When She Leaves You (From A Psychologist)

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  • @Jewel-vh3hu
    @Jewel-vh3hu 5 років тому +1212

    I wish my heart wouldn't get so attached to a person that would just walk out on me

    • @Luis21gameboy
      @Luis21gameboy 4 роки тому +49

      I feel you same here

    • @360undead
      @360undead 4 роки тому +65

      Same. I guess what we need to do is stop investing so much and make them chase and invest in us. Also abundance mindset

    • @motivationlectures7078
      @motivationlectures7078 4 роки тому +8

      Yes dear bro! Same.

    • @ashwindhakshin9528
      @ashwindhakshin9528 4 роки тому +7

      Same here :/

    • @MultiWeen
      @MultiWeen 4 роки тому +31

      You need to stay busy and have an active life that you love, and gives you meaning without her. What ends up hurting the most is when she took up most of your free time and now you have this open hole of time where your just there with your thoughts and feelings. She ends up not only being your romantic interest but also your hobby and gives you direction in your life. You need to have those other things on lock down so she is only and romantic interest. So if you lose her for whatever reason that's all you lose not your hobby, not your direction which you should still be pursuing. Not only that but when you follow this more females start weaseling their way into your life so as she's gone there is another there if you want it.

  • @pablocruz2023
    @pablocruz2023 4 роки тому +540

    If she leaves you to date other people you don’t need them back plain and simple.

  • @humblewolf2474
    @humblewolf2474 6 років тому +675

    Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on

    • @savastian_saul
      @savastian_saul 6 років тому +3

      👏🏿👏🏿🙌🏿💯💯😤👊🏿

    • @deputybluevein93
      @deputybluevein93 6 років тому +30

      In 30 seconds flat when you feel the heat around the corner

    • @Kevin93m3
      @Kevin93m3 6 років тому +3

      +Michael Billones Nice. I was waiting for that Heat reference lol

    • @deputybluevein93
      @deputybluevein93 6 років тому +7

      @Patrick You mean one of greatest line ever produced from one of the greatest film produce, said by one of the greatest actor of all time. Yeah, it's mediocre.

    • @colintheodore8657
      @colintheodore8657 5 років тому +1

      Movie name please i watched it but forgot the name ...

  • @sriramprarmy
    @sriramprarmy 4 роки тому +620

    Hurt is for months..But regret is for lifetime ..Guys remember this..All the best ❤️

    • @cipryan96
      @cipryan96 4 роки тому +1

      Regret about what?

    • @randomnameindeed
      @randomnameindeed 4 роки тому +37

      @@cipryan96 Probably her regretting she broke up with you.

    • @boytino2646
      @boytino2646 3 роки тому +7

      We need to improve so that they will regret

    • @Mermaider
      @Mermaider 3 роки тому

      That's her fucking nickname. Meme!
      Meme, I swear I'll take you back if you don't spit on my face again and slap me again. Fine, wear what you want in front of you cousins. Just don't marry him without knowing him just to piss me off.

    • @dnegel9546
      @dnegel9546 3 роки тому +9

      Months..??
      Me: hurting for years.. still. 😒

  • @markothevrba
    @markothevrba 4 роки тому +176

    Boys, take this from me, never get too attached to someone where you both don't see a future with.
    It's not worth it, leave before you fall for them and if she starts testing, run, it's just an endless downward spiral that never ends, it just gets worse.

    • @fazalhashmii
      @fazalhashmii 2 роки тому

      Best comment !

    • @aeolismons4236
      @aeolismons4236 2 роки тому +3

      Why u here?

    • @gojuryu3
      @gojuryu3 2 роки тому +6

      A woman who’s shit testing you while you both are IN a relationship, is not ready for a relationship. Leave her.

    • @lust4life791
      @lust4life791 2 роки тому +4

      True.. Lol
      She started testing and I stayed and now it has gotten worsen. I should've pulled away earlier.

    • @Matz09
      @Matz09 Рік тому

      She said our relationship can't be fix 💔

  • @gambit_toys6554
    @gambit_toys6554 6 років тому +471

    Not emotionally strong?
    Go up to 100 random women. Then go up to 500.
    You won't be weak for long.

  • @thecanadianwill
    @thecanadianwill 6 років тому +668

    tried this. tried being a man and sitting her down and talking and telling her where I went wrong, apologised, tried to tell her what I didn't like when she does certain things. it blew up in my face. women are pure emotional and you can appeal with reason or logic. essentially they are immature children when it comes to matters of the heart and you cant reason. best thing I ever did was pack up and leave while she was gone. so many times I tried fighting a losing battle. its not worth the degradation of yourself. you need to stand tall and stand up for yourself and end it!

    • @kierangardner990
      @kierangardner990 6 років тому +37

      i literately am going through this right now! :(

    • @VoiceOfThe
      @VoiceOfThe 6 років тому +45

      I’ve just been through it, women are a bloody nightmare!!

    • @VoiceOfThe
      @VoiceOfThe 6 років тому +8

      She broke 13 days of no contact on Saturday, ringing late at night, I missed the call in a panic, picked up a Messenger message straight after that literally floored me...

    • @miscool
      @miscool 6 років тому +3

      can you help me? whats your details/history wiwth your ex how long etc @@VoiceOfThe

    • @VoiceOfThe
      @VoiceOfThe 6 років тому +2

      MW12
      Hi, what’s your story?

  • @imaginationforyou
    @imaginationforyou 4 роки тому +193

    Rule #1 "Never go back to your Ex" period.

