Money Matters in The Philippines/Expat's Going Broke/Old Dog New Tricks
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- Money Matters in The Philippines/Expat's Going Broke/Old Dog New Tricks@paulinthephilippinesolddog9234 I Interview John, Two Years After he Moved to the Philippines and Lost it all
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Can you provide an update on John? (I think that's his name)
It's been 2 years since this video, what can you tell us?
Thanks.
When you're in your late 50's and a 19 year old girl wants to date you. Hint it's going to be for your money.
no exceptions ...
No, there IS an exception ... oh wait, no there isn’t, you are right
That game plan never plays out , Chick will take all your $$$ every time
Not necessarily...in the long run!
Hint to young girls, when a late 50 guy wants to date you, it's for your youth and looks. It's human nature dude. But who cares why people are doing what, as long as you get the things you want😉. Bottom line is this: if the price is too high for you, just walk on by🙃
The worst for a man is when he has no friends to talk with or advise, so thanks Paul for being a friend to John and helping him out off camera.
If I were cynical, and sometimes I am,I'd say Paul got a one he'll of an interview!! But after watching Paul for sometime , I like to think his heart is in the right place 👍once again I guess it pays to think with the other head@!
I applaud Paul for his good heart. This is a must-see for future expats to deter them from giving Filipina girlfriends and their families money. Their poor living conditions is something they're used to and they die happy because being poor is normal to many of them. Building them a house isn't the boyfriend's responsibility and even if it's not asked for shouldn't be given since it is never a guarantee for a stable relationship. Expensive dinner in dating, even cellphones are okay but even then, if a girlfriend asks for a cellphone, laptop, anything that is money, red flag is as clear as the sun.
@@amadoparragua6989 the KIDS are major WORRY.
@@tuforu4 if you mean Filipina with kids, it's all your choice to continue or end your connection.
@@amadoparragua6989 i never saw so many kids as in phillopines..
When Poverty comes in the door........Love goes out the Window !!!
😂
Crazy part is, the family was in poverty before they met the guy! 🤷🏽♂️
Yes unless you are really good looking. I know guys who are good looking and broke and have literally had women pay for them!!
How the fu@# you go broke in a poverty stricken country in 2 years and it not be your fault?
Dude has no street smarts and is out of his league. I would never allow a woman to live in my house with no sex won't happen. Just buy it and date older established women in their late 20s and 30s. He can't say no that is why he broke not the girls.
I met my wife in Bohol. She never asked me for a thing. She knows I'm not rich by any stretch of the imagination. I've never met anyone who was as sweet and genuine as she is! I feel for this guy, and others who have been in the same situation as him. Not all Filipina are out to take advantage. Some do, yes! But not all!!!
She’s fooled you
A classic example of "Just because he's old, doesn't mean he's wise."
Good one, Marty! Or this one, just because you can make a negative comment, doesn't mean you should!
I used to say that to my children when they were growing up
@@brianandlynphilippines They are just dirty old men and this one is an obvious low IQ dirty old man
Gandalf the Old...not Gandalf the Wise.
Give the poor guy a break , I feel sorry for him
1st rule living in the Philippines, NEVER EVER let anyone know how much income you have.
Lol. I tell ladies I'm a millionaire and im in the Philippines to buy some businesses.. once I get a piece from them, I take off
@@michaeltamares7974 passport bros, stand up
Amen!
How about try being honest because they're going to find out in the end anyway.
@@michaeltamares7974 We'd all have to be stupider than you are to believe your bullshit.
Wow, very telling and I have to commend Paul for doing an excellent job on interviewing him. He is clearly nervous and reluctant to share some of his mistakes but you did a great job of not making him feel bad for sharing his story, which is a good lesson for us all.
I'm disappointed with the people attacking this guy. He is telling so much about himself and the bad things that can happen to lonely Americans in the Philippines and is giving thousands of men a dose of reality to avoid his mistakes. It's so painful. Be kind.
Lying to people isn't kind, sometimes it's just enabling. The people who genuinely care the most are willing to tell you the truth.
I'd rather be wounded by a faithful friend than be kissed by a deceiver.
What it makes me worry is the lump on his neck With his weight loss and that it might be a bad thing But I hope I am wrong
He was looking for a young virgin. Wake up!
This is pathetic....At some point this dirty old man needs to take responsibility for his life.. he needs a therapist not a 19-year-old girlfriend
With his lust for a teenager and all of the baggage that he has accumulated in the Philippines no sane woman would want to take him on.
He gave into his lust and has lost the chance of ever meeting someone that he could have had a real relationship with.
It is hard to feel sorry for such a person.
I believe if the age of consent was 12 in the Philippines he would be looking for a 12 year old. He's a predator.
I was sober for 15 years before I watched this video. From the beginning to the end…. The stress is just too much for me to handle.
Men: learn to live alone, and learn to love and respect yourself. Women are a nice addition, but they are not needed. No matter your age, remember that you are a King. All by yourself. Sending a big hug to you all.
he want a young teen gf, instead of rule one rent only tell you know what she wants,
I agree woman/man is not the answer of it.learn to live a life alone.
After many years of marriage, I have finally learned this life lesson. Women are nice to have around sometimes but live alone.
I really liked your message. That's how I have thought my entire adult life.
@@jimle22 100%.
Here is the problem: even if I would consider trying to help this guy financially for the next 17 month, I’m convinced he would continue to help his girl, and even her mother. He’s been taken advantage of and it will unfortunately never stop. For that reason alone, no money in the world would be enough and it would put me in the poorhouse as well in the end.
Well said
Love is blind
He will probably get duped into buying magic beans or something. Some people never learn.
Bingo he will always have that hope that she might love him back.
@@marryingabroad9387 it’s fine for hundreds more people to give to those well known charities, but knowing that there are twin american babies living in this crazy poverty (regardless of the circumstances) with literally nothing to eat and you would rather ignore them is absolutely sickening to hear. For those who are subscribers to this channel, which includes some who are part of a small group of expats there, I would rather they donate some funds through Paul to at least make sure that family has food to eat.
