Sure. While I see, where you are coming from with "don't expect princess/girl treatment", I had the experience, that a considerable amount of gay men are disgusted by the superficial abusive hookup style on grindr aswell. Not ALL gay men want this. And we/they actually DO lack alternative options.
Honest question, does being on T actually help with sex drive? How soon does that start like days, weeks, months or seconds? Thank you so much. And oh, I'm _not_ asking for a friend... this is all for me baby! 😂
It been going on in the lesbian community for the longest. I seen several videos of them losing clubs ,being harassed by trans and allies because they wanted to date biological women
@@VeeAleeI became aware of the harassment lesbians were going through 5 years ago. I was shocked that there are people in the LGBT community shaming others for their sexual orientation.
Calling someone transphobic for not wanting to have intercourse is insane. Imagine being entitled to other people’s BODIES and time. Wtffff these people are scary
But then if you want them you're an embarrassing chaser. They do not have the slightest clue what they're actually mad about, they just wanna be mad & victims. Gross.
Its more controler energy because if you do like them they call you a chaser but if you dont want them you are teansphobic. I think its mostly about the power the control other people. @@DanielleStarry
@@freerights6695 The whole _incel_ stuff is mainly a made up fantasy to reject whatever a man disagreeing brings up in an argument... usually such people do not even realize they just called some married dude with adult children _incel,_ as if he was _celibate,_ not even bringing up the hilarious _involuntarily_ part in it. The people who use that kind of speech are the real involuntarily lonely people forcing themselves on others. It is all projection.
Thank you!!! As a lesbian, I hate getting being told I'm transphobic for not wanting to date trans women, even post op. F*ck off. I've seen post op trans women and it doesn't look like the real thing. I can't help my sexual orientation, and it's not transphobic. And if a straight man said the same thing as me, I'd stick up for him because I get it.
If you're into trans men on Grindr, you're a chaser, if you refuse trans men on Grindr, you're a bigot. So, either way, you fail according to her. Make it make sense.
Chaser means something completely different in different gay communities. I've seen Bear and Chubby Chasers, too, but they're usually not for trans people.
"My partner and me are both on grindr" Just sleep with your "partner". You can't really complain about not finding sexual partners when you already have one.
I agree. The rest of those alphabet bullies have DESTROYED all the progress the LGB community has accomplished toward equal rights, etc. I've never had any issues with the LGB community, but the hyper-aggressive, TQ+ mafia...yeah, I have NO time or patience for that nonsense! They literally ruin everything they force themselves upon (pun intended).
I completely agree. I'm sick of "trans" people harassing L's and G's. I feel safer and more at ease around straight people than any of the TQIA+ crowd.
As a gay man I don't care what other people do. As long as you're not hurting anyone else in the process then do whatever you want. But it doesn't make me transphobic just because I would never go with a trans person.
I'm seeing it more as, if you like sausage and are attracted to sausage, then why try to force you to like tacos? (Apologies for the food analogy there)
@@winstonwolf6791 I seriously am a Tacophobe if they the Vag type 🤮 but I'm also a Tacophobe if they're not nice Tacos. I was so excited when Taco bell came to Manchester (UK) but then when I tried it I was so disappointed because compared to Taco bell in the US the one here is horrible. I just have to make tacos myself if I want them as I know they'll be nicer. 😋 I don't think I'm ever gonna look at a Taco the same again after this conversation 😭🤣
I'll never forget how uncomfortable I was, as an 18-year-old gay male, that a former lesbian who was transitioning into a man was relentlessly coming on to me. This was decades before the trans renaissance. Even then, I didn't want to be hurtful, but I also wasn't sexually attracted this person who was, externally, a woman. So, I kept politely declining. These days, that would be considered by many to be transphobic. It was not.
@@neko7606😦 what too much yaoi does to a mf. Seriously though, those types of girls need a reality check. Going outside, actually meeting gay guys as friends and not just shopping buddies.
Reminds me of when I was 13 (white female) was minding my business on my property and a black guy walked passed and started talking to me. He asked my age and I told him. I then asked his and he said 19. He asked me out, I said no, and he called me racist.
Luvvy us women suffer this from men saying they're women all time .in toilets sports lesbian dating apps womens refuges .these effers often attack physically too
I'm so over them trying to rationalize people's disinterest in them as bigotry... 🤦♀ A gay man literally CAN'T feel attraction to female genitals... That's the whole point of being _homosexual._ If genitals are something he cares about in a relationship, and he will most likely care, you have no say in it other than "I understand, have a nice day". That applies to anyone with any sexual orientation. Narcissists are so exhausting.
Have you heard of the Woman in Australia that simply wanted a Women only space to focus on our particular issues? She got cancelled for a hate crime and is currently doing a long, hard, expensive appeal. This is LUDICROUS.
It's just like all black colleges... Which I personally have no problem with but- try opening an all white college and see what happens. It's ridiculous- if we were all blind we would all be the same color. Turn off the lights and we are all either female or male, I'm sorry but there is no in between. Identify as a camel if you want to, I don't care- but don't get mad at me when I don't see you as a camel because you look like a human being. My bad. Don't attack me when I'm a bit confused if you're standing in front of me in a dress and heels, full makeup, and a beard. What the actual hell are you supposed to be? And how is it my fault when I don't immediately recognize it? Why can't we have all women spaces? It used to be called the girl scouts 😉. (Not really but you get my drift.... Why can't people just hang out with who they choose without being labeled racist or sexist or phobic of some sort? Why can't people just be?)
@@ltlwlwl5057 Speaking of Australia. A lady stated a lesbian speed dating a few years ago and for the past 2-3 trans women have started showing interest. She started receiving complaints from the biological women feeling due to tge trans women that show up being aggressive. Anyways once a biological woman was assault (in the bathroom, I think). She turned it into a biological women event and the trans lesbians got upset stating that the event was transphobic and non inclusive. They even tried taking it to court...completely dismissing the assault. In the end they got to keep the evrnt biological women's only.
I'm gay. I'm on Grindr. I LOVE the fact that you have infinite Blocks on this app. Because the second I see a profile with this kind of... characters... I block them immediately. They're just occupying space from the legitimate users that I could like. So they're out. I don't even let them reach me. The first 15 minutes that I log in on the app is for blocking. Then it is for hitting.
Not on Grindr... I was banned for saying "No Thanks, I'm gay" to a woman who messaged me. A few days later I went back on the app and it said my account was suspended for violating terms of service.
A chaser is someone who objectifies and fetishizes trans bodies. They see us as a taboo, and are generally ashamed of their attraction to us. They have zero regard for who we are as individuals, and only care about receiving specific sexual gratification. As soon as that’s fulfilled, they move on to the next person. Trans amorous people, have a sexual and/or romantic desire for trans people. They aren’t ashamed of their attraction, and engage with us on a healthy, emotional level as well as physical. They respect our bodies, and how we want to be intimate. Not everyone attracted to trans people are chasers. Chaser is a negative term. Trans amorous is positive.
As a 58 year old gay man….. I’m so sick of all of this garbage. I consider myself to be a tolerant person, and respectful to others to be whom they are… but these folks have taken the cake on being too far and way out there! I use Grindr and I get ignored about 94% of the time. Is this ageism? Am I being discriminated against? NO… IT’S PEOPLE LIKE WHAT PEOPLE LIKE AND DON’T WANT WHAT THEY DON’T WANT. Grow up and get over yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Someone needs to tell these people that sexual interest is not a human right. We are allowed to discriminate on who we date or have sex with. You can't demand someone date or have an interest in you based on your feelings. That is what we call sexual coercion-to impose one's will on another (rape). This is not any different than when the boss made women sleep with them to keep a job.
Whatever happened to my body, my choice?! I guess they forget that when it's about them.... Now, if you don't like them, you're a transphobe! How about, I'm not transphobic, you're just a horrible person...
I have ALWAYS thought the same thing about Grindr. Never understood why trans women demand to be recognised as women, but then will go onto an app designed for gay male hookups !!! pick a lane
Or they date a man then break up an tell there jobs or family there gay cause they have a dick. So u want straight man date u then use it to embarrass them lol
I really cannot stand the allegation of “violence” when talking about perceived transphobia… violence is physical. Anyone who has been physically attacked and physically harmed due to being different of any form, truly understands the term “violence”. Hurt feelings aren’t nice, but they are so very different from violence. It’s insulting and delusional to even put them in the same category.
It’s because most of these people haven’t experienced violence. They’ve experienced being turned down and their feelings getting hurt which they equate to violence cause most have lived very privileged lives. Sure, there are definitely some who have, but a lot haven’t that’s why they wear the terms gay man, lesbian, transsexual, bisexual like they are cosplaying. Most don’t understand what it’s like having to hide who your sexually and romantically attracted to and feel shame for that… most don’t understand what gender dysphoria is and usually equate their body dysmorphia to being gender dysphoria. Cause they hate themselves as they are so much that they are willing to physically and chemically alter their bodies cause they think the will be liked more. That’s not gender dysphoria… that’s body dysmorphia and what they are doing is literally the worst thing they could do to themselves. They usually have severe mental trauma and instead of seeking help for that take on an LGBT persona. Which is extremely offensive cause they are essentially doing LGBT Face and think they aren’t hurting anyone. LGBT are just the scapegoat for their unresolved trauma.
