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How did he deal with the other guy, being still married to her and her seeing someone else. How was he able to trust her when they moved back in. That is what I'm having a hard time with. I have moved out to give her space, she says she doesn't want a divorce, can't see her life without me, but needs space, and for me to change. She says she is talking with someone and just hanging out, but I think it is emotional affair and having a hard time and being insecure.
@@stevemcgeorge6568 You're clearly new to my videos and philosophy (or have not been paying close attention to the contents). My recommendation - let go of your assumptions that caused the problems in the first place, and be open to learning some things that are new. If you're REALLY serious about getting clarity and results, then apply for the RR program. If you are skeptical of the value that we can bring, keep watching my other client stories that are previously posted, and keep posted in your email for endless more.
@@GeoffreySetiawan Yes, I am new to the videos. Been trying to read tons of books, seeing a therapist and such. How do you apply for the RR program and is there a cost?
@@stevemcgeorge6568 We explain the steps at the end of this video. And yes, we do offer a high ticket program. (If you watch more of my work, you'll know we're miles ahead of any competition, and do warrant a premium). We have enrolled close to 100 therapists in the last year, all of who abandoned the system they have been practicing for 10-20 years to practice mine. Why? Because once their clients join my program, that’s when their lives change…fast. We have celebs, politicians, and business leaders who have spent close to $50,000 looking for therapists, programs, coaches who can help but swear by this program and this program only. If you follow these steps, and keep watching my other client stories, we do outline all the details you need to know. Sorry, I am being intentionally vague - I am trying to vet all the applicants I get, starting with, who wants it badly enough to do their own research. Don't mean to sound pompous, but we do have a full calendar and have to be very selective with the clients we choose. Thanks!
@@stevemcgeorge6568 Like Geoffrey stated @ 54:33 - no one's situation is that unique. Personally I am going through almost the exact same thing you describe above and my wife has indicated to me the same things. My insecurities made me think she was having an emotional affair too. I have signed up for Geoffrey's program and it is awesome. It will help you have the paradigm shifts needed to change yourself and win over your spouse, but it will take work.
I don’t know how you behaved prior to your wife wanting to divorce you but the fact that you want to save your marriage makes you better than what’s out in the dating scene. Lots of people don’t want to make it work. I’m glad you and your wife were able to work things out. Blessings!
56:26 In a true moment of selflessness, Scott admitted, 'I don't want to end the relationship, but I'm okay with it being over. Seeing her happy and having found someone else, I realized I can no longer dictate my life around another person. Very profound, reaching to a this kind of mindset that promotes mutual respect, sets a foundation for more balanced and fulfilling connection whether you decide to be in this relationship or build any new one.
I started watching these vids last summer when my wife asked for a divorce. After watching videos/ masterclass and focusing on self improvement… the day before divorce she said she wanted to try again. Get to the beginning of this year and I made a mistake. I betrayed her trust by complaining about the relationship to a friend (I tried to talk to her but she has battling depression and simply wouldn’t/ couldn’t listen). She’s now 4 weeks away from moving out and I’m suffering from separation anxiety (we have 2 children also). I say all this to say thank you for inspiring me to continue with my journey irrespective of the highs and lows
Hi dicerevo, This is why it is so crucial to make your changes real and permanent. If you truly learn how to turn every conversation from negative into positive then the 2 of you should be able to have this conversation and make each other feel deeply understood while creating safety.
@@Luridmoirai she moved out a month an a half ago. We had a conversation in February and she explained that her mind was made up and she felt she would be happier elsewhere (I’m sugarcoating) but I kept my composure and listen and explained that I wanted her to stay to work on us but I respected her decision. We’re at a place now where we rarely talk. She’s got lawyers involved also which isn’t that surprising because I’m a lawyer. Im just focusing on bettering myself and being the best father I can be. It’s challenging but i have to stay hopeful that we can at least get to a point where we can coparent effectively.
Gonna have my RR interview tomorrow, can’t wait to reinvent myself. The safety explained at the end was what i’ve always been doing. I have always been giving answers and giving solution. I have also been gaslighting to shift blames in arguments. I am really desperate to change myself so that my family members, my friends and my ex to feel more comfortable being around me.
I just had my first Interview with Jason today. I've been watching your videos for over a week now. My fiance separated from me on Nov 1st and I realize that it was due to my aloofness, anxious behavior, not listening or leading conversations well, etc. This has happened in several other relationships in my past but I'm finally realizing that I need to make a change to better myself for myself so I can be confident, have higher self esteem, not be so judgemental, quit assuming so much and asking leading questions all the time and be irreplaceable. Really need to learn to untether
@@gregcoleman9677 ..I’m still not back, but my wife has warmed up towards me and sees and appreciates my efforts to work my way back…no mention of divorce
@@pistoreroloco ….on month number 7 still apart and she says she is going through with the divorce although communication has been good, and she is aware of the progress I have made. But it doesn’t look good, but still not losing hop
Glad I listened to this it gave me hope I’ve been with my girl since high school 13 years now we have 3 kids and she is leaving me but she just wants me to change and better myself I k ow I fu Jed up but this gave me hope I can fix our relationship and get my family back . I can’t live without her and my kids
This sounds like my exact situation. She wanted to figure things out herself. I reacted needy and pushy and made things worse. She is not seeing anyone else she buried herself in her work. I made things worse by saying I see you have people over, but they were coworkers who came to help her. I have been watching Geoffrey's videos and trying to work on myself and not being pushy or needy. It's been 3 weeks since she moved out. I reached out to her face to face and told her i understood how she feels, she ofcourse laughed in my face. That was a week ago. Today, she called me and wanted to have a conversation. She said it's not about us being together. She wants to talk about where to go from here, I guess with the house and pets and etcc.. I hope she can see I am set on improving myself and being the best improved version of myself who understands her and will support her and have her back always.
