To me, this is very much like making a documentary - without the fuss! I'm thinking about making a 'simple' documentary .... Probably be very basic and 'brutally' honest .... I just can't believe the way some people have been treated and yet they DON'T upload - 'their own story' .... I mean .... we all know there are certain 'stories' the mainstream media - WON'T touch! Even though they need to - because it is definitely in the public interest to do so!! It really means something to hear/read/see someone's personal journey .... Especially when they shine a bright-light on wrongdoing! Why wait for someone to make a documentary for you ....? Make it yourself!! x x
In the early 2000s, I was a TV presenter, and for 1 week of live TV, Richard Osman was my boss. He is one of the most genuine people you'll ever meet. He is now an institution within popular British culture himself. His life story is proof that childhood trauma can make or break us.
I, too, am a food addict, mainly sugar, and am so grateful to Richard for speaking out. It dominated my entire life, all my decisions, education, the lot. I've finally turned the corner and regained control - at age 70.
Not gonna lie, I had absolutely never imagined Richard Osman as having suffered any trauma, or having suffered at all, really. He always seems so well adjusted, so confident. And he always seems so un-serious somehow. It's easy to forget people like that are actually real people with real lives and complex histories behind him.
Completely agree, he always seems so grounded, humble, funny and smart. Tbh watching this has just made me appreciate him so much more to know he struggles with similar things to all of us. I wish him luck for the future
Finding it so hard to watch this upload because it’s resonates so much, I’m 7yrs older than Richard, and finding myself getting upset so can only watch in roughly 20 minutes segments. It is however very cathartic because Richard is able to put it into words, I can not.
so why is he throwing mud at Nigel Farage, Osman has gone down as being a silly billy by doing so, his remarks are NOT called for. Take a look at yourself before you slag others.
He has always struck me as a self proclaiming unbearable domineering fanatic. A typical quizmaster know all and it happens always to the worst of them.
I am so glad I am listening to this as it opens my mind to all sorts of issues. Thank you Richard for telling us how to treat others and to better ourselves and the lives of others.
I loved Richard before this interview but now have more respect for him after this. My grandson is very tall and I will now think of another greeting when he visits. Thank you Richard for your lovely honesty.
So much respect to Richard speaking out about his shame of his shame… I’ve been in recovery from alcohol for 27 years and only just looking at the shame and how to re parent myself with a loving kind voice! I’m 72 and it’s better late than never, ongoing as Richard says. What a beautiful, brave man!!
@Lilas faves . Same with me 28 years in recovery at 64 and learning the same as you. Such respect for Richard too speaking out about his personal problems and so pleased he has met his soul mate.
@@tonyves thank you Tony! It’s a day at a time as I’m sure you’re aware.. they just add up 😊 it’s good to give back to society these days as Richard says.. 🤗
As a person with an eating disorder caused by emotionally neglectful parents and, for a living, makes music for film and tv , this was an incredibly insightful and comforting episode.
So nice to hear two people speaking eloquently and not saying LIKE in every sentence. For those of you that do, please take note of how much better it is hearing speech like this.
You are the first person I’ve heard speak to the reference to using the word “like” to describe their story. It just takes away from the sincerity of experience for me to understand and connect with the other person. Thank you!
Richard does actually say "You know" a lot. I read your comment at about 46:50 and started counting. By a minute later I had counted 6 "y'know"s which, by my calculation is one every ten seconds!
What an incredible interview. What a brave man to do it. I was fascinated anyway but when he said "i"m not fit for this world" I just burst into tears because that's how I've felt my whole life. For various reasons but I recently discoved I seem to be on the neurodiversity spectrum, and in your 70s that comes as a shock, but one that sets you free in a sense.