Only someone that has never gotten into a fist fight would say some bullshit like that. "That's violence." Yeah, even if it is(which it isn't), so what?
Being ignored feels violent? As a survivor of an abusive marriage, I have a problem with this! On a different point, I love your honesty and healthy look on topic! ❤
If anything for these people, No News Is Good News. But of course they gotta hold the belief that Silence Is Violence so, yeah their narcissism and cognitive dissonance are their two brain cells fighting over 3rd place
Thank you for this , as a cis male gay guy I agree with you. I have noticed this trend in Grindr where it seems all this people are intent on destroying one of the few spaces created for gay men. You finally put my thoughts in words very well presented.
I think some of these women have trauma with straight men and, because they are still attracted to men, view gay men as safer. So they don’t want to pass as a man because they don’t have dysphoria, but still desire a heterosexual relationship 🤷🏼♀️ could be wrong. This always comes down to mental health.
As a transman, who has dated straight and gay men, I think a lot of straight women view gay men as safe since they are not hitting on them. They only ever experience gay men as besties and vastly underestimate their potential sexual aggression.
I have bi friends and I’ve been told by them that gay dudes are way more ‘sexually aggressive’ might we say, on pursuing someone sexually I guess just women demand restraint whereas men don’t really If anything I think they’re making a *massive* underestimation of how sexually aggressive gay men are
Here's me being cynical: I believe some of the "trauma" stems from rejection. Though there's this trope of men hitting anything, especially when they're super randy, I've seen ugly women getting denied. Or *if* they get laid, they get basically banged on the backseat and then kicked out at the next gas station. Ugly girls are the ones getting the fake phone number, getting ghosted and being treated as forgettable, easy to replace commodities. I can see how that would gnaw away at your soul and heart.
This is like how hen parties invaded gay clubs. I and my friends would go for a drink and a dance. Nor even to hook up with anyone. Just to be ourselves. Then hen parties started appearing. "Because we feel safe with gay men". Ok, I can understand that. But then they started taking over, shrieking, screaming, generally being nuisances. Some would make passes at gay men then be offended that we weren't interested. I think there's a certain type of person who does this sort of stuff because they think it's a challenge. That some how they'll have proven something and made themselves feel good. But how is bullying, cajoling or nagging someome into sleeping with you going to do that?
Absolutely! I would go to gay clubs with my gay friends because I am that person that can just hangout and have fun without it becoming a sexual weird thing. I would see groups of straight females come in and cause nothing but problems! I got into quite a few confrontations because I'll be damned if I was going to let them cause problems in a place they weren't invited into. A place my friends were enjoying themselves!
Reminds me of gay men that think they can change straight men as if it’s a challenge. James Charles springs to mind, I think that’s why he goes for young boys coz he can manipulate them easier
Yeah these women have ruined it for us who our friends with gay men. I don't even go now with my gay friends to the gay bars because I get the look from the gay men who think I'm here to ruin it or hit on them and it's like no. I'm trying to hang out with my gay friend who wants to go to a gay bar but have me with him because he wants to party with me as a woman in his space and feel like he can leave me alone where I'm safe because trust me I had so much fun at the gay bars with the men.
@@ditta7865 don’t be put off, if anything it’s drunken women in groups that act like that trying to show off to each other and to be honest they’re usually not even that attractive 😂
I can’t imagine being in a relationship but still insisting on putting myself in situations where other people can reject me romantically or sexually. Does she want mental health issues? I know the answer is yes but it should be no.
It just gets worse. I’m a biological woman as you can see from my photo… I will never use grinder because… drum roll… *I have a v4giNa and am attracted to StR8 men…* They are taking this too far and it’s actually insulting now. 😂 🤢
i don't think it matters if they have an account, as long as they are up front about what they are and don't go around shaming people for the preferences.
@@ttrev007 i think it matters a lot of you are looking for a specific thing you don't want to see Men straight men don't fuck with transwoman like biological women who are lesbian don't want to see transwoman
@@gamingunited37I've not been on dating sites in the past few years but honestly I always found it way more full with men looking to hook up then women. And the women I found then were like fake lesbians at best(like doing it to attract men). My best advice read profiles and actually make conversation if you are interested(a message consisting only of "Hey" will not even get you a second of consideration we get dozens if not hundreds of those in a day). With how toxic dating apps are I and many other women just give up on them- for some like myself who is interested in more then just men its alot easier as I have way more options.
How is it in any way "insidious" or "kind of violent" for people to not be attracted to you? Since when did having a preference become an act of violence? That doesn't remotely make sense. I wonder if "they" were dropped on "their" head as a baby. That would explain all of the crazy spilling from "their" gaping mouth hole.
These people are insane. A few trans men messaged me on Grindr and I was honest and direct in telling them that I wasn’t into trans people. I’m a man attracted to men. You can guess what happened. I was called transphobic by some of them and told that they reported me to the app. Unbelievable
This is the problem the regular gay guy gets his account banned for a hate crime or transphobia and the trans person gets a serotonin boost for screwing with someone else’s life. Same shit going on on the lesbian app. Ariella was talking about it. Actual lesbians getting banned because they don’t want to date trans people.
It has always been accepted that everyone is attracted to different people! I remember guys saying getting pissed at women because they've been "friend zoned" because they couldn't admit that some women just aren't into them! This is just how attraction works!
Oh yeah, me too. I block them faster when they have photos without a shirt that show the scars. I don’t have a problem with anyone being attracted to anyone. But every now and then, I like going to a gay space, bar, app, whatever, and have gay guys there, just to be around my own kind.
It's a problem of our time that a lot of people, however they identify, feel entitled to be wherever they want, and completely disregard other people's boundaries. I am quite sick of the homophobia that has come from all this, and I'm straight. I fought along side my lesbian sisters in the women's movement, to get them their own spaces. Now it's all being erased and trounced on by TRAs. Thanks for injecting a dose of reality into these discussions.
I just love how the rejected immediately politicise their lack of sexual charisma and dive into the radioactive spaghetti bowl that is Identity Politics instead of just quietly acknowledging that they're not getting hit on because they're not physically attractive. I'm embarrassed to see how many of these sorts of videos are uploaded. Keep your dignity guys, for crying out loud.
Yep. Trans Chaser is just a word they use for dudes that contact them but don't think they are attractive enough. So they put all the blame on them by calling them 'Trans Chasers'
@@Pidatha Wahey, welcome to my wonderful reality! Maybe there's an alternate universe where our shared plethora of colourful, candid shadowbanned comments actually post and create honest and valuable greater conversations, which in turn foster tolerance, resilience and GENUINE insight into the human condition...instead of all this overprocessed, dishonest pseudo-academic gobbledegook which humans prefer to pass off as 'honest conversation' (because it sounds safer and smarter to the gatekeepers of academia, big tech and the cultural intelligentsia running the show) bu wonder why things aren't getting 'better'.
I stopped all grindr. The trans men come on at 11pm and no matter how politely you say no thank you, the insults come thick and fast. I've been called some legendarily awful things. Time and time again. THIS IS WRONG.
Its crazy. As a gay man who's been on the apps over the years, I've gotten random vitriol from nonbinary women b/c I wouldn't respond. I've been told I'm a bigot, and it's always just funny to me. Like I'll just be chilling, checking out the local scene but not in the mood to chat, and then be told I hate trans people because I'm not attracted to a woman who is coding herself as a butch woman. These people are welcome to use the app. I don't begrudge anyone trying to use grindr or whatever. But no one that I don't know is entitled to my time or energy.
Many of us see this ideology as a direct attack on kids who might be gay. The boys getting targeted and who will be caught up in this are just like I was as a kid, but I'm just a gay dude, I'm not even a superflamer anymore, I grew out of it.
There are a LOT of gay men, especially older gay men (40+) who want absolutely nothing to do with the QIA+ whatever that was thrust upon us even though it has absolutely ZERO to do with us. I've felt that way my entire life and it's the crazies in the group that make sane gay dudes like me, who only wanted acceptance and equality, not special privileges, want nothing do with the group at all now. It's been long past due for a very long while now but we need to divorce the two.
@@BeyondDone I'm 36 and I'm right there with you man, I've never been accused of being phobic of myself before... by straight people pretending to be gay mostly.
Pleaseeeeee don't call it a preference. That implies being gay or lesbian is a choice. Someone who is Bi can have a preference. A lesbian only wants a female ..a gay man only a male. Respectfully ❤
@@kenzieangel tbf by that definition, we gotta mention that it's also not a choice to be bisexual either. But I guess "preferences" isn't about stuff like a person's sex but stuff like appearance and personality, anyway.