    • @7amodie
      @7amodie 4 роки тому +14

      Ur fucking right

    • @Aquientrenos_oficial
      @Aquientrenos_oficial 4 роки тому +3

      Travis scott song! \o/

    • @raytube69
      @raytube69 4 роки тому +13

      Going back to an ex is like stuffing a turd back up your arse. Never never never. Life is lived in forward not reverse.

    • @GS-cg3yn
      @GS-cg3yn 11 місяців тому +1

      “Pride goeth before the fall.”

  • @albertdavis5196
    @albertdavis5196 5 років тому +367

    She left me completly from her life by step by step. Its hard to believe I don't know why still I'm hoping. I'm trying to control myself still i can't. Never love too much you will hurt so much.

    • @Hitman-mn9qg
      @Hitman-mn9qg 5 років тому +51

      Same bro. My girlfriend left me and I am trying to move on. My heart still want her, so its hard for me to forget her.

    • @dhrubapatgiri3986
      @dhrubapatgiri3986 5 років тому +7

      Albert Davis same here bro today 1week i nvr thought

    • @wizGreat
      @wizGreat 5 років тому +2

      BLaZeSTuDioS same here brotha haha be strong and move on

    • @shredhed572
      @shredhed572 5 років тому +16

      Yeah, that step by step stuff is crazy! It's like she was running away in slow motion.

    • @juliosoccerhiguera5425
      @juliosoccerhiguera5425 5 років тому +12

      Hope you guys all stay strong amd reading your replies really helped. Exact same thing am going threw and its killing my lil heart idk what to do but pray for the best and just keep working hard and working on our goals. Be strong men you guys were all great ppl. 🙏👍💪💎❤👨‍💼

  • @777dave
    @777dave 2 роки тому +31

    I love the advice of "Walk away", "No contact" etc. While it has never worked for me (they never did end up coming back), it's the only viable course of action to preserve self-respect and move on. There is no other way to act. But maybe don't make viewers so hopeful about re-attracting her by using "no contact" and walking away.

  • @markburrell2778
    @markburrell2778 6 років тому +785

    If you let one come back you give her a license to run all over you. When they leave make them stay gone. The man is the prize that has to be won not the woman.

    • @ssmyth1835
      @ssmyth1835 6 років тому +26

      mark burrell, that I why you are alone

    • @tagabulodchastityobedience7292
      @tagabulodchastityobedience7292 6 років тому +8

      mark burrell IDIOT 😂🤣😂

    • @markburrell2778
      @markburrell2778 6 років тому +77

      @@tagabulodchastityobedience7292 Idiot with a pocket full of money. No bitching, no moaning, no complaining, no fooling around on me, life is good. The only man that does not have woman problems is a man who has no woman. All a man is to a woman is a paycheck.

    • @markburrell2778
      @markburrell2778 6 років тому +26

      @LU2013Aziz Hallelujah pass the plate the preacher needs a new car !

    • @VengefulMaverick
      @VengefulMaverick 6 років тому +34

      @Patrick True. Women literally have a fuck ton of options for guya at her fingertips. Its like picking fruit at a supermarket. To either fuck or play with for awhile.
      Men have a rough time finding a worthwhile relationship and we do not have that luxury females do. They are extremely hollywoodized and picky.. to the point its unrealistic.
      Its a womans market period.. if a woman is truly into you.. she will be loyal, and come to you.. or will meet on mutual ground and click. Dont chase after women... ever. All it will be is heartache.
      P.S. dating sites are a joke and dont use them. Its worse there.

  • @Erweezy27
    @Erweezy27 4 роки тому +58

    She will get her Karma for what she has put me through. Then if or when she calls me, I will ignore her not trough out of vengeance, but out of self-respect. I am not her doormat. I am better than that. I deserve better than that. I am going to replace her with someone better. But first, I must become the man to whom that person will want to be with.

  • @aviationwingz9402
    @aviationwingz9402 3 роки тому +88

    Remember gentlemen don't give second chances because she'll leave again and above all don't beg her to stay , it's hard for all of us but it's the right thing to do
    Stay strong 💪🏼

  • @AndyGinny1
    @AndyGinny1 4 роки тому +74

    I don’t know why they do it. I’ve had it a few times where they test and pull away so I pull away then boom she’s gone with the guy who she had on the bench waiting. Then a couple of months in to that she realises that the same problems are still there because she’s the problem, then they try and come back! That’s the best part cos you’ve done the work and grown and she’s just tried to fill the void with another man who’s needy as fuck. Then you tell her bye bye

    • @exploringaround9193
      @exploringaround9193 4 роки тому +6

      Absolutely true and they will never learn because they never take the time to process the loss and understand their role in the failed relationship. They will continue in an endless cycle of new relationships that end because their are the problem.

    • @edgar_3686
      @edgar_3686 4 роки тому +1

      Facts💯

  • @steveconquest6684
    @steveconquest6684 6 років тому +93

    The bottom line is DON'T BE A MEAT PUPPET! If you are in a quality relationship then it will NOT be based on emotional control or manipulation over the other partner. After all is said and done, none of us has total control over how the other person feels about us. Relationships, like life, are a gamble. After three marriages, all to american women, I simply choose not to play any more. A single life can be good if approached with a healthy attitude. Cheers, Steve

  • @flamesurfer
    @flamesurfer 4 роки тому +331

    When they pull away, there is always another man in the picture. Don't kid yourselves. The only way to win is to leave her. These are cold facts.

