Sexual Abuse Victim interview-J.J.
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- Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of J.J., a victim of sexual abuse when he was a child.
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I FINALLY GET WHAT YOU WERE SAYING MARK,the correlation from severe child abuse and seeking out similar situations as adults for comfort and similarity. Wow the childhood is so very important.....💕
Exactly, childhood is *extremely* important...its all about the raising
@@wesleyalan9179 absolutely, I agree 100 percent.
Freud told us this 100 years ago. People have really forgotten what he was about. I would recommend reading psychoanalytic theory, its all there. There are also few people in youtube, like Don Carveth or Dr. Kavaler-Adler. You can benefit immensely from understanding how your childhood controls your present.
People never appreciated Fred Rogers for what he did for children.
@@Nobody-Nowhere correct, I've studied Freud
"So many broken children living in grown bodies mimicking adult lives"
Damn that hits 😢
@@Kimikosnoh
Way to many times
the thing that hits the most its also the saddest thruth
@@Kimikosnoh It really did
Yes it did.
Can't get over it.
There’s a special place in hell for people who abuse children. 🤬
It's going to be over crowded too 💯
I got 20 yard long Gators for his ass but they wouldn't let me have him, damn!
Hell does not exists. You get justise by changing the world into more equal socialistic form. Not by escaping to fantasies. Child abusers were mostly abused themselves.
You need to eradicate exploitation and poverty on all fronts.
@@Nobody-Nowhere Well said!
@@Nobody-Nowhere stfu you commie pos!
My dad was abused as a child. He died 28 years ago. He was the saddest person I have ever met. I love you daddy I hope you're finally in a better place💙
So sorry about that :(.
He loves you too.
Sorry to hear that.
mine, too. he’s been gone 20 years now.
What an intelligent well spoken man. What a damn shame that he was not given the love and opportunities that he deserved.
Yet he managed to keep a positive core to his being throughout this.
Is breathtakingly beautiful also.
16watch/ Very well said.
Lot of damaged people walking around.. Children of abuse never feel like they belong.. I know..this for sure.. You never feel fully connected to others.. It's a lonely way to live. If..you grow - up being abused as, a child...how ..can you trust anyone .?? . Adults are supposed to protect you.. The bond of trust gets broken & your never the same.. I believe it's possible.. .to fix yourself ..but..it's damn hard. Childhood trauma goes on forever.. . It truly colors the way you see yourself & the world.
@Noir Path some people aren't well spoken
@Noir Path well, me in the past, and alot of other people
I find his photograph particularly stunning. He looks like an innocent child and an older, weathered man at the same time. I pray that his soul can one day find the peace it deserves.
Amen.🙏
I saw the same thing. Beautiful.
Inshallah🙏🏽
Frozen in time
Agreed , and wonderfully worded. You hit the nail on the head with everything you said.
The adults failed him growing up. It's just sad.. Pisses me off.
Its very common in that demographic. Mental health is big problem in the USA.
I know you will be a better parent
This is one of thousands of reasons I wonder - where is God ?
@@kerrazee 👏 I AGREE👏.
Then the cycle continued he didn't have parental skills because he never learned them, his daughter suffered the same thing & he couldn't deal with it. So the cycle continues.
I teared up instantly when he said his aunt caught the abuse in the act & didn't do anything! My heart breaks for him. I hope his life turns around & he gets peace of mind!
Right. So sad, sick, and shameful.
The grandfather more then likely did it to the aunt and his dad
@@oneway5006 damn, I didn't even consider that. You might be right. Shit.
@@oneway5006 I instantly thought the same thing! I believe that
Multigenerational incest and abuse. 😭😭😭
This is why the videos on sex offenders garner so much hate. Predators preying on innocents . The often irreversible damage child abuse causes. He articulated the results so well. So many lost children becoming lost adults.