How much do they hate themselves that they have a slur for the ppl sexually attracted to them. Geez Louise. That’s incredible. Grinder sounds like a lot of fun. 😊
I used Grindr sometimes and as a shy guy and very "nerdy" person, it amazes me of how fast gay men get into sex talk and get laid in that app. Things are a bit too practical for me, but the horny men gets things done without wasting any time lmao
What is kind of interesting to me is that i dont recall people being upset about grinder when it came about.. (i could be wrong) it was just an app for gay men 🤷♀️... why not just make another app specifically for trans and those people who are cool with dating trans people? Maybe I'm just simple minded I dunno. Though if they did i suppose it would take away the "injustice" some of the trans people are seemingly happy to be screaming about. Lol : i just reached the end of the video... yes Marcus... they could make another app! ❤
@@Lushus40 And then complaining that they’re not welcome. Um yeah trans activist invader, that’s how invasions works, the community you’re invading isn’t going to be happy about it. They’re the ones who should be screaming from the roof tops, but they’re not, they just ignore you and now you’re complaining about that. Next you lot are going to complain about regular people breathing. Maybe that’s something you need to look in the mirror about.
I had the same thought (then got to the end if the video lol). It would make so much sense if they just did a "PRIDE" app, and have anyone and everyone on it. But like the above comment said, they just love to invade and take over spaces, like bullies.
The alphabet community is such a mess right now... Hard to force myself to listen to anything coming out of it. Would love to ignore it totally, however, some people are inserting themselves into women spaces, so we kinda need to know what we are dealing with. Tiring tbh.
When they come to me with that bullshit I shut it down real quick and tell them to walk away from me before things go south.....that usually does the trick
@@RedRoseSeptember22yup. People being pushovers and not wanting to hurt these people’s feelings is why they are at this point rn. People have them and inch and they took a mile.
I feel sorry for people desperately trying to normalise hooking up with anyone who will have you, even if you're apparently 'in a relationship'. It's not open and accepting, it's not modern, it's deeply unhealthy and will only lead to misery imo.
In my time chaser was a gay guy who didn't fit the gay bear (hairy/burly/chubby) stereotypes but was attracted by that and wanted in on the entire gay bear community. How the times have changed...
This issue has made me realise something about myself. Im not just physically attracted to men. Because even if I was attracted to a former female who had converted to a super masculine man, I would still know that they didn’t experience childhood and puberty as a male. They have experienced being a female and for some reason I find that unattractive and uncomfortable. I can’t really explain it… kinda like how I would never have a female doctor examine my parts. Too weird…
Im with you until refusing medical care. If you need to see a doctor while being comfortable is important(for like primary care) dont discount someone who may be more qualified just due to gender. If you roll into the ER and the doc on call is a woman dont delay your treatment- trust me people in the medical field have seen it all and they just want to get you out and healthy.
@@LittleLulubeei went to the lesbian dating app as Bi lady looking for other ladies. The amount of buffy bearded trans women that clearly didnt even transition hitting me up disgusted me 😂 whats worse is them sending eggplants to me and complaining no woman want them. Because its a dating up for strictly women that look for women geez... ofc my profile been reported for beeing transphobic 😂
“What turns other people on has nothing to do with transphobia” PREACH! Like tbh I think Marcus passes as a very handsome man but I couldn’t ever get with him because of the biology and I feel like this is the only safe place where I can admit that haha
He really is goddamned attractive isn't he? I look at him and think hmmmm... but then I get all kind's of confused 'cause he's not a 'guy' as I know guys - love ya anyway dude (Marcus that is :). Keep speaking True!
There's just so much to attraction. It's the way you move, the way you smell, your side profile, just the general ~vibes. I feel like a lot of trans people don't see how that can work against them.
I was on Grindr up until a couple of years ago when I got a prostate cancer diagnosis which pretty much put an end to my sex life. I am a male but I presented as a crossdressing male or transvestite. I put a lot of time and effort and expense into it and looked pretty good if I do say so myself. I never tried to trick anyone (I couldn't anyway because I'm 6'2" lol) and I never tried to shame anyone into liking trans when they didn't. There were more than enough willing men. I don't know what's wrong with these new people demanding sex and trying to use shame or phobia as a tactic. It's silly and it's not going to work. I never really got any hate either except for once time a little gay kid called me a "drag f*g" which I thought I should be mad about but actually found hilarious and true lol. Grindr was just starting to get crazy when I deleted my account. I can't even imagine what it's like now. Grindr as a corporation has made sure that they are known as all inclusive so I guess if any gay men looking for men don't like every other range of the abcs on there, then it's tough luck. One thing good about it is that it's very easy to block who you don't want to see. Thank you for your great content. Please keep up the good and sane work!
These people are brainwashed and they somehow believe everyone should like them or be attracted to them. And sometimes they KNOW that isn't possible but enjoys the power of guilt-tripping their victims, with manipulation and gaslighting.
From the statistics, most people in this movement are what I like to refer to as “trans-trenders”. It dilutes the issue and hurts those who actually suffer with it. It’s a shame.
Awesome content Mate, Straight man here and new follower. Sometimes people like to make things way too complicated. We live in a society where every simple concept has to be deconstructed and reconstructed with new words with meanings that are almost the same, etc. Some concepts are just simple and people need to understand it. For example: Gay men love eggplant, period. Gay women love tacos, period. Bi-Sexual people love them both, period. Everything else is just noise. TY Randy K 😎
As a gay man, I agree with you! We went from some pretty simple and basic truths, to all of this nonsensical stuff, which sadly makes straight people dislike the lgbt community even more than before and also, ironically, is kind of homophobic as well, coming from the "allies". What a jump in only a few years...
Trying to make sense of anything beyond that just makes my head hurt because I cannot logically work out the difference and in no way is the minute differences going to stick around, so I'll be just as confused next time. 🤣 I just recently worked out the trans women/trans men situation because I kept mixing them up, but I think I got it now. Trans women are the men who don't want their eggplant. And the trans men are the women who want an eggplant. If that is too complicated for me, I think you can only imagine how much of a meltdown the rest of it causes trying to keep that straight, pun intended.
@@helenetrstrup4817No a lot of trans women like their eggplant, they just want to dress like they have a taco. The trans men may or may not want an eggplant but definitely don’t want their milkers.
How about this: transvestites don’t usually have dysphoria , like their own eggplant, “get off” on looking like a taco, and may like either eggplant or taco (or both)! Yet somehow they’re lumped in with Trans people (who want to live their life as en eggplant or taco and are usually motivated to do so by gender dysphoria). Neither variety of “Trans” is “good” or “bad”, but they are very different groups I think. And both of them are lumped in with LGB folks. It’s all confusing, but I wish everyone happiness and wellbeing!
I'm a gay man that happens to not be attracted to transmen at all, but sometimes is hard to be polite cause even when you are trying to say no in the best way possible they do insist a lot and I'm not even starting with the polyamorous bs when I say that I have a boyfriend... It's getting harder and harder, sometimes I wish my mutant genes awakened so I could explode them or myself, it doesnt matter at this point LMAO
Demands to be treated like the gender they identify as Gets treated exactly like the gender they identify as WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA I'M TRIGGERED HOW DARE YOU
I am 50 years old, never had a problem with anyone's gender, race etc. But I have tried to be polite at times and gotten yelled at for mis-labelling genders. I never meant harm, I was trying to be respectful to the person. Your videos are awesome, they help me understand, as an older person I feel I try to keep up on the times, but you help educate me on things, and I appreciate that! Thank you!
They're describing normal human sexual behavior and turning it into a hate crime towards people who aren't normal. It's NOT BAD to not be normal, it's just not normal! Find other people who are also not normal, or attracted to people who aren't, and the problem is solved. Not anyone's fault that the majority IS normal. 😫
THANK YOU!!! thank you for verbalizing this. I needed this. It took a lot of courage for me to come out of the closet twenty years ago. I am very grateful to live in this day and age where it's no longer criminalized to be openly gay in most of the western world and you can live a relatively fulfilling life. SMH there are people that feel entitled enough to want to make it all about themselves and dictate how people should behave. Sorry, I did not come out of the closet to be forced into sleeping with a biological woman- I thought we were trying to eradicate conversion therapies not reinstate them.
Being homosexual was not against the law - sodomy was. Allowing "everything" can be very narrow thinking - Now that sodomy is no longer against the law young girls are being told "anal" is OK, what a terrible way to be introduced to sex. We have laws for good reasons and sodomizing a woman to avoid pregnancy used to be illegal, banning sodomy wasn't always about homosexuals - pederasts ae disgusting and sodomize little boys - that's not what makes for a good and decent society. It's best, sometimes to treat people respectfully and sodomizing anyone is not respectful, especially a woman with a beautiful vagina available. Regards.
@@robotmerger I think it's pretty clear, but I'll elucidate. These biological women are on a gay app and consider themselves to be "gay men". Since they have appropriated that term, I make it clear I am a homosexual male looking to be with other homosexual males .