    • @exploringaround9193
      @exploringaround9193 4 роки тому +51

      From personal experience I would say that there is always another guy she wants to try be with. This could be a new guy she met during the breakup or if she moved on fast it could have been a reserve guy she was stringing along for quite sometime while she was still with you

    • @ioeuropaganymedkallisto7204
      @ioeuropaganymedkallisto7204 4 роки тому +59

      Yeaah... No. Personal issues, fading interest, and avoidant attachment style tactics are common reasons as well. It does not have to be another guy and it is an oversimplification of break ups to assume just that every woman who breajs up with you found another guy.

    • @flamesurfer
      @flamesurfer 4 роки тому +10

      @@ioeuropaganymedkallisto7204 this is true. In my case she was constantly messaging a guy on instagram messenger. Sneaky tactic because it doesn't show you as online etc.

    • @ioeuropaganymedkallisto7204
      @ioeuropaganymedkallisto7204 4 роки тому +19

      @@flamesurfer I am not denying the validity of your reason. However, in my case several ex girlfriends wanted just to be alone and not with another guy. And with alone I really mean shutting down and not spending time with anyone in their social circle for several months. Have you ever dated a girl with Asperger syndrome or avoidant attachment style? Such individuals are not pursuing contact for the most time and do break up because they feel smothered or have a childhood trauma were too much intimacy is associated with losing control over oneself. Such people do not break up because they crave someone else. They just want to be alone again where they can feel save and not vulnerable. So one cannot generalize from just personal experiences to an overall rule where women break up just because of another guy. Life is more complicated and has many more aspects. That's all I wanted to say.

    • @exploringaround9193
      @exploringaround9193 4 роки тому +19

      @@ioeuropaganymedkallisto7204 It can happen too, but in the vast majority of cases there are always other guys. Most girls will do anything to avoid the pain of a breakup and will find a new guy to ensure the breakup is not very painful, if at all, for them

  • @multiskillakid
    @multiskillakid 6 років тому +88

    Leaving means that she / he is gone. Being stable and showing strength is only an act of trying to win her back and not a way to deal with whats left.

    • @xdxd525
      @xdxd525 4 роки тому

      Work from understanding point of view not faking these things

    • @BushidoVXX
      @BushidoVXX 2 роки тому +1

      Until you can internalize the lessons, then it’s no longer an act.

    • @kesavdarshan
      @kesavdarshan Рік тому +2

      Winning is the only way to deal

  • @noneofyourbusiness7787
    @noneofyourbusiness7787 6 років тому +58

    I don't want to show that I'm bothered by anything she does but I'm also not overly concerned with trying to attract a girl who gave up on me.

    • @PermanentHigh
      @PermanentHigh 4 роки тому

      Delete all her contact info and delete her from social media

  • @hardremer33
    @hardremer33 3 роки тому +33

    she left me and came back as fast as i showed strength. now i just wonder if i even want somebody that leaves

    • @cipryan96
      @cipryan96 3 роки тому +7

      You don't. She was pumped and dumped

    • @zapphireqvq8954
      @zapphireqvq8954 3 роки тому

      How you showed strength?

    • @hardremer33
      @hardremer33 3 роки тому +6

      @@zapphireqvq8954 by basically not caring that she dumped me

    • @zapphireqvq8954
      @zapphireqvq8954 3 роки тому

      @@hardremer33 did you ignore her messages or sent short replies? My ex said to be friends and I am friends with her but only she msgs first.. How should i act to get her chasing for relationship again?

    • @hardremer33
      @hardremer33 3 роки тому +4

      @@zapphireqvq8954 i did not accept to be friends with her, i dont want a friendship so i rather have nothing. the best advice i can give is to walk away without any anger our frustration. simply focus on your life and if she comes back it is a bonus. girls don't want to be your everything, they simply want to be beside you and support you while you focus on your life. short texts can be seen as immature and passive agressive so i would just be real without being needy.

  • @itsyah
    @itsyah 6 років тому +253

    Once a female brings the relationship to this stage, they should be moved to the "side chick" roster. I'll never see the justice in someone thinking they can just come and go, unless they are just a 'side' of coarse.

  • @R83GB
    @R83GB 4 роки тому +36

    1st every men out there need to know that women are hypergamies. No matter wat if she is with you because your the highest value man in her life at that time.(it is just your turn until bbd(bigger better deal comes along on her life).
    2nd your a man your masculine keep ur standards, you want a women but you dont need her , you need water and food .
    3rd if she go one time ,no matter wat , use that opportunity to grow your self/your work/project( may be your life goal in general speacialy the goals you couldnt achieve while you were with her.)
    4th, your woman was one chance in billions other women out there, go and have good time to meet and get to know other new women , your life is your responsibility if you dont take care of your self no one will.
    So last , dont treat women as the prize ,your life comes always 1st .
    Hope that helped someone not getting depressed over a women .

  • @DanielDouglas555
    @DanielDouglas555 3 роки тому +7

    I’m tired of chasing someone who continues to choose silence and backing away instead of talking

  • @sriharivaila7276
    @sriharivaila7276 6 років тому +81

    if she/he cheats and breaks up with u how can u make that cheater to enter into ur life again it will be toxic u will be ruining ur life .
    never make them to do that.

  • @NoobzNOObz1
    @NoobzNOObz1 4 роки тому +49

    She pull away from me. Months later she said she still love me when I already move on

    • @Vladimir_Paji
      @Vladimir_Paji 3 роки тому +2

      She leave me 1 hour ago, I am crying from 1 hour my tears not stop
      Is she now ur again gf?

    • @EngkuFaiz1999
      @EngkuFaiz1999 3 роки тому

      @@Vladimir_Paji update bro?

