau", and even more shaky listening cause I relived all of my experiences through this brilliant Brother. Thank you for sharing Beau, and always showing humanity lights the darkness of rage.
What would have been the problem with Beau giving his advice (if he felt he had any worth sharing) when he was asked for it? I can understand not wanting to be advised when you haven't asked for it, but.. if you do and you get angry once you are given the advice, then I'd say you are being quite unreasonable.
The issue that is white to black racism isn't anything special, in terms of natural systems. It is simply another version of repression. If Beau was for example a poor white person in a rich neighbourhood he could have faced similar societal separation, or if he were raised in a deeply Christian family whilst not being one, he could have faced similar experiences in terms of societal repression and physical harm, or if he were a military person living with PTSD he could have shared how he deals with feeling threatened at every step or if he were an anti-government person during the Nixon days when such people were persecuted and imprisoned (or even today, whistleblowers for one).
Granted, neither of those would probably result in his death, and neither would fully encapsulate all aspects of being a black person in the USA, but it's not unreasonable to assume that he could have had some advice on some aspects of it. And, granted, he doesn't so he just flat out says so.
But why would you immediately assume he hasn't shared similar experiences or that it's impossible for him to have based on his race?
What is it with this race division so deeply ingrained in our brains?
Why do people divide themselves in blacks, whites and other such bullshit? We share 99.7% of our DNA with each other, we are very very close. Race is an illusion, a tool used for power. Why can't an Asian person give advice to a Black person or a Black person to a White person and vice-versa and so on, even on race related issues? It's all about if you have had a similar experience and if you feel it's something which might prove useful to the person asking you for the advice. It may not be, but that's okay, the person being given the advice will decide for themselves.
To be honest, the self-preserving response a black person can take, to being verbally abused in public, is similar to being verbally abused at your workplace by your boss, which is the advice most workers can give you regardless of their race - you shut your mouth and don't respond in any way if you don't want to face repercussions. Granted, losing your job is a far smaller issue than facing imprisonment or cop abuse but that depends. If you're a poor white, latino, asian, w/e person, losing your job can be catastrophic. And if you're Will Smith, the repercussions probably won't result in your death.
So... it comes down to power and privilege and the fact that black people have far less of it if they are lower or middle class. Granted. But a poor white person in Russia or Kazakhstan has far less power over their own life than a black person does in the USA. And a black person in some parts of Africa even less.
My point is... sure, it's likely that a white person in the USA won't have proper advice for a black person in the USA. But assuming that they wouldn't is... well, it's racist, no other way to put it. We are rounding numbers, simplifying people's individual experiences into "us" and "them". That is not to say that white people should go giving advice to black people on how to live as a black person in the USA, hell no. To be honest, no person should give advice to anyone unless asked.
But don't get angry at someone for responding when asked, especially as a third party. You can't know if their advice is good or not before hearing it out and you can't know if their advice is useful to the person asking. Same way you can't know if a black person's response would have been good or not. It all depends on the individuals.
Anyway, hopefully one day the USA can resolve their racism issues by rooting it out from the government and corporation systems, which are the core of the problem, to my eyes at least. It's sad to see people so zealously separating themselves into "us" and "them".
You have a way with words yourself. ^-^
@@arkthul8872 : How exactly does one go about giving advice for a situation they have never found themselves in? One might even consider that the epitome of the Dunning-Kruger syndrome. And Beau is certainly not someone who is too weak to be introspective.
@@arkthul8872 I don't know if there would necessarily be a problem in and if itself, but Beau answered from his heart here, and honestly, in doing so he forged a connection with the writer that said, "You're valid, you're being heard, and like you I don't have an answer."
(I agree in general with a lot of your points here, so I won't respond to those other than to thank you for taking the time and thought to share those with us.