He’s very blessed to have a woman who needed him to be his best, to be a man who shows up strong, alive and human instead of enabling him to be a little boy forever. I’m glad he has found a woman that makes him a better man. What a gift to have that motivation. Good for him to step up to the plate to save his relationship.
I mean she didn’t really do anything…she tried to move along in life. Credit here goes all to him for carrying and working hard on that relationship. It takes two to make a relationship fail
This is such an inspiring video, as well as all the other client videos. Really puts into perspective just how no situation is unique, and that we as individuals need to take accountability for the way things unfold. I have an interview on Saturday and I can’t wait to due the work. I clearly have no idea what I’m doing or else my situation wouldn’t be where it’s at. I’m trying to be the change that I want to see in the world. Watched the master class twice and plan on watching again today because I keep learning new things every time. All your videos are so informative and eye opening but still feel like just the cusp of something so much deeper. I’m not looking for pity I’m looking to peel back these layers and be a better person.
Unless he and his wife both agreed to see other people during the separation, it's really messed up that she started seeing some guy only a few months after he moved out! That makes me think she was already talking to him before the separation and therefore was a cheater.
This is where I am now. We've been separated in/out however I found that she was telling others that we are legally separated and has exchanged flirtatious photos with another man after a huge incident in December. During that time, we tried to make things work again and she's back to living with me but I wasn't aware of this man and has definitely caught me off guard. We are now completely separated beginning of Feb 14 and she's completely blocked me off on all social media platform..we still haven't talked. How do you deal with this?
It’s because she’s been mentally gone for months and months. So she’s very ready to start to date other people. By the time a woman says “I’m done” she’s been done fir a long, long time because she’s tired of trying to make it work by herself.
@@elyse443 Still not a good justification for talking to someone behind his back! You wait till the divorce is final if you have any bit of decency and respect.
Fidelity is too important. If my wife were to cheat on me I’d need repentance and forgiveness and recocilaiation before ever getting back together. When we got married we took a vow for better or worse til death so us part
Im going through that resistance stage Geoffrey, I haven't bought your program i have some saving that took a while to save but I'm really considering buying the program but I've changed my approach as well and Ive got that "you sound like a therapist" response too lol
I married in October of 2023. Wife filed for Divorce mid August 2024. Only married for 10 months. She had her second miscarriage in May and filed 3 months after that. She also has bipolar depression and drinks a lot. I am really struggling with this. We were having marital issues but it got worse after the loss of the baby. I assumed the way she was acting was because of the loss but it made her turn against me. I love her more than anything and would give anything to reconcile with the proper steps. She offered no hope for that, blocked my number and seems to be moving forward with the divorce.
lol mine said the same thing also at the end of this past December. Same needy ass reaction. She implied that it will be long term. I moved out, and implemented some of these methods which have at least brought conversation back to normal.
Hey man, so i have this issue with my girlfriend. We have been dating for three months and i fell in love with her and we said it to eachother. The problem is that two days ago i was over to her house and she said something like "this doesn't feel right" and then i paniced a bit proceeded to start crying a bit, told her i would give her space but it's just so miserable and i can't think of nothing else and i have approximately a week before my class starts (we're in the same class sitting next to eachother) if you'd see this i'd be grateful :(
Hi Simon, I provide advice and my program is for men and women in long-term relationships and marriages. Often times in the dating scene when this happens it is due to an attraction or compatibility issue.
I had 4 surgeries this year, denied workers comp, built her a salon, 2 weeks later, papers…. And she’s avoidant. 19 th wedding anniversary in 3 days. 😔 she’s now a divorce robot.
Thanks for sharing this Scott and Geoffrey. Every time I get down about my relationship ending and my wife not wanting to try again these videos give me hope for the future. I am finally about to join the program and will give it 110% effort See yo on the inside.
Amazing stuff I am very excited for my meeting tomorrow watched this video twice and I am so attracted to this way of thinking I am definitely not as mature and my relationship with this person wasn’t as long as the person in this video but I can’t wait to be in a better place and change
I have so many good examples my wife of 20 years had an affair I did all things to save my marriage for two years wrong and she left with my daughter seperated for 6 months and now talking again having i ntkmacy but I did a lot of things wrong in terms of chasing ..i work out make money traveled with my family have her good things and this happened still
my wife of 20yrs walkout on me 4 weeks ago i haven't been the best husband i would verb and emotional abuse her as she would tell me and i feel horrible because that is not who i am i love her to death and would do anything for her and my kids but i belive i have really lost her and now all i want to do is get her back and treat her like the queen she is is there any hope? and i been making all the mistake people say not to do
Hi thomas diorio, Come see the many clients who just like you have made all of the same mistakes and just like you sought to turn things around. Don't let me tell you. Hear it from them yourself. ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
I need some help. But my wife wants to work on things. We’re doing a 12 month separation recommended by both of our therapists to really reinvent ourselves and our marriage. But the part of creating safety and learning to communicate would be very beneficial.