    • @Vladimir_Paji
      @Vladimir_Paji 3 роки тому +3

      @@EngkuFaiz1999 what a coincidence she come back after 2 day but today 5 hour ago again she leave me 😭😞

    • @EngkuFaiz1999
      @EngkuFaiz1999 3 роки тому +3

      @@Vladimir_Paji i think no matter what the reason is we shouldn’t go back to our ex lol

    • @Vladimir_Paji
      @Vladimir_Paji 3 роки тому +1

      @@EngkuFaiz1999 yes it's truth

  • @Alswat100
    @Alswat100 5 років тому +170

    I thought I found my soul mate girl.. It's hard for me to forget about her since I loved her the most.

    • @christiancarr8566
      @christiancarr8566 5 років тому +6

      Tell me about it

    • @Don-pk2uy
      @Don-pk2uy 5 років тому +31

      No such thing as a soul mate bro. You'll get on with lots of different women

    • @hakimi1854
      @hakimi1854 4 роки тому +2

      any girl can be your.soul mate if you know how to mould her to become the women u.like..

    • @sirjacko79
      @sirjacko79 4 роки тому +2

      Whenever I hear soul mate or whirlwind romance, I think narcissist.
      If it's too good to be true...

    • @emarr300
      @emarr300 4 роки тому +3

      she brock up with me today im fighting my depression

  • @daddilo2847
    @daddilo2847 4 роки тому +43

    The best way to get over break ups is to never be emotionally attached. If you never surrender your heart, you won't feel pain. It works for me 🤷‍♂️

    • @hillarymcmahon7856
      @hillarymcmahon7856 4 роки тому

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    • @thetarotcottage7262
      @thetarotcottage7262 3 роки тому

      *i pray for the universe grant your heart desire I know of a great man 🇺🇸 that can help you manifest your ex back without any delay. he just help me restore my relationship of 2 years back with law of attraction manifestation last week*

    • @thetarotcottage7262
      @thetarotcottage7262 3 роки тому

      *➕2349159558749⏯*??????????

    • @AntwhaleNearfar
      @AntwhaleNearfar 2 роки тому +1

      That’s chicken 💩

  • @Jerzey55
    @Jerzey55 5 років тому +86

    I agree with the logic and practice of this, but, as a man currently going through this..... I don't want her back. I just want to get over her.

    • @gryeden
      @gryeden 5 років тому +8

      To get over her , get over someone else.

    • @MimMdance
      @MimMdance 5 років тому +6

      Yeah! Many times during the relationship I even wished it was me who left but I didn't have the guts. Now I miss her of course, it hasn't been long, but also wish I could find someone better and easier to live with ... but there is this feeling at the same time that I want her to value what she had with me so bad and just crawl back someday with a better attitude, and then I'll see if it is worth it or if I am in a better place.
      People say just walk away but the memories and the habits ... that stays with you 😟

    • @Tailionis
      @Tailionis 4 роки тому +3

      @@MimMdance I wanted to break up for over a year but I didn't want to make a mistake. She manipulated me and made me think I would regret it. Well after rejecting her one request for money after just giving her money and her threatening break up. I am ready for it. I just don't have the strength to do it myself :(

    • @Jleed989
      @Jleed989 4 роки тому

      Chi Fox I hear you! Same situation

    • @Tailionis
      @Tailionis 4 роки тому

      @@Jleed989 we are still together lol. I wont let her go ever

  • @kimanir1802
    @kimanir1802 6 років тому +88

    I love how red piled the comment section is

  • @NoName-zb1gm
    @NoName-zb1gm 3 роки тому +10

    The good news is when you find the right person, she won't pull away unless you change. You will have an emotionally stable relationship so you'll be happy and won't need validation and she'll be happy and love you for who you are.

    • @jondough3339
      @jondough3339 2 роки тому

      Wrong. All women are gonna pull away at some point. It’s female nature to be indecisive and unsure. It’s the mans job to be the rock that they can always come back to and be a reference point for reassurance and confidence.

    • @marvinwenz1209
      @marvinwenz1209 2 роки тому +1

      indeed man, but it's hard finding someone like this

  • @marloninquirer
    @marloninquirer 5 років тому +13

    when she leaves you for no reason, dump her. she's not worth it. youre worth more than that

    • @gryeden
      @gryeden 5 років тому +10

      It's never because of "no reason" , she will justify it any way she can.

    • @jahalo2038
      @jahalo2038 4 роки тому

      gryeden do you know u belong in the book of wisdom

  • @s3ste414
    @s3ste414 5 років тому +21

    Never go back always foward

  • @boondockpaint
    @boondockpaint 4 роки тому +35

    If someone can walk out of your life easily, let them go! Do not pursue them, definitely dont beg them to stay. You will find someone else who will he more beautiful, inside and out. Use this newfound time to work on yourself and become the best version of yourself!!!

    • @hillarymcmahon7856
      @hillarymcmahon7856 4 роки тому

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    • @d.a.b2374
      @d.a.b2374 2 роки тому

      Not easy

  • @PaulTC97
    @PaulTC97 3 роки тому +10

    She left me cause I was pushing her away slowly with my jealousy and unsolved abandonment issues, being suspicious of her all the time. Luckily we ended in good terms but I need to work on myself and overcome those trust issues. I feel really bad for putting her in that uncomfortable position.

    • @marcus3672
      @marcus3672 2 роки тому +8

      Or she lied and convinced you that you had insecurities and jealousy. Did she ever accused you with that anytime you confronted her with suspicions. Or you genuinely felt it was your fault?

  • @gryeden
    @gryeden 5 років тому +9

    I wasn't a casa nova by any means but when my ex left me for another and I got through my grieving period , I got a real I don't give a fuck attitude and got laid more in 6 months than 6 years before her... I read this somewhere and it rings true "In a relationship , the one who cares least holds the most power."

