Trad Dating Influencers Are Giving TERRIBLE Advice To Young Women
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- Опубліковано 22 бер 2024
- Dating coach Karla Elia gives really terrible advise. Cenk Uygur and Ana Kasparian discuss on The Young Turks. | Your Support is Crucial to the Show: go.tyt.com/jointoday
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"Dating coach Karla Elia tells women not to go out with a man who is “nice” or who “treats you right,” but one who can “afford” them.
Her advice, while highly criticized by some who have seen her videos, has dominated a pocket of the internet that depicts heterosexual romance as a deal between men and women, in which women are receivers and men are providers."
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Why are people listening to dating influencers-go to therapy
Also self help books can be good because reading paper books can be educational and a little known 'factoid' is that cellulose based paper can filter out local airborne toxins in your room👍😏😃😂jk
Blue waffles aint for eating. Memphis, 10
What kind of therapist?
@@user-yl9os7iv5h …..😳😱😬🤢🤮🤣jk
What does that woman even have to offer? Sounds like a high maintenance head ache. I’d rather deal with a flooded basement.
Hahahahahaha, your truth to God's ear brother. Absolutely. A flooded basement is something fixable, this type of person will be a perpetual problem, will never be pleased
If you have a flooded basement I recommend a sump pump from Lowe’s or Home Depot 🤔😏😃😂jk
No one in their right mind would give her the time of day.
also she isn't even attractive
@@IndyAvocadoKidactually u should call your local fire department they have pumps that will take the water out. Free of charge. At least in my area they do
Grooming young women to be gold diggers is terrible. It’s every man’s worst nightmare, regardless of political persuasion
Exactly. Which is why they shouldn't listen to these crackpots on social media. But sadly.... We just can't help ourselves...
Can you tell me how all the richest women in the world got their wealth?
@@ryanisbelle6107 by taking it from rich men in divorce court ...
Gotta love "dating influencers" who promote greed, selfishness and shallowness as dating wisdom. Grow some values.
Why she look 50 when she only 24 ???
Who? Ana?
Thank you someone finally answered my question.
@@jordyb57 no the influencer
I don't know if she looks 50, but she does look like she is in her mid-30s at least.
Gen Z in general have aged like milk, poorly...
So she sleeps with him, he gives her money, and it's transactional? Got it.
I'm pretty sure there's a word for that.
@@bryanreynolds8721A man asks a woman if she would sleep with him for a million dollars and she says yes. Then he asks her if she’d do it for $100.
“What kind of woman do you think I am?”
“We’ve already established that. We’re just negotiating the price.”
@@suedoughnim6665And guys do it for free because they are the actual hoes. This joke is insulting to all women everywhere.
@@wrenbyrd1093thank you for calling f--s to give. Please hold.
It’s intended to be insulting to gold diggers everywhere. Sorry I don’t have a Venn diagram to show that those are a subset of women.
That woman has "broccoli" growing out of somewhere, I bet. Or 'blue waffles'. Warning ya. Memphis, 10
Listening to this and as I’m someone who is involved in BDSM. These women aren’t being “submissive” they’re trying to manipulate a partner into trying to take care of them.
However, the partner they’re trying to get is going to be someone whose conservative, or doesn’t do well socially, and most likely going to end up in a relationship that ends up being physically or emotionally abusive either to the women or the men.
to submit got me beaten and had all financial decisions taken from me in my 43 year marriage, she is wrong.
Read and understand the Tao De Ching and perhaps you will find that serving in certain ways is natural thing and different from being a victim of abuse.
Yeah... If you're under 30, stop giving "life" advice ok? Just stop.
The irony is that young people typically won't take life advice from people who are older than them, who actually have the experience to give good advice.
@@imnotmike Haha true. I've been on both sides of that equation. I guess we all have, or will be at some point.
And women in America wondering why you got passport Bros😂😂😂
IKR, when in reality they were made for each other!
