How To Write The ULTIMATE Coming Out Letter | MtF/FtM | Hannah Phillips Real
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IT'S TIME FOR YOU TO COME OUT! So here is a letter!
🔲 How To Write The ULTIMATE Coming Out Letter | MtF/FtM | Hannah Phillips Real
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If you found yourself reading this then I guess you are on the brink of coming out to someone who you care for. I just want to make it clear that I AM HERE FOR YOU! Whatever the outcome I hope things work out the way you wish them to at some point in the near future.
Coming out is different for everyone, sometimes writing a letter is the only way that makes sense to you. In order to come out as transgender using the letter method there are a few things you should know - In this video, I break down the pro and cons of using a letter to come out as trans.
-- The Example Letter --
Example Coming Out Letter - docs.google.com/document/d/1U...
Dear [recipient e.g. family member, friend, or work colleague],
My reason for writing to you is that I have been wanting to share something with you, which I am unable to vocalise in person, as I feel anxious about how you may react. It has been a challenge for me to even begin writing this, as what I wish to share is something very personal to me.
I have felt really uneasy with the way I’m perceived by those around me. I have realised I feel more comfortable when I present in a more [feminine/masculine/neutral] manner. You may be familiar with the term transgender. This means that someone feels disconnected from the sex they were assigned at birth. I identify with this label and would appreciate it if you could help me feel more accepted and safe throughout my journey.
I know this may be a bit difficult to understand at first, and it may be very new to you, but it is something I have known for a while now. I trust you and want to be more honest with you about who I am and how I’m feeling. Please help me feel safer and more comfortable in my own body, by using the pronouns [she/her, he/him, they/them, neopronouns] for now. I would also appreciate it if you could call me by [name], as this is a name I feel more connected to.
I really want to transition and live the rest of my life as [gender identity]. To do this, I want to have a conversation with my doctor so that they can help me feel more at home in my body. Just thinking about doing this gives me hope for my future.
You should be able to see that I am still your [child, friend, parent, carer, colleague]. I haven’t changed my personality, just altering how I look so that it can match how I feel on the inside. I understand that at first you will slip up and make mistakes, and that’s okay, what’s important is that you are trying your best to learn, understand, and support me. When you do slip up or make a mistake, please don’t make a big deal about it. Quickly correcting yourself and moving on, or moving on and not making the mistake next time is enough for me, because it will show that you care about me.
If you have any questions, within reason, I’ll be more than happy to answer them to the best of my ability. I will attach some good resources and a group so that you could talk to other [parents, friends] of transgender people.
Thank you for your love, understanding, and support.
[Name]
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The subtitles for this video were written by Reef Harris.
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Also, if you happen to use the template, say thank you to Reef! :D
Lol, when I was planning to come out, I ended up being so lost for words that I literally googled "coming out letter template".
When I came out I used a letter myself, however I actually wrote more of a poem than an actual letter. I didn't even have a phone at the time... so yeah!
@@HannahPhillipsReal A coming out poem? Now that's a good idea! Why didn't I think of that? 🤦♂️
:D
I'm going to try and come out to my parents soon, this video couldn't have been uploaded at a better time lol.
Good luck! I hope it goes well for you!
good luck!!
Tysm you have no idea how useful this is to me- :') I'm probably gonna wait just a bit more because I don't think im ready rn but this video gave me so much smaller comfort and help ty
I am so glad to hear that! GOOD LUCK!
thank you so much for this video! coming out to my parents with a letter in 24 days:)
You are most welcome!
I was actually thinking of coming out tonight but im so scared tysm sis ♥️♥️
GOOD LUCK!
Thanks to Reef in advance, I'm going to try edit the letter In my own way and If I have the confidence I will use it to tell my parents.
Reef is awesome!
Thanks for the example, aslo I think I'm going to write the letter at school so my parents don't look through my stuff and find it, then I'm going to give it to them when I get home, I'm so nervous and excited.
Reef and I wish you all the best with writing a letter! :D Good luck!
Fingers crossed 🤞 I’m writing one to my grandfather. (He’s asking about my facial hair)
Good luck!
Thank you so much! I wrote mine out last night and am hoping to give it to them soon. This was so incredibly helpful
OMG thankyou so much, this is exactly the way i was thinking of letting my brother know. I know he's understanding but i feel better this way.
Thankyou so much hun 🙏
I hope it goes well for you!
thank you so much!! This is so helpful for me!
I'm glad we could help!
I want to come out I'm ready mentally, I'm just scared I won't pass as a female. Any tips? ❤️✨
@EXSHA tysm!
Coming out is only one part of a transition, the actual physical will take many years - May it be hormones or surgeries; however, buying new clothes may take a couple of weeks.
Passing is something that takes time, you have to learn your body and what works best for you - personally, I get correctly gendered when wearing flannels, but when I wear dresses I get misgendered more.
@@HannahPhillipsReal hi Hannah 👋
i'm coming out through letter, waiting for results 😅
I hope it ends up well!
Why is it that her videos seem to be getting better and better and better...? And BETTER
I mean... I did mess up the audio in this video o.O
But the quality is getting better and better due to the amazing team helping me :D
Thank you
I’m actually coming out like this as A Trans male and Pansexual I’m scared and also sorta relieved
I want to come out to my dad as trans ftm bc I already came out to my mom and brother as lesbian and they said that I cant be a kid and lesbian, and they also said it's a phase and hormones, little do they know I've known for 4 years, so yes I was 7, my dad is my biggest supporter in anything I want to do or go for and he doesnt know I'm trans yet, so I want to come out to him in a few years, probably 14, and then come out to my mom and brother at 18 and I want to move out at 18 so I'll be moved out by the time I come out to them
It sounds you have got a plan that may work, I really hope things turn out better than you expect! :D
When I came out the first time as a gay guy. Was fine with my friends but with my family... I literally told my Head of Year when I was in secondary school to out me. When I came out as Gender Fluid like 1.5 - 2 years ago I did it over Facebook. Wish I had this video when I was telling my family I'm gender fluid and want HRT - feel like it may have went down a little better.
Thank you so much for sharing your story - I am sure many people will relate to it and feel supported by it! :)
My mum knows that I’m trans, but she keeps saying “it might just be a phase” and she never uses he/him, I really want to tell her that it’s not a “phase” but I don’t know how... I’m scared she’ll never actually accept me...
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I see no lemons here :o