8 Different Types of NARCISSISTS And How To Spot Each One
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- Опубліковано 3 жов 2024
- In today's video Jill explains all of the different types of Narcissists and how to spot each one. Your power lies in how to spot all forms of Narcissists BEFORE they spot YOU as a valuable source of Narcissistic Supply. And today's video is going to teach you how to do that.
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The worst person you can deal with in this life, is a narcissist. They are evil, selfish, crafty, ruthless and heartless.
I couldn't agree more! 👍👍👍
That hurts so much because it’s my only child (daughter) whom I loved more than anyone, but now she works hard to destroy me mentally. It’s truly devastating.
Living a narcissistic free lifestyle has caused me to learn of how abused I’ve been both personally and professionally. Narcissism has warranted me to use much more discernment. Thank you for this information
I don’t know how to free myself of my father because I have disabilities and rely on his for rent money and more. 😢
There should be safe houses for victims of malignant narcissists cause I'd definitely make use of one
As you describe these different types of narcissistic behaviors I see faces 😂 . Yep, yep, and yep.
Yep 😂😂😂
@@goodmorningsundaymorning4533 SMH I have some stories 🤣👍😎👊🙏😇
I had a friend who dated a narcissist she met at church. He had even physically abused her several times, once picking her up by the throat and chocking her, her feet dangling off the floor. Undoubtedly, she was trauma bonded. (I know this in hind sight). I said to her, “You’d think meeting someone in a church; they’d never do such things.” She replied, “That’s where the wolves hide.”
She was in a “cycle of abuse” broke up with him, and would get back with him. She was even seeing a therapist, who gave her tips/ little exercises - to try to teach this narcissist better behaviors… So, she was back in the honeymoon stage, and telling me what nice things he was doing for her…
I told her, “I’m not trying to tell you how to live your life, and your choices are yours to make. However, stop trying to convince me he’s such a wonderful guy- because I know better. Good guys don’t choke their girlfriends. I’m sorry, but unlike your “therapist” I can’t be supportive of this physically abusive relationship.
Well, she discarded me shortly after that,
I heard they did eventually break up/ but whatever… Anyways, I just glad she came to her senses.
But the kicker is; not only was this therapist enabling this toxic abusive relationship- But my friend who was in it- was studying to get her psych degree herself.
Only shows- We need to be careful whom we trust; because we can be misguided…
Matthew 10:16
Anyone can go to church. Don’t blame church or being Christian for being a narcissist.
@@mossyoakmom8880 Seems you didn’t understand the story about my friends experiences with her narc boyfriend. There wasn’t any blame cast by me, on any particular church or Christianity.
And as far as her comment, “That’s where the wolves hide.” … Given her experiences, it’s only threw logic that she formed that opinion. :/
Anyways, I hope you have a blessed day. God bless you in Jesus name… Amen
@@garethwest9069 💯 God Bless you in Jesus name, 🙏 Amen.
@@Barbara_Banks_1 God bless you, too.
Wow! Great educational video Jill.
Now I know my ex is a somatic communal Narc.
And my parents are covert malignant & invert Narcs.
It helps knowing there’s a clinical definition for these demons.
Thank you
Wow my father is an Malignant Narcissist, my sister and mother have always known he was a narcissist but he is 1000% a malignant narcissist. My father use to be terrifying, cruel, vicious, psychically/emotionally abusive, a womanizer, was involved in crime, believed he was god and we de dirt, very vain, racist,a misogynistic & violent to all of us. He now is 82 & im his youngest daughter who takes care of him Full time and he is now suffering from Alzheimer’s dementia so he has pretty forgotten the trauma he inflicted on us but I have to live with it everyday.
Wow, the spiritual narcissists. Now, I understand those people I met at church. Not everyone of course. Those who can quote scripture chapter and verse and twist it into something to support their narrative.
Exactly 😊
Thanks millions to Jill - nothing could be more true and, it seems we have quite a few of these "God's" and "Goddeses" (whatever they are called) flying around our Western World these years.. always ready with some (a lot) "holy advice" and, this nó matter if we ask for it or not!
definitely, I know an Exactly demons called themselves best Christian
They can quote (and twist) the verses that suit their lies. But they omit and ignore all the one's that EXPOSE them (and there are many).
