How to deal with abusive toxic people who say harsh things? | Sheikh Assim Al Hakeem

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  • Опубліковано 15 лис 2024

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  • @taqwabaloch
    @taqwabaloch Рік тому +54

    First always smile
    Second don't defend yourself
    Third don't argue with them .

  • @ledam2654
    @ledam2654 2 роки тому +65

    Sometimes you have to confront them directly, because sometimes ignoring the bully does not work.

  • @shamma_13
    @shamma_13 5 місяців тому +20

    It's really HARD to forget what they said, May Allah forgive and Help us to forget it and remove such evil people from our Lives and protect us from them, Ameen ya Rabbi ❤

  • @user-zm3no5xb6t
    @user-zm3no5xb6t Місяць тому +2

    They want you to respond in a negative way..
    So always keep smiling face
    Don’t defend yourself, no need
    Don’t argue, just smile & look at them
    They’ll feel small after a while

  • @tarakkhandakar
    @tarakkhandakar 3 роки тому +32

    May Allah bless this sheikh.

  • @zoyq4435
    @zoyq4435 3 роки тому +18

    I absolutely agree with sheikh. I have been like that in my in laws house.Not responding to them when they used to bully me.🙂

  • @tryorcry-po5mv
    @tryorcry-po5mv Рік тому +7

    but how can i not defend myself when someone calls me a terrorist how can i have a smile on face when they disrespect my religion

  • @Mesmerising_Eyes
    @Mesmerising_Eyes 4 місяці тому +1

    JazakAllahu khayran ❤
    Love and prayers from Europe.

  • @TimTim__
    @TimTim__ Рік тому +5

    Exactly! They want us to fall in their trap. We shouldn’t make their mission successful.
    Just brush it off, don’t give them response. And the smiling face! Yes to that.
    And next time, I’ll take the phone and play 😂
    Sometimes it affects you so much mentally. But don’t worry, Allah sees your sufferings , make dua that He makes it easy for you.

  • @TimTim__
    @TimTim__ Рік тому +18

    Smile
    Ignore and don’t defend
    don’t argue
    Play with phone/ show that you don’t care

  • @ReminderMS
    @ReminderMS 3 роки тому +6

    I will do this from now.

  • @ahadmdabdul
    @ahadmdabdul 6 місяців тому +1

    Maa sha Allah! Very useful lesson by shaikh.

  • @AnuAnushaa
    @AnuAnushaa Рік тому +3

    My younger sister also has been treating me in a very bad way recently... I'll try and avoid her because i dont know how she can treat me the way she does but after some time i always ends up talking to her it gets awkward and it breaks the ideal family environment that i want but I guess it's time to get a little bit stern. I was worried that Allah swt might hold me accountable for this but now I know I can do this

  • @MooiMeissje
    @MooiMeissje 3 роки тому +3

    Masha Allah, such great advice

  • @PleasingAllahOfficial
    @PleasingAllahOfficial 3 роки тому +2

    JazakAllahu Khayr Sheikh 🌼

  • @adilmalik4884
    @adilmalik4884 Рік тому

    Victory InshAllah

  • @sofiyarini
    @sofiyarini 2 роки тому +1

    I agree, what abusive people want is for us to fell into their drama.. thx u Ustad at least i know I'm on the right path now to not respond with their comments

  • @tasnimmalihahimi
    @tasnimmalihahimi 2 місяці тому +1

    I tried to ignore my toxic sister. But she's evil. She tries many ways to hurt me with her words and actions. I keep silent. I remind myself that Allah dislikes the one whom people avoid bcoz of their hurtful speech. So i avoid her. But it makes me angry. Though i don't react,do nothing. Still it hurts ,i feel like slapping her or cursing her. I do nothing. But i don't know for how long i can tolerate her behaviour. She's not a good person and harms me in every way

  • @YUMANOAH
    @YUMANOAH 4 місяці тому

    jazakallah akhi

  • @sean87arnaout
    @sean87arnaout 2 роки тому

    Please Allah bless this sheikh

  • @arifnoufal7770
    @arifnoufal7770 4 місяці тому

    Jazak Allah

  • @sanaliaquat181
    @sanaliaquat181 8 місяців тому

    Thanks for this❤

  • @variolaa1089
    @variolaa1089 5 місяців тому +1

    Thank you so much.

  • @lameezes9673
    @lameezes9673 2 роки тому +2

    Assalamu Alaikum Sheikh! Please do a video about families dealing with drug addicts in the house. How long are we supposed to put and forgive the stealing of our property to feed their addiction before we had enough. And what should we do with them? How should we treat these slush addicts whom we love but it’s just too much :( it’s years and they always promise to rehabilitate and does only for a short time. Do we cut them off? Please do a video in this. Insha Allah Sheikh. May Allah reward you and your family for your good work.

  • @malikshehryar2969
    @malikshehryar2969 Рік тому

    Jazakallah

  • @abdulmalikidris1278
    @abdulmalikidris1278 Рік тому

    It's definitely not easy. I have been training, but endup relapsing.

  • @Aim_victory
    @Aim_victory 5 місяців тому

    You are right 👍🏻 Alhamdulillah!!
    Can women in Islam have rights ,to shout not often while she is in anger when she is literally insulted by the relatives such as sister husband or inlaws !!
    When she realises her shout is wrong still she is bullied by her sister husband with lots of assassinating her for her character, what to do when , they shout at her and bully her without understanding her suffering?

  • @Aaqibbasheer
    @Aaqibbasheer 9 місяців тому +1

    And how can we attain that skill, how to do training Sheikh assist.

  • @nahidaakter7706
    @nahidaakter7706 4 місяці тому +2

    It's quite impossible maybe sheikh never face those things 😊😊😊😊

  • @user-df3ms9gk2i
    @user-df3ms9gk2i 3 місяці тому

    what if it a parent and they always curse and if i stay quiet they get more angry

  • @neha08605
    @neha08605 2 роки тому +4

    if this happens everyday every hour that what we do

    • @TheMiketyson9
      @TheMiketyson9 Рік тому +1

      Keep smiling 😃 don't worry be happy!

    • @TimTim__
      @TimTim__ Рік тому +5

      May Allah make it easy for you sis. This can be very exhausting mentally. Always be humble and if you can no longer find peace then try to move to a different place with Mehrams.

  • @jamaal5157
    @jamaal5157 2 роки тому +2

    Sheik . When my mother and father is in a conflict . What should I do in order to reconcile it without anyone of them feeling offended..
    Please 🙏 I need an answer
    Jazzakallahu kaira

    • @Justalayman
      @Justalayman  2 роки тому

      You may ask your questions to the Sheikh through his website, assimalhakeem.net, or call him LIVE on Ask Zad as per the timings. You may also look for answers in the Knowledge Base, assimalhakeem.freshdesk.com.

  • @12sabari12
    @12sabari12 Рік тому +1

    No, some people has to be put in there place

  • @fahimahossain7482
    @fahimahossain7482 2 роки тому

    JazakAllahu khayraan

  • @apache-90
    @apache-90 11 місяців тому

    If you want to respond then respond by saying same to you.😅