Needy behaviour is abandonment trauma from childhood. Understand your worth first. Then you'll see you don't 'need' anyone. The mind is fickle though. Be wary of the mind.
It also comes from lack of validation and love as a child/teen. So when someone gives it to you you’re scared it will go away so you try to force it out of fear
@@lacidrainlfind your spiritual place in the world. Whatever that means to you and you’ll see that no matter what you go through or have been through, your soul, who you truly are is always loved. The agony of this world can be overbearing. Turn in to tune out and be at peace.
Read the book man. It's always part of the learning curve to make mistakes. Don't beat yourself up over it. The best thing I've found that works when women do this is to get in the gym and focus on your self. You'd be surprised what happens you'll go a few days and not even realize it. And guess who calls to check up and see how you're doing... make a date over the phone and enjoy my man.
This is me coach. I’ve gotten to a point that where my woman is going through shit and her heart is throwing a tempest and I just Sail my boat through it and come out on top, but I’m still healing from my past needy behavior. I can tell she’s testing me and as much as I want to shower her with love and affection I know there’s times when she need space which gives me the time to focus on my mission and purpose. Thanks for all that you do coach. I’m going to make you proud.
Guys read the whole goddamn book with utter passion. The relationship skills (communication) also comes handy while dating because the faster she gets open up the faster you will know whether she has a track record of ducking things up or she is a high quality human being
This is so true! A couple years ago I was dating a younger lady and about a month in she did this to me. And her response was "There it is"! I've learned a lot from your book and vidoes.... Thank you Corey
It’s impressive how many points he nails in this video. Especially towards the end with the “bumps in the road” parts of a relationship. When they turn cold and stop reaching out for a few days and you know something’s wrong. Very true about the difference in communication between different women I’ve dated. But at the end of the day it was my fault or some subconscious form of neediness that got me in that situation in the first place.
@@rawandmahmood5760 You know man that is a great question. We ended up breaking up a few weeks after that, and I've had some time to reflect. It lines up with some personal (daddy) issues that she had alluded to before we even started dating. But I am not absolved from all blame. Some over pursuing likely got me in that bump in the first place.
@@ioneil1808 wow dude, I experienced a similar situation very recently. I was in the courting phase with a girl I met online back in the summer. She also alluded to her daddy issues during our first phone date. About a month in, after I went to visit her, she slowed down communication and didn't reach out for like 4-5 days. I became needy and it was at this moment where I began to overpursue for the next 2 months with her being very cold in terms of communication. I didn't realize my mistake until I watched more of Corey's videos. It got to a point where I reversed it but I was still making mistakes with the ways she tested me. Tests to make me reach out to her more. Not a good idea. I didn't end up getting into a relationship with her and lovingly ended things a month ago. She repeatedly told me too many times that she's a "crazy bitch" and how oncr we're in a relationship she'll show me her chaotic side. Statements like that made me question what tf I was doing lmao. But yeah man, I relate with you a lot haha.
@@rawandmahmood5760 Yeah I hear that. I've honed in on the balance during the courting phase (waiting for her to hit the ball over the net tennis analogy). But where I've had issues is during the exclusive dating phase. After a few months of dating I lose feel of "the game" and just when I tend to over extend and do too much of the contacting, it ends up yielding bad results. You live and you learn from experience and failures I guess.
@@ioneil1808what would you say should I do if my Girlfriend for several months stops reaching out? That’s a different situation so should I also wait a whole week or something else?
Hey Coach, your work has vastly improved my dating life and now that I'm fresh out of a relationship with a great woman I'm applying the 3% man philosophy to my life outside of dating too and finally pursuing my dream of enlisting in the Marine Corps 1 year before I'm too old and hit the cut off age of 28; and not only that but I'm gunning for honor grad in boot camp by putting in the work only 3% of the class will be willing to, before I ship out in preparation and during boot camp Thanks and Blessings Coach
Coach, this was me to a Tee, I had been seeing this girl for a few months and it was my first time really being with a girl. She had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship and I didn't realize that I needed to give her more space and time to heal. I pressured her way too much and came off as needy and desperate. I failed her tests as well and instead of being a steady rock, I was very emotional. She said she didn't want a relationship and I didn't know what that meant until I read your book and learned so much. I spent a lot of time reading other books and looking over everything I did wrong. I’ve since improved my life and gotten it to a place where I want to be emotionally, career wise, and physically. It's her choice if she wants to connect again, I’d do some things differently but I think I scared her off to the point of no return. We'll see what happens.