Going through life like you feel you don't belong anywhere or fit in. Uncomfortable, awkward and I wear my life like an ill fitting t shirt. I understand that feeling, hope you find peace of mind 👍❤
I was going to comment the same thing. I'm in my late 20s, exactly when Richard said the earthquake comes, and I've realised I'm autistic. Absolutely agree with you; on one hand it's liberating but on the other I can't help but second guess everything I've done so far and wonder where on earth I am in all the masking. I wish you all the best ♥
As a very tall woman, I have had people comment about how I look since I was 13. I find it strange that strangers think it is alright to just walk up and comment on how I look. I never thought of it as body shaming, but that is it! I was always embarrassed by how tall I was. I felt bad that I couldn't shop for pants or shoes like everyone else. Thank you for telling us about your feelings!
@fc7424 why don’t you try being tall actually - because no it is not “the same” . Clothes and shoes being a prime example. You will never know the lasting impact of shopping in big n tall specialty stores as a teenage girl, but still not being their demographic. (dowdy middle aged people apparently). Or having to wear clunky men’s / unisex shoes to high school. You can hem regular things. Just ONE example.
Richard is such a benevolent, emotionally intelligent and frank man with great self-awareness. An introvert with extraversion tendencies. Well done, Steven, for allowing your guests to really talk so we can actually hear. Another formidable and formative guest experience.
Real skill to allow guests to tell their story and interject appropriately. Many will relate to R.O. journey and his pursuit of happiness and contentment. Addiction is not always negative, R.O. made a fantastic living from his TV addiction and used his new found skills to sell an idea or concept to executives who so often forget what the guy in the street wants to watch or read. The HGV example is so pertinent, whatever industry or profession you are in and you have a passion, success will follow as surely as winter follows autumn. The art of RO is that he can articulate the emotions of his own highs and lows in a relatable and pleasant way. Breaking the cycle of his childhood and giving compassionate support to his children will prove to be his finest work on this planet and you can't monetize that particular currency.
My father shot himself when I was aged 12 (in 1983). No-one asked how I was! They asked about my mother, and I was told by one hospital doctor, after she had taken too many sleeping pills, that I had to look after her now (at aged 13)! No-one from school asked how I was; and yet ironically a teacher from my school went to my father's funeral! Other kids no longer wanted to be my friend. I was an only-child and had no other family members that helped. As to the question asked if you would like to have not had this negative event in your life, then YES, I BLOODY WOULD LIKE TO HAVE NOT EXPERIENCED IT i.e. My life would have turned out completely differently. SO PLEASE, IF YOU ARE A PARENT THINKING OF SUICIDE, DO NOT DO IT, AS NO MATTER WHAT YOU THINK, YOU ARE BETTER ALIVE TO YOUR CHILD, THAN DEAD!
Wow, powerful message. Thank you for sharing that, but I am so sorry you had to experience that. I really hope you are in a much happier place now. I was almost the other part of your experience. I was married (to a fabulous wife), with two wonderful children, but I was planning to kill myself. I had become disabled (paraplegic), after having lived a very physically active life (which happens to be about the only common factor of people who end up with physical impairments later in life…not always, but often we have put ourselves in the position where we get injured. I had played rugby, parachuted, ridden horses and motorbikes, even raced motorbikes, I had been a farmer and lumberjack.). So when I became disabled, I thought my family would be better off without me, as I could not be that person I had been to them. I came really, really (scarily) close to doing it. I had it planned, and found that once planned, I was much calmer, as I thought I had the answer. I was days away from enacting this. When a friend realized or guessed what I was planning. Had he confronted me, I would possibly have denied it, because in my mind at that time, I had the answer. He just asked me not to do anything, and indeed I had to promise him that I would not do anything “major” as he wanted to send me something. It was a book about suicide, called something like Suicide; the final option, (not completely sure as it became a book I would happily loan to others, and it hasn’t come back. In it, there was a chapter about the “legacy” that suicide leaves behind to loved ones, especially offspring. Children of people who have committed suicide are 10 times more likely to commit suicide themselves as that is the legacy; that suicide is a valid option. I could not leave them with that. So, I had to learn a new way of living my life, and how I would interact with my two young sons, if hiking in the mountains, or such activities were not going to be an option for me. Instead I learned to play computer games with them, and bizarrely learned to properly talk with them. That was 20 years ago…still married; we celebrated our 36th anniversary together, and I am here to help her with her chemotherapy treatment as she was found to have Leukaemia earlier this year, after beating off breast cancer a few years ago. Both sons are grown up, flown the nest and are happy in their different careers, and I became a father again a couple of years ago when we adopted a teenaged girl, from a dysfunctional home. But I have to agree with your own message, and I am so thankful to this day that I had a friend who recognised what I was going through, and was I mistakenly was planning to do about it.