  • @mystykalmn4434
    @mystykalmn4434 2 роки тому +4

    Stay Strong 💪🏿 Stay Stoic Strength 💪🏿 🙏🏿 SELF-RESPECT Self-worth SELF-CONTROL Self-worth Self-esteem

  • @xdevonammelia1575
    @xdevonammelia1575 5 років тому +78

    It's been 2 years now after my ex dumped me. I am single I am not going back to her. I wanna move on. But I haven't find any good girl yet. So I given up idea of dating. Its on destiny Now. I won't chase after any bitch anymore. Because every single day is a blessing of god.

    • @ouattaradouyeribessaleli3037
      @ouattaradouyeribessaleli3037 4 роки тому +2

      You dont have to find any other good girl... enjoy your lonely tie and learn from your past relationship

    • @emarr300
      @emarr300 4 роки тому

      she brock up with me today im fighting my depression

  • @jaredbeasley1084
    @jaredbeasley1084 5 років тому +11

    False hope. This is how you get a restraining order. Move on and live your best life. Either they leave you or they come back.

  • @teenchy6835
    @teenchy6835 6 років тому +59

    Well I've had a break up and she left me and it was very hard for me I cried a lot and I found it really hard to have that experience... it happened tonight😭😭

    • @microjenni8560
      @microjenni8560 6 років тому +2

      Same happen wit me 😭but she didn't block me we still talks sometimes, I still miss her. I cried many times N I'm forgetting her by time👌

    • @abhinandanchakravarti
      @abhinandanchakravarti 5 років тому +2

      how do u feel now..after 9 months?

    • @atifrana5470
      @atifrana5470 5 років тому

      Sorry for that bro be strong and move on in life everything will be normal for you soon :)

    • @ioeuropaganymedkallisto7204
      @ioeuropaganymedkallisto7204 4 роки тому +1

      How are you now @Teenchy? Some years have past since your break up.

  • @thundermonkey4249
    @thundermonkey4249 2 роки тому +2

    I dont know why they dont it but what you said is 100% true. They just pull away for absolutely no reason at all. Its crazy.

  • @whatarefriends4
    @whatarefriends4 4 роки тому +15

    Notice the common theme as you watch these videos trying to figure out why your woman is ruining your life. They are disloyal pains in the ass. They are unmanageable. Tom Brady’s supermodel wife gave him an ultimatum basically telling him he wasn’t fulfilling her expectations in the marriage. It doesn’t matter who you are you can’t ever keep her happy for long

    • @7amodie
      @7amodie 4 роки тому +7

      Ur fucking right

  • @ReassuringSmile
    @ReassuringSmile 5 років тому +27

    For majority of guys...you shouldn't be worried about getting her back. You should have the abundance mindset and spin your plates.

  • @videoporfavor
    @videoporfavor 5 років тому +57

    Women want a guy with money, it is the most important thing to them. Gold diggers are on the rise fellas, it's a sad reality.

    • @Tailionis
      @Tailionis 4 роки тому +4

      Its these God damn pop songs. Influencing gold diggers. I just realized my gf was a gold digger after testing her. But she always manipulates me and makes me out to be selfish. Well this time she was unable to. I am fucking done with women.

    • @martincolton32
      @martincolton32 3 роки тому

      Very true

    • @ericwachirawaweru
      @ericwachirawaweru 2 роки тому

      Well you're the one who gat the most realistic point...money first

  • @alphabah6161
    @alphabah6161 5 років тому +3

    I like the way you talk Chris .So Calm , really like listening to you

  • @samwarr940
    @samwarr940 5 років тому +52

    I wish I saw this video sooner....
    I begged and pleaded with her.
    Think she's gone forever now😑😑😑 feel so lost and empty.

    • @SocramZue
      @SocramZue 5 років тому +8

      Same I did the same exact shit. Was my first ever relationship too. 9 years and a daughter. I'm trying to work on myself but after I see her it's like i relapsed. Need mentally prepare myself

    • @SocramZue
      @SocramZue 5 років тому +1

      @Niko Okin thanks man. Yea I did all the donts from these coaching videos. But the comments gave me better advice. To better myself as a man and achieve self happiness. I'm just holding on to the feeling of needing her, but that may be it. Say she did give me a second chance, we'd be back in the same place because we're incompatible. But we'll never know what life throws at us. Now I'm just trying to salvage the friendship so that she won't get mad and put me on child support or keep our kid away from me.

    • @aaronk3788
      @aaronk3788 5 років тому +8

      quit being a little needy beta bitch.. I do not mean to be offensive, I was the same way. Figure out why you have your codependent ways and then grow that back bone and start living life.

    • @oliverallen5324
      @oliverallen5324 5 років тому +14

      Fill your life with new skills, with weightlifting, with travel. Fill the hole in your heart with success.

    • @adrianshaw4639
      @adrianshaw4639 5 років тому +16

      Women love seeing men miserable without them. Just because of that they know they won. Get your balls back fellas and keep your heads up life ain't over

  • @MimMdance
    @MimMdance 5 років тому +7

    So if you don't care for a girl she falls in love with you and if you make her feel special she is repulsed ... Fuck this world man! Seriously. Fuck It!
    What if I have already overreacted and shown my weakness for her? Not only at this moment but during the relationship. My only hope (aside from applying this technique) is that I didn't only show weakness but also huge kindness and appreciation for her like no one or few others did, and that she might remember and value that.