Church is one of the worst places. Priests and pastors are very high on the narc list
@JollyRanchers Darn it. I wish that didn't happen. It's a shame on him, not you. You can hold your head up and be proud to have survived the abuse. I hate to admit it but, I had to grow up with being yelled at and beaten no broken bones but, still painful. I guess Dad just didn't have sufficient patience and who learned from his father who learned from his father on and on.
As you went through the list my mind would go from one person to another. I have been married twice and both are narcissistic but both was different types. I'm free to be me now thank God.
I'm positive now that I am definitely dealing with a malignant narcissist, thank you for sharing this video.
Thanks 😊. You did a great job in providing us with the many evil faces of the cruel and wicked Cluster B abusive Narcissists 😢.
Good Riseing, yes my mom is a Machiavellian she got life insurance on me slept with my x Narc husband. She is the devil's reject . She like a virus .
Marisa Nostic Warrior 120
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Jill I completely agree with you about the church being a hunting ground of sorts for the narcissist. They also love going on Christian dating sites. Sometimes these subtypes overlap.
Bonita Homie it happened to me! Still learning to guard my heart! They so groom you! Thank God for a growing community of supporters! Blessings!
Excellent video. However, I’d like to add that they will interchange contingent upon what circumstance or lie for lack of a better word. The ex is covert but I’ve seen him become overt and spiritual if the situation deemed so.
OMG you just described my own mother when you explained the Covert, Communal & Spiritual Narcissist!! My childhood was a nightmare because of her. She is still this way to this very day. I'm currently in therapy trying to process the trauma she has caused throughout my life. Her sister (my aunt) is a narcissist too, but she flips between covert and overt narcissism.
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I have seen 6 of these 8 in my daughter-in-law. It is scary to put labels to this behaviour. It makes the reality so offensive and hurtful.
Now I understand the war between my parents as well as their apathy to the boys at home.
Thanks for this summary Jill, nice to hear your knowledge about them. Much needed.Too few people understand it yet. My whole family, friends, collegues, employers, businesspartners etc, overt, covert, king baby, the vulnerable, manic depressive and literally everywhere. It's about time they went extinct. Or back to Source as some (neatly) say.
I'm so fortunate to have a grandiose narcissist father and a covert narcissist mother. They're the worst thing that happened to me so life can just get better from here. I'm 29 now but better later than never.
I'm twice your age & only one year woke. My dearly evil mother is far to healthy @86 yo. Best wishes to you they get worse with age, I promise!
@@keithstewart7514 I have moved out of their place now. Ofcourse they're not happy that their punching bag has left . So I have to grow in my career now.
What we both experienced could have been an actual valuable thing to have been discussed in health class @ 3rd, 6th,9th & then 12th grade to ready to go out into the world & work place so as to know something more useful than the school basic's when 6 decades later I'm lucky to even be alive. Hell on Earth could be HEAVEN on Earth if Narcopathetic PEOPLE didn't breed & use the Authoritarian Christian dictatorship behind closed doors & BEEN faking being a Christian so well while DOING lifelong harm to their loved one's for the sake of their harmonious DEMONIC competition.
@@keithstewart7514 i married the wrong guy just to escape my parents. Fortunately I left him at 28 and now at 29 I'm rebuilding my life in a new city. I left my home without having any job in my hand. It was a huge gamble but with a huge reward. I am starting my internship tomorrow at a big research institute :)
And I know eventually I will find the kind of love I always wanted.
I always knew something was wrong but after my failed marriage I went to a therapist. She pulled me out of this mess.
When did you realise your family was narcissistic?
Im 21, thankfully not too late but late enough to fuck up my most productive years but gotta restart anyways
I grew up with what I feel was an overt, grandiose narcissist father. Later in life, still uneducated on NPD, I started a relationship in 2014..it turned out to be the most awful situation and I wouldn't even call it a relationship once he really showed who he was deep down. I spent 8 years with this person and a few years before the relationship ended, I started to search for answers on what was going on in this situation. My ex fit every single sign of being a malignant narcissist/Dark Triad. He was very cruel, sadistic and terrifying and he actually held off from full mask slip for a few years. It was a situation that got a little worse every year. The only reason I stayed for years after I suspected he was a malignant narcissist was I was genuinely afraid to leave.
Recently, there's been a large abuse awareness channel online where the person running the channel - actually asked women that have been abused "why did they lower their standards" and tolerate the abuse.. this content creator is actually a self admitted narcissist that says he's reformed and no longer narcissistic, which I believe is a mask..and a lie.
