TEST YOURSELF: Shadow's Complexes - Which Ones Have YOU Got?
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- Опубліковано 8 чер 2024
- Which of these shadow complexes do you have?
God complex
Inferiority complex
Guilt complex
Hero, rescuer, fixer, healer, or savior complex
Martyr complex
Persecution complex
Brother-sister complex
Casanova complex
Don Juan complex
Oedipus/Electra complex
Parental complex (mother or father)
Romulus and Remus complexes
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Martyr & guilt. Oh, I was a “bad baby,” and did not seem to improve from there.
The martyr complex is related to the guilt, and both are a result of being the scapegoat. Self-annihilation is a hell of a lot of work.
I definitely have the Sam Vaknin Video Complex.
I can identify like 4 in myself. The most notable is the savior/rescuer complex and it makes perfect sense. I had to start working at age 10 to help my mother and brothers/sisters. And i just recently found out my mother is just another kid even tho she's now in her 60's. A soon as I get back to the work force I will start saving some money to get a remote evaluation with Sam. I must make the best out of the next 20 years.
The first one is what i have changed the most. I used to people please too much. The thing that actually stopped me putting others first was having goals in life. Short term and long term. Without a goal you will be more likely to give up your energy. Just my experience
I have a three year older covert narcissist sibling. He's not a brother he's just a sibling since I disowned him. He has waged sibling warfare against me my entire life. I don't recall ever feeling a desire to destroy him but just to defend myself from his incessant attacks that became increasingly Machiavellian as he aged. I've opted for no contact for about a decade even though he attempted forced communication. I committed, if I recall the term correctly, narcissist mortification by calling him out on social media for misconduct with our former father's estate. I thought it was the only card I could play to protect myself from further misconduct but maybe I'm lying and wanted to poke him in the eye one good time before I got rid of him for stealing my soul.
I have one just like that. He has dined out on reading our youngest brother & me for trash, and undermined our lives, our entire adult lives. I decided to just ignore him for as long as we have left.
At first I thought this said "I have a three year old covert narcissist sibling" 😂.
I was gonna say, wow they are a bit young to judge lol@@bethmoore7722
Professor, please can you do a video about children who are sent to boarding school, especially those who were sent to board in UK while their parents lived on another content and worked abroad in places like Africa and Asia.
I read Boarding School Syndrome by Dr Joy Schaverien.
She describes how the child splits his psyche to survive there. And how boarding doesn’t provide the environment for the development of emotional intelligence and empathy. They are not able to learn emotional intimacy without the presence of the mother. There is no room for emotional expression and feelings are internalised and shut down.
I believe these schools may create the Cerebral Covert.
It may also influence their sexuality due to the things that go on in these institutions. I recently read of Earl Spencer’s recollection of abuse, he admitted being emotionally undeveloped too. I hear this creates devious and promiscuous behaviour like hookups through apps.
I’ve heard from wives of ex-boarders…on the hell they go through with this.
This sort of abandonment in an institution is way worse than simply being a neglected child at home. I believe the trauma is worse.
Please deep dive into this and how it impacts their relationships. Thank you.
Thank you for the topic suggestion. Will do.
Very pertinent subject for many of us who grew up with fathers subjected to these awful institutions & conditions
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Hi Sam! People are conditioned by their immediate family or societal expectations. Different cultures have their own traditions, as well.
I have the first one. ✨🤣
Me too😂
Me too 🎉
I have the Martyr complex for sure. It’s so exhausting. You’ve described my childhood perfectly that explains this complex. I’ve had to take care of my siblings as well because my parents were on drugs. I also have the persecution complex. My boyfriend has the god complex, which is why I gave him an ultimatum today to receive therapy or I’m done with him. He also has the hero complex.
OMG 😫😫 I can check my off on so many. 😂😂 It’s been years since I’ve been working on them. Seems like no big deal now but it’s been one hell of a crazy ride.
Highly interesting. Thank you Sam
I absolutely need to listen to you everyday. The complex is real. Such a stimulating man. Thank you❤
I suppose that I'm, as you opined, one of the "lucky" ones, since none of these complexes seem to fit with me. Is there any such a thing as an "outsider complex", where a person doesn't see a connection between himself and the rest of humanity, and feels utterly alien, utterly "other" to anyone he meets, and feels like a changeling switched at birth with the real human child his parents really gave birth to? That's the only one I think I could shoehorn into my psyche.
Possibly Schizoid.
Convert narcissist
always awesome.
Throughout my life I've had four of these. I've gotten rid of them, but once in a blue moon, that guilt complex makes its appearance.
Just started watching, and yes, I do have the Sam Vaknin video complex.
