My situation is worse. I identify as a billionaire but my bank identify me as poor when they see how much money I have on my account... it's truly heart breaking and triggering that the bank doesn't give me billions since my pronouns are also BILLION.
Absolutely. Do people actually come up to one another and ask about their prefered pronouns? It's so wacky to me, maybe because i'm from Europe and nobody speaks like that.
@@MsJuma1984 It's quite common nowadays in Corporate speak. I was out of a job for a month and a half and during that time I was interviewing left and right and talking with recruiters multiple times a day. I was asked a good 2 dozen times what my preferred pronouns were. I think they were using it as a litmus test tbh.
Most of the people in these videos that are mad about something do the bare minimum to learn what femininity involves too. I realise this person amy be at the start of their journey, but at that point you have to expect to be misgendered and the person apologised for it.
Them: “Trans women could look like anything” Also them: “I’m wearing a dress and makeup. How can she get my gender wrong?!” **proceeds to assume another person’s gender**
I love how that woman misgendered herself by saying she’s attracted to ‘other women’ and then she tried to immediately fix it and say she’s a ‘non-man’.
@@dariuszwalaszczyk3205 It's ridiculous. At this point I've come to the realization that it's really hard to rationalize irration and reason with the unreasonable.
@@dariuszwalaszczyk3205 , because the man is the definition of being a human while the woman is something, ugh, egh, who knows what, subhuman/non-human/ less-human/ non-man, okey-doke. Makes me sick. Once I was told by some crazy ass activist that a man means not a male but a human and my reaction was wtf - are you saying that lesbians aren't people or what? Just stupid awkward silence in response when that freak realised what exactly it said
Im a non femine woman. I dont own makeup or dresses. I buy my clothes in the mens department because they have useful pockets and are comfortable, but i am no less a woman because I'm more comfortable rebuilding an engine than shopping at sephora.
I'm the same way. I've been told I am queer since I'm non gender confirming. I don't label myself as queer. I am attracted to the opposite sex. I'm a biological woman that understands there is a difference between a biological female/male and a trans female/male.
I'm a beardy, hairy Scotsman. Love me a good skirt! And let's not lie, I have a great set of pins for heels, and rock some filthy eye makeup. Pretty sure no one thinks I look particularly feminine when I'm dolled up ;)
People keep mixing up male vs masculine and female vs feminine these days. Masculine means "commonly associated with the male sex" and feminine means "commonly associated with the female sex". A lot of this is based on social norms. Historically, in many cultures both men and women wore dress-like garments. Scottish men wore kilts, which are skirts. It's really rough. In Ancient Egypt, both male and female priests were hairless from head to toe, including the eyelashes. (Ouch.) If human civilization still exists 200 years from now, people will wonder about why women were expected to wear make-up as part of a business-like outfit or why men were allowed to show body hair but women were expected to remove their armpit hair, whether they were wearing long sleeves or not.
Sooo because I'm female and I DON'T wear dresses and eyeliner, does that mean I'm not a woman? I thought we were trying to get away from gender stereotypes. These people are walking hypocrites and contradictions.
these "lesbians" are delusional. I swear im going to be single forever. Bc i know for a fact that person would 100% date a man with a beard, dresses like a man, looks like a man, acts like a man, if he said hes "non binary" because that makes him not a man. I see it all the time. And those are the people that shove in your face that theyre in a "queer" relationship when its just a hetero relationship lol. ive had so many non binary guys hit me up on apps as if that makes a difference to lesbians....but i mean apparently it does to some because apperently theyre allowed to identify as lesbians
Everytime I hear "assigned at birth", my brain pees blood. Our sex is determined at birth. We're not assigned penises and vaginas. We have them when we come out. There may be instances where a child is born intersex sure, but they don't make up the entire population for nonbinary to have a reason to exist. And hell, a lot of intersex people don't even want to be associated with this craziness. Can't say that I blame them.
That, and even if you're intersex, you're still technically genetically male or female. So the people using intersex to invalidate the argument that sex is binary are still wrong.
My brain pees blood when I hear that too 😂 I’m an intersex man, and the term “assigned x at birth” actually came from the intersex community to fight invasive (and solely cosmetic) surgeries on newborns. The trans activist movement stole and appropriated the term to apply it to themselves.
@@RavenHaili nah, it's all about the GMOs, gotta slot stuff in early. Although I for one am sad no one's making green fluorescent people. I met some glowing pigs once (REALLY) and they were cool AF!
I will never not be mad at some dudes dying their hair pink, putting on eyeliner that reaches up to their ears, claiming to be a woman and posting a tiktok video ranting about being called a 'he'. You sir need help :) Love your videos Marcus, much love and greetings from Germany
They are trying to erase passing and call transsexuals like myself “transphobic” for passing. After multiple surgeries and years of doctors and struggle I as a passing TS, am NOT fighting for dudes in make up to appropriate what being “trans” means.
Idk. I feel like it's just a way to make videos as a victim. Like oh no look someone misgendered me. Oh woe is me. It's getting ridiculous out here lol 😂
@@victoriasmith2965yes ! It becomes their entire personality and a way to finally get the attention they’ve always craved. Many of these special snowflake complainers wouldn’t gain an ounce of traction or notoriety if not for the ridiculousness.
The pink haired one getting mad that this employee just quickly said sorry and moved on (instead of, what? groveling at his feet?)...i've always been told that if you accidentally misgender a trans person, to just quickly apologize and correct yourself without lingering on it and drawing more attention to it? What more does he want her to do exactly? Also I figure most trans people are painfully aware if they don't pass, yet this person seems baffled that anyone would think he is anything other than a woman just cuz he's wearing a dress. Strange.
My autistic son who’s 11 saw a dude in a dress the other day at Costco. He had 5oclock shadow, was wearing a dress and had pink hair, looked like a clown. My son sees him, turns to me and says “dad, why is that man trying to disguise himself as a woman?” 😂
"She's one of those 'ignorant and hateful' people, who believe there's a million ways to be a man", this is why I love your content Marcus, that was clever!
I cannot imagine how many trans people (not trans activists) would feel now and during the recent few years. People who have gone through truly hard time transitioning. And hard time was on all levels - emotionally, financially, socially, interpersonally inside their family-friends circle - the list is long. And they finally reached that level of happiness or comfort, when they no longer feel like they stick out. The entire goal (although my opinion is derived from knowing one person who has transitioned a long time ago - and that was a bumpy ride to put it mildly). This person said that the world dropped when someone asked “what are your preferred pronouns”. All the hard work put into the transition had one of the main goals - to NOT be asked such a question. And it feels so unfair and defeating today.
Please, we need to make "TOXIC NON BINARITY" a thing; as I've mentioned this before, that if "toxic masculinity" is a thing and "toxic femininity" is equally a thing - then WE ALL need to make "toxic non-binarity" a thing, too!!!
I’m grossed out completely when she said a lesbian is a non- men loving non- men. 🤮 I’ll stop calling myself lesbian. I am a bio-woman who is romantically, sexually, and emotionally attracted to bio-women. Gawd! These people. I’m glad I am not dating. So glad to be single.
like is it so offensive to be a woman that it is preferable to be called a non-man? It sounds so creepy on so many levels. Frankly, those stupid jokes that women are just men with boobs and vaginas are much more respectful - at least you are not denied your humanity
Not being traditionally beautiful or feminine does not mean you are no longer a woman. I cannot think of something more blatantly sexist than defining womanhood by beauty (especially since most of the time it comes from a man’s vision of beauty for women)
I think in general you will find most men dgaf about beauty as long as it sucks fucks & smells nice. Most men prefere fat chicks though if theyre honest about it...Skinny birds feel like theyre going to break if you touch them.
We went from insisting that makeup and dresses don’t determine a woman’s worth to literally saying men are women because they crossdress. What is happening out there
Couldn’t agree more. Ellen Page becoming Elliot was a sad day for women: she represented the breaking down of societal expectations of women - it was okay to not be feminine and still be considered attractive, in a different way. When she decided to become a male, it was like it reversed all that hard work of changing what it meant to BE a woman. We were SO close! Women were allowed to be whoever, men were allowed to be whoever, FINALLY! and now it’s turned to “if you don’t want assumptions made about you based on your gender, you have to change what you identify as.” The point was to stop putting people in boxes! Now we just created 100s more boxes, wtf
So funny because when I was growing up it was "you can be whatever type of girl you want to be" And I was a tomboy. There were times in the 90s where I had a pixie cut and it wasn't a popular Style. I've even shaved my head all the way down and wore my boy cousin's hand-me-downs. And that same person who could be any type of woman she wanted to be grew up to give birth to four babies and nursed them all with those glorious boobs that I originally hated. Thank God they told me I could be any woman that I wanted to be. Because they told me that, I believed it and I became the woman that I want to be🎉 I'm not the most feminine but I have done the most female thing🎉
Exactly! We're going backwards. Before it was: "you can do whatever you want - you're a woman and can work as a plumber, you are a man and you can wear make up. It's fine. A gender doesn't define what you can do or be". Now it's: "if you wear a dress you're a woman, if you play rugby you're a boy"
I think gender euphoria is actually some modified form of dupers delight - which is what narcissists get when someone they’re into takes the bate or they get someone cornered and get a twisted sense of “delight”
Anyone who knows they’re not being completely forthcoming can display this but it is definitely the mutated, even more deranged version of Duper’s Delight within this context for sure.