@Allen Greer Sir, I, like Beau, can't answer this man's eloquent and heart-rending question. But, a word in your comment struck home to me. 'relived' is that word. What I will tell you, through my struggle with combat related PTSD, is advise given to me by one of my VA therapists. She was asking me to share more of my combat experiences. I, as most vets do, had tried to forget them. Isolate them and and find a good place to bury 'em...deep. Her gentle, but persistent, prodding evoked from me a rage-response and I asked her if being a sadist was a required prerequisite to becoming a therapist or just a helpful bonus. I'll never forget her response. She said, " I need you to remember and share your horrible memories enough times 'til you can recall them without reliving them." Her words have helped me. So, I felt the urge to share them with you. I pray her words may help you as they have helped me.
Black man in my 50s here... dammit Beau you went and made me cry. Keep up the good work man.
Black man in my 60s. Ditto.
White man here shedding a tear
White American almost 50.
I see you. I don't tolerate racism from strangers, friends, or even family.
As a black man in America, I must say 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Even when Beau can't answer a question I find myself listening to his every word well said Mate.
This one really hurts. This man deserves an answer because having to turn his anger back on himself is just adding more trauma onto the enormous pile of the trauma he already has.
Anger turned inward quickly turns to depression.
@@evilsharkey8954 Not just depression. I have actually been in the hospital for depression and its pal anxiety. I can't even begin to tell you what that's like.
Those conditions also cause physical illness which could become life-threatening.
This should be considered assault, but good luck in making the charge stick. If the cops would even make an arrest, which I highly doubt.
@@Tam5115 : You're right, and he deserves more than an answer. It's unfortunate that this is one Beau cannot rightly answer though, since he could never even be in that position. There are however a whole lot of wise black men out there who can answer that question. Some of them even have youtube channels that are awesome. I can personally recommend _T1J_ and _DL Hughley._ T1J reminds me quite a lot of Beau in how he very logical and not at all sensationalist.
Not Beau’s answer to give tho. He did the right thing. I hope bro starts a channel.
You are right. This man deserves an answer. But perhaps the outlet of release he chose this time (meaning the words he wrote to Beau) and Beau expressing his own inability to do the words justice will have a greater impact on more people than we can imagine. So many messages of support on the comment thread. So many people coming out of the shadows and relating to those words. Maybe it’s not enough...at least for anyone who has been subjected to this kind of hurtful and toxic rhetoric. But one small step leads to another...and another...and another as we all search for some kind of answer and some kind of peace.
"Just because I prefer peace, doesn't mean I forgot how to be violent."
Every person in history who fought back against a tormentor and didn't become one themselves.
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Baby steps.... incremental changes in perceptions of past and present situations that lead to more productive paths...
"The art of not giving a f**k"
Is a decent book for seeing the past-present connections as they were...
Sometimes we run into bastards and it's not our fault.
(100% - 0% percent responsibility)
Sometimes we participated out of naive youthfulness or something.
(50% - 50%)
Sometimes responsibility is all ours and we're putting blame where it doesn't belong out of blind arrogance.
20% - 80%
Taking 100% responsibility for the present-future connections and choices is what takes courage and emotional maturity.
@@deanjustdean7818 Sounds like you and I had some similarities in a sh!++y childhood. That rage sneaks up on me still at 56. I don't know if it affected me the same as it did you. I never got any help though. At 56 I still have my own issues.
As a white man, I can't relate to this either. I had my eyes opened last year when a black pastor guest preached at my church, and said something that will haunt me for the rest of my days. He said the he had to tell his children how to talk to cops, because "I'd rather pick them up from jail than the morgue." I will never have to have that talk with my two girls, and it is unfathomable and unconscionable to me that that's even a conversation that has to happen. I want so badly for my black brothers and sisters to have what I take for granted every day, and it's soul crushing that I, alone, can't give them what they rightfully deserve as human beings. I can vote, I can give to good causes, I can volunteer in my community and love my neighbor. But that never feels like enough. I wish I knew what to do.
When my kids first got their license my first words to them was "if you get pulled over keep your hands on the steering". Congratulations came second 😔😔.
Beau, PTSD is exactly the best description, because black people in general, and black men in particular are at war. Not war as in violence, while that does happen. But rather a Cold War, like the U.S.A. and Russia. Its a probing, prodding, hyper vigilant, state of distrust and anxiety. Its a burden that can't be put down. Thank you for articulating it so well.