Thanks for this. It's really important to share the negative side of what can happen moving to the Philippines as well.
It’s a year later whats the story with him?
Living proof you can be 58 and have the life skills of a 20 year old!
More like a teenager and their "first love", all feelings with minimal foresight...like a lamb being led to the wolves. He seems stubbornly optimistic about being taken advantage of.....repeatedly. This guy had no business going to the Phillipines. Someone had mentioned he had a stroke? Isn't there someone from his biological family that can intervene on his behalf? Thank God for Paul at least.
This guy....is an i-diot. A little common sense anyone?
Life skills in the US and in the Philippines are completely different.
Arrested development. like a lamb to the slaughter in the real world.
Sadly he's not playing with a full deck,
Edit: (sorry, just read comment he had a stroke, my bad)
but if u want to date your grand daughter, then u reap what u sow !
I’m a Filipino living here in Japan, my advice for many expats or retirees going to the Philippines is don’t date a girl quickly when you arrive there, just chill for a few months enjoy your stay before dating someone. And also if you date someone don’t buy them something expensive or don’t spoiled them.
dont date anyone? From the arrival day at the airport to the ride to the hotel Im pretty sure numbers have been exchanged for possible dates. The Filipinas spot the sucker once he steps off the plane and grandpa smells fresh meat. Hard to resist all that temptation in the air. But maybe this video will save one person from falling prey.
Philippines is like a prison... they know freash meat and will turn weak people out fast!
your advise is nothing new to me, why in the world would I ever want to date someone in the philippines???? there only interested in how they can get to the next meal or how they can take someones money. the whole world knows that, now who wouldnt go to the philippines for sex, you only spend $5 dollars and she will suck the shit out of your ass with a straw an absolute bargain if you ask me.
Agreed, that is the same all over Southeast Asia. Good advice. ❤
You get what you pay for guys. Really? Through no fault of his own??? You keep saying "girl". Do you see the problem here? 19 and 58. There's the problem, grow up.
Just watched this video and while it’s a year old, it’s timeless. One of your most engaging documentaries, Paul. John needs compassion from some viewers who can give it, but most importantly he needs guidance getting out of this rabbit hole. A year later today, I hope he is in a much better place. Less than a year until he gets his social security benefits. I wish him well. Truly a compelling video .
Just watched Paul’s update posted 6 months ago. Paul & buds are awesome, got John back stateside to get back on his feet.
I'm struck by how nice of a guy John is. John, I am very sorry for your struggle, nice guys finish last! Please keep your chin up and I hope the best for you.
I'm half Filipino and I used to go to the Philippines to see some of my family members.
I see these old white dudes who are creeping on young girls all the time and then cry about being used!!! It's hard to feel bad for these old guys who are also using these poor young girls for their bodies.
Sir, you are old enough to know what's going on. If you are broke, it's because you are paying lots of money to be in a fake relationship and also paying for her family.
Don't give guys like this money, he'll just be in the same situation all over again.
Tama, ang layo ng agwat ng edad syempre ayaw sa kanya ng babae
It is one thing to have a 60 to 65 year old guy come to Asia and get a women 15 to 20 years younger but this guy got got a child at 18 and he was 56. That is wrong and you get what you deserve.
@@maverick80franklin85 EXACTLY!!!
HE is definitely not the victim. I'm sure both parties were using each other.
Sex object ang tingin nila sa mga kababaihan natin
Hindi nabibili ng pera ang kaligayahan
100% emotional ( and physical) abuse. He has to beg for rice? And he still believes in her? Poor man has lost himself. Very sad. Amazing interview.
It is very sad indeed. Especially for a man I would say it is a terrible way to be treated.
He is being manipulated and abused! She would be done with him if he didn’t have money coming at 62. If she finds someone new and better she will also be done with him. He is under this woman’s spell, probably literally! Narcissists show you the “I love you forever” mask when you first meet them! Once they get you in their web they keep you not knowing if you are coming or going, walking on eggshells! This poor chump needs to wake up! Get outa there, go no contact, regain your sanity! It is your only hope!
@@kilnmaster Exploiting? Building a house for the family, wanting to help raise kids, providing the money - such exploitation. Wowza. I'm available for such exploitation if anyone is looking.
@@kilnmaster He absolutely could buy his way, but he ran out of money to pay the rental costs. Happens all the time in Western countries too.
@@kilnmasterYeah she is angel poor girl have so thought life. Even now she so hurts. I wish roles will be reversed for her and especially for you.
Great interview and an eye opener for those who plan on moving to the Philippines looking for love and a new life. John is really a nice guy. He loves his family despite the abuse he met from those who were supposed to care about him.
It's never too late to change your situation, John! Believe in yourself and go for it! I am 73 years old and I speak from experience. You can do it!
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I have been traveling to the Philippines for 16 years and lived over there as a young American guy. I tried a few businesses and dated around. BEST advice I can give anyone thinking about going over there... Go with the intention of spending no money or as little money as possible no matter what. Also, do not move in with ANYONE, not with locals, foreigners, girlfriends or anything of the such. Keep your personal life separate. People with little or no money will do what they can to drain your pockets in any part of the world.
OLD white men go there to marry young beautiful fillipina women, thinking their little pension is enough to buy happiness, living like a king being served. 60 year thinking it's oK to get a 19 year old girl pregnant and not have the responsibility to provide for her and the kids? wtf? He's luck I'm not the father of that girl. I'd have chopped his wrinkly head off a long time ago.
