Your words really made me cry right now! :( I'm into full recovery for 8 days. No compulsive movement, eating, reacting to my mental hunger....- Anf oh my god! There is a war inside me! Water retention, digestive issues, so much pain I think won't handle. The anxiety inside me is indescribable huge. But I know what happens, when I'm relapsing again. Your words are so empowering to endure this situation and that pushing through the uncomfortable situation is worth it, because sometimes I'm about to end up hopeless. You always give me this hope back! Thank you for reminding me of so many reasons why I want to recover and give a sh!#" about a dumb number on a scale anymore :-*
Please make a video about how to not respond to the compulsive voice, especially when it doesn't seem to hurt to follow. For example, "just climb the stairs, " "just do some squats," " just cycle for a while" etc
I think there is just one way... make your recovery commitments! What do you want to achieve? And whenever the voice comes up, DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE and say your coomitments loud to yourself! It always helps me to see myself in the position to annoy the ED! Like "Oh poor ED wants me to climb stairs or do some sit-ups? Watche me sitting on my coach having a snack!" *sticking tongue out*
It's kind of crazy how we have to defend ourselves in society for something that makes complete sense. "I'm hungry... so I am totally eating some food. Hell, no. I don't want a salad. I want pizza. Duh." Lol.
7 months into weight restoration and committing fully to recovery and I can honestly say I have never struggled with body image so much as I am now. All of the physical changes (20+ kgs) can be terrifying to deal with but as you say, we need to set our sights on life and our true values; stripping down the lies that anorexia spits at us. I often try to remind myself in times of extreme anxiety and distress over body image how well I am doing - because really, my ed is just flaring up and highlighting all of my ‘flaws’ or ‘imperfections’ because it is absolutely fucking terrified of losing its hold over me. We can’t recover without anorexia backchat - if everything is hunky dory we are doing something wrong, and it has taken me years to come to this realisation! Thank you for this video - very timely and very appropriate ☺️
I'm in a similar boat. Have been at the weight set for me by a treatment team for a few months now, but I'm still so hungry and gaining some. I feel guilty every day, it's horrible. Gotta keep going on though.
@@amymarguerite3507 congratulations!! that really gives me hope! Do you have some tips you can share with us? I am into recovery since 1 year and a couple of months and still struggle with body image and urges to restrict
Wow Tabitha, this really struck home. My values......how I treat myself and value myself as opposed to how I see and value others. This is a great mantra that I’m going to use. Thank you.
this is a phenomenal video for not just recovery, but also life as a whole. I've been reading/watching some of your content since I stumbled upon it earlier today, and I feel like you have a bold and unique perspective that I actually resonate with! i'd love to be able to have a conversation with you more about some of your ideas!!
Hello my name is Ellie and my Anorexia started late for me 36 I had given my body a massive shit storm for 2 years I won't go into numbers but had a very low body weight and was admitted into to hospital in June after admitting on the telephone to my mum what I had been doing ( my body was so tired I couldnt even think anymore ) and kind of knew in my own mind that I was dying and I didn't want that. by the way I live in Austria my family in England so I told them in hospital and they said I had to stay in ( talking about bmi you only had to look at me to see I was underweight) so I was told I had to eat 6 times a day nightmare for me no one watched what I ate or seemed to really care just talked about bmi I work seasonal and was egger to get out and start so I ate very little just enough to see the bmi go up a little ( also they were offering tablets all the time sedative ( nothing wrong with them if the help you ) so to cut along story short got out went back to work hasn't seen my work mate for a long time and they all started commenting on how thin I was ( Anorexia was pleased about that but Ellie wasn't she could see people were really really worried so that in mind also I knew my family and friends were beside their self with worry in England then I made a turning point I put my handbag strap in my mouth ( don't know why ) and all my juices started flowing in my mouth and my belly bubbled because my poor poor body thought I was eating by the way it's a kind of plastic handbag not even leather so I researched a lot on UA-cam about eating disorder and THANK GOD found Tabs and it is really working for me I feel a millions dollors (yes I am not going to lie I have put on weight and the voice is always there but now I tell it to shut the fuck up and eat some more FOOD Sorry for swearing on here by the way and I hope I haven't said anything that are trigger for anyone Just one more thing I want to say beauty comes from the inside ( and anorexia tried to take that away from me but I am now taking my life back please believe me it is hard I know but just do it just eat something listen to your body don't treat it bad anymore we should all be really looking after them like they have look after us so go on feed it say Thankyou you for all the weeks months year you treat it bad because I thank my body so much that I am still here today and I am thanking it by giving it what it wants and that is yes you have guest MORE FOOD Just one more thing go FUCK YOURSELF Anorxia because your fucking me up anymore
I struggle with feeling like,"oh,maybe this won't work for me.Im already overweight and maybe this won't work for me.When intype in why I can't lose weight even though I restrict,a video will come up about insulin being the reason I have gained or can't budge the scale and if you eat bread,rice ,pasta and other refined foods,you won't lose weight because insulin is too high.Then I think,"what if that's my problem and how can I eat unrestrictively if this is my real problem.I mess with myself and go back and forth because I use to be small ,but after restrictive eating and tons of exercise I gained more and more weight.I question that maybe the food I'm trying to not avoid are the problem causing more weight gain when I don restrict.