Many women around the world are like that you just want to bodyshame american women
Nah. /
This is why Passport bros existed.
its all over the world. the whole world has all the dating apps and sugar dating sites lol you can't "escape" this mentality now.
She's 24? Looks like 35.
Right?
Even that doesn’t seem totally accurate - she looks like a 40 year old trying to look 30 and failing miserably.
24 year-old and giving dating advice to grown women? Yikes.
She's 24, I'm 70. This advice she's giving is what leads women to having to eat cat food when the man has a heart attack and she finds out their finances haven't been handled well; or he decides to replace you when you're no longer young and cute.
It's a sad state of affairs when people are actively trying to remove emotional attachment from the relationship equation.
💯💯👍🏽
That woman is sure making a helluva lot of demands for being a 4
That's being generous. She's not even a 2.
Bro her cheek bones are like a🗿. Who TF wants that?
Maybe Maybelline doesn't work. 🤣
That 24-year old woman is a dating influencer, but telling women to embrace traditional gender roles and telling them to have a materialistic approach is not a traditional dating influencer. Her suggestions is to put all of the onus of a relationship on the man and that he will love it. She is not suggesting a traditional relationship. She has just rewrapped gold-digging and misses the most important thing that men want from their women - love, respect and fidelity.
Shallow, narcissistic, superficial, materialistic, empty people will always end up miserable and lonely.😐
Nah. /
@marytenn378Nah. /
These women are bringing in victims for narcissists
Nah. /
They are the narcissists
I can't take seriously any woman making tiktoks while doing makeup or sitting in a car
I agree... 💯
This girl is a 4 thinking she's a 10... 😂
I don't want to insult her but she looks like a 64-year-old who had plastic surgery to make her look like a 24-year-old.
These "trad wives" have never witness financial abuse in their lifetime and it shows.
Or they have and are suffering from Stockholm syndrome
This girl is not living in reality. Anyone can be fired or laid off anytime, including for reasons beyond their control. Is someone who was reeling 6 figures when you met suddenly no longer dating material if he loses that income? What if the company he works for dissolves right after you marry or have a child? Attaching partner compatibility exclusively to income is dumb, dehumanizing, and open to go wrong in so many ways.
right on..........that is what everybody forgets money and work only go so far..........
"I never once entertained men who couldn't afford me" I wonder how much her "entertainment" cost.
she is painting on a fake face as she gives advice on relationships. Selling a fake image for cash is an old industry
It is frustrating how corporate greed has pushed people to the extremes of believing people like her, Tate and all the other online relationship "gurus." If people had a decent livable wage, people wouldn't have to be resorting to gold digging, OF, grifting etc.
The elite is killing the middle class, people are either making too much or too little. And we can't blame women for looking at the top instead of the bottom. We all want what is best for us.
If we were to have income equality, much more people would be marrying for love and not money.
this is such an excellent dystopian commentary and analysis.
That just sounds like most boring version of prostitution
The girl is hard 4 and she has high demands 😂
She says "manipulation is wrong" but her entire action plan is based off attempts at subtle manipulation 😅..
Everyone with a camera and a mike is an "expert/influencer" now... 🙄
Why would anyone take dating advice from a 24-year-old child? She knows nothing.
True, the best advice is probably from an old boomer in her 70s or 80s, because she's truly had many life experiences that young folk can learn from that she may even actually regret🤔😏🙂 (unlike old boomer guys on the other hand who don't have too many regrets, except for the tattoo on the back of one's neck that says "I have no ragrets!”😳🙄😆😏)….
@@IndyAvocadoKid old ppl usually have the same advice:
"Be true to yourself, have fun with your loved ones, be kind/love fully, and reject negativity in all forms"
@@IndyAvocadoKid
Maybe I should become an internet dating coach?