Exactly!!! My stomping grounds are Colombia. I have a woman that I date in Colombia who asked me for money 1 time when she was robbed along with her girlfriends during the protest that were going on, she still didn't ask me to buy her a phone. Ironically I have a friend who is originally from Mexico who asked me for $200 for food for her and her kids. I gave it freely, 2 weeks later she asked for $300 for food. I told her that I have a freezer full of food and full cabinets and that she is can have as much as she wants. She said I want to go to Costco. I didn't respond. She was never like this before, but I got a 6 figure job 2 months ago and she has become a parasite. She also just found out that her 17 year old daughter was raped by one of her boyfriends when she was 11 years old. I asked her, why did you move your kids in with this man? She responded "because he said that he would take care of me and pay for everything." She still has not told her 20 year old something son what happened to his sister. I think this friendship is done.
Sound advise
Paul, if you handle John's money for him I would be glad to help him.
@@dustymcdust825 Thanks for sharing. I have just made it a rule not to hand out or loan any money to anyone anymore. I don't mind treating a friend or a date to a nice meal out from time to time but other than that adults need to take responsibility for themselves.
I get a distinct feeling that this guy will take any money he receives and give it away to the very people that are treating him like trash.
Don't get involved seriously with these "traditional" girls and their family. Find party girls, have a little fun and then put your foot in the middle of their back and declare "next"
😁😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪
@@MikeBarbarossa that right
@@MikeBarbarossa Do you want your sister treated like this? "Next!" ? What a fine man you are.
I am gonna give him what he wants. My pitty. That's it bye
Been watching many of these videos, I have no intention of going to the Philipines, just started to binge-watching these videos, see this same exact same story over and over and over again, wow
3/19/24 Good interview. Paul -you showed a lot of restraint, caution and compassion in your questions. He’s an easy target. Obviously he made some poor choices but regardless of age , we’ve all had our share of mistakes. (ie marriage in any 1st world country can be much worse than his issues).
This guy has zero boundaries. He is also pursuing relationships with women decades younger than he is. 🚩
There lies the problem.
bingo! 🎯
Agreed ma'am. Expats come here and thinking "TEENS" would seriously love them. If you're wanting a serious relationship with a Filipina then go with women in your own age bracket. 19 and 58? She could be his granddaughter. 😂
@@rencedeasis509 even Filipino women has aged take advantage of Americans because of their money
Perv haven.
This should be required watching for anyone over 30 going to the Philippines.
Anyone over 30 probably knows not to buy their girlfriend's family a free house.
@@2000ViperGTSsubscribe Why not? He wanted to be with her and a woman expects a man to support protect and guide. She might have had feelings for hom but his passive weak behavior was an extreme turn off to her and almost all women. A self directed man would have used that$30 k to get extablished and create an income stream. Start a business or invest for example. I moved to another country 21 years ago and did not know the language and had no work permit but started a business in a field I did not have any experience and it was successful.He had 5 times more capital than I did. I had a spare $13,000 one quarter and invest in Telsa at $58/share. I was not an investor in stocks but that seemed like mad money and I believed in the company mission. If it failed I would not have gone hungry. My intuition paid off well, with stock splits and great growth that initian capital is $930,000. That is an extreme case and I have no invested in any other stocks. The point is be in control of your life and not passively allow life to control your life. REgardless of the money, woman are naturally attracted to men who are their own captains. That has been a genetic predisposition of women since humans evolved. As the child bearer she seeks men who are protective, supportive and provide guidence. A secure feeling woman is capable bonding very tightly with a man who can represent security. Men often complain that is gold digging but it is nature. If he was in control of his life, the very modest demands by her might have signalled the security that allows them to be as propor mother and wife. Only loser men complain about this natural priority females have. He thinks he was taklen advantage of but he simply failerd the test of being a competent male so it is not unexpected she has no respect for him. If he had just gotten a job or put an effort into creating an income stream, and provided leadership she might still interedted in him. His first priority in moving there was getting established, finding allies, developing an income stream and becoming a self directed man whom women could respect before every seeking a relationship.
Not over 30.. More like of sound mind.
@@fromscla5883 It is more about being a softee, he came with 30K USD and no income after planning for years-that is utterly idiotic. How to make him a million Dollars is easy, start him out with 10 million. then from thee he would buy pigs, houses and trucks-it's stupid.
You would be surprised how many men of matured age have come here and throw caution to the wind only to end up broke.
This guy was so taken advantage of….sorry to hear. I could tell this guy is such a nice guy. His girl and her family will never treat this guy well. Hope he stays ok.. he deserves better
Great interview! I’m a straight female and I’m certain I would get scammed in the Philippines ! Some people can barely afford to eat. Of course they would want your money!
Hi, I'm a straight male and I'm certain I would not got to the Philippines even if the Greek goddess Artemis was waiting there for me 🤔
Once his Social Security cheques come in, his gal will love him Big Time once a month
And that is when he neeed to get away from this family
I suspect once he gets his Social Security, many will remind him what they did for him when he was down on his luck. Very sad story. I also suspect once he gets a steady income the GF will want to rekindle the relationship. I cannot imagine the choice between staying with his children and getting on in a better living situation.
To keep with Paul’s “no advice” theme I’ll not say what I think he should do.
She already has that money spent. Find a new island.
I'm sure this numb nuts doesn't even know, that if those kids are really his, SS will give him an additional $1600 a month until they are 18 years old. If she find that out, she will really love him LOL
When poverty walks in the door love flies out the window.
My mom would always say that. 😊
Sad but often true!
My Grandma used to say, "when the hunger pangs bite, love flies out the window".
@@madamebrunhilda5105 "Drunk on stupidity and staggering on starvation." is what I used to hear.
@@madamebrunhilda5105 nowday I dun even take hunger pangs....as soon as the Boba tea stops you're shown the door.
Great interview Paul, very compassionate, helpful and understanding!
I followed the whole sad story about John and Diana and kids. John seems like such a good guy. My heart went out to him and his dreadful situation. The truth is, John got hustled by Diana and her parasitic family for every penny he had. Then, of course, she got pregnant. I will pray for John. He will be preyed upon again by these people. Good Luck !