Corey your accent is very understandable and clear even for a non born English speaker. I used to struggle a bit to understand Americans without subtitles . i live in the uk
Damn this vídeo came in at the right time, I'm 2 months in with this hot senior college but I have been so needy she even calling me unsecure not good look. But I'm falling for her hard, gotta get my shit together
As an old person who loves your work, I want to applaud this one. However, you missed a good chance for analogy concerning outcome-orientation that I was waiting for. You do have permission to use......for the right price, lol: when you keep opening the oven to see if the cake is done, you take all the heat out of it.
I’ve never been able to fully overcome “needy” emotions. The best I’ve learned to do is completely hide them. So I’ve noticed women always say they’re so impressed and happy that I never get mad or upset about anything. When in reality I am regularly mad and upset, but I mask it and try not to ever let it show. Then inevitably, whether it’s 2-3 months, or 9 months, or a year into the relationship, I’ll falter and outwardly get upset about something, not even that badly, then the woman will be shocked, and say she’s sad because she never saw me upset before. Then she’ll usually lose interest completely, and stop seeing me.
It sounds like you have the problem identified and you have a handle on it to a point. Instead of losing your cool in the future, couldn't you just express your insecurities in a more calm manner? I'll bet if you do that you'll only need to have the conversation with the girl one time.
Girls really play games like this and test you’re masculinity. I’ve been going out with my ex again and she was all crazy and blowing up my phone and set a date to hang out and all of sudden she goes ghost and hasn’t said shit for 3 days and since now I know Corey’s work. I know it’s all game or Tactic they do to see if you’re still weak and needy…the only thing I sent was the day we were suppose to hang out like hey we’ll just hang out some other day and she saw it and nothing …so now I havnt said shit.. it’s crazy how all girls play by the same rule book. I’m just going to wait for to reach out and if she doesn’t fuck it.
Coach's evil master plan: one day he'll say the word 'perturbed' in a way that will suddenly put us all under his spell..lol. CW is the best, no doubt about it!
I like the analogy of baking a cake, except I would substitute BBQ smoking meat. You can't keep opening the smoker door to check on low and slow cooking. If you're lookin' you ain't cookin'! 😁
Get in first and do this to her. Ghost her for a bit. It will make her think about you like crazy, wondering whether she’s done something wrong, or if there’s someone else and all that, and it will make her chase harder and appreciate you more when you do eventually get back in touch with her. Pull that sort of thing from time to time (cancelling dates is another alternative) and she’ll fall for you faster. Just think of all the things chicks do that make you anxious about where you stand with her and make you think about her more and pull those things on her. She’ll fall for you much faster that way.
Think about the situation where she gets depressed because her hamster died, doesn't want to talk about it, says "there's nothing wrong" and blames you for everything.
Always assume that when something goes sideways with a girl is bc there's another dude in the picture, always, so don't beg for her attention or something fool like that, in silence just go to the next girl, maybe the girl come back maybe not who cares
If you have to read a book 15 times to figure out to date, you've got bigger problems. With that said, we could all benefit from controlling our emotions.... I have been pressing my girlfriend a lot lately, and I need to chill the fuck out before I mess up for good
I like Cory and his techniques. However, a lot of what he’s saying still pedestalize women. If you feel like you are chasing it means that the universe is telling you that you’re on the wrong path. If she likes you; none of this nonsense will ever happen. Cory is a sales man!!! Remember that. If she doesn’t want you. Let her go; another bus is around the corner every 15 minutes
Every girl has another dude u just never know because they’re sneaky like that. Every girl even in a relationship have multiple guys lined up. It sucks but it is what it is
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Needy behaviour is abandonment trauma from childhood. Understand your worth first. Then you'll see you don't 'need' anyone. The mind is fickle though. Be wary of the mind.
It also comes from lack of validation and love as a child/teen. So when someone gives it to you you’re scared it will go away so you try to force it out of fear
These are great points, thank you 🙏🏽
Lack of understanding too
@@lacidrainlfind your spiritual place in the world. Whatever that means to you and you’ll see that no matter what you go through or have been through, your soul, who you truly are is always loved. The agony of this world can be overbearing. Turn in to tune out and be at peace.
Man, you totally nailed it.
Read the book man. It's always part of the learning curve to make mistakes. Don't beat yourself up over it. The best thing I've found that works when women do this is to get in the gym and focus on your self. You'd be surprised what happens you'll go a few days and not even realize it. And guess who calls to check up and see how you're doing... make a date over the phone and enjoy my man.
