The problem is they're toxic, AND they 👉 point it at you (that you are toxic!!!). Forgive them, for they know not what to do. God bless Mufti Menk for guiding us. 🙏🏽⚘️
I am not muslim, I am catholic, but sympathize with Muslims, I think is a beautiful religion ! I also love arabic culture, even when I am not muslim, I like to read about Islam and their beautiful stories. I also think arabic culture is beautiful. I also like their history. The Iman is talking about toxic people, what he say is so true, even if you are a good person, you can never let toxic people, change your interior peace, also remember, no matter what nobody in the world think about you, when you are close to God, or Allah, you feel it in your heart, but sometimes people out there don't always deserve to know how close you are to god, what is important is what god think about me, he tell you in your heart, but sometimes he also show you how and when to protect yourself from those toxic people, only god can judge, people don't know the real you
jazakalla. .. My sister in law and in laws r very toxic they always insult me bcoz of my dark complexion.. I hv tried my best to make tm happy but i could not ☹️
Forgive but you can't forget and you don't have to be best friends with these toxic people...cut them off of set boundaries and keep a safe distance...don't let no one hurt you I don't care who they are !
Commendable advice dearest Sir Mufti Menk …..Your way of explanation was so soothing Masha’Allah….Allah ta’ala keep us busy in building our ownself Aameen
@@TaqwaAndTawakkul indeed, Alhamdulillah. Btw is it permisible to leave toxic family and live separately. I have studies abt prophet ibrahim and think it is allowed, after all islam supports peace
Toxic person is husband and his family affecting wife and kids. It's not always possible to leave and wife and children suffer with depression and anxiety. And are blamed for everything.
What do u do if u are trying to distance but ur husband doesn’t see what his parents are like and is obsessed with them. He brings them closer to u than u ever wished, next door literally.
Aslmualykum Mufti Menk shukran for this message Algamdullilah all praise to ALLAH SWT for protecting us and guides us through the tests Ameen. May ALLAH SWT Bless u an u Family Aameen. Beautifull Ma sha ALLAH.
I my self sleep proply but this morening get up late even i dont hear alam.i sleep a pit late i won't is not better every thing has a reason.mashaaaalah
It’s extremely painful when it’s your long term spouse who is showing Narcissistic traits and engaging in an emotional affair. Subhan’Allah, this is the second time and it has really caused me emotional damage. I’m so confused that someone who I trusted could cause me this much pain 😔 He left, but is not taking any accountability. Does anyone have any experience in this area?
I'm going through those problems my wife family who I'm going through divorce and my older brother 😪 too many toxic people. So I just cut off with then completely and i forgive them
@@nidashaikh8390 how to move on I have no one here in uk,my husband is more than toxic,I am not working and don’t know how to find that,I am wearing nikab so I don’t no what should I do,I am so tired.
@@mrskhan2429 This is exactly the point where your phenomenal success will begin. Allah wants to raise you higher. You know what you have to do, take the first step ,rest Allah will guide you all along. BEGIN Now. First stop all this self pity, think you are the last human left on earth, now you have to do everything on your own to survive. You are on your OWN, Allah is with you.
Assalam o Alaikum! What should I do when my mother is a backbiter and trying to turn me away from otber good deeds slowly , kindly guide how should I behave?
Salamualaïkoum wa rahmatoulah Cheick : So now what is the diffence betwen toxiques proples and the kâfirouns? I remember about one of the âyâts,when Allahou Taala tel to us:.
I asked Allah to show me a sign that he is going to accept my dua by making me pray tahajjud for three consecutive days and it did happen. Is it a true sign that Allah is going to fulfill my dua soon?
My mum was a crack user and alcoholic but I didn't cut her off I set boundaries ...like she couldn't come stay at my place cause she would steal everything out my house but that's my mum I love her until the day she died just recently 😢
Same with my dad when I was younger he beat the she out of me put me out his house I became homeless but I still love my dad I set boundaries we not best friends he don't abuse me anymore I forgive him but we not best friends we not around each other all day every we don't talk everyday And I live right around the corner from him it's cool gotta keep a safe distance and set boundaries that's all but in extreme cases if someone hurting you you have to cut them off
I cut my dad off for 10 years after he beat me and put me out his house after that he wanted to make a mend but I told him if he ever beat me again I will call the police again have him locked up again and stay away from him for life because I'm not gonna let no one hurt me I don't care who they are !
It depends. You have to distance yourself respectfully. Try to help them and be there for them even from a distance whenever possible. Even if its once a week or month..