After 8 years, I can definitely say that people being abused in these terrible relationships initially meet a person they perceive to be a nice person just down on their luck. The narcissist goes after empaths, so I think that's how they fish for one...they present a victim sob story early on into the relationship that makes the empathic person empathize with the narcissist... and makes the empath want to give the person a chance
The abuse becomes subtle, underhanded at first and very insidious. The more abuse that is tolerated, the more abusive they become. So, it's not about lowering our standards willingly. We fall in love with a person wearing a mask over who they really are, and by the time you realize what kind of person you're really dealing with, you feel utterly trapped.
I'm so Glad to now be NO CONTACT and physically hundreds of miles away from this evil person
so glad you emphasized the safety concerns❤ it's no joke how dangerous that type is
Forgiving does not mean tolerating abuse. The Bible tells us not to tolerate Jezebel which is one of the spirits behind narcissism. Forgiveness is part of healing. It is not for the narcissist it is to set you free from the power of another to hold you in bondage. Vengeance belongs to God. You do not have to stay with a narcissist.
💯👍👍👍And forgiveness often takes a long time for some of us. It does help to rid them from the free rent they take up in our heads. Also, it "cuts a spiritual cord" and lessens/removes their power over us.
2 Timothy 3:1-5 KJV describes a narcissist and ends by saying “from such turn away.”
Dang, I'm all the above, messed up totally, what hope can I hope for ?
My daughter and I have discussed the topic of the spiritual narcissist and thank you for sharing this wonderful information. This is confirmation. 🥰😍🙏
You're the Best.
I appreciate your information.
I know I'm getting better.
I understand everything you are talking about.
Actions speak louder than words.
Thank you.
Peace 💕🇺🇲
Brilliant summary Jill. Really appreciate all your work this year and every year. Merry Christmas!
I am terrified 😱. Narcissists are everywhere! I am high in neuroticism. I guess I am going to move to an isolated place, stay inside a bunker, hidden under a bed. I need to become a hermit. I also need to have access to huge stock of tranquilizers. 😬😰
Sometimes you feel like you are becoming a malignant narcissist to be able to deal with them.
Wow thank you for all the work you put into this Jill ! Very informative !!!
Good afternoon Jill
Those Spiritual Puddles are out in full bloom this month. That being said, the various segments of the Puddle are everywhere in society.
But people should recognize that unless they reinforce their boundaries and recognize the self worth. They could be susceptible to any toxic person. Avoidance is not conducive to a person's betterment. Which in truth will be harmful in a person's long term.
Thank you Jill, this was a real "Tour de Force". For most people getting your head round why anyone could or would deceive another person for personal gain, is difficult to grasp ( especially in a loving relationship) which is why the Narcissist can fool so many. It's not because people are stupid, but because they can't imagine themselves being so dishonest and cruel. Once you gain a level of understanding of Narcissism it becomes easier to except that there are sick people who just don't care. Wishing you and all survivors and thrivers a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year from Scotland. x
you missed the neglectful type and the self righteous narcissist. type... i endured 7 years of hell with a malignant type (the verbal emotional psychological and even physical was tremendous, i can assure other worldly.. the dynamics of obedience and explosiveness
too , the cruelty, the menace, the rigidity, the rage, anger, wrath explosive very unsettling )_... you are right NEVER call them out or exposed them to other people. i did.. the consequences i can even begin to describe em .... almost lose my life, lost my job, my health, my reputation, my 40,000 savings, legal problems he took me to court file a restrain order.... please never call a malignant type out....
ITs EXTREMELY DANGEROUS
Some of them will tell you who they are. They already know they are malignant.
I am worried if I can be one of a narcissist. Sometimes, I catch myself with a few traits of what you described. Could I be a narcissist? I realize I behave like a narcissist when I am in company of other narcissists. But realizing that I try not to be like them.
I don't think they question themselves since they think they are perfect. You may have narcissist fleas or some narcissist traits. We all need a degree of narcissism in order to survive in this world. Empath lacks it and it makes them so vulnerable to the narcissists.
HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO YOU AND YOUR SON, JILL 😇🙏🏼🌟💫💕💖WE APPRECIATE YOU SO VERY MUCH!! 🥰
My ex Rabbi is a narcissist...I feel very comfortable calling her a "spiritual narcissist"....
The Talmud was written by narcissists, so ...
There are female rabbis?
