Sent this to my daughter who has a 3 yr old and a 1 yr old. The 3 yr old has a nightlight sound machine. Not sure what they're using for the 1 yr old. This would be perfect!
Thank you for sharing this! I wanted to get something super cute and useful for my little brother and sister-in-law’s first baby due in September. They’re going to be so pumped.
I don't think the foundation looked bad at the end of the day. Although, could be a lighting thing. Keep us posted! (Not just on that, the book, etc.) 😊
Girl you’re killing it with these sponsorships! I know a lot of people complain about them, but from a business perspective and for anyone rooting for you and your family, the brands you’ve gotten to work with are really a testament to your hard work. 💪 Every time you talk about a new brand I’m thinking dang, go Jessica. Congrats to you on your success!
As a therapist, I work with so many people experiencing burnout, and have experienced it myself over the years, more than a few times! There are a list of questions I work though with clients (and myself) that help. 1. Are there areas of unnecessary stress/activity that I can cut back on, or out altogether? 2. Have I been letting my personal boundaries slide with people and allowing more chaos in? 3. Have I been finding myself giving in to other's expectations of me, or falling back into a "people-pleasing" role? 4. Do I need to ask for more help or support from my family, boss, etc.? 5. Do I need to re-address my sleeping, self-care, or diet habits? I can say without fail that when I am experiencing high levels of burnout, there are at least two of these questions I answer yes to, sometimes more. Once I address those, I almost always feel a sense of relief and back in alignment with what I need. Hope this helps!
Mine is always lack of support for my disabled child, and there just isn't enough out there. Not enough spoons for myself, and no way to replenish them on my own. Figuring out the burnout can definitely be half of the battle though. The average person's lifestyle in the US definitely contributes to high risk of burn out in general.
Someone once said to me, “you can’t untoast toast” and that really stuck with me. Really appreciate the burnout talk, glad to know it’s not just me. ❤️
I feel "iffy" when people say "I get to do what I love, my work is my passion" because I think sometimes it contributes to a different kind of burnout. When your passion becomes daunting work, it stops being a passion and it's hard to find other things to help rebalance yourself. I think we all need to get back to indulging in nature and step away from the technology we've come to not be able to live without. I imagine working from home is hard; your place of peace and sanctuary is also the place that induces work stress. Burnout is tough.
I don’t completely agree that when your passion becomes your work it stop being a passion. But I do agree that it makes it so your consuming that passion so much that it can burn you out nonetheless! The hobby/passion now has higher stakes due to finances and things. But it is not comparable to doing something you absolutely dislike for a living. 😊
I seriously needed this today. Yesterday was just one of those days where nothing seemed to go right - we had a long night the night before with our kiddo not sleeping (so WE didn't sleep) and everyone was just grouchy, work was super frustrating, and my husband and I just felt "off" in our communication. It was honestly one of those days where I felt like I was just failing at everything. Once the kiddo was in bed, we were finally able to talk about everything (and I of course was a ball of emotions), and my wonderful husband reminded me of all the things that I DID do that way overshadowed the little "failures" I had. Thankfully, we're headed up to the mountains this weekend for a little anniversary getaway, and it could NOT have come at a better time because the burnout is REAL, and those moments where you really get to reconnect with your partner are priceless 💗
I did theatre with my mom growing up and my dad ran concessions. It is one of the fondest memories from my childhood and was so formative. I still do theatre and love seeing stage families.
I've noticed over the last few years that it seems like videos about burnout from you tend to show up not long after you and Tyler spend a lot of time out on Disney and other trips. Traveling a lot and coming back can create some convoluted feelings and a bit of depression. Traveling in and of itself is a little stressful and the "man, I just want to go home" feelings get strong, but then you get home and with home comes reality, unpacking, bills, all things not Disney and not magical and not people catering to your needs. Suddenly, you're back to realizing that your home life is a little exhausting. Just something to keep in mind, maybe.
Agreed. I always feel I need a vacation after vacation, because vacation is running around seeing things. Then you’re back at work, but feeling you need additional decompression time.
@@sharonshade4437 My husband recently said "It's not really a vacation because you never feel rested afterward" and I noticed that I refer to my travels as "trips" not "vacations". Maybe a small switch like that could help a little with the burnout. I also try to plan a few days off after returning home to reorient myself and get the unpacking and laundry etc done before getting back to life.
Same re: burn out. Thankfully, I go to therapy regularly. I'm caring for my mom, who has dementia while still adjusting to a new job, taking care of our home, etc. I actually felt guilty for wanting time for myself. I have breathing exercises that help me center myself (& help me go back to sleep in the middle of the night). So I'm taking this weekend for myself & will be better for everyone for it. ❤
As a mother of two and widowed many years ago at 35 I look back and can say I wish I could have done some things differently as I do believe I suffered burnout. Trying to be Mom and Dad to two little ones, trying to please family and friends, keep my house spotless and organized and be at all the children’s events. I don’t know how I survived. I think as parents we are programmed to keep up with everything but it is impossible. You have to learn Jess to say “no” to some commitments, set boundaries, try to exercise just a walk in the early evening with the family. I found that setting time to meet a girlfriend for dinner or a movie helped me through the rough times and 40 years later now retired these friends are still in my life. I say in life you cannot have it all. Something always has to take second place but that is okay too. At the end of the day your husband and children will be what sustains you in life. My hat goes off to young people raising a family today it is the hardest work you will ever do but try to enjoy it while the are small as it goes so fast. Thank you for bringing this up for discussion it is so important.❤️
Thank you for talking about burnout! It’s like a cycle. You do good for a while and then get burnt out again. My strategy for combatting it is to simplify. When I cut some things out (permanently or temporarily), I don’t feel so overwhelmed. Also switching up routines can help me get out of a rut. Also planning and taking a vacation can help reset my everyday.
Yes! It took me awhile to just LET GO of some of the expectations I put on myself. It's okay to not workout everyday, cook gourmet meals, keep the house clean, etc. for a season! You can let some balls drop. Go easy on yourself and just lower the bar for the time being.