Hi there. I'm overweight as well, in fact despite a decade of dieting I am at my highest weight. I had many behaviors typical of anorexia nervosa, but people would never be able to tell because they just guessed I was on the right path to thinness and beauty "perfection" 🙃. I'm now eating as much as I want when I want, and my body seems very fine and energetic thanks to that. I'm never going to restrict again and I'm very sure of this, since the last diet I tried definitely proved I can't lose weight anymore, unless I starve myself or fast (fasting helps regulate insulin but it's not sustainable and probably keeps you in starvation mode). I also came to believe (experience) CICO is bullshit. I'm finally really nourishing my body with all kinds of food and I'm not stopping anytime soon.. I suggest you give yourself time, try it out for good (which means following the minimum amount of food you are supposed to eat) and try to enjoy the process (I.e. Life). By going on and off restricting you destroy any benefit of eating as much as you want, and you keep damaging your metabolism, hormones and body. Trust me, I did the same thing for a few years now.
@@cyan7181 i’m trying to trust the process myself, but i’m in this phase where I feel like a stranger in my own bigger body and fearing I might overshoot into oblivion :( 2 months in
You are NOT your ED and your are NOT just a body!!!!!!!!!! 🙌🙌❤️
Your words really made me cry right now! :(
I'm into full recovery for 8 days. No compulsive movement, eating, reacting to my mental hunger....-
Anf oh my god! There is a war inside me!
Water retention, digestive issues, so much pain I think won't handle.
The anxiety inside me is indescribable huge. But I know what happens, when I'm relapsing again.
Your words are so empowering to endure this situation and that pushing through the uncomfortable situation is worth it, because sometimes I'm about to end up hopeless.
You always give me this hope back! Thank you for reminding me of so many reasons why I want to recover and give a sh!#" about a dumb number on a scale anymore :-*
how are you doing now? :)
Charmaine Ng heey, how are you?
Please make a video about how to not respond to the compulsive voice, especially when it doesn't seem to hurt to follow. For example, "just climb the stairs, " "just do some squats," " just cycle for a while" etc
I think there is just one way... make your recovery commitments! What do you want to achieve?
And whenever the voice comes up, DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE and say your coomitments loud to yourself!
It always helps me to see myself in the position to annoy the ED!
Like "Oh poor ED wants me to climb stairs or do some sit-ups? Watche me sitting on my coach having a snack!"
*sticking tongue out*
It's kind of crazy how we have to defend ourselves in society for something that makes complete sense. "I'm hungry... so I am totally eating some food. Hell, no. I don't want a salad. I want pizza. Duh." Lol.
7 months into weight restoration and committing fully to recovery and I can honestly say I have never struggled with body image so much as I am now. All of the physical changes (20+ kgs) can be terrifying to deal with but as you say, we need to set our sights on life and our true values; stripping down the lies that anorexia spits at us. I often try to remind myself in times of extreme anxiety and distress over body image how well I am doing - because really, my ed is just flaring up and highlighting all of my ‘flaws’ or ‘imperfections’ because it is absolutely fucking terrified of losing its hold over me. We can’t recover without anorexia backchat - if everything is hunky dory we are doing something wrong, and it has taken me years to come to this realisation! Thank you for this video - very timely and very appropriate ☺️
I'm in a similar boat. Have been at the weight set for me by a treatment team for a few months now, but I'm still so hungry and gaining some. I feel guilty every day, it's horrible. Gotta keep going on though.
Hi, how are you now?
@@eggandplant3682 Fully recovered and thriving!
@@amymarguerite3507 congratulations!! that really gives me hope! Do you have some tips you can share with us? I am into recovery since 1 year and a couple of months and still struggle with body image and urges to restrict
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Wow Tabitha, this really struck home. My values......how I treat myself and value myself as opposed to how I see and value others. This is a great mantra that I’m going to use. Thank you.
oh tabitha. I needed this so much. Thank you for your work and how you reach so many of us
this is a phenomenal video for not just recovery, but also life as a whole.