Great video !!🌹🌹🌹
Thank You❤️💔❤️🕊️😇🕊️
I used to have one a toxic narcissist but she gave me a $100.00 dollar bill and I put it iny wallet and I took a shower as I came back into the bedroom to get ready for work she had said to me I'm calling the law on your ass that you had went in to my wallet and stole the $100.00 dollar out of it. I said you gave me the $100.00 and she called me a a liar as I walked out and got into my car and I went to a gas station to get gas for my car as I looked into my wallet she took out the $100.00 dollar bill and place it with a $5.00 bill. She went behind my back and switched it on me. I'm thinking how dirty can that be to do that to someone. No conscious she had.
Why would someone do that??? weird
Very informative.👍
Thank you for the thorough work you did on this. It cleared up some questions I had.
With spiritual narcissists they appear to worship but lack the character part of it.
Really informative,
Thanks you so much.😊👍
Excellent. Some give 6 to 9 different types of narcissist
I lived with 2 covert narcissists Marie hampson Margaret McKenna a horrible experience twice,now I'm dealing with a malignant narcissist in crighton David Mathers who doesn't care about anyone even his family,the vibes you get around this guy give you the creeps, dangerous little man who uses anyone and everyone then plays the victim when you catch him out,
I loved that you named them. More of this please. My brothers Mike, Mark & Malcom Parrish are also various kinds of narcissists.
❤i like your teaching sister thanks for sharing sweet things you tech about abnormal people I ignore them I live my life with lovely forever father jesus ❤
Born Free but everywhere in narc supply chains.
Thank you. I think my father is a covert narcissist
Thanks
7 out 8.wow.
Hello Jill and thank you for the videos. You look gorgeous today and Happy Holidays!
Can they be a bit of all types ? Thank you in advance for a reply 🙏
It seems like flying monkeys are inverted narcissists (talking about the ones who know full well, what they're doing, when they actively abuse the victims &/or participate in the main narc's abuse of his/her targets & victims). After my husband died, I dealt with an ex family friend (like our adopted uncle or grandpa), whose gross sexual, romantic & marital propositions, I rejected. He's old enough to be my father, and I didn't have any idea he was not the kind old man that my late husband portrayed him as. He used male flying monkeys, to stalk, gangstalk, harrass, attack & assault me. These guys were absolutely gung-ho, it was unbelievable, the lengths they went, to criminally abuse me, to help the malignant narc continue to target me, out of revenge, for rejecting him. The malignant narc teamed up with them, & arranged for them to lure me to a supposed family barbecue (but ended up not being that, at all), where they trapped me, drugged me, gangraped me, and trafficked me (it was a multiple-day ordeal for me). However, because the malignant narc presents himself, in public, as this nice generous old man, when I finally put 2+2 together & realized it was he, that set all this up, the authorities still didn't believe me. This man also directly SA'd me, and abused & violated me, in every way possible, while I was his live-in housekeeper & cook. It took me awhile to figure it all out; but, he did confess it to me, in both subtle & direct ways. He makes a grand public show, of helping the homeless & needy people, while out in public; however, whoever he is helping is actually (& oftentimes, unaware) that they've been targeted by him & his flying monkeys. I really think that he is a combo of all 8 types; but, mainly, he is malignant.
This all sounds so horrible I wish I could explain my ordeal. In full detail but let's just say.i am a 59 man whose grow up across the street my best friend 5 generations his daughter moved in she now is 39 4 kids for 30 months 2 and a half years I fell into her Webb or love bomb devalving her having a 20; year old boy friend after another 2 weeks to 2 months a would suffer my house being broken into cars stoled attempted to being robbed ect her father gave me. Credit for looking after her.here he'd been fighting with her drama and young 20 year old thug thriving gun toting drug dealing identity thriving car stealing boy friends drive bys house listed as a noicence disorder several times. It was a roller coaster ride a covert molignen narcissist Its taken another 30 months to over come the devistation of me once I was fed up with being used and abused .loved me for all I did for her and her kids but had no respect rune down behind my back .blamed me for everything that went wrong .them when I was getting a guy out of her house after her boyfriend or he stole her purse she went nuts got my face . I felt a foot tall I said your gonna chose him over me she was in my face threatening me .I shoved her out of my face next day her dad took my side he was sick of paying all her bills the kids slept in the front room three rooms of her four bedroom house were accuppied by drug addicts ect .he was ready to pull the meal ticket she begin an all out smere campaigne in listing all the neighbors using her kids against me I was a monster beat her. Then kids said she wouldn't guit until she had me locked up . I bought her flower tried to appologize then she acted nice thenasked me to fix the kids bikes then wham cops show up.arrest me her saying I touched her three year old.they took me in and guestioned me .the kids her ect .they came back in shook they're heads said we are not pressing charges against you.but we. Suggest you leave this women alone.qhichbi did. I went no contact except when she had others over she would tell out her door you rapped my kids on and on. Then she went even farther had he kids tesylted at the hospital they said your kids have not been molested.she thought she could get a check for two of her kids for (post tramatic stress disorder) .she was gacked out on meth took them to another hospital demanding that I and another guy had molested her kids.
