This is so true. I've been married for 3 years. Originally, I was very independent but I'm learning, it really makes my husband feel good when I show him that he is needed. So now, instead of tip toeing or getting a step stool to reach something high, I ask him to get it instead. I ask him to open jars, cut things, etc. And tell him how strong he is and how much I appreciate him and how he takes care of me. And now, he goes out of his way to do certain things without me asking. It's like, the more I compliment, the more he WANTS to take care of me. Even crying. If I was sad, I'd keep my problems to myself and cry alone. Now I come to him and allow myself to be vulnerable and let him hold me and comfort me
0:35 appreciate the little things 2:55 show excitement when you see him 4:01 make him feel like a hero, show him your fragile side 4:53 express affection 5:41 make him feel wanted 6:51 teasing and playfulness 7:43 jealousy
I don't have a significant other, so instead I incorporate these practices into relationships with different people in my life, to let them know that their ways/tendencies don't go unnoticed. As a result, they become even more helpful and kind to me and want to become closer. Then I get a bit uncomfortable because intimacy (of any kind) freaks me out a little. Baby steps.
This is soo me to a T. Especially when you said “then I get a bit uncomfortable because of intimacy” 😩. I’ve realized this about myself as well and it could be that our mind and body is not familiar w/ that kind of intimacy cuz we never/barely received it while growing so now when we do experience it, it feels strange and uncomfortable. But like you said, baby steps! I hope that one day we’ll be able to receive this kind of love/intimacy and not feel some sort of pushback. All the best 🫶🏾
One time I was dating a guy and had him over for dinner. I asked him to get something off a top shelf for me. I also asked him to put together a shelf I bought for the bathroom because I wasn't good at that kind of thing. I thanked him both times and he said, "you don't have to thank me." What's that all about? I just thought it was good manners.
This response usually means 'glad to help' or 'of course,' and being thankful in these scenarios is expected. Your thank you is more appreciated when it comes to noticing things that are usually unnoticed by the man. For instance, if he remembers your favorite book and buys it for you, or simply listens attentively when you talk about your day, these are situations where expressing gratitude becomes even more meaningful. Thank you for the comment!
I think it means you are seeing a truly good man, a man who sees doing helpful tasks like that as the norm for a relationship, even as "bush league" tasks compared to the "major league" things that he plans to do for you.
In eastern countries we say this in response to thank you. Which means it was my please or It’s something I was supposed to do for you so don’t mention it but this doesn’t mean we don’t want you to thank us. We still want you to thank us
@@manifestmyfutureoh dear, men don't care 😘 and then they act like victims when we want more... And then all of a sudden they understand what we wanted the whole relationship but decided to give it to their new, younger shiny partner. 🙃 Good luck, there's not enough good men to go around.
Omg u nailed it some men you can immensely tell in their eyes as they light up ( soo sweet)! Oh I love doing this and men DONT get this alot its like oh they should just do their honey do checklists but he works hard to support his family. I always at least say " baby thank you" " love, I appreciate that" omg I love male help its so loving and sweet. Guys are so appreciative if just a silly "baby thanks". Dont be a chicken in the hen house yapping out demands! My dad got up at 4 am to go to work far away in Detroit Michigan at the old Chrysler as engineer executive--and returned at exactly 5:06 pm every night no days off ( except vacation or weekends he took no sick days)for 40 years. My parents married 60 until death. Mom was affectionate, and there was a comfort level they had and she always every day had a beautiful family food meal she made all day on table at 5:06 every day and yummy dessert. Yes. 5:06 it was funny, not 5:01 but 5:06 all seasons - dads home. Feed my Dad and hes a happy man. Subtle affection, he was very quiet but if mom got the "yes dear" food approval it equal 50 milion " baby love you"!!!! ( Food gestures = love gesture in my old house)😎 Must be part Arabic😊 Dad would tell his work people how great his wife cook and mom would send food to share! Ohhh I love to show my peeps Im so happy to see them and I am! Sometimes we jump up and down and hug each other at same time!
It would be nice to have communication or some sort of way they show they enjoy what you're doing. As a woman, its difficult when a man likes something you're doing but doesn't react at all. It make the woman feel incredibly awkward, especially when the man gets upset when you stop doing the thing they like because they never showed they enjoyed it.
