Well done! I've been sober for 3 years. I didn't have a similar story, I just got the worse hangovers and decided to quit. I feel like it's weird why not drinking is so socially weird. I mean its poison you are drinking and people choosing not to drink should be celebrated vs frowned up on.
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I started my sober-curious journey over 4 years ago, quitting drinking several times for 3-6~ months at a time, but it took me a while for something to flip in my brain and recognize this *is* the path for me. My current "streak" is only about 7 weeks, but for some reason that is hard to put my finger on, it just feels different this time. I love to hear stories like this and I appreciate the inspiration you are sharing with your community. Thank you for this!!
Congrats to you on your 8 years! 🎉❤ I am on year 7 myself! Life is more beautiful and more fun to live sober. My mindset changed so much within those 7 years where I now know and feel that life is worth living and experiencing through a clear lens and body. I don’t miss it at all, and hope anyone else struggling with addiction/alcohol figure this out too, and find sobriety in order for them to enjoy and live their lives because it definitely is worth living
What a coincidence, I'm going to a mocktail bar with 2 breastfeeding friends today. They have a reason to avoid wine and I just don't enjoy being tipsy at all. Very happy about the mocktail trend and the fact that a whole alcolhol-free BAR now exists where I live.
Thank you so much for sharing so vulnerably! Substance abuse is something that people I'm close to have struggled with, and it's so encouraging to hear your story. As a fellow international student, going to college in the US definitely put certain experiences into perspective. Your heart radiates through all of your videos and I wish you nothing but the best 💙
Thank you for sharing this part of your wellness journey. The awkwardness of not drinking in social settings is very relatable. People would sometimes assume that being obese meant my tolerance level would be higher than it was. As I got older I started to feel ill after one to two glasses of wine or a cocktail (I blamed being half Asian for my intolerance), so I stopped drinking alcohol. It was weird when people would want to go out for drinks, I didn't want to feel left out, so I'd go out and get juice or a soda. Then they would want to split the bill evenly, I was young and I didn't want to create any animosity, so I'd pay what everyone else paid. This complacency didn't last long, I got over the shame/guilt and asked for a separate check or declared I'm only paying for what I consumed. I did lose a few friends and some became distant b/c I was now the party pooper. This was all a blessing in disguise b/c I found my true friends.
I’m currently walking home and very drunk. Wanting to make a change in my life but it’s very hard, so thank you, this is what I needed I also have diagnosed OCD, many eating disorders over the year & Anxiety/depression. It’s hard out here!
thank you for sharing. this is the most similar story to my own i have found on here. i am so sorry for the trauma you have endured, and so proud and happy to see you thriving
Wow, thank you for sharing. I had pretty much the same experience. I am now 62 and I wish that I could get over the guilt of wasting so much of my life. I quit a long time ago but, the guilt lingers on. Wishing you continued happiness!
I think when people go through so much it makes them more compassionate and understanding towards others and I love that you turned your life around and have been making other peoples lives better! I know you have made a difference in mine! There's this quote from one of my favorite books called The Glass Castle and it goes, "it's the Joshua tree's struggle that gives it its beauty." Thank you for this video and sending you lots of love and strength for when you need it!
i'm so sorry you went through such pain and trauma at an early age remy. thank you for sharing your story with us - you are my favourite content creator and are so inspiring to me and so many others 🤍
❤❤❤ Thank you for reminding us that we don't need to drink to have fun. I feel social anxiety at times and used to rely on alcohol to bring out my fun, extraverted alter ego at parties, but like you said, if you can't have fun without alcohol are you really having fun. It's great that mocktails are becoming more accessible now because I feel like it normalizes sobriety and gives people the option to have fun without getting buzzed.