I'm a Filipina and some Filipino toxic mentality is that parents think their kids are their retirement plan. So this guy ended up of feeding the whole family. Sorry to hear your story and I hope this is a lesson to some foreigners looking for love. Don't fall with very young age 20 or 30 years age gap. Don't sell everything in your country and move to Philippines without knowing our culture, etc.. We Filipinos think that foreigners are rich full of $$$ in his atm and thru him the whole family will survive and go to his country.
Theresa , I appreciate your comment. I got my run for the money but I never gave up. Eventually I met a wonderful lady on line from Cebu. It is important I mention that I lived almost 25 years in SEA , Indonesia, Thailand, Malaysia and Vietnam. Hong Kong and even India. She is wonderful and we have a 4 year old boy, we live in Florida now, but from the beginning she NEVER asked me for money. She comes from poor background and I do help her family but not near enough what those guys pay, I do respect your culture. You have a wonderful country and let us just keep our heart with the honest ladies. These men, as you mention are also not so smart.
Exactly, kids should not have to spend their life supporting their parents….
@@Needglory23 Well while this is indeed true, very perceivable sometimes, what liberated us here are insurances, social plans and retirement plans. Insurances are however more and more popular in the Philippines. But I am not 100% sure that this is an ideal to follow. Maybe to get inspiration from. Not to copy. Insurances and all those security plans are one major factor of why individualism took over here in North America (same in European Union and other countries). The same individualism that is exhausting me to live in Canada and seeking to move living at least part of the year every year in the Philippines. Family is important for me.
@@SwisstedChef2018 : I got my experience after arriving to Cebu Mactan Int"l Airport.
Greed is a world culture
As a Filipino, I feel the need to caution foreigners who plan to marry a Filipina. It's unfortunate, but I believe that the majority of Filipinas from poor to lower-middle-class backgrounds are primarily interested in foreigners for their financial resources. It's important to be aware of red flags, such as frequent requests for money. If you notice this behavior, it's best to distance yourself from her and leave..lol. While there may be some Filipinas who are primarily interested in foreigners for their money, there are also many wonderful and genuine Filipinas out there who are looking for love and companionship. If you do happen to find a legitimate and trustworthy Filipina, it can be like hitting the jackpot. So, while it's important to be cautious and aware, it's also important to keep an open mind and heart.
you say that like American women aren't the same
Exactly
Blue pill men get ignored and abused by women in the West, sorry guys all women have hypergamy and Briffaults law hardwired into them. My first wife in the West graped me in divorce and I came out to Asia and it was all love and kisses, after the BS that was CV put my business in the trash love and kisses turned on a dime to instant resentment. I am OK inside because I knew it was all surface-level stuff with a woman. If you go to the Philippines or any Asian country, live on your own and just pump and dump the ones that think they can burrow into your bank account with hot xes. Building homes for her family and buying trucks, nope buy them a coffee max. Stay single fellas and go mgtow, @bigboy you are full of sh1t every woman just wants a walking ATM no matter what the country is.
Its not true. Filipinas like foreigners for our look, height, kind and caring attitude and respect for woman which we learn since young age.
Some are after your money only but its everywhere. If you have brain than its so easy to see if girl is for the money only. Just dont give any and see if she stays with you.
@@Cap_management That kind caring, respect for women, which was falsely drilled into our heads, sure turned around to bite men on the azz. Go MGTOW!
I watched this video when first posted while I was still in the US, I live in Europe now and it literally has helped me to not be stupid and make these same mistakes thru this past year and a half, (not trying to say he is stupid) I come back to it and watch it fully again every time I feel like I am about to make a mistake related to this… it scares me so much that it makes me go back to right path in an instant. 😳
Thanks for sharing your experience John. We need to keep our eyes wide open for all of these matters.
He went into this with a tight budget but yet manageable. The problem was when he agreed to build this house for a woman he knew for 5-7 months. He was paying $240us in rent and handed over $10,000us. Over 4 years of rent. He let lust and love blind him.
Yeah Jon has issues. Not sure if he likes being used or what. Glad he shared his story though because many people who get used don't tell anyone and continue to be used forever. I guess if he had MORE money.. that mone would disappear as well. Unable to say no to his girl and her family and now with twins.... and zero income he is screwed until Social Security kicks in which will probably be 1200-1800 usd /month
@@dddtrump At 62 I seriously doubt that he will draw that much. If he sold everything he owned in his late 50’s and only had 30K I would have to assume he wasn’t paying a lot into the SSA. More likely he will be drawing 700 to 900 tops. Enough to survive on in the Philippines if he can learn to stop handing it over to his GF and her family.
@@steve.1373
I made that same calculation, and agree. The fact that he was so willing to go live in a squatter area is evidence that he has possibly experienced near-poverty himself. I seriously doubt he is capable of learning any lessons from any of this. Every suggestion Paul diplomatically presented was immediately dismissed with some excuse or another.
I don't agree at all that he went to the Phils with a manageable budget. I don't think any westerner could survive on $600 a month in the Phils unless they already owned home there and even that would be extremely tight.
This guy is a moron. No sympathy from me
BTW Paul, that was professional level interviewing going on there and you did it because you respected his humanity. ❤️
Mental health 🤷🏾♂️
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HOW'z about trying to ' shore - up ' the mans dignity . . before it collapse ! ! !
@@raycatlin3554 He went off the grid in a remote village. He didn’t seek help. You can’t keep track of everyone. And something that doesn’t get mentioned often enough and that is that many expats move overseas to be left alone.
@@LordTaylor007
Hi, Aaron.
I have nothing to say I've been watching so many of these videos, from the PI to Thailand, all the same stories, I wonder how these people even survived in their own country?
You're right. I believe this guy would have been taken, even in America. It's his personality. Some people can read the sucker sign on your forehead.
This video made me sad for John, but I since watched the updates and it seems they’re doing much better thanks to your support. I wish them the very best!
I'm a hematologist, and John appears to have adenopathy in his left posterior cervical lymph node. Given his extreme weight loss, I would strongly suggest that he visits a doctor soon.
I noticed that too when he turned his head.