This is really the issue I have w/ those clowns. They want all leaders to look like them. They want all children’s books to be about them. They want the history re-written around them. They want everyone to find them sexually attractive. They want everyone to baby them-or they’d claim you’re denying their existence.
so, this person would rather their bank not adhere to security provisions - can't wait to see them flip out when someone empties their bank account because the bank didn't follow protocol 😂
The fact that people are getting MAD over others for not affirming their made-up gender and pronouns… reveals how self-absorbed and selfish that those people are. People CAN’T read your mind. People will call you based on what you look like. And that doesn’t make them a -phobe or -ist! Second, they really assume that you have to be a man to like masculine things, or a woman to like feminine things… sounds pretty sexist to me!😅 Great video as always!❤
I am in customer service, and I have said ma'am to men and sir to women. It is not intentional, or meant to be disrespectful in regards to anyone's gender. It's trying to show respect to the customer, but when using the same phrases repeatedly during the day while trying to focus on the tasks of my job. It is not intentional or meant to be hurtful, it is truly just an accident especially when using the same inter changeable phrases repeatedly during a busy shift.
I work cust service over the phone. It's harder to know if it's a woman or man when their name is Leslie and sound like a man but can be a woman 😢 I do my best to not use ma'm or sir. Kinda hard when you are trying to be respectful cause that's the way we are told to direct ourselves to another person ma'm or sir offends everyone
I really think, like you said about the banker, most people have no problem with a man or a woman dressing however they want. What would exasperate them would be to have to tiptoe around constantly.
" I am wearing a dress", " I am wearing eyeshadow" hmmmm....I thought they were saying that wearing a dress and makeup is not something that only a woman does🤔🤔🤔
You know what? Good for you, I can respect that. Being realistic and not delusional, while also trying to live your best life with the cards you've been dealt without negatively affecting anyone else is very respectable.
I'm not very feminine. I do fighting sports and very rarely wear makeup. I was a tomboy growing up. I am absolutely still a woman because being a woman isn't a costume I can put on and take off.
Yes. The community fought so hard for people who feel as you do to be accepted as the women you are and now these "activists" come along and turn everything on it's head. There is nothing wrong with a woman who has more masculine traits. You don't need to change. Trying to force everyone to go up to women who may present a little masculine and ask pro-nouns, would seem to be so hurtful to a woman who already may be a little insecure about people thinking they might be a man. It sounds more like some frat boy challenge to be deliberately hurtful, "Hey are you sure your not a dude?"
@@winstonwolf6791 I didn't even think about that! lol that's so true, then once people start asking more the next thing they'll whine about is being asked. Even though supposedly it's not based off of their own insecurity about if they pass or not 🤷♀️😂
My workplace got my name on the payslip wrong for 15 years. Emotional damage!!!!! Now im retired and i still get mail from them from time to time, still wrong name. Maybe i should tell them?
Watching you and others like you, eg Blaire, Buck, Jessica etc, gives me the ammunition needed to deal with the deluded people o sometimes speak to in real life.
They still win in most places. A nonbinary nutjob who never showers took over the last place I worked. She gets away with every single thing she wants including absolute hatespeech on everyone else. She brings in her lunchbox and opens it to show everyone ferret poop allover her food that she then eats. She is soooo disgusting and she runs the place because the company has a 7 page policy on respecting the trans community. It's absolutely insane.
Thank you for this! I am a woman who was brainwashed by these people. I thought I was a demigirl and had she/they pronouns because I am not feminine and feel uncomfortable being feminine so thought I wasn't a woman by their standards. Now, I shop in the mens section, and still hate dressing in "woman" clothes but am still a woman!! This is sooooo important to be heard. PSA to all tomboys out there. You are valid as a woman and your personality is valid as is :) Also, I never understand why pronouns are such a sensitive topic. If someone calls me she, he, they, or anything else you hear these days, I'm not going to be mad. Or even correct them. I simply do not care.
Also I am autistic and it pisses me off that it typically affects autistic people with ideologies like this. We always feel like we don't fit in (especially female autistics). The stats vary so I'm not going to state them but it is a lot. It's so sad.
I’m a tomboy. Never once thought that made me less of a woman. 😂 I’m just not girly but I still get my papsmears and worry about cancer. These men who claim to be women have NO IDEA what women have to go through.
Thank you for saying that euphoria isn't a really thing. I thought it was only me that was like kool I'm looking more like myself but I still haven't gotten the euphoria feeling like everyone talks about. I'm just proud of who I'm becoming and seeking the changes.
as a grown woman thats dealt with body dysmorphia, I'll agree that gender euphoria doesnt exist. I dont go out feeling special/ extra happy / excited just because i might go out one day looking more feminine than i usually do. Thats literally just feeling normal in your body. I dont wake up and go through my day thinking "oh thank GOD im a woman!
I like to compare it to weight loss. When you hit your weight goal, you'll get a sense of pride or euphoria, because you've done something difficult and succeeded. But after a while of being that weight, it becomes the new normal and there's a lot less to be proud of or celebrate. That feeling of euphoria is a temporary response to a new thing or a success. You can have "new job euphoria", "new hair colour euphoria", "new puppy euphoria", "new skill euphoria" etc but it won't last because it just becomes part of daily life. Our brains will not keep rewarding us with dopamine for doing everyday normal things/existing, so the feeling fades.
31 years of being a female and not one time have I experienced “gender euphoria”, which according to them I should experience like every single time I’m referred to as a female?
I remember an old interview with Olympian Johnny Weir, they asked him if he would rather be a woman, or if he thinks of himself as a woman, since he is so obviously feminine? He said something like (my paraphrasing here) no, he loves his penis, he's just an effeminate person. Then said, "I'm happy being a man with a purse." I so appreciated that sentiment, and I think about it alot these days when listening to non binary people exploit transgender suffering to get attention.
That's the worse part about most of this. Folks that use ma'am and sir are OFTEN saying it as a sign of respect. I was raised in the South and it feels rude not to address someone with a phrase of showing respect. I think, for me, it goes back to how I was raised. I will call and young person sir or ma'am. I'd say WAY MORE OFTEN than NOT, it is someone trying to be polite. That's all.
I just dont get this. You ask them what a woman is, but they never say makeup and clothes.... because that would be gender stereotyping which they know is wrong because not every woman wears makeup and dresses (its why they always fall on the definition "anyone can be a woman if they "feel" like it and identify" because its the only way around this conundrum.... but then they get mad when someone doesnt call them a she even though they are wearing makeup and a dress..... because OBVIOUSLY they are a woman if they are wearing a dress and makeup. HUH??? I literally dont understand their logic what so ever. Is it dresses and makeup? or is it not dresses and makeup??? They are all about stereotypes while simultaneously NOT being about stereotypes.
I am more and more convinced that these tik tok are all just attention seekers, real or not and not worth worrying about. All they want is attention and We're giving it to them.
Good video... a calm honest and refreshing look at a subject im not often allowed an opinion on or asking questions about without getting a 24 hour commenting ban...
To me, it feels like the first girl with the glasses was just one of those that never quite "fit in." So now she's found this community that all of a sudden makes her feel seen and almost as the cool kid if she says she's all these things. Nah honey, you're just a lesbian with social awkwardness. Which is fine too, geesh!
I was a tomboy growing up and now in my 30s I'm a fullblown (boyish/sporty) lesbian. So happy that this trans trend wasn't a thing when I grew up, cuz' I would probably have bought it and thought I was trans...and regreted it when I got older...
I was a teenager in the 80s, so a man wearing makeup with long hair is not a girl to me. Now a dress, yeah, I'd figure you were a cross-dresser. Now I have to assume trans, I guess! I live in a very liberal state so there are tons of blue or pink haired face pierced people working in businesses now, people with beards called "Godiva" or whatnot, and lots of non-binary types. I know most of it's a fad, which is fine. But to get in trouble for mis-gendering, that I'm not fine with. I'm a masculine woman...I don't get upset if I'm called sir.