I'm so grateful for your videos 🙏 as I'm engaged to an Arab man and I am in so much love with him 💕 he's beautiful, passionate ,loving ,, not conceited , not materialistic and full of joy and love for me in return ... But I sometimes struggle with my temper and it's not easy to trust him completely as I never trust anyone .. but he usually is always struggling to make me smile and he has much patience with me and understanding.. but sometimes I wonder why .. and if it is for his own benefit .. if he truly loves me as he displays he does and I'm not easily fooled ... But sometimes see things in his social media that frightens me , yet he always does try to correct it when I talk with him about it ... I'm still wondering if he is completely serious about marriage ... It's so hard to tell with the distance between us... Pray for me I find the answers I need please brother as I have reverted to Islam long before I met him a few years ago, but I still struggle with adapting and growth in Islam due to pandemic and life being chaotic ....and he does not pray , yet he is Muslim so I'm wondering...should I be worried about him ?
the hero thing with men, i dont know if it is universal. I know the mythology spans across cultures but i think some men really dont care about that stuff, or even try to be helpful in a protective way. I have always been so self sufficient in that sort of way, I don't even know how I could make him a hero, unless I was literally role playing and being inauthentic. Im of american culture
At 1:00, I was confused to what he was saying cause, I’ve always thanked my parents for food, if anything that’s the first thing that’s taught to all children in my family right after we begin to learn how to talk
Being overly excited to see him i always feel, but i felt a bit shy to show it but then again you only live once so why not through caution to the wind especially when showing our loved ones appreciation
If all the people who watched it and took the advice had subscribed to his channel, he would have had 100k subscribers. Don't give up there will day you will have more than you ever expected. 🎉❤
Cuddles are the best #cuddles...... little fingertip touches, run your hand down his arm and say you care. Little sweet nothings not big for your fella 😊. But don't make out in public! Eww it's private don't in public it's disrespectful to others 😮 Aweeee yes #tease! especially when sharing a meal❤. or..... remarks : my jordanian guy Mikel was very demanding in a funny not mean way so I used to call him Mr Bossy Pants ( but with a hint of fun)! Spending time apart use Lighthearted but put that "baby baby what about us "( insert big eyes and sweet tone) ......he might go anyway but at least he knows you care! be funny " babyyyyy ahem have Funnnnn ". ( note you have to be specific sometimes with a man they respond better its how their brain is wired facts count! lol lol lol😅) Im a gift giver too I would rather give than receive and I love surprising my guy just as much ! Be positive have good vibes relax chill out no grumpiness-now this doesn't mean a bootay call girls or some stupid 10k handbag or car that's superficial, but cute little love things your guy might be looking at in store, pay attention! And the way to your guys heart is his stomach! Cook him his favorite meal ! As you grow older too in any relationship you see its the little things. I see older couples slow dancing together both just looking at each other -- THAT is the best just looking at each other! oh my❤ Ive seen videos of he is 104 she is 102. Married like a million years. He makes her Tea every morning and takes it to her ---ohhhh my ❤. Soo sweet or a HUG! Hug your guy ! When do men get a true girl hug?!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
It probably your own unconscious choices to engage with those types of men, based on your own inner child, wounds, self limiting beleifs and so on. when you heal, you will change who you entertain
Men also get their relationship advice, but not on this channel. But let's not look at it as 'us versus them.' The goal is to have better relationships irrespective of gender or background. Thanks for your comment!
Could you please make a video about how a divorced woman can find a new husband without being seen as desperate and as a result taken advantage of by men who are unserious players?
I am seeing a very successful and attractive Pakistani man. I naturally do all of the things you’ve brought up. I am very attractive, very sweet, loving, and fun, but I can’t tell if I am too sexual? I know culturally men do not interact with women like they do other men and things like public displays of affection are frowned upon. I am American so I treat men as my equal and I enjoy pleasing my man more than anything. Is there a point where my high sex drive becomes too much? Note, I’ve tried really hard to be more halal and to be impressive to his family. I know he is very hard-working and busy, but I wonder if his seemingly lower sexual appetite is a byproduct of culture, working too hard, or if he just doesn’t like me that much lol. I also don’t want to scare him away by bringing all these serious things up when we have only been seeing each other for a few months, and very infrequently because we live far from each other. I also don’t know if the family would truly accept me bc i am white… i’m not saying they are racist. I’m just saying every single person in his entire extended family is brown and Muslim lol, and he did say they would try to convert me (which I am fine with lol). If anyone could give me insight as to what is going on in his head would be really appreciated lmao.
