Being Autistic, Attending Events & Meeting People
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- Опубліковано 30 чер 2022
- I think I did that thing again where I intend a video to be on a really wide topic and then sort of fixate on one part without noticing, but I hope the bits I actually got around to speaking about are interesting in someway!
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Oh my god. YES. Yes, yes, YES.
Once again, thank you for sharing your experiences and making us feel less alone I basically esperience these things in the same way to you
Thank you in return for letting me know I'm not the only person like this! I'm still waiting for the video that just gets no comments because it turns out it really is JUST me 😂
Perhaps you don't mind the spontaneous suggestions from certain people because you feel more comfortable and safe with those specific people? I think that's the case with me.
I'm sorry your plans got changed and stuffed around so much, especially for something you'd put so much into preparing for (I do the same). But making this video was an excellent use of the time and hopefully cathartic for you to make too. It's good to express how you feel and I think a LOT of people watching will relate. I hope things look up soon 💖🙏💕
When you described sitting in the courtyard being unable to make a decision…literally me. If my boyfriend and I get invited to go to breakfast with his family, I shut down and have to think for a full hour about if I want to go or if I want to stay and do my morning routine. I fully know that I can do my routine when I get back but the disruption will still make me cry when I get home
Edit: after watching the whole video I want to say that I literally relate to every single point you brought up
Yessss, the annoying thing about those situations for me is the added frustration of 'I could have just done X and started Y by now if it didn't take me so long just to decided if I'm doing X or Y'! I'm both glad and very sorry you're able to relate, and thank you for commenting!
Thank you for this video. I thought I was the only one who felt like this.
I've shared some of the things I thought were the weirdest things about me on this channel, only to receive lots of comments from people who feel exactly the same, I promise whatever you're feeling at any given time, there's others out there who understand and have felt it too!
I always try to arrive early and go in to the place I'm meeting someone so I can choose a seat that I'm comfortable with (I'm extremely fussy about this, if I don't like where I'm sat I'll just spend the whole time thinking about that - probably something to do with lighting and sound levels). Never considered that it might bother people that I'm not waiting outside. Will make a note of saying 'I'll meet you inside' in future :)
@@artemisXsidecross nobody in my life has ever mentioned it as an issue before so I'm not really seeing it as a problem. But makes me see how my needs could be a problem in someone else's perspective and that I could consider that in future so both needs can try to be met :)
Thank you for posting!
I love the Foos. Only saw them once. Envious you've seen them twice. I'm still devastated over Taylor's death.
Getting to see them once still makes you pretty damn cool though! I've only recently been able to listen to them again, and I think it'll be a while yet before I can listen to Taylor's solo stuff again, just gone far too early and such a shock, not sure I'll ever be entirely over it honestly
@@DanaAndersen did you watch Paul McCartney's Glastonbury show? Dave looked so sad to be on stage without Taylor.
They'll never be the same again unfortunately. It's just so tragic and I feel so bad for them all.
I couldn't relate to this more if I tried!!!! Thankyou SO much for doing this video Dana! Sharing it with my mom in the hope she understands 🙈 I've also kind of given up on friends too, but as well as it being to do with everything you've mentioned here it's also my Body Dismorphic Disorder and agoraphobia since my major burnout around 2 years ago. It's a lot trying to do life!!!
@@artemisXsidecross I love animals so much 🥰 They're the absolute best 💖 We're by far the worst species 😣
@@artemisXsidecross everyone in my life who knows me, knows me as the girl who's obsessed with doggos lmao 💖 In particular, greyhounds 🥰 they're such wonderful dogs 💓 I do love horses very much too and always found I had an affinity with them as a kid and teen ♥ (I haven't seen many/any as an adult). I just have so much love in my heart for animals 😍 They love you unconditionally if you love and provide for them, they don't care what you look like or how much money you have etc, they're just pure of heart 🥰
@@artemisXsidecross Oh whippets are absolutely adorable!! 😍💓🥰 Exactly! So very true 💖💕
I totally relate with your experiences with going to concerts etc although I tend to be the person that will tell others that we need to choose an emergency meet up spot (inside or outside) so if anyone gets lost we can all find each other again (I get MAJORLY stressed over stuff). I will be paralyzed with fear after aprox 5 mins of excitement when arrangements are made then will be anxious right up until I arrive home afterwards and it's such a buzz of relief that it's all over. Was wondering if your in the UK like myself? Your totally giving me good vibes as your experiences help me understand myself as I was diagnosed ASD + ADHD last year at age 38 so just learning more about myself. Thanks for sharing x
You’re way braver than I am. I need a friend or carer who is going to support me to attend a concert and I was 40 before I got brave enough to even attend a concert, although I was really missing out and like to attend a couple a year now. I have to go to Manchester or Leeds to see many of the people that I would love to see so money is an unfortunate limiting factor. I’m also not good at striking up a conversation ever with anyone, the closest I got to that was at autscape where we all wore badges saying that we wanted to talk or not. I sometimes wonder if it would have been different if I only had autism to deal with but I don’t so there’s no value in just sitting thinking about it. It’s like thinking about if life would have been easier had I been diagnosed as a child, I think some of it would have been better but some of it could have been worse and I still might have been pushed into masking who I really am and developing my mental health issues that I have. I do have periods of depression when I wish bits of my life were different but I am lucky that they pass.
I really hope you enjoy Alanis Morrisette , I have a friend who is desperate to see her but she’s had her booking changed repeatedly too. I had no idea she was quite so popular still. I would really like to attend a festival at least once in my life but I think it’s unlikely to happen because I get overwhelmed and have meltdowns if there’s too much noise or too many people. It’s a shame because I would like to attend Barn On The Farm, having all the animals around would be great. I still have some hope that I’ll get there because I am having therapy and taking my meds plus I think there’s no age limit on having fun.
I don’t really socialise with people much in terms of having coffee or similar things. I don’t have many friends and one has three young children. To be honest I wouldn’t enjoy it if I had loads of friends, I would find maintaining a social life with a lot of people would be stressful and would take any pleasure out of the activities. This is especially the case if they didn’t respect my needs for precision in making plans and sticking to them.
I think this has been one of worst replies I have written in terms of being aimless and rambling. I hope at some point you take from it that I admire your courage in getting what you want out of your life, I have made it all the way to a concert and come home before the main act came on, although I did see Holly Humberstone who is great if anyone is bored and looking for someone to listen to, but I think we have to put our mental health ahead of other considerations more than other neurotypes do and that means that we may buy tickets we don’t use because we’re at home watching a tv show we’ve seen a million times. I’m really going to shut up except to say I’m sorry life is being so stressful for you right now Dana,
@@artemisXsidecross thanks for being so kind I know I ramble on but in other comments sections I have had rude replies and Dana’s got a kind set of followers. I feel like it’s probably a reflection of Dana Herself as she seems like such a kind and relatable woman despite being under a lot of stress and not having an easy time. I get genuinely excited to see a new video of hers even though our lives are different. I hope you are having a good day and I will look for the ladies music as I love great musicians but there’s so many artists I often miss good ones.
Facts.
eta: please don’t ever shutup 💀 (ok maybe sometimes, talking forever would get exhausting)
Oh, by the way, never seen Foo Fighters but I did see Nirvana in concert. It was a surprise. They opened for Mudhoney, under a pseudonym, in the gym of a local university
Seeing Nirvana must have been incredible, especially as a surprise, but I'm honestly more impressed you've seen Mudhoney! Here comes sickness, one bad actor and sweet young thing are some of my absolute favourite grunge songs, I'm definitely a lil jealous you've seen them live!