Try to find out the way...like make some plan of ur life ...u automatically will be able to make distance between u and ur parents respectfully...... it's not a sin ... it's solution according to Islam as well...but keep ur responsibilities and duties in ur mind 👍...
Only share. Sebaik baik makhluk adalah mukmin dan beramal saleh Al Bayyinah ayat 7 bukan habib habib penipu agama ini. Orang paling mulia di sisi Allah adalah Muttaqin Al Hujarat 13 bukan habib habib penipu agama ini. Syarat mukmin adalah menjaga kemaluannya shalat zakat amanah tidak melakukan perbuatan-perbuatan yang tak berguna Al Mukminun ayat 1 sampai 11. Syarat Muttaqin adalah percaya yang ghaib shalat zakat amanah sedekah dan sabar dalam kemelaratan ( kemiskinan) atau dalam peperangan. Mukmin dan beramal saleh disebut Muttaqin Shad 28. Only share. Syarat mukmin : Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman: قَدْ اَفْلَحَ الْمُؤْمِنُوْنَ ۙ "Sungguh beruntung mukmin" (QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 1) Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman: الَّذِيْنَ هُمْ فِيْ صَلَا تِهِمْ خَا شِعُوْنَ ۙ "(yaitu) orang yang khusyuk dalam sholatnya," (QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 2) Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman: وَا لَّذِيْنَ هُمْ عَنِ اللَّغْوِ مُعْرِضُوْنَ ۙ "dan orang yang menjauhkan diri dari (perbuatan dan perkataan) yang tidak berguna," (QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 3) Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman: وَا لَّذِيْنَ هُمْ لِلزَّكٰوةِ فَا عِلُوْنَ ۙ "dan orang yang menunaikan zakat," (QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 4) Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman: وَا لَّذِيْنَ هُمْ لِفُرُوْجِهِمْ حٰفِظُوْنَ ۙ "dan orang yang memelihara kemaluannya," (QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 5) Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman: اِلَّا عَلٰۤى اَزْوَا جِهِمْ اَوْ مَا مَلَـكَتْ اَيْمَا نُهُمْ فَاِ نَّهُمْ غَيْرُ مَلُوْمِيْنَ ۚ "kecuali terhadap istri-istri mereka atau hamba sahaya yang mereka miliki; maka sesungguhnya mereka tidak tercela." (QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 6) Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman: فَمَنِ ابْتَغٰى وَرَآءَ ذٰلِكَ فَاُ ولٰٓئِكَ هُمُ الْعٰدُوْنَ ۚ "Tetapi barang siapa mencari di balik itu (zina, dan sebagainya), maka mereka itulah orang-orang yang melampaui batas." (QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 7) Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman: وَا لَّذِيْنَ هُمْ لِاَ مٰنٰتِهِمْ وَعَهْدِهِمْ رَا عُوْنَ ۙ "Dan (sungguh beruntung) orang yang memelihara amanah-amanah dan janjinya," (QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 8) Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman: وَا لَّذِيْنَ هُمْ عَلٰى صَلَوٰتِهِمْ يُحَا فِظُوْنَ ۘ "serta orang yang memelihara sholatnya." (QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 9) Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman: اُولٰٓئِكَ هُمُ الْوَا رِثُوْنَ ۙ "Mereka itulah orang yang akan mewarisi," (QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 10) * Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman: الَّذِيْنَ يَرِثُوْنَ الْفِرْدَوْسَ ۗ هُمْ فِيْهَا خٰلِدُوْنَ "(yakni) yang akan mewarisi (Surga) Firdaus. Mereka kekal di dalamnya." (QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 11) Muslim adalah orang yang sudah bersyahadat. Muslim belum tentu mukmin tapi mukmin pasti muslim. Syarat muslim disebut dalam An Nissa 136 yaitu beriman kepada Allah, rasul2nya , malaikat2nya , kitab2nya dan hari akhir dan mukmin disuruh berpegang teguh pada syarat muslim tsb. Syarat mukmin adalah shalat zakat menjaga kemaluannya, amanah, tak melakukan perbuatan tak berguna. Jadi muslim pezina bukanlah mukmin walaupun masih muslim. Muslim yang tak pernah shalat bukanlah mukmin walaupun masih muslim. Muslim yang tak berzakat bukankah mukmin tapi masih muslim. Muslim yang tak amanah bukanlah mukmin walaupun masih