“So I could be the boy you couldn't be Have the father you didn't get to see” made me tear up instantly in the car yesterday. Never has a song just made my eyes well up so quickly and unexpectedly. My god this is such a good song.
Heard this for the first time in 2008 and 16 years later I've made up my made: this is the best song ever made. The rawness, anger, vulnerability. Unmatched.
I wish the mainstream could understand this because holy shit, the lyrics. "So I could be the boy you couldn't be. Have the father you did not get to see. Have the youth you did not get to live. Or feel the love this world forgot to give."
What's with the top comments being about drinking? This song is about pain, memories and Pat's alcoholic father. It's messed up the top comments are about getting wasted. This song is serious, and is full of emotion, and truth. Seeing comments like that make me sad. I'm 16 and straight edge, not cause i can't drink yet, but because there is no need. There has been times when i was offered a drink or two, or to get high with my friends. But this band means so much to me. Stay true. To your self.
@@mashpotatosauce3566 Nope, still straight edge at 29. I think the concept of 'breaking edge' is cringe now though. A lot of edge bands i used to like back in the day now seem pretty fascist and weird. Have Heart has always been consistent though, and Pat's opinion on straight edge individualism is pretty much what i prescribe to today. I think the best edge bands direct their anger at capitalism, society, and other evils, rather than spread hate within the scene they often claim they'd die to protect.
@@JIGRON Ah, well I only ask cause I'm 17 and consider myself "edge", not a huge label guy but I don't really dig alcohol and drugs for a lot of the reasons you laid out in your original comment, and for a few more personal reasons. Though ironically the only edge band I listen to is Have Heart lol. So I was curious to hear how things turned out for you. I largely agree with you and its cool to hear you're still kicking. All the best.
@@mashpotatosauce3566 Oh sick, it's cool to hear that kids are still getting into straight edge and are aware of Have Heart. Some other good straight edge bands you might wanna check out: One Step Closer, Anklebiter, No Cure, xServitudex, Inclination, DARE, Anxious, Minority Unit, TORSO, Big Laugh, to name a few of my favorites... Anyway, hope that in 12 years you're still straight edge too. But even if you aren't it's all good👍 And search around for some local punk shows! Good way to meet some like-minded homies
"O' your friends say Boston's beautiful, but they didn't hide here, they didn't cry here when little boys weren't allowed to shed their tears." As someone from Massachusetts this band will always hold a special place in me. Have Heart forever.
Dustin hoots Whats the venue?? All I know of where Hxc bands play shows is Eagle Aerie Hall, Beauty Bar, House of Blues(if they're bigger), Hard Rock Vinyl(if they're bigger) and I heard about Billard's but I saw that place closed down awhile ago
I couldn't agree with you more. I saw this comment and it's like you took the words out of my mouth. My family has a long line of drug abuse and alcohol abuse and I don't want to be that way. My 'edge' is (to me) a part of who i am and what i stand for. :)
Being straight edge does not just apply to drinking. But i know the effects of drinking all too well... And there's nothing wrong with wanting to BELONG to something. I like to keep Straight Edge it to my self, it's different for. But i'm sure as hell proud of it. And i'm going to get ink resembling parts of my life that effected me the most. Straight Edge is one of those. You don't have to get it. Just don't frown upon kids like us who think a little differently. Stay positive man!
Such Band are so true,so emotive,so deep,so sincere,that its give everytime me chills and energy,and when i feel bad,depressive,its like a reason to me for live again a little more,just still a time to listen so good fuckin music like that, with some hope !!!
You are the man , Any band that uses Auto Tune sucks and is fake , Have Heart and all Hardcore is real which makes it better then any kind of mainstream bull shit fake bands
makes me feel guilty, ive got a son and i get ... fucked up sometimes, makes me want to be there for MY son, live and breath your music, im not strait edge, but ya cant put down good decisions, just dont preach strait edge folks
I will forever love Have Heart, and this fucking song. I don't like the whole concept of edge, like labeling yourself because you don't do drugs. It's just called being a normal person. But if it makes someone happy, then let it be. I'm drug and alcohol free, and I'm happy with my life. Have Heart will always be my favorite band. It's such a shame such talented men had to break up. But that doesn't mean I won't listen to such meaningful music.