Why does it have to be such an atrocity when one gets misgendered??? I just don’t understand the outrage. It’s like they WANT to be outraged. From my perspective, it seems like they’re more comfortable airing out their grievances than they are in their own skin. They’ve spent the majority of their lives up until that point dealing with it, so if the person who’s misgendered them just “brushes it off,” then why can’t they do the same? Do they really think they’re *ENTITLED* to more than an apology? What else do they expect to happen? Especially at a bank, where little details like *YOUR LEGAL NAME* hold a bit of importance… Both sides of the political spectrum seemingly love to be outraged. It goes hand in hand with extremism
Apparently that means if you like more masculine stuff you aren’t a woman according to this logic. Never mind women in sports, or women martial arts fighters, or women action movie stars. But then again these people seem to think in a collective and ignore the fact that we are individuals and we all have our own likes and dislikes.
It means the person struggles to fit in and act as people expect them too.. I'm one of those people. It dosen't mean they are not their biological sex or that they have a gender spirit. They need therapy not selfregious tiktok gender group think.
I was confused by that too. there's a million different ways that women act and dress, she's acting like we're living 200 years ago or something. It's kinda sexist to insinuate that all women wear dresses and act girly.
Hey Marcus!! Love ya and your content. So I've heard it all now in regards to the first girl.... "a lesbian is a non woman loving a non woman." Seriously?! Wtffffff?! I showed my best friend, a lifelong lesbian lol, aged 46. She was sooo confused 😂😂 and like most of us, she is beyond sick of these delusional folks. Anyway, thank you for all you do! ❤
Why would someone wear their sexuality all over them? Like this woman and the scarf, glasses etc. why does she/he expect us to reaffirm her sexuality? KEEP IT TO YOURSELF, WE DON'T CARE!!!
100% buffalo bill was DENIED from the gender clinic because he was a heterosexual man with autogynephilia. He liked women! She even says in that movie “transsexuals are meek” she’s talking about the OTHER type that likes men. Like Blaire white or Eden the doll!
Omg THANK YOU!!! "Gender Euphoria" is just BIZZARE to me! And I'm a 30 year old gay dude! A person who seeks "gender euphoria" is just someone who isn't confident or comfortable with their own identity.
Did they really just say ‘I am wearing a dress, I’m wearing makeup’ Um, excuse me, you are not a woman for that alone. When I take my dress and makeup off at night, am I a man now?
I am proud of the work you do. It takes a lot of balls to speak out against the Trans activists. I hope everybody will wake up and finally see that people are going about this in the wrong way. ❤
I just have to say, I just discovered this channel, and your content is amazing. My goddaughter’s son is severely physically disabled (a severe form of Charcot Marie Tooth disease) and after never having shown any interest in anything feminine or female, at age 18 he suddenly thinks he is trans. She doesn’t care what he is or isn’t; she loves him and is trying to do everything right for him to make him happy, and nothing seems to be the right move. He is fed misinformation and talking points from strangers online. I am sending her to your channel when I see her on the weekend. She desperately needs help and real, factual information. I’m so glad I found you! Cheers from 🇨🇦!
No woman, would leave the house looking like that. The way a woman, typically dresses and does her makeup and hair, is like a work of art. I don’t know any woman, who leaves the house with bed head.
My dad used to work with a man who would cross-dress at work. He would wear gaudy dresses akin to what a street walker would wear, makeup piled enough to make a drag queen blush, and ugly chipped nail polish. These people not only fail to look like women...they act like being a woman is a characature and a trope and a joke. Disgusting.
@scottallen5269 Thanks but not all of us are artists! I struggle to apply lashes & liner evenly but I do get compliments on my frizzy, disheveled, curly bedhead hair!
The last minute of your video really sumed up our society better than most law makers, educators, doctors, and parents can express when dealing with this issue as a whole. Thank you.
I'm 47 and still don't really in in anywhere but still a woman. How can you have gender dysphoria or euphoria if you are "non binary" and don't identify as a gender. These people are insane lol
Am a new viewer. I love the insight you have & give. It’s…so clever & refreshing. Honest but not at all unkind. So reasonable, careful, intelligent, & nuanced. It seems you're able to immediately & seemingly easily get others to think about things in different ways. You have a gift for this!
This is really just a level of entitlement that I have never seen before, it’s become overwhelming. I feel bad for all the people who are getting yelled at for ‘misgendering’ someone when they are literally just doing their job and doing the best they can. This is why I cannot work with the general public because I cannot understand peoples entitlement and I don’t like to put up with it.
I have said several times that I am glad I grew up in the 80s and 90s. I was and to some degree still am a tomboy, but I never thought I was a boy, I just didn't like all the girly girl stuff and wanted to go play in the dirt, but if I was growing up today I think people would label me as trans and try to push me to transition. No thank you, I will just be me.
I sometimes wonder about this too, as an early 40s, beardy hairy gay man who rocks a bit of eyeliner and painted nails some days. I sometimes wonder if some of the younger male NB- identifying guys I know are doing it as almost a reaction from #MeToo - 'I don't want to be man because men are terrible'. To me, I feel like the solution is to be better men - kinder, using our privileges to kick doors down and stand up for the oppressed, not denying masculinity. But then maybe that makes me a boomer!
@@alifloydtv after growing up listening to the hair bands, I don't think twice about anyone with some eyeliner and painted nails, haha. And thank you for using your skills for good :)
We went from accepting ppl for who they are…. Look at the 80s and 90s …. Men wore makeup, woman were more masculine…. To if your feminine or like makeup your a girl and if your masculine your a boy…. It didn’t used to change the fact they were men and woman. I was a tomboy…. Still am in a lot of ways even after marriage and kids :) now you change your sex instead of just being yourself…. It’s sad and it’s messing up a generation.
Trans sexual man here. I trusted my nurses to help me in the process of helping me fit being a man in society. After numerous visits/call/messages to receive my test results my nurses ghosted me for half a year (planned parenthood). I was going to the appointments but didn't hear from them afterwards. Turns out they lost my results and decided to up my dose just because I asked them to without properly looking into the labs(that they lost). I just got a message a week ago that my T levels are over 2,000. That is double even triple the amount it should be for an average man. Im pretty sure I've had a heart attack and I'm only 22. They told me the cannot help me and told me to go to the ER. I went to the ER and they told me that the nurses at planned parenthood are a joke and that I need to get a primary care doctor if I want to keep doing my testosterone. My point is I feel as though these nurses don't really care about your health, they are they to provide a service to make money. Back to the topic of the video, wearing makeup doesn't make u female....
What I find so incredibly offensive is that these men assume that "being a woman " is simply about slapping on some make up , fake nails and long hair . It drives me crazy because there is so much more to being a woman
Why is the onus on other people to give them a sexual thrill “gender euphoria” by referring to them by the opposite gender? Seems like they are out sexually harassing and bullying people.
Thank you for being so even and levelheaded. The way you addressed the problems and concerns of each of the individuals was wonderful. I know they don’t agree with you, but that’s life. I’ve seen your videos before and I’ve seen you in conversations with other UA-camrs, and I know that we don’t see eye to eye on most things, this video is wonderful. It gave me a little bit of peace. Thank you very much.
My friend decided to cut me out of her life because I said medically transitioning wasn’t a good idea. Did you get any people who were against you medically transitioning?
Hi Marcus, correct in every way. In society no one always fits the perfect mould and we aren’t stuck in the 1950s where you couldn’t be anything but the stereotypical male or female without some form of societal repercussions, where gays and lesbians hid their sexuality etc. I work with a young man he is gay, wears appropriate male uniform for work but outside work, does his nails, wears a skirt now and again, lots of jewels and makeup but he still identifies as a male. He’s such a lovely young man. I have found Tik Tok seems to have more and more people posting like the ones you highlight here, everyday it’s like a home for them where they get everyone being nice and validating them, when obviously many need to be encouraged to seek some mental health support instead of looking for strangers to make them feel it’s ok
This discussion seems endless and I‘m trying for years to get an opinion on this as a feminine man who also crossdresses. I never thought of changing my pronouns or anything and felt quite comfortable with going be he/him in daily life, except from being in drag, then I go by she/her, because I am perceived as a woman/ a drag queen then as a performative act. It was hard for me to get the struggle of non binary people. On the other hand I sometimes don’t get the conservatives obsession with pointing out that there‘s feminine man und masculine women. Why does the gender matter so much in the first place? It’s funny because we all seem to fight a similar fight, which is liberating society from socially constructed gender norms. We just do it in different ways. Non Binary People do it in neglecting the binary system, conservative trans people in saying: there’s the binary but it doesn’t matter you can do whatever. Both sides are somewhat valid and it‘s hard to stick to one side.