Luckily we both set boundaries of no dating. The hard part of getting her to try is done. Now the harder part of making real change and bring the husband she deserves begins
Great conversation, a lot of these situations apply to my current relationship. My only confusion is the section on how to show changes when blocked, it seems like they kind of walked around the literal answer to this. Is the answer to just accept it and let her assume growth through respecting her space? My ex still keeps tabs on me and I want to show my growth through my stories but I don't want this to backfire and make it seem like I am being manipulative or blatantly demonstrating that I am still trying to win her back? I have been in no contact for 3 months and I think she has been seeing someone else.
@@Davidb600 Thanks for your advice David. I plan on reaching out soon and moving on or trying to remedy accordingly. I think I've given her enough space and time to think at this point.
I wish I can share my story Im still going through it and we are seperated and I’m trying to save my marriage and family divorce I. Process and blocking and just Im stalling the divorce too
I'm going through separation right now, living in the same house. She wanted space cause I have been too clingy and paranoid. Now she has another guy(friend) she said he is her intellectual soul mate. What chance do I have on winning her back. I'm feeling jealous and saying stupid shit to her and crossing the line. I need help. I'm trying to change and do things to improve, but every time I hear them laughing and txting each other constantly kills me. I feel like I've been tossed to the side.
I blocked my husband today. He hasn’t noticed 😂 I’m trying to keep my humor & grace at the moment. I feel lighter. I don’t have to worry about the problem anymore.
My wife asked out of the blue for a separation. But with a twist, She asked for an open marriage, seperation and then divorce. She explained to me she doesn't want to be married anymore. She said if we reconnected, She wants us to be boyfriend and girlfriend again. This might not be unique, but this is strange for me. I told her I wanted to continue to be married. I'm respecting her space. We've 2 children. I don't know what else to do? This was over a month ago.
Hi Joshua Mendes, Here again you are like so many. But you are failing to see the bigger picture. So often we fail to see what are partners actually trying to tell us. What are they actually missing. As I teach my clients. See the forrest, not the trees.
So I’m going through a divorce right now my wife filed but it’s only a summons and she never filed the rest of the paperwork idk what’s going on but she left me moved out of the house she’s staying with a friend says she hates me wishes she ever met me said I’m abusive a cheater a liar and she’s was on a dating profile I haven’t talked to her in 2.5 months I fell back in working on myself doing therapy counseling ect…I’m worried now that it’s honestly over all I want to do is fix my marriage she gave me a second chance already and she told my mom that I was a great husband I was a good stepdad but she doesn’t know if she can give me a 3rd chance idk if she changed her number but I need ur help I want to fix my marriage
Geoffrey, A crucial topic you forgot to mention for years: One another alienating from each other. I’ve been trying to get my girlfriend back for 9 months now, and a crucial mistake was Not talking at least 1-2 a week. We would go a month without talking, just like now. Now i find myself stuck in a situation questioning if she has feelings for another guy at her campus because we’re both shy on contacting each other. Get what i’m saying ? I missed this information. Now i’ll be asking her if she thinks whether we talk enough or not, if going a month without talking is …
Hi Isaac A Silva, Forgot to talk about, this is the very thing I talk about in all my videos. How to regain the trust and safety with your partner once again.
@@GeoffreySetiawan Yes exactly that, but have you thought of what a month of alienating from each other can do? Is that losing safety that i built so hard create again ? Would you then suggest aiming for once or twice a week conversation ?
@@Luridmoirai Very good question, ultimately we haven’t had a conversation with one another since Christmas. One due to not being confident enough to reach back out to her, I can look back at that now and realize most of my mistakes, like how it was hard for me to talk about my feelings to her. Another was not being able to set up a date, even if we both agreed (Being 17 it’s a lot harder for us). But how I feel is how I feel and if I have another passion for a different outcome in life then that’s how I would rather live than to invest my emotions in a relationship again. And how I felt was so intense at the time (anxiety), to where I didn’t look forward to experiencing that over and over again leading up to talking to her. I no longer have that stress I once was going through.
@@Luridmoirai In conclusion, if you were wondering because of your own personal situation. My only advice is to not only approach conversation confidentially (Obviously), but to tell your partner how you feel, ask how they feel. Don’t start talking for an hour about jack squat. If I had another chance, I would simply waste no time but to pour out my emotions Lol.
The second she is with another man sexually that's it you cant come back that is my standard you do not get to go try out other dudes then decide you wanna come back
I enroll over 1500+ clients a year from all across the globe. I have not found one situation unique. Come check out more than just Scott's story and you will see this to be true. ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
Hi anglo2255, I work one-on-one with all of my clients that join my program. But before you consider that, first join me in my free 90 min video to see if working with me would be a good fit for you. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
Hey Geo, is it possible to recover from a relationship where your significant other has vented to their family members. Those same family members are not encouraging her to leave me and have even blocked me. I didn’t physically harm her. We just got in arguments that led me to yelling at her and calling her names. The B word, dumb, stupid etc.
Hi KDAY, Yes, this is the very nature of how I am able to teach my clients and how they are able to reconcile. I teach people how to be able to have the more difficult conversations and address the harder issues. How to navigate these and lead conversation. So you are able to thrive and solve these tougher issues together and as a team.