Yet he still has hope. Bless him. Yet he did NOT become a predator . Imagine that! Wow he never told this whole story before. The power of SWU. " your story is incredible. You didnt deserve any of it. Noone does. "
"This is why the video's on sex offenders garner so much hate"
Yes, but this interview could have been an interview with a sex offender, too. So if we all want to be safe, we better let everybody speak without yelling through it! Giving hate is the same thing as sweeping things under the rug, and that's a perfect way to let disfunction fester more.
@@thematriarchy2075 I dont disagree with this at all. Just making an observation . Certainly not condoning hateful comments and death wishes. Making hateful comments accomplishes nothing.
@@newfieponygal1023 I know you don't disagree, i just wanted to point something out😘
@@thematriarchy2075 you sure spend a lot of time on this channel defending abusers
is that a psychological thing or something?
JJ instantly is one of my favorites. He’s such a gentle pure, broken soul. Mark, thank you for reassuring him that he didn’t deserve what happened to him as a child. I could see in his eyes how those words permeated his mind and how he views himself. He has all the potential in the world! Please do an update.
Very intelligent man, well spoken!
Clean cut, caring ❤
Good man!
I agree. What a wonderful man.
Me too !
Yes, me too. I really enjoyed JJ.
me too
6 minutes in and I just wanna hug him 😔 poor bloke what he had to endure.
Me 👩 to poor 😰😥😪😭😢😓 man
Same. He never even had a chance. 🥺😔
@@andreac37 Right 😰😥😪😭😢😓
Those horrible grandparents !!
@@blazefairchild465 Excalty 😰😥😪😭😢😓
I like this guy. Articulate, self aware, honest and resilient. Best of luck J.J
Me too, why are his pupils red at 06:30
Millions of boys are just like you JJ! You are so Brave to share! This never should have happened!
Millions,,ok
@@user-ly2po2ph7s You don't understand
I’m glad this is talked about no matter how uncomfortable it is people need to know the affects this has on people. Kids don’t forget these things
That’s what I wish...that these abusers who think, “they won’t remember,” would have to hear all these stories. They need to realize they are hurting traumatizing people for life. I wish they also knew how we perceived what they did, when we were kids. (Me and the speaker and whomever...). Whereas the abuser may feel sex is natural, it’s not natural at all to little kids who aren’t mentally or physically ready for that at all. To children, that’s disgusting and disturbing. For the ones who do learn what it’s about, it’s even worse, because they feel confused and can be talked into believing it’s their fault.
My condolences to ANYONE traumatized by a family member at an early age... dealing with traumas from complete strangers is anyone’s biggest fear.. but growing up wondering about your own family and not feeling safe at home has to be a whole different beast.
So well said. Must of been so horrific. This guy is such a nice person too even after suffering so much.
Yes.💔😢
It definitely is
It is, leaves you with serious trust issues....
Love y’all 💕
I’m not even 2 minutes into this video and had to press stop. Child abuse burns me up 😡
I'm glad Mark sheds light on how young males are sexually abused as well, but I feel like you, this kind of crap is beyond sickening...
@@modest8782 I’ll have to continue watching. Thanks
Me too smh 😡
This is why I can't trust sending my 7yr old to places...she gets so upset with me cause she doesn't understand what evil lies in this world. I'm working on trusting she'll be ok
@@Novakaine2018 EXACTLY!!! She's still a baby, hopefully she'll understand when older...
“I still have hope”
That was powerful.
May he find the peace he needs within himself. God bless.
The
Yes, I wish him peace.💟
God has already tormented him with his cruel blessings.
@@Dionas000 just shut up please
@@warriorman1693 why?
What a gentle, sweet, intelligent and thoughtful man. Such a shame the world was unkind to him, he truly deserves much better. There is still so much potential to his life.
Amen!💖
This is why I was so overprotective of my son. To the point that I probably smothered and spoiled him a little. My greatest fear was him being molested by someone. I vowed to do life in prison if someone ever did that to him.
Same 😫. Mine is 5. Is yours an adult now?
I'm right there with you. Daddy don't play that.