I don't take advice from white people on how black people should behave.
That being said, you did a good job responding Beau
Agreed. When I was 11 (6th grade), I had impromptu rhinoplasty by a group of five 8th graders. I was held down, and while they called me "Hebe" and "Kite"(sic) they took turns punching me in the face until my nose was a shape they could live with. Nothing ever happened to them. I still smell blood when I here certain words.
Difference is, my skin isn't that dark. If I start swinging, I'll have the same experience as Justin. Jews aren't stereotyped as a physical danger. Rage is a physical emotion, righteous rage must be expressed or you'll go crazy. The sort of people who it is directed at will not respond to words.
I've gone on too long. Bottom line, my heart goes out to this guy, but I've got nothing. Justin did the best he could.
We white people don't live in the same social reality, so...we have to take other people's perspectives on board, not impose ours.
Society has not made us do that as much, we're not as good at it.
...Not making excuses.
Neither do my neighbors. That's why their kids continue to throw rocks at other houses & climb on other people's cars. That's why they put a cone out to reserve their own parking space, but let their visitors park in other people's spaces. That's why they end up calling the cops on each other once a month or more.
But since I'm white (mutt, tbh) and they can't disdain themselves to listen to a white man we can't make any kind of connection and talk it thru. It's pathetic. And frankly, if you being black shouldn't mean anything...and it doesn't....then neither should my whiteness.
@@pfpublius Unless your race was Enslaved for Hundreds of years; unless your race has been systematically kept poor and underprivileged for Hundreds of years; Unless you've ever had your neck crushed by a cop until you were dead just for being white; you should shut your ignorant mouth.
@@robertlowe1454 right on que
This letter makes me very sad.
Me too. That's probably a good start. It just leaves the question of where to go.
Something that I enjoy doing:
When a white person says "you speak so well", I always reply "As do you...surprisingly so."
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As a black women over 40 I do not want an ally I want an advocate.
Well said - you have "no idea" of how to respond to the Generational Trauma black men have had to endure here in the US. Continue pausing and speaking the truth my brotha. You are appreciated.
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I'm a world where so many people don't know they don't know Beau's honest admission of ignorance is depressingly enlightened.
There are a few things that I can't understand and racism is one of them. Thinking differently about anyone because of skin color is ridiculous and ignorant! I have absolutely no tolerance for racism.
That letter is heart breaking.
I'm so grateful for my mom to move away from her tired old farm town of Alabama, to work at UAB in Birmingham. She raised me as a single working mom. Growing up in B'ham, my school was evenly mixed as far as race, and my elementary school best friend was black. It was never something I really considered, honestly. She came from a pretty racist family, but luckily for me she knew that was just wrong.
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I am a 52 y.o. Black man from NYC. Served in two service branches, the Army and Coast Guard. Been stationed in the South at 18 is when the first time ever I was called "boy". It was in Dothan Alabama when I was at Ft. Rucker for helicopter repair school. I remember the fire coursing through my veins with my inability to react because of where I was, ALABAMA, and being a young Black private already looked at with scrutiny because I was the only Black soldier in the class. It PAINED me not to react. Luckily i was with a White classmate, who was from West Virginia oddly, who steadied me and helped me out of the situation that surely would have been detrimental to me.
Your answer, enlightenment and EMPATHY could not could not have rang more true. I truly appreciate you honesty and candor.
I cry for my son as I have seen with my own eyes his pain .... I am so afraid for him the moment he leaves his home. He has asked me stop with my worry as he feels my energy & it is making him afraid of life. Thank you dear Sir
Jeez, there's real pain in Beau's eyes. In a cynical world it is rare to hear someone being as honest as this. Damn.