Abby seems like a lovely person a lot of these people seem lovely but are so brainwashed with stupid bullsh$t. They literally can all have such wonderful fulfilling lives if they just stop trying to be put into a box.
3:52 Jeśli mam być szczera dla mnie "zabawa" w zaimki ma sens gdy chodzi o bliską ci osobę, by zwracać się tak jak ten ktoś chce. W normalnym życiu nie wyobrażam sobie by przejmować się każdą osobą jaką spotkam w ciągu dnia, to nierealne by zwracać się do każdej obcej osoby tak jak ten ktoś sobie tego życzy. To zbyt skomplikowane i wnosi absolutny chaos w komunikację międzyludzką. Czyste szaleństwo.
Wiesz, kiedy ja bylam w Polsce (20 lat temu), mlode kobiety walczyly o wiecej widzialnosci kobiet. Uzywanie rodzaju zenskiego kiedy chodzilo o rzeczowniki okreslajace zawody. "Anna jest lekarka" zamiast "Anna jest lekarzem". Obecnie, we wszystkich krajach ktore odwiedzilam w miedzyczasie, mlodziez jest nawiedzona niebinarnoscia. Moim zdaniem, niebinarnosc we wszystkim wymaza widzialnosc kobiet. Pytanie: Jak to teraz wyglada w Polsce? Czy mlode kobiety wspieraja to z ta niebinarnoscia?
As a man who raised his trans grandson for a good part of his life I love how you educate through stories and humor. My wife and I took him to many psychiatric and therapy sessions before he was diagnosed with dysphoria. I took me a little bit to come to terms with it, not because I didn't love him but I knew nothing of this mental health problem. These fake trans people really piss me off because to me they are diminishing this horrible mental torture that these kids go through. Thanks to you, Buck and Blair who call these people out explain what a real trans person is and what they really go through. I've never met a real person with dysphoria brag about it and obsess about peonouns. Thanks to many years of therapy my grandson is finally living life to it's fullest.
I can't help but laugh as I'm a straight man yet I'm also Gothic and part of the ICP community so I ware Makeup alot but I'm in no way part of wtf ever their delusional world is. plus I was born in 1981 and after a shit ton of medical testing it turned out that I'm intersex so yes I'm one of the every 5,000 men who can't ever get a woman pregnant I also got natural breasts which I got to feel to make shure I don't have a lump. No I can't grow body hair but I see that as a plus as I don't need razors O I also get miss gendered alot because they see my knockers and think I'm a Ma'am yet I sound like a dude yet it's never triggered me unlike the Q community who gets literally triggered over stupid shit.
These people are confusing me 😂. They’re so angry over silliness. There’s real cruelty in the world and I’m not seeing why they are angry over being called the gender they obviously are
When someone grows up with the exact opposite of affirmation and then as an adult get affirmed regardless of what they do/say, its not at all surprising they turn out like some of these people, some just enjoy the attention to a troubling degree and definitely need to seek help.
Maybe we should follow the example of some Asian languages that use non-gendered honorifics. We could use the Thai word "khun" for example for people we haven't been introduced to, but want to address them politely - male or female. See, who said watching Thai dramas was a waste of time...
These people have officially made it so that I can't wear those cute rainbow glasses I got from Zennis unless I pair it with a "CHILDREN CANNOT CONSENT TO PUBERTY BLOCKERS" shirt...
When I was younger I was in theater and there was this boy he wasn’t even gay but he was very feminine and liked wearing make up and he did professional ballet He was called sissy and “homosexual” as an insult (there are a lot of homophobic people in Iran )by the bullies As a straight woman myself I actually find more feminine men attractive and not the extra masculine ones who won’t even shave not only because they are better looking in my opinion but because they’re less controlling and more emotionally available I’ve seen a lot of toxic masculine men in Iran that I hate that type of man
I'm just amazed. These people want to be oppressed so bad. Everything to them is a "dig" at them or an insult. Unbelievable. Also. I adore you!! I'm bisexual and have been all in for every aspect of LGBTQ+ for years, no matter how crazy someone sounded. But, you and Blair White have opened my eyes 110%. Thank you. Happy New Year ❤
Marcus, you are so amazing! I wish I could like this video a 1000 times over. Gender non conforming people are suddenly being told they're trans or NB when all they really need to be told is that they're perfect the way they are and that there is no wrong way to be a man or a woman, the only requirement is being born that way. I wish you were an official spokesperson for the trans community. You make SO much sense and would save so many people the suffering of unnecessary surgeries or hormones! ❤
My situation is worse.
I identify as a billionaire but my bank identify me as poor when they see how much money I have on my account... it's truly heart breaking and triggering that the bank doesn't give me billions since my pronouns are also BILLION.
Tell me about it! We should protest!
Thanks, I identify myself as a money mafia. Please call me mafia.
OMG - a fellow poor billionaire - the same happend to me - can´t take it anymore
Your life is at risk! This is violence.
😂😂😂😂
It really feels like people no longer know the difference between personality and gender
Absolutely. Do people actually come up to one another and ask about their prefered pronouns? It's so wacky to me, maybe because i'm from Europe and nobody speaks like that.
They don't know the difference. They cannot define gender other than as preference or personality. The word gender has lost all meaning.
@@Vellouria I dont hope they do, I would get so confused if anyone asked me that 😂
YES TO THIS!
@@MsJuma1984 It's quite common nowadays in Corporate speak. I was out of a job for a month and a half and during that time I was interviewing left and right and talking with recruiters multiple times a day. I was asked a good 2 dozen times what my preferred pronouns were. I think they were using it as a litmus test tbh.
Being a woman is more than a dress, makeup and heels !
True, they forgot that it also takes at least 2 X chromosomes
Ikr! They need pink hair, as well. Oh, and XX chromosomes.
You should also be able to bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan.
Agreed.
Most of the people in these videos that are mad about something do the bare minimum to learn what femininity involves too. I realise this person amy be at the start of their journey, but at that point you have to expect to be misgendered and the person apologised for it.
Them: “Trans women could look like anything”
Also them: “I’m wearing a dress and makeup. How can she get my gender wrong?!” **proceeds to assume another person’s gender**
and sooo many women out there (including myself) don't wear dresses, like ever hahaha the dude is a lunatic.
I haven’t worn a dress in so many years I can’t recall, they just are so impractical
Because the TiM’s and the TiF can’t even keep it straight.
A need a tshirt with this comment on it
@@joeyk5 everything else aside, dresses are the perfect lazy outfit. They're great. You just throw that on and it looks like you tried lol
I love how that woman misgendered herself by saying she’s attracted to ‘other women’ and then she tried to immediately fix it and say she’s a ‘non-man’.
it's cause these people know it's all performative bizarro land bs 😂
Isn't it ironic that after all those years of feminist fight THE MAN is still a point of reference? Non-man? Really?
@@dariuszwalaszczyk3205 It's ridiculous. At this point I've come to the realization that it's really hard to rationalize irration and reason with the unreasonable.
@@dariuszwalaszczyk3205 , because the man is the definition of being a human while the woman is something, ugh, egh, who knows what, subhuman/non-human/ less-human/ non-man, okey-doke. Makes me sick. Once I was told by some crazy ass activist that a man means not a male but a human and my reaction was wtf - are you saying that lesbians aren't people or what? Just stupid awkward silence in response when that freak realised what exactly it said
Zing!
Im a non femine woman. I dont own makeup or dresses. I buy my clothes in the mens department because they have useful pockets and are comfortable, but i am no less a woman because I'm more comfortable rebuilding an engine than shopping at sephora.
Same
Here here!
I still love being a real woman though.
Same here. I am so tried of this.
I'm the same way. I've been told I am queer since I'm non gender confirming. I don't label myself as queer. I am attracted to the opposite sex. I'm a biological woman that understands there is a difference between a biological female/male and a trans female/male.
I do both, and that also does not make me trans.
I’m a woman. I don’t care for dresses, nails or eye makeup. Those things don’t make you a woman.