@pissedoffdad69 Alcohol is the ultimate demon. I lost some friends to it, and i'm not going to let it take a hold of me. When i'm 21 i'm still going to be listening to Have Heart, and i'm still going to be edge.
No, it's about Pat's grandfather. I asked Patrick about his lyrics when HH did a concert here in Hungary. But I thought as well, that it's a song about his father. Not father, but grandfather.
@duckymc4 FUERZA MUCHACHO! todo cambia , todo vuelve,,, El straight edge te da tantas cosas lindas en la vida! amistades sobre todo! siempre vas a tener a alguien a tu lado que te apoye en las buenas desiciones y por un buen camino! se feliz , no dejes que nada te afecte en tu "seguir adelante" saludos!
Word, man. I used to do a bunch of pills and smoke grass and drink a lot, but it made me feel like Hell, and I got tired of it. Being known as the "Best Drunk Driver" among my group of friends also helped kick my ass into gear.
Everyone: go check out the videos of Have Heart's last show on youtube. Just type in Have Heart Last Show and enjoy watching their last show in HD on youtube.
@EatItRAW92 I could easily be wrong. If i ever get a chance to sit down with Pat and talk to him for a little, i might know. But it's not really about that, it's about what we (Fans) get from it. He explains his(Or his dad's) story of pain, we take away what we feel from it. So it could be about his grandfather, or his dad. Either way, it's emotional and gets me every time.
its kinda hard to get kicked out of theyr gigs.. since they don't exist x) but oh well, sXe is about family. unless ur going there being stupid. you have nothing to worry about :)
Old man, I heard some things about the boy you used to be No father, no king, just a broken old man broken by the whiskey Too afraid to stay, too smart to not leave Too young to be a bird who forgot to sing And a ground that never knew the knees Of a boy and his own tale of two cities "sometimes a man breaks, sometimes he can't bend When his youth is a wound time won't mend (never the best of times) Sometimes a man breaks, sometimes he can't bend At the thought of peace as something only lent (only the worst of mine) Sometimes a man breaks, sometimes he can't bend When his son is another one who won't understand… The Irish temper, it's history's chains And the alcoholic's stain that just won't wash away But a seed was planted in the sod of nothingness from which you came And flowers grew and roses bloomed To form this garden of life you've made And in this city you once knew as hell Is a garden where I enjoy myself And in this father I hardly know Was a son who took back what the bottle stole So I could be the boy you couldn't be Have the father you didn't get to see Have the youth you did not get to live Or feel the love this world forgot to give And for this gift I don't deserve to get I'll make damn sure I earn this "o' your friends say boston's beautiful But they didn't live here, they didn't die here In the Hyde Park years O' your friends say boston's beautiful But they didn't live hard, they didn't die hard When sons dragged out their fathers from bars O' your friends say boston's beautiful But they didn't dream here, they didn't scream here When no one hears O' your friends say boston's beautiful But they didn't hide here they didn't cry here When little boys weren't allowed to shed their tears." There just aren't enough men like you”
@MrHxCGuitar Oh no, I have my father. He wasn't always the greatest but I still love him. Every father makes mistakes, but you can't feel sorry for yourself because no matter what, there is always someone out there who is worseoff than you.
@zacksparrow2590 Here, check this out. In an interview ( i think a couple actually) he talked about his father being an alcoholic. He's talking about both, his grandfather ruined it for his father, they both turned out the same way, he loved his dad but he wasn't the best influence. I'm not putting words in Pat's mouth but that's what i got from this song. But each song has it's own meaning to everyone. That's what makes music so great.