KNOW HOW YOU FEEL MY FATHER CHANGED HIS LAST NAME TO GET A JOB BECAUSE WAS NATIVE AMERICAN WHEN I WAS BORN HE RAISED ME AS WHITE DIDN'T TELL ME WHO I WAS. WHEN I WENT FOR THE ARMY THEY CHECKED MY BACKGROUND THEY TOLD ME MY FATHER HAD NO BIRTH CERTIFICATE. WENT TO AND TOLD THEM TO LOOK UNDER LIGHTFOOT.TALKED WITH DAD AND HE DIDN'T WANT THE HATE HE WENT THRUE. FOUND OUT LATER IN TEXAS WHY HE DIDN'T. YEP HATE FOR A HALF BREED.
Oh, I think that Beau could teach a master class in empathy.
There's one thing people that don't look like him can do. They can be allies- we can all be allies to each other, and watch out for each other when hateful instigators show up.
Exactly !!! Stand Together and defeat this narcissistic ignorance that is the gqp 👍👍👍🤙✌️
I appreciate all allies & strive to be one, as well.
What happens when you're not there? Can we change the system so my baby boys' life doesn't have to depend on if an ally is present or not?
@@omowhanre That's the goal ultimately, and what's been needed for far too long.
@@omowhanre That's what many of us are trying for. I'm a mother and grandmother. I've seen too many mother's tears for a lost child.
Wow…even Beau was stumped, and somehow his response was epic. The world needs more like Beau! 🌎
Honest conversations coupled with earnest actions towards serious change is the only way we can fix systematic problems like racism, sexism, and bigotry.
This made me think of a lyric Frank Zappa wrote in 1965: I'm not black but there's a whole lots a times I wish I could say I'm not white.
I cannot begin to feel what the man who wrote you feels but this shit just makes me nuts.
His words are well crafted. In studying children of color and how they are treated with ADHD, there is a lot of PTSD because when there is a report of racial violence, the fear is sent through the entire community of color.
I would add that it also extends to black women. We have to fear for ourselves, our children, our husbands, fathers, brothers, uncles… and then we get the “pleasure” of being told we’re imagining it, it doesn’t exist, we’re exaggerating, etc. Yeah… land of the free-ish. 😪
THIS! When he said if he speaks as well as he writes that he could start a youtube channel, I was thinking how I struggle with speaking and coming up with the right way of wording things bc of my ADHD and how I as a white person am given the benefit of the doubt while a POC with neurodivergence isn’t. Trauma comes with ADHD as it is, let alone being a POC with it. I’ve wanted to have a channel myself, but I’ve only recently been diagnosed and am struggling to perform basic daily tasks let alone start a youtube channel. Telling someone to start a channel is a great suggestion, but we also have to recognize that it is a privilege in itself to have the mental health to do so. Especially having PTSD, it might be too emotionally hard to simply start one. There are issues I’d like to discuss such as racism and misogyny but my anger over these topics consumes me too much that it could be even worse for my mental health. It could be the same for POC. I see people on Tik Tok all the time demanding answers from POC, as if they are entitled to their emotional labor to produce that content. It’s infuriating. I can’t even imagine what it would be like for a POC. The closest I come to relating is trying to teach men why taking a condom off without the woman knowing is rape. They argue with me and demand my time as if I owe it to them. So a youtube channel, while it would target other black men, would also bring comments from white people and add even more stress. I would suggest a black psychologist if he has access to that resource. They could help him cope with the PTSD and doing what he can for other black men, whether its via a youtube channel, speaking engagements etc. I cried at this video. It physically hurts to hear another human being in so much pain.
I hear you. I suffer from CPTSD and traumatic brain injury as a result of domestic violence, et al. I do keep a mental health blog, which is a challenge especially if my emotions are dysregulated. As far as starting a UA-cam channel like this, it would be particularly difficult because the TBI has affected my speech. But, nevertheless, it's worth a try for anyone with a phone that has a camera and something important to say. If, like myself, the man who wrote the letter is better with the written word than the spoken, a blog is a fine option. So is submitting articles, writing on Medium, etc. I believe Beau's suggestion was meant to be empowering. I took it that way. I feel inspired to try a vlog. Thanks Beau.
