Christine, your guidance about feeling like an outsider is universal--and very reassuring. I remember feeling how much my United States southern heritage made me feel like an outsider in the United States mid-west. I, too, found advantages of being an outsider: It helped me know who was nice and kind--and who wasn't! Your talk inspires and gives us ways to see hidden benefits of not being in the in-crowd. And your frankness about your childhood trauma offers powerful support, too. Thank you again.
Having lived many years out of country plus a rare personality profile makes me feel different and out of place where people are not very friendly and open minded anyway. But living here is affordable and tied to work and family responsibilities
I feel the same way. I think it's because as a kid and teenager I was very shy, and didn't speak much in social settings. So even if I'm much more social and can more easily speak with people now (I'm 33 now), I think my brain still remembers how it was when I was younger, and I easily and often get the same feeling as I had then. But I found out during the years that I thrive better when I'm social, than when I'm mostly alone. Even if being social, especially with people I don't know from before, can make me feel uncomfortable and feel like an outsider, it's better for me in the long run than isolating myself. I hope you will also find a way to deal with this yourself :)
You know sometimes you just want to have a 1am dark dance party alone with no one around in the track and field field and people ask if you’re ok, I understand the sentiment, but sometimes I just want to dance in the wind in a field listening to men i trust and not be asked questions or looked at 😫 sometimes you just need to lay on the earth and be outside and look at the moon while listening to a song talk about watching tides. 😫😫😫 When people question you being yourself you begin to wonder if you are insane. I have never met someone as weird as me in the same way as me. Except maybe one person, except he is invalidating of others despite his weirdness too. I truly don’t know if there are people as weird, spontaneous, but kind, and harmful-drug free (weed and psychedelics are ok imo, but I’ve never done them) as me. I’ve felt like maybe artists might be like that bc they are expressionistic, but still I feel like an outsider (although artists are much easier to be around).
I’m sorry but this woman has never experienced racism and therefore is frolicking around the edges of REALLY being an “outsider”. I have little compassion for her plight.
We are free spirits.
Unfortunately life can be difficult for us.
Independence for us is key. 😊
Christine, your guidance about feeling like an outsider is universal--and very reassuring. I remember feeling how much my United States southern heritage made me feel like an outsider in the United States mid-west. I, too, found advantages of being an outsider: It helped me know who was nice and kind--and who wasn't! Your talk inspires and gives us ways to see hidden benefits of not being in the in-crowd. And your frankness about your childhood trauma offers powerful support, too. Thank you again.
Thank you, LeslieBeth!
Thank you Christine for sharing your wisdom and being so brave in sharing your own story!
You're welcome. Thanks, Diana, for your positive feedback!
I'm so relieved to know I'm amongst 14k other outsiders 🖤
Oh my gosh I will listen to this over and over and over again🙃
I feel like an outsider on this planet.
I feel the same way.
Same mate, you meet some humans who are worth it, who try to meet you half way but most are just herd animals.
God I'm so awkward.
Well spoken. Thanks Christine!
This is a breath of fresh air!
Woohoo! Go, Chris. Loved your message and your authentic vulnerability. An insider in my own life? Absolutely count me in. I love it.
Thanks, Sabrina!
Bravo Christine! Great job
Thank you, Joffre!
This ted talk really spoke to me this is amazing 💌
Thank you for your sharing coz this is really how outsider always think about and I just always ignore my feeling.
Having lived many years out of country plus a rare personality profile makes me feel different and out of place where people are not very friendly and open minded anyway. But living here is affordable and tied to work and family responsibilities
Thanks, Christine! What a great description of something we all feel! Thanks for making it ok!!
I’m not really left out I have a lot of people who want to hang out with me but I still feel like I don’t belong anywhere and I can’t figure out why
I feel the same way. I think it's because as a kid and teenager I was very shy, and didn't speak much in social settings. So even if I'm much more social and can more easily speak with people now (I'm 33 now), I think my brain still remembers how it was when I was younger, and I easily and often get the same feeling as I had then.
But I found out during the years that I thrive better when I'm social, than when I'm mostly alone. Even if being social, especially with people I don't know from before, can make me feel uncomfortable and feel like an outsider, it's better for me in the long run than isolating myself.
I hope you will also find a way to deal with this yourself :)
Love this!!!!
Needed this - thank you
Great job Christine! It was a pleasure of meeting you and doing your makeup. 💜
Fantastic job, Chris! What an important message!
Thanks Peggy!
Very well done!
You know sometimes you just want to have a 1am dark dance party alone with no one around in the track and field field and people ask if you’re ok, I understand the sentiment, but sometimes I just want to dance in the wind in a field listening to men i trust and not be asked questions or looked at 😫 sometimes you just need to lay on the earth and be outside and look at the moon while listening to a song talk about watching tides. 😫😫😫 When people question you being yourself you begin to wonder if you are insane. I have never met someone as weird as me in the same way as me. Except maybe one person, except he is invalidating of others despite his weirdness too. I truly don’t know if there are people as weird, spontaneous, but kind, and harmful-drug free (weed and psychedelics are ok imo, but I’ve never done them) as me. I’ve felt like maybe artists might be like that bc they are expressionistic, but still I feel like an outsider (although artists are much easier to be around).
Yes
Ngl literally only here for a school assignment 🧍♂️👍🏼
I’m sorry but this woman has never experienced racism and therefore is frolicking around the edges of REALLY being an “outsider”. I have little compassion for her plight.