Being edge isn't a fad in a lot of places, in the music scene there's only a few people who claim edge for reasons everybody who isn't edge respects. I do drink and smoke on occasion and my best friend is straight edge, he's normally the one that feels left out.
@TtkxAddictions I'm that guy. haha. I'm a rare breed though. You know how everyone always claims that they listen to all genres? I actually do. My itunes goes from Bon Iver to After the Burial to Andy Mckee to Verse to City and Colour to Lupe Fiasco and so on/so forth. I just enjoy music. But, back to being on topic, Have Heart is fucking sick, and it kills me that i never got to see them live.
why is everyone so hung up on the band being straight edge.....the lyrics are not even about being edge or pushing it on you, promoting etc.....when you listen to earth crisis they remind you constantly
I see nothing wrong with straight edge or doing drugs or drinking. To each their own. I, myself like to smoke on occasion and drink on occasion too. Nothing wrong with that just like there's nothing wrong with abstaining. It bothers me when people who do do them insult people who don't and vice versa. Just do what ever pleases you.
@milkfred One of my good friends does lots of hard drugs. She recently was pushed to the point of suicide. Multiple times. She went through things no one should, and it was because of the poison she put into her body. I am free of these things, not completely for my self, but so i can stay strong for my friends. Being edge doesn't have to be about being "Humble or Mature" it's different for everyone, and to me it's about being strong for the ones i love.
know what you mean man. Its as much about being in a group as it is as being an outcast. Just remember dude everyone has there reasons for it. just saying edge is as important to one person as it is to the next.
There's nothing wrong with abstaining from alcohol and drugs, in fact, bravo! That's a mature and healthy choice to live your life. However, when it comes to the point that people choose to not just to be "Straight Edge" and belong to a "family" it becomes annoying. They act like they are better than everybody and that they are now cool because they call themselves straightedge.
Same here. And i have had Edge kids tell me that im a poser because i listen to Hardcore, Melodic hardcore, etc. Who the fuck cares? I'm not throwing my life away? So what. The "edge movement" really bugs me.
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“So I could be the boy you couldn't be
Have the father you didn't get to see” made me tear up instantly in the car yesterday. Never has a song just made my eyes well up so quickly and unexpectedly. My god this is such a good song.
Heard this for the first time in 2008 and 16 years later I've made up my made: this is the best song ever made. The rawness, anger, vulnerability. Unmatched.
I wish the mainstream could understand this because holy shit, the lyrics.
"So I could be the boy you couldn't be.
Have the father you did not get to see.
Have the youth you did not get to live.
Or feel the love this world forgot to give."
Even after hearing this hundreds of times it still gives me chills.
100% brother
What's with the top comments being about drinking? This song is about pain, memories and Pat's alcoholic father. It's messed up the top comments are about getting wasted. This song is serious, and is full of emotion, and truth. Seeing comments like that make me sad. I'm 16 and straight edge, not cause i can't drink yet, but because there is no need. There has been times when i was offered a drink or two, or to get high with my friends. But this band means so much to me. Stay true. To your self.
Did you ever break edge?
@@mashpotatosauce3566 Nope, still straight edge at 29. I think the concept of 'breaking edge' is cringe now though. A lot of edge bands i used to like back in the day now seem pretty fascist and weird. Have Heart has always been consistent though, and Pat's opinion on straight edge individualism is pretty much what i prescribe to today. I think the best edge bands direct their anger at capitalism, society, and other evils, rather than spread hate within the scene they often claim they'd die to protect.
@@JIGRON Ah, well I only ask cause I'm 17 and consider myself "edge", not a huge label guy but I don't really dig alcohol and drugs for a lot of the reasons you laid out in your original comment, and for a few more personal reasons. Though ironically the only edge band I listen to is Have Heart lol. So I was curious to hear how things turned out for you. I largely agree with you and its cool to hear you're still kicking. All the best.