@@JLakis I took it that way too. I didn't mean to come off as knocking his suggestion. CPTSD here as well. I hope to someday be able to be in an emotionally stable enough place to do something similar. For now I get angry lol. I admire the grace some people have.
@@kdelka81 Oh. I didn't mean to suggest that what you said wasn't valid. It's completely valid. And anger. Oh my goodness. No one wants a 5ft 1in female yapping in their face like a Chihuahua either. But mainly I face being ignored or isolated for my anger, not the consequences the letter writer does. But it was serendipitous that I saw this video today. I love reading Carolyn Hax's advice column, and she described one woman's anger as "the fury of citizens in an occupied country." And then I saw this video. It can go for anyone who suffers abuse or violence in any form, but it particularly sticks as description of the letter writer's experience. Carolyn also mentioned when it's time "to rise up." And I like that Beau gave an actual action step for this man. It's exactly what Carolyn would do. It also reminds me that while there are free counseling and other assistance for victims of sexual and/domestic violence, I never heard of a free program for therapy for black and brown folks dealing with the everyday struggle of simply existing with what the genetic lottery gave you. For you, have you tried the YWCA ACCESS program? It's free. Their therapists are trained in Trauma therapy, and they have a ton of resources. Most also have a social work degree as well. My therapist introduced me to a book you might like, Heart Minded, by Sarah Blondin. Her work is evidence based, but written in a way to get at your "feeling" mind/heart, instead of the "thinking" brain. She has meditations on her website too that help you learn to acknowledge and feel and deal with the inevitable storms that overcome us, and then return to the peace hidden beneath our armored hearts. The meditations are on www.sarahblondin.com/heart-minded-meditations . Good luck to you! I hope you find a path back to some peace.
Thank you, Friend ❤️ I have 2 teen Black sons; Kings in the making, that this video has helped me with. Thank you so much, My Friend 👑 The question alone and your response taught me a lot. Evil doesn't have a color. Black men are trying to dodge racism and black on black crimes. We have to respond to these 2 evils by still doing the WISE thing and having that relationship with God 🦋
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White in a very white European country, I have never experienced racism. I only knew classism: "She? Oh, it's nothing, she's my maid's daughter." or "She got a scholarship? I thought she was a good girl ..." and anti-intellectualism: "Are you going to college? How pretentious!" Rejected both by mine and by the bourgeoisie, I ended up pitying them, because a piece of soul is missing from people deprived of vision and warmth. Sir, you write wonderfully. Your soul is hurt, but it is whole, otherwise you would not be angry. I don't know what to tell you except that your words and your voice have power. I believe Beau is right: the world needs to hear from you.
If this man does create a UA-cam Channel and speaks like he writes, he’ll get me as a subscriber.
If someone had told me Frederick Douglas or MLK wrote that, I would’ve immediately believed it.
It’s THAT good.
Same here! I would love to hear more of his thoughts.
Yes
well, it's the only way some will listen to him. I'm sure he learned that in life too. it's not what you say, it's how you speak when saying it depending on who you speak to, regardless of if it's clearly understood either way, got to put on the fake voice & change how you speak to even just be heard....& it may or may not & honestly most likely won't make a difference..but hey, trying (if you got the time) doesn't hurt eh
I am a 69 year old white woman and live in a suburban town where only 1 black family lives. I can't imagine how their kids get thru this town system as even my son & grandsons are bullied by son's of policemen(we have a resident state trooper). My husband's family has lived in this town for over 50 years and the only thing that's changed is that there is now a black family in town!
I hope more come soon but we just got a fast food place(Subway & Dunkin') about 10 years ago; the kind of racial equality I'd like to see here is very far off.
I too could not answer any of this man's questions as I have no way to relate...I would, happily, subscribe to this man's UA-cam channel as I would love to be educated by someone who knows the real story. Sadly, a youtube channel of this type might be dangerous for this man so I hope he weighs this option carefully but still does a channel!
I follow Solo & Sarah on UA-cam...a Tribe of Many...a biracial family in Nebraska who are expecting their 11th child.
If they can make a channel work, and they have an international following, I think this young man should go for it!