@@sarahh4458 I am so sad to learn that the warning in that book applied in your own circumstances. If you ever find yourself down that road again, then please try to find a copy of that book; I will try to dig out more info on it, or reach out to someone. I have lost friends to suicide, and the devastation that they leave behind is enormous, as we all ask ourselves how we should have noticed, how we should have done more… I am sure in each case where a friend did die, they would not have done so if they were to know the sadness that they caused us all. We all just wish they had reached out, said something. But, I know full well, that is not the way one’s mind works in those dark times. I am pleased to know you have a lovely partner now, and are more secure. We never know what life may throw at us. For much of the last 20 years it has been my wife to be the one sat in hospital waiting rooms while I underwent spine operations, and then operations on my shoulders as they wore out from wheelchair activity. But even that reversed, and I have been the one in the much more difficult supporting role, during my wife’s chemotherapy. I even administer injections for her for a week each month, as she is unable to inject herself. It is not enjoyable, but I am so thankful I am still here, and able to help her now in her own fights.
I really hope Richard reads these comments, he deserves to know how much he is loved and admired. The most informative one hour thirty six minutes and three seconds I've ever had. Lessons for us all.
This is my introduction to your podcast.....I love Richard Osman, which is why I decided to watch. I too have an eating addiction.....I had gone through a weight loss program run by a hospital in our area, in 2009 and sucessfully lost 70 pounds. I had my eating under control for 9 years, never realizing that all my triggers were just waiting to be invited to resurface. During the pandemic my whole mindset changed and I am back to my ill-advised eating habits. Richard, listening to you has helped me to reassess which voice I'm going to listen to....thank you!
Likewise Mary!! We have done it before (congrats btw,) and we can do it again! It’s about giving ourselves love rather than rubbish food to comfort ourselves I believe .. good luck!! 🙌😘
Vitamins, real 1s, & water & fiber with foods. I know all of these yet comfort foods like sugar feel so good. Eric Clapton said sugar is our 1st addiction when ppl said weed was. I totally understood SUGAR bc who can be unhappy eating choc. SECURE by Andrew Lessman Soy Choc Meal Replacement stops my choc craving or sweets. Alot of times ur body is craving something so maybe something like this could help u.
Addiction doesn't discriminate. I have a new found respect for this man. It just shows that you never know what someone has been or going through. Only through suffering and adversity do we grow or change or die.
that last bit where he says 'if you arent being treated well its ok to quit and find something better' has really hit hard for me. Ive just taken a month out of Uni because they arent respecting my accessability needs and are treating me like shit. I really needed someone to tell me that its ok to quit that environment. so thank you richard and steven.
As a mother of my youngest child who’s at university, if she felt the way you do, I would say that you have to be true to yourself and do what you feel is right. It’s a huge cost to succumb to just to do what you think others expect of you. 😊
Don’t let anyone run you out of the university you have the same rights as the others . Speak out and push for your needs thru this situation your experiencing. Wish u well and achieve what you have set out to achieve from university.
I've just quit my job because the new boss hasn't been allowing me to take holidays even though if I don't take them before the end of the month I lose them. Also she's just been being a dickhead about loads of other things. Felt like a huge weight off my shoulders so can totally relate.
@@rcaldwell7255 Bit heard that for ages women can be dickheads too. Have a 1 to 1 with her ask her straight out what’s your issue my holidays are mine to take at my convenience so what’s the fucking problem ?? Hope u sort yah issue out don’t swear though be polite Iv learnt over the years working life is about putting on a mask at times so many 2 faced folk . Wish u promotion so don’t let her run u out of yah job.