I'm a beardy, hairy Scotsman. Love me a good skirt! And let's not lie, I have a great set of pins for heels, and rock some filthy eye makeup. Pretty sure no one thinks I look particularly feminine when I'm dolled up ;)
People keep mixing up male vs masculine and female vs feminine these days. Masculine means "commonly associated with the male sex" and feminine means "commonly associated with the female sex". A lot of this is based on social norms. Historically, in many cultures both men and women wore dress-like garments. Scottish men wore kilts, which are skirts. It's really rough. In Ancient Egypt, both male and female priests were hairless from head to toe, including the eyelashes. (Ouch.) If human civilization still exists 200 years from now, people will wonder about why women were expected to wear make-up as part of a business-like outfit or why men were allowed to show body hair but women were expected to remove their armpit hair, whether they were wearing long sleeves or not.
Still you look really beautiful
YES. I just left a comment pretty much saying that too. Tomboys are valid. Masculine women are valid
are you women+, womyn or womxn?
Sooo because I'm female and I DON'T wear dresses and eyeliner, does that mean I'm not a woman? I thought we were trying to get away from gender stereotypes. These people are walking hypocrites and contradictions.
She outs herself as not believing in what she’s saying when she says: I’ve always loved OTHER women. She knows she’s a woman
they always slip up and reveal that they know it's nonsense - just give them enough time 😂
She misgendered herself...
Excellent spot!
I honestly just think she’s confused
these "lesbians" are delusional. I swear im going to be single forever. Bc i know for a fact that person would 100% date a man with a beard, dresses like a man, looks like a man, acts like a man, if he said hes "non binary" because that makes him not a man. I see it all the time. And those are the people that shove in your face that theyre in a "queer" relationship when its just a hetero relationship lol. ive had so many non binary guys hit me up on apps as if that makes a difference to lesbians....but i mean apparently it does to some because apperently theyre allowed to identify as lesbians
Everytime I hear "assigned at birth", my brain pees blood. Our sex is determined at birth. We're not assigned penises and vaginas. We have them when we come out. There may be instances where a child is born intersex sure, but they don't make up the entire population for nonbinary to have a reason to exist. And hell, a lot of intersex people don't even want to be associated with this craziness. Can't say that I blame them.
I mean, technically most folks' biological sex is determined at conception :) Go spermies!
That, and even if you're intersex, you're still technically genetically male or female. So the people using intersex to invalidate the argument that sex is binary are still wrong.
My brain pees blood when I hear that too 😂 I’m an intersex man, and the term “assigned x at birth” actually came from the intersex community to fight invasive (and solely cosmetic) surgeries on newborns. The trans activist movement stole and appropriated the term to apply it to themselves.
Oh really?! I just thought once a baby is born, the doctors end up unslotting the current genitals to swap out for the other.
Like a Mr. Potato head
@@RavenHaili nah, it's all about the GMOs, gotta slot stuff in early. Although I for one am sad no one's making green fluorescent people. I met some glowing pigs once (REALLY) and they were cool AF!
I will never not be mad at some dudes dying their hair pink, putting on eyeliner that reaches up to their ears, claiming to be a woman and posting a tiktok video ranting about being called a 'he'. You sir need help :)
Love your videos Marcus, much love and greetings from Germany
It’s so strange that these people DO NOT PASS yet they demand to be called this or that.
They are trying to erase passing and call transsexuals like myself “transphobic” for passing. After multiple surgeries and years of doctors and struggle I as a passing TS, am NOT fighting for dudes in make up to appropriate what being “trans” means.
Idk. I feel like it's just a way to make videos as a victim. Like oh no look someone misgendered me. Oh woe is me. It's getting ridiculous out here lol 😂
@@victoriasmith2965yes ! It becomes their entire personality and a way to finally get the attention they’ve always craved. Many of these special snowflake complainers wouldn’t gain an ounce of traction or notoriety if not for the ridiculousness.
The pink haired one getting mad that this employee just quickly said sorry and moved on (instead of, what? groveling at his feet?)...i've always been told that if you accidentally misgender a trans person, to just quickly apologize and correct yourself without lingering on it and drawing more attention to it? What more does he want her to do exactly?
Also I figure most trans people are painfully aware if they don't pass, yet this person seems baffled that anyone would think he is anything other than a woman just cuz he's wearing a dress. Strange.
My autistic son who’s 11 saw a dude in a dress the other day at Costco. He had 5oclock shadow, was wearing a dress and had pink hair, looked like a clown. My son sees him, turns to me and says “dad, why is that man trying to disguise himself as a woman?” 😂
Shhhh.... It's a secret agent working with the CIA. :-)
From the mouths of babes
Kids are great!
🎯
Most of this b/s is for kids on the spectrum in case you didn't know. I think it sucks too, just saying.
"She's one of those 'ignorant and hateful' people, who believe there's a million ways to be a man", this is why I love your content Marcus, that was clever!
I cannot imagine how many trans people (not trans activists) would feel now and during the recent few years. People who have gone through truly hard time transitioning. And hard time was on all levels - emotionally, financially, socially, interpersonally inside their family-friends circle - the list is long. And they finally reached that level of happiness or comfort, when they no longer feel like they stick out. The entire goal (although my opinion is derived from knowing one person who has transitioned a long time ago - and that was a bumpy ride to put it mildly). This person said that the world dropped when someone asked “what are your preferred pronouns”. All the hard work put into the transition had one of the main goals - to NOT be asked such a question. And it feels so unfair and defeating today.
Please, we need to make "TOXIC NON BINARITY" a thing; as I've mentioned this before, that if "toxic masculinity" is a thing and "toxic femininity" is equally a thing - then WE ALL need to make "toxic non-binarity" a thing, too!!!
Start calling it Tonbi. When people ask, explain it.
Yes! Toxic
Nahh nobody is calling out toxic femininity. Nice try to pretend to by conservative.
@@jaodasilva7993 My friend, if you can think it, its on the Internet. You are simply just not on the right area of the Internet.
But that would validate them as the same level of Maculine and Feminine. They are just an Urban Tribe, and mostly Urban Tribes are toxic as hell.
I’m grossed out completely when she said a lesbian is a non- men loving non- men. 🤮 I’ll stop calling myself lesbian. I am a bio-woman who is romantically, sexually, and emotionally attracted to bio-women. Gawd! These people. I’m glad I am not dating. So glad to be single.
like is it so offensive to be a woman that it is preferable to be called a non-man? It sounds so creepy on so many levels. Frankly, those stupid jokes that women are just men with boobs and vaginas are much more respectful - at least you are not denied your humanity
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Don't let them take your words
It's so disgusting.
The term "non-men" makes me rage every time I see it. What a gross, demeaning thing to call us
Not being traditionally beautiful or feminine does not mean you are no longer a woman. I cannot think of something more blatantly sexist than defining womanhood by beauty (especially since most of the time it comes from a man’s vision of beauty for women)
I think in general you will find most men dgaf about beauty as long as it sucks fucks & smells nice.
Most men prefere fat chicks though if theyre honest about it...Skinny birds feel like theyre going to break if you touch them.
Exactly!
Well said
We went from insisting that makeup and dresses don’t determine a woman’s worth to literally saying men are women because they crossdress.
What is happening out there
Couldn’t agree more.
Ellen Page becoming Elliot was a sad day for women: she represented the breaking down of societal expectations of women - it was okay to not be feminine and still be considered attractive, in a different way. When she decided to become a male, it was like it reversed all that hard work of changing what it meant to BE a woman.
We were SO close!
Women were allowed to be whoever, men were allowed to be whoever, FINALLY! and now it’s turned to “if you don’t want assumptions made about you based on your gender, you have to change what you identify as.”
The point was to stop putting people in boxes! Now we just created 100s more boxes, wtf
So funny because when I was growing up it was "you can be whatever type of girl you want to be"
And I was a tomboy. There were times in the 90s where I had a pixie cut and it wasn't a popular Style. I've even shaved my head all the way down and wore my boy cousin's hand-me-downs.
And that same person who could be any type of woman she wanted to be grew up to give birth to four babies and nursed them all with those glorious boobs that I originally hated. Thank God they told me I could be any woman that I wanted to be. Because they told me that, I believed it and I became the woman that I want to be🎉 I'm not the most feminine but I have done the most female thing🎉
Exactly! We're going backwards. Before it was: "you can do whatever you want - you're a woman and can work as a plumber, you are a man and you can wear make up. It's fine. A gender doesn't define what you can do or be". Now it's: "if you wear a dress you're a woman, if you play rugby you're a boy"
This! 🙌
Thank you! I hate when they take woman out of lesbians ! I am a woman, not a non-man
we cannot define things by their lack of being something else!