Large or swollen lymph glands? There's definitely a noticeable bulge towards the rear of John's neck. Oh boy...
I saw that sticking out right away too.
@@shawnb1774 Yes first thing i noticed, he got to see a doctor asap.
Well, if the family has tried unsuccessfully to get him deported, what else were they supposed to do? (I wish I were joking, but I think he needs a toxicology report as well.)
The family tried to get rid of him. Dude, out of all the red flags…
My wife passed away, but I was the ATM for her daughter for 18.5 years. Easily, more than $100K. She actually called me "the money man." This is in US. My wife knew it and she knew that her daughter would only visit 1 or 2 times per year when she wanted money, and it made her feel very bad. I feel bad for this guy. I hope things turn out well for him.
Hi Paul, i am thankful for you making this video, because i am learning so much by watching and listening to this video. I feel sorrow 😢 for John and hope that he will pull through the mess. May God help John and strengthen him in this time of his life 🙏❤
Poignant interview, the interviewer handled it commendably. He was patient, empathetic, and kind. Top notch! This was a Masterclass! Thank you
YES, interviewer was very tactful, respectful and gracious. I was impressed by him.
Of course he was. He's making money from it by posting it on UA-cam. In fact he's being a predator - using this man's hard-luck story as income fodder. Wake up guys!
I think so too. Very good interviewer
I'm 48 years old...i see a 19 year old girl as a child...no way I could share a bed with her...let alone being 60
Seeing 19 year olds as children is more sick than fucking one. Maybe you are the one with the real issue.
Yeah I’m getting massive pedo vibes off this guy.
I completely agree, it is creepy 😮.
David Bowie was 45 when he married his 17 year old wife. He had dated her since she was 15, and nearly went to prison for banging 14 year old groupies. Yet people still celebrate him like a saint.
Then u don't understand the life of a typical filipino woman at all especially a woman from the province and a woman from Manila..but in this case the young woman knew exactly what she was doing and the old man knew nothing...many of the woman there at that age are more adult then any woman at any age in the USA..for this story she played him for a fool..he needs to marry a woman that likes him for being him and also he will have dual citizenship and can see his child..apply at a call center..
Great story. I think many of us can learn a lot from this man’s experience.
I am very very careful when it comes to $$. I hope everyone will learn from this.
Let’s support him in his foibles. I hope that they can make it!!
Wow! What an incredible interview
John is heading towards a self destructing sad story. unbelievable.
This is a must watch for anyone thinking about coming over. Just heartbreakingly unbelievable mistakes. This is not the place to be broke. Great job Paul. See you on the next one .
Tell me what place is good to be broke?
I thought is was the place to be broke.
@@raulsantana9273 Not Philippines, numbnuts.
😂 nowhere is a place to be broke
@@raulsantana9273 Scandinavia, Canada or Australia are pretty good places to be broke
Poor guy didn't have a clue . Paul seems to be trying to gently open his eyes. Bravo to Paul. ✌️❤️🙏🙏 God bless you and baby mae . Take care and stay safe.
He has provided a great service to many men by sharing his story. I hope and pray that he's alright.
Former Radio guy: Paul is a very good interviewer. Someone needs to say that, props, seriously that was very well done sir.
I am a Clinical Psychologist and this guy is an amazing interviewer. Thoroughly enjoyed this interaction.
Great to see your comment. Paul is an excellent interviewer.
thats nice dear
He seems like he has dependent personality ?
Yeah he's the new Johnny Carson,.... What a couple of gems these two are
@@AaronRose69😂😂😂
I'm glad he understand that taking care of children/babies is a hard job and that the caretaker will need help.
Watched this video first and then watched the video of John 2 years before. It breaks my heart to see John in such a state. The first video he was happy, upbeat and had a sparkle in his eyes, but 2nd video he seems so defeated. Sending John lots of positive vibes and he's in my prayers. If John is brave enough, please can you do another update video, would like to know how he's getting on. Thank you.
This truly a story not to comment on, but to learn from. Thanks Paul.
Reality Check:
Don’t be sad John, be mad, mad at yourself and the people that are stringing you along.
When your social security checks start to come in, you need to get your own place (by yourself) and help out your twins and no one else, PERIOD! In the meantime you need to not let any of them know this plan.
It’s your turn to string them along. I guarantee you’ll be out on the street if they don’t think they’re going to profit from your social security account. She does NOT love you. Sorry dude but it’s for your own good. I’m hoping and praying you see the light.
The mother in law is a piece of you know what. Openly trashing him in the community, shaming him despite the fact he gave her a house and helped her son. If I would believe in Karma I would hope she gonna get hers.
They tried to deport him and yet he hardly showed a reaction -- I wish Paul had been upfront and gave this man an honest opinion of his problems. He needs a true friend, one that shows him how he is being abused.
I agree. I think her love stopped the minute she found out he's unable to get her a VISA to the US bcos the Embassy needed 2 Guarantors that are relatives of his in the US..and he has none.
He's going to do just great with his minimal Social Security income. The guy has no money coming to PI, meaning he didn't have a high income earning history. Then factor in the 75% of maximum Social Security he will expect. This idiot is a broke joke.
great advise
Very typical story...tnx for this very informative..important lesson here is to care of your heart and lock up your money
A few pieces of advice for anyone who's considering moving to the Philippines. Stay single, don't have children, rent an apartment, and be happy.
"Don't have children". Very important suggestion. Very easy solution, get a vasectomy.
Correct .
Yea and get a vasectomy before heading to phil.
Invest in hookers.
That's sad advice and more geared for older people I guess. Most foreigners and some xpats tend to think only older people go to the Philippines to find love. If you log on to Tiktok, you'll see many western men in their 20s coming to meet Filipinas their age. TONS!
Paul, this may be the most important (and perhaps the most compassionate) video you've ever done. I hope it reaches a wide audience. We all may think that we are immune to this kind of foolishness (and, yes, it is foolishness), but we aren't. We need reminders like this one.
some of us are
Poor guy. Looks like he's stuck between a rock and a hard place and seems like a sweet guy. Too nice and nieve. He's like a babe in the woods. I wish him luck.✌️❤️
very good interview m and best hope for John.