@@GeoffreySetiawan She was keeping tabs on me through her business account. Watching my stories on Instagram of my workout pics. Yesterday she even blocked me on her business account. It’s not looking good. At this point it hurts but I’m trusting the process and letting go. If she comes back which she probably won’t then it’s whatever I tried. Focused on bettering myself and never hurting another woman the way I’ve hurt her.
I see here that you take credit for not physically harming her, but nobody deserves an award for this. This is scary and bad behavior no womon should tolerate, and if she does “forgive” you, then she is building a trauma bond, and your behavior might get even more frequent and worse down the road if she gives you a pass now. So good for her for blocking you (for now). What concrete proof have you given her that she’s never feel emotionally attacked like that from you again? You’re supposed to not physically harm your love. Yelling at her and calling her names is verbal and emotional abuse, that I hope womxn are getting better and better at leaving behind all forms of abuse and not looking back. That behavior eliminates all trust and the man who does this is no longer a source of safety and comfort. Now, I’m sure she was frustrating and annoying, but then please just tell her you need some space, you’ll come back to this in an hour (or whenever) and walk away. If she comes at you with verbal abuse, then tell her you will not engage in a conversation with this tone, but that if she wants to have a productive conversation with you that leads to a resolution where both of you feel good, then you will gladly do this. I would never want any friends and loved ones dating a man who behaves the way you did and is incapable of keeping their cool. Temper tantrums are for babies and not for grown men who are supposed to be trusted with a womon’s safety. Now is it possible to recover? It depends, but I’m gonna say yes because I put my man out for some similar behavior, told him I never wanted to see him again unless i knew he was actively working therapy and men’s healing circles, and after a few weeks on his own, now he is committed to therapy and recovery and we are on a road to hopefully eliminating toxic masculinity and inviting in more divine masculine energy. Geo here mentions that this is a long haul process and not an overnight fix. But I am happy to be part of his growth here as Geo says, and things feel better already. I dig this page and I highly recommend that you get with Geo and start unwinding that energy if you want a chance not just with her, but with any potential love interest out there. There is no excuse ever to call somebody you claim to love a b**ch.
My is done wife left the home with my kids..week later she had someone else man staying with her and her staying with him.. she blocked me everywhere and she deleted her social medias and changed her number so I lost contact with her for like 6 months we never talked.. and still don’t just co parenting and no talk o didn’t fight for her or try so we never talked about our marriage and I moved on she moved on..it’s been 9months know and still don’t speak about anything 😑 I asked her to file divorce or I’ll file..but she says something stupid always like well if u wanna divorce me You do it !!I ain’t and don’t want to file cause I’m confused 😑 is her excuse
Hi Edgar Grimaldo, I would love for you to watch many more of my client stories to see that your situation is not unique and once you realize this, you can also learn to do something about this.
Hi Carla Venzor, I’ve made a quick video for you below showing you some of the women who are killing it in our program. www.loom.com/share/045579f498fa4387982b241d700270b8
My gf did the same a week ago , I’m giving her space now . She says it’s not over and we are trying here but I’m not seeing it so I went no contact . Hope it’s the right thing to do
Hi Nerd Kink, Start here by learning the key mindset shift you need in order to start to repair your relationship alone. ua-cam.com/video/esDN2K4efhY/v-deo.html
Hey guys hope this was helpful! Want results like Scott? Want to apply for the Relationships Revival program? Be sure to check out my brand new masterclass on the 5 Proven Steps to Rebuilding Your Relationship/Marriage. (Warning: Spots are limited)
💪 Here is the link to the MASTERCLASS & To Apply for the Relationships Revival program -> relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass
🎉 Click here to see more inspiring stories from our clients from the Relationships Revival program: ua-cam.com/play/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU.html
How did he deal with the other guy, being still married to her and her seeing someone else. How was he able to trust her when they moved back in. That is what I'm having a hard time with. I have moved out to give her space, she says she doesn't want a divorce, can't see her life without me, but needs space, and for me to change. She says she is talking with someone and just hanging out, but I think it is emotional affair and having a hard time and being insecure.
@@stevemcgeorge6568 You're clearly new to my videos and philosophy (or have not been paying close attention to the contents). My recommendation - let go of your assumptions that caused the problems in the first place, and be open to learning some things that are new.
If you're REALLY serious about getting clarity and results, then apply for the RR program.
If you are skeptical of the value that we can bring, keep watching my other client stories that are previously posted, and keep posted in your email for endless more.
@@GeoffreySetiawan Yes, I am new to the videos. Been trying to read tons of books, seeing a therapist and such. How do you apply for the RR program and is there a cost?
@@stevemcgeorge6568 We explain the steps at the end of this video. And yes, we do offer a high ticket program. (If you watch more of my work, you'll know we're miles ahead of any competition, and do warrant a premium).
We have enrolled close to 100 therapists in the last year, all of who abandoned the system they have been practicing for 10-20 years to practice mine. Why? Because once their clients join my program, that’s when their lives change…fast.
We have celebs, politicians, and business leaders who have spent close to $50,000 looking for therapists, programs, coaches who can help but swear by this program and this program only.
If you follow these steps, and keep watching my other client stories, we do outline all the details you need to know.
Sorry, I am being intentionally vague - I am trying to vet all the applicants I get, starting with, who wants it badly enough to do their own research.
Don't mean to sound pompous, but we do have a full calendar and have to be very selective with the clients we choose.
Thanks!