muslim. Muslim yang melakukan perbuatan tak berguna bukanlah mukmin walaupun masih muslim. Tak ada satupun ayat Al Qur'an yang menjamin seorang muslim masuk surga semua tergantung amal saleh dan dosa masing masing dan akan dihisab mana yang lebih berat timbangannya Al Mukminun 101 - 103. Empat dosa masuk neraka tanpa hisab adalah syirik, membunuh, zina , riba dan kekal di neraka kecuali bertaubat Al Furqon 68 69 70 dan Al Baqarah 275. Bertaubat saja tak cukup dia harus beriman atau menjadi mukmin Al Mukminun ayat 1 sampai 11 dan beramal saleh ( Al Birra) Al Baqarah 177. Selain keempat dosa tsb akan dihisab dengan amal saleh Al Mukminun 101 - 103. Dan syarat minimum masuk surga tanpa hisab adalah mukmin ( Al Mukminun ayat 11). Untuk mencapai surga yang lebih tinggi seorang mukmin haruslah beramal saleh(Al Birra ) Al Baqarah 82 . Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman: وَا لَّذِيْنَ اٰمَنُوْا وَعَمِلُوا الصّٰلِحٰتِ اُولٰٓئِكَ اَصْحٰبُ الْجَـنَّةِ ۚ هُمْ فِيْهَا خٰلِدُوْنَ "Dan orang-orang yang beriman dan beramal saleh mereka itu penghuni surga. Mereka kekal di dalamnya." (QS. Al-Baqarah 2: Ayat 82) Amal saleh ( Al Birra ) bukan sembarang kebaikan ( Khair ) tapi amal saleh ( Al Birra ) adalah kebaikan ( Khair ) yang sangat khusus yang sangat besar pahalanya yang kalau kita melakukannya disebut Muttaqin ( orang yang bertaqwa ) yaitu amal saleh (Al Birra) disebut dalam Al Baqarah 177 Amal saleh (Al Birra ) bukan menghadap ke timur atau ke barat atau melakukan hal2 remeh seperti kasi minum anjing yang kehausan dan lain lain. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman: لَيْسَ الْبِرَّ اَنْ تُوَلُّوْا وُجُوْهَكُمْ قِبَلَ الْمَشْرِقِ وَ الْمَغْرِبِ وَلٰـكِنَّ الْبِرَّ مَنْ اٰمَنَ بِا للّٰهِ وَا لْيَوْمِ الْاٰ خِرِ وَا لْمَلٰٓئِکَةِ وَا لْكِتٰبِ وَا لنَّبِيّٖنَ ۚ وَاٰ تَى الْمَا لَ عَلٰى حُبِّهٖ ذَوِى الْقُرْبٰى وَا لْيَتٰمٰى وَا لْمَسٰكِيْنَ وَا بْنَ السَّبِيْلِ ۙ وَا لسَّآئِلِيْنَ وَفِى الرِّقَا بِ ۚ وَاَ قَا مَ الصَّلٰوةَ وَاٰ تَى الزَّکٰوةَ ۚ وَا لْمُوْفُوْنَ بِعَهْدِهِمْ اِذَا عٰهَدُوْا ۚ وَا لصّٰبِرِيْنَ فِى الْبَأْسَآءِ وَا لضَّرَّآءِ وَحِيْنَ الْبَأْسِ ۗ اُولٰٓئِكَ الَّذِيْنَ صَدَقُوْا ۗ وَاُ ولٰٓئِكَ هُمُ الْمُتَّقُوْنَ " Amal saleh ( Al Birra ) itu bukanlah menghadapkan wajahmu ke arah timur dan ke barat, tetapi amal saleh ( Al Birra) itu ialah orang yang beriman kepada Allah, hari Akhir, malaikat-malaikat, kitab-kitab, dan nabi-nabi, dan memberikan harta yang dicintainya kepada kerabat, anak yatim, orang-orang miskin, orang-orang yang dalam perjalanan (musafir), peminta-minta, dan untuk memerdekakan hamba sahaya, yang melaksanakan sholat dan menunaikan zakat, orang-orang yang menepati janji apabila berjanji, dan orang yang sabar dalam kemelaratan, penderitaan, dan pada masa peperangan. Mereka itulah orang-orang yang benar dan mereka itulah orang-orang yang bertakwa." (QS. Al-Baqarah 2: Ayat 177) Tapi kebaikan ( Khair ) selain amal saleh ( Al Birra ) tetap diperhitungkan oleh Allah walaupun sebesar biji zarah sebagai nilai tambah dari amal saleh ( Al Birra ). Jadi mukmin dan beramal saleh disebut Muttaqin Sad 28 yang dijamin surga oleh Allah AZ Zumar 20 dan Al Baqarah 82. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman: لٰـكِنِ الَّذِيْنَ اتَّقَوْا رَبَّهُمْ لَهُمْ غُرَفٌ مِّنْ فَوْقِهَا غُرَفٌ مَّبْنِيَّةٌ ۙ تَجْرِيْ مِنْ تَحْتِهَا الْاَ نْهٰرُ ۗ وَعْدَ اللّٰهِ ۗ لَا يُخْلِفُ اللّٰهُ الْمِيْعَا دَ "Tetapi orang-orang yang bertakwa kepada Tuhannya, mereka mendapat kamar-kamar (di surga), di atasnya terdapat pula kamar-kamar yang dibangun (bertingkat-tingkat), yang mengalir di bawahnya sungai-sungai. (Itulah) janji Allah. Allah tidak akan memungkiri janji(-Nya)." (QS. Az-Zumar 39: Ayat 20) Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman: اَمْ نَجْعَلُ الَّذِيْنَ اٰمَنُوْا وَعَمِلُوا الصّٰلِحٰتِ كَا لْمُفْسِدِيْنَ فِى الْاَ رْضِ ۖ اَمْ نَجْعَلُ الْمُتَّقِيْنَ كَا لْفُجَّا رِ "Pantaskah Kami memperlakukan orang-orang yang beriman dan beramal saleh sama dengan orang-orang yang berbuat kerusakan di bumi? Atau pantaskah Kami menganggap Muttaqin sama dengan orang-orang yang jahat?" (QS. Sad 38: Ayat 28) * Via Al-Qur'an Indonesia quran-id.com