This all sounds so horrible I wish I could explain my ordeal. In full detail but let's just say.i am a 59 man whose grow up across the street my best friend 5 generations his daughter moved in she now is 39 4 kids for 30 months 2 and a half years I fell into her Webb or love bomb devalving her having a 20; year old boy friend after another 2 weeks to 2 months a would suffer my house being broken into cars stoled attempted to being robbed ect her father gave me. Credit for looking after her.here he'd been fighting with her drama and young 20 year old thug thriving gun toting drug dealing identity thriving car stealing boy friends drive bys house listed as a noicence disorder several times. Well it back fired the state stepped in took custody of her kids. By then she had a PFA against me living across the street in a home I owed . She had said I threw a bicycle in the yard. Breaking a PFA.yah I ended up in jail 6 months going to court. Got out on a year ancle monitor lost my house everything I owned was stripped and gone I was homeless living at the river on an ancle monitor going to church to charge it my mother died I lost my home and got into it with her which she went on.a narc rage cause her father took my side she tried to silence my voice.with lies and false alligations .that if there were any truth to any of this.ivwould be doing 20 to 30 years .so this all has been a twisted mind boggling life altering 5 year event.wow and to this day all the evil cruel twisted drama and chaos she created.she blames me. In 30 months I never touched her I told her nothing would ever happen between us . unless she wanted to but .after two years.and there was so any men in her life the point I thought my loyal paid off she and her kids were doing good then her father gave me credit is when the mask begin to slip and .when I said why don't you get these people out of your life.thats when it all begin to crumble and the evil within her came fourth like a 15 year old spoiled young girl hating me so bad. She wanted me dead .only God himself seen the truth .and I some how crawled through all this. Wow it put me through so much mentally challenging upsets.
So I lost my home everything I owned .she has at least 20 family members sister aunts uncles nieces nephews which they all know me.and her father mother no one was there in court with.no one ever spoke out against me I have known these people all my life they know my character.and she stood in court all alone it's sad even to this day she goes around saying another guy and I raped her kids.whats so sad I was the only one that was around the 4 kids for that 30 months that was stable her father only stopped in .so her mother got custody of her kids he sold the house once I was out of the picture she continued to destroy everything .her father obviously knows the truth.he just don't understand why she is the way she is . He put her through drug treatment she went learned nothing .but when she went to her mom's she got a job and will likely not change her narcissistic ways the cycle will continue they say. Sad but true so I'm figuring out what I am. Through this I thought it was my place to help her raise them kids it's a shame what them kids have and will go through.with a cruel cold heart twisted mother like that
Narcopathetic PEOPLE have no limit to the drama with harm they can create or cause.
I always wondered why my father & brother could be the holy CRAP out of me WITHOUT mother ever noticing which was actually mild & amateurish by comparison to what Hell she had for me all along. Weaponizing GOD'S LOVE is what broke the bubble for me at my half year birthday plus 58 mother hucking years old!
Good point about flying monkeys being invert narcissists willing to do whatever for the malignant narcissist.
Wow !
OMG they are everywhere 😤😤😤😤
Oh no I exposed the Grand NARC of our DAY ,, I am shivering in my pissed paints
You've about covered everybody I know. Both sides of family, children, Church aquantiances, neighbors.
Where does one go with this?
Sounds hopeless and dismal.
The inverted narcissist is actually bpd
I think my child's mother are 3 out of 8.
I want to launch a NPD channel in the future Spanish/English want to reach a audience in the community
My daughter was married to a creep who showed every trait, in every narcissistic TYPE, that you have described. I know for a fact that he killed the dog owned by the man who my daughter now has in her life. He did it out of vengeance and jealousy, even though he destroyed the marriage by being a serial adulterer. Interesting also is that he always selects married women to have sex with. I believe he see's it as stepping on another man's territory and it makes him feel superior. He WAS a cop, and I remember once he came home from work and was complaing that a female officer in his department was attracted to a new, younger recruit. He said she should be attracted to HIM..... after all, he said, I'm higher rank and older.". 😂 He said this as my daughter was feeding their 2 month old daughter her bottle.