@@mashpotatosauce3566 Oh sick, it's cool to hear that kids are still getting into straight edge and are aware of Have Heart. Some other good straight edge bands you might wanna check out: One Step Closer, Anklebiter, No Cure, xServitudex, Inclination, DARE, Anxious, Minority Unit, TORSO, Big Laugh, to name a few of my favorites... Anyway, hope that in 12 years you're still straight edge too. But even if you aren't it's all good👍 And search around for some local punk shows! Good way to meet some like-minded homies
"O' your friends say Boston's beautiful,
but they didn't hide here, they didn't cry here
when little boys weren't allowed to shed their tears."
As someone from Massachusetts this band will always hold a special place in me. Have Heart forever.
knowing a city like the back of your hand and having people say its beautiful when they didn't know the pain and pleasure that city had to offer.
my history teacher was in this band
wish he was my history teacher...
S M O N K B O I S tell your history teacher he saved my life and made me open a hard core venue in vegas
Damn :)
Dustin hoots Whats the venue?? All I know of where Hxc bands play shows is Eagle Aerie Hall, Beauty Bar, House of Blues(if they're bigger), Hard Rock Vinyl(if they're bigger) and I heard about Billard's but I saw that place closed down awhile ago
Was Artistic Armory, but then landlord shut it down. Should reopen soon
I listen to these guys at least four or five times a week. Damn, it never gets old!
I couldn't agree with you more. I saw this comment and it's like you took the words out of my mouth.
My family has a long line of drug abuse and alcohol abuse and I don't want to be that way.
My 'edge' is (to me) a part of who i am and what i stand for.
:)
Being straight edge does not just apply to drinking. But i know the effects of drinking all too well... And there's nothing wrong with wanting to BELONG to something. I like to keep Straight Edge it to my self, it's different for. But i'm sure as hell proud of it. And i'm going to get ink resembling parts of my life that effected me the most. Straight Edge is one of those. You don't have to get it. Just don't frown upon kids like us who think a little differently. Stay positive man!
Such Band are so true,so emotive,so deep,so sincere,that its give everytime me chills and energy,and when i feel bad,depressive,its like a reason to me for live again a little more,just still a time to listen so good fuckin music like that, with some hope !!!
it's about his father's father, but everything else you said is spot on
o' your friends say boston's beautiful,
but they didn't hide here, they didn't cry here
when little boys weren't allowed to shed their tears
You are the man , Any band that uses Auto Tune sucks and is fake , Have Heart and all Hardcore is real which makes it better then any kind of mainstream bull shit fake bands
makes me feel guilty, ive got a son and i get ... fucked up sometimes, makes me want to be there for MY son, live and breath your music, im not strait edge, but ya cant put down good decisions, just dont preach strait edge folks
Very beautifull text. Flynn has the ability to touch people through time and space with his words. A worthy ability. :)
I will forever love Have Heart, and this fucking song. I don't like the whole concept of edge, like labeling yourself because you don't do drugs. It's just called being a normal person. But if it makes someone happy, then let it be. I'm drug and alcohol free, and I'm happy with my life. Have Heart will always be my favorite band. It's such a shame such talented men had to break up. But that doesn't mean I won't listen to such meaningful music.
I will alway love this band. So good.
This song means everything to me, especially on this very day.
powerful. emotive. that's what i love about them n Patrick's words. miss them so much.
Great song
Amazing song, this album is brilliant
This song is like a powerful punch in my mind
also a great drinking song
Wish these guys were still around /:
One of the most underrated hardcore bands.
So good.
this band is very inspirational
man im not edge but i can respect you 1000000%
i hope they will come back.
such an inspirational band
@pissedoffdad69 Alcohol is the ultimate demon. I lost some friends to it, and i'm not going to let it take a hold of me. When i'm 21 i'm still going to be listening to Have Heart, and i'm still going to be edge.
cheers mate!
No, it's about Pat's grandfather. I asked Patrick about his lyrics when HH did a concert here in Hungary. But I thought as well, that it's a song about his father. Not father, but grandfather.