My husband and I committed to date night at least once a month on our anniversary date (the 19th of every month). It is so important not only for you now but also as an example for your girls that your marriage is a priority. This is your big sister talking after 45 years of marriage (this November). ❤❤❤
Productivity is another issue that we as a society have. A lot of ppl as a whole don't feel good about themeselves or their day if they haven't been "productive". But who measures productivity...what is the correct amount? Lots of pressure on ourselves is what I think it comes down too,
I just (last night) started reading the book "Four Thousand Hours - Time Management for Mortals" and that's what it's all about - how productivity is ruining so much of enjoying our time here on Earth - it's much deeper and better said than that, but you might be interested in this book!
Everything you described is my daily life with ADHD and chronic burnout for various reasons. It can definitely be very serious! Thank you for talking about it, it needs to be more commonplace discussion so people can read their warning signs and develop some coping skills. Plus, it helps to know you’re not alone. 💜
Your comment at the end of how everything else suffers when you’re experiencing burnout hits home! That’s how I feel as well but couldn’t exactly put it into words
My son had been a high school special education teacher of high risk kids for over 13, 14 years. He had a heart for teaching. During the pandemic, he was here at my house with his two girls and his son. Watching him teach was mesmerizing. So much passion and concern for each student. Well, fast forward to lately…he’s done. He’s had to deal with admin personnel who are narrow minded who are making the profession of teaching a chore. The stress and drama had become ridiculous and so, my son is done with teaching. Total burn out and lack of desire to go to work around people who are scrutinizing every thing the teachers are doing is just too much. He had started a side hustle which has been very profitable and he can do it on his phone and he’s happier. Burn out is definitely real…😞…
@@EMILY4DAYS a very much appreciate that!! He is my oldest son and knows from having a couple of brothers with learning issues how crucial it is to have a devoted and invested caring teacher is.
It’s powerful medicine to acknowledge what’s happening, talk about it, and making sure you aren’t gaslighting yourself or treating your issues like they’re unimportant, thereby treating yourself like you’re unimportant.
Listening to you talk about burnout brought tears to my eyes because I've felt likt this for years but I don't know how to step back and heal. I don't have vacation with my job.
I was told by a Sephora employee that the returns are sent for formulation testing. I’m not sure if that is true or not, but it made me feel better about returning things that don’t work or are the wrong shades.
I'm not sure if this is true for all stores (or at all as I've never heard of this for the 3 years I've been in that company), but I used to work at Sephora and most of the returns we received (that were used) were thrown out.
Life is so strange these days......moving too fast and most everyone is feeling burned out. I feel life has changed dramatically after the pandemic.....but it was also an eye opener in so many ways!!
Definitely agree with feeling overwhelmed, anxious, tired, bored, frustrated etc. My mom and i live together and we talk about that and when i talk with friends, they say the same thing. Don't blame yourselves for feeling like that, it's going around the entire world. There's so many things happening and it's not easy seeing things and not be affected by them. I agree that it's important to talk about it and sharing any tips to help things decompress. Sending biggest hugs 🫂 🤗 ❤️
I'm a susher - both of my children loved it as did all my grandchildren when they were babies. I was known at church as the go-to person to put the babies to sleep. The sush is best with the pat/bounce motion. Works every time. Everybody needs to step back and take time for themselves. Definitely be more intentional with your partner. I really miss that now that hubby is gone. We loved our date nights.
Thank YOU! Watching your videos really helps me with body doubling. Keep fighting the good fight in regard to those date nights. It's always a great day when you vlog. 💚
So glad you’re taking some time to yourself! You absolutely should take the time you need, without feeling work guilt. You and Tyler both work so hard and deserve to take breaks. Since you both run your own businesses, maybe you could look into scheduling three day weekends for yourselves once a month? That way you know you have a day where you can just chill, or spend time together, or do a family day, or whatever you want! 😁
I have been having an awful mental health week. I’m a stay at home to beautiful 4 & 2 year olds & pregnant with baby #3. Hoping to turn a corner soon. Right there with you 🙏🏼
It's the stage of life honey that you're in. It'll go by so fast you won't even believe it! I have a granddaughter now and feel like I'm still in my 30s but it just blinks and then you're there! God bless you with all your babies. Hugs❤
I love when you talk about mental health. It’s so real and so important! I also feel like your personality really shines in this video! Congrats on the sponsorship!
I've been getting better about using a vacation day from work just to take a day off. I used to only use PTO if I had an appointment or trip or something, but then I end up going back to work not rested and being stressed about getting caught up. It's ok to take a day "just because."
Hi Jessica! Any chance you’ll be bringing back your clothing/shoes/purses declutter videos?! I miss them!!! I’ve been watching the old ones for inspiration. So funny how quickly styles change.
Thanks for the chat and for the transparency. I’m a high school teacher and have experienced burnout professionally for sure. It’s such a tough place to be, especially when you know you also love the work you’re doing. And those feelings can totally spill over into all areas of life so easily. You’re always so relatable and genuine-I appreciate you! I hope this trip to NYC was rejuvenating for you and Tyler both! 🫶🏻
Thanks for the "chapter"/time stamps! I appreciated being able to skip right to the content I was interested in with the amount of time I had to watch!
We lost our dog on June 2 and since then, my husband and I have been facing different battles. (Health and work) we have both been facing burnout. I have been struggling more with my anxiety and depression. Burn out is something we don’t talk about. Thank you for speaking up!! It means so much!💚
Recommendation for the Zote soap! Use a bar soap travel container, take the Zote soap and cut it slice by slice and just keep a slice in the container that u use to wash your brushes with. I literally hold the container and get it a little wet, swirl my brushes on it and rinse it once I’m done and just store it. The remaining chunk of the bar I keep in a zip loc and just slice it as I need it 💗
I decided to take a 2 week break from work next month because I am definitely feeling some burnout. Decided that even though I can't really "afford" it, I also can't afford to lose my stuff in the middle of my work day (I work retail). I also just recently started therapy and am trying to go weekly (to start) to help with everything I've been feeling lately. So I get it, and I'm glad that you guys are taking the time to recognize it and figure out a way to bring things back into alignment. ❤
I've been so burned out at my job. We actually do work on burnout, and every time I read a new study, I feel like it describes me perfectly. Trying to decide what to do about it. Thanks for discussing this.
Yes! Putting a name to your feelings is KEY! We don’t know how to approach a problem unless we can define it. But it can be hard to admit even to ourselves that we are not doing okay. As much as your videos bring happiness and calm to many of us, we understand that you need breaks also. I know you have talked in the past, that you felt the pressure to be there for us, even at the determent of yourself. ❤ Loved seeing the NYC pics on Tyler’s instagram and I hope you are feeling refreshed.