This man is an underappreciated genius. I had no idea of his contributions to Television until this podcast. His analogies and storytelling are immense. Great episode.
This is one of the rare Diary of a CEO’s I will be watching on repeat; my favourite guest you have had on the podcast. Every word is careful chosen and profound. I wish I could read a script of this interview because he speaks fast and his mind moves so quick it’s hard to keep up on a first listen. Richard has an analytical mind but is also highly emotional intelligent. He touches on the big trauma of being abandoned and rejected by a father, which sounds deeply sad for anyone to experience. I’ve been a great admirer of Richard, especially his kind nature, great morals, not to mention the razor sharp wit. It’s been an honour to listen to him speak. You can see why being a writer is his niché; he has found his calling in life, which is a rare thing, but justly deserved.
Could not agree more, his tv persona I gave a wide berth to, but this interview is incredibly personal, honest and so relatable.Brilliant Richard I had you so wrong and thank you for enlighting myself personally 👌❤both highly intelligent and likeable, same goes to you Steven you produce an outstanding quality of work/ your interview technique is warm, personable and highly informative, thank you....
If you click on the arrow to the right below the video the show-notes will drop down, scroll down and you'll find 'Show Transcript' option for the whole interview.
@@wonderwoman5528 I know! I use it all the time now because sometimes the dialogue is not that clear in parts and I'd find myself pressing rewind all the time. Genius idea!👍😁
Being from the US I didn't know who RIchard Osman was. Luckily Taskmaster has introduced me to a number of truly interesting people and Richard is absolutely one of them! What a fascinating, articulate man. This has been an incredible interview to listen to!
Im a mum in my late twenties and I have struggled with a food addiction since I can remember. I love how candidly Richard spoke about it, everything resonated with my experience and it was refreshing to hear someone talk about it so openly. it is definitely an addiction but is never taken seriously. Its the 'nice' addiction that just hurts yourself primarily (to a point of course) and people always diminish it as not being 'serious' or real.
Richard touches on it but food addiction/eating disorders must be a total nightmare. Im definitely a believer abstinence is easier that moderation for addicts as a whole which is well and good when its booze/drugs/whatever. But when its something you literally need to live it must be one hell of s struggle to reach balance.
I’m 43 year old man. Ive suffered with a binge eating disorder since the age of 3. I can totally resonate with Richard. Thank you for sharing your story.
I absolutely LOVED The Thursday Murder Club, I didn't want to put it down. Richard's style of writing is so fresh and original, it's like he's speaking directly to you and no one else is there.
What a beautiful human being, such empathy. If only the masses felt this way. It takes a lot of strength and confidence to realise i am who I am, I don't need to rely on another body to bolster me. Love yourself be happy every day with the world around you. I am 78 and have loved everything about this life. This planet is wonderful, physically and mentally. Enjoy every minute, please yourself just don't hurt anyone, be weird, who cares! I wake up every day and look at the sea in the south of Spain. Live in peace.
@@jamesallen8917 Brave to reveal his struggles, which aren’t just height related! Always a good idea to listen to the whole thing before you start arguing in the comments boss.
I’m not sure brave is the right word but let’s not be unkind. I would say generous is the best word to describe what I feel about him. I think he honestly wants to share the results of the treatment he’s received with the many that cannot afford it or who haven’t arrived at the point of decision making.
House of games is a show I watch every time it’s on . Its unlike anything else on TV . It’s a therapy session of kindness , relaxation and calmness . Being nice to each other in therapy chairs . While the therapist sits back and lets it flow . Sometimes just adding comments at the right time between questions. Not all guests get it but that’s unavoidable. Now I can see what’s behind the success of Richard . He’s just being honest and being himself . Thank Steven .