Ah Thank you!! SO much of your story mirrors mine: with the first memory of OCD at 7, the great family, mental health issues, and so much more. I am recently 2 months sober and I'm so glad I found a content creator I can follow that inspires me to want a better life for myself. I am a dancer and recently had to leave a job that was heavily saturated with the involvement of alcohol and other substances. I am going back and forth between AA currently because I have similar resistance to religion and other parts of it. Again, thank you so so much for sharing. Much love to you and proud of you
Thank you so much for sharing 💕 My boyfriend is almost 9 years sober, I always enjoy learning about other people’s experiences to help me better support/understand him.
Thanks for sharing this Remy. As someone who also struggled with an eating disorder and alcohol abuse when I was young, it’s nice to see an influencer who I can relate to in that regard. It almost took my life and it wasn’t until I almost died that I changed my life around. I am sober now as well but I do have the occasional spritzer or cocktail. But I also struggled with socializing as most people I know drink and always wondered why I didn’t. People don’t openly talk enough about this because most people our age don’t become addicted. They’re social drinkers. But drinking every weekend vs drinking yourself to death every single night are two totally different experiences.
Thank you so much for sharing ❤ I've done/said some stuff in the past when i was drinking or on a substance. I give myself such a hard time about it now. It's isolating. And I'm definitely a people pleasure to make up for it. When you said similar things it made me stop and think wow, I'm not alone in this. That connection made me take a deep breath i didn't know i was holding. Thank you. I'd love to see more about your sobriety journey
Wow. Thank you amber! You’re definitely not alone and I think the fact that we care so much is a testament to how much we’ve changed and grown. It shows heart ❤
Thank you for sharing your story it feels like an older sister talking to me 🥲 I resonate heavily with the societal stigma part as it feels like nowadays even if you wish to not partake people would peer pressure almost guilt trip you into doing it. I’ve learned to readjust who I’d want to surround myself with and it’s definitely still a work in progress. ❤
Loved this, I'm currently battling my alcohol addiction this helped a lot. Just what I needed this morning. Yes please make more videos on this subject, would love to know the resources that helped you! Lots of love ❤
Thank you for sharing. I can relate to your struggles with anxiety/depression as a young adult, battling an eating disorder, and then developing an unhealthy relationship with alcohol that peaked in 2020. I embarked on my own wellness journey in November of 2020 when I slowing started eliminating animal products from my diet, and cutting way back on the amount of alcohol I was consuming. Over time, not drinking became the norm for me. Choosing sobriety and Veganism has definitely made me feel "other" and judged by people who don't fully understand my motivation. They can't comprehend how freeing it has been to focus on what makes me a happier and healthier person instead of always just going along with everyone else's expectations of me. Thank you for your honesty. ❤
It's so to hear your experience, thank you for sharing. However I think your idea of your " getting over substances" is actually just dealing with your feelings for the first time which you were unaccustomed to. You've helped a lot of people by sharing. Thank you ❤❤❤
i really appreciated this video as i'm one week from 21 but toying with the idea of being sober/not drinking. for the past year or so i've only had alcohol maybe 2 or 3 times and it always makes me feel terrible. i drank a lot in high school and my freshman year of college and experimented with substances and then it was fun, got me out of my head, but over time i worried it was a coping mechanism for my anxiety and ocd. alcoholism runs in my family (my grandma died of cirrhosis when i was a toddler and all my dad's siblings struggle with alcohol abuse; my dad decided in his twenties he wouldn't drink because of the family history) and i've always worried about that but especially living in ny and being in my twenties it's so normalized and all my friends call me a grandma because i don't drink. this video really empowered me to be true to myself and stay away from alcohol, thank you for your courage and radical vulnerability, remy!!
Thank you for being so gracious with yourself in sharing your story. It’s our love for matcha that I subscribed to your channel and appreciate your story and the difference you have been making personally and professionally.
After pushing someone I really cared about in my life, I had enough of the way I would abuse alcohol. Thank you for creating this video, I'm hoping to make my own after my one year and reflect! :^)
Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤ I definitely know what you mean when people are surprised that you don't drink - experienced that a lot myself!