Omg the anxiety dropping off Amazon returns 😂 I always select multiple items when returning but of course it issues a QR code for each item so I just take screenshots and shamelessly wait while they scan them all. I try to be organized!!! 😂
So crazy! I’m feeling terrible burnout too! I just wake up and think “ugh I can’t do this day” and slug along and not motivated to do anything yet overwhelmed about everything.
That rest go looks pretty cool and not even too expensive! When I had my youngest (she’s 32) I had a tape that was a baby go to sleep, with a heartbeat. It did work but things have really come a long way since then!
The Flex style is a game changer for me and I find myself using nothing else. My hair is very straight, thin, and fine. It gives my hair movement, bounce, and curl like nothing else. I can dry and curl my hair with the curling barrels at same time. So fast and done.
Same, the flexstyle is definitely faster if I'm trying to go from just washed hair to styled :) It's also easier to pack than my usual hair dryer. For me the only downside is that the style doesn't hold. If I fully dry my hair so I can use my nume curling wand, my hair stays curly/wavy for days, but the flexstyle only lasts for the day, if that.
@@chaosbecomesher It does reduce from curls to body over the day but that's ok with me. I just refresh the curl the next day and use as little product as possible.
Jessie I hope you see this comment. I just wanted to let you know how happy I am when I get your notification for a new upload. Your videos have been helping me so much during the last 2 weeks that I’ve been going through a really depressing time. I just hope you know that your videos make a difference, at least for me. 💕 from NC
I really like the tinted balm for light makeup days, but I spread some on the back of my hand and then dip the sponge lightly into it to apply light layers. Otherwise I get too thick a layer. I also powder it a bit to help it last longer. Definitely not a long-wearing foundation, but nice for when you just need a light layer.
You probably won’t see this, but I just felt the need to say how much I love your videos (haven’t even watched this one yet 😂). I’ve been watching for over 6 years now and you are in my top favorite people on UA-cam! These vlog type videos are my favorite. Thanks for being our online big sister/bestie. That’s all 😊❤️
As a nurse, I feel the burnout and it’s real no matter the profession. I never bothered looking into but when you listed all the symptoms, I checked on all of them :/
I use Zote as well; the white one. I use an old Neutrogena wipes case to keep it in. I wash the brushes straight in the container, then rinse the container and soap, take the bar out and let it dry, then close it up and put it away. 😊
Idk if it’s because I’m also a central Indiana girlie but you crack me UP. Also just wanted to let you know I bought the devotional book and the Bible you recommended…. Amazing. They’re both beautiful and have helped strengthen my relationship with God. So thank you!
I cut my Zote soap in 3 or 4 sections. Store it in a freezer bag and put it away. The piece I plan to use, I leave on a soap tray. When I’m done and it’s dry, I cover it. I only like it for brushes. My sponges and eyeshadow brushes I use something else.
It seems like you travel a lot. I can only imagine how stressful that can be. Sometimes I just need a stretch of time where I hunker down at home and get back to basics.
Traveling is where they get lot of content for their UA-cam channels. So I think travel is thought of as a necessary work thing for them as a couple who make their living from social media.
For the Zote soap, I bought a cheapy cheese grater and shredded the entire thing and keep it in a jar, and only use a few pinches on my brush mat to clean my brushes. So you only use what you need and its stores great. However, I do notice it dries out my natural bristle brushes so the hairs start to break and shed.
First let me say you are so loved and I appreciate your honesty with all of us. I have been married since I was 18 and I am 57. My husband is amazing and so wonderful. That being said, we just retired and moved to Fl and my mom and stepdad moved also. We experienced our first hurricane, Ian and that was horrible. Now, me and my hubby spend almost every night discussing senior care. My step dad just was diagnosed with Alzheimers dementia and my mom must have some form of vascular dementia because she is in a weird denial. Anyway, my point is we wanted to have a loving, calm, lazy life at least the first year or two of retirement. Instead, we are learning all about dementia care. It is hard but we are trying to make time for us. We are together often but not talking about our wants and dreams. It can be very stressful in all walks of life but as long as we communicate and have down time we should be good.
Chop the soap into little squares and press them into a glass container from the dollar store with a lid. It’s soft so you can mold it easily. Rub the brushes into the soap rub them into a brush cleaning pad and voila. As you get low just add more soap.
Burnout is such a good book! My therapist reccomended it to me when I was really low and struggling, it’s so cool, and honestly a fun read, and I loved the information in it.
Burnout is so real. It really snuck up on me until I couldn't take it- the exhaustion and mystery fatigue and headaches. I rage applied for several other jobs to see what was out there for me and did a few virtual interviews and made a career change. I'm so much happier!
Thank you for getting into the symptoms of burn out! I had no idea why I was feeling the way I was for the longest. I finally had the courage to speak up to a friend of mine. She said it sounded like I was experiencing burn out from my job. I had never thought about that even being a possibility because my job wasn’t necessarily hard or high stress. But, the more I looked into it, the more it made so much sense. I just though for the longest that if you didn’t have a high stress job, you were essentially exempt from burnout. So, for that reason, I never decided to explore the idea. Thankfully, I’ve been in touch with another employer so that I can start to mend my relationship with myself. Cheers to new beginnings 🎉
On burnout- I’m a wedding makeup artist and have been for 9 years; last year I experienced such bad burnout symptoms but chalked it up to my anxiety and depression I already struggled from. I switched medications multiple times, had lots of trouble sleeping, and none of it helped until I quit. I’m currently 30 and back in school switching career paths, and couldn’t feel better. My ‘normal’ level of anxiety was not normal and was me running on adrenaline for years. Anyways thanks for discussing this! It’s not talked about enough! And definitely not encouraged enough to switch paths professionally if necessary. Although I really hope you don’t quit you and Taylor are my comfort UA-camrs 💕
I am pretty sure I have been burned out for several years! Seriously. I feel stuck in my job but yet I feel i won’t find another job that pays the same. My brain keeps telling me I am not smart enough to find a better job and one I would be happy at. However, I am trying to make the best of it…I am taking training courses on my own time and bought a few books to better myself. And I am calling a therapist this week to try to get some sessions set up. I have to try to make things better. 💚💚💚 Hope you get some relief soon from the burn out.