PLEASE let us know here how we can subscribe & follow you!
What struck me about your comment is that the same old story is being told generation after generation. How many more generations is it going to take for us to be left the hell alone in these here Disunited States of America?
When I was in the Navy a long time ago my Black friends that were called that always replied,” You See A Boy Knock Him Down “.Needless to say they always remand standing. I always respected them even more after that.
I once asked my Mother..."Why does the
whole world hate Black people?" She said
"the Whole world doesn't hate Black people
just the majority of it."
I'm a black woman...
I love you, brother!!!
You are the light!!!
Blessings!!!
His message was so eloquent. I don't know who you are, sir, but you have a gift; you painted a picture that I felt in my soul. I don't know what your aspirations are but I think you should write.
Thank you.
Please don’t hit yourself. It’s deleterious to your mental acumen. You’re the rational voice in my ear. ❤️
That was the guy who wrote the message, not Beau.
Racist incidents towards that guy who messaged Beau make him so mad and hurt inside he hits himself. ☹️ 💔
Indeed. Hit yourself somewhere else if you "need" to hit yourself (though having something you can use to hit something else would be better still). Else, you're doing what they want to do and you'll eventually become what they see you as, cognitively inferior.
Take it out of context and it reads like a textbook example of extreme child abuse. Our society is grinding a huge chunk of the adult population into a state that if it were to be happening in a single household, the violence of the state would be brought to bare in defense of the victim.
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Someone: Says "heck"
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You know, how in movies, there's a boxing club? A safe haven with punching bags; etc? Better than this man's own head.
That letter was sincere and straight from the heart, and a damn good writer!!
I felt that guy's words and felt his pain. I'm a black woman in South Carolina. For mainy of my friends I am the only black person they know. I appreciate your honest response. Bringing this up must of been hard. No one wants to talk about it, because it's uncomfortable. So thank you, and thank that Man for asking something a lot of us want to ask.
There's no way someone, who is not a person of color, can truly understand the cumulative effects that industrial racism has had on those who face it daily. Beau makes that point clearly and understandably. No answers, just more hard questions. I get discouraged about the future of humanity. The older I get the less positive changes I see.
And it still saddens me. As a youngster in 1963, walked into my school between national guard troops, my dad was one, so I wasn’t afraid. My new neighbor, a little black girl, was walking with me, my mom was in the crowd, opposing the forced integration. We stayed friends two years, until we both moved different directions, out of the city. I was afraid for her, and she was for me, everybody hated two eight year olds. That end of the city imploded, and to this day has not recovered. I’m retired now from inner city nursing and the hatred in 2013 was as bad as 1963. I just don’t know how in fifty years we didn’t learn anything.
Maybe our children or children's children will change it all.
I have faith in youngest generation now. I think they won’t fly with the bullshit because history is coming to light. The boomers are dying out, my parents gen is dying at rapid speed, I’m an older millennial I see a lot of us gaining a certain ignorance like the pass gens and the teens now are kind of shitty but when it comes to race I’m start to see more children of different races hanging together. The children are watching
Black, not Person of Color. Stop it.
@@mizzurid I'm a person of color and, no, I won't!
"You answered the question CORRECTLY because you answered the question HONESTLY".................Nuff said.