Lets be real.......they dont belong on a tinder unless they are being honest.Ive noticed a lot these people getting mad that people on tinder get upset when they are lied to
The boot is on the other foot as well. Plenty of trans women want to date lesbians and express disappointment and frustration when the feelings not mutual.
You pass really well but I'm soooo happy to hear that you were open about being trans during your time on Grindr! My biggest first concern for my former FTM friends is that they were going to get themselves into dangerous situations by not being honest about the extent of their...equipment up front.
Intersex Male here, and guess what, I had to disclose that to all my partners in the past or anyone who was trying to go farther than flirting because I UNDERSTAND AND RESPECT preferences. I'm aware my biology/anatomy is different from a male or even a female's which I've had to explain to trans people too (they have appropriated a medical condition now as well apparently so now they just think it's a new type of trans...). You have to accept certain things in life, one of them is rejection.
Its so interesting how they all want access to gay men's stuff without realizing that the unique experiences that gay men have since childhood are why these things exist in the first place and that's the reason why they feel so put out when they find their way in them. They're trying to put a square peg in a round hole and call it round. There's a world of life differences between gay men and trans guys that add up quickly.
It’s so annoying people can’t stay in their own lane like everything isn’t for every damn body. I don’t understand why some people can’t understand that.
My brother (a Grinder user if ever there was one) says that using the app sometimes feels like going to the circus. He hooked up a while back with this bloke who looked great on the app but in person was actually a fully intact biological female. When my bro kindly explained that he was not attracted to 'lady bits' the person went bonkers! 🤣🤣 My bro said he was mortified because he lives in a semi and knew that his neighbors could hear everything and would rip the piss out of him later...........he was right, they did.
I can't tell if "we need more mental institutions" is being cheeky or serious whenever someone says this. Like go stay in one for fun yourself so you know what you're actually suggesting.
When I am in a relationship I delete all these types of apps because I believe in monogamy and I expect my partner to be. So when you catch your partner on there and they say they are just trying to make friends? 🤣 Yeah ok!
New to your channel but am so happy to have found it. My 24yr old son is trans and I love hearing you speak on his and the other trans men and women who just want to live a normal life, not be seen as freak shows. Xx
I'm a gay man on Gr*ndr and it's really annoying because the grid is full of trans people and "chasers" that take up so much space on the very limited grid, and if you want to see more people you have to go premium which cost A LOT(atleast in my country).
Should I make a video about real trans men on Gr*ndr?
Yesss
Sure. While I see, where you are coming from with "don't expect princess/girl treatment", I had the experience, that a considerable amount of gay men are disgusted by the superficial abusive hookup style on grindr aswell. Not ALL gay men want this. And we/they actually DO lack alternative options.
I think that could be a very interesting video!
Honest question, does being on T actually help with sex drive? How soon does that start like days, weeks, months or seconds? Thank you so much. And oh, I'm _not_ asking for a friend... this is all for me baby! 😂
Hahahahaha the guy in the first clip is my cousin 😂 that was such a surprise lmao yes he’s a real trans man, transitioned like 10 years ago.
Imagine shaming gay men for wanting to be with other gay men. This is so twisted
It been going on in the lesbian community for the longest. I seen several videos of them losing clubs ,being harassed by trans and allies because they wanted to date biological women
@@VeeAleeyes recently they got angry about a speed dating night for lesbians in a bar for women only
@@VeeAleeI became aware of the harassment lesbians were going through 5 years ago. I was shocked that there are people in the LGBT community shaming others for their sexual orientation.
And yet here we are…I feel like I have to defend my sexuality and for once it’s not against heteros haha
Was shamed for that by the same activists who scammed me with fake pursuits and hopes for "equality". You are not alone. No more.
Calling someone transphobic for not wanting to have intercourse is insane. Imagine being entitled to other people’s BODIES and time. Wtffff these people are scary
Incel energy
But then if you want them you're an embarrassing chaser. They do not have the slightest clue what they're actually mad about, they just wanna be mad & victims. Gross.
"Intercourse" is male+female sex.
Its more controler energy because if you do like them they call you a chaser but if you dont want them you are teansphobic. I think its mostly about the power the control other people. @@DanielleStarry
Isnt this gaslighting?
Imagine someone calling you "violent" and "insidious" just because you refuse to have sex with them. Not incel rethoric at all /s.
I lost it when she said violent.
That should show you where the real incels are coming from...
That isn't even incel rhetoric ...
@@freerights6695
The whole _incel_ stuff is mainly a made up fantasy to reject whatever a man disagreeing brings up in an argument... usually such people do not even realize they just called some married dude with adult children _incel,_ as if he was _celibate,_ not even bringing up the hilarious _involuntarily_ part in it.
The people who use that kind of speech are the real involuntarily lonely people forcing themselves on others. It is all projection.
trancels gonna trancel
"My partner and me are on Grindr" is possibly the most depressing thing I've heard today...
They love talking about themselves. Maybe the self absorption is the turn off. Delia Morris
There's no 🍆 between them so they're looking for one 🤷♀️
That didn't even register to me. Now I'm slightly depressed about it smh
His guy sayjng he is not gay is Just as ridiculous
AH AH AH AH AH AH
Thank you!!! As a lesbian, I hate getting being told I'm transphobic for not wanting to date trans women, even post op. F*ck off. I've seen post op trans women and it doesn't look like the real thing. I can't help my sexual orientation, and it's not transphobic. And if a straight man said the same thing as me, I'd stick up for him because I get it.
I feel the same way. I'm female and I want a female partner, not a male.
As straight woman i dont want a transman eather. Even if they have done surgery i still perfer natural one
Girl same those who be saying that they would date them are lying
If you're into trans men on Grindr, you're a chaser, if you refuse trans men on Grindr, you're a bigot. So, either way, you fail according to her. Make it make sense.
I usually block the trans.
I am a bisexual... does that make me a transphobe chaser bigot?
Meh the hell... i guess i stick to pans.
Yes pan intended. 😂 sorry i feel silly today.
Chaser means something completely different in different gay communities. I've seen Bear and Chubby Chasers, too, but they're usually not for trans people.
@@niamtxivMe too man. Before they even speak to me. Block block block block, I love it 🤣
Or we can choose the third option by just being who we are without caring what she thinks.
I joined a vegan buy/sell site. Why isn’t anyone interested in my meat products?
Exactly!
Underrated comment. You hit the nail on the head.
Amen
I feel like Grindr would be a buy/sell meat site and they are offering vegan food
😂
"My partner and me are both on grindr"
Just sleep with your "partner". You can't really complain about not finding sexual partners when you already have one.
First thing I thought 😮
Just 2 gay men, chewin' on some carpet...
I know, right.
People obsessed with their desires ignore logic.
My thought was "Why are you still on Grindr? Says a lot about your relationship."
I'm homosexual, not homogendered. That is why I am interested in people of the same sex, not the same gender.
Lol samesies 😅😅
sex = gender
" don't be penis sexual phobic "
Beautifully and accurately put.
they are the same tho
As a gay man, I honestly am leaning more and more towards the idea of the LGB's divorcing the rest of the letters.
I agree. The rest of those alphabet bullies have DESTROYED all the progress the LGB community has accomplished toward equal rights, etc. I've never had any issues with the LGB community, but the hyper-aggressive, TQ+ mafia...yeah, I have NO time or patience for that nonsense! They literally ruin everything they force themselves upon (pun intended).
I completely agree. I'm sick of "trans" people harassing L's and G's. I feel safer and more at ease around straight people than any of the TQIA+ crowd.
Same here. I don't claim anything past the LGB part. The rest are their own brand of crazy.
As a gay man I have NOTHING to do with any of the alphabet mafia.
There is something called the LGB Alliance which formed specifically because of this stuff. Might want to look them up if you're interested?
As a gay man I don't care what other people do. As long as you're not hurting anyone else in the process then do whatever you want. But it doesn't make me transphobic just because I would never go with a trans person.
I'm seeing it more as, if you like sausage and are attracted to sausage, then why try to force you to like tacos? (Apologies for the food analogy there)
@@hinachan70 if that's your comparison then I will never like Tacos 🌮🤮🤣
@@megatasticandfabulicious Tacophobe. 😉
@@winstonwolf6791 TACOPHOBE lmao 😂😂😂
@@winstonwolf6791 I seriously am a Tacophobe if they the Vag type 🤮 but I'm also a Tacophobe if they're not nice Tacos. I was so excited when Taco bell came to Manchester (UK) but then when I tried it I was so disappointed because compared to Taco bell in the US the one here is horrible. I just have to make tacos myself if I want them as I know they'll be nicer. 😋 I don't think I'm ever gonna look at a Taco the same again after this conversation 😭🤣
Why tf are they on grinder💀
Cause they don't want to date other trans people. I wonder why...🤔
I block them
@@NI-gy2mlwait what’s wrong with trans ppl dating trans ppl.?