Idk..I do understand why people would want dating advice in their mid 20s. & other young adults are probably looking to people thwir own age, or close to it. I just think it's terrible advice
Even in my early 20s I felt that relationships are so much more than a transaction. She's missing SO much & encouraging others to miss out on such a wide & diverse part of life - having a partner that you love & respect, even if it's not permanent, is worth more to me than simply having a 'simple' life where I depend on ANY other for my needs.
@@rebeccajay2262 the main element of any successful relationship has always been the "connection" and I find it very sad when I hear ppl swear that it has to be something like money or status. That's not a relationship, that's a business transaction.
"A woman who tries to control and manipulate is left with nothing but frustration and emptiness." .... Whatever you say "influencer".
These "Relationship Experts" NEVER disclose or discuss their OWN relationships, and I'm often wondering IF they even have an ongoing healthy relationship!!!! NOT.
Or have ever had a healthy relationship. A lot of them talk like social recluses.
It sounds like she's auditioning for the next season of Handmaid's Tale.
Alternative title: How to get yourself into an abusive relationship (2-way abusive lol)
Wow. That lady was 24?
Looks at least 30.
Life lessons 101, don't take advice from anyone who claims to be an influencer
0:07 "I've never entertained men who couldnt afford me!"
Oh, sweetie, _I_ got $20 for the full hour!!
There's 2 words for people like that it's gold digger..... He can treat you bad as long as he has money.
Yea, it was very telling that she put treats you right in air quotes.
She clearly doesn't understand men period
She don't understand today's inflation.
She doesn’t even really know what being a man or being a woman is about she is 24. She’s talking like she’s 50 something and has been through it.
She's just butthurt that her stepsister, Cinderella, found her happiness and did it without being a doucheknob about it. Still trying to cram her ugly foot into that ridiculous slipper.
Shes missing one important part , love . A good loving wife doesn't expect things . A good loving husband wants to give and cherish his wife with the extra he has. Sometimes I cant afford to buy my wife things but when I can I do because I want too.
Capitalism logic. Everything is about maximizing profit and removing all human elements.
if relationship is transactional why would i want a wife anyway?
Ana's face when Cenk said, "I might give a performance improvement plan." was priceless. I had to laugh with her.
This is the female version of gross dating advice from people like Andrew Tate
😂 EXACTLY 💯 👏
Andrew Tate gives the best dating advice
Just me, but I've been successfully married for 39 years. We don't care about staying in roles. We care about contributing to a relationship.
You’re a real partner to someone. Trad wife nonsense is just another grift .
"We don't care about roles."
Okay, so how many of those 39 years did you spend bringing on 0 income while she worked 40 hours a week and covered every single expense?
I'm guessing NOT ONE. Otherwise you'd be divorced. Guarantee it.
@@ryanisbelle6107 Except for student, why would a person bring home zero income? Even the disabled get Social Security.
I have a question: is she married?
Because if she's not, then no one should listen to her advice, since she hasn't been successful.
😂
And even if she was, which from the language she uses I doubt it, how long has she been married? Two, maybe three years. The people worth listening to are the ones celebrating decades of marriage. Unfortunately they are, by definition, too old to be instagram influencers.
my advise to her !! don't give up your day job LADY !!!!!
There's nothing wrong with expecting a partner to not be a total scrub. But she's looking for easy street. Gross.
lol at the idea of taking dating advice from a 24 year old.
If someone needs an influencer to help them date, then hell help them. That person shouldn't be dating.
As a Christian conservative male, I don’t view what she is promoting as a traditional marriage.
My wife and I firstly share religious and cultural values, that is the bedrock of our marriage. We also have trust. My wife does not have to consult me on decisions because I trust her to make decisions based on our shared values. My wife has respect for what I bring to the relationship as well as respect for decisions I make, just like I respect her.
Go for the money!
Wait... is this an advice for dating or for prostitution?
.... traditional gender roles, you say? 🤔
Translation: "Watch me go from being a 4 to being a 6 by putting a bunch of fake shit on my face!"