I was born into equity , so far it has always been about just that (My equity)
the communal narcissist - does a lodda work for charidee, doesn't like to talk about it though...
Can they be a combo of a few?
all of the above (spannxxx!!)
What about people who are na4cisisst in multiple ways, and psyco na4cisisst the ones that hurt or kill you
I define my ex-wife as a malignant, malicious covert narcissist.
Im sorry this is long but I need help!!! I want to begin by saying that I’m no where near perfect, I’m far from it. I’m constantly trying to better myself, grow & evolve. If I hurt someone’s feelings I get so upset at myself. Due to my childhood & ex husband, I have complex PTSD with dissociation. I was single for 7 years before I got into this relationship, I wanted to be healthy for everyone involved).
My current partner of 4 years was NOT abused & didn’t have a traumatic childhood. I’m also his first REAL relationship since he’s been an adult. He had a HS sweetheart who he spoke well about. He had flings in college but nothing like we’ve had. He’s also 11 years younger than I am. He’s 33 I’m 44 with two boys in their early twenties. His parents are really kind people & they treat me very well. I did have an abusive childhood but have had lots of therapy. He speaks highly of his Momma & Grandmother. He had a great relationship with his parents. Actually everyone in his family. He’s mentioned a long time ago that he may be on the autism spectrum but I don’t know?! He does kind things for others without wanting things in return, like I do. I’m ADHD, incredibly sensitive (he says he is as well but not as much as me) & can feel the emotions of others. To the point that is makes me a great energy healer. My mom asked if he was bc she said he looks like it. I don’t know what that means. My Mother is another story.
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. The first 1.5 years we had a long distance relationship & learned so much about each other. March of 2020 I moved in with him… 6 months after moving in with him i noticed the jabs or mean spirited comments if I pissed him off. He does do really nice things for me as well and often. I’ve seen him cry countless times too. So he does have feelings. Even says really kind, loving, says uplifting things to me. He buys me nice things, pays for my things, massages my back if it hurts. Nice things like this. Wants to be with me all of the time. He hates cheaters (as do I).
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I either say something he doesn’t like or we have a disagreement. OMG. It turns into WW3. Especially when he’s tired or stressed. I’ve gotten to the point where I’m hesitant on saying something bc I don’t know how he will respond. If I say something that he doesn’t agree with or I give MY opinion about something he automatically turns verbally aggressive. Raise his voice but not yell. Becomes condescending & antagonist. To the the point where he says --I don’t want peace, just war. I’m a f’ing bi*ch, manipulator, an abuser, a gaslighter, he can’t believe I’m treating him like this or that (all I did was bring something up!!). Brings up my past (I was married to a sociopath & he gave me CPTSD with dissociation). I regret teaching him about Narcissism as I was trying to explain to him how & what my ex husband did to me. My BF & my ex husband are very different. My ex was a serial cheater, gaslighting me to the point I had a nervous breakdown, covertly destroyed me. He did call me an idiot or scoff, laugh at me but didn’t say things to my FACE like my BF does. He Let others belittle me. Told others I was crazy & mentally unstable.
My BF later admits later in that he’s reactive. He did go through something horrific in 2014 that changed the course of his life. He’s confided in me that he’s been angry bc of what it did to him & his life (it involved police brutality & caused him to go into cardiac arrest bc 2 cops attacked him) And that he shouldn’t have said those things. The things that are said to me are truly hurtful & heartbreaking. The conversation never gets resolved. Ever. If he asks me a question & I give him my honest answer he will ask the the SAME question AGAIN & tell me it’s okay, you can tell me the truth!!! Or he thinks his answer is correct (even if it’s my specialty, such as my degree) It infuriates me bc I AM telling him the damn truth!!!! I love him dearly but I’m beginning to not like him. I’m beginning to become resentful towards him for how he’s been treating me. He does have empathy (at least I think he does). I’m really confused!!! Has anyone else experienced this??? I don’t know what to do or think!! He’s amazing until he’s not. If that makes sense. He does try to patch things up afterwards. But I’m left depressed & heartbroken. I would never say the things he does to me. We’re from different generations & grew up differently. I don’t use cuss words to describe people, he does. He grew up with the internet, I didn’t. We have the same core values & morals but we have a lot of differences as well. I’ve had some relationships & I’m his first adult one. I’m so confused!!!