Just looking for another stupid pot to stir…
Because there isn't a grindr for transgendered people. No point going on a straight app, cos straight guys don't like c@ck.
I'll never forget how uncomfortable I was, as an 18-year-old gay male, that a former lesbian who was transitioning into a man was relentlessly coming on to me. This was decades before the trans renaissance. Even then, I didn't want to be hurtful, but I also wasn't sexually attracted this person who was, externally, a woman. So, I kept politely declining. These days, that would be considered by many to be transphobic. It was not.
Trans Renaissance...can I steal this term from you please?
@@neko7606 See the moment you mentioned the Japanese School girl outfit I was like...bruh.
@@neko7606😦 what too much yaoi does to a mf.
Seriously though, those types of girls need a reality check. Going outside, actually meeting gay guys as friends and not just shopping buddies.
Reminds me of when I was 13 (white female) was minding my business on my property and a black guy walked passed and started talking to me. He asked my age and I told him. I then asked his and he said 19. He asked me out, I said no, and he called me racist.
If they insist after the first "no," that's just straight sexual harassment at that point.
This is predatory. It's forcing yourself into the spaces that aren't meant for you.
Luvvy us women suffer this from men saying they're women all time .in toilets sports lesbian dating apps womens refuges .these effers often attack physically too
@loveyourself3246 " don't be a penis sexual phobic ". That's all. But are you serious?! 🤣 wow. I was wondering what they'd call it
I'm so over them trying to rationalize people's disinterest in them as bigotry... 🤦♀ A gay man literally CAN'T feel attraction to female genitals... That's the whole point of being _homosexual._ If genitals are something he cares about in a relationship, and he will most likely care, you have no say in it other than "I understand, have a nice day". That applies to anyone with any sexual orientation. Narcissists are so exhausting.
They go into spaces that they know won't welcome them, specifically to complain that they don't feel welcome. 🙄
I'm seriously beginning these weirdos have a "victim" kink.
Don’t forget they then tried to forcibly change and rule over said spaces with no regards to the people that the space was originally for.
Have you heard of the Woman in Australia that simply wanted a Women only space to focus on our particular issues? She got cancelled for a hate crime and is currently doing a long, hard, expensive appeal.
This is LUDICROUS.
It's just like all black colleges... Which I personally have no problem with but- try opening an all white college and see what happens.
It's ridiculous- if we were all blind we would all be the same color. Turn off the lights and we are all either female or male, I'm sorry but there is no in between.
Identify as a camel if you want to, I don't care- but don't get mad at me when I don't see you as a camel because you look like a human being. My bad. Don't attack me when I'm a bit confused if you're standing in front of me in a dress and heels, full makeup, and a beard. What the actual hell are you supposed to be? And how is it my fault when I don't immediately recognize it?
Why can't we have all women spaces? It used to be called the girl scouts 😉. (Not really but you get my drift.... Why can't people just hang out with who they choose without being labeled racist or sexist or phobic of some sort? Why can't people just be?)
it’s getting very bad in australia. canada and aus are usually the testing grounds for america so good luck
I did hear about that. I hope she wins....
The Left are big on 'hate' it seems. Hate Crime (someone upset you). Hate Speech. Are they already thought police? Oops, too late.
@@ltlwlwl5057 Speaking of Australia. A lady stated a lesbian speed dating a few years ago and for the past 2-3 trans women have started showing interest. She started receiving complaints from the biological women feeling due to tge trans women that show up being aggressive. Anyways once a biological woman was assault (in the bathroom, I think). She turned it into a biological women event and the trans lesbians got upset stating that the event was transphobic and non inclusive. They even tried taking it to court...completely dismissing the assault. In the end they got to keep the evrnt biological women's only.
I love how entitled they think they are to other people's bodies, time, and attention.
Reminds me of incels, but they at least are quiet angry
YOU NAILED IT,
They don't even treat their own bodies with respect. Why would you expect them to treat others' bodies with respect?
This is like chosing vanilla icecream and being called a strawberry-phobe for wanting vanilla. It's insane.
"I like waffles."
"Wow that is so pancakephobic."
-basically the logic here
Perfect!
I actually hate anything with strawberry besides the fruit itself. I'm a Strawberry-phobe ✊🏾
@@African.empress Good for you! ✊🏻
I'm gay. I'm on Grindr. I LOVE the fact that you have infinite Blocks on this app. Because the second I see a profile with this kind of... characters... I block them immediately. They're just occupying space from the legitimate users that I could like. So they're out. I don't even let them reach me. The first 15 minutes that I log in on the app is for blocking. Then it is for hitting.
Not on Grindr... I was banned for saying "No Thanks, I'm gay" to a woman who messaged me. A few days later I went back on the app and it said my account was suspended for violating terms of service.
What???
They hate "chasers," but whine that nobody else wants them, either.
It's really dumb too because a lot of the chasers are really hot lol.
They'd never join a club that would want them as a member.
I was about to say…it seems as if they are cutting off the last remnants of potential partners for life.
Because their objective for joining the app in the first place isn't to find matches, but to have something to complain about.
A chaser is someone who objectifies and fetishizes trans bodies. They see us as a taboo, and are generally ashamed of their attraction to us. They have zero regard for who we are as individuals, and only care about receiving specific sexual gratification. As soon as that’s fulfilled, they move on to the next person.
Trans amorous people, have a sexual and/or romantic desire for trans people. They aren’t ashamed of their attraction, and engage with us on a healthy, emotional level as well as physical. They respect our bodies, and how we want to be intimate.
Not everyone attracted to trans people are chasers. Chaser is a negative term. Trans amorous is positive.
So we went from being shamed for liking 🍆 to being accepted by society to now being shamed for liking 🍆 by people in our own “community”.
It's so true and it's so disconcerting.
What community? It doesn't belong to us anymore.
@anthonyyoung2044 the HDMI community?
Trans agent a part of my community. I don't claim them.
the trans "lesbians" (aka men who claim to be lesbian) are just like this as well with lesbians who don't want 🍆
Not being attractive to another person is not a form of violence.
As a 58 year old gay man….. I’m so sick of all of this garbage. I consider myself to be a tolerant person, and respectful to others to be whom they are… but these folks have taken the cake on being too far and way out there!
I use Grindr and I get ignored about 94% of the time. Is this ageism? Am I being discriminated against? NO… IT’S PEOPLE LIKE WHAT PEOPLE LIKE AND DON’T WANT WHAT THEY DON’T WANT. Grow up and get over yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Someone needs to tell these people that sexual interest is not a human right. We are allowed to discriminate on who we date or have sex with. You can't demand someone date or have an interest in you based on your feelings. That is what we call sexual coercion-to impose one's will on another (rape). This is not any different than when the boss made women sleep with them to keep a job.
Spot on!
Whatever happened to my body, my choice?! I guess they forget that when it's about them.... Now, if you don't like them, you're a transphobe! How about, I'm not transphobic, you're just a horrible person...
Very well fckng said!
What an excellent comment.
You ate it!!
I have ALWAYS thought the same thing about Grindr. Never understood why trans women demand to be recognised as women, but then will go onto an app designed for gay male hookups !!! pick a lane
Because they're not accepting that trans women and women are two different stuff and so have different live experiences
Any port in a storm I guess
A lot of straight men and tranny chaser go on Grindr to find Transwomen.
Because they’re self focused loons. Me me me me me! Everyone should want me! I want all the things! Stupid.
Or they date a man then break up an tell there jobs or family there gay cause they have a dick. So u want straight man date u then use it to embarrass them lol
I really cannot stand the allegation of “violence” when talking about perceived transphobia… violence is physical. Anyone who has been physically attacked and physically harmed due to being different of any form, truly understands the term “violence”. Hurt feelings aren’t nice, but they are so very different from violence. It’s insulting and delusional to even put them in the same category.
Violence is not only physical, but this does not qualify as violence.
Did you wake up just now? This _feelings over facts_ and _all the same_ is going for years. A look is harassment... a question violence...
It’s because most of these people haven’t experienced violence. They’ve experienced being turned down and their feelings getting hurt which they equate to violence cause most have lived very privileged lives. Sure, there are definitely some who have, but a lot haven’t that’s why they wear the terms gay man, lesbian, transsexual, bisexual like they are cosplaying. Most don’t understand what it’s like having to hide who your sexually and romantically attracted to and feel shame for that… most don’t understand what gender dysphoria is and usually equate their body dysmorphia to being gender dysphoria. Cause they hate themselves as they are so much that they are willing to physically and chemically alter their bodies cause they think the will be liked more. That’s not gender dysphoria… that’s body dysmorphia and what they are doing is literally the worst thing they could do to themselves. They usually have severe mental trauma and instead of seeking help for that take on an LGBT persona. Which is extremely offensive cause they are essentially doing LGBT Face and think they aren’t hurting anyone. LGBT are just the scapegoat for their unresolved trauma.