The think burnout comes when we put too much on our plate and don’t give ourselves enough grace. At the end of the day it’s so easy to start to question so many things in life, but maybe the true answer is.. there just doesn’t have to be an answer. I think truly honing in on your feelings and being in tune with not only yourself but your partner it eventually just works out. I appreciate you talking about this subject because it’s true the rocky patches in life are not often talked about on social media. But the reality is we all go through stuff and as human beings just trying to make it in this world it’s nice to not feel so alone. Thank you endlessly for all you do and sacrifice. I hope you truly know how special you are! 🫶🏻🥰💗
Burnout can take years to heal from, this might be why you feel like you’re repeating yourself from last year. Thanks for talking on these topics, it’s really important
I’m in the part of the video talking about burnout, but we in the US are in the dog days of summer. I get depressed this time every year. The fun of summer is winding down and there are no fun holidays right around the corner. Once it starts cooling off we will all feel better
I am also really suffering from the feeling of burnout with all of the feelings you named. I begged my husband for us to take a vacation for the first time in 4 years. During the vacation I was happy and felt so good, but as soon as we got back home the feeling of burnout came right back. Finally talked to my husband tonight right before watching this video and felt so much better.
Thanks for sharing that about Burn out. I was definitely feeling that way toward the end of the school year and it was scary. At that time I found a quiz online that differentiated between physiological burnout like adrenal fatigue related versus work-related burn out and they are different. Thankfully by finishing up the school year and getting time off from teaching and doing some fun relaxing things has made a huge difference for me. It was definitely work-related. I've got to find ways to recharge during the school year and not overcommit.
The L’Oreal age perfect was a great addition to my arsenal of foundations. I use it for when I take a shower the night before, and just wake up for work and wash my face it provides the perfect balance of moisture you need. What I do is just wet my sponge and bounce it within the product directly and it gives the perfect amount of product onto the sponge. I love it.
For the soap: I’ve melted down a bar of Shea Moisture soap and poured it into a recycled Tree Hut scrub container to use as my brush cleaner. Works great! I assume you can do the same with Zote soap.
It’s good to pull back abit and take time to rest. Rest is so important for body and mind. If you do take time to rest careful not to feel guilty about it. Just take sometime to enjoy your sweet family. 😊
Fellow Hoosier here w/ both my husband and I having burnout in the last few years. My doctor told me vitamin D3 and a lot of it! It is specific to how much you weigh and age but I take between 4000 and 5000UI daily. (I’m def not a doctor so anyone reading this ask your doctor before choosing a dosage!)She said she believes everyone living in Indiana needs to be on it bc we are so extremely deficient in it. She also did a full panel on me just to see if there are any other areas I can improve in. I take that as well as magnesium, zinc, and a cortisol stress management supplement. It def doesn’t “fix” everything but it does help my mood/feelings of being overwhelmed.
I’m so excited you talked about the Hatch go!!! I’m having my second baby in the fall and can’t wait to have it this time around. It would’ve been so helpful with my first.
I hear you where the burnout is concerned. I know you already know this, but looking back to when my boys were 1 and 3 I really don't know how we did it all! We were always moving and both also working full time jobs. Take time to rest, have a PJ day, etc. and enjoy the babies (easy to say and hard to do, I know🥰).
Hi Jess! The Zote soap fits wonderfully in the Glad/Rubbermaid reusable plastic containers that are a “medium” rectangle (holds 3 cups/24 oz). You could probably also use some recycled lunch meat containers that are similar in size. 💕
I have the clear or white zote soap and I love it for my sponge it get's way cleaner than anything else I have used. I cut my soap up into smaller pieces and use a soap container with a drain.
Great vlog, you have a gift at bringing awareness to important topics with your candid admissions. You make me want to be more transparent with the people in my life too!
I suppose I never knew the actual definition of a burnout, that could very well be what I’ve been going through for quite some time since I graduated college. No I’m not a parent but I do see my mom stressed and overwhelmed too and I try to tell her to do things for herself which she has been doing more and more. All of us struggle with burnout in different ways but you’re right it is good to talk about it and not just bottle it up. Loving your videos I look forward to them 💙💙
I have read that book! I found it very insightful and helpful. I loved the woman’s perspective and the psychoed on the stress cycle bc that is not talked about enough! 🙏 Love your chats as always😊
I love her ❤❤ so humble so relatable. You have two young kids that alone will give u burn out. Nice to see you doing things you like to do. Take care. Stay safe!! Blessings 😊😊😊
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Sent this to my daughter who has a 3 yr old and a 1 yr old. The 3 yr old has a nightlight sound machine. Not sure what they're using for the 1 yr old. This would be perfect!
Thank you for sharing this! I wanted to get something super cute and useful for my little brother and sister-in-law’s first baby due in September. They’re going to be so pumped.
I don't think the foundation looked bad at the end of the day. Although, could be a lighting thing. Keep us posted! (Not just on that, the book, etc.) 😊
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Is it possible they don’t ship to Canada ? 😢😢
Girl you’re killing it with these sponsorships! I know a lot of people complain about them, but from a business perspective and for anyone rooting for you and your family, the brands you’ve gotten to work with are really a testament to your hard work. 💪 Every time you talk about a new brand I’m thinking dang, go Jessica. Congrats to you on your success!
Agreed! 🎉❤
Well said and agree with you 100% 😊
AMEN! So proud of you, Jess!
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As a therapist, I work with so many people experiencing burnout, and have experienced it myself over the years, more than a few times! There are a list of questions I work though with clients (and myself) that help. 1. Are there areas of unnecessary stress/activity that I can cut back on, or out altogether? 2. Have I been letting my personal boundaries slide with people and allowing more chaos in? 3. Have I been finding myself giving in to other's expectations of me, or falling back into a "people-pleasing" role? 4. Do I need to ask for more help or support from my family, boss, etc.? 5. Do I need to re-address my sleeping, self-care, or diet habits? I can say without fail that when I am experiencing high levels of burnout, there are at least two of these questions I answer yes to, sometimes more. Once I address those, I almost always feel a sense of relief and back in alignment with what I need. Hope this helps!
Helps a lot. Thank u
Thank you so much for the practical advice! Took a screenshot 😊 I think this will help me get unstuck when I'm in that burnout rut!
Thanks for this! I also took a screenshot.
I love this! Thank you for all the insight! Also took a screenshot of this 😂 so helpful!