@@stevemcgeorge6568 Like Geoffrey stated @ 54:33 - no one's situation is that unique. Personally I am going through almost the exact same thing you describe above and my wife has indicated to me the same things. My insecurities made me think she was having an emotional affair too. I have signed up for Geoffrey's program and it is awesome. It will help you have the paradigm shifts needed to change yourself and win over your spouse, but it will take work.
I don’t know how you behaved prior to your wife wanting to divorce you but the fact that you want to save your marriage makes you better than what’s out in the dating scene. Lots of people don’t want to make it work. I’m glad you and your wife were able to work things out. Blessings!
56:26 In a true moment of selflessness, Scott admitted, 'I don't want to end the relationship, but I'm okay with it being over. Seeing her happy and having found someone else, I realized I can no longer dictate my life around another person. Very profound, reaching to a this kind of mindset that promotes mutual respect, sets a foundation for more balanced and fulfilling connection whether you decide to be in this relationship or build any new one.
I started watching these vids last summer when my wife asked for a divorce. After watching videos/ masterclass and focusing on self improvement… the day before divorce she said she wanted to try again. Get to the beginning of this year and I made a mistake. I betrayed her trust by complaining about the relationship to a friend (I tried to talk to her but she has battling depression and simply wouldn’t/ couldn’t listen). She’s now 4 weeks away from moving out and I’m suffering from separation anxiety (we have 2 children also).
I say all this to say thank you for inspiring me to continue with my journey irrespective of the highs and lows
Hi dicerevo,
This is why it is so crucial to make your changes real and permanent. If you truly learn how to turn every conversation from negative into positive then the 2 of you should be able to have this conversation and make each other feel deeply understood while creating safety.
I'm sorry to ask, but what ended up happening?
@@Luridmoirai she moved out a month an a half ago. We had a conversation in February and she explained that her mind was made up and she felt she would be happier elsewhere (I’m sugarcoating) but I kept my composure and listen and explained that I wanted her to stay to work on us but I respected her decision.
We’re at a place now where we rarely talk. She’s got lawyers involved also which isn’t that surprising because I’m a lawyer. Im just focusing on bettering myself and being the best father I can be. It’s challenging but i have to stay hopeful that we can at least get to a point where we can coparent effectively.
@@dicerevo I mean. At the very least you have your financial, and family to hold you above water.
I'm sorry you're going through this brother.
You alright mate, how did this play out?
"its my time to shine" aww that's so cute to think about it like that. very true geoff
The thing Scott said starting around 35:36 is the truth! respect!
Gonna have my RR interview tomorrow, can’t wait to reinvent myself. The safety explained at the end was what i’ve always been doing. I have always been giving answers and giving solution. I have also been gaslighting to shift blames in arguments. I am really desperate to change myself so that my family members, my friends and my ex to feel more comfortable being around me.
Haha, yes I see you scheduled with Jason one of my team members.
How much is the program? And can you chose the days ?
I just had my first Interview with Jason today. I've been watching your videos for over a week now. My fiance separated from me on Nov 1st and I realize that it was due to my aloofness, anxious behavior, not listening or leading conversations well, etc. This has happened in several other relationships in my past but I'm finally realizing that I need to make a change to better myself for myself so I can be confident, have higher self esteem, not be so judgemental, quit assuming so much and asking leading questions all the time and be irreplaceable. Really need to learn to untether
This gives me hope because my wife has filed and I am in my 3rd long week of living outside of my house and missing my wife and daughter so much
Update ?
@@gregcoleman9677 ..I’m still not back, but my wife has warmed up towards me and sees and appreciates my efforts to work my way back…no mention of divorce
Good luck to you man I wish the best
Update ?
@@pistoreroloco ….on month number 7 still apart and she says she is going through with the divorce although communication has been good, and she is aware of the progress I have made. But it doesn’t look good, but still not losing hop
You saying that your life cannot be dictated by someone else’s choices to be is excellent untethering
Glad I listened to this it gave me hope I’ve been with my girl since high school 13 years now we have 3 kids and she is leaving me but she just wants me to change and better myself I k ow I fu Jed up but this gave me hope I can fix our relationship and get my family back . I can’t live without her and my kids
How did it go ?
I miss my husband he left about two months ago i want our marriage back and him back
This sounds like my exact situation. She wanted to figure things out herself. I reacted needy and pushy and made things worse. She is not seeing anyone else she buried herself in her work. I made things worse by saying I see you have people over, but they were coworkers who came to help her. I have been watching Geoffrey's videos and trying to work on myself and not being pushy or needy. It's been 3 weeks since she moved out. I reached out to her face to face and told her i understood how she feels, she ofcourse laughed in my face. That was a week ago. Today, she called me and wanted to have a conversation. She said it's not about us being together. She wants to talk about where to go from here, I guess with the house and pets and etcc.. I hope she can see I am set on improving myself and being the best improved version of myself who understands her and will support her and have her back always.
How are things now my man? I’m going through pretty much the same thing
How did this play out mate?
Any update @mims1224
He’s very blessed to have a woman who needed him to be his best, to be a man who shows up strong, alive and human instead of enabling him to be a little boy forever. I’m glad he has found a woman that makes him a better man. What a gift to have that motivation. Good for him to step up to the plate to save his relationship.
I mean she didn’t really do anything…she tried to move along in life. Credit here goes all to him for carrying and working hard on that relationship.
It takes two to make a relationship fail
The more I watch the more I learn and it’s insane
Keep watching!