They are delusional in most other parts of their life so not really surprising
Only someone that has never gotten into a fist fight would say some bullshit like that. "That's violence." Yeah, even if it is(which it isn't), so what?
Being ignored feels violent? As a survivor of an abusive marriage, I have a problem with this!
On a different point, I love your honesty and healthy look on topic! ❤
If anything for these people, No News Is Good News. But of course they gotta hold the belief that Silence Is Violence so, yeah their narcissism and cognitive dissonance are their two brain cells fighting over 3rd place
Thank you for this , as a cis male gay guy I agree with you. I have noticed this trend in Grindr where it seems all this people are intent on destroying one of the few spaces created for gay men. You finally put my thoughts in words very well presented.
I think some of these women have trauma with straight men and, because they are still attracted to men, view gay men as safer. So they don’t want to pass as a man because they don’t have dysphoria, but still desire a heterosexual relationship 🤷🏼♀️ could be wrong. This always comes down to mental health.
As a transman, who has dated straight and gay men, I think a lot of straight women view gay men as safe since they are not hitting on them. They only ever experience gay men as besties and vastly underestimate their potential sexual aggression.
I have bi friends and I’ve been told by them that gay dudes are way more ‘sexually aggressive’ might we say, on pursuing someone sexually
I guess just women demand restraint whereas men don’t really
If anything I think they’re making a *massive* underestimation of how sexually aggressive gay men are
Lol Remember when Trisha Paytas came out as a gay man?😂
As one woman put it: "Well, imagine if someone walked up to YOU and grabbed your crotch?"
Me? "Saturday night."
Here's me being cynical: I believe some of the "trauma" stems from rejection.
Though there's this trope of men hitting anything, especially when they're super randy, I've seen ugly women getting denied.
Or *if* they get laid, they get basically banged on the backseat and then kicked out at the next gas station. Ugly girls are the ones getting the fake phone number, getting ghosted and being treated as forgettable, easy to replace commodities.
I can see how that would gnaw away at your soul and heart.
This is like how hen parties invaded gay clubs. I and my friends would go for a drink and a dance. Nor even to hook up with anyone. Just to be ourselves. Then hen parties started appearing. "Because we feel safe with gay men".
Ok, I can understand that. But then they started taking over, shrieking, screaming, generally being nuisances. Some would make passes at gay men then be offended that we weren't interested.
I think there's a certain type of person who does this sort of stuff because they think it's a challenge. That some how they'll have proven something and made themselves feel good. But how is bullying, cajoling or nagging someome into sleeping with you going to do that?
Absolutely! I would go to gay clubs with my gay friends because I am that person that can just hangout and have fun without it becoming a sexual weird thing. I would see groups of straight females come in and cause nothing but problems! I got into quite a few confrontations because I'll be damned if I was going to let them cause problems in a place they weren't invited into. A place my friends were enjoying themselves!
Reminds me of gay men that think they can change straight men as if it’s a challenge. James Charles springs to mind, I think that’s why he goes for young boys coz he can manipulate them easier
Yeah these women have ruined it for us who our friends with gay men. I don't even go now with my gay friends to the gay bars because I get the look from the gay men who think I'm here to ruin it or hit on them and it's like no. I'm trying to hang out with my gay friend who wants to go to a gay bar but have me with him because he wants to party with me as a woman in his space and feel like he can leave me alone where I'm safe because trust me I had so much fun at the gay bars with the men.
@@ditta7865 don’t be put off, if anything it’s drunken women in groups that act like that trying to show off to each other and to be honest they’re usually not even that attractive 😂
It's almost like actions have consequences. Too bad you selfish fools wouldn't listen.
I can’t imagine being in a relationship but still insisting on putting myself in situations where other people can reject me romantically or sexually. Does she want mental health issues? I know the answer is yes but it should be no.
They do this all for attention and to claim being a victim
You mean, does she want even more...
My thoughts exactly you have a bf be happy it almost feels like her bf is the one not satisfied 😂😂
She obviously already has mental health issues
Lesbian Tinder is full of they/thems?!
UGH.... My worst fear come true. Bad time to realize I want to start dating because i'm getting old.
It just gets worse. I’m a biological woman as you can see from my photo… I will never use grinder because… drum roll… *I have a v4giNa and am attracted to StR8 men…*
They are taking this too far and it’s actually insulting now. 😂 🤢
I would never use grindr because IT'S DISGUSTING and I enjoy not having STDs.
on dating sites there are more transwomen than actual woman it's pretty creepy and as a straight guy i want to see women not men
i don't think it matters if they have an account, as long as they are up front about what they are and don't go around shaming people for the preferences.
@@ttrev007 i think it matters a lot of you are looking for a specific thing you don't want to see Men straight men don't fuck with transwoman like biological women who are lesbian don't want to see transwoman
@@gamingunited37I've not been on dating sites in the past few years but honestly I always found it way more full with men looking to hook up then women. And the women I found then were like fake lesbians at best(like doing it to attract men).
My best advice read profiles and actually make conversation if you are interested(a message consisting only of "Hey" will not even get you a second of consideration we get dozens if not hundreds of those in a day). With how toxic dating apps are I and many other women just give up on them- for some like myself who is interested in more then just men its alot easier as I have way more options.
How is it in any way "insidious" or "kind of violent" for people to not be attracted to you? Since when did having a preference become an act of violence? That doesn't remotely make sense. I wonder if "they" were dropped on "their" head as a baby. That would explain all of the crazy spilling from "their" gaping mouth hole.
"How is it in any way "insidious" or "kind of violent" for people to not be attracted to you?" Exactly. That is just a rapey ploy.
These people are insane.
A few trans men messaged me on Grindr and I was honest and direct in telling them that I wasn’t into trans people. I’m a man attracted to men. You can guess what happened. I was called transphobic by some of them and told that they reported me to the app. Unbelievable
Everyone has the right to date whoever adult they want. Enforcement is abuse.
Failure to recognize the consequences of actions will not save you from them.
This is the problem the regular gay guy gets his account banned for a hate crime or transphobia and the trans person gets a serotonin boost for screwing with someone else’s life. Same shit going on on the lesbian app. Ariella was talking about it. Actual lesbians getting banned because they don’t want to date trans people.
That is why I ignore and block them as soon as they contact me. Save yourself the trouble.
@@chrisjackson8151I started blocking them straight away. Too much drama for my liking
its always hatefull how others want to force themselves into someone elses space and suddenly want to decide how the rules work.
It has always been accepted that everyone is attracted to different people! I remember guys saying getting pissed at women because they've been "friend zoned" because they couldn't admit that some women just aren't into them! This is just how attraction works!
Why can’t someone just create a hookup app for trans people?
Because then they’d call that being fetishized. Can’t win….
Seems like trans people are not attracted to each other and want to hook up with cis people.
Because you all belong in the same block.
Because trans people don't want to hook up with other trans people, lol!
They see whatever gender they believe they are to be 100% real, and assume others will be on board.
I am soooo over everyone thinking all spaces are for them. I literally block every woman I see on grindr and I just pray they go away.
Oh yeah, me too. I block them faster when they have photos without a shirt that show the scars. I don’t have a problem with anyone being attracted to anyone. But every now and then, I like going to a gay space, bar, app, whatever, and have gay guys there, just to be around my own kind.
Pray 😂
I’m not even gay but I like listening to you. You have common sense and very in tune with society, what’s normal and what’s not
It's a problem of our time that a lot of people, however they identify, feel entitled to be wherever they want, and completely disregard other people's boundaries. I am quite sick of the homophobia that has come from all this, and I'm straight. I fought along side my lesbian sisters in the women's movement, to get them their own spaces. Now it's all being erased and trounced on by TRAs. Thanks for injecting a dose of reality into these discussions.
So many people desperately trying not to accept their own sexuality 🤦♀️
To the point of medicalisation to avoid it . Quite sad really.
It’s CRAZY!!!
This is just like that crazy lesbian jubilee video with Arielle, they're now erasing gays too.
transing the gay away!
Modern conversion therapy
Isn't it obvious? I mean, the rejection of the binary system is inherently biphobic because it rejects the system my sexuality is based on.
I just love how the rejected immediately politicise their lack of sexual charisma and dive into the radioactive spaghetti bowl that is Identity Politics instead of just quietly acknowledging that they're not getting hit on because they're not physically attractive. I'm embarrassed to see how many of these sorts of videos are uploaded. Keep your dignity guys, for crying out loud.
She's not getting hit on because it's a GAY app for gay men 😂
And after they intentionally made themselves physically unattractive, too. It's all a big stupid power play.
I like how UA-cam decided to banish my comment into the shadow realm when i didn't even say anything controversial
Yep. Trans Chaser is just a word they use for dudes that contact them but don't think they are attractive enough. So they put all the blame on them by calling them 'Trans Chasers'
@@Pidatha Wahey, welcome to my wonderful reality! Maybe there's an alternate universe where our shared plethora of colourful, candid shadowbanned comments actually post and create honest and valuable greater conversations, which in turn foster tolerance, resilience and GENUINE insight into the human condition...instead of all this overprocessed, dishonest pseudo-academic gobbledegook which humans prefer to pass off as 'honest conversation' (because it sounds safer and smarter to the gatekeepers of academia, big tech and the cultural intelligentsia running the show) bu wonder why things aren't getting 'better'.
