My Newborn Won't Sleep Unless They're Held
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- Опубліковано 7 лют 2025
- My Newborn Won't Sleep Unless They're Held
Are you wondering how to get your newborn sleeping well inside the bassinet, instead of in your arms? If your baby can't sleep unless you hold them, this video is for you.
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Will your newborn only sleep in your arms? I have 3 tips to help with that so your newborn can learn to sleep in the bassinet or crib.
I’m Jilly, pediatric nurse, LC, mom of 2 and I help tired parents get their babies sleeping great so they can LOVE this phase of raising babies.
Lets get to it, shall we?
First, let me explain WHY your newborn only wants to sleep ON you.
In the womb, your baby was always the right temperature, never hungry, soothed by your movements and always able to hear your heartbeat. That goes a long way with keeping your baby content!
Now that your newborn is in the big, bad world they’re learning to cope with bright lights, tummy gas, hunger, loud noises and Aunt Carol holding them in awkward positions.
It’s very normal for newborns to want to be held for sleep. This is where they feel safest and most secure.
Being in your arms (or on your chest) is as close to the womb as your baby is going to get.
Second, when your baby sleeps on your chest it means that they are sleeping on their tummy. This light pressure on their abdomen helps expel tummy gas (which can get painful for newborns) and aids digestion.
Next, newborns are born with the Moro reflex (also called the “startle reflex”). You see this reflex when your baby startles or shakes their arms when you place them down on their back.
Your newborn only wants to sleep on you because this means they’re sleeping on their tummy, which helps to dampen the Moro reflex. They can sleep longer and longer.
The truth is that babies sleep better on their tummies and letting your baby sleep on your chest, while you’re awake, is totally fine. When your newborn is sleeping anywhere else, like the bassinet or crib, they must sleep on their back.
A lot of parents wonder if it’s BAD to hold their newborn while they sleep.
It’s very normal and natural to hold your newborn while they sleep. It can help to strengthen your bond, lower your stress levels and help establish breastfeeding. Holding your baby while they sleep as a newborn won’t lead to them not being able to sleep in a bassinet or crib, ever.
If, on the other hand, you’re at the mercy of a baby who will only sleep in your arms or feeling like you’re trapped on the sofa several hours everyday so your baby can sleep, you’ll want to get this guide on getting your newborn to accept the bassinet.
I’ll give you a few tips now from my guide but definitely get the free download so you can get ALL the advice…
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Warm the bassinet sheet
Your baby may be jolting awake when you place them in the bassinet because the sheet is cold! To prevent this, put a heating pad on low or warm the sheet up with a heavy blanket about 30 minutes before your baby goes into the bassinet.
Always check to ensure that the sheet isn’t too warm (if using a heating pad or hot water bottle). And always remove any loose blankets before your baby is placed in the bassinet.
This can help the transition from your warm body to the bassinet go much easier.
Position your baby correctly
If you’re placing your baby into the bassinet already asleep, make sure to lower their body down so their feet touch the bed first (rather than their head).
Going down “head first” can often cause your baby to startle awake when they touch the mattress.
Also, place your baby in the bassinet with their feet touching the bottom side (rather than right in the middle where they may not be able to touch any of the sides). When babies are able to feel the boundary of their bassinet, it gives them added security and helps them relax.
Start watching wake windows
Start keeping track of the amount of time your baby is awake between naps (called “wake windows.”) Encouraging your baby to nap every 30-90 minutes will help them fall asleep easier, sleep better and accept the bassinet.
You can learn all ten steps for getting your baby to sleep in the bassinet by clicking here: www.babysleepm...
If you have any questions about your baby’s sleep, drop them in the comments. Take Care!
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Do you find this part the most helpful?!
My daughter is 2 days old and the “feet down first tip” helped, also placing her in the corner of the bassinet helped me so much ❤ thank you
Congratulations on your newest addition! We are SO happy to hear this. Definitely check out our website and videos for helpful tips and strategies as your sweet girl grows. :)
Thank you for this video. My daughter needs help with getting her 6 month old to sleep without rocking her to sleep in her arms & then trying to place her in the cot. She is also waking hourly at night. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Would your download give helpful advice for this situation?
Hello Angie,
Congrats on your newest granddaughter! Those first few months can be SO exhausting. The great news is that your LO is now the perfect age to fall asleep independently. When she learns how to fall asleep on her own in her cot, then she will be able to sleep longer stretches of sleep at night. The best place to get advice is in our 21 Days to Peace and Quiet program. We walk parents through this process step by step.
I was actually just a desperate mom of a 6-month-old when I used the program with my first, and wow, she started sleeping like a champ. She's 6 years old now, but still a total sleep champion! We would love to support your family too!
CLICK HERE to learn more-->www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant
Best,
Alyssa, BSMS Client Support Manager
These are really great ideas. Gonna try tonight
Good luck! Let me know if you have any questions.
You can download my free guide on getting your newborn to sleep in the bassinet or crib here: www.babysleepmadesimple.com/newborn-bassinet-guide
my baby is 1 month old. she slept 20 minutes in arms then after puuting ln bed woke up in just 10 minutes.
Congratulations on your newest addition! We would love to support your family! Check out our bassinet guide below. This will help get your LO out of your arms for a little bit and sleeping comfortably in the bassinet!
CLICK BELOW to learn more-->www.babysleepmadesimple.com/newborn-bassinet-guide
Yes my baby is one month old and doing this and I’m extra stressed from lack of sleep
Same here
Omg I was THERE! It was miserable and triggered post partum depression to the point I didn’t want to see another day. My biggest advice to any parent is IT WILL- WILL get better. Do what you have to do to survive. I bought new recliner couches just to hold him to sleep. Once he was 5ish months I let him cry it out. You have to make sure they nap enough in the day so they sleep at night. So make sure they nap no matter what it takes.
Thank you so much for sharing your story!!
Will it really get better? Baby is coming up to 2 weeks old and cosleeping TERRIFIES me, but he won’t sleep in his crib. I put him in and 5-15 min later he wakes up and screams 😢
@@bananayummyable I'm on the same boat!😅
Struggling right now. Baby girl is three days old and is cluster feeding. I had a meltdown on night two 😢😢😢😢
@@bananayummyablehow are things now?
My 2-month-old baby does not wake between naps in the afternoon. How should I manage his wake windows in the daytime ?
Hi there!
We recommend using shorter wake window in the morning, and slowly increasing them as the day goes on. Babies can handle less awake time in the morning but more towards the end of the day. Also, make sure to wake up your LO at the 2 hour mark during his/nap to feed.
Best,
Alyssa, BSMS Client Support Manager
I have tried all of these things plus sleep training on 5 months .. nothing is working at all my baby won’t sleep by himself he cries too much before sleeping
It can be SO hard to see our LOs so upset before bedtime. Some kiddos are more strong-willed than others, however, some schedule and routine adjustments could also help. We would love to support your family! CLICK BELOW to learn more about our 21 Days program.
www.babysleepmadesimple.com/baby-sleep-consultant
Best,
Alyssa, BSMS Client Support Manager
My 4 months old baby is the same. I tried everything but he still gets up as soon as I place him in his crib or maybe after an hour for his night sleep. I need to keep him upright and as soon as I try to put him sleeping position he starts to cry.
I can't seem to be able to enter my email for the guide :(
Please send us an email at support@babysleepmadesimple.com. I am happy to send you the guide! Best, Alyssa, BSMS Client Support Manager