This is me coach. I’ve gotten to a point that where my woman is going through shit and her heart is throwing a tempest and I just Sail my boat through it and come out on top, but I’m still healing from my past needy behavior. I can tell she’s testing me and as much as I want to shower her with love and affection I know there’s times when she need space which gives me the time to focus on my mission and purpose. Thanks for all that you do coach. I’m going to make you proud.
The timing on this is off the wall. Been with a girl a while and literally yesterday started down this road in a hard way.
My god, this video comes as a gift. Me and this dude's story is exactly the same circumstances. I can't believe the serendipity.
Guys read the whole goddamn book with utter passion. The relationship skills (communication) also comes handy while dating because the faster she gets open up the faster you will know whether she has a track record of ducking things up or she is a high quality human being
This is so true! A couple years ago I was dating a younger lady and about a month in she did this to me. And her response was "There it is"! I've learned a lot from your book and vidoes.... Thank you Corey
I've overcome needy behavior but I still have the anxiety that comes with those feelings.
Me too
It’s impressive how many points he nails in this video. Especially towards the end with the “bumps in the road” parts of a relationship. When they turn cold and stop reaching out for a few days and you know something’s wrong. Very true about the difference in communication between different women I’ve dated. But at the end of the day it was my fault or some subconscious form of neediness that got me in that situation in the first place.
Did they stop reaching out because you over pursued or because the women was going through personal problems?
@@rawandmahmood5760 You know man that is a great question. We ended up breaking up a few weeks after that, and I've had some time to reflect. It lines up with some personal (daddy) issues that she had alluded to before we even started dating. But I am not absolved from all blame. Some over pursuing likely got me in that bump in the first place.
@@ioneil1808 wow dude, I experienced a similar situation very recently. I was in the courting phase with a girl I met online back in the summer. She also alluded to her daddy issues during our first phone date. About a month in, after I went to visit her, she slowed down communication and didn't reach out for like 4-5 days. I became needy and it was at this moment where I began to overpursue for the next 2 months with her being very cold in terms of communication. I didn't realize my mistake until I watched more of Corey's videos. It got to a point where I reversed it but I was still making mistakes with the ways she tested me. Tests to make me reach out to her more. Not a good idea.
I didn't end up getting into a relationship with her and lovingly ended things a month ago. She repeatedly told me too many times that she's a "crazy bitch" and how oncr we're in a relationship she'll show me her chaotic side. Statements like that made me question what tf I was doing lmao.
But yeah man, I relate with you a lot haha.
@@rawandmahmood5760 Yeah I hear that. I've honed in on the balance during the courting phase (waiting for her to hit the ball over the net tennis analogy). But where I've had issues is during the exclusive dating phase. After a few months of dating I lose feel of "the game" and just when I tend to over extend and do too much of the contacting, it ends up yielding bad results. You live and you learn from experience and failures I guess.
@@ioneil1808what would you say should I do if my Girlfriend for several months stops reaching out? That’s a different situation so should I also wait a whole week or something else?
5:00 a quote for what he's talking about
“Rules are a replacement for being in the present”
This video was much needed. I feel like this in my personal as well as romantic relationships
Hey Coach, your work has vastly improved my dating life and now that I'm fresh out of a relationship with a great woman I'm applying the 3% man philosophy to my life outside of dating too and finally pursuing my dream of enlisting in the Marine Corps 1 year before I'm too old and hit the cut off age of 28; and not only that but I'm gunning for honor grad in boot camp by putting in the work only 3% of the class will be willing to, before I ship out in preparation and during boot camp
Thanks and Blessings Coach
Coach, this was me to a Tee, I had been seeing this girl for a few months and it was my first time really being with a girl. She had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship and I didn't realize that I needed to give her more space and time to heal. I pressured her way too much and came off as needy and desperate. I failed her tests as well and instead of being a steady rock, I was very emotional. She said she didn't want a relationship and I didn't know what that meant until I read your book and learned so much. I spent a lot of time reading other books and looking over everything I did wrong. I’ve since improved my life and gotten it to a place where I want to be emotionally, career wise, and physically. It's her choice if she wants to connect again, I’d do some things differently but I think I scared her off to the point of no return. We'll see what happens.
How did it go?
Corey your accent is very understandable and clear even for a non born English speaker. I used to struggle a bit to understand Americans without subtitles . i live in the uk
I needed this right now. Appreciate it!