This is such an inspiring video, as well as all the other client videos. Really puts into perspective just how no situation is unique, and that we as individuals need to take accountability for the way things unfold. I have an interview on Saturday and I can’t wait to due the work. I clearly have no idea what I’m doing or else my situation wouldn’t be where it’s at. I’m trying to be the change that I want to see in the world. Watched the master class twice and plan on watching again today because I keep learning new things every time. All your videos are so informative and eye opening but still feel like just the cusp of something so much deeper. I’m not looking for pity I’m looking to peel back these layers and be a better person.
Wow this story resonates with me to the point that gives me goosebumps meaning his situation are not unique
Unless he and his wife both agreed to see other people during the separation, it's really messed up that she started seeing some guy only a few months after he moved out! That makes me think she was already talking to him before the separation and therefore was a cheater.
This is where I am now. We've been separated in/out however I found that she was telling others that we are legally separated and has exchanged flirtatious photos with another man after a huge incident in December. During that time, we tried to make things work again and she's back to living with me but I wasn't aware of this man and has definitely caught me off guard. We are now completely separated beginning of Feb 14 and she's completely blocked me off on all social media platform..we still haven't talked. How do you deal with this?
This is where you need to start from the beginning.
It’s because she’s been mentally gone for months and months. So she’s very ready to start to date other people. By the time a woman says “I’m done” she’s been done fir a long, long time because she’s tired of trying to make it work by herself.
@@elyse443 Still not a good justification for talking to someone behind his back! You wait till the divorce is final if you have any bit of decency and respect.
Thanks a lot for this interview. I needed to hear this.
Hope you're well mate
luv watching these videos mann jus beautiful
So many nuggets and tools in this important interview
Fidelity is too important. If my wife were to cheat on me I’d need repentance and forgiveness and recocilaiation before ever getting back together. When we got married we took a vow for better or worse til death so us part
It's not always that simple
minus the divorce part im in the same position right now for the past month and half. Im trying to help us both
This is amazing, I love this!!
Hi Dean Sultan,
So glad you found my video helpful. May I ask you what did you find most eye-opening?
Im going through that resistance stage Geoffrey, I haven't bought your program i have some saving that took a while to save but I'm really considering buying the program but I've changed my approach as well and Ive got that "you sound like a therapist" response too lol
I married in October of 2023. Wife filed for Divorce mid August 2024. Only married for 10 months.
She had her second miscarriage in May and filed 3 months after that. She also has bipolar depression and drinks a lot.
I am really struggling with this. We were having marital issues but it got worse after the loss of the baby. I assumed the way she was acting was because of the loss but it made her turn against me.
I love her more than anything and would give anything to reconcile with the proper steps. She offered no hope for that, blocked my number and seems to be moving forward with the divorce.
This is like the situation I'm in now. Almost to a T.
I needed to hear this today :).
Thanks Geoffrey.
best of luck. any updates?
@@mason5211 still working on myself. She's filed but I'm continuing my journey
@mason5211 working on it bro
lol mine said the same thing also at the end of this past December. Same needy ass reaction. She implied that it will be long term. I moved out, and implemented some of these methods which have at least brought conversation back to normal.
Hey man, so i have this issue with my girlfriend. We have been dating for three months and i fell in love with her and we said it to eachother. The problem is that two days ago i was over to her house and she said something like "this doesn't feel right" and then i paniced a bit proceeded to start crying a bit, told her i would give her space but it's just so miserable and i can't think of nothing else and i have approximately a week before my class starts (we're in the same class sitting next to eachother) if you'd see this i'd be grateful :(
Hi Simon,
I provide advice and my program is for men and women in long-term relationships and marriages. Often times in the dating scene when this happens it is due to an attraction or compatibility issue.
Great video Geoffrey!
Haha, love it! Thank you for you comment and support!
I had 4 surgeries this year, denied workers comp, built her a salon, 2 weeks later, papers…. And she’s avoidant. 19 th wedding anniversary in 3 days. 😔 she’s now a divorce robot.
Sign up for this course dude. But do it for you.
They are all robotic weirdos
Thanks for sharing this Scott and Geoffrey. Every time I get down about my relationship ending and my wife not wanting to try again these videos give me hope for the future. I am finally about to join the program and will give it 110% effort See yo on the inside.
How did it go ?
Great interview hopefully soon I can join the program
Hi fidel,
Like so many of my clients tell me, this is the best decision they have ever made.
Amazing stuff I am very excited for my meeting tomorrow watched this video twice and I am so attracted to this way of thinking I am definitely not as mature and my relationship with this person wasn’t as long as the person in this video but I can’t wait to be in a better place and change
Yeah, Jason told me the meeting went well and you will be working on things from your end.
@@GeoffreySetiawan what are some things I can do in the meantime while I figure out a way to be able to afford the program?
I have so many good examples my wife of 20 years had an affair I did all things to save my marriage for two years wrong and she left with my daughter seperated for 6 months and now talking again having i ntkmacy but I did a lot of things wrong in terms of chasing ..i work out make money traveled with my family have her good things and this happened still
Same thing is happening to me right now .. exactly even the time frame
Hang in there mate.
Hi geoffrey, is there any payment plans for the mastercourse? I am not from the US, so its more expensive for me to attend the course.
Can you send an email to geoffrey@relationshipsmastered.com?