Remy, when I first followed you ages ago I was so mean when I first saw your vids but loved your content. That lasted about 2 weeks, I always comment my love for many years now on insta since then because as much as I didn’t want to admit it but you were my wake up call.
Congratulations beautiful Remy on being sober for 8 years. I don't drink much alcohol because I don't view it as an essential for myself. Love 🥰 this video Remy and thanks for sharing it and being inspiring. Love 💞 Remy.
Remy, this was a very well thought out and necessary video. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. Much of what you shared is relatable, but no matter how we got to those places, it does haunt us afterward. Seeing the difference happens when you change your environment, as you did. Seeing you healthy and successful, ie, changing your choices in life, is hope to those who aren't there yet. So thank you again. Well done.
So appreciate how genuine and vulnerable you are! Such a real one and it’s so easy to see the beautiful heart you have, despite your hardships. Thank you for sharing your story and being the wonderful content creator you are! ❤
Thanks for sharing you journey💕 I can relate my childhood in Taiwan and Shanghai - international school, clubbing at early age, trying things, isolation… This is so helpful and inspiration💞
I'm coming up on 4 years of sobriety. Admittedly, I had about 30 years of sobriety before around 14 years of "exploring" and AA definitely isn't for me either. You're definitely correct about living more cleanly being tied to being more sensitive to things as well; hence why a lot of spiritual traditions and meditation practices also require sobriety as a foundation to build upon more esoteric trainings.
Yikes. How could your parents not know what was going on with you throughout high school?? I’m sorry that your parents weren’t there to protect you or there for you to confide in.
It’s not like that ☺️ as I mentioned it had nothing to do with them, it was more the shame that most addicts experience that cause them to keep it to themselves.
AA is not religious. What they do is refer giving control and lower over to something other then you. The term god is used as there are far too many words to use as possibilities for what works for you. I wish this stigma would go away as so many people are afraid of it! Put snojthermeord in for god and go from there.
If you look into the history of AA, the origin is religious. It's not a stigma, saying the lord's prayer at the end of a meeting is not for everyone. As I said though, it's a great program and I firmly believe in a lot of the program! Helps so many.
Jesus is the only one that can give us true peace and freedom from those spiritual bondages. I've truly learned this over the last year. I hope you consider getting to know him as your Lord and savior some day. I'm glad you have been able to get through the process and are still sober. I relate to you in many ways with being introverted and having social anxiety in the past. I only drank once when i was 21 and decided it was not for me. Ive always been on the end of where i have to say I dont drink and get that awkward response from some people. Ive enjoyed your channel for the vegan content. I like when you did those color challenges. I hope you continue to find peace in your journey. God bless you.
Well done! I've been sober for 3 years. I didn't have a similar story, I just got the worse hangovers and decided to quit. I feel like it's weird why not drinking is so socially weird. I mean its poison you are drinking and people choosing not to drink should be celebrated vs frowned up on.
Thank you for this video. I feel like not many people talk about sobriety and usually people assume everyone drinks alcohol.
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I started my sober-curious journey over 4 years ago, quitting drinking several times for 3-6~ months at a time, but it took me a while for something to flip in my brain and recognize this *is* the path for me. My current "streak" is only about 7 weeks, but for some reason that is hard to put my finger on, it just feels different this time.
I love to hear stories like this and I appreciate the inspiration you are sharing with your community. Thank you for this!!
Congrats to you on your 8 years! 🎉❤ I am on year 7 myself! Life is more beautiful and more fun to live sober. My mindset changed so much within those 7 years where I now know and feel that life is worth living and experiencing through a clear lens and body. I don’t miss it at all, and hope anyone else struggling with addiction/alcohol figure this out too, and find sobriety in order for them to enjoy and live their lives because it definitely is worth living
What a coincidence, I'm going to a mocktail bar with 2 breastfeeding friends today. They have a reason to avoid wine and I just don't enjoy being tipsy at all. Very happy about the mocktail trend and the fact that a whole alcolhol-free BAR now exists where I live.