Even if we were to give donations to the guy. I don’t feel confident that he would manage the money well. His love for the mother of his children is stronger than his common sense.
Exactly, this is one-itis at its worst
Wait for the next video!
The money problem you point out is valid, directly paying his bills solves this.
TY , sad that younever thought that maybe Paul would make a trustworthy trustee for a brain damaged person suffering from effects of a stroke ! I will ask Paul if he wants to be a Trustee . That's alright with you , Right ?
John loves the mother of his twins and he cannot do it without the help of Diana to raise their children, if you want to help then do it.
Donate air miles for a "free" ticket back to the US. No money. He will probably give it to babies' mama.
Dude is a walking talking target. Seems to just be that kind of guy. Good heart, lack of common sense, and naive are a very bad combination, especially in a country where poverty and hard living is a daily reality. If he makes the 1 year and 7 months he will still be in the same situation because their are plenty of people who see him as just another mark. If he does not change he will continue to be eaten alive. Sad story but a very important cautionary note for anyone, any place, Good Luck.
He completely stupid
the man has a pure heart... God always has a place for a people like him..
I will pray for you John for your patience and perseverance to remain with your family John. God will take good care of you. You're a strong good person John. And you deserve to be pray. I remember your lifestory, and I hope that I could only render prayers for you but somehow to be of help as well.
Why else would a 19 year old girl go out with a 59 year old man, of course it's for money. That girl is never going back to her old sweetheart self unless you go back to your old self with money in your pocket. Welcome to female nature! One more thing, Never invest or loan out money unless you are willing to lose it! I feel bad for you Paul but a 59 year old man should know better.
I agree with you to a point. But, the true "female nature" is to fall in love you know, instead of denying their soul for financial security! I actually feel sorry for these girls!
@@MB-fq5hf That’s the girls, not women, I don’t feel sorry for that weirdo,
Can people be so naive!?
Why so young when there are so many women in their 40s who still look great for the age.
Women with more traditional values.
I see this all the time and hear the same "young fatal female' story all the time.
Ask yourself this question.
"Am I experienced with women?"
If you know that you are not, then beware and take your time. Does the woman still want you if you don't spend money on her? She will show her true colours soon enough if you just spend the same a the local guys do.
The guys who are long lasting with women, happily married are the ones with women near their own age.
Control your ego guys and ask yourself what is really important in a partner besides her youth.
There are good women in Asia, but you have to do your homework and due diligence first. Good luck.
Filed under “duh” 👏🏻
you are 100 % right !
"I keep hoping she will go back to the girl I fell in love with." Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome is insanity! This is a sad story.
problem is.....that is the girl he fell in love with, he just can't see it.
He needs to escape, get a small place, job and wait out SS, any amount he has now or came with would never be enough, they will bleed him to death, as long as he allows it. He has no plan to improve.
Young people loves to hangout Yong people what do you expect..pick up same age as you do use common sense
I will be 55 and so far so good I love it here. My wife is great and supportive and not out for money.
Are you in Manila?
A soft hearted soul who aimed for the stars and ended up being taken advantage of,
This dude is the height of naivety. He was doomed to be taken to the cleaners. The only reason they keep him around is because they know he's got social security on the way. They're going to clean him of that too. He really screwed up when he knocked her up, with twins to boot.
He shouldn’t have hit on a 15 year old and got her pregnant then. He’s disgusting.
@@lululiga333 He's a boy in a man's disguise. I also loathe the parents who let this happen for money.
sad state of affairs. It's obvious they don't care about him.
@@splotbang8296 Hes actually a pervert. He says she was around 16 when he met her? At his age hitting on a girl that young using his money as a hook in. Hes disgusting. He deserves all he gets.
Yes i bet he has "talked" about his pension a lot that is why they are waiting patiently = girl, mom, brother, cousin, uncles, aunties, neighbors, the next barangay.
Thanks for sharing.
When I had an emergency the last minute flight was under $700 one way and I was home in 24hrs. Back in school I had to volunteer in a homeless shelter. Was a sober shelter, free bed, showers, dinner every night, could get mail there and they'd help you to get a job, ID card, etc . It honestly wasn't too bad, I'd sit and have dinner with everybody staying there. Sounds like 19 months in the US might be the way to go.
I was just reading the other day that California (Palm Springs I think) is doing a pilot program with guaranteed universal income if you are transgender or LGB - something like that so he could go there and cross dress for a year and 7 months and have his free money until he gets his Social Security...
I agree, better than living where he is now
He doesn’t have $700.
He doesn't have visa money either, which is going to be quite a bit over the next 18 months. And then he's going to have to leave anyway because the 3 years of visa are up.... unless he applies for SRRV which is also expensive. Basically he's fucked.
I think if the embassy had a guarantee from a charity to give him a bed and board in the USA a volunteer to meet him at the airport and escort him, they might spring for the tickets. Just guessing (hoping maybe).
Great interview good job Paul
“I planned this for 2 years.”
Just didn’t plan on everything else
An eye opening and simple video, he’s too simple and laid back of a guy, easily taken advantage of, God bless and help him. Paul, your facial expressions during the video says it all.
Well said
Yea..you have alot of patience Paul for thuis Addle brain American. My question is..how was he able to buy plane ticket frm the US.
@@seapirate65 Remember he's been through a lot, and had a stroke. He made some bold moves early on, and trusted people to be as generous and genuine as him.
@@seapirate65 He sold everything he owned.
Paul, I really admired the way you conducted yourself through this interview with John. You showed empathy and sympathy and a huge amount of respect throughout your interview. You withheld judgment when it was so tempting to judge.
I’m so disappointed that John still doesn’t appear to have learned any lessons from his ongoing experiences. I have thought about living in the Philippines for several years but never chose to because I didn’t have an income until my retirement.