  • @kima2567
    @kima2567 6 років тому +8

    Of all the relationship coaches on UA-cam, you are the BEST!!! And I mean it..keep on keeping on

  • @marshbey
    @marshbey 8 місяців тому +1

    When you all had a house together and financial responsibilities those things don’t wait for her to come back around.

  • @aCleverFishingPun
    @aCleverFishingPun 3 роки тому +3

    The real question is, why would I want to take her back?

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 3 роки тому +1

      Ah, grasshopper. Now you are ready to leave.

  • @alexmotts
    @alexmotts Рік тому +3

    Yall dudes need to wake up. None of them are worth the headache. Either she acts right. Or she can be disposable. Quit simpin. It gets you nowhere but screwed.

  • @praveendm
    @praveendm 6 років тому +147

    One more point you missed is she has found someone else with more bank balance !

    • @tagabulodchastityobedience7292
      @tagabulodchastityobedience7292 6 років тому +33

      Zero Miles if she truly loves you she’s willing to live with you in the cave money has nothing to do with love

    • @happychampion3096
      @happychampion3096 6 років тому +1

      Hahaha ...what an advantage it would be for her..

    • @chicagoboy279
      @chicagoboy279 5 років тому +1

      @@tagabulodchastityobedience7292 lies

    • @zeroimpetuous
      @zeroimpetuous 3 роки тому

      @@tagabulodchastityobedience7292 that's exactly what women usually say at the beginning, but end up finding someone else with money.

    • @tagabulodchastityobedience7292
      @tagabulodchastityobedience7292 3 роки тому

      @@zeroimpetuous money do become an issue when you’re the only one working paying all the bills ( that’s number one ) - ( but number 2 ) Or both of you working but you have a huge house you’re the only one keeping the house clean cooking and serving and he expect you to look like a supermodel while doing all that ( Also while keeping full time job - my case is number two) So I let him go 😂🤣😂 I rather be alone with my animals who actually truly loves me ( even if I look like shit sometimes)

  • @davidnorman2134
    @davidnorman2134 2 роки тому +3

    she laid in bed with me and told me she'd love me till her dying breath, six months later she's married to another guy, WTF kind of love is that? And why do I keep attracting psycho ladies who behave like that?

  • @robertmoore5080
    @robertmoore5080 3 роки тому +15

    Learn to only put one foot into a relationship....
    It took me 42 years to learn this.... best life lesson ever. 😜😇

  • @erickcamacho8984
    @erickcamacho8984 Рік тому +2

    It hurts but i’ll follow your advise

  • @LJayyBeh
    @LJayyBeh 3 роки тому +5

    Indifference is key guys.

  • @user-xg5kv2yp6g
    @user-xg5kv2yp6g 6 років тому +47

    Or she cheated on you and started see a new guy the same day you broke.

    • @superflashshazam1896
      @superflashshazam1896 5 років тому

      Look like my story

    • @Don-pk2uy
      @Don-pk2uy 5 років тому +11

      Never met a loyal woman...other than my mother and even then I'm not sure 🤣

    • @WhiteGhost21
      @WhiteGhost21 5 років тому +8

      she was already seeing him

  • @richardohalloran8329
    @richardohalloran8329 6 років тому +28

    Some women leave and just don't care and your left rummanating in your mind and no matter what you do it doesn't work you can be the best boyfriend or husband they see a nicer sweet in the sweet shop they will take that feelings emotions don't come into it after a while you never existed and your still thinking of them.

  • @winner.8888
    @winner.8888 4 роки тому +1

    If a man shows honesty and trustworthy then there will be no question.

  • @kristijanrodic5643
    @kristijanrodic5643 5 років тому +9

    If you know that she is the right one DON'T GIVE UP FROM HER
    NEVER GIVE UP
    Make her want you again
    Somewhere in her heart she loves u so so much and u need to get that from her heart, show her that u love her and do everything u can to get her back

  • @ralfj.1740
    @ralfj.1740 3 роки тому +2

    This is so true.. I got married, became weak, got divorced. Women don't tolerate weakness in men. Marriage doesn't mean shit.. if you don't handle things correctly she will run off in most cases.

  • @sailasavakalala8660
    @sailasavakalala8660 5 років тому +6

    MGTOW to be brief.....
    Reminds me of what I heard many years ago about handling failure,defeat and disappointment by a coach..."Gentlemen,we've got to be very strong about what happened here tonight and MOVE ON !!!!".

  • @raffaelecorrente1123
    @raffaelecorrente1123 2 роки тому +2

    Sometimes She leaves you and falls in love with another guy. At that point, She will never come back, doesn't matter what u do.

  • @hehkupar7387
    @hehkupar7387 6 років тому +3

    i really love your videos they're really works...and I've like your videos as much as i watch them thanks Chris..😊

  • @jakesanchez3202
    @jakesanchez3202 4 роки тому +1

    Their basically a 5 year old kid in an adult body throwing a tantrum. You need to stand up and don’t worry and put her in the corner until you’re ready to deal with her by walking away.

  • @betrustedandhonest7462
    @betrustedandhonest7462 6 років тому +22

    Anything she does, does not effect me anymore ..

  • @jamesgeorge65
    @jamesgeorge65 5 років тому +6

    It's not a certainty that she will come back to you even if you play everything right. She broke up with you for a reason.

  • @emarr300
    @emarr300 4 роки тому +7

    she brock up with me today im fighting my depression thank you

    • @brunomoreira1706
      @brunomoreira1706 3 роки тому +4

      I Hope you're feeling better by now. Stay strong. Ask for help.

    • @Phoenix1664
      @Phoenix1664 3 роки тому +1

      Listen to Bruno, and good luck.