I remember thinking, oh I can go to my dad to talk about what happened to me, and boy was I wrong. He goes, yeah it happened to me all nonchalant. Like, so? I’m over it. Your turn. And, was like✌🏽
Is that because you had something horrible done to you?
I have two other kids I can't leave but I feel that I feel IT in my soul
I feel like deep down his grandma knew his grandfather was fixated on him 👀 and in some sort of warped way was jealous of him. It’s no telling how his grandfather spoke about him when he wasn’t around. Thank you for sharing your story!
I was thinking that too. First time I heard about something so twisted as that was the movie Precious
Evil knows no bounds.
There are some sickkkkkkkk people in this world. My heart hurts for him.
My heart hurts for him too. I think he is a good person. Wishing he finds someone who loves him now. He is loveable and deserves happiness.
It has to be so much harder when the predator is a family member, someone who was supposed to be the protector of a young child.
Sick sick sick ppl!!! I hate it
Same
Realizing after watching more and more of the videos posted on this channel that children being molested by family members is way more common than I could even imagine. We are always taught to watch our children around strangers and yet it’s many of the ones under the same roof as them who are the real predators. So sad 😞
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Yes, usually it is family members 💔
@@joolzg1936 or the mother's boyfriend or new husband. Even neighbors. It's almost always somebody known to the victim(s).
@@ms.sanchez3924 yea but don't forget uncle's and brothers
@@PassportBrosAndBlondeManWeaves oh hell no I didn't forget that but if you read the last sentence it says anyone known to the family and that includes siblings and even GRANDPARENTS. Not even females can be trusted because I learned of someone who was 13 at the time was made to have sex with his older sister. Can't put anything past anyone, especially those that work in close proximity to children.
What a beautiful soul to be able to be so vulnerable and honest about his past. It’s so unfair for him that “it’s just the way life was”.
There is always the possibility to turn the world into more fair direction. Socialism is always an option, people just refuse it because they are too narcissistic.
@@Nobody-Nowhere unfortunately the people who can solve the problem don’t see that it’s a problem because it doesn’t interfere with their life in any way. They are so far removed from the reality of what most of America has to deal with that they are quick to dismiss that those people “just don’t work hard enough”. Which is certainly not the case.
@@kelseawelsea1995 Often they have buried their own trauma and have become stone hearted.😢
Right?? I've never seen such brave men on these videos.
@@cynthiashaw9668 They surely are brave.❤
Sexual abuse against boys is not spoken of as frequently as against girls .
But it actually happens just as often.
J.J's story hopefully will help some parents to wake up ..
He's a lovely gentleman.
Especially in communities of color. Sad.
Of course, even one child being sexually abused is one too many. But FYI sexual abuse happens FAR more often to girls. According to RAIN: "One in nine girls and 1 in 53 boys under the age of 18 experience sexual abuse or assault at the hands of an adult"
@@cynthialewis8532 it might depend on which study you're looking at? This study that I found, which was published in 2018 (but was a 2010 study, which was updated in 2015), shows that the number of men who have dealt with sexual abuse is much, much higher. Men, especially men from certain cultures, are far less likely to report sexual abuse...but you know that...this study says 1 in 14 men and 1 in 4 women. These statistics make more sense to me...
www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/2015data-brief508.pdf
@@kdaze10 Did you even read the entire article you linked? It literally says 1 and 5 women will be sexually abused during their lifetime and 1 in 14 men will be sexually abused during their lifetime.
In the U.S. 43.6% of women experience some form of sexual violence in their lifetime, 24.8% of men will experience sexual violence in their lifetime.
You say men are more likely to be sexually abused than women, but the article you linked shows the complete opposite of what you stated.
@@cynthialewis8532 men/boys tend to not report their abuse. Please throw those raggedy stats away
His aunt saw him being sexually abused by his grandfather and did nothing! I hate humans! I pray this man finds peace and healing. 🙏🏾
Why? Why? Why?