Mine is always lack of support for my disabled child, and there just isn't enough out there. Not enough spoons for myself, and no way to replenish them on my own. Figuring out the burnout can definitely be half of the battle though. The average person's lifestyle in the US definitely contributes to high risk of burn out in general.
Someone once said to me, “you can’t untoast toast” and that really stuck with me. Really appreciate the burnout talk, glad to know it’s not just me. ❤️
Burnout is so real!! Mental breaks are needed for everyone. Thank you for sharing.
I feel "iffy" when people say "I get to do what I love, my work is my passion" because I think sometimes it contributes to a different kind of burnout. When your passion becomes daunting work, it stops being a passion and it's hard to find other things to help rebalance yourself.
I think we all need to get back to indulging in nature and step away from the technology we've come to not be able to live without.
I imagine working from home is hard; your place of peace and sanctuary is also the place that induces work stress.
Burnout is tough.
You make some great points
I don’t completely agree that when your passion becomes your work it stop being a passion. But I do agree that it makes it so your consuming that passion so much that it can burn you out nonetheless! The hobby/passion now has higher stakes due to finances and things. But it is not comparable to doing something you absolutely dislike for a living. 😊
I seriously needed this today. Yesterday was just one of those days where nothing seemed to go right - we had a long night the night before with our kiddo not sleeping (so WE didn't sleep) and everyone was just grouchy, work was super frustrating, and my husband and I just felt "off" in our communication. It was honestly one of those days where I felt like I was just failing at everything.
Once the kiddo was in bed, we were finally able to talk about everything (and I of course was a ball of emotions), and my wonderful husband reminded me of all the things that I DID do that way overshadowed the little "failures" I had. Thankfully, we're headed up to the mountains this weekend for a little anniversary getaway, and it could NOT have come at a better time because the burnout is REAL, and those moments where you really get to reconnect with your partner are priceless 💗
I hope you have an AMAZING time reconnecting with your husband!!!! I totally, TOTALLY get where you're coming from!
I did theatre with my mom growing up and my dad ran concessions. It is one of the fondest memories from my childhood and was so formative. I still do theatre and love seeing stage families.
I've noticed over the last few years that it seems like videos about burnout from you tend to show up not long after you and Tyler spend a lot of time out on Disney and other trips. Traveling a lot and coming back can create some convoluted feelings and a bit of depression. Traveling in and of itself is a little stressful and the "man, I just want to go home" feelings get strong, but then you get home and with home comes reality, unpacking, bills, all things not Disney and not magical and not people catering to your needs. Suddenly, you're back to realizing that your home life is a little exhausting. Just something to keep in mind, maybe.
That’s a really good point!! I’ve noticed that as well…👍
Agreed. I always feel I need a vacation after vacation, because vacation is running around seeing things. Then you’re back at work, but feeling you need additional decompression time.
@@sharonshade4437 My husband recently said "It's not really a vacation because you never feel rested afterward" and I noticed that I refer to my travels as "trips" not "vacations". Maybe a small switch like that could help a little with the burnout. I also try to plan a few days off after returning home to reorient myself and get the unpacking and laundry etc done before getting back to life.
For the soap- slice off a small amount of the soap when your gonna wash your brushes so you don’t have to let the whole thing dry.
I would never have thought of doing that. Thank you for sharing
Same re: burn out. Thankfully, I go to therapy regularly. I'm caring for my mom, who has dementia while still adjusting to a new job, taking care of our home, etc. I actually felt guilty for wanting time for myself. I have breathing exercises that help me center myself (& help me go back to sleep in the middle of the night). So I'm taking this weekend for myself & will be better for everyone for it. ❤
As a mother of two and widowed many years ago at 35 I look back and can say I wish I could have done some things differently as I do believe I suffered burnout. Trying to be Mom and Dad to two little ones, trying to please family and friends, keep my house spotless and organized and be at all the children’s events. I don’t know how I survived. I think as parents we are programmed to keep up with everything but it is impossible. You have to learn Jess to say “no” to some commitments, set boundaries, try to exercise just a walk in the early evening with the family. I found that setting time to meet a girlfriend for dinner or a movie helped me through the rough times and 40 years later now retired these friends are still in my life. I say in life you cannot have it all. Something always has to take second place but that is okay too. At the end of the day your husband and children will be what sustains you in life. My hat goes off to young people raising a family today it is the hardest work you will ever do but try to enjoy it while the are small as it goes so fast. Thank you for bringing this up for discussion it is so important.❤️
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Thank you for talking about burnout! It’s like a cycle. You do good for a while and then get burnt out again. My strategy for combatting it is to simplify. When I cut some things out (permanently or temporarily), I don’t feel so overwhelmed. Also switching up routines can help me get out of a rut. Also planning and taking a vacation can help reset my everyday.
Yes! It took me awhile to just LET GO of some of the expectations I put on myself. It's okay to not workout everyday, cook gourmet meals, keep the house clean, etc. for a season! You can let some balls drop. Go easy on yourself and just lower the bar for the time being.
My husband and I committed to date night at least once a month on our anniversary date (the 19th of every month). It is so important not only for you now but also as an example for your girls that your marriage is a priority. This is your big sister talking after 45 years of marriage (this November). ❤❤❤
Thats a great idea! Then you get different days of thr week too
Productivity is another issue that we as a society have. A lot of ppl as a whole don't feel good about themeselves or their day if they haven't been "productive". But who measures productivity...what is the correct amount? Lots of pressure on ourselves is what I think it comes down too,
I just (last night) started reading the book "Four Thousand Hours - Time Management for Mortals" and that's what it's all about - how productivity is ruining so much of enjoying our time here on Earth - it's much deeper and better said than that, but you might be interested in this book!
Your honesty is golden the one reasons I love your channel. Thank you for sharing on here with all of us ❤
Everything you described is my daily life with ADHD and chronic burnout for various reasons. It can definitely be very serious! Thank you for talking about it, it needs to be more commonplace discussion so people can read their warning signs and develop some coping skills. Plus, it helps to know you’re not alone. 💜
Your comment at the end of how everything else suffers when you’re experiencing burnout hits home! That’s how I feel as well but couldn’t exactly put it into words
Nothing more relatable than needing to do more laundry as you are folding your previous loads..😞. Love your chats Jessica!