I stopped all grindr. The trans men come on at 11pm and no matter how politely you say no thank you, the insults come thick and fast. I've been called some legendarily awful things. Time and time again.
THIS IS WRONG.
I always report women on Grindr. They always disappear afterwards.
They already did this to lesbians on a lesbian dating app. Lesbians who said they would not date a trans woman were kicked off the app.
When these activists say how they are treated is like violence they clearly have never been an actual victim of violence.
The homophobia in these women is deep 😑
You mean men
@@MsBadBody I was referring to the lesbian couple, not the trans-identifying man
@@MsBadBody no women. Your identity can eff right off when you act that way toward gay men and lesbians.
Not men idiot@@MsBadBody
Its crazy. As a gay man who's been on the apps over the years, I've gotten random vitriol from nonbinary women b/c I wouldn't respond. I've been told I'm a bigot, and it's always just funny to me. Like I'll just be chilling, checking out the local scene but not in the mood to chat, and then be told I hate trans people because I'm not attracted to a woman who is coding herself as a butch woman.
These people are welcome to use the app. I don't begrudge anyone trying to use grindr or whatever. But no one that I don't know is entitled to my time or energy.
As a straight person its refreshing to hear members of the lgbq to speak out against so called transphobia
Many of us see this ideology as a direct attack on kids who might be gay. The boys getting targeted and who will be caught up in this are just like I was as a kid, but I'm just a gay dude, I'm not even a superflamer anymore, I grew out of it.
There are a LOT of gay men, especially older gay men (40+) who want absolutely nothing to do with the QIA+ whatever that was thrust upon us even though it has absolutely ZERO to do with us. I've felt that way my entire life and it's the crazies in the group that make sane gay dudes like me, who only wanted acceptance and equality, not special privileges, want nothing do with the group at all now. It's been long past due for a very long while now but we need to divorce the two.
@@BeyondDone I'm 36 and I'm right there with you man, I've never been accused of being phobic of myself before... by straight people pretending to be gay mostly.
" as soon as you realise hé doesnt have a pénis you dont want him"
Wow. I broke my brain.
Its like the trans women going on lesbian sites. No, just no. Preferences are allowed.
Pleaseeeeee don't call it a preference. That implies being gay or lesbian is a choice. Someone who is Bi can have a preference. A lesbian only wants a female ..a gay man only a male. Respectfully ❤
@@kenzieangel thank you 🙏🏽
I agree.
@@kenzieangel tbf by that definition, we gotta mention that it's also not a choice to be bisexual either.
But I guess "preferences" isn't about stuff like a person's sex but stuff like appearance and personality, anyway.
Tbh they can go on there as long as they are honest.
How much do they hate themselves that they have a slur for the ppl sexually attracted to them. Geez Louise. That’s incredible.
Grinder sounds like a lot of fun. 😊
I used Grindr sometimes and as a shy guy and very "nerdy" person, it amazes me of how fast gay men get into sex talk and get laid in that app. Things are a bit too practical for me, but the horny men gets things done without wasting any time lmao
What is kind of interesting to me is that i dont recall people being upset about grinder when it came about.. (i could be wrong) it was just an app for gay men 🤷♀️... why not just make another app specifically for trans and those people who are cool with dating trans people?
Maybe I'm just simple minded I dunno.
Though if they did i suppose it would take away the "injustice" some of the trans people are seemingly happy to be screaming about.
Lol : i just reached the end of the video... yes Marcus... they could make another app! ❤
Seems to be all about invading spaces where they’re not welcome
@@Lushus40
And then complaining that they’re not welcome. Um yeah trans activist invader, that’s how invasions works, the community you’re invading isn’t going to be happy about it. They’re the ones who should be screaming from the roof tops, but they’re not, they just ignore you and now you’re complaining about that.
Next you lot are going to complain about regular people breathing. Maybe that’s something you need to look in the mirror about.
I had the same thought (then got to the end if the video lol). It would make so much sense if they just did a "PRIDE" app, and have anyone and everyone on it. But like the above comment said, they just love to invade and take over spaces, like bullies.
I have a question, I have a question, ma'am!! Do these trans people want to date other trans? Or they just want cis gay men? 🤔
yeah where is the trans version of jdate? 😂
I love how they act entitled to be matched or hit like it’s a robot on the other end and not a free market
It all comes down to ppl demanding respect without having to give respect.
“Septum piercing communist” i almost spit out my drink lmao
Exactly why I took my septum ring out.
Grindr is not a replacement for self esteem or a meassure of value. Anyone that uses it finds that out in the end! 🤣
"In the end" 😂 🤣
Kinda makes sense. Women use tinder as validation/ego boost, only fair trans men use grinder lol 😂
@@PossibleBat some women are weird like why go to grindr when those who use it are looking for other men to hook up with or date
The alphabet community is such a mess right now... Hard to force myself to listen to anything coming out of it. Would love to ignore it totally, however, some people are inserting themselves into women spaces, so we kinda need to know what we are dealing with.
Tiring tbh.
VERY tiring..as all narc/ entitled people are...
When they come to me with that bullshit I shut it down real quick and tell them to walk away from me before things go south.....that usually does the trick
Loons everywhere
It was a mess to begin with.
@@RedRoseSeptember22yup. People being pushovers and not wanting to hurt these people’s feelings is why they are at this point rn. People have them and inch and they took a mile.
I feel sorry for people desperately trying to normalise hooking up with anyone who will have you, even if you're apparently 'in a relationship'. It's not open and accepting, it's not modern, it's deeply unhealthy and will only lead to misery imo.
In my time chaser was a gay guy who didn't fit the gay bear (hairy/burly/chubby) stereotypes but was attracted by that and wanted in on the entire gay bear community. How the times have changed...
This issue has made me realise something about myself. Im not just physically attracted to men. Because even if I was attracted to a former female who had converted to a super masculine man, I would still know that they didn’t experience childhood and puberty as a male. They have experienced being a female and for some reason I find that unattractive and uncomfortable. I can’t really explain it… kinda like how I would never have a female doctor examine my parts. Too weird…
Im with you until refusing medical care. If you need to see a doctor while being comfortable is important(for like primary care) dont discount someone who may be more qualified just due to gender. If you roll into the ER and the doc on call is a woman dont delay your treatment- trust me people in the medical field have seen it all and they just want to get you out and healthy.
@@thornback5641 nah man. Women are allowed to refuse a male Gynecologist. I will do the same.
@@thornback5641you have a pretty poor understanding of boundaries
If you're saying you're not into trans men that's fine bro. Dont apologise for it. PC is poison.
@@thornback5641couldn’t he just ask for a male doctor or nurse or something
0:15 Same thing with the lesbian dating app ‘Her’ but now biological women are getting banned because they don’t date trans women. It’s a mess.
That should not be a thing. Forcing people to date what they're not into.
It’s horrible!! I don’t feel comfortable with those creepy looking guys there! 😭😭
@@LittleLulubeei went to the lesbian dating app as Bi lady looking for other ladies. The amount of buffy bearded trans women that clearly didnt even transition hitting me up disgusted me 😂 whats worse is them sending eggplants to me and complaining no woman want them. Because its a dating up for strictly women that look for women geez... ofc my profile been reported for beeing transphobic 😂
“What turns other people on has nothing to do with transphobia” PREACH! Like tbh I think Marcus passes as a very handsome man but I couldn’t ever get with him because of the biology and I feel like this is the only safe place where I can admit that haha
He really is goddamned attractive isn't he? I look at him and think hmmmm... but then I get all kind's of confused 'cause he's not a 'guy' as I know guys - love ya anyway dude (Marcus that is :). Keep speaking True!
Yeah, he's really cute. Confuses me sometimes haha
Same! He is a relly good looking guy but when I think to his nether region I'm like nope.
There's just so much to attraction. It's the way you move, the way you smell, your side profile, just the general ~vibes.
I feel like a lot of trans people don't see how that can work against them.
I was vibing with this until you said side profile 😂 I feel called out.
Simply put, don't be in a space where you're not supposed to be!
I was on Grindr up until a couple of years ago when I got a prostate cancer diagnosis which pretty much put an end to my sex life. I am a male but I presented as a crossdressing male or transvestite. I put a lot of time and effort and expense into it and looked pretty good if I do say so myself. I never tried to trick anyone (I couldn't anyway because I'm 6'2" lol) and I never tried to shame anyone into liking trans when they didn't. There were more than enough willing men. I don't know what's wrong with these new people demanding sex and trying to use shame or phobia as a tactic. It's silly and it's not going to work. I never really got any hate either except for once time a little gay kid called me a "drag f*g" which I thought I should be mad about but actually found hilarious and true lol. Grindr was just starting to get crazy when I deleted my account. I can't even imagine what it's like now. Grindr as a corporation has made sure that they are known as all inclusive so I guess if any gay men looking for men don't like every other range of the abcs on there, then it's tough luck. One thing good about it is that it's very easy to block who you don't want to see. Thank you for your great content. Please keep up the good and sane work!