A very good friend of mine had Don Juan complex. Now I can understand why his favourite hero was Johnny Depp who has played this role...and he was so "grandiose" ....when he realised he can't have me ....he shamelessly employed the technique of "altruistic surrender"... thankfully I got rid of him....but now can understand his psyche and sir thanks to u...because of the wonderful occult knowledge you provide I can now say that I have no bitterness for him.... thankfully he is completely out of my mind ....
I used to have a Persecution complex,but what have you heard? Thanks Prof.Gold as always.
My Don complex stems from my fear of missing out because I didn't go to college and get to participate in all the sexual activities that my friends got to. So then I needed to catch up. It's a bad mix with my people pleasing complex because then I start to feel guilty and feel that I have to take care of them for forever. So the best targets for me are people who are in need, because then I can fix them in the process. How many complexes are in there?
Here I am, a lucky one! Because of the opportunity to hear about it, as well, and join your channel! Thank you! It's good to know that mechanisms. I'd like to hear more about the psychology of the nations, for example the Palestinians and Israelis, as you have mentioned in the previous video - and I agree with you - or, precisely, I'd like to say that the Palestinians/Hamas are... suffering from the (various/some?) psychological disorders. In my opinion it's impossible to talk to them, they are collosal pretenders and never responsible for their decisions, they are blaming Israel always and for everything. Etc. I think it must be transparent to you, so, please, if it's possible, tell us more about that topic. Also, about the suffering of the political authorities, autocrats, tyranny of any regime. How much people may suffer or be a servants or martyrs? And one more thing: how do you see the migration problematic, what happened to the male population that they are ready to go away from their homeland rather than stay and fight the dictators/regime? Generally, could it be possible to have a healthy politicians, via controlling their health status? Thank you very much! 🌻🖖
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The problem is i lost my second shadow 😉
Thanks Sam Vaknin 👌
Great videos! I know a woman with BPD who appears to have the Casanova Complex. I would be interested in learning about why Borderlines are permiscuous and/or Polyamorous...
Search the BPD playlist and both sexuality playlists.
In a family of psychopaths(unable to escape for now),if I decide not to abuse them how to make sure I don't become a borderline?
You can't "make sure", even awareness isn't a certain to protect us from emotional damage from abuse or adversity - we aren't built to be able to intellectualise pain away. Be kind to yourself, be cautious, be uninteresting to them (grey rock method applies here) and limit interactions to minimum while remaining courteous, polite and helpful - just disinterested. It's getting sucked into games these people play with eachother over promise of getting even or trying to win and earn their "love" that is the most dangerous. Work on your self worth, on your identity your hobbies and plans - you can protect your "self"and your emotional state by steadily making it less dependent on the approval of volatile, toxic, immature people.
And run,as fast and far as possible.
What is my true self ? How to recognise true self from other psychologival defense mechanism and false self ??is true self is my core self (that never changes) ? Or which part of me is really me ? Which part of me is my true self or real me?? Plz make a video of this sir...
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“Voracious Vaknin Video Viewing” also known as the Quad V Complex. A pernicious and time consuming disorder that…well, we will wait for the soon to come Video wherein Sam Vaknin himself will no doubt delve into the pathologic processes at work in the minds of the ever growing number of people afflicted this newly discovered and highly concerning mental health disorder.
Thank you for the topic suggestion.
Professor, can a person with an inferiority complex develop god complex over time?
Yes. Compensatory narcissism.
I have a guilt complex very badly and I don't know how to fix it
You could start by trying to forgive yourself. I’m sure you’ve tried telling yourself that all those things probably aren’t your fault and that hasn’t worked.. That’s because the feelings aren’t rational, they’re trapped emotions. The way to release and process them is to allow them, feel them and then try to bring some kindness to yourself as well. Possibly EMDR might help, or somatic experiencing perhaps.
Another thing would be to give yourself some love, enough so that your child self can recognise (without feeling challenged) that you’re not actually so important that everyone else’s lives and problems are your fault. That’s not to say you aren’t important.. It’s just to say that believing everything is your fault might well be a form of grandiosity- which is a very understandable and common compensation for a lack of self love.
Nothing to feel ashamed about, just something to work on.
It may feel very uncomfortable to begin with, but really try to tell yourself you’re okay.. not so bad.. doing your best, not meant to be perfect.. a work in progress and that’s okay.. eventually work up to giving yourself love. It may feel uncomfortable and daft at first, but it gets easier as you build new neural pathways.
You see you probably need to repair the damage that was done to your cognition and brain in childhood and later, by giving yourself the love you didn’t fully receive. You can reprogram yourself. Good luck.
Can you have more than one complex?
Yes.
Daddy issues here 🙋♂️