Couldn't agree more
this is the shit molder brother used to listen to now I listen to it...shit is dope
Teared up...
Finally someone Edge who's doing it for the right reasons :)
there just aren't enough men like you
classic lyric
i went to a concert about a month a go they were in it
im not even edge and i like their music
Well said!
Attack attack is my fav band
16 and straight edge too, I have plenty of respect for you and what you represent.
wow... that was my first time
@duckymc4 FUERZA MUCHACHO!
todo cambia , todo vuelve,,,
El straight edge te da tantas cosas lindas en la vida!
amistades sobre todo!
siempre vas a tener a alguien a tu lado que te apoye en las buenas desiciones y por un buen camino!
se feliz , no dejes que nada te afecte en tu "seguir adelante"
saludos!
GOD THIS SONG IS SO FUCKING GREAT!!! WONDERFUUUUUUL!!!
damn, I miss this band...
Word, man. I used to do a bunch of pills and smoke grass and drink a lot, but it made me feel like Hell, and I got tired of it. Being known as the "Best Drunk Driver" among my group of friends also helped kick my ass into gear.
what else don't you like, we're all dying to know
this is the most fucking amazing song. period... harsh judgement!
this is exactly how i feel
nice
@constantinehelmet should seen the last show it was insane!!
i hope so too!
I am not straight edge but i'm still screening at the sun
Reminds me of the shit I saw go down in Newark and South Boston when I was a kid.
SO I COULD BE THE BOY YOU COULDN'T BE
And for this gift I don't deserve to get
I'll make damn sure I earn this...
Everyone: go check out the videos of Have Heart's last show on youtube. Just type in Have Heart Last Show and enjoy watching their last show in HD on youtube.
(wow)
You now know how I feel about Crucial Dudes.
im not Straight Edge but i love this song.
have heart come back :/
@EatItRAW92 I could easily be wrong. If i ever get a chance to sit down with Pat and talk to him for a little, i might know. But it's not really about that, it's about what we (Fans) get from it. He explains his(Or his dad's) story of pain, we take away what we feel from it. So it could be about his grandfather, or his dad. Either way, it's emotional and gets me every time.
cant wait to get my have heart straight edge shirt and get wasted in it
this is a good ass song.
no matter
eargasm
@duckymc4 oh yeah, youre so great, you understood life so much!!!
@StraightPunkEdge93 story of my life dude. I got to see them once when I didn't know who they were. ultimate fail.
Shit was way solid in ATL two weeks back... hardest mosh I've seen in my life was to cruel hand though. Have Heart was pure insanity.
sometimes a man breaks, sometimes he can't bend, at the thought of pizza as something only lent
I'm not even straightedge, but Have Hearts the shit! Fuck yeah!
its kinda hard to get kicked out of theyr gigs.. since they don't exist x)
but oh well, sXe is about family. unless ur going there being stupid. you have nothing to worry about :)
Old man, I heard some things about the boy you used to be
No father, no king, just a broken old man broken by the whiskey
Too afraid to stay, too smart to not leave
Too young to be a bird who forgot to sing
And a ground that never knew the knees
Of a boy and his own tale of two cities
"sometimes a man breaks, sometimes he can't bend
When his youth is a wound time won't mend
(never the best of times)
Sometimes a man breaks, sometimes he can't bend
At the thought of peace as something only lent
(only the worst of mine)
Sometimes a man breaks, sometimes he can't bend
When his son is another one who won't understand…
The Irish temper, it's history's chains
And the alcoholic's stain that just won't wash away
But a seed was planted in the sod of nothingness from which you came
And flowers grew and roses bloomed
To form this garden of life you've made
And in this city you once knew as hell
Is a garden where I enjoy myself
And in this father I hardly know
Was a son who took back what the bottle stole
So I could be the boy you couldn't be
Have the father you didn't get to see
Have the youth you did not get to live
Or feel the love this world forgot to give
And for this gift I don't deserve to get
I'll make damn sure I earn this
"o' your friends say boston's beautiful
But they didn't live here, they didn't die here
In the Hyde Park years
O' your friends say boston's beautiful
But they didn't live hard, they didn't die hard
When sons dragged out their fathers from bars
O' your friends say boston's beautiful
But they didn't dream here, they didn't scream here
When no one hears
O' your friends say boston's beautiful
But they didn't hide here they didn't cry here
When little boys weren't allowed to shed their tears."