I think gender euphoria is actually some modified form of dupers delight - which is what narcissists get when someone they’re into takes the bate or they get someone cornered and get a twisted sense of “delight”
Absolutely spot on, these clowns revel in bullying others to comply to unreasonable demand.
@@kevincurr4641 Interesting how most that seem to revel in bullying, a masculine trait I believe, are MtF "trans" people. Hmmmm 🤔
Anyone who knows they’re not being completely forthcoming can display this but it is definitely the mutated, even more deranged version of Duper’s Delight within this context for sure.
Ah. Ok.
Arielle Scarcella recently made a video about this.
That rainbow glasses woman is a very confused person. She makes up all these identifiers to cope with her social anxiety.
Bingo! Exactly! The labels are a security blanket for them.
I've never felt as though I've ever quite fit with humanity, but I am still part of it. My feelings do not change what is.
This is really the issue I have w/ those clowns. They want all leaders to look like them. They want all children’s books to be about them. They want the history re-written around them. They want everyone to find them sexually attractive. They want everyone to baby them-or they’d claim you’re denying their existence.
so, this person would rather their bank not adhere to security provisions - can't wait to see them flip out when someone empties their bank account because the bank didn't follow protocol 😂
Fingers crossed😂
The fact that people are getting MAD over others for not affirming their made-up gender and pronouns… reveals how self-absorbed and selfish that those people are. People CAN’T read your mind. People will call you based on what you look like. And that doesn’t make them a -phobe or -ist! Second, they really assume that you have to be a man to like masculine things, or a woman to like feminine things… sounds pretty sexist to me!😅
Great video as always!❤
our brains literally evolved to be able to judge a person's sex at a glance - they want us to gaslight our own senses.
And the woman even apologized when "corrected"
I am in customer service, and I have said ma'am to men and sir to women. It is not intentional, or meant to be disrespectful in regards to anyone's gender. It's trying to show respect to the customer, but when using the same phrases repeatedly during the day while trying to focus on the tasks of my job. It is not intentional or meant to be hurtful, it is truly just an accident especially when using the same inter changeable phrases repeatedly during a busy shift.
I work cust service over the phone. It's harder to know if it's a woman or man when their name is Leslie and sound like a man but can be a woman 😢 I do my best to not use ma'm or sir. Kinda hard when you are trying to be respectful cause that's the way we are told to direct ourselves to another person ma'm or sir offends everyone
I really think, like you said about the banker, most people have no problem with a man or a woman dressing however they want. What would exasperate them would be to have to tiptoe around constantly.
You make very good points about what defines a woman and a man. Well said.
Xy
Their DNA defines them.
" I am wearing a dress", " I am wearing eyeshadow" hmmmm....I thought they were saying that wearing a dress and makeup is not something that only a woman does🤔🤔🤔
I am 6 foot 1 and do not pass as a transwoman. However, I validate myself . I don't look for validation from other . Validate yourself.❤❤❤
Or just accept what you are and move on with your life?
Its time for you to move to the Netherlands: I'm a 6' tall women and it's pretty normal here. Yes, I'm tall but nothing out of the ordinary 😂
@@Slickshadow11 ah yes, & if you're in a wheelchair just get up, start walking and move on with your life 🥰
Buddha said, happiness comes from within. Do not seek it without.
You know what? Good for you, I can respect that.
Being realistic and not delusional, while also trying to live your best life with the cards you've been dealt without negatively affecting anyone else is very respectable.
I'm not very feminine. I do fighting sports and very rarely wear makeup. I was a tomboy growing up. I am absolutely still a woman because being a woman isn't a costume I can put on and take off.
I was always something close to a Tom boy and never felt very feminine, but i don't scream about it.
Yes. The community fought so hard for people who feel as you do to be accepted as the women you are and now these "activists" come along and turn everything on it's head. There is nothing wrong with a woman who has more masculine traits. You don't need to change. Trying to force everyone to go up to women who may present a little masculine and ask pro-nouns, would seem to be so hurtful to a woman who already may be a little insecure about people thinking they might be a man. It sounds more like some frat boy challenge to be deliberately hurtful, "Hey are you sure your not a dude?"
@@winstonwolf6791 I didn't even think about that! lol that's so true, then once people start asking more the next thing they'll whine about is being asked. Even though supposedly it's not based off of their own insecurity about if they pass or not 🤷♀️😂
My workplace got my name on the payslip wrong for 15 years. Emotional damage!!!!! Now im retired and i still get mail from them from time to time, still wrong name. Maybe i should tell them?
Watching you and others like you, eg Blaire, Buck, Jessica etc, gives me the ammunition needed to deal with the deluded people o sometimes speak to in real life.
Who's Jessica?
They still win in most places. A nonbinary nutjob who never showers took over the last place I worked. She gets away with every single thing she wants including absolute hatespeech on everyone else. She brings in her lunchbox and opens it to show everyone ferret poop allover her food that she then eats. She is soooo disgusting and she runs the place because the company has a 7 page policy on respecting the trans community. It's absolutely insane.
@@BuckleytheBreadtuberJessica Gill maybe
@@BuckleytheBreadtuber Jessica Gill and Sara Higdon are trans women who aren’t deluded
All trans in bad, conservative ones too. Buck is a pornstar last time I checked. I don't want my children to know about these freaks.
Thank you for this! I am a woman who was brainwashed by these people. I thought I was a demigirl and had she/they pronouns because I am not feminine and feel uncomfortable being feminine so thought I wasn't a woman by their standards. Now, I shop in the mens section, and still hate dressing in "woman" clothes but am still a woman!! This is sooooo important to be heard. PSA to all tomboys out there. You are valid as a woman and your personality is valid as is :) Also, I never understand why pronouns are such a sensitive topic. If someone calls me she, he, they, or anything else you hear these days, I'm not going to be mad. Or even correct them. I simply do not care.
Also I am autistic and it pisses me off that it typically affects autistic people with ideologies like this. We always feel like we don't fit in (especially female autistics). The stats vary so I'm not going to state them but it is a lot. It's so sad.
I’m a tomboy. Never once thought that made me less of a woman. 😂
I’m just not girly but I still get my papsmears and worry about cancer.
These men who claim to be women have NO IDEA what women have to go through.
Thank you for saying that euphoria isn't a really thing. I thought it was only me that was like kool I'm looking more like myself but I still haven't gotten the euphoria feeling like everyone talks about. I'm just proud of who I'm becoming and seeking the changes.
as a grown woman thats dealt with body dysmorphia, I'll agree that gender euphoria doesnt exist. I dont go out feeling special/ extra happy / excited just because i might go out one day looking more feminine than i usually do.
Thats literally just feeling normal in your body. I dont wake up and go through my day thinking "oh thank GOD im a woman!
I like to compare it to weight loss. When you hit your weight goal, you'll get a sense of pride or euphoria, because you've done something difficult and succeeded. But after a while of being that weight, it becomes the new normal and there's a lot less to be proud of or celebrate. That feeling of euphoria is a temporary response to a new thing or a success. You can have "new job euphoria", "new hair colour euphoria", "new puppy euphoria", "new skill euphoria" etc but it won't last because it just becomes part of daily life. Our brains will not keep rewarding us with dopamine for doing everyday normal things/existing, so the feeling fades.
31 years of being a female and not one time have I experienced “gender euphoria”, which according to them I should experience like every single time I’m referred to as a female?
You're one of the most important people on the internet. Thanks Marcus, just for being who you are.
I remember an old interview with Olympian Johnny Weir, they asked him if he would rather be a woman, or if he thinks of himself as a woman, since he is so obviously feminine?
He said something like (my paraphrasing here) no, he loves his penis, he's just an effeminate person. Then said, "I'm happy being a man with a purse."
I so appreciated that sentiment, and I think about it alot these days when listening to non binary people exploit transgender suffering to get attention.
That's the worse part about most of this. Folks that use ma'am and sir are OFTEN saying it as a sign of respect. I was raised in the South and it feels rude not to address someone with a phrase of showing respect. I think, for me, it goes back to how I was raised. I will call and young person sir or ma'am. I'd say WAY MORE OFTEN than NOT, it is someone trying to be polite. That's all.
I just dont get this. You ask them what a woman is, but they never say makeup and clothes.... because that would be gender stereotyping which they know is wrong because not every woman wears makeup and dresses (its why they always fall on the definition "anyone can be a woman if they "feel" like it and identify" because its the only way around this conundrum.... but then they get mad when someone doesnt call them a she even though they are wearing makeup and a dress..... because OBVIOUSLY they are a woman if they are wearing a dress and makeup. HUH??? I literally dont understand their logic what so ever. Is it dresses and makeup? or is it not dresses and makeup??? They are all about stereotypes while simultaneously NOT being about stereotypes.
