Currently working on this now with my 20 year old daughter. It's amazing how far we realized the trauma goes back. Keep asking the uncomfortable questions, in the end it will only benefit the generations to come.
My father (a Vietnam veteran with severe PTSD who was not quite abusive) was a child of a "harsh disciplinarian" of the South (we would call abusive today), who was also a WWII shell-shocked war veteran.... who was also raised by a "harsher disciplinarian" who was a WWI veteran. And the pattern continued, sort of. My point is that I see it in my own family. This isn't the only intergenerational trauma that I see in my family, but I can also see how cousins were affected given the trauma, or lack thereof, from their other parent.
If you respect your own emotions and regard them with affection and a lack of judgment, and if you persist in allowing yourself to feel those emotions and to let them move ever deeper, you shall find that the gift begins to bear fruit as you feel yourself becoming more spacious within, more responsive to the deeper emotions. You will find that you are an alchemist turning disharmony into harmony, fear into love, darkness into light. It is a natural process and it begins with the disharmony, with the darkness. Such are the ways of spirit. And that is why we say that things are perfect at all times, although they may be uncomfortable. Do not cringe away from your suffering, but rather cradle yourself as you endure through the natural process of the alchemy of the transforming energy, of the love in your open heart. - Q'uo Law of One
Great talk. Unfortunately, many people don't have access to trauma informed therapists (especially one who has properly done their own work) and often insurance doesn't cover them, so even if someone is more than willing to do the work, the resources are unavailable.
In my own journey, I've listened to Gabor Mate' videos on youtube, have read the books: "The Body Keeps the Score" and "The Boy who was Raised as a Dog". One of my friends wrote a workbook "The Intergenerational Trauma Workbook" that I think is helpful. @yootoob1001001
Recognizing it in yourself is very therapeutic. It opens doors to talk to others with similar circumstances. There is a lot of therapy to explore that doesn't cost like going to a therapist. It is often slower than going to see a therapist, but sometimes it's not necessary to see a therapist.... sometimes it is, though, so find a way of its truly needed, of course. (Many places have resources for aid if you truly need it at that level. You just might have to do some digging).
Dynamic, inspirational and insightful public speaker. Personally, a fantastic psychiatrist who offers understanding counsel and who truly cares about the whole person not just about doling out medication. I trust her completely.
50 years ago I researched my family system lineages going back to the mid 1800s and wrote a 25 page document including family system diagrams and narrative information. My purpose was both personal as well as for family members. It's easier to do this kind of research today with all the genetic services available and by keeping connected as much as possible with the many branches of our family trees. I've found many interesting 'skeletons.'
she says what needs to be done over and over and over and over. Recover from trauma. She doesnt offer any meaningful ways to do so. Certainly not with any depth.
@@nathanhill8448 From my experience? It's just by noticing things about yourself that you've otherwise been struggling with but have no other means of explanation. It's a process of asking questions between siblings and parents to Really find out what's going on with yourself And it's the Only start that i know of to a Journey that we all must be aware of And take to start figuring out Who we are - If you Want.
The how couldn't fit in the time available other than the 3 bullet points at the end. Important if you have trauma to see expert help. Let me know if there's anything i can do to help you find it.
In my own journey, I've listened to Gabor Mate' videos on youtube, have read the books: "The Body Keeps the Score" and "The Boy who was Raised as a Dog". One of my friends wrote a workbook "The Intergenerational Trauma Workbook" that I think is helpful. It's surprisingly difficult to get it all in in 18 min of a TEDtalk.@@nathanhill8448
Currently working on this now with my 20 year old daughter. It's amazing how far we realized the trauma goes back.
Keep asking the uncomfortable questions, in the end it will only benefit the generations to come.
My father (a Vietnam veteran with severe PTSD who was not quite abusive) was a child of a "harsh disciplinarian" of the South (we would call abusive today), who was also a WWII shell-shocked war veteran.... who was also raised by a "harsher disciplinarian" who was a WWI veteran. And the pattern continued, sort of. My point is that I see it in my own family. This isn't the only intergenerational trauma that I see in my family, but I can also see how cousins were affected given the trauma, or lack thereof, from their other parent.