Thank you so much for sharing so vulnerably! Substance abuse is something that people I'm close to have struggled with, and it's so encouraging to hear your story. As a fellow international student, going to college in the US definitely put certain experiences into perspective. Your heart radiates through all of your videos and I wish you nothing but the best 💙
Thank you 🙏🏼 this was so incredibly kind!
Thank you for sharing this part of your wellness journey. The awkwardness of not drinking in social settings is very relatable. People would sometimes assume that being obese meant my tolerance level would be higher than it was. As I got older I started to feel ill after one to two glasses of wine or a cocktail (I blamed being half Asian for my intolerance), so I stopped drinking alcohol.
It was weird when people would want to go out for drinks, I didn't want to feel left out, so I'd go out and get juice or a soda. Then they would want to split the bill evenly, I was young and I didn't want to create any animosity, so I'd pay what everyone else paid. This complacency didn't last long, I got over the shame/guilt and asked for a separate check or declared I'm only paying for what I consumed.
I did lose a few friends and some became distant b/c I was now the party pooper. This was all a blessing in disguise b/c I found my true friends.
I’m currently walking home and very drunk. Wanting to make a change in my life but it’s very hard, so thank you, this is what I needed
I also have diagnosed OCD, many eating disorders over the year & Anxiety/depression. It’s hard out here!
Big love to you Ivy ❤ I believe in you! Change is so hard but you’re stronger than you think
Sending strength!! ❤❤❤
thank you for sharing. this is the most similar story to my own i have found on here. i am so sorry for the trauma you have endured, and so proud and happy to see you thriving
Wow, thank you for sharing. I had pretty much the same experience. I am now 62 and I wish that I could get over the guilt of wasting so much of my life. I quit a long time ago but, the guilt lingers on.
Wishing you continued happiness!
I think when people go through so much it makes them more compassionate and understanding towards others and I love that you turned your life around and have been making other peoples lives better! I know you have made a difference in mine! There's this quote from one of my favorite books called The Glass Castle and it goes, "it's the Joshua tree's struggle that gives it its beauty." Thank you for this video and sending you lots of love and strength for when you need it!
I love that book!💕
Me too!! :)
Thank you so much for opening up and sharing your story
i'm so sorry you went through such pain and trauma at an early age remy. thank you for sharing your story with us - you are my favourite content creator and are so inspiring to me and so many others 🤍
❤❤❤ Thank you for reminding us that we don't need to drink to have fun. I feel social anxiety at times and used to rely on alcohol to bring out my fun, extraverted alter ego at parties, but like you said, if you can't have fun without alcohol are you really having fun. It's great that mocktails are becoming more accessible now because I feel like it normalizes sobriety and gives people the option to have fun without getting buzzed.
Incredibly inspiring story, congrats on the 8 years! proud of you
This is so timely✨ thank you for sharing. I just began my own journey into sobriety and can already see a huge difference 💚
Immensely proud of you Betty! Keep going ❤
Congrats! Same’
Way to go!
Ah Thank you!! SO much of your story mirrors mine: with the first memory of OCD at 7, the great family, mental health issues, and so much more. I am recently 2 months sober and I'm so glad I found a content creator I can follow that inspires me to want a better life for myself. I am a dancer and recently had to leave a job that was heavily saturated with the involvement of alcohol and other substances. I am going back and forth between AA currently because I have similar resistance to religion and other parts of it. Again, thank you so so much for sharing. Much love to you and proud of you
Thank you so much for sharing 💕 My boyfriend is almost 9 years sober, I always enjoy learning about other people’s experiences to help me better support/understand him.