If v start to isolate from toxic ppl or stop talking to them and just salam dua nothing else..... Then ppl say you broke relationships with relatives and this is forhibtted in Islam... Then what to do with this???
Not everyone deserves an explanation and the people who know you and care for you will understand your situation. We are here to please Allah SWT and not his slaves.
What does the word toxic mean and what does the word people mean are just words but when you put these two words together you are creating a toxic suggestion that does not come from your creator "Toxic People" what if I I am among them what if I am one of those whom the human language today calls "toxic people", Truly I tell you there are no "toxic people", there are only people who are fully aware of their actions thoughts, words and feelings and are those who are not fully aware of what they are doing, the healthy do not need doctors, only those who are sick and Love is a doctor for every soul because in Love there is God's Wisdom
Toxic people always are mostly your own family members 😢
true
Yes that's true
Family members or neighbours or co workers ie those close to you
Now I know I am not alone
True
Toxic people ruin my life Alhumdulillah love of Allah and His prophet s.a.w got me through there ignorance.
The timing of this video and its message is a gift from Allah عزوجل.
Allah is One..
AMIN...AMIN...AMIN...YA RABBI!!!!
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Much needed...at times every bayan of mufti saab comes as a blessing to deal with situation..correct timing...
Jzk may Allah blessss u n ur family
Other way of recognizing toxic people they’re always crying about money . And not being great full to Allah s.t.
This is a rare invaluable time when I am grateful to know I've taken the Right step.
The problem is they're toxic, AND they 👉 point it at you (that you are toxic!!!). Forgive them, for they know not what to do. God bless Mufti Menk for guiding us. 🙏🏽⚘️
Jazak Allah I needed this today!! May Allah reward you for ur efforts Aameen
Aameen ya Rabb
I am trying my best to hold my patience and maintain peace. I constantly ask for Allah's guidance and mercy! He is my protector Aameen
Aameen ya Rabb
Trying to guide them or being loving doesn't help either. Believe me I forgave & forgave & it's a waste of time. Some people are just not worth it.
I am not muslim, I am catholic, but sympathize with Muslims, I think is a beautiful religion ! I also love arabic culture, even when I am not muslim, I like to read about Islam and their beautiful stories. I also think arabic culture is beautiful. I also like their history. The Iman is talking about toxic people, what he say is so true, even if you are a good person, you can never let toxic people, change your interior peace, also remember, no matter what nobody in the world think about you, when you are close to God, or Allah, you feel it in your heart, but sometimes people out there don't always deserve to know how close you are to god, what is important is what god think about me, he tell you in your heart, but sometimes he also show you how and when to protect yourself from those toxic people, only god can judge, people don't know the real you
Thank you Elen, toy have posted a beautiful sentiment and thoughts articulated so well. God bless you!
jazakalla. .. My sister in law and in laws r very toxic they always insult me bcoz of my dark complexion.. I hv tried my best to make tm happy but i could not ☹️
Forgive but you can't forget and you don't have to be best friends with these toxic people...cut them off of set boundaries and keep a safe distance...don't let no one hurt you I don't care who they are !
Commendable advice dearest Sir Mufti Menk …..Your way of explanation was so soothing Masha’Allah….Allah ta’ala keep us busy in building our ownself Aameen
In the Holy Qur’an verse 25/20 is telling us why some people are so toxic.