Richard is so eloquent in explaining his traumas and personal problems some of which I share with him. A very impressive person and my daughter's favourite author 👍
We had a boy at our school with the same condition as Richard. His was severe, but he could still get around and somehow managed to study. He was super intelligent and did fantastically well going on to university. I so wanted to ask him about his eyes, but didn't dare, as I was brought up by a Narcissistic mother who had it drummed into me that you don't ask anyone questions about any disability or anything that isn't your business. So I always chatted with Billy and hoped he'd tell me about his eyes. Billy had a highly developed sense of humour, he was cutting with his remarks, and anyone who thought they could bully him got a huge surprise.
Your mother sounds compassionate, sensitive and insightful, the very opposite of narcissistic. A lot of the comments on this vid are from people so sick of being asked or talked at about whatever their experience is. Asking people is not always a win. Heed their advice on how to proceed: try listening.
This was one of the most compelling interviews I have ever seen. It’s made me look again at some of my own life with many similarities to Richard’s childhood. Fascinating.
This was a profound interview with a man I've never heard of. I started watching and thinking this is a non issue but the more I watched it I saw myself. I am a sugar addict which resulted in type 2 diabetes. The addiction started in childhood as a way to self medicate from family traumas. I am 62 now trying to break my addiction to restore my health. I never acknowledged the shame aspect because my whole family are sugar addicts so it seemed normal but I was quite stealthy in my addiction at times. I think food addiction is far more common than people know. Thank you.
Steven you are a great interviewer, perfect questions without intrusiveness. Kudos to Richard for being so open, a man of great character and integrity. Thank you, really enjoyed listening
I’m 77 and from the age of 14, I was 6 feet tall. In the late 50s , early 60s most girls were NOT that tall. I was alone a lot. Boys and dating was out of the question. I was never asked to go to the Jr and Senior Prom, for example. I was sooo left out of everything.
I love Richard, I love his presenting and his books. This interview is brilliant, honest and wise and I could listen to/chat with him for ever. It’s wonderful that he has finally found a romantic love that brings him happiness, he deserves it. He has not only survived his earthquakes but thrived.
Genuinely likeable man is Richard Osman. Really Respect his candour over his Traumas and insecurities and a great Help and Support to everyone who has mental struggles. Amazing bloke.
Richard is such a personable and genuine man, it's good to hear from this type of person. I really enjoyed and learnt from this interview, I was engrossed throughout, thank you!
Richard always impresses me when he's on panel shows like 8 out of 9 Cats. While the other guests are snarky, cynical and sweary (not saying that's not funny btw) he always raises the bar with his gentle, positive humour. I've never seen him put someone else down for laughs. The nice guy of alternative British comedy.
What a wonderful, brave role model! I am guessing many people will gain a lot of encouragement and even solutions to their issues, in this interview.I am 74 and have understood some of my own problems much better. Terrific and so humble and kind! Plus love the books, and just his personality as it comes over on HIGNFY and his knowledge and wisdom.
He is absolutely right. I underwent a very serious trauma when I was 32 and I have never recovered. I am now 74. I survive, and outwardly I am successful enough, but I can´t say that I enjoy the successes as much as I should. I am too involved with and influenced by the failure, and the sheer injustice.
This country has so much to learn about mental health and the need to work through ‘difficulties’. The nhs would save so much money by ‘treating’ mental health in early days. We need greater access to therapists. What a lovely chap and well done for sharing 😊
A very interesting, likeable and honest person. And relatable. I also think his (mostly single) Mother deserves huge praise with him doing so well in television and his brother in music for so many years. She must be without doubt be a very wise lady. Let kids flourish in what they love doing is the lesson.
The interview was great but the comments are so kind and helpful. It has really cheered me up seeing the kindness .the internet is usually such a nightmare so thank you everyone
Having suffered from anxiety and depression I thank Richard for passing on his therapists tips. Being anxious about your anxiety is absolutely the way it is. I’ve read in self books about coping with anxiety and it always says just let it be, don’t beat yourself up and be kind to yourself.
Richard has so many great qualities but above all he just seems like a genuinely kind person. I throughly enjoyed this episode and have taken a lot from it, thanks both!