Okay, that's IMPOSSIBLE, for one, to not communicate any standards, because if you don't have communication, you're either guessing the whole time, or not in a real relationship.
"be a gold digger" is very modern lol
umm, just throwing this out there, is she even married? If the answer is no then please shut up because she knows nothing and its obviously not working for her.
This woman wants to be a product… then she’s gonna have to accept her sell by date. Her husband is gonna get the newer model and she’s going to be helpless and alone.
Some of y'all never dated a guy that was broke with no ambitions and it shows
How about get a job and be able to pay for your own things?
😂 yeah a lot of us haven’t and it’s a flex.
Exactly whose fault is that? Because it certainly isn’t ours.
I make a very good living and any woman who thinks being rich is an essential component of a “high value” man is a gold digger and I wouldn’t look twice at them even if they were a supermodel.
And here’s a little secret for you ladies. A high value man knows his own value and what he deserves. So before you get a narcissistic attitude about whether we deserve you, high value men are evaluating whether you deserve us.
Act like a lady and I’ll treat you like a queen.
Act like a princess and I’ll treat you like any other stranger. That’s not negotiable.
Isnt that a good thing 😂
So, this lady makes videos that women with the same characteristics can capitalize on. Fair enough, I guess.
Dating at 41..
Friends: kids, married, s/o's etc..
Me:
"I'm just gonna go dig a hole, and stand in it for a while.. looks like rain today"
😂
Things are too expensive for that house wife crap. In today's economy, you need two incomes.
"women shouldn't be too easy to chase".
There are a couple of problems with this. The first is that a lot of guys wont bother with "the chase" (persistence) in this day and age when everything leads to accusations of being labelled a creep.
It also leads to these women pigeon holing themselves to about 10% of guys out there, and then they'll complain about all men in general.
So right about that, so maybe you'd enjoy this old "boy meets girl" trap story (verse 2) with a "Progressive" twist (trad/non-trad)?
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She's doing a good service to golddigger stereotypes.
Lmao Ana nailed it! They will meet evil men by only dating rich men. Or a Dahmer type, take you on a trip, and it’s the last.
Maybe she should ask Melania how this advice is working out 😅
When l first met my husband. I was in further education and he was just starting out in work and both barely had much to our names. Our cheap dates included long walks and talking about absolutely everything and nothing and this made our relationship that which was built on respecting our journey together and we are each others cheerleaders. Our roles within the home as we had children changed constantly based on who was working long hours, early finishes and on holiday rather than what was classed as traditional genda roles or modern ones. We made it work for us so all this nonsense about women being the price and having expectations of a life they can’t provide for themselves is utter nonsense. Respect each, support each others dreams and if that includes one being the home maker and the other being the provider, cherish your roles and play your part instead of being manipulative to get money which may only work when you are youthful and fades as you get older.
Preach it!!!!!!!
This is the most intelligent and mature comment. Thank you!
She doesn't believe any of this. She's just making money on UA-cam. These people find a "brand" and run with it.
The most shocking part? That girl is only 24…
All of that manipulation is draining her your away 😂.
I thought she was 35 and NOT ATTRACTIVE
She promotes tradition relationships without any of the work. As if her presence is the only requirement.
😂yes men can date other males
Viewing reliationship as a transaction is abit of viewing men as success objects, isnt that like misandry? And yeah, she is basically pretending to be submissive to rack in the cash
A marriage of convenience goes both ways. If you remain with a guy for his money, then he will remain with you for your looks. Once that's gone, then so are you.
On point!
What about "It's cheaper to keep her"?
It's still more likely the women will end things, because "If you remain with a guy for his money", the money often gets used up, and she may find a man with more money.
Transactional relationships are not romantic relationships. They're just barter, capitalism. In a real romantic relationship, you have your partner's back, no matter what, and your partner has your back, no matter what. And that includes "no matter how much money you make or don't make." That's why real relationships are strong and more important than capitalism.