Probably b/c the same thing had been done to her. I doubt JJ was the only victim of his grandfather.
@@DevonahBlackwellT.I. That is still no excuse to let it go on!
@@DevonahBlackwellT.I. more reason she should have came to rescue her dear nephew. She's evil for not stopping that.
@@edifymytemple black people have been conditioned to ignore each other be abused by others for a really long time and I don't think I even have to specify where it started or at least where the conditioning comes from
“It’s like I don’t even wanna open my eyes and look at what I’m going through in life” that hit hard for me. That’s definitely depression and it sucks that he has lived his WHOLE life like this... so sad omg
What a beautiful strong soul this gentlemen is! I believe every time a male speaks out about sexual abuse he endured, he is helping to prevent someone else to live a life of shame.
Yes!
100% yes! JJs bravery to talk on here could save so many other men and boys. What a good soul he has.
@@AmyBumble 😊💖
for someone who's never had counselling, nor help with depression/anxiety he is incredibly insightful, forgiving and cognizant of all the issues that have got him this far. I honestly believe good things will come his way. He has the hope and drive and the desire to help. I wish him all the best
JJ, you are NOT the things that happened to you. You are a beautiful person who deserves love. The awfulness that was done to you was never your fault and you never deserved it. I hope you get some help and learn to love yourself. You definitely do deserve that. Take care gentle heart.
Amen!
I can relate to wanting to sleep your depression away. Only getting out of bed because you have to. That part really took me back to a dark place. That I never want to live again. I can relate to overcoming and understanding. We have completely different stories and the same feelings it’s crazy.
Different stories but the same deepth of pain.😢
Depression and grief affects us all similarly.
I hope this guy gets therapy. I wish him best.
Therapy is good after my rape at 7 yrs old I've been in therapy for 3yrs after a life time it's never goes away!! 🙏 🙏 he's brave he's helping so many with his story
Please ask this man back he’s very intelligent it’s a shame no one cared and sad that he couldn’t express his thoughts and feelings to others but has an understanding as an adult right and the wrong of his situation I find his story interesting
Yes, I'd like to hear his progress! I pray that someone licensed in therapy can give him some sessions pro bono!
Adults are so f***ing disappointing. His childhood though 😩
Agreed,, animals rule
This might be my favorite interview yet. This man is saving lives with his testimony. Your feedback was so awesome, Mark. Some real healing took place there. With his attitude, there's no telling what he can do now! Melissa-Dallas
This 💯💯
He is so self aware and just needs the support and tools to turn his life around and heal from all of the abuse. What if JJ was able to find a low cost therapist in LA at the Open Path Collective organization that is trained in trauma focused therapy like EMDR and knows how to handle childhood sexual abuse and incest. A fundraiser could be started that goes directly to his therapy and a way to get there every week. He still has hope.
Great idea. Mark doesn't have the manpower or time to do this himself. However, you can donate to the gofundme and say it's for J.J.
Hey guys, are you still trying to set up an account for JJ?
I want to know if there is a fund for him as well
Mannn I think JJ is stronger than he claims to be... I could see him being a school counselor or a therapist especially since he went through the mud and how mark lifted him up at the end was so beautiful... I wish people would act like Mark... sometimes all people need to hear is one kind word to change their life
That is the Absolute truth! One kind word.😎💖
Morning Mark and SWU fam...This really saddened me. JJ I'm sorry ur Grandfather wasn't the protector or teacher u needed him to be. I bet he damaged ur father as well. Ur brave, please stay encouraged sir. It was NOT ur fault those adults failed u. 😔
Good morning, Mz Fancy! Yes,you're correct,ma'am💜 its so sad what has happened to this very sweet man..I hope you have a most blessed day!
@@wesleyalan9179 Good morning...Wes the Best! Thank u and I want the same for u. 💙 It's so messed up when adults affect a child's life and it causes confusion within them and their sexuality when they become adults.
@@mzfancy4767 soooo true ,what you said.
Amen.