10 years 2 kids and she left and found a new man pretty sure i have 0 hope but willing to try
Hi Patriot d,
The only way you can be sure if it will never work is when at least one person is not willing to try.
my wife of 20yrs walkout on me 4 weeks ago i haven't been the best husband i would verb and emotional abuse her as she would tell me and i feel horrible because that is not who i am i love her to death and would do anything for her and my kids but i belive i have really lost her and now all i want to do is get her back and treat her like the queen she is is there any hope? and i been making all the mistake people say not to do
Hi thomas diorio,
Come see the many clients who just like you have made all of the same mistakes and just like you sought to turn things around. Don't let me tell you. Hear it from them yourself.
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I need some help. But my wife wants to work on things. We’re doing a 12 month separation recommended by both of our therapists to really reinvent ourselves and our marriage. But the part of creating safety and learning to communicate would be very beneficial.
Luckily we both set boundaries of no dating. The hard part of getting her to try is done. Now the harder part of making real change and bring the husband she deserves begins
Great conversation, a lot of these situations apply to my current relationship. My only confusion is the section on how to show changes when blocked, it seems like they kind of walked around the literal answer to this. Is the answer to just accept it and let her assume growth through respecting her space? My ex still keeps tabs on me and I want to show my growth through my stories but I don't want this to backfire and make it seem like I am being manipulative or blatantly demonstrating that I am still trying to win her back? I have been in no contact for 3 months and I think she has been seeing someone else.
No contact may be okay for dating, but not in LTR according to this program.
@@Davidb600 Thanks for your advice David. I plan on reaching out soon and moving on or trying to remedy accordingly. I think I've given her enough space and time to think at this point.
@@sergiomarrtinez good luck. Hope it goes well
How did you get on? You do do no contact in this program if she’s needs the space
Should I join the program if I’m blocked?
I wish I can share my story Im still going through it and we are seperated and I’m trying to save my marriage and family divorce I. Process and blocking and just Im stalling the divorce too
How do I get into the program
I like him.
Would love to hear where things are at currently with your relationship.
How do I sign up for this program?
Hey Robert - We do outline the steps to apply at the end of this video you just commented on!
I'm going through separation right now, living in the same house. She wanted space cause I have been too clingy and paranoid. Now she has another guy(friend) she said he is her intellectual soul mate. What chance do I have on winning her back. I'm feeling jealous and saying stupid shit to her and crossing the line. I need help. I'm trying to change and do things to improve, but every time I hear them laughing and txting each other constantly kills me. I feel like I've been tossed to the side.
Looks like you weren't paranoid. Your suspicion was true.
I blocked my husband today. He hasn’t noticed 😂 I’m trying to keep my humor & grace at the moment. I feel lighter. I don’t have to worry about the problem anymore.
My wife asked out of the blue for a separation. But with a twist, She asked for an open marriage, seperation and then divorce. She explained to me she doesn't want to be married anymore. She said if we reconnected, She wants us to be boyfriend and girlfriend again. This might not be unique, but this is strange for me. I told her I wanted to continue to be married. I'm respecting her space. We've 2 children. I don't know what else to do? This was over a month ago.
Hi Joshua Mendes,
Here again you are like so many. But you are failing to see the bigger picture. So often we fail to see what are partners actually trying to tell us. What are they actually missing.
As I teach my clients. See the forrest, not the trees.
@Geoffrey Setiawan Hello, I really want to understand. Explore the forest. At this point, I feel it's hopeless for reconciliation.
Currently my wife has left and blocked me, not communication and she left with our younger daughter
This is hard to hear, hope you're well mate.
Wrong two hours would be good
Haha. Love it!
So I’m going through a divorce right now my wife filed but it’s only a summons and she never filed the rest of the paperwork idk what’s going on but she left me moved out of the house she’s staying with a friend says she hates me wishes she ever met me said I’m abusive a cheater a liar and she’s was on a dating profile I haven’t talked to her in 2.5 months I fell back in working on myself doing therapy counseling ect…I’m worried now that it’s honestly over all I want to do is fix my marriage she gave me a second chance already and she told my mom that I was a great husband I was a good stepdad but she doesn’t know if she can give me a 3rd chance idk if she changed her number but I need ur help I want to fix my marriage
Did you cheat on her?
Isit me or Isit hard to process about when they want space and shit nd then they want u
Geoffrey, A crucial topic you forgot to mention for years: One another alienating from each other. I’ve been trying to get my girlfriend back for 9 months now, and a crucial mistake was Not talking at least 1-2 a week. We would go a month without talking, just like now. Now i find myself stuck in a situation questioning if she has feelings for another guy at her campus because we’re both shy on contacting each other. Get what i’m saying ?
I missed this information. Now i’ll be asking her if she thinks whether we talk enough or not, if going a month without talking is …
Hi Isaac A Silva,
Forgot to talk about, this is the very thing I talk about in all my videos. How to regain the trust and safety with your partner once again.
@@GeoffreySetiawan Yes exactly that, but have you thought of what a month of alienating from each other can do? Is that losing safety that i built so hard create again ? Would you then suggest aiming for once or twice a week conversation ?
@@yowspisaac6113 what ended up happening?
@@Luridmoirai Very good question, ultimately we haven’t had a conversation with one another since Christmas. One due to not being confident enough to reach back out to her, I can look back at that now and realize most of my mistakes, like how it was hard for me to talk about my feelings to her. Another was not being able to set up a date, even if we both agreed (Being 17 it’s a lot harder for us). But how I feel is how I feel and if I have another passion for a different outcome in life then that’s how I would rather live than to invest my emotions in a relationship again.