Please, I need advice!!! Thank you! I don’t want to throw something away because I’m being triggered and thinking irrationally. But I also don’t want to waste another 10 years of my life if I’m making a mistake….. 🙏🤍
Plz escape. Brainwashing is a common trait, my parents did it to me & @ 58 yo I WOKE! 59 now and still running for safety
I should have ran for my life when my ex-girlfriend said "I'm usually the prettiest and smartest in my relationships."
I know right...we should listen more than we talk. I had a roommate who told me that she has been always the one controlling her friends. Guess what she is a control freak.
Why do people become narcissistic?
I am in a narcissist relationship and sick physically emotionally mentally will he ever change cuz I can’t do this anymore 😔
A leopard cannot change their spots. Remember this: They do not do any introspection, defined as "a psychological process that involves looking inward to examine one's own thoughts, emotions, judgments, and perceptions."
My advice is to get out ASAP!
1:59 The more you know the more danger the Narcissist is in. As for the rest of us we own guns and rather find out the hard way ;)
Spircalnarcacist did not know
My mother-in-law was so vain, and always wanted her way or the highway. And always displayed herself as being superior and better than others. While trying to manipulate everybody with the way that she dressed, as if she was a vagrant. Always wanted to control everything and everyone around her. And super materialistic of her possessions, which weren’t worth anything for the most part. Like an old transistor radio. And the only thing my father-in-law bought her for Christmas were batteries. What the hell is that. She didn’t want perfume she didn’t care about her appearance, but yet she wanted to control everyone and everything around her. What kind of narcissist was she. And cheap oh my God was she cheap. She didn’t even offer me in 50 years a cup of coffee when I came to the house. Yet she would sit there in front of me and drink a coffee. Black no sugar. And she gave up sugar so they could make bombs during World War II to kill people. She did not care if anybody innocent was killed in the war as long as her side was the Victor.
Bottom line, a narc is evil.
There is only one thing you need to detect to put the Narcissist in eminent danger of a swift death. (HATE)
Hey ! everyone , ! {Mr RasPutin is a NARC) and he is also a homosexual who dresses in women's clothing inside the closet)
What about guys like myself whom doesn’t seek attention nor followers for stopping over 21 out of 25 terrorist attacked and had to stay silent for 21 years over the surrender of the hydrogen bomb Eric Rudolph and my brother Freds terrorist organization stole from a military base in the 199’s and disarmed the night of January 28, 1998.
All ai want if Justice for the victims but having to be aggressive toward their supporters has nothing to do with ego but defensive to gaslighting and aggressive narcissistic terrorists.
I have no enjoyment seeing others suffer by no means and it’s is depressing about how their family members are about to suffer over their bad decisions. But to me there is a difference in trying to look your best physically because if you feel good physically you’re more probed to feel mentally well.
But I agree with some of your findings but there is a difference in doing what God motivates you to do and doing it for self image or trying to appear like you care verses us whom have died twice and came back to life and enjoy doing it without reward nor recognition because not once have I sought recognition except to finish my job bringing the rest of those child raping and murdering Donestic terrorists to justice and if that’s narcissistic then I’ll accept my title joyfully.
Its satan leave them alone and they flee
The other 7 are delusional
They're all delusional.
@@aloysiusdevanderabercrombi470 exactly
Not tolerant of others having “political beliefs different from their own” ? That reminds me of Joe Bidens vilification, and mischaracterization of all Trump supporters… 🤔 crazy times we’re living in… Thank you for your videos.
tRUMP is a full on NARC, you have been brainwashed like many many others.
I got one her name is Nora. She likes to destroy our property. She use to come over by foot and put dents in my vehicle or throw gas paint thinner or some chemical on my vehicles. Then I put up security cameras she stop coming over for months. No she uses a drone to scratch my vehicle now and puts a can with a string and picks up the can filled up with gas paint thinner or some chemical and sets it on the vehicle and tips the can over with the gas and the takes the drone to make a spark to set a fire. So far no fires. Her husband is a truck driver that leaves on a Monday and comes back on a Friday. She must abuse him. I'm hoping to catch the woman put her in prison.
As always👍 Thank you 💜