Good afternoon from Michigan!😊
@@wesleyalan9179 Good afternoon!😊
My heart. What a reflective man. Hope he finds the peace he deserves.
It’s really so sad how our childhoods effect us forever 😢. So much from my childhood plays a roll in my life now. Parents NEED to realize and remember this. Your worth it JJ! What your parents did was not your fault ❤️ You have been thru so much but you are loved and you are strong! You deserve everything life has to offer you ! I hope you can see that one day ! So brave for sharing your story !😊
My god. There will be a judgment day & I HOPE these “parents”, etc are ready. Hearing stories like this, hurt my heart, to the core.
Its crazy how so many peoples lives are ruined from sexual abuse, and yet it happens so often, and so littel spoken about
The thing is when you speak out about it, you are attacked, people dont want to hear about it, it's the worst crime in the world , yet it has the least consequences in the US justice system.
There's a direct correlation between the two.
@@MrThedirtyduo 😢
Especially for men.
Right? I think I need therapy after watching these
I don't know this man but I have an overwhelming urge to hug him and never let go. He reminds me so much of my grandpa with the way he tells a story and his facial expressions and he seems so sweet, intelligent, and well spoken. Ugh I pray for better days ahead for you J.J.
He seems like such a wonderful soul! I hope he finds peace. His grandmother probably didn’t hate him because they left, she knew her husband was a nasty pervert and instead of confronting her husband she took it out on him as a boy.
I love that Mark poured positivity in to him at the end.
100%
Tragic. This man is so intelligent. How well he articulates the pain and hurt he has been through. My heart breaks for him.
What’s the biggest lesson you’ve learned in life?
"To never give up."
That got me too. Ive watched so many people in these videos say that's their biggest lesson
The last segment of the interview was really touching , I don’t think JJ has ever been told that he’s a great guy and didn’t deserve any of what happened to him . You could tell that he really needed to hear that , the shame must be so hard to deal with , I hope he feels a better that he had chance to talk about his story and in some way it was therapeutic, what a thoroughly nice guy
So amazing how self reflected and well spoken he is. What a good soul, God bless him
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I can't imagine how anyone can survive such horrific trauma and try to live a normal life. ( If there is such a thing ) May God Bless this man.
Yes. And how has he made it through life without becoming a violent offender? The sleeping in the garage situation makes me think that.
If there was a god then he watched that little boy being constantly abused and didn’t bother to do anything. If there is a god then he would be the worst enabler ever. Just like all the other people who knew and did nothing.
Thank goodness religion is just an old myth that needs to go so that we can start dealing with the reality of child abuse. So many people just “pray for them” or hope for a nonexistent “blessing” as if that ever helped anyone. It’s another way of not seeing the victims.
@@judyives1832 thanks I'm 21 nd abused not to the extent as this man but the effects sucks
This man effects more than any other person I’ve watched on here so far. Is there a go fund me for him? He needs therapy, he needs to be loved ❤️ and he needs to find he’s daughter and talk to her, it’s never to late. I’m sure that she needs to hear from him. They both need each other’s love. He seems like such a caring man, he deserves so much more out of life.
Hi, there's a general GoFund already, link is in the description box of the video's. You can put his name next to your info and Mark will give your donation to J.J.
😘💕
Even the exucucioner
I hope this confession, speaking the truth, brings JJ more peace and clarity.
JJ, you didn’t deserve this, and for that I am very sorry this happened to you. 😔
Thank you for sharing and I hope this helps you feel better and brings you a new vision because you are worthy. The world needed to know, your family needs to know. You are helping people, you are opening peoples eyes & hearts.
I understand shame is real, I have it too. We just have to work on it everyday.
Beautiful words of encouragement.
Sorry for what you've been through and proud of you for working through it day by day.❤❤❤
JJ is so brutally honest and so articulate. He is extremely intelligent. His story right here in this video is helping others and is making difference. I wish so much happiness and success for him. ✌️💕
It's horrible to be an unwanted child and it affects your whole life and all the decisions you make are usually bad ones.