Ya Salaam May Allah SWT protect us all.
this is so nice to hear when you are surrounding by toxic people around you. thank you for helping the Ummah in such situations jazakAllah kheir
Wa Iyyakum
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Allah has his miraculous ways of helping his slaves.
@@TaqwaAndTawakkul indeed, Alhamdulillah. Btw is it permisible to leave toxic family and live separately. I have studies abt prophet ibrahim and think it is allowed, after all islam supports peace
Assalamualaikum
Jazakallah khair 💐 for the beautiful speech & thinking about toxic people which are around us but we have to avoid them
Very nice Alhumdulillah Allah bless u shaikh
SubanAllah...😓 allahu Akbar ☝️ ameen
Omgg really needed to hear this 😭
I needed to hear this
alhamdulillah
V impressive Mashallah
Thank you.Good reminder.
Mashaaaaaaaaaaaaalahtabaarakalah.may rabi make is easier and guide dariuqul street Jannah.
Jazkallah
Wa Iyyakum
Alxamdulilah.
Toxic person is husband and his family affecting wife and kids. It's not always possible to leave and wife and children suffer with depression and anxiety. And are blamed for everything.
Story of my life!
The worst is when husband doesn’t see it!
May Allah make it better for you
@0:05 - 0:20 been through this ... every bit of it is TRUE ...
Alhamdodillah! Thank you - this is strong advice, I think!
some Relatives are toxic
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What do u do if u are trying to distance but ur husband doesn’t see what his parents are like and is obsessed with them. He brings them closer to u than u ever wished, next door literally.
My commitment .
MashaaAllah so so beautiful …
Aslmualykum Mufti Menk shukran for this message Algamdullilah all praise to ALLAH SWT for protecting us and guides us through the tests Ameen. May ALLAH SWT Bless u an u Family Aameen. Beautifull Ma sha ALLAH.
Salam u alaykum my dear you are the best🌹
Waalaekum Assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu
Ameen 🥺 ❤
Aameen ya Rabb
I my self sleep proply but this morening get up late even i dont hear alam.i sleep a pit late i won't is not better every thing has a reason.mashaaaalah
Amen.
Aameen ya Rabb
Iam one of family.
May we be amongst those who are thankful.
Aameen Ya Rab.
Shukran, can learn alot from this.
Mu husband’s brother wife was so cruel to me she is still pain ful
What if most of the working place people are toxic and some one dont have an option to change the job??
Nisawa kumoaapaa maoenzii mazuri ndio usaidike muhimuu mkeeafirahi navwatoto wasome waoateve,,, elimu.....
It’s extremely painful when it’s your long term spouse who is showing Narcissistic traits and engaging in an emotional affair. Subhan’Allah, this is the second time and it has really caused me emotional damage. I’m so confused that someone who I trusted could cause me this much pain 😔
He left, but is not taking any accountability. Does anyone have any experience in this area?
You have to THANK ALLAH he left...cut all ties & move on. What a blessing you have he left 🤫
Avaadahulaah.
I'm going through those problems my wife family who I'm going through divorce and my older brother 😪 too many toxic people. So I just cut off with then completely and i forgive them
@@nidashaikh8390 yes thanks, I lost parents as well, mu older brother need to understand this relationship are not based on business
@@nidashaikh8390 how to move on I have no one here in uk,my husband is more than toxic,I am not working and don’t know how to find that,I am wearing nikab so I don’t no what should I do,I am so tired.
Hasbun ALLAH ❤️ wa nimal wakeel wa la haula wa la quwatta ILLAH bilah ❤️...
@@mrskhan2429 This is exactly the point where your phenomenal success will begin. Allah wants to raise you higher. You know what you have to do, take the first step ,rest Allah will guide you all along. BEGIN Now. First stop all this self pity, think you are the last human left on earth, now you have to do everything on your own to survive. You are on your OWN, Allah is with you.
@@mrskhan2429 find a job working remotely while he is at work
Assalam o Alaikum! What should I do when my mother is a backbiter and trying to turn me away from otber good deeds slowly , kindly guide how should I behave?
Salamualaïkoum wa rahmatoulah Cheick :
So now what is the diffence betwen toxiques proples and the kâfirouns?
I remember about one of the âyâts,when Allahou Taala tel to us:.
As salamu alikum, how ignore family members?
But we are not allowed to cut ties of kinship according to islam? what should we do?
What about spouse?
Salam mufti hope my husband will listen and u understand why I always ignore those sort of people .O Allah u r a true speaker and u r speech wonderful
What about in laws ???