Hi! A muslim here! About the family situation and the worry of them not accepting you. I can tell you as a muslim myself, if they truly did not like you being american or non-religious, they would have tried stopping their son from seeing you or showing you apprehension. As to his low sex drive, it truly can be different things; perhaps his sex drive is just lower than yours or he might be feeling fatigue and tired out from his busy work-schedule. As long as he is reaching out for intimacy from you, he's still interested in you. If that's the case I would just talk it out. You can just start the conversation with something like is work tiring you out? And somewhere along the line you can mention you'd like more intimacy. Keep the conversation open and try finding a solution together. Have a talk and you'll find out what the problem is. Good luck!
This is so true. I've been married for 3 years. Originally, I was very independent but I'm learning, it really makes my husband feel good when I show him that he is needed. So now, instead of tip toeing or getting a step stool to reach something high, I ask him to get it instead. I ask him to open jars, cut things, etc. And tell him how strong he is and how much I appreciate him and how he takes care of me. And now, he goes out of his way to do certain things without me asking. It's like, the more I compliment, the more he WANTS to take care of me. Even crying. If I was sad, I'd keep my problems to myself and cry alone. Now I come to him and allow myself to be vulnerable and let him hold me and comfort me
0:35 appreciate the little things
2:55 show excitement when you see him
4:01 make him feel like a hero, show him your fragile side
4:53 express affection
5:41 make him feel wanted
6:51 teasing and playfulness
7:43 jealousy
Another point I wud add wud be Respect.
This is all.
I don't have a significant other, so instead I incorporate these practices into relationships with different people in my life, to let them know that their ways/tendencies don't go unnoticed. As a result, they become even more helpful and kind to me and want to become closer. Then I get a bit uncomfortable because intimacy (of any kind) freaks me out a little. Baby steps.
This is soo me to a T. Especially when you said “then I get a bit uncomfortable because of intimacy” 😩. I’ve realized this about myself as well and it could be that our mind and body is not familiar w/ that kind of intimacy cuz we never/barely received it while growing so now when we do experience it, it feels strange and uncomfortable. But like you said, baby steps! I hope that one day we’ll be able to receive this kind of love/intimacy and not feel some sort of pushback. All the best 🫶🏾
One time I was dating a guy and had him over for dinner. I asked him to get something off a top shelf for me. I also asked him to put together a shelf I bought for the bathroom because I wasn't good at that kind of thing. I thanked him both times and he said, "you don't have to thank me." What's that all about? I just thought it was good manners.
This response usually means 'glad to help' or 'of course,' and being thankful in these scenarios is expected. Your thank you is more appreciated when it comes to noticing things that are usually unnoticed by the man. For instance, if he remembers your favorite book and buys it for you, or simply listens attentively when you talk about your day, these are situations where expressing gratitude becomes even more meaningful. Thank you for the comment!
I think it means you are seeing a truly good man, a man who sees doing helpful tasks like that as the norm for a relationship, even as "bush league" tasks compared to the "major league" things that he plans to do for you.
The man I have been dating has just recently told me how much he appreciates that I express that I appreciate him when he does things for me.
In eastern countries we say this in response to thank you. Which means it was my please or It’s something I was supposed to do for you so don’t mention it but this doesn’t mean we don’t want you to thank us. We still want you to thank us
I love the little smile you show when you think about someone doing this for her love.
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It works both ways. Women want the same things mentioned
In gave all that. This is what i ger from him🖕🏿
Yes, so true! Where are the videos for men to watch on how to please their women
@@manifestmyfutureoh dear, men don't care 😘 and then they act like victims when we want more...
And then all of a sudden they understand what we wanted the whole relationship but decided to give it to their new, younger shiny partner. 🙃
Good luck, there's not enough good men to go around.
@@Speakup117This is so true
@carolineg8632 you sound really frustrated. Sorry for your bad experiences...
Omg u nailed it some men you can immensely tell in their eyes as they light up ( soo sweet)! Oh I love doing this and men DONT get this alot its like oh they should just do their honey do checklists but he works hard to support his family. I always at least say " baby thank you"
" love, I appreciate that"
omg I love male help its so loving and sweet. Guys are so appreciative if just a silly "baby thanks". Dont be a chicken in the hen house yapping out demands! My dad got up at 4 am to go to work far away in Detroit Michigan at the old Chrysler as engineer executive--and returned at exactly 5:06 pm every night no days off ( except vacation or weekends he took no sick days)for 40 years. My parents married 60 until death. Mom was affectionate, and there was a comfort level they had and she always every day had a beautiful family food meal she made all day on table at 5:06 every day and yummy dessert. Yes. 5:06 it was funny, not 5:01 but 5:06 all seasons - dads home. Feed my Dad and hes a happy man. Subtle affection, he was very quiet but if mom got the "yes dear" food approval it equal 50 milion " baby love you"!!!! ( Food gestures = love gesture in my old house)😎 Must be part Arabic😊
Dad would tell his work people how great his wife cook and mom would send food to share!