I understand, I was physically, sexually,and mentally abused as a child... I’m a pretty anxious and scared adult , I’m all jacked up
I was thinking when he talked about his anxiety and depression what common symptoms they must be.
I can only remember back to the age of 5 and that's when my severe anxiety started. I'll be 70 in March and it wasn't until a couple of years ago that I realized that was because I had been sexually abused.
@CoolBreeze. So sorry that happened to you. Wishing you much happiness and love in your life.
I’m so sorry.... I hate sick adults....take away a child sweet spirit....may GOD give you peace
I'm so very sorry for your pain! May God Continue to Bless & Keep you!
♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
It’s a wonder he didn’t go off on a killing on his family... damn just breaks my heart to hear anybody going thru this type of abuse...don’t ever think it was your fault being abuse by anyone... this type of stuff really makes you mad... I wish he had the courage to talk to his mom though
When you think you're doing bad or going through things in life just watch this channel and you'll know just how thankful and grateful you really need to be.
Amen
Mark, I admire and thank you for bringing stories like j.j.'s to our attention. It was evident that it was liberating for him to open his heart and release some pain he suffered....What a great interview! J.j. looks like Morgan freeman!
“Words permit one to cross into the life of another” thank you Mark for being the guardian of this voyage. Without these stories, the words, most of us couldn’t truly imagine the pain of others.
Amen.❤
Mark, I love how tenderly you affirm people and speak life over them! I feel like your work is a form of therapy for people, especially those that feel they can tell their story for the first time and actually be heard ♡
He's so relatable and his ability to put into words what so many have allowed fear to rob them of..very laid back with all the years of drug use his mind is still so sharp...one of my favorites ❤
Makes me want to cry. He is worthy ,as we all are. Wish him the love and peace in this phase of his life 3 fold
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his eyes are so positive. a virtual hug to j.j. Never give up!
I feel humbled to hear this story from JJ while he's alive and well. There is hope. The road is long and hard and worth it.
Notice how he says his family divorced, not his parents.
And he almost said "childhard" instead of "childhood".
I hope sharing this is a relief and path to healing for JJ. He has made it this far.
I totally agree with you 👍 I thought he said "childheart" but yeah, hard fits the bill.
Heres hoping JJ heals 💓
god.. the endless stories of neglect are really starting to get to me :(
This isn’t the fake fabricated reality of Facebook and social media. This is what America actually looks like.
@@IllicitMediaproductions definitely. i've seen many around me affected by this, that's why i love this channel. i wish more people cared
I hope he finds happiness, he deserves it. I'm sure talking about this helps him acknowledge it was Not his fault. Talking about it is therapeutic, he releases some of the negativity. JJ seems like a very conscientious person 💞
Actually for many, every time they recount to they relive it.
I recently just shared my own story with my partner of 7 years. I’ve never had such peace. He doesn’t look at my any different but now he understand why I removed myself from my family. I’m sorry you had to endure this in life but you sound well educated for being on the streets so long.
I'm glad you're no longer alone with your pain. 💖
Hey Samantha. What you've done by telling your partner is one of the bravest things a survivor can do. I hope you know that by doing that, you've made yourself even stronger than you already were. And people like you will help stop the cycle of abuse by removing the taboo of talking about this stuff. I'm proud of you and I'm sure anyone else who reads this is too.
@@AmyBumble Awesome reply!👏👏👏💖
Who's this BJ fella people are on about in the comments
This is like a horrible serial killer's backstory. Poor dude, he seems like a wonderful guy. Sexual abuse is no joke.
Yes! It's a wonder he didn't end up extremely violent!
@@marylougeorge9890 I hope he has been gentle to others. We really don’t know.
@@misoentertained688 True.
What a shitty thing to say, the vast majority of abuse victims don’t hurt anyone.
@@Enzome12. majority of the world’s notorious serial killers came from an abusive/neglectful childhood.