I am more and more convinced that these tik tok are all just attention seekers, real or not and not worth worrying about. All they want is attention and We're giving it to them.
Good video... a calm honest and refreshing look at a subject im not often allowed an opinion on or asking questions about without getting a 24 hour commenting ban...
Thank you for breathing a breath of fresh air and decency into the world.
To me, it feels like the first girl with the glasses was just one of those that never quite "fit in." So now she's found this community that all of a sudden makes her feel seen and almost as the cool kid if she says she's all these things. Nah honey, you're just a lesbian with social awkwardness. Which is fine too, geesh!
I was a tomboy growing up and now in my 30s I'm a fullblown (boyish/sporty) lesbian. So happy that this trans trend wasn't a thing when I grew up, cuz' I would probably have bought it and thought I was trans...and regreted it when I got older...
I was a teenager in the 80s, so a man wearing makeup with long hair is not a girl to me. Now a dress, yeah, I'd figure you were a cross-dresser. Now I have to assume trans, I guess! I live in a very liberal state so there are tons of blue or pink haired face pierced people working in businesses now, people with beards called "Godiva" or whatnot, and lots of non-binary types. I know most of it's a fad, which is fine. But to get in trouble for mis-gendering, that I'm not fine with. I'm a masculine woman...I don't get upset if I'm called sir.
Why does it have to be such an atrocity when one gets misgendered??? I just don’t understand the outrage. It’s like they WANT to be outraged. From my perspective, it seems like they’re more comfortable airing out their grievances than they are in their own skin. They’ve spent the majority of their lives up until that point dealing with it, so if the person who’s misgendered them just “brushes it off,” then why can’t they do the same? Do they really think they’re *ENTITLED* to more than an apology? What else do they expect to happen? Especially at a bank, where little details like *YOUR LEGAL NAME* hold a bit of importance…
Both sides of the political spectrum seemingly love to be outraged. It goes hand in hand with extremism
"I don't fit in the way women dress, I don't fit in the way women act socially.." What does that even mean?? how do we "act"?
Apparently that means if you like more masculine stuff you aren’t a woman according to this logic. Never mind women in sports, or women martial arts fighters, or women action movie stars. But then again these people seem to think in a collective and ignore the fact that we are individuals and we all have our own likes and dislikes.
It means the person struggles to fit in and act as people expect them too.. I'm one of those people. It dosen't mean they are not their biological sex or that they have a gender spirit. They need therapy not selfregious tiktok gender group think.
@@joen4642 or that they need to do a lot of reflecting, because it sounds like they’re coming up with labels in lack of an actual personality
I was confused by that too. there's a million different ways that women act and dress, she's acting like we're living 200 years ago or something. It's kinda sexist to insinuate that all women wear dresses and act girly.
Marcus, I love you so much and you're reasoning and logic is irrefutable! Keep doing what you're doing!
And good looking. Juuust saying. 😇
@@perryrush6563 even as a straight guy I can't ignore that!
Thank you for being that very sane ray of sunshine we all need to brighten our day. You're an absolute 😇 angel.
Hey Marcus!! Love ya and your content. So I've heard it all now in regards to the first girl.... "a lesbian is a non woman loving a non woman." Seriously?! Wtffffff?!
I showed my best friend, a lifelong lesbian lol, aged 46. She was sooo confused 😂😂 and like most of us, she is beyond sick of these delusional folks.
Anyway, thank you for all you do! ❤
Why would someone wear their sexuality all over them? Like this woman and the scarf, glasses etc. why does she/he expect us to reaffirm her sexuality? KEEP IT TO YOURSELF, WE DON'T CARE!!!
I love you, Marcus! Do you think that first creature has a rope tied to a basket, and a prisoner at the bottom of a deep hole?
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they all feel like Buffalo Bill was their role model growing up 😭
You're terrible, Muriel 😅
100% buffalo bill was DENIED from the gender clinic because he was a heterosexual man with autogynephilia. He liked women! She even says in that movie “transsexuals are meek” she’s talking about the OTHER type that likes men. Like Blaire white or Eden the doll!
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Omg THANK YOU!!! "Gender Euphoria" is just BIZZARE to me! And I'm a 30 year old gay dude! A person who seeks "gender euphoria" is just someone who isn't confident or comfortable with their own identity.
The more I hear about all this, the less I understand.
Did they really just say ‘I am wearing a dress, I’m wearing makeup’ Um, excuse me, you are not a woman for that alone. When I take my dress and makeup off at night, am I a man now?
I am proud of the work you do. It takes a lot of balls to speak out against the Trans activists. I hope everybody will wake up and finally see that people are going about this in the wrong way. ❤
I really need some of these people to be joking, cause Trans Non-Binary Lesbian is just so incomprehensible
They have made the LGB flag mean nothing anymore.
I just have to say, I just discovered this channel, and your content is amazing. My goddaughter’s son is severely physically disabled (a severe form of Charcot Marie Tooth disease) and after never having shown any interest in anything feminine or female, at age 18 he suddenly thinks he is trans. She doesn’t care what he is or isn’t; she loves him and is trying to do everything right for him to make him happy, and nothing seems to be the right move. He is fed misinformation and talking points from strangers online. I am sending her to your channel when I see her on the weekend. She desperately needs help and real, factual information. I’m so glad I found you! Cheers from 🇨🇦!
No woman, would leave the house looking like that. The way a woman, typically dresses and does her makeup and hair, is like a work of art.
I don’t know any woman, who leaves the house with bed head.
True. I don’t wear makeup or dresses but I never leave the house with bed head
My dad used to work with a man who would cross-dress at work. He would wear gaudy dresses akin to what a street walker would wear, makeup piled enough to make a drag queen blush, and ugly chipped nail polish.
These people not only fail to look like women...they act like being a woman is a characature and a trope and a joke. Disgusting.
I've been assumedly a woman and tried to get the bed head look.
Actually, that’s true lol I don’t do anything else other than wash my face and brush my hair before I head out. Interesting observation!
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Thanks but not all of us are artists! I struggle to apply lashes & liner evenly but I do get compliments on my frizzy, disheveled, curly bedhead hair!
The last minute of your video really sumed up our society better than most law makers, educators, doctors, and parents can express when dealing with this issue as a whole.
Thank you.
I'm 47 and still don't really in in anywhere but still a woman. How can you have gender dysphoria or euphoria if you are "non binary" and don't identify as a gender. These people are insane lol
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Am a new viewer. I love the insight you have & give. It’s…so clever & refreshing. Honest but not at all unkind. So reasonable, careful, intelligent, & nuanced. It seems you're able to immediately & seemingly easily get others to think about things in different ways. You have a gift for this!
I always love your take on things Marcus
Thank you for being a voice of sanity in an insane world 🙏
This is your best video so far!!!! “She must be one of those hateful people…” NAILED IT. Such a clear and straightforward video!!!
This is really just a level of entitlement that I have never seen before, it’s become overwhelming. I feel bad for all the people who are getting yelled at for ‘misgendering’ someone when they are literally just doing their job and doing the best they can. This is why I cannot work with the general public because I cannot understand peoples entitlement and I don’t like to put up with it.
Why is the guy in the green shirt with fingernail polish think anyone would think he is anything other than a male.
I have said several times that I am glad I grew up in the 80s and 90s. I was and to some degree still am a tomboy, but I never thought I was a boy, I just didn't like all the girly girl stuff and wanted to go play in the dirt, but if I was growing up today I think people would label me as trans and try to push me to transition. No thank you, I will just be me.
I sometimes wonder about this too, as an early 40s, beardy hairy gay man who rocks a bit of eyeliner and painted nails some days. I sometimes wonder if some of the younger male NB- identifying guys I know are doing it as almost a reaction from #MeToo - 'I don't want to be man because men are terrible'. To me, I feel like the solution is to be better men - kinder, using our privileges to kick doors down and stand up for the oppressed, not denying masculinity. But then maybe that makes me a boomer!
@@alifloydtv after growing up listening to the hair bands, I don't think twice about anyone with some eyeliner and painted nails, haha. And thank you for using your skills for good :)
@@jamiewilks2421 and my legs too!
We went from accepting ppl for who they are…. Look at the 80s and 90s …. Men wore makeup, woman were more masculine…. To if your feminine or like makeup your a girl and if your masculine your a boy….
It didn’t used to change the fact they were men and woman. I was a tomboy…. Still am in a lot of ways even after marriage and kids :) now you change your sex instead of just being yourself…. It’s sad and it’s messing up a generation.