How does one help a person that shows every indication of going and doing the bad things over and over again. I liking this to giving money to a drug addict while they are still addicted to the drugs.
I agree. I want to help and it appears many of us watching want to. Someone would almost need to manage the donations for at least food and transport. If someone has ideas, share. Sigh 😔
@@jaqsmom I agree with the management of things, he appears to be too invested in the house he paid for. He isn’t blind to the fact that “his girl” is still hunting for the next guy. He doesn’t need to abandon his children however he needs to separate himself from that situation. How does he do that?
@@jaqsmom My idea: set up a fund to buy him a one-way ticket home, to be homeless in a tent in California, where the local government will look after him better than this Ph family of thieves and cut-throats, until he gets his social security, then he will be in a stronger position. I don't know how to set up an internet fund, I would be willing to donate a few bucks, but strictly only for a ticket home, he would just blow any general fund on this evil girl.
@@64Dasani He should start a youtube channel!
@@jaqsmom I was thinking the same thing, somehow though, the mother-in-law would get her hooks into whatever money she'd see fall into John's hands. In the end, how do you help a man that cannot help himself? He's convinced that his girlfriend will see the error of her ways and be nice to him again ...
Wow!!!🤔
This is a very important, and informative video. Definitely need to have your ducks in order, before you move out there. I'm 66. I've been considering a move like this, but i would have waited until i had social security nailed in first, b4 moving out there.
Also, one needs to keep in contact with SSI annually, because they'll cut you off, if you dont respond to their letters.....
Very good channel. Every man should watch this channel before moving to Filipins.
John reminds me of a worst case 19 year old sailor visiting the Philippines for the first time. His wisdom is far behind his age in these matters.
Lol seriously I stayed away from Filipino, Thai, Russian , Ukrainian women like the plague. My Japanese girlfriend payed my rent got me food and was a successful business person working in Tokyo. I stayed with her when I was in Port and didn't care about the 1.5 hours commute back to base. One of the best relationships I have had.
@@asahisagoiboi3517 I am also married to a Japanese. she never let me down even in my bad times.
@@asahisagoiboi3517 Ukrainian lol。 USA will pay out the nose to support a crippled non recoverable Ukraine. Through taxation
@@asahisagoiboi3517 I married a Korean who was a first-class person. She never disappointed me. And before that, when I was living in Japan, I was impressed by their sense of honor. They're good people.
As a rule, I never ever dated or hung out with women with less education. As well as respectfulness, strong work ethic and honesty as well. It has served me well in life.
"Terrific girl"? Chatting up other dudes your whole time together.
Talks you into spending all your money on her and her family.
Gives you silent treatment for almost a year...Now near broke in a developing country with 2 children to support..
really illustrates "There's a sucker born every minute."
incredible interview....Thank you for this video and cautionary tale, that more often than not the biggest obstacle a person faces is the man in the mirror and our own decisions/delusions.
No lies detected 👌🏾
he thought young girl if she got pregnant she love him forever.
The guy is thick
No, you don't get it. She's THE ONE. lol.
So true.
Ok , number one, you are not alone.
I've made a mess out of my early years.
Take a deep breath, exhale slowly. Take stock of yourself.
You have some skills. Focus on yourself and get back to taking care of yourself.
I'm sorry this happened to you.
But, you are not alone.
Hang in there , be tough, be strong.
Believe in yourself
Correct. Many YT-heroes in the comment section easily point their fingers at John as if he is the dumbest and biggest loser of all just to make themselves feel a bit better. These "heroes" even celebrate his demise. It is pure sadism and narcissistic. Many toxic people on social media.
This good man represents a part of humanity that gets chewed up by humanity. I wish him well and hope he gets the FCKOUT and finds a new life while he still young.
Paul you are the “ Larry King “ of Philippines Vloggers! Great listening and question asking skills . Hoping that John finds happiness .
Paul's interview skills are second to none. 👍
Good one , the Larry King of the PH. Not too far from the truth !! Paul has a big heart and listens well Must have been hard to make this video.
@@AlizeeDefan Fully agree.... Or maybe the Mike Wallace of P.V.'s... Paul's interview skills were fantastic. And I really appreciate his humanistic, short commentary at the end. And above all, more than money, John needs a support network, of people he can trust, for advice and feedback. Some people do. Maybe we all do from time to time.
"...ever since I don't I don't have any money, anymore, I don't matter..."
That's EXACTLY the situation I found myself in. My brother-in-law went from being best man at my wedding, to, years later, punching my 8-year old daughter in the face and attacking me with bamboo sticks, rocks and a hammer. My mother-in-law went from "loving" me, to telling me not to call her "mum" anymore. Not just thrown out of the family (by this time, my wife was living with a new Filipino boyfriend - and pregnant to him - and her siblings and parents were all singing from the same hymn sheet..."Go back to your country...and don't think that we will allow you to take (my daughter.)" The reason was obvious. If I left my daughter behind, they knew I would send money, every two weeks.
The long and short of it was that, at my lowest moment (violent and abusive in-laws, a cheating wife and just 20 pesos to my name,) I made a decision that I WOULD return to my country and, if necessary, would smuggle my daughter out. As I saw it, even the worst life with me, in my country, would be better than the best life my little girl could expect to experience if she stayed with them. I won't bore you with the details but, thanks to the pandemic draining finances of all expats, my country's government FINALLY decided to help the stranded return home. In addition to securing flights, they even threw in a one-off loan for living expenses, being the equivalent of 105,000 pesos.
What I can say, 22 months after our escape is that my daughter has never been happier. She loves going to school, now that she doesn't have to share the classroom with 48 other kids (when the room has only 30 desks!) She eats what she wants and, even though we would be considered as being below the poverty line, here - we live like millionaires compared to what we went through, back there.