I liked how he said he felt like he belonged in skid row because the ppl were damaged. There is always something somewhat innocent, child-like about those who were abused/molested as children. I cant imagine how confused he grew up. How sad not to know what being loved means because how can you love someone or have a relationship. 😔 I pray for you JJ. I loved hearing your story.
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I think maybe that "something somewhat innocent, child-like" is because of what is called "arrested development" resulting from abuse and neglect.
@@cassiopeiathetortoise115 I think you're right.
The child abuse he experience is so sad and disgusting.. It resulted in him being broken to his very soul. He speaks very intelligently. Wishing Mr. J.J. peace and happiness. God bless !!
So well spoken it really makes me sad his life was stolen from him. I truely pray he finds healing.
Wow, his revelation at the end was everything. Mark, what you do is amazing.
Amen!
This man comes across so well, I am sorry for the way he/you were treated as a child. My heart goes out to you.
"There's no healing about it cuz that's just the way life is." That speaks volumes about this gentleman and our homeless. It breaks my heart. People don't understand and moreover won't take the time to learn. Thank you for sharing your story sir. ❤
He seems like such an insightful, sweet, bright man. What a tragic loss of potential.
He is such a wise well spoken person. He went through so much but is so aware. He is worth much more than what he thinks he is. Very sad.
My father destroyed me. My heart breaks for him
I will pray for you. You are strong and have infinite worth just by being you.
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@@Raapadap 💖
@@overthetopbites2369 💖
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What a sweet man, I know exactly how he feels. God bless you.
I'm sorry, honey.
Sending prayers and love his way. He is worthy of way more.
He's so articulate... I keep seeing this comment. Like, why wouldn't he be?🙄
after this comment, they keep writing the same thing. smmfh
Because describing abuse and trauma is incredibly hard to verbalize. It takes you back
You know why
For some reason, his story hit me hard, there is something so beautiful about him. Thank you so much for sharing your story J.J. I wish you all the best.
I just want to give him a hug 😣 I hope he gets the help he needs & gets the life he deserves!!! 🌷💯
We have to Protect our babies smh
&, sometimes others.
I have watched this in two sessions and all day I was thinking about poor JJ..... please please don’t be ashamed JJ.... you HAVE ZERO reasons to be ashamed. You are way stronger then you even realize. For you to not even tell your Mom is so heartbreaking because she probably would have made it known and possibly taken you away from this.... if she was even capable. I hope you feel a sense of relief from your talk with Mark. There are a lot of us who will keep you in our prayers. God Bless you !! You seem like such a sincere and loving person. Please try to get clean and get yourself a job so you can show yourself that you are worthy.... because you are. Bless you.
I so want someone to come along and invest themselves into this man's life. He is so intelligent, articulate, well-spoken, and has a certain dignified air about him. He could be a motivational speaker talking to people about how to overcome.
I agree with everything Mark said at the end of the interview! He summed it up perfectly. " JJ, you deserve everything that life has to offer. And I hope it comes your way."
Abuse... sexual abuse... prevents healthy development (emotional, mental, sexual, etc) in children. The adults in his family truly failed him. It’s not surprising he has found a community in those from Skid row where people have similar wounds and stories. We all want and need a sense of belonging as social creatures. Even if he sought therapy and healed, he may still choose to stay on the streets. His insight is beautiful and you can tell he has unpacked a lot of his childhood. Good luck to this man.
Exactly what Mark's been showing us.💔😢
Oh wow JJ, I can tell you have put a lot of thought on your life, emotions, everything. Because even tho you feel lost, you express yourself so well and are very self-aware. I would love to listen more about you.
Yes. I hope he will be back.
Amen. I hope we will get to hear more from J.J.
He is just so well spoken. He is speaking all the truth.