    • @emarr300
      @emarr300 3 роки тому

      @@brunomoreira1706 thanx bro i'm 99% over it right now. but still not ready yet to get into a new relationship. My feelings are still devastated

    • @emarr300
      @emarr300 3 роки тому

      @@Phoenix1664 thanks bro!

    • @Phoenix1664
      @Phoenix1664 3 роки тому

      @@emarr300 I've been there mate. Dumped by a Spanish girl over 2 years ago. Over it, but do still think about her. I know the feeling. We'll get there.

  • @metfreak100
    @metfreak100 3 роки тому +1

    But what if you're not acting weak but still she loses interest,and actually dates someone else and starts getting serious with that person?

  • @Shashankmk
    @Shashankmk 4 роки тому +3

    I don’t agree with what you say completely. Women get disinterested because they get bored of men easily, when she pulls away she start searching for options. If she misses you, she comes back, but this time you have to deal with the another person whom she had been chatting with in your absence. And if the next time you make a small mistake, boom she’s again gone back into the arms of another man.

  • @genosic1732
    @genosic1732 5 років тому +2

    Thank you for this, just what I needed to hear at the moment. More power! :)

  • @AshishSharma-nm1vt
    @AshishSharma-nm1vt 5 років тому +3

    Love this guys advice. Thanks mate

  • @Someonne_dot_com
    @Someonne_dot_com 9 місяців тому

    Not showing feelings is not strength, its weakness

  • @birdy4696
    @birdy4696 5 років тому +20

    My wife just said she wanted to get divorced, and now she wants to Mary me again!!! Who the heck is Mary??????

  • @goranjankovski45
    @goranjankovski45 2 роки тому +1

    If she leaves dont look back she doesnt deserve you

  • @androidgames-8336
    @androidgames-8336 4 роки тому +3

    My gf left me last 4 days ago the reason was I couldn't pay attention more for her cuz the distance we were in completely different countries she so cruel with me by using words that's my weaknesses I wish she come back again after one year I will not able to keep without her

    • @thetarotcottage7262
      @thetarotcottage7262 3 роки тому

      *i pray for the universe grant your heart desire I know of a great man 🇺🇸 that can help you manifest your ex back without any delay. he just help me restore my relationship of 2 years back with law of attraction manifestation last week*

    • @thetarotcottage7262
      @thetarotcottage7262 3 роки тому

      *➕2349159558749⏯*??????????

  • @nannn647
    @nannn647 4 роки тому +1

    I don’t know what to do anymore.

  • @themechanic99
    @themechanic99 5 років тому +7

    Guys IMO, always have a backup. If she doesn't want you, move on immediately. Date multiple girls at the same time

  • @agee7777
    @agee7777 3 роки тому +1

    if a woman leaves you, she left you full stop! but if you react the right way at some point she might want to come back.

  • @mohamedabucar4416
    @mohamedabucar4416 5 років тому +25

    She WANTS to try diffrent type D.

    • @kking2733
      @kking2733 5 років тому +3

      Mohamed Abucar no cap

  • @user-u2sato01k6s
    @user-u2sato01k6s 4 роки тому +1

    My girlfriend is moving out of the city. Going too far. I'm emotionless right now.

  • @PindarMOD
    @PindarMOD 3 роки тому +3

    Is it worth having a relationship if it's this complicated?

    • @jeremiahpitts6663
      @jeremiahpitts6663 3 роки тому +3

      My girl left me after a few years and turned bi. Its the last heart break i will ever have. Out of all my life she was the best person to me and now she is a jerk to me

  • @Mauriciovargasjr
    @Mauriciovargasjr 13 днів тому

    Solid advice

  • @NbgdStyler63
    @NbgdStyler63 7 років тому +8

    yea what if i leave her first.
    how to get her back?

  • @NoName-zb1gm
    @NoName-zb1gm 10 місяців тому

    I met a woman at work. I've always been a little attracted to her for a few years and I thought I sensed she was starting to be attracted to me. Then we started talking and getting closer for a few months. I asked her out and basically she said no although I still think she might have some attraction to me unless she's using me for attention and validation. I said ok I won't argue with you and I stopped all idle chit-chat.. Didn't say a word to anyone, didn't get upset. I say hello but otherwise I keep my head down. That's how you have to be. Don't let her use you for attention and don't let her see you get upset. Most women are stubborn so I doubt she'll come back but you never know.

  • @betrustedandhonest7462
    @betrustedandhonest7462 6 років тому +8

    Wow, thus is truly 100% accurate after watching this video putting it to practice, my partner has actually said to me that she is sooo surprise how calm I am..

    • @themachine7557
      @themachine7557 6 років тому

      Just yesterday and she doesn't want to see me or reply. That's OK. After watching this video I will practice and see what will happen

    • @themachine7557
      @themachine7557 6 років тому +2

      And thank you too

    • @betrustedandhonest7462
      @betrustedandhonest7462 6 років тому +2

      Just don't stand in her way, let her know either way the relationship goes your fine with that.

    • @coreyholland2944
      @coreyholland2944 6 років тому +2

      if you want to be trusted then be honest p

    • @jahalo2038
      @jahalo2038 4 роки тому

      THE MACHINE now that it’s been a year ...how it go ??

  • @dailycacti5718
    @dailycacti5718 6 років тому

    Just got dumped today and I don’t know if you dated anyone but when a girl/women dumped you that means she’s done

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 3 роки тому

      Not always. But you should be done with her.