Thank for your sharing ❤ I’m day 6 sober and your video has really helped Xx
Thanks for sharing this Remy. As someone who also struggled with an eating disorder and alcohol abuse when I was young, it’s nice to see an influencer who I can relate to in that regard. It almost took my life and it wasn’t until I almost died that I changed my life around. I am sober now as well but I do have the occasional spritzer or cocktail. But I also struggled with socializing as most people I know drink and always wondered why I didn’t. People don’t openly talk enough about this because most people our age don’t become addicted. They’re social drinkers. But drinking every weekend vs drinking yourself to death every single night are two totally different experiences.
Thank you so much for sharing ❤ I've done/said some stuff in the past when i was drinking or on a substance. I give myself such a hard time about it now. It's isolating. And I'm definitely a people pleasure to make up for it. When you said similar things it made me stop and think wow, I'm not alone in this. That connection made me take a deep breath i didn't know i was holding. Thank you. I'd love to see more about your sobriety journey
Wow. Thank you amber! You’re definitely not alone and I think the fact that we care so much is a testament to how much we’ve changed and grown. It shows heart ❤
@@Veggiekins Thanks ❤
Thank you for sharing your story it feels like an older sister talking to me 🥲 I resonate heavily with the societal stigma part as it feels like nowadays even if you wish to not partake people would peer pressure almost guilt trip you into doing it. I’ve learned to readjust who I’d want to surround myself with and it’s definitely still a work in progress. ❤
Loved this, I'm currently battling my alcohol addiction this helped a lot. Just what I needed this morning. Yes please make more videos on this subject, would love to know the resources that helped you! Lots of love ❤
Thank you for sharing. I can relate to your struggles with anxiety/depression as a young adult, battling an eating disorder, and then developing an unhealthy relationship with alcohol that peaked in 2020. I embarked on my own wellness journey in November of 2020 when I slowing started eliminating animal products from my diet, and cutting way back on the amount of alcohol I was consuming. Over time, not drinking became the norm for me. Choosing sobriety and Veganism has definitely made me feel "other" and judged by people who don't fully understand my motivation. They can't comprehend how freeing it has been to focus on what makes me a happier and healthier person instead of always just going along with everyone else's expectations of me. Thank you for your honesty. ❤
It's so to hear your experience, thank you for sharing. However I think your idea of your " getting over substances" is actually just dealing with your feelings for the first time which you were unaccustomed to. You've helped a lot of people by sharing. Thank you ❤❤❤
You being you is enough. So yes, protect your peace. I promise that you're already touching the lives of others just by being you. 💫
i really appreciated this video as i'm one week from 21 but toying with the idea of being sober/not drinking. for the past year or so i've only had alcohol maybe 2 or 3 times and it always makes me feel terrible. i drank a lot in high school and my freshman year of college and experimented with substances and then it was fun, got me out of my head, but over time i worried it was a coping mechanism for my anxiety and ocd. alcoholism runs in my family (my grandma died of cirrhosis when i was a toddler and all my dad's siblings struggle with alcohol abuse; my dad decided in his twenties he wouldn't drink because of the family history) and i've always worried about that but especially living in ny and being in my twenties it's so normalized and all my friends call me a grandma because i don't drink. this video really empowered me to be true to myself and stay away from alcohol, thank you for your courage and radical vulnerability, remy!!
Thank you for being so gracious with yourself in sharing your story.
It’s our love for matcha that I subscribed to your channel and appreciate your story and the difference you have been making personally and professionally.
girl, you're so beautiful inside and out.
thank you for sharing your story, loved this video
Beautiful story 💕✨
Wow thank you so much for sharing your inspirational story. I stopped drinking 3 weeks ago after a DUI and I already feel so much better😊
After pushing someone I really cared about in my life, I had enough of the way I would abuse alcohol. Thank you for creating this video, I'm hoping to make my own after my one year and reflect! :^)
Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤ I definitely know what you mean when people are surprised that you don't drink - experienced that a lot myself!