Hey, hope you're doing okay.
Gross.
These people are brainwashed and they somehow believe everyone should like them or be attracted to them. And sometimes they KNOW that isn't possible but enjoys the power of guilt-tripping their victims, with manipulation and gaslighting.
From the statistics, most people in this movement are what I like to refer to as “trans-trenders”.
It dilutes the issue and hurts those who actually suffer with it. It’s a shame.
Awesome content Mate,
Straight man here and new follower.
Sometimes people like to make things way too complicated. We live in a society where every simple concept has to be deconstructed and reconstructed with new words with meanings that are almost the same, etc.
Some concepts are just simple and people need to understand it.
For example:
Gay men love eggplant, period.
Gay women love tacos, period.
Bi-Sexual people love them both, period.
Everything else is just noise.
TY
Randy K
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As a gay man, I agree with you! We went from some pretty simple and basic truths, to all of this nonsensical stuff, which sadly makes straight people dislike the lgbt community even more than before and also, ironically, is kind of homophobic as well, coming from the "allies". What a jump in only a few years...
Trying to make sense of anything beyond that just makes my head hurt because I cannot logically work out the difference and in no way is the minute differences going to stick around, so I'll be just as confused next time. 🤣
I just recently worked out the trans women/trans men situation because I kept mixing them up, but I think I got it now. Trans women are the men who don't want their eggplant. And the trans men are the women who want an eggplant.
If that is too complicated for me, I think you can only imagine how much of a meltdown the rest of it causes trying to keep that straight, pun intended.
@@helenetrstrup4817No a lot of trans women like their eggplant, they just want to dress like they have a taco. The trans men may or may not want an eggplant but definitely don’t want their milkers.
How about this: transvestites don’t usually have dysphoria , like their own eggplant, “get off” on looking like a taco, and may like either eggplant or taco (or both)! Yet somehow they’re lumped in with Trans people (who want to live their life as en eggplant or taco and are usually motivated to do so by gender dysphoria). Neither variety of “Trans” is “good” or “bad”, but they are very different groups I think. And both of them are lumped in with LGB folks. It’s all confusing, but I wish everyone happiness and wellbeing!
Asexual people like neither, because they are never randy, lol.
I'm a gay man that happens to not be attracted to transmen at all, but sometimes is hard to be polite cause even when you are trying to say no in the best way possible they do insist a lot and I'm not even starting with the polyamorous bs when I say that I have a boyfriend... It's getting harder and harder, sometimes I wish my mutant genes awakened so I could explode them or myself, it doesnt matter at this point LMAO
😂 a "no more trans men" kind of thing
@@netjernefer3160 more like:
- No more delusional people! (Please I'm begging) LoL
Demands to be treated like the gender they identify as
Gets treated exactly like the gender they identify as
WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
I'M TRIGGERED HOW DARE YOU
I am 50 years old, never had a problem with anyone's gender, race etc. But I have tried to be polite at times and gotten yelled at for mis-labelling genders. I never meant harm, I was trying to be respectful to the person. Your videos are awesome, they help me understand, as an older person I feel I try to keep up on the times, but you help educate me on things, and I appreciate that! Thank you!
They seriously need to stop..
7:43 It’s like going into a men’s locker room and complaining that it’s too masculine to be “comfortable” for you
Thank you finally someone says it out loud, I go on grindr often and get called transphobic when I say no thanks when asked. It's annoying
They're describing normal human sexual behavior and turning it into a hate crime towards people who aren't normal. It's NOT BAD to not be normal, it's just not normal! Find other people who are also not normal, or attracted to people who aren't, and the problem is solved. Not anyone's fault that the majority IS normal. 😫
Its so self-defeating; almost as if they WANT to be a victim of rejection….
I just don't understand these ppl. We all know what Grinder is used for!!
THANK YOU!!! thank you for verbalizing this. I needed this. It took a lot of courage for me to come out of the closet twenty years ago. I am very grateful to live in this day and age where it's no longer criminalized to be openly gay in most of the western world and you can live a relatively fulfilling life. SMH there are people that feel entitled enough to want to make it all about themselves and dictate how people should behave. Sorry, I did not come out of the closet to be forced into sleeping with a biological woman- I thought we were trying to eradicate conversion therapies not reinstate them.
Being homosexual was not against the law - sodomy was.
Allowing "everything" can be very narrow thinking - Now that sodomy is no longer against the law young girls are being told "anal" is OK, what a terrible way to be introduced to sex. We have laws for good reasons and sodomizing a woman to avoid pregnancy used to be illegal, banning sodomy wasn't always about homosexuals - pederasts ae disgusting and sodomize little boys - that's not what makes for a good and decent society. It's best, sometimes to treat people respectfully and sodomizing anyone is not respectful, especially a woman with a beautiful vagina available. Regards.
I've quite referring to myself as a gay man, and now only use homosexual male. Just to be precise
precise how?😭
@@robotmerger I think it's pretty clear, but I'll elucidate. These biological women are on a gay app and consider themselves to be "gay men". Since they have appropriated that term, I make it clear I am a homosexual male looking to be with other homosexual males .
@@robotmerger male (in human species) the sex that produces the small mobile gamete.
Homosexual : sexual attraction to the sex that is same as yours.
@@robotmergerpeople have to talk like this since gay is now an “umbrella term”
@@TigereyeJedi so weird, and sad tbh
I think its interesting that these people call not being interested phobia
Lets be real.......they dont belong on a tinder unless they are being honest.Ive noticed a lot these people getting mad that people on tinder get upset when they are lied to
I am dying at “it feels kind of violent.” 🤣🤣🤣
One word alone occurs to me as I watch these clips…CREEP.
If the boot was on the other foot, these women would be hollering PERV.
The boot is on the other foot as well. Plenty of trans women want to date lesbians and express disappointment and frustration when the feelings not mutual.
Anything called Grindr doesn’t sound like looking for a soul mate.
You pass really well but I'm soooo happy to hear that you were open about being trans during your time on Grindr! My biggest first concern for my former FTM friends is that they were going to get themselves into dangerous situations by not being honest about the extent of their...equipment up front.
Intersex Male here, and guess what, I had to disclose that to all my partners in the past or anyone who was trying to go farther than flirting because I UNDERSTAND AND RESPECT preferences. I'm aware my biology/anatomy is different from a male or even a female's which I've had to explain to trans people too (they have appropriated a medical condition now as well apparently so now they just think it's a new type of trans...).
You have to accept certain things in life, one of them is rejection.
Its so interesting how they all want access to gay men's stuff without realizing that the unique experiences that gay men have since childhood are why these things exist in the first place and that's the reason why they feel so put out when they find their way in them. They're trying to put a square peg in a round hole and call it round. There's a world of life differences between gay men and trans guys that add up quickly.
It’s so annoying people can’t stay in their own lane like everything isn’t for every damn body. I don’t understand why some people can’t understand that.
Facts! People need to go where they're wanted.
"not gotten hit on at all" loool welcome to the life of most men
“We’re not getting hit on on Grindr” it’s okay sis I’m not either 😅
Did you pay the Boost fee……
My brother (a Grinder user if ever there was one) says that using the app sometimes feels like going to the circus. He hooked up a while back with this bloke who looked great on the app but in person was actually a fully intact biological female. When my bro kindly explained that he was not attracted to 'lady bits' the person went bonkers! 🤣🤣 My bro said he was mortified because he lives in a semi and knew that his neighbors could hear everything and would rip the piss out of him later...........he was right, they did.
Please tell me this is a joke?! How can people be offended if guys don’t find them attractive?!!
Now you understand only one shade of "woke".
It’s weird how we can’t tell anymore if something is meant as a troll or if it’s for real. We really need more mental institutions.🤷🏼♀️
I can't tell if "we need more mental institutions" is being cheeky or serious whenever someone says this. Like go stay in one for fun yourself so you know what you're actually suggesting.
@@AdrianBennett-e9u We do need more mental health services, not necessarily old school asylums.
When I am in a relationship I delete all these types of apps because I believe in monogamy and I expect my partner to be. So when you catch your partner on there and they say they are just trying to make friends? 🤣 Yeah ok!
Lol exactly the dating scene has gone to trash honestly
New to your channel but am so happy to have found it.
My 24yr old son is trans and I love hearing you speak on his and the other trans men and women who just want to live a normal life, not be seen as freak shows. Xx
I'm a gay man on Gr*ndr and it's really annoying because the grid is full of trans people and "chasers" that take up so much space on the very limited grid, and if you want to see more people you have to go premium which cost A LOT(atleast in my country).