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Aasalaam allilkum
Waalaekum Assalam
My own family is toooo much toxic for me I m very fed up of my own life
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Assalamoalakum what is if toxic person is your husband.
hehehehe
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You need to consult a counsellor with your husband, if he’s still being toxic then you must file for a divorce
I asked Allah to show me a sign that he is going to accept my dua by making me pray tahajjud for three consecutive days and it did happen. Is it a true sign that Allah is going to fulfill my dua soon?
Yesss definitely...plzz continue ur dua on Tahajjud prayer
@@mehrinbest514 thank you. I'm in a tough situation please keep me in your prayers
@@syedaraziya6720 Insha Allah dear❤plzz keep me in ur duas too..!!!😭
@@mehrinbest514 definitely in sha Allah 💕
Enemies are the gay community attacking me.
IF THEY ARE YOUR PARENTS, WHAT CAN YOU DO??
Then cut off from them also .
Even if you are disable then what, Im just asking?
My mum was a crack user and alcoholic but I didn't cut her off I set boundaries ...like she couldn't come stay at my place cause she would steal everything out my house but that's my mum I love her until the day she died just recently 😢
Same with my dad when I was younger he beat the she out of me put me out his house I became homeless but I still love my dad I set boundaries we not best friends he don't abuse me anymore I forgive him but we not best friends we not around each other all day every we don't talk everyday And I live right around the corner from him it's cool gotta keep a safe distance and set boundaries that's all but in extreme cases if someone hurting you you have to cut them off
I cut my dad off for 10 years after he beat me and put me out his house after that he wanted to make a mend but I told him if he ever beat me again I will call the police again have him locked up again and stay away from him for life because I'm not gonna let no one hurt me I don't care who they are !
If someone's parents are toxic what to do...
If he makes some distance It will be a sin...
It depends. You have to distance yourself respectfully.
Try to help them and be there for them even from a distance whenever possible. Even if its once a week or month..
Try to find out the way...like make some plan of ur life ...u automatically will be able to make distance between u and ur parents respectfully...... it's not a sin ... it's solution according to Islam as well...but keep ur responsibilities and duties in ur mind 👍...
My parents r making my life hell.wish I was not having parents at all from my birth or wish I should die in front of them
Only share.
Sebaik baik makhluk adalah mukmin dan beramal saleh Al Bayyinah ayat 7 bukan habib habib penipu agama ini.
Orang paling mulia di sisi Allah adalah Muttaqin Al Hujarat 13 bukan habib habib penipu agama ini.
Syarat mukmin adalah menjaga kemaluannya shalat zakat amanah tidak melakukan perbuatan-perbuatan yang tak berguna Al Mukminun ayat 1 sampai 11.
Syarat Muttaqin adalah percaya yang ghaib shalat zakat amanah sedekah dan sabar dalam kemelaratan ( kemiskinan) atau dalam peperangan.
Mukmin dan beramal saleh disebut Muttaqin Shad 28.
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Syarat mukmin :
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman:
قَدْ اَفْلَحَ الْمُؤْمِنُوْنَ ۙ
"Sungguh beruntung mukmin"
(QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 1)
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman:
الَّذِيْنَ هُمْ فِيْ صَلَا تِهِمْ خَا شِعُوْنَ ۙ
"(yaitu) orang yang khusyuk dalam sholatnya,"
(QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 2)
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman:
وَا لَّذِيْنَ هُمْ عَنِ اللَّغْوِ مُعْرِضُوْنَ ۙ
"dan orang yang menjauhkan diri dari (perbuatan dan perkataan) yang tidak berguna,"
(QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 3)
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman:
وَا لَّذِيْنَ هُمْ لِلزَّكٰوةِ فَا عِلُوْنَ ۙ
"dan orang yang menunaikan zakat,"
(QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 4)
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman:
وَا لَّذِيْنَ هُمْ لِفُرُوْجِهِمْ حٰفِظُوْنَ ۙ
"dan orang yang memelihara kemaluannya,"
(QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 5)
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman:
اِلَّا عَلٰۤى اَزْوَا جِهِمْ اَوْ مَا مَلَـكَتْ اَيْمَا نُهُمْ فَاِ نَّهُمْ غَيْرُ مَلُوْمِيْنَ ۚ
"kecuali terhadap istri-istri mereka atau hamba sahaya yang mereka miliki; maka sesungguhnya mereka tidak tercela."
(QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 6)
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman:
فَمَنِ ابْتَغٰى وَرَآءَ ذٰلِكَ فَاُ ولٰٓئِكَ هُمُ الْعٰدُوْنَ ۚ
"Tetapi barang siapa mencari di balik itu (zina, dan sebagainya), maka mereka itulah orang-orang yang melampaui batas."
(QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 7)
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman:
وَا لَّذِيْنَ هُمْ لِاَ مٰنٰتِهِمْ وَعَهْدِهِمْ رَا عُوْنَ ۙ
"Dan (sungguh beruntung) orang yang memelihara amanah-amanah dan janjinya,"
(QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 8)
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman:
وَا لَّذِيْنَ هُمْ عَلٰى صَلَوٰتِهِمْ يُحَا فِظُوْنَ ۘ
"serta orang yang memelihara sholatnya."
(QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 9)
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman:
اُولٰٓئِكَ هُمُ الْوَا رِثُوْنَ ۙ
"Mereka itulah orang yang akan mewarisi,"
(QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 10)
* Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman:
الَّذِيْنَ يَرِثُوْنَ الْفِرْدَوْسَ ۗ هُمْ فِيْهَا خٰلِدُوْنَ
"(yakni) yang akan mewarisi (Surga) Firdaus. Mereka kekal di dalamnya."
(QS. Al-Mu'minun 23: Ayat 11)
Muslim adalah orang yang sudah bersyahadat.
Muslim belum tentu mukmin tapi mukmin pasti muslim. Syarat muslim disebut dalam An Nissa 136 yaitu beriman kepada Allah, rasul2nya , malaikat2nya , kitab2nya dan hari akhir dan mukmin disuruh berpegang teguh pada syarat muslim tsb.
Syarat mukmin adalah shalat zakat menjaga kemaluannya, amanah, tak melakukan perbuatan tak berguna.
Jadi muslim pezina bukanlah mukmin walaupun masih muslim.
Muslim yang tak pernah shalat bukanlah mukmin walaupun masih muslim.
Muslim yang tak berzakat bukankah mukmin tapi masih muslim.
Muslim yang tak amanah bukanlah mukmin walaupun masih muslim.
Muslim yang melakukan perbuatan tak berguna bukanlah mukmin walaupun masih muslim.
Tak ada satupun ayat Al Qur'an yang menjamin seorang muslim masuk surga semua tergantung amal saleh dan dosa masing masing dan akan dihisab mana yang lebih berat timbangannya Al Mukminun 101 - 103.
Empat dosa masuk neraka tanpa hisab adalah syirik, membunuh, zina , riba dan kekal di neraka kecuali bertaubat Al Furqon 68 69 70 dan Al Baqarah 275.
Bertaubat saja tak cukup dia harus beriman atau menjadi mukmin Al Mukminun ayat 1 sampai 11 dan beramal saleh ( Al Birra) Al Baqarah 177.
Selain keempat dosa tsb akan dihisab dengan amal saleh Al Mukminun 101 - 103.
Dan syarat minimum masuk surga tanpa hisab adalah mukmin ( Al Mukminun ayat 11).
Untuk mencapai surga yang lebih tinggi seorang mukmin haruslah beramal saleh(Al Birra ) Al Baqarah 82 .
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman:
وَا لَّذِيْنَ اٰمَنُوْا وَعَمِلُوا الصّٰلِحٰتِ اُولٰٓئِكَ اَصْحٰبُ الْجَـنَّةِ ۚ هُمْ فِيْهَا خٰلِدُوْنَ
"Dan orang-orang yang beriman dan beramal saleh mereka itu penghuni surga. Mereka kekal di dalamnya."