Thank you so much for sharing Remy! I had severe depression in high school and as a teenager as well. I'm so happy you are doing better now!
Thank you ❤🙏🏼 I hope you are too! go us 🎉
Thank you! Yes, I am healthy now and also 4 years completely sober ❤ Yes go us!🎊@@Veggiekins
❤❤❤ I’m glad you’re here in a better place now
Remy, when I first followed you ages ago I was so mean when I first saw your vids but loved your content. That lasted about 2 weeks, I always comment my love for many years now on insta since then because as much as I didn’t want to admit it but you were my wake up call.
Congratulations beautiful Remy on being sober for 8 years. I don't drink much alcohol because I don't view it as an essential for myself. Love 🥰 this video Remy and thanks for sharing it and being inspiring. Love 💞 Remy.
Remy, this was a very well thought out and necessary video. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability. Much of what you shared is relatable, but no matter how we got to those places, it does haunt us afterward. Seeing the difference happens when you change your environment, as you did. Seeing you healthy and successful, ie, changing your choices in life, is hope to those who aren't there yet. So thank you again. Well done.
So appreciate how genuine and vulnerable you are! Such a real one and it’s so easy to see the beautiful heart you have, despite your hardships. Thank you for sharing your story and being the wonderful content creator you are! ❤
I also have OCD, iam so happy to hear your story and how better you are! Thank you for sharing
Thank you camila! Sending you love ❤
Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable story!
thank you for sharing!! 🫶🏻
Thanks for sharing you journey💕
I can relate my childhood in Taiwan and Shanghai - international school, clubbing at early age, trying things, isolation… This is so helpful and inspiration💞
Thank you for sharing your story
Thank you for sharing your story, I really admire you and your work! 💖💖
You go girl 😊
Love this! Thank you so much for sharing! 🩷
Thank you for sharing 💜
so proud of you, thanks for sharing❤ congrats on 8 years ✨
Thank you for sharing so bravely, Remy!
Amen thanks for sharing your testimony
Appreciate you sharing, congratulations on your 8 years. 💕💕
❤thank you for sharing your sobriety journey. ❤
You are amazing
You’re awesome.
I'm coming up on 4 years of sobriety. Admittedly, I had about 30 years of sobriety before around 14 years of "exploring" and AA definitely isn't for me either. You're definitely correct about living more cleanly being tied to being more sensitive to things as well; hence why a lot of spiritual traditions and meditation practices also require sobriety as a foundation to build upon more esoteric trainings.
Congratulations!! What were you addicted to?
I was anorexic for a period of time. People who make comments about other peoples weight are so ignorant.
❤️❤️❤️
Why did your family move so often
You're beautiful.
Yikes. How could your parents not know what was going on with you throughout high school?? I’m sorry that your parents weren’t there to protect you or there for you to confide in.
It’s not like that ☺️ as I mentioned it had nothing to do with them, it was more the shame that most addicts experience that cause them to keep it to themselves.
AA is not religious. What they do is refer giving control and lower over to something other then you. The term god is used as there are far too many words to use as possibilities for what works for you. I wish this stigma would go away as so many people are afraid of it! Put snojthermeord in for god and go from there.
If you look into the history of AA, the origin is religious. It's not a stigma, saying the lord's prayer at the end of a meeting is not for everyone. As I said though, it's a great program and I firmly believe in a lot of the program! Helps so many.
....china.
Jesus is the only one that can give us true peace and freedom from those spiritual bondages. I've truly learned this over the last year. I hope you consider getting to know him as your Lord and savior some day. I'm glad you have been able to get through the process and are still sober. I relate to you in many ways with being introverted and having social anxiety in the past. I only drank once when i was 21 and decided it was not for me. Ive always been on the end of where i have to say I dont drink and get that awkward response from some people. Ive enjoyed your channel for the vegan content. I like when you did those color challenges. I hope you continue to find peace in your journey. God bless you.