Grew up in poverty. Single parent family. Diagnosed with ADHD in my early 30s. A lot of what Richard says resonates with me quite a lot and I really really didn’t expect it.
Thank you Richard, I love the books and can't wait to see the TV programme. I'm much older than you at 59 but always remember back in the early 80s hating my job which was abusive. It was during a recession in Ireland and my first job out of school and my family were poor, but 8 months into it my beautiful mam told me to quit, even though she needed the money. I did and have been grateful ever since xx
I think this is an extraordinary interview. Richard wasn’t just asked the correct questions, probing but gentle but given the time and space to answer. So many times celebrities are interviewed about addictions or other negatives and the result is that they speak only about themselves. There is a generosity with Richard. He seems genuinely interested in helping people who may not have the deep pockets or black book to receive help in understanding how or why they’ve arrived at a point in their lives. Excellent. Well done.
What a nice bloke. I never would have thought his height would be something he’d feel shamed about. But it all makes sense in context. He explains it all so well on behalf of all people who are different in any way.
Loved the interview. What I appreciated about your interview style is that you didn't interrupt him, and that you didn't do much 'yeah, me too'. Your audience wants to hear about his point of view, his trauma, not yours - no disrespect intended. Thank you.
A wonderful, warm & wiser person you'd be hard pushed to listen to than RO. This interview is also a fantastic example of doing great research on your guest & asking the right questions to get the most interesting, open & honest answers. Richard's childhood experience, how it shaped him & how he came to terms with it is something I relate to hugely, having had much the same experience. The due north analogy, as you would expect from him, is perfect in explaining how you have become the person you are. For me, it was going through a divorce, that saw me ask questions of myself & start that journey of self discovery. I'd have got there a lot sooner had this interview been available 20 years ago.
Richard, amazing analogy of true north and slowly going off course. I am 29 and currently going through this exact thing. I've spent years changing myself to be accepted. I'm trying to find my way back north. Thank you.
Personally i think there's a balance. You absolutely have to be true to yourself, but I've found going to the effort of looking 'normal' makes life a lot easier. Not that I'm trying to say "just fit in and youll be fine!" far from it. But if through therapy or whatever you can tackle your deep down problems by looking like you're 'normal' you don't have the additional pressure of trying to justify your existence to other people all the time. And it really is just looks, people can be super judgemental unfortunately. Guess I'm trying to say find that balance between "Fitting in" and allowing that lack of pressure for you to work on those deeper issues which are at the heart of things.
My daughter is 10 and has had nystagmus since birth, I had no idea Richard also had it, I loved hearing about the world from his point of view, feel like in some way this conversation is going to help me connect to my daughter in a different way and too see the world through her eyes ❤️ What an amazing episode and an incredible man! Thank you for this conversation 🫶🏻
I've been secret eating for approaching 50 years & am ashamed every time, every now and again I tried to deal with it & my wife tried to help me as much as she could or I'd let her but she had her own health issues we had to deal with...she passed away in March & I now feel so alone as she was everything to me but my shame is I couldn't be strong enough for her & try & get this sorted
Forgive yourself Mark. We are all a "work in progress" and none of us are perfect. Start with self-love and daily work on eliminating that shame, which is a stumbling block in your life. ❤
This interview made me cry because it was resonating with me so much. I shared it with my boyfriend to explain him what I was going through in my life. Thank you so much Richard and Steven.
What I really like about Steven Bartlett's style is that he seems genuinely interested in the answers his guests give. The late Robin Day was like this and it makes the interview so much more engaging.
Ooh,I remember robin Day as quite abrasive or aggressive. This is the first time I've come across Stephen and he seems a much more gentle,empathetic person
I loved this interview, it’s the best guest I’ve listened too. Steven really enjoyed it and engaged as well. What a clever man Richard is. I intend watching this a second time, I rarely do that. I can’t wait to buy his book.
I've always been fascinated by Richard Osman. I've got to say, I absolutely adore the stuffing out of him after watching this. I hope the world has access to his amazing personality for a long time to come.