If you respect your own emotions and regard them with affection and a lack of judgment, and if you persist in allowing yourself to feel those emotions and to let them move ever deeper, you shall find that the gift begins to bear fruit as you feel yourself becoming more spacious within, more responsive to the deeper emotions. You will find that you are an alchemist turning disharmony into harmony, fear into love, darkness into light. It is a natural process and it begins with the disharmony, with the darkness. Such are the ways of spirit.
And that is why we say that things are perfect at all times, although they may be uncomfortable. Do not cringe away from your suffering, but rather cradle yourself as you endure through the natural process of the alchemy of the transforming energy, of the love in your open heart. - Q'uo
Law of One
Needed to read this. Thank you.
Omg I need this thank you
It's not about and never has been about what you're eating;
rather it's all about what's eating you.
💯👍
Great talk. Unfortunately, many people don't have access to trauma informed therapists (especially one who has properly done their own work) and often insurance doesn't cover them, so even if someone is more than willing to do the work, the resources are unavailable.
Richard Grannon & also Gabor Maté have been wonderful resources for me.
In my own journey, I've listened to Gabor Mate' videos on youtube, have read the books: "The Body Keeps the Score" and "The Boy who was Raised as a Dog". One of my friends wrote a workbook "The Intergenerational Trauma Workbook" that I think is helpful. @yootoob1001001
Recognizing it in yourself is very therapeutic. It opens doors to talk to others with similar circumstances. There is a lot of therapy to explore that doesn't cost like going to a therapist. It is often slower than going to see a therapist, but sometimes it's not necessary to see a therapist.... sometimes it is, though, so find a way of its truly needed, of course. (Many places have resources for aid if you truly need it at that level. You just might have to do some digging).
Dynamic, inspirational and insightful public speaker.
Personally, a fantastic psychiatrist who offers understanding counsel and who truly cares about the whole person not just about doling out medication.
I trust her completely.
Such a powerful presentation Carolyn, and a great reminder to use these gifts to grow and evolve. Thank you!
An amazing and sensible talk I’ve learned a lot
Thanks, so glad.
What a superb talk. You are so passionate. Sorry for all that you've been through, but you've turned it around. 🥰
Thank you so much for this topic. 🙏🏻
This was such an insightful and informational talk. Thank you for your research and dedication to this topic Carolyn!
50 years ago I researched my family system lineages going back to the mid 1800s and wrote a 25 page document including family system diagrams and narrative information. My purpose was both personal as well as for family members. It's easier to do this kind of research today with all the genetic services available and by keeping connected as much as possible with the many branches of our family trees. I've found many interesting 'skeletons.'
The third gen experiencing it as emotional neglect. Yes yes yes
Amazing talk 💜
❤ Billy he sounds like one of my babies!
Amazing!!!!!!!!
"Intergenerational Trauma". I had no doubt whatsoever that it would end up in a TED talks thing.
Pretty good.
❤
The what is here but the how is not.
I'm at 8 minute mark, had to stop for a moment because I'm curious as to What your questioning. Lemme know!
she says what needs to be done over and over and over and over. Recover from trauma. She doesnt offer any meaningful ways to do so. Certainly not with any depth.
@@nathanhill8448 From my experience? It's just by noticing things about yourself that you've otherwise been struggling with but have no other means of explanation. It's a process of asking questions between siblings and parents to Really find out what's going on with yourself And it's the Only start that i know of to a Journey that we all must be aware of And take to start figuring out Who we are - If you Want.
The how couldn't fit in the time available other than the 3 bullet points at the end. Important if you have trauma to see expert help. Let me know if there's anything i can do to help you find it.
In my own journey, I've listened to Gabor Mate' videos on youtube, have read the books: "The Body Keeps the Score" and "The Boy who was Raised as a Dog". One of my friends wrote a workbook "The Intergenerational Trauma Workbook" that I think is helpful. It's surprisingly difficult to get it all in in 18 min of a TEDtalk.@@nathanhill8448