I've been reading/watching some of your content since I stumbled upon it earlier today, and I feel like you have a bold and unique perspective that I actually resonate with! i'd love to be able to have a conversation with you more about some of your ideas!!
Hello my name is Ellie and my Anorexia started late for me 36 I had given my body a massive shit storm for 2 years I won't go into numbers but had a very low body weight and was admitted into to hospital in June after admitting on the telephone to my mum what I had been doing ( my body was so tired I couldnt even think anymore ) and kind of knew in my own mind that I was dying and I didn't want that. by the way I live in Austria my family in England so I told them in hospital and they said I had to stay in ( talking about bmi you only had to look at me to see I was underweight) so I was told I had to eat 6 times a day nightmare for me no one watched what I ate or seemed to really care just talked about bmi I work seasonal and was egger to get out and start so I ate very little just enough to see the bmi go up a little ( also they were offering tablets all the time sedative ( nothing wrong with them if the help you ) so to cut along story short got out went back to work hasn't seen my work mate for a long time and they all started commenting on how thin I was ( Anorexia was pleased about that but Ellie wasn't she could see people were really really worried so that in mind also I knew my family and friends were beside their self with worry in England then I made a turning point I put my handbag strap in my mouth ( don't know why ) and all my juices started flowing in my mouth and my belly bubbled because my poor poor body thought I was eating by the way it's a kind of plastic handbag not even leather so I researched a lot on UA-cam about eating disorder and THANK GOD found Tabs and it is really working for me I feel a millions dollors (yes I am not going to lie I have put on weight and the voice is always there but now I tell it to shut the fuck up and eat some more FOOD Sorry for swearing on here by the way and I hope I haven't said anything that are trigger for anyone
Just one more thing I want to say beauty comes from the inside ( and anorexia tried to take that away from me but I am now taking my life back please believe me it is hard I know but just do it just eat something listen to your body don't treat it bad anymore we should all be really looking after them like they have look after us so go on feed it say Thankyou you for all the weeks months year you treat it bad because I thank my body so much that I am still here today and I am thanking it by giving it what it wants and that is yes you have guest MORE FOOD
Just one more thing go FUCK YOURSELF Anorxia because your fucking me up anymore
Awesome video Tabs thank you 😊
I struggle with feeling like,"oh,maybe this won't work for me.Im already overweight and maybe this won't work for me.When intype in why I can't lose weight even though I restrict,a video will come up about insulin being the reason I have gained or can't budge the scale and if you eat bread,rice ,pasta and other refined foods,you won't lose weight because insulin is too high.Then I think,"what if that's my problem and how can I eat unrestrictively if this is my real problem.I mess with myself and go back and forth because I use to be small ,but after restrictive eating and tons of exercise I gained more and more weight.I question that maybe the food I'm trying to not avoid are the problem causing more weight gain when I don restrict.
Hi there. I'm overweight as well, in fact despite a decade of dieting I am at my highest weight. I had many behaviors typical of anorexia nervosa, but people would never be able to tell because they just guessed I was on the right path to thinness and beauty "perfection" 🙃.
I'm now eating as much as I want when I want, and my body seems very fine and energetic thanks to that. I'm never going to restrict again and I'm very sure of this, since the last diet I tried definitely proved I can't lose weight anymore, unless I starve myself or fast (fasting helps regulate insulin but it's not sustainable and probably keeps you in starvation mode). I also came to believe (experience) CICO is bullshit.
I'm finally really nourishing my body with all kinds of food and I'm not stopping anytime soon.. I suggest you give yourself time, try it out for good (which means following the minimum amount of food you are supposed to eat) and try to enjoy the process (I.e. Life). By going on and off restricting you destroy any benefit of eating as much as you want, and you keep damaging your metabolism, hormones and body. Trust me, I did the same thing for a few years now.
@@cyan7181 i’m trying to trust the process myself, but i’m in this phase where I feel like a stranger in my own bigger body and fearing I might overshoot into oblivion :( 2 months in
Youre amazing, thank you.
extremely helpful and inspiring, thanks
Thank you
How can I learn to not giving a fuck? 😅
Can I ask a tmi question 😳😳
Did you find with Ed you need to wee loads and sometimes so desperate even if you went recently... 🤔
Yeah, I had that too, glad that's over :)
You can do it