My son had been a high school special education teacher of high risk kids for over 13, 14 years. He had a heart for teaching. During the pandemic, he was here at my house with his two girls and his son. Watching him teach was mesmerizing. So much passion and concern for each student. Well, fast forward to lately…he’s done. He’s had to deal with admin personnel who are narrow minded who are making the profession of teaching a chore. The stress and drama had become ridiculous and so, my son is done with teaching. Total burn out and lack of desire to go to work around people who are scrutinizing every thing the teachers are doing is just too much. He had started a side hustle which has been very profitable and he can do it on his phone and he’s happier. Burn out is definitely real…😞…
I wish I could send one of my sons to him! Education is bare bones, and I know why. It's sad all around.
@@EMILY4DAYS a very much appreciate that!! He is my oldest son and knows from having a couple of brothers with learning issues how crucial it is to have a devoted and invested caring teacher is.
As a newer UA-camr I love that you share your editing tools with us ❤
It’s powerful medicine to acknowledge what’s happening, talk about it, and making sure you aren’t gaslighting yourself or treating your issues like they’re unimportant, thereby treating yourself like you’re unimportant.
Listening to you talk about burnout brought tears to my eyes because I've felt likt this for years but I don't know how to step back and heal. I don't have vacation with my job.
I was told by a Sephora employee that the returns are sent for formulation testing. I’m not sure if that is true or not, but it made me feel better about returning things that don’t work or are the wrong shades.
I'm not sure if this is true for all stores (or at all as I've never heard of this for the 3 years I've been in that company), but I used to work at Sephora and most of the returns we received (that were used) were thrown out.
Life is so strange these days......moving too fast and most everyone is feeling burned out. I feel life has changed dramatically after the pandemic.....but it was also an eye opener in so many ways!!
SO valid....I contemplate this often
Majorly agree!
It *was* , but society has moved on as if nothing changed. 😢
Definitely agree with feeling overwhelmed, anxious, tired, bored, frustrated etc. My mom and i live together and we talk about that and when i talk with friends, they say the same thing. Don't blame yourselves for feeling like that, it's going around the entire world. There's so many things happening and it's not easy seeing things and not be affected by them. I agree that it's important to talk about it and sharing any tips to help things decompress. Sending biggest hugs 🫂 🤗 ❤️
I'm a susher - both of my children loved it as did all my grandchildren when they were babies. I was known at church as the go-to person to put the babies to sleep. The sush is best with the pat/bounce motion. Works every time. Everybody needs to step back and take time for themselves. Definitely be more intentional with your partner. I really miss that now that hubby is gone. We loved our date nights.
Thank YOU! Watching your videos really helps me with body doubling. Keep fighting the good fight in regard to those date nights. It's always a great day when you vlog. 💚
well done on the video Jessica (and your edit team). Your honesty and life sincerity are so refreshing....
So glad you’re taking some time to yourself! You absolutely should take the time you need, without feeling work guilt. You and Tyler both work so hard and deserve to take breaks. Since you both run your own businesses, maybe you could look into scheduling three day weekends for yourselves once a month? That way you know you have a day where you can just chill, or spend time together, or do a family day, or whatever you want! 😁
I have been having an awful mental health week. I’m a stay at home to beautiful 4 & 2 year olds & pregnant with baby #3. Hoping to turn a corner soon. Right there with you 🙏🏼
It's the stage of life honey that you're in. It'll go by so fast you won't even believe it! I have a granddaughter now and feel like I'm still in my 30s but it just blinks and then you're there! God bless you with all your babies. Hugs❤
@@alicepirola7077thank you ♥️
@@alicepirola7077yes! You are soooo right.
I love when you talk about mental health. It’s so real and so important! I also feel like your personality really shines in this video!
Congrats on the sponsorship!
I've been getting better about using a vacation day from work just to take a day off. I used to only use PTO if I had an appointment or trip or something, but then I end up going back to work not rested and being stressed about getting caught up. It's ok to take a day "just because."
I use the cheap suave clarifying shampoo for my brushes and sponges, it works amazing!
That’s a good idea! I use my facial cleanser but that’s expensive. I’m gonna try your idea.
Hi Jessica! Any chance you’ll be bringing back your clothing/shoes/purses declutter videos?! I miss them!!! I’ve been watching the old ones for inspiration. So funny how quickly styles change.
Also, we LOVE our hatch. So cool they have a portable one now. Wish we had that when my little guy was an infant!
Thanks for the chat and for the transparency. I’m a high school teacher and have experienced burnout professionally for sure. It’s such a tough place to be, especially when you know you also love the work you’re doing. And those feelings can totally spill over into all areas of life so easily. You’re always so relatable and genuine-I appreciate you! I hope this trip to NYC was rejuvenating for you and Tyler both! 🫶🏻
Yay! Love some Braun vlogs! Book updates on what you've been reading soon?
soon!!
Thanks for the "chapter"/time stamps! I appreciated being able to skip right to the content I was interested in with the amount of time I had to watch!
Glad it was helpful!
We lost our dog on June 2 and since then, my husband and I have been facing different battles. (Health and work) we have both been facing burnout. I have been struggling more with my anxiety and depression. Burn out is something we don’t talk about. Thank you for speaking up!! It means so much!💚
Recommendation for the Zote soap! Use a bar soap travel container, take the Zote soap and cut it slice by slice and just keep a slice in the container that u use to wash your brushes with. I literally hold the container and get it a little wet, swirl my brushes on it and rinse it once I’m done and just store it. The remaining chunk of the bar I keep in a zip loc and just slice it as I need it 💗
I decided to take a 2 week break from work next month because I am definitely feeling some burnout. Decided that even though I can't really "afford" it, I also can't afford to lose my stuff in the middle of my work day (I work retail). I also just recently started therapy and am trying to go weekly (to start) to help with everything I've been feeling lately. So I get it, and I'm glad that you guys are taking the time to recognize it and figure out a way to bring things back into alignment. ❤
I've been so burned out at my job. We actually do work on burnout, and every time I read a new study, I feel like it describes me perfectly. Trying to decide what to do about it. Thanks for discussing this.
Yes! Putting a name to your feelings is KEY! We don’t know how to approach a problem unless we can define it. But it can be hard to admit even to ourselves that we are not doing okay. As much as your videos bring happiness and calm to many of us, we understand that you need breaks also. I know you have talked in the past, that you felt the pressure to be there for us, even at the determent of yourself. ❤ Loved seeing the NYC pics on Tyler’s instagram and I hope you are feeling refreshed.