Richard gives me stephen fry vibes; both are loved by millions, both are highly intelligent and entertaining, both have sadness in their eyes when they aren't making jokes.
I get Richard when he talks about binge eating. I recognise myself in this as I tend to binge eat, especially at nighttime. I try to not but chocolates and cakes, as I’m type 2 diabetic, and it works for a week then I buy chocolate. It is hard to change especially when you live alone as I do. Thank you Richard for being so honest.
Like Jason said, don't eliminate because otherwise you'll see it as "bad" and if you do "relapse" to sugary stuff you'll end up just knocking yourself down and guilt yourself because you craved it so much. Substitute it into your meals, my friend uses chocolate milk in her cereal. Must be worse because the diabetes too but I hope you're able to control your levels too, have you discussed with your diabetic nurse (assuming you have one)
I discovered the Keto fitness club on UA-cam ( they have a website & are on Facebook, Instagram too ) they helped me to cut right down yet still satisfy my sweet tooth Jeannie. Their recipes like chocolate brownies, taste amazing & are all quick & easy to make . You can even make your own keto chocolate from cream , cacao and stevia sweetener! 😋 ( I freeze mine , lasts a bit longer that way lol 😆)
This is amazing, I love how Richard is so open and honest and wanting to help others. The part where he says there are two people in your head and you have to listen to both but to give the good one more air time. Powerful stuff 👍🏼
Ive always loved Richard for his gentle, but very witty humour. Even went to a taping of Pointless, travelled from Australia to see him “live.” Seeing him interact with the audience between takes, he was the same, funny and genuine. Best wishes to him.
This is one of your best episodes Steven! How lovely is Richard Osman. I totally get everything he said about being body shamed and the 'funny' quips people make about whatever the aspect it is that makes you different. I'm the opposite of Richard, being a shorty... It's actually taken me all my life to say that word about myself 'shorty'. I've had soooo many comments from strangers, family, friends colleagues alike about my height (or lack of) all of which I've heard daily. It does make you feel shamed and has a massive impact on your self esteem & view of yourself. I had to smile when Richard said he thinks about where he sits in the cinema as I do the same, only for the opposite reason. I didn't go to concerts etc because when everyone stands up to dance I can't see a thing. It's taken me years to accept myself and embrace what I can't change... 🤷. Great job Steven 👌
Haha. Yes,me too. I think when people buy concert and theatre tickets they should declare their height. I always seem to be sitting behind the 6' plus rugby players. Maybe shorties to the left, lankies to the right? We pay the same 🤣
Gosh, I’m a rare UA-cam commenter but just wanna say thank you Steven. I’ve never quite been able to put into words why I binge and the cycle of shame it creates - I’ll be sharing Richard’s experience of binging with some of my fam and friends. :)
I've no idea why I clicked on the video, I don't know Mr. Osman and don't know the channel (afaik). What a great surprise! So much insightful, wise and relatable content from two complete strangers. An unpretentious, down to earth and utterly relaxed conversation about some of the most important aspects in life. This is amazing!
I have the same problem with food. I'm overweight but not that much. Richard describes my addiction perfectly. I'm glad he describes it as an addiction because it clearly is. It's a deep-rooted subconscious thing, nothing to do with hunger in fact. My parents split up in the 1960s, before it was fashionable, then I moved areas and left my old school friends behind. Maybe, half a century later, that's still the actual issue.
Richard is so well adjusted. We all know he's a genius. He has had the balls to own his anxiety and deal with it. I for one have less fear to deal with lifes crap because of this interview.
Get therapy, if you live in the UK its free. And go though the NHS cos despite the long wait you'll see an actual psychologist, not someone whos done a week long course on being a 'counsellor' .
I really enjoyed that. On one level, we all feel like square pegs in round holes. Listening to how Richard has dealt with his struggles must surely help some. He's such an intelligent decent human being.
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To me, this is very much like making a documentary - without the fuss!