Trans sexual man here.
I trusted my nurses to help me in the process of helping me fit being a man in society. After numerous visits/call/messages to receive my test results my nurses ghosted me for half a year (planned parenthood). I was going to the appointments but didn't hear from them afterwards. Turns out they lost my results and decided to up my dose just because I asked them to without properly looking into the labs(that they lost). I just got a message a week ago that my T levels are over 2,000. That is double even triple the amount it should be for an average man. Im pretty sure I've had a heart attack and I'm only 22. They told me the cannot help me and told me to go to the ER. I went to the ER and they told me that the nurses at planned parenthood are a joke and that I need to get a primary care doctor if I want to keep doing my testosterone.
My point is I feel as though these nurses don't really care about your health, they are they to provide a service to make money.
Back to the topic of the video, wearing makeup doesn't make u female....
Not just the nurses they all want money, especially the therapists that do not even listen and just suggest a sex change.
What I find so incredibly offensive is that these men assume that "being a woman " is simply about slapping on some make up , fake nails and long hair . It drives me crazy because there is so much more to being a woman
I appreciate your views on this. It feels like we're living in clown world.
Remember Boy George? A man, always a man, but wore makeup, dresses etc
Why is the onus on other people to give them a sexual thrill “gender euphoria” by referring to them by the opposite gender? Seems like they are out sexually harassing and bullying people.
Thank you for being so even and levelheaded. The way you addressed the problems and concerns of each of the individuals was wonderful. I know they don’t agree with you, but that’s life. I’ve seen your videos before and I’ve seen you in conversations with other UA-camrs, and I know that we don’t see eye to eye on most things, this video is wonderful. It gave me a little bit of peace. Thank you very much.
I'm just too old for this shit. Like, seriously.
My friend decided to cut me out of her life because I said medically transitioning wasn’t a good idea. Did you get any people who were against you medically transitioning?
Hi Marcus, correct in every way. In society no one always fits the perfect mould and we aren’t stuck in the 1950s where you couldn’t be anything but the stereotypical male or female without some form of societal repercussions, where gays and lesbians hid their sexuality etc. I work with a young man he is gay, wears appropriate male uniform for work but outside work, does his nails, wears a skirt now and again, lots of jewels and makeup but he still identifies as a male. He’s such a lovely young man. I have found Tik Tok seems to have more and more people posting like the ones you highlight here, everyday it’s like a home for them where they get everyone being nice and validating them, when obviously many need to be encouraged to seek some mental health support instead of looking for strangers to make them feel it’s ok
This discussion seems endless and I‘m trying for years to get an opinion on this as a feminine man who also crossdresses. I never thought of changing my pronouns or anything and felt quite comfortable with going be he/him in daily life, except from being in drag, then I go by she/her, because I am perceived as a woman/ a drag queen then as a performative act. It was hard for me to get the struggle of non binary people. On the other hand I sometimes don’t get the conservatives obsession with pointing out that there‘s feminine man und masculine women. Why does the gender matter so much in the first place?
It’s funny because we all seem to fight a similar fight, which is liberating society from socially constructed gender norms. We just do it in different ways. Non Binary People do it in neglecting the binary system, conservative trans people in saying: there’s the binary but it doesn’t matter you can do whatever.
Both sides are somewhat valid and it‘s hard to stick to one side.
I just watched a video from 7 days ago. And my stance is the same with this video you’re amazing. A real breath of fresh air. Thank you for being you.
Abby seems like a lovely person a lot of these people seem lovely but are so brainwashed with stupid bullsh$t.
They literally can all have such wonderful fulfilling lives if they just stop trying to be put into a box.
Not to long ago people were saying the women’s restroom sign wasn’t a dress but a cape instead. O, how I yearn for the insanity of years past!
3:52 Jeśli mam być szczera dla mnie "zabawa" w zaimki ma sens gdy chodzi o bliską ci osobę, by zwracać się tak jak ten ktoś chce. W normalnym życiu nie wyobrażam sobie by przejmować się każdą osobą jaką spotkam w ciągu dnia, to nierealne by zwracać się do każdej obcej osoby tak jak ten ktoś sobie tego życzy. To zbyt skomplikowane i wnosi absolutny chaos w komunikację międzyludzką. Czyste szaleństwo.
Wiesz, kiedy ja bylam w Polsce (20 lat temu), mlode kobiety walczyly o wiecej widzialnosci kobiet. Uzywanie rodzaju zenskiego kiedy chodzilo o rzeczowniki okreslajace zawody. "Anna jest lekarka" zamiast "Anna jest lekarzem". Obecnie, we wszystkich krajach ktore odwiedzilam w miedzyczasie, mlodziez jest nawiedzona niebinarnoscia. Moim zdaniem, niebinarnosc we wszystkim wymaza widzialnosc kobiet. Pytanie: Jak to teraz wyglada w Polsce? Czy mlode kobiety wspieraja to z ta niebinarnoscia?
As a man who raised his trans grandson for a good part of his life I love how you educate through stories and humor. My wife and I took him to many psychiatric and therapy sessions before he was diagnosed with dysphoria. I took me a little bit to come to terms with it, not because I didn't love him but I knew nothing of this mental health problem. These fake trans people really piss me off because to me they are diminishing this horrible mental torture that these kids go through. Thanks to you, Buck and Blair who call these people out explain what a real trans person is and what they really go through. I've never met a real person with dysphoria brag about it and obsess about peonouns. Thanks to many years of therapy my grandson is finally living life to it's fullest.
I can't help but laugh as I'm a straight man yet I'm also Gothic and part of the ICP community so I ware Makeup alot but I'm in no way part of wtf ever their delusional world is. plus I was born in 1981 and after a shit ton of medical testing it turned out that I'm intersex so yes I'm one of the every 5,000 men who can't ever get a woman pregnant I also got natural breasts which I got to feel to make shure I don't have a lump. No I can't grow body hair but I see that as a plus as I don't need razors O I also get miss gendered alot because they see my knockers and think I'm a Ma'am yet I sound like a dude yet it's never triggered me unlike the Q community who gets literally triggered over stupid shit.
These people are confusing me 😂. They’re so angry over silliness. There’s real cruelty in the world and I’m not seeing why they are angry over being called the gender they obviously are
When someone grows up with the exact opposite of affirmation and then as an adult get affirmed regardless of what they do/say, its not at all surprising they turn out like some of these people, some just enjoy the attention to a troubling degree and definitely need to seek help.
Prince. He navigated these waters like a King.
I was thinking this same thing! And David Bowie was a beautiful human being who transcended labels.
I love how he still got a suckered from the bank that mistreated him so badly?
Maybe we should follow the example of some Asian languages that use non-gendered honorifics. We could use the Thai word "khun" for example for people we haven't been introduced to, but want to address them politely - male or female. See, who said watching Thai dramas was a waste of time...
I missed your videos. Welcome back. This video was great. Peace out!
These people have officially made it so that I can't wear those cute rainbow glasses I got from Zennis unless I pair it with a "CHILDREN CANNOT CONSENT TO PUBERTY BLOCKERS" shirt...
When I was younger I was in theater and there was this boy he wasn’t even gay but he was very feminine and liked wearing make up and he did professional ballet
He was called sissy and “homosexual” as an insult (there are a lot of homophobic people in Iran )by the bullies
As a straight woman myself I actually find more feminine men attractive and not the extra masculine ones who won’t even shave not only because they are better looking in my opinion but because they’re less controlling and more emotionally available
I’ve seen a lot of toxic masculine men in Iran that I hate that type of man
I'm just amazed. These people want to be oppressed so bad. Everything to them is a "dig" at them or an insult. Unbelievable. Also. I adore you!! I'm bisexual and have been all in for every aspect of LGBTQ+ for years, no matter how crazy someone sounded. But, you and Blair White have opened my eyes 110%. Thank you. Happy New Year ❤
« I never felt like I fit woman completely » sounds a lot like « I’m not like the others girls ».
Marcus, you are so amazing! I wish I could like this video a 1000 times over.
Gender non conforming people are suddenly being told they're trans or NB when all they really need to be told is that they're perfect the way they are and that there is no wrong way to be a man or a woman, the only requirement is being born that way.
I wish you were an official spokesperson for the trans community. You make SO much sense and would save so many people the suffering of unnecessary surgeries or hormones!
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Do these people even know what euphoria means?! Euphoria is an EXTREMELY INTENSE feeling. You don’t get that from people using words around you
The bank person is still a man in badly done drag. The guy in the car thinks nails done is enough? Oh boy!