Omg the anxiety dropping off Amazon returns 😂 I always select multiple items when returning but of course it issues a QR code for each item so I just take screenshots and shamelessly wait while they scan them all. I try to be organized!!! 😂
So crazy! I’m feeling terrible burnout too! I just wake up and think “ugh I can’t do this day” and slug along and not motivated to do anything yet overwhelmed about everything.
That rest go looks pretty cool and not even too expensive! When I had my youngest (she’s 32) I had a tape that was a baby go to sleep, with a heartbeat. It did work but things have really come a long way since then!
The Flex style is a game changer for me and I find myself using nothing else.
My hair is very straight, thin, and fine. It gives my hair movement, bounce, and curl like nothing else.
I can dry and curl my hair with the curling barrels at same time. So fast and done.
Same, the flexstyle is definitely faster if I'm trying to go from just washed hair to styled :)
It's also easier to pack than my usual hair dryer.
For me the only downside is that the style doesn't hold. If I fully dry my hair so I can use my nume curling wand, my hair stays curly/wavy for days, but the flexstyle only lasts for the day, if that.
@@chaosbecomesher It does reduce from curls to body over the day but that's ok with me. I just refresh the curl the next day and use as little product as possible.
I love your natural hair Jessy girl!
I know how you feel I give so much of myself at work and I don’t get a lot back and I just keep going hope you feel better
Jessie I hope you see this comment. I just wanted to let you know how happy I am when I get your notification for a new upload. Your videos have been helping me so much during the last 2 weeks that I’ve been going through a really depressing time. I just hope you know that your videos make a difference, at least for me.
💕 from NC
This means so much to me!! Thank you for sharing it, and I'm hoping you get through this time ok!!!
I saw you on IG and I was so glad you weren’t vlogging it. Great self care!
Yes!! Rice Krispy treats are the absolute best!!
I really like the tinted balm for light makeup days, but I spread some on the back of my hand and then dip the sponge lightly into it to apply light layers. Otherwise I get too thick a layer. I also powder it a bit to help it last longer. Definitely not a long-wearing foundation, but nice for when you just need a light layer.
I have been using Zote soap for a few years to clean my brushes and my sponge. I just put it in a zip lock bag, and it works for me!
You probably won’t see this, but I just felt the need to say how much I love your videos (haven’t even watched this one yet 😂). I’ve been watching for over 6 years now and you are in my top favorite people on UA-cam! These vlog type videos are my favorite. Thanks for being our online big sister/bestie. That’s all 😊❤️
🥰 we love our Hatch too! Immediately ran over & bought 2 of the Hatch Rest Go’s. One for me & one to gift.
As a nurse, I feel the burnout and it’s real no matter the profession. I never bothered looking into but when you listed all the symptoms, I checked on all of them :/
Gah, that's why soooo many have left the bedside. They say there's a shortage, but there's not in total active licenses.
Burnt out nurses unite 😂
I'm doing my laundry while watching your videos talking and doing laundry at the same time too!
Thanks for talking about the burnout because lately it’s been really affecting me so it’s nice to know I’m not alone❤❤
I use Zote as well; the white one. I use an old Neutrogena wipes case to keep it in. I wash the brushes straight in the container, then rinse the container and soap, take the bar out and let it dry, then close it up and put it away. 😊
Idk if it’s because I’m also a central Indiana girlie but you crack me UP. Also just wanted to let you know I bought the devotional book and the Bible you recommended…. Amazing. They’re both beautiful and have helped strengthen my relationship with God. So thank you!
I have to say that many influences promote products but I DO TRUST Jessica's opinion.. she wouldn't steer us wrong.. simply love her.❤
Fellow mezzo and mom here, loved hearing some more about your journey getting back into singing ❤
I cut my Zote soap in 3 or 4 sections. Store it in a freezer bag and put it away. The piece I plan to use, I leave on a soap tray. When I’m done and it’s dry, I cover it. I only like it for brushes. My sponges and eyeshadow brushes I use something else.
It seems like you travel a lot. I can only imagine how stressful that can be. Sometimes I just need a stretch of time where I hunker down at home and get back to basics.
Traveling is where they get lot of content for their UA-cam channels. So I think travel is thought of as a necessary work thing for them as a couple who make their living from social media.
For the Zote soap, I bought a cheapy cheese grater and shredded the entire thing and keep it in a jar, and only use a few pinches on my brush mat to clean my brushes. So you only use what you need and its stores great. However, I do notice it dries out my natural bristle brushes so the hairs start to break and shed.
First let me say you are so loved and I appreciate your honesty with all of us. I have been married since I was 18 and I am 57. My husband is amazing and so wonderful. That being said, we just retired and moved to Fl and my mom and stepdad moved also. We experienced our first hurricane, Ian and that was horrible.
Now, me and my hubby spend almost every night discussing senior care. My step dad just was diagnosed with Alzheimers dementia and my mom must have some form of vascular dementia because she is in a weird denial. Anyway, my point is we wanted to have a loving, calm, lazy life at least the first year or two of retirement. Instead, we are learning all about dementia care. It is hard but we are trying to make time for us. We are together often but not talking about our wants and dreams. It can be very stressful in all walks of life but as long as we communicate and have down time we should be good.
Chop the soap into little squares and press them into a glass container from the dollar store with a lid. It’s soft so you can mold it easily. Rub the brushes into the soap rub them into a brush cleaning pad and voila. As you get low just add more soap.
Talk to God about burnout! He is the BEST one to talk to ❤. Love your videos and God has a special place for you bringing comfort to so many. xoxo
So what are your final thoughts on the Loreal balm foundation???
Burnout is such a good book! My therapist reccomended it to me when I was really low and struggling, it’s so cool, and honestly a fun read, and I loved the information in it.
Burnout is so real. It really snuck up on me until I couldn't take it- the exhaustion and mystery fatigue and headaches. I rage applied for several other jobs to see what was out there for me and did a few virtual interviews and made a career change. I'm so much happier!
I think your makeup looks amazing. Super glowy!
Yes! Rice Krispy treats are the best! I could eat so many of them.