His story is heartbreaking. What an amazing man. I am soooo upset that he had to deal with so many people that let him down and didn't protect him. A shame. Mark, please follow up work this gentleman... he can come thrive this work resources if he really tries
So so so smart. Your words, your trauma, your insight- remind me so much of my mom’s. She not homeless right now, but in another unstable, abusive, codependent relationship. I’m trying to help her to help herself, from social programs, but the familiarity of worthlessness and instability is so strong, that it only lasts a short while. You’re almost the exact same age too. I wish you all the good there is, kind person, and that you’ll feel ready to accept the change, even though the process is friggin hard. I really hope there’s the help of a social worker that clicks with your needs.
What hurts the most about this is that you can see he wants help. He tells you he wants help. He doesn't want to give up on life. It all starts with childhood. Please be kind and compassionate to children, it can go a long way.
The strenght this man has... to not only survive but talk about all this so openly. Respect!
with everything you've been through JJ, you still shine like a KING!! Blessings to you!
Thank you for sharing. This was difficult to watch but I hope others can learn from this and become more aware. My fiance experienced this growing up and it affected his life forever. He suffered and could not find peace. He didn't seek help until he was 41 but sadly, I lost him last year. I think others need to understand that this affects someone's life forever and the people around that person as well. Awareness and prevention is so important. We need to protect our children. I appreciate JJ's strength and bravery for sharing his story. I love how he said "not to give up". I hope he finds love and peace.
Thank you for sharing~so sorry for your loss.
@@istateyourname4710 Thank you, I appreciate it. ♥️
@@nurseanastasialiberty Hey! I just now see your comment. Much love to you, and i am sorry for your loss. Remember that they are never gone, memories that make us smile is like a kiss on the cheek and a warm hug from them. He wants you to not be sad.
@@thematriarchy2075 Thank you, Bis. Yes, it's been hard for me. I miss him every day and I know that my heart will go on. Much love to you also! ♥️
@@nurseanastasialibertyIt's hard. I wish you healing 💛
It takes a lot of strength and courage to speak out and talk about childhood trauma. Especially for a man, he was very brave and now he’s telling his story. This is the reason why I stopped being so judgmental towards homeless people, you just never know what life had thrown at them. Much love to that man. And respect ✊🏼
Amen.😊💖
Sir thank you for sharing your story...I hope you find a new sense of freedom and a release from your past.
I too was sexually abused as a child by my two oldest brothers. As an adult I told my family and my two abusers that if they didn’t want anyone to know then they shouldn’t have touch me, because the moment they touched me it became my story and I can and will tell whomever I want. Until we are empowered to stand up and identify our abusers, child sexual abuse won’t stop. I hope now that you have found the strength to tell your story, you will continue to have the opportunity to share your strength. I believe your story will help others find their own voices and in turn healing. Thank you again and God bless 🙏🏻
He is very articulate in expressing his negative background. So glad he put this out there. So sincere also. If he needs someone to talk to I would be willing to do so Mark If u want to call me just msg me here and I will give u my number. Sincerely, Lara here in so California.
Beautiful! Email Mark, please.
soft_white_underbelly@yahoo.com
Yes, email Mark.
@@marylougeorge9890 Hi Mary Lou! Yes, i would love it for J.J. to have somebody to talk with other than Mark. The more we talk/share the more change for healing.
@@thematriarchy2075 True!😊😘
@@marylougeorge9890 😘🐕🐕
Sexual abuse ruins so many lives! As a child you're ashamed you always blame yourself you begin to hate who you're ... Sexual predators need to face the same consequences as a murderer because they take these kids lives! They will never be the same.
I feel so sad for him. The people that were supposed to love and protect him, damaged him for their own selfish gratification. Praying for you J.J , and yes, you ARE worthy! Keep your head up, good man. 🙏🏽🙏🏽💗
I wish I could just hug him and show him what a loving family should be like 🥺 these stories are so common. Young kids being molested by family members 😢 child molesters need the death penalty. Bless him 💕
I look into these eyes and I see that hurt, sad, broken little boy that just needed a warm embrace and the soulful comfort of love.
God bless you JJ...we feel your pain...we are rooting for you out here💙