There just aren't enough men like you”
@MrHxCGuitar Oh no, I have my father. He wasn't always the greatest but I still love him. Every father makes mistakes, but you can't feel sorry for yourself because no matter what, there is always someone out there who is worseoff than you.
@duckymc4
I have nothing but respect for you
@zacksparrow2590 Here, check this out. In an interview ( i think a couple actually) he talked about his father being an alcoholic. He's talking about both, his grandfather ruined it for his father, they both turned out the same way, he loved his dad but he wasn't the best influence. I'm not putting words in Pat's mouth but that's what i got from this song. But each song has it's own meaning to everyone. That's what makes music so great.
the son who took back what the bottle stole
Being edge isn't a fad in a lot of places, in the music scene there's only a few people who claim edge for reasons everybody who isn't edge respects. I do drink and smoke on occasion and my best friend is straight edge, he's normally the one that feels left out.
@TtkxAddictions I'm that guy. haha. I'm a rare breed though. You know how everyone always claims that they listen to all genres? I actually do. My itunes goes from Bon Iver to After the Burial to Andy Mckee to Verse to City and Colour to Lupe Fiasco and so on/so forth. I just enjoy music. But, back to being on topic, Have Heart is fucking sick, and it kills me that i never got to see them live.
the son who took back what the bottle stole..
why is everyone so hung up on the band being straight edge.....the lyrics are not even about being edge or pushing it on you, promoting etc.....when you listen to earth crisis they remind you constantly
FUUUUUUCK why did i get into Have Heart after they broke up?
@duckymc4 not down talking edge in any way, i respect it. realize though that it's the person who makes the decisions, not the drug/alcohol.
I 3 Martin Luther king.
I see nothing wrong with straight edge or doing drugs or drinking. To each their own. I, myself like to smoke on occasion and drink on occasion too. Nothing wrong with that just like there's nothing wrong with abstaining. It bothers me when people who do do them insult people who don't and vice versa. Just do what ever pleases you.
@milkfred One of my good friends does lots of hard drugs. She recently was pushed to the point of suicide. Multiple times. She went through things no one should, and it was because of the poison she put into her body. I am free of these things, not completely for my self, but so i can stay strong for my friends. Being edge doesn't have to be about being "Humble or Mature" it's different for everyone, and to me it's about being strong for the ones i love.
fucking love have heart
know what you mean man. Its as much about being in a group as it is as being an outcast. Just remember dude everyone has there reasons for it. just saying edge is as important to one person as it is to the next.
turn up the volume so you can hear the song,hahaha.
You're welcome :)
if you want me to upload something, just ask
There's nothing wrong with abstaining from alcohol and drugs, in fact, bravo! That's a mature and healthy choice to live your life. However, when it comes to the point that people choose to not just to be "Straight Edge" and belong to a "family" it becomes annoying. They act like they are better than everybody and that they are now cool because they call themselves straightedge.
RIP to the victims of the Boston Marathon Bombings.
@PhilFoxNJ You best be trollin.
Straight Edge for life, mother fuckers!
i really want to get a have heart straight edge sweater, but i'm not straight edge -_____-
@constantinehelmet that happened to me as well, and then Verse.
'twas a sad fucking day.
Same here. And i have had Edge kids tell me that im a poser because i listen to Hardcore, Melodic hardcore, etc. Who the fuck cares? I'm not throwing my life away? So what. The "edge movement" really bugs me.