And how I felt was so intense at the time (anxiety), to where I didn’t look forward to experiencing that over and over again leading up to talking to her. I no longer have that stress I once was going through.
@@Luridmoirai In conclusion, if you were wondering because of your own personal situation. My only advice is to not only approach conversation confidentially (Obviously), but to tell your partner how you feel, ask how they feel. Don’t start talking for an hour about jack squat. If I had another chance, I would simply waste no time but to pour out my emotions Lol.
29:20 oh fudge
The second she is with another man sexually that's it you cant come back that is my standard you do not get to go try out other dudes then decide you wanna come back
Men cheat all the time and expect women to forgive them.
How would I go about discussing with you my situation with my girl/ex because it’s quite a weird situation
I enroll over 1500+ clients a year from all across the globe. I have not found one situation unique.
Come check out more than just Scott's story and you will see this to be true.
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Geoffrey setiawan, could we talk sometime?
Hi anglo2255,
I work one-on-one with all of my clients that join my program. But before you consider that, first join me in my free 90 min video to see if working with me would be a good fit for you.
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Hey Geo, is it possible to recover from a relationship where your significant other has vented to their family members. Those same family members are not encouraging her to leave me and have even blocked me. I didn’t physically harm her. We just got in arguments that led me to yelling at her and calling her names. The B word, dumb, stupid etc.
Hi KDAY,
Yes, this is the very nature of how I am able to teach my clients and how they are able to reconcile. I teach people how to be able to have the more difficult conversations and address the harder issues. How to navigate these and lead conversation. So you are able to thrive and solve these tougher issues together and as a team.
@@GeoffreySetiawan She was keeping tabs on me through her business account. Watching my stories on Instagram of my workout pics. Yesterday she even blocked me on her business account. It’s not looking good. At this point it hurts but I’m trusting the process and letting go. If she comes back which she probably won’t then it’s whatever I tried. Focused on bettering myself and never hurting another woman the way I’ve hurt her.
I see here that you take credit for not physically harming her, but nobody deserves an award for this. This is scary and bad behavior no womon should tolerate, and if she does “forgive” you, then she is building a trauma bond, and your behavior might get even more frequent and worse down the road if she gives you a pass now. So good for her for blocking you (for now). What concrete proof have you given her that she’s never feel emotionally attacked like that from you again? You’re supposed to not physically harm your love. Yelling at her and calling her names is verbal and emotional abuse, that I hope womxn are getting better and better at leaving behind all forms of abuse and not looking back. That behavior eliminates all trust and the man who does this is no longer a source of safety and comfort. Now, I’m sure she was frustrating and annoying, but then please just tell her you need some space, you’ll come back to this in an hour (or whenever) and walk away. If she comes at you with verbal abuse, then tell her you will not engage in a conversation with this tone, but that if she wants to have a productive conversation with you that leads to a resolution where both of you feel good, then you will gladly do this. I would never want any friends and loved ones dating a man who behaves the way you did and is incapable of keeping their cool. Temper tantrums are for babies and not for grown men who are supposed to be trusted with a womon’s safety. Now is it possible to recover? It depends, but I’m gonna say yes because I put my man out for some similar behavior, told him I never wanted to see him again unless i knew he was actively working therapy and men’s healing circles, and after a few weeks on his own, now he is committed to therapy and recovery and we are on a road to hopefully eliminating toxic masculinity and inviting in more divine masculine energy. Geo here mentions that this is a long haul process and not an overnight fix. But I am happy to be part of his growth here as Geo says, and things feel better already. I dig this page and I highly recommend that you get with Geo and start unwinding that energy if you want a chance not just with her, but with any potential love interest out there. There is no excuse ever to call somebody you claim to love a b**ch.
Geoffrey the type of guy to blow out his own car tire just to practice his frameworks
My is done wife left the home with my kids..week later she had someone else man staying with her and her staying with him.. she blocked me everywhere and she deleted her social medias and changed her number so I lost contact with her for like 6 months we never talked.. and still don’t just co parenting and no talk o didn’t fight for her or try so we never talked about our marriage and I moved on she moved on..it’s been 9months know and still don’t speak about anything 😑 I asked her to file divorce or I’ll file..but she says something stupid always like well if u wanna divorce me You do it !!I ain’t and don’t want to file cause I’m confused 😑 is her excuse
Hi Edgar Grimaldo,
I would love for you to watch many more of my client stories to see that your situation is not unique and once you realize this, you can also learn to do something about this.
I’m sorry to hear man what happened
Hi! Do you help women too, or only men?
I like your advise, most others out there are nonsense. I'm tired of all the bad advise given out there.
Hi Carla Venzor,
I’ve made a quick video for you below showing you some of the women who are killing it in our program.
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My gf did the same a week ago , I’m giving her space now . She says it’s not over and we are trying here but I’m not seeing it so I went no contact . Hope it’s the right thing to do
Hate to tell you she was with someone else, the same thing am going through
Bro - did you even watch the video? 1 year later, they are still going strong :) In fact, they are re-married!
This sounds like her. She's asking for divorce and its messing me up. I'm trying.
Hi Nerd Kink,
Start here by learning the key mindset shift you need in order to start to repair your relationship alone.
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