  • @Access_UPSC
    @Access_UPSC 6 років тому +5

    If i leave her and be strong and confidence man than she will not come to me because she want to leave me totally....
    What can i do🙏😓 now

  • @SabbirAhmedSibli
    @SabbirAhmedSibli 2 роки тому

    That's true! After my breakup, I studied a lot of scientific journals which shows that you have to remain strong during the breakup time. But I didn't obeyed these fukin rules. I just begged to her return. And as a result, she just left me more terribly. So my opinion is, whatever you are, either she come back or not, please remain strong and trust in you faith. You have nothing to do against your fate. Because, she is a different person with different mind. Mark my words.

  • @EmilySmith-db1zn
    @EmilySmith-db1zn 2 роки тому

    I absolutely enjoyed your show i learned a lot from watching your program . more videos on this topic pls ! moreover my sister was recently talking about herbal aphrodisiacs spanish fly and i wanted to try it from fun and i must say great results

  • @waynelitchkowski2389
    @waynelitchkowski2389 4 роки тому +1

    What if she moved back home 800 miles away without warning in the middle of the night. I'm heart broken

    • @stevemccready6776
      @stevemccready6776 4 роки тому +2

      She did youa favor buddy. Next

    • @stevemccready6776
      @stevemccready6776 4 роки тому

      A womans rejection is Gods protection. Someone better for you is in your future. Focus on that . Your windshield is big and your rearview mirror is small for a reason. I've been there . It hurts now but you will see it's a blessing. I promise. 👍

  • @Ryuikari
    @Ryuikari 4 роки тому +5

    What about people females with anxious fearful avoidant attachment style

  • @philgood1956
    @philgood1956 8 місяців тому

    What if she sleeps out overnight a few times and when approached about addressing the issue, she disappears? Ain't heard from her in over a week.

  • @malcolmandrews2779
    @malcolmandrews2779 5 років тому +6

    If men react the right way, and still do stuff for their women to make them happy after they've been rejected or broken up and they still refuse to give you a chance then they should give up on the women they're in love with forever.

  • @roy3864
    @roy3864 2 роки тому

    Don't give me hope. My fiancee, after staying wiht me for 1 year, told me today, that she is giving up one me. Honesly, it hurts - its way more than that. COnsidering that she was such an integral part of my life, she used to be the center of my life. Today, she said, my world doesn't revolve around you, only - and it hit be so badly - and when i asked her, if you are giving up on me - she said yes. How does it feel? Welcome to my shoes

  • @justbored4762
    @justbored4762 5 років тому +3

    I just broke down when my girlfriend left me

  • @bobmanp8653
    @bobmanp8653 5 років тому +2

    the best thing a friend ever said to me about women was . You wont be the first or last just someone in between.

    • @Ptolemy336VV
      @Ptolemy336VV 4 роки тому +2

      Yeah. I dont like that. I like a woman not to be with 30 relationships. Also these women are pathetic usually. Why? I dated one, who was completely going mad because she had various relationships before that her last ex was horrible to her. And she has emotional baggage that messed up our relationship just because we had 2 confrontations. So whatever. It just happened. but even if she does come back I won't forgive her for being so irresponsible with the relationship.

  • @spectranet6882
    @spectranet6882 6 років тому +12

    I think we all should start a WhatsApp group which goes for both men and women who have similar issues whether it's marriage, going through divorce ,separated, single or ex to get together ...be it any country ...who knows we might meet the real right one . Let me know ...let it start !!! Why stay with someone who has no patience , strength and who does not value you for you and cannot be with you in sickness or health, we do not need good diggers or people who have no real depth and cannot withstand storms of life .

    • @rasheedmorton4464
      @rasheedmorton4464 6 років тому +2

      Spectra Net You're right.

    • @thesexer69heil
      @thesexer69heil 6 років тому

      Let’s do it

    • @John-nb6ix
      @John-nb6ix 5 років тому

      Let's do it.

    • @missmaddie241
      @missmaddie241 5 років тому

      Usually a woman leaves if her man isn't acting right unless she's just a how. 16 yrs in an abusive marriage gave him many many chances. Warned him this day would come but he still didn't get his act together so I left. Women invest more time so why would yt?yhey want to start something new? Sometimes men won't take a look at what could've caused her to leave. Now I know this doesn't apply to all men because there are some good men but majority arent.

    • @jahalo2038
      @jahalo2038 4 роки тому

      Maddie don’t tell me nuh fuckry imagine there was just one mistake one all this time and she get up and leave Kmt something nuh right

  • @arulelisa
    @arulelisa 5 років тому +1

    I don't have much friend, then she came in my life, i cared her the most, but sooner she stopped speaking and fought with me, she got married now and also has boy friends, i couldn't stop thinking of her, please help me what i have to do to forget her(i know impossible) but to atleast stop loving, i couldn't accept any other in my life, thanks

  • @swagswagwoowoo
    @swagswagwoowoo 8 років тому +23

    What if you just break up with her first?

    • @sara78130
      @sara78130 7 років тому

      swagswagwoowoo she never for get u

    • @veeoby3364
      @veeoby3364 6 років тому +1

      swagswagwoowoo Then you're Ffed. Take it from a woman, she will never forgive or forget that you broke up with her. Even if you get back together it will never be the same

    • @fouinylantigua5701
      @fouinylantigua5701 4 роки тому

      Vee Oby oh word

    • @marcus3672
      @marcus3672 2 роки тому

      @@veeoby3364 you are just bluffing here.

  • @briandwight224
    @briandwight224 5 років тому +2

    So, just let her do whatever she wants and that’s okay, she will come back to you and then you can do that over and over until you have had enough and that’s ok

  • @calebcalderon908
    @calebcalderon908 4 роки тому +3

    I didn’t handle things the right way. And because of that I lost the love of my life