I swear to God, Corey, your videos come at the perfect time! Thank you!
Damn this vídeo came in at the right time, I'm 2 months in with this hot senior college but I have been so needy she even calling me unsecure not good look. But I'm falling for her hard, gotta get my shit together
Thank you, I needed this exactly today!
As an old person who loves your work, I want to applaud this one. However, you missed a good chance for analogy concerning outcome-orientation that I was waiting for. You do have permission to use......for the right price, lol: when you keep opening the oven to see if the cake is done, you take all the heat out of it.
Aging like a fine wine, Coach. Keep up the work
Corey growing out the badass beard for winter! Thanks from Canada for all the stellar advice coach!
I’ve never been able to fully overcome “needy” emotions. The best I’ve learned to do is completely hide them. So I’ve noticed women always say they’re so impressed and happy that I never get mad or upset about anything. When in reality I am regularly mad and upset, but I mask it and try not to ever let it show. Then inevitably, whether it’s 2-3 months, or 9 months, or a year into the relationship, I’ll falter and outwardly get upset about something, not even that badly, then the woman will be shocked, and say she’s sad because she never saw me upset before. Then she’ll usually lose interest completely, and stop seeing me.
It sounds like you have the problem identified and you have a handle on it to a point. Instead of losing your cool in the future, couldn't you just express your insecurities in a more calm manner? I'll bet if you do that you'll only need to have the conversation with the girl one time.
Girls really play games like this and test you’re masculinity. I’ve been going out with my ex again and she was all crazy and blowing up my phone and set a date to hang out and all of sudden she goes ghost and hasn’t said shit for 3 days and since now I know Corey’s work. I know it’s all game or Tactic they do to see if you’re still weak and needy…the only thing I sent was the day we were suppose to hang out like hey we’ll just hang out some other day and she saw it and nothing …so now I havnt said shit.. it’s crazy how all girls play by the same rule book. I’m just going to wait for to reach out and if she doesn’t fuck it.
Coach's evil master plan: one day he'll say the word 'perturbed' in a way that will suddenly put us all under his spell..lol. CW is the best, no doubt about it!
You are the man Corey, thanks
I like the analogy of baking a cake, except I would substitute BBQ smoking meat. You can't keep opening the smoker door to check on low and slow cooking. If you're lookin' you ain't cookin'! 😁
Get in first and do this to her. Ghost her for a bit.
It will make her think about you like crazy, wondering whether she’s done something wrong, or if there’s someone else and all that, and it will make her chase harder and appreciate you more when you do eventually get back in touch with her.
Pull that sort of thing from time to time (cancelling dates is another alternative) and she’ll fall for you faster.
Just think of all the things chicks do that make you anxious about where you stand with her and make you think about her more and pull those things on her.
She’ll fall for you much faster that way.
Thats manipulativ behaviour,would you be happy if she would do that to you? 🥺🙄
Think about the situation where she gets depressed because her hamster died, doesn't want to talk about it, says "there's nothing wrong" and blames you for everything.
Damnit i've watched enough videos by now I should probably read the fucking book...
Let’s gooooo💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
Does it matter how long the self work takes because I feel like taking few years out to improve myself.
Looking Dapper Coach 👌
Always assume that when something goes sideways with a girl is bc there's another dude in the picture, always, so don't beg for her attention or something fool like that, in silence just go to the next girl, maybe the girl come back maybe not who cares
If you have to read a book 15 times to figure out to date, you've got bigger problems. With that said, we could all benefit from controlling our emotions.... I have been pressing my girlfriend a lot lately, and I need to chill the fuck out before I mess up for good
I remember David DeAngelo called it "acting like a wussy"
Date other women, that's how you eliminate neediness. You may find a better woman in the process.
Even if you don't you are more prepared, experienced andbattle hardened for when that special lady shows up.
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Stop chasing .. we all do it . what to do next is always seems in question never ends
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First comment 1k likes Corey is the man 👨
Eres la verga Corey Wayne
I like Cory and his techniques. However, a lot of what he’s saying still pedestalize women. If you feel like you are chasing it means that the universe is telling you that you’re on the wrong path. If she likes you; none of this nonsense will ever happen. Cory is a sales man!!! Remember that. If she doesn’t want you. Let her go; another bus is around the corner every 15 minutes
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She is with another dude move on to the next
Every girl has another dude u just never know because they’re sneaky like that. Every girl even in a relationship have multiple guys lined up. It sucks but it is what it is