Always a good day when you upload! 😌
Thank you for getting into the symptoms of burn out! I had no idea why I was feeling the way I was for the longest. I finally had the courage to speak up to a friend of mine. She said it sounded like I was experiencing burn out from my job. I had never thought about that even being a possibility because my job wasn’t necessarily hard or high stress. But, the more I looked into it, the more it made so much sense. I just though for the longest that if you didn’t have a high stress job, you were essentially exempt from burnout. So, for that reason, I never decided to explore the idea. Thankfully, I’ve been in touch with another employer so that I can start to mend my relationship with myself. Cheers to new beginnings 🎉
On burnout- I’m a wedding makeup artist and have been for 9 years; last year I experienced such bad burnout symptoms but chalked it up to my anxiety and depression I already struggled from. I switched medications multiple times, had lots of trouble sleeping, and none of it helped until I quit. I’m currently 30 and back in school switching career paths, and couldn’t feel better. My ‘normal’ level of anxiety was not normal and was me running on adrenaline for years.
Anyways thanks for discussing this! It’s not talked about enough! And definitely not encouraged enough to switch paths professionally if necessary. Although I really hope you don’t quit you and Taylor are my comfort UA-camrs 💕
I am pretty sure I have been burned out for several years! Seriously. I feel stuck in my job but yet I feel i won’t find another job that pays the same. My brain keeps telling me I am not smart enough to find a better job and one I would be happy at. However, I am trying to make the best of it…I am taking training courses on my own time and bought a few books to better myself. And I am calling a therapist this week to try to get some sessions set up. I have to try to make things better. 💚💚💚 Hope you get some relief soon from the burn out.
Jess you are the best friend we all never knew we needed ❤
The think burnout comes when we put too much on our plate and don’t give ourselves enough grace.
At the end of the day it’s so easy to start to question so many things in life, but maybe the true answer is.. there just doesn’t have to be an answer.
I think truly honing in on your feelings and being in tune with not only yourself but your partner it eventually just works out.
I appreciate you talking about this subject because it’s true the rocky patches in life are not often talked about on social media. But the reality is we all go through stuff and as human beings just trying to make it in this world it’s nice to not feel so alone.
Thank you endlessly for all you do and sacrifice. I hope you truly know how special you are! 🫶🏻🥰💗
Burnout can take years to heal from, this might be why you feel like you’re repeating yourself from last year. Thanks for talking on these topics, it’s really important
I’m in the part of the video talking about burnout, but we in the US are in the dog days of summer. I get depressed this time every year. The fun of summer is winding down and there are no fun holidays right around the corner. Once it starts cooling off we will all feel better
I love hatch!!! I had no idea about this new product! Adding to my next registry!
I am also really suffering from the feeling of burnout with all of the feelings you named. I begged my husband for us to take a vacation for the first time in 4 years. During the vacation I was happy and felt so good, but as soon as we got back home the feeling of burnout came right back. Finally talked to my husband tonight right before watching this video and felt so much better.
That’s a great baby shower gift!!
Thanks for sharing that about Burn out. I was definitely feeling that way toward the end of the school year and it was scary. At that time I found a quiz online that differentiated between physiological burnout like adrenal fatigue related versus work-related burn out and they are different. Thankfully by finishing up the school year and getting time off from teaching and doing some fun relaxing things has made a huge difference for me. It was definitely work-related. I've got to find ways to recharge during the school year and not overcommit.
Hey Jess, can u share where your tee is from and which lipstick are you wearing? so perfect and makeup looks great
The L’Oreal age perfect was a great addition to my arsenal of foundations. I use it for when I take a shower the night before, and just wake up for work and wash my face it provides the perfect balance of moisture you need. What I do is just wet my sponge and bounce it within the product directly and it gives the perfect amount of product onto the sponge. I love it.
For the soap: I’ve melted down a bar of Shea Moisture soap and poured it into a recycled Tree Hut scrub container to use as my brush cleaner. Works great! I assume you can do the same with Zote soap.
It’s good to pull back abit and take time to rest. Rest is so important for body and mind. If you do take time to rest careful not to feel guilty about it. Just take sometime to enjoy your sweet family. 😊
Fellow Hoosier here w/ both my husband and I having burnout in the last few years. My doctor told me vitamin D3 and a lot of it! It is specific to how much you weigh and age but I take between 4000 and 5000UI daily. (I’m def not a doctor so anyone reading this ask your doctor before choosing a dosage!)She said she believes everyone living in Indiana needs to be on it bc we are so extremely deficient in it. She also did a full panel on me just to see if there are any other areas I can improve in. I take that as well as magnesium, zinc, and a cortisol stress management supplement. It def doesn’t “fix” everything but it does help my mood/feelings of being overwhelmed.
I’m so excited you talked about the Hatch go!!! I’m having my second baby in the fall and can’t wait to have it this time around. It would’ve been so helpful with my first.
I hear you where the burnout is concerned. I know you already know this, but looking back to when my boys were 1 and 3 I really don't know how we did it all! We were always moving and both also working full time jobs. Take time to rest, have a PJ day, etc. and enjoy the babies (easy to say and hard to do, I know🥰).
Hi Jess! The Zote soap fits wonderfully in the Glad/Rubbermaid reusable plastic containers that are a “medium” rectangle (holds 3 cups/24 oz). You could probably also use some recycled lunch meat containers that are similar in size. 💕
I have the clear or white zote soap and I love it for my sponge it get's way cleaner than anything else I have used. I cut my soap up into smaller pieces and use a soap container with a drain.
Great vlog, you have a gift at bringing awareness to important topics with your candid admissions. You make me want to be more transparent with the people in my life too!
I suppose I never knew the actual definition of a burnout, that could very well be what I’ve been going through for quite some time since I graduated college. No I’m not a parent but I do see my mom stressed and overwhelmed too and I try to tell her to do things for herself which she has been doing more and more. All of us struggle with burnout in different ways but you’re right it is good to talk about it and not just bottle it up. Loving your videos I look forward to them 💙💙
I have read that book! I found it very insightful and helpful. I loved the woman’s perspective and the psychoed on the stress cycle bc that is not talked about enough! 🙏
Love your chats as always😊
I dip my brush straight into the balm and feel like it looks beautiful and I agree very skin like.
I do the same, I love it!
I love her ❤❤ so humble so relatable. You have two young kids that alone will give u burn out. Nice to see you doing things you like to do. Take care. Stay safe!! Blessings 😊😊😊