With that said, I am NOT down on the Philippines, or with Filipino people. I love the country and most people are great - helpful, friendly, curious and kind. Indeed, the godmother of my child INSISTED on sending us money, one Friday evening - so we could eat on the weekend - despite me not asking her to help us. Later, I discovered she had wired the money from her hospital bed, where she was because of a heart condition. There were many others, like her, who were impressed that a foreigner was willing to endure hardship, in order to raise a Filipino-born child, that its Filipino mother had, effectively, abandoned.
I should say, I also came back to no family. It's me and my young daughter, starting from scratch (and I am older than John.)
Never give up hope. Best of luck. And thank you for sharing your story.
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Never too late
Good on you my man. Sharing these stories really helps a lot more people than you can imagine. I’ve been taken to the cleaners over “love” twice domestically. Fortunately not to degree you have, but you learn that having a kind heart can be a liability. It’s taught me that “no” is my go to answer.
that's a scary story....thank you for sharing makes one think everything over
Hey man, best of luck!
This dude needs a hug from a real friend, I hope by now he is getting his SS and is living his life. Good luck buddy.
they helped him back stateside
Amazing interview
Success is relative. The more successful you are the more relatives you have.
Well played.
Yeah!
This is also mathematically and logically sound. How can a poor & serially unsuccessful person be of help to others? Why would others defy their logic and common sense and seek help from an unsuccessful person. Even animals would know to go where there is plenty of food and water instead of wasting their energy on places where there is a scarcity of both. While it might seem not good MORALLY, it's perfectly in line with MATHEMATICS and LOGIC.
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We all have short lives left to live on this planet when we are older than 50. It's your time to live stress free and enjoy what time u have left. Do not let knowone take away your happiness.
I couldn’t finish watching this two going over John’s life. good luck Johnny 😅
This video is almost 2yrs old. Would love to get updated. Praying for his safety both physically and mentally.
aparently they helped him back into the US
When you're a 60 year old man and having sex with a 19 year old, there's a big problem there. It's all his fault that he's broke. He chose to pay for a young woman's affections/sex and lost everything that he had and unfortunately, I don't think he even really understands what happened to him and why and is bound to repeat the same behavior with he same female or another.
Likesthat fresh meat.Idiot,
Yes!
Why not meet a 45 year old for goodness sake?
He set himself up for failure with his lack of due diligence as there are a gazillion similar stories out there for him to pay heed to.
@@zoe9632 cause 45 year old wont go with this fool. Only young and naive 19 yo who thinks she hit the jackpot with this gringo.
@@MOBU76 he's got a job & is doing much better now.
Interesting how they almost never can find a woman to fall in love with in other countries that is in their 30s/40s/50s when they are pushing 60+. Nope. Always just seems to happen that the 20s and younger “women” (girls) are the ones they keep meeting and getting into relationships with. Then it’s “poor me, they took advantage of me!”
No, pal. You wanted young 🐱 and when you’re 3x their age, that costs money. Keep it 💯. No 19 year old woman wants someone broke & in their 50s.
Thanks Paul, and sorry for your loss bro John
We must pray for this loving father of twins who still loves his wife & wants2stay2gether. God Bless them with healing, & a loving bond.
John's story is a very, very sad one. He's definitely very fortunate to have met you, Paul.
However, sadly John is barely in survival mode ... sleeping at the beach!!!!!!
Paul its clear this poor guy is needy; the women can see it and they will always clean him out. This guy is on the road to losing, his problems come from within and until he fixes his internal problems there is nothing nobody can do for him that will last long.
Well said Cornell.😂
Generally, people don't need a helping hand when they're doing things right. And yes, maybe John has some woman issues ... don't we all ?
@@kendonahve924 He doesn't have 'women issues' - he is just plain stupid and irresponsible.
@@kendonahve924 To excuse John's extreme issues with women and money with a don't we all have problems with women comment is a bit disingenuous.
That's like looking at a severe alcoholic and saying hey who hasn't ever drank a little too much?
It's not the same thing. John has an extreme problem It's bad enough he put himself in this situation but the most disturbing part is that he said he would do it again. He would build that house again. He has little regrets. He would still get into a relationship with that young girl who us talking to other guys online and lied about having a child because he says she's a good girl. He has learned little to nothing from his ordeal. How do you help someone who can't or won't help themselves? And by help I don't mean get a job or make money. I mean just simply learning his lesson and not making the same mistake again. If I knew someone was managing his money for him and ensuring he spent it on necessities for him and the twins he irresponsibly fathered I would donate. But to give this man money directly would be a waste. I have no faith he would make good decisions with the money. Which is sad to say about a nearly 60 year old man.
@@ariefraiser140 I do see your point of view, but my views are mine. ObviouslyJohn should have done things differently, but here he is, not being able to buy rice, and evidently not in good health. Reports I have seen are that he always was one who worked, not a scammer.Also, to your point about him being willing to do more for his wife ...he has a responsibility to support the twins till they grow up. We aren't being asked to support him for life just accept him as a guy in a spot and give him a boost.
The world is full of people who don't have good judgment, but he's far from his home turf and can't be employed. You do what you want, but if you want to tear apart honest people with shortcomings you got your work cut out for you online. Sorry if I sound harsh, but I've made many, many mistakes in my relations with the opposite sex. I guess the "perfect patrol" could have a lot of fun at my expense as well. Get over yourself and give him a little boost. Paul is managing a small collection to help the parties involved.
Wow John needs to see this woman and family for what she is....take take take and never give. This is the opposite of what I've heard about women in the Philippines. You can learn a lot about a woman by meeting the mother and family.
John is a great guy and you Paul for doing this ...I can relate to him as I have a similar generous personality very sad what happened to him and I agree totally... "there but for the grace of God go I"
When you're lonely and have limited options, it's so easy to get scammed or taken advantage of. Been there. I'm so sorry for all this, John. Hope things are going better by now.
Exactly these Pinays prey upon lonely elderly
There's no fool like an old fool. Another red pill guy gets his younger woman
This dude is far from red pill. He's a child in an old mans body. Real men dont take pills @kateefreeze9216