(QS. Al-Baqarah 2: Ayat 82)
Amal saleh ( Al Birra ) bukan sembarang kebaikan
( Khair ) tapi amal saleh ( Al Birra ) adalah kebaikan ( Khair ) yang sangat khusus yang sangat besar pahalanya yang kalau kita melakukannya disebut Muttaqin ( orang yang bertaqwa ) yaitu amal saleh (Al Birra) disebut dalam Al Baqarah 177
Amal saleh (Al Birra ) bukan menghadap ke timur atau ke barat atau melakukan hal2 remeh seperti kasi minum anjing yang kehausan dan lain lain.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman:
لَيْسَ الْبِرَّ اَنْ تُوَلُّوْا وُجُوْهَكُمْ قِبَلَ الْمَشْرِقِ وَ الْمَغْرِبِ وَلٰـكِنَّ الْبِرَّ مَنْ اٰمَنَ بِا للّٰهِ وَا لْيَوْمِ الْاٰ خِرِ وَا لْمَلٰٓئِکَةِ وَا لْكِتٰبِ وَا لنَّبِيّٖنَ ۚ وَاٰ تَى الْمَا لَ عَلٰى حُبِّهٖ ذَوِى الْقُرْبٰى وَا لْيَتٰمٰى وَا لْمَسٰكِيْنَ وَا بْنَ السَّبِيْلِ ۙ وَا لسَّآئِلِيْنَ وَفِى الرِّقَا بِ ۚ وَاَ قَا مَ الصَّلٰوةَ وَاٰ تَى الزَّکٰوةَ ۚ وَا لْمُوْفُوْنَ بِعَهْدِهِمْ اِذَا عٰهَدُوْا ۚ وَا لصّٰبِرِيْنَ فِى الْبَأْسَآءِ وَا لضَّرَّآءِ وَحِيْنَ الْبَأْسِ ۗ اُولٰٓئِكَ الَّذِيْنَ صَدَقُوْا ۗ وَاُ ولٰٓئِكَ هُمُ الْمُتَّقُوْنَ
" Amal saleh ( Al Birra ) itu bukanlah menghadapkan wajahmu ke arah timur dan ke barat, tetapi amal saleh ( Al Birra) itu ialah orang yang beriman kepada Allah, hari Akhir, malaikat-malaikat, kitab-kitab, dan nabi-nabi, dan memberikan harta yang dicintainya kepada kerabat, anak yatim, orang-orang miskin, orang-orang yang dalam perjalanan (musafir), peminta-minta, dan untuk memerdekakan hamba sahaya, yang melaksanakan sholat dan menunaikan zakat, orang-orang yang menepati janji apabila berjanji, dan orang yang sabar dalam kemelaratan, penderitaan, dan pada masa peperangan. Mereka itulah orang-orang yang benar dan mereka itulah orang-orang yang bertakwa."
(QS. Al-Baqarah 2: Ayat 177)
Tapi kebaikan ( Khair ) selain amal saleh ( Al Birra ) tetap diperhitungkan oleh Allah walaupun sebesar biji zarah sebagai nilai tambah dari amal saleh ( Al Birra ).
Jadi mukmin dan beramal saleh disebut Muttaqin Sad 28 yang dijamin surga oleh Allah AZ Zumar 20 dan Al Baqarah 82.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman:
لٰـكِنِ الَّذِيْنَ اتَّقَوْا رَبَّهُمْ لَهُمْ غُرَفٌ مِّنْ فَوْقِهَا غُرَفٌ مَّبْنِيَّةٌ ۙ تَجْرِيْ مِنْ تَحْتِهَا الْاَ نْهٰرُ ۗ وَعْدَ اللّٰهِ ۗ لَا يُخْلِفُ اللّٰهُ الْمِيْعَا دَ
"Tetapi orang-orang yang bertakwa kepada Tuhannya, mereka mendapat kamar-kamar (di surga), di atasnya terdapat pula kamar-kamar yang dibangun (bertingkat-tingkat), yang mengalir di bawahnya sungai-sungai. (Itulah) janji Allah. Allah tidak akan memungkiri janji(-Nya)."
(QS. Az-Zumar 39: Ayat 20)
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala berfirman:
اَمْ نَجْعَلُ الَّذِيْنَ اٰمَنُوْا وَعَمِلُوا الصّٰلِحٰتِ كَا لْمُفْسِدِيْنَ فِى الْاَ رْضِ ۖ اَمْ نَجْعَلُ الْمُتَّقِيْنَ كَا لْفُجَّا رِ
"Pantaskah Kami memperlakukan orang-orang yang beriman dan beramal saleh sama dengan orang-orang yang berbuat kerusakan di bumi? Atau pantaskah Kami menganggap Muttaqin sama dengan orang-orang yang jahat?"
(QS. Sad 38: Ayat 28)
* Via Al-Qur'an Indonesia quran-id.com
If v start to isolate from toxic ppl or stop talking to them and just salam dua nothing else..... Then ppl say you broke relationships with relatives and this is forhibtted in Islam... Then what to do with this???
Not everyone deserves an explanation and the people who know you and care for you will understand your situation. We are here to please Allah SWT and not his slaves.
What does the word toxic mean and what does the word people mean are just words but when you put these two words together you are creating a toxic suggestion that does not come from your creator "Toxic People" what if I I am among them what if I am one of those whom the human language today calls "toxic people", Truly I tell you there are no "toxic people", there are only people who are fully aware of their actions thoughts, words and feelings and are those who are not fully aware of what they are doing, the healthy do not need doctors, only those who are sick and Love is a doctor for every soul because in Love there is God's Wisdom
Even your husband
Takeeeee caree Islaaaaaaaam.soomaaaali.aww
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