Beau I'm a 50 year old Black Man, This is the Second Time I've ever had trepidation with one of your posts, The first was The Reparations Post then this one. I've enjoyed so many of your videos, your seemingly open and honest views as well as your rational intellect and humanistic approach to various subject matters. Although I didn't fully agree with your Reparations post, I did feel it was a good idea and deserved merit because it did offer some type of repair. These subjects are very sticky because of the emotional pain still attached to these topics mostly due to never being adequately addressed as well as modern perpetuation due to this being written in this countries DNA from it's inception. Slavery and All Post Slavery Treatment and Disenfranchisement is a CRIME against humanity that some Whites and even some Blacks (Elder/Owens?) think and feel no punishment or justice should be meted out. A whole war was fought over the question of slavery ironically after Whites vying for THEIR OWN Independence, yet these same people in question work OT to deny others their NATURAL RIGHTS. Reparation would not even be a subject today firstly if these so called Founding Fathers Word was Bond, not only were/are they hypocritical but they offered Reparations reneged and further persecuted Non Whites, they even persecuted their own women. Reparations seems A Fool's Dream and Not Likely to be Seen in My Lifetime, though I could be wrong because I've said the same about a Black President. Beau's idea about putting money in a Trust to be accessed in times of need is a novel idea but personally the punishment doesn't fit the crime. I think this country should be glad we're overwhelmingly asking for Reparations a not blood but the fact is White Supremacy is the Real Rule of the Day, always has been and some don't intend on letting that go. What is todays financial equivalency of 40 acres and a mule? They have intentionally kicked the can so far down the road because they never intended to honor it or you and seek to make everyone not them a permanent underclass. Now as to how to respond to racism, I felt Beau was spot on by honestly saying how he might initially react because I would probably respond in kind by putting somebody on their ass and take the charge. It's probably more intelligent to take the high road but we loose a chance for that Teachable Moment, I'm a firm believer that we wouldn't be on the low road if other's didn't venture there first. Beau's statement that he couldn't relate was the icing because from that sentiment alone even though he understood he couldn't fully relate because he lacked the experience but could empathize. We Thank You for Compassion and always being brutally honest, from all Melanated People, Past, Present and Future.
I truly loved your post…Yes, we the descendants of formally enslaved Americans want our equivalent of 40 acres & a mule with compounded interest for uncompensated generational wealth…Do I think we will get it…Not in my lifetime…The fix is in on making Black people the permanent underclass…Starting with Reconstruction until today with mass incarceration…The Moynihan Report clearly states without correcting economic disenfranchisement Civil Rights legislation will only produce “The Illusion of Inclusion”…LBJ knew this & chose not to address the problem…His administration along with following administrations have enacted polices that prevent Black people, as a collective, from obtaining their American Dream…
HATRED, RACISM and PREJUDICE is the weapon of choice for people who are insecure and selfish within. It's horrible to even imagine that for NO REASON at all, with NO grounds one has a need to feel superior toward another HUMAN BEING. Sad and disgusting.
As an old black man, I appreciate the thoughts, Beau. You may not have the answer, ( as if there is one ) but you do have excellent insight. You have to want to gain such insight. And sadly, too many people in this society don't have the courage to do so. Again young man, don't pull a hammy telling so much truth.
That was one powerful letter, and saddening/sickening that this continues. Society needs to be better.
AISURU.TOKYO/AGNEZ/?[Making-love]💞
(◍•ᴗ•◍)✧*。18 years and over🍎🍑
UA-cam: This is fine
Someone: Says "heck"
UA-cam: Be gone
#однако #я #люблю #таких #рыбаков #Интересно #забавно #девушка #смешная #垃圾
I don't know how your channel popped up in my feed, but I'm so grateful it did!
I have been clinically diagnosed with PTSD. I'm not a war veteran. I'm just a Black American.
This grief is unbearable. 💔. What hurts one of us, hurts us all.
Hola
@@comfortablynumb9342 👋🏼 Hola Comfy. Btw, different subject: have you been keeping up on the possible new insurrection? This Sat.
@@Andrea.1tree yes. I think security will be much better this time. Hopefully they leave the AR-15s at home. And I doubt Congress will be in session for them to threaten personally. Let them bring signs and whine like sore losers, it will be funny as long they're peaceful. How many will catch Covid and spread it? That's gonna happen. Their herd is self thinning 😂. Darwin awards for all.
@@comfortablynumb9342 I think the protest at the Capital will just be a distraction. I took a deep dive into many conservative channels last night, and the majority were full of conspiracy nut jobs screaming about the mark of the beast, Walmart’s closing down so the government can mass inject them, and end of the world fear mongering. Sept 18 is supposedly going to kick off their response. I am concerned.
@@comfortablynumb9342 ua-cam.com/video/1y5VTRGc4es/v-deo.html
Here’s a taste of the insanity.