Ohhh I love to show my peeps Im so happy to see them and I am! Sometimes we jump up and down and hug each other at same time!
I realize how Arab are wonderful people. ❤❤❤ Straight direct but wonderful may God bless them. ❤❤❤
When you are good, you see the good in people! Thank you!
Is so beautiful everything you say. Yet it is so sad not having a man to give all the love😢
Cheer up, good things happen in their own time.
omg i love the fact that arab culture demonstrates that there are still men out there who share my values
It would be nice to have communication or some sort of way they show they enjoy what you're doing. As a woman, its difficult when a man likes something you're doing but doesn't react at all. It make the woman feel incredibly awkward, especially when the man gets upset when you stop doing the thing they like because they never showed they enjoyed it.
This!!!!
This was a really sweet video. Could you do one on how it is you think women should approach men in times of conflict?
While scrolling in my yt feed then pop up this video on yt recomendation.Then I watch it.Great advice!
He will take the appreciation and kindness and compliments and give very little but take take take.
It applies both on men and women
I really love your voice and the way you explained everything ❤️ mA can’t wait to watch more videos from you 🌷🌷
Thanks a lot for the feedback! I appreciate that 🙏 ❤️
I'm so grateful for your videos 🙏 as I'm engaged to an Arab man and I am in so much love with him 💕 he's beautiful, passionate ,loving ,, not conceited , not materialistic and full of joy and love for me in return ... But I sometimes struggle with my temper and it's not easy to trust him completely as I never trust anyone .. but he usually is always struggling to make me smile and he has much patience with me and understanding.. but sometimes I wonder why .. and if it is for his own benefit .. if he truly loves me as he displays he does and I'm not easily fooled ... But sometimes see things in his social media that frightens me , yet he always does try to correct it when I talk with him about it ... I'm still wondering if he is completely serious about marriage ... It's so hard to tell with the distance between us... Pray for me I find the answers I need please brother as I have reverted to Islam long before I met him a few years ago, but I still struggle with adapting and growth in Islam due to pandemic and life being chaotic ....and he does not pray , yet he is Muslim so I'm wondering...should I be worried about him ?
the hero thing with men, i dont know if it is universal. I know the mythology spans across cultures but i think some men really dont care about that stuff, or even try to be helpful in a protective way. I have always been so self sufficient in that sort of way, I don't even know how I could make him a hero, unless I was literally role playing and being inauthentic. Im of american culture
At 1:00, I was confused to what he was saying cause, I’ve always thanked my parents for food, if anything that’s the first thing that’s taught to all children in my family right after we begin to learn how to talk
I appreciate your advice 🙏🙏
I tell my husband he's handsome. In a genuine way. It matters.
Being overly excited to see him i always feel, but i felt a bit shy to show it but then again you only live once so why not through caution to the wind especially when showing our loved ones appreciation
And yes I benefited from your videos and we need a man who can explain to us from men perspective. ❤
Your video was very relaxing to watch :)
Glad you enjoyed it! 🙏
100 percent me 😂
Unfortunately I have a hidden narcissist partner and he always showed me his dissatisfaction with such behawior...
If all the people who watched it and took the advice had subscribed to his channel, he would have had 100k subscribers. Don't give up there will day you will have more than you ever expected. 🎉❤
So profound. Thank you! :-)
Your hair is on fleek. Handsome!
Cuddles are the best #cuddles...... little fingertip touches, run your hand down his arm and say you care. Little sweet nothings not big for your fella 😊. But don't make out in public! Eww it's private don't in public it's disrespectful to others 😮
Aweeee yes #tease! especially when sharing a meal❤. or..... remarks :
my jordanian guy Mikel was very demanding in a funny not mean way so I used to call him Mr Bossy Pants ( but with a hint of fun)!