Tell that to the woke feminist independent women
Melania tried that, look how that turned out.
Trying to have a traditional, early 20th century marriage in the 21st century, in a 1st world country, doesn't make any sense.
Single people giving other single people advice. What can go wrong?
And so young!
Most traditions are called traditions because reasons why they exist are no longer apply. Some people like to hold onto traditional thinking for selfish reasons and hide behind the obsolete justifications.
That's one way of looking at the value of traditions. Another way is people rely on traditions because traditions have helped generations survive and even prosper throughout the ages.
@richardmyers6075 if people are doing something because it's beneficial the best way of doing it, then it's logical. If they are doing it just because it's the way its always been done, then it's seen as a tradition.
Do t get me wrong, though. Some traditions have a place socially and get people together. Others can be counterproductive or harmful
She’s being very aggressive and she doesn’t sound happy. Not someone I would want to take advice from.
Ensure the person who is courting you is able to take of himself and has the means to at least keep a roof over your head and food on the table doesn’t seem unreasonable. What’s unreasonable is expecting 6 figure salary, foreign trips, luxury items, and a lavish lifestyle.
I agree.
She said traditional gender roles but what I heard was be in a financially abusive relationship
yall need to stop treating tiktok like its a place for normal people. no thanxbye
She is talking about prostitution.
WIFE is the literal opposite of PROSTITUTE, dxmbxss.
this lady is in for a rude awakening if she is qualifying men based off of money.
Sadly, this is social media today
Can anyone blame me for just not dating anymore?
😮24yrs old and slick. Warn your grandsons about women like her.
She is not even a 3 to be demanding.
*😂😂😂😂😂❤ LMFAOOOOOOO!*
She's a really solid 2.5 on a good day.
If you must wear that much makeup, I'm not even considering you.
Woah, woah woah - I am all for traditional roles, but you have to understand these roles in a way deeper way than this kid.
Yuck! Her 'advice' is terrible and it's setting women up to end up in controlling and potentially abusive relationships.
This kind of women doesn't realize that "beauty" doesn't last forever and that without personality and education, you can suddenly one day be easily replaced by a younger model and left with nothing except the dress in which she came in fifteen years ago.
She isn’t even beautiful she’s a hard 4.
Seems like “trad” is simply a shiny new term for “gold digger”. If you’re all about the money, you’re a gold digger .. it’s that simple. If you value your worth based on how much people spend on you, you’re a gold digger. Changing the term doesn’t change the fact you are a gold digger. And yes there are plenty of men who need money to get a woman so they’re all for this rebranding of what a gold digger is. But if you’re really looking for a gold digger just search for women in poor countries who see a man who pays their bills as a hero. There are beautiful women in poor countries who are just looking for money to escape their current situation. A lot of times they have young children and the father of their child refuse to support them. Just understand money is not love. You can’t buy love, you can buy some people but you can’t buy their actual feelings toward you
Lot's of women want to be brides but not be wives.
WE in the black community have been avoiding these types of women for years. TYT is late to the game, on this one.
liar 🤣
Agreed, and how do feel about the "relationship" dynamics described in verse 2 of this old trap song?
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A woman like this create Passport Bros.
Bet you she’ll have business connecting lonely men to women overseas
That lady looks 34, not 24.
She’s too young to be making relationship advice.
Not only too young, she basically is telling the career oriented individual that you are doing it wrong.
Women vs Women omg I’m sick of it.
I think it is only in your mind
@@Dhuxul9 you don’t think.
Melania no doubt got advice like this. See how it turned out for her.
That influencer is 24 years old? Oh God help her
She’ll be divorced in under 5 years…and reliant on a man forever. I have my own money; I date for personality & companionship.
I think it's great for a man to feel free. Why can't a woman also feel free?
Amen! Why can't a woman also be free, AND why is it woman's responsibility to make sure men feel free???