Spending time apart use Lighthearted but put that "baby baby what about us "( insert big eyes and sweet tone) ......he might go anyway but at least he knows you care! be funny " babyyyyy ahem have Funnnnn ". ( note you have to be specific sometimes with a man they respond better its how their brain is wired facts count! lol lol lol😅)
Im a gift giver too I would rather give than receive and I love surprising my guy just as much ! Be positive have good vibes relax chill out no grumpiness-now this doesn't mean a bootay call girls or some stupid 10k handbag or car that's superficial, but cute little love things your guy might be looking at in store, pay attention! And the way to your guys heart is his stomach! Cook him his favorite meal ! As you grow older too in any relationship you see its the little things. I see older couples slow dancing together both just looking at each other -- THAT is the best just looking at each other! oh my❤
Ive seen videos of he is 104 she is 102. Married like a million years. He makes her Tea every morning and takes it to her ---ohhhh my ❤. Soo sweet or a HUG! Hug your guy ! When do men get a true girl hug?!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Excellent advice
Why do the men I meet only want me to support them and manage my intense emotions on my own
It probably your own unconscious choices to engage with those types of men, based on your own inner child, wounds, self limiting beleifs and so on. when you heal, you will change who you entertain
I love cuddles, I love hugs, I love kisses only if he's giving me the okay with his body language.😊
Treat him like a child, got it 😂
You gives good 👍 advice and you are so right about many things.I loves your channel ❤and you're so 🥰 cute
Thank you very much! Glad you found that helpful!
And vice versa
Good luck bro
No. He needs to have time with his friends. I would encourage him to do so. I am secure enough to know men need time bonding with their guy friends.
Fuaadd please tell me how can I find the music in the background 🥹🥹
Hey! The background music is from Epidemic Sound. I'm glad you vibed with it.
So can women receive these affections too? Why always more emphasis on the woman pleasing the man😓 Women also want to be shown love😟
Men also get their relationship advice, but not on this channel. But let's not look at it as 'us versus them.' The goal is to have better relationships irrespective of gender or background. Thanks for your comment!
.. nice!
Love this ❤
Could you please make a video about how a divorced woman can find a new husband without being seen as desperate and as a result taken advantage of by men who are unserious players?
I want my husband to protect me, but he is too busy taking care of his mothers needs and protecting her…
I feel that
Found that he seemed to like me playing with his belly 😅
Me, Boeing single af, watching this
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I just realised I was doing all this, all this while to my man! oh ma gad
The fragile side is true 😂
OLD SOMALI MAN IN SEARCH OF A WIFE. DIFFERENT DIALECT ENDS A MATCH. ODEY SOMALI OO GUURDOON AH.
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Hahaha very funny 😂
So basically we have to boost their ego
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Hint of jealousy? Outdated.
I prefer the man to serve the food.
💯💯👏👏👏
You know what i don’t understand these therapist's language. Guys please be more casual.. For god sake!!
Sorry 😂
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Fuaddddd is this video halal ? 😂
😂 lol 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
If “your man” means “your husband” 😊
How do you know that?! You look like a child!!
He looks like 28? At 28, if u r intelligent, u know all this stuff
You're sharp! Well guessed!
I am seeing a very successful and attractive Pakistani man. I naturally do all of the things you’ve brought up. I am very attractive, very sweet, loving, and fun, but I can’t tell if I am too sexual? I know culturally men do not interact with women like they do other men and things like public displays of affection are frowned upon. I am American so I treat men as my equal and I enjoy pleasing my man more than anything. Is there a point where my high sex drive becomes too much? Note, I’ve tried really hard to be more halal and to be impressive to his family. I know he is very hard-working and busy, but I wonder if his seemingly lower sexual appetite is a byproduct of culture, working too hard, or if he just doesn’t like me that much lol. I also don’t want to scare him away by bringing all these serious things up when we have only been seeing each other for a few months, and very infrequently because we live far from each other. I also don’t know if the family would truly accept me bc i am white… i’m not saying they are racist. I’m just saying every single person in his entire extended family is brown and Muslim lol, and he did say they would try to convert me (which I am fine with lol). If anyone could give me insight as to what is going on in his head would be really appreciated lmao.
Hi! A muslim here! About the family situation and the worry of them not accepting you. I can tell you as a muslim myself, if they truly did not like you being american or non-religious, they would have tried stopping their son from seeing you or showing you apprehension.
As to his low sex drive, it truly can be different things; perhaps his sex drive is just lower than yours or he might be feeling fatigue and tired out from his busy work-schedule. As long as he is reaching out for intimacy from you, he's still interested in you. If that's the case I would just talk it out. You can just start the conversation with something like is work tiring you out? And somewhere along the line you can mention you'd like more intimacy. Keep the conversation open and try finding a solution together. Have a talk and you'll find out what the problem is. Good luck!