I'm thinking about making a 'simple' documentary .... Probably be very basic and 'brutally' honest .... I just can't believe the way some people have been treated and yet they DON'T upload - 'their own story' ....
I mean .... we all know there are certain 'stories' the mainstream media - WON'T touch! Even though they need to - because it is definitely in the public interest to do so!!
It really means something to hear/read/see someone's personal journey .... Especially when they shine a bright-light on wrongdoing!
Why wait for someone to make a documentary for you ....? Make it yourself!! x x
Damn. Don't mind telling you I'm only at 7:50 and crying. Wow. Thank you both.
Great interviewer .. clever , serious.
In the early 2000s, I was a TV presenter, and for 1 week of live TV, Richard Osman was my boss. He is one of the most genuine people you'll ever meet. He is now an institution within popular British culture himself. His life story is proof that childhood trauma can make or break us.
Proof that it can make us. The ‘make or break us’ has already been proven, I think, hence the saying.
@@PhoenixFeathersYou have contributed nothing with your attempt at pedantry.
I'd go as far as to say, "waspish" pedantry ;)
I, too, am a food addict, mainly sugar, and am so grateful to Richard for speaking out. It dominated my entire life, all my decisions, education, the lot. I've finally turned the corner and regained control - at age 70.
Wishing you well ✌️✨
I have a sugar addiction, but with type 2 diabetes it's even tougher
Not gonna lie, I had absolutely never imagined Richard Osman as having suffered any trauma, or having suffered at all, really. He always seems so well adjusted, so confident. And he always seems so un-serious somehow. It's easy to forget people like that are actually real people with real lives and complex histories behind him.
I concur with your sentiment 100%
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Me too! What an amazing man. I wish him Good Health and Happiness always. 🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺
Why would you even consider lying ?
So true. He could be a therapist himself.
Completely agree, he always seems so grounded, humble, funny and smart. Tbh watching this has just made me appreciate him so much more to know he struggles with similar things to all of us. I wish him luck for the future
Finding it so hard to watch this upload because it’s resonates so much, I’m 7yrs older than Richard, and finding myself getting upset so can only watch in roughly 20 minutes segments.
It is however very cathartic because Richard is able to put it into words, I can not.
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Wishing you well, albeit at the distance of a year 🙏
Just keep taking what you need from what you see & hear. Wishing you self comfort & happiness in abundance.
What a lovely man Richard is. He's kind! What more could you ever want in a human being.
I forget where I heard this:-
"Those that carry pain know what empathy is."
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so why is he throwing mud at Nigel Farage, Osman has gone down as being a silly billy by doing so, his remarks are NOT called for. Take a look at yourself before you slag others.
He has always struck me as a self proclaiming unbearable domineering fanatic. A typical quizmaster know all and it happens always to the worst of them.
I am so glad I am listening to this as it opens my mind to all sorts of issues. Thank you Richard for telling us how to treat others and to better ourselves and the lives of others.
I loved Richard before this interview but now have more respect for him after this. My grandson is very tall and I will now think of another greeting when he visits. Thank you Richard for your lovely honesty.
Richard is a lovely bloke
So much respect to Richard speaking out about his shame of his shame… I’ve been in recovery from alcohol for 27 years and only just looking at the shame and how to re parent myself with a loving kind voice! I’m 72 and it’s better late than never, ongoing as Richard says. What a beautiful, brave man!!
Aside from Osman, bravo for you viz alcohol - I know that ain't easy!
@Lilas faves . Same with me 28 years in recovery at 64 and learning the same as you. Such respect for Richard too speaking out about his personal problems and so pleased he has met his soul mate.
@@tonyves thank you Tony! It’s a day at a time as I’m sure you’re aware.. they just add up 😊 it’s good to give back to society these days as Richard says.. 🤗
sounds like you should dissociate with that label, congrats on your sobriety
I’m always in awe of people that can recover from an addiction well done you should be so very proud of yourself.
As a person with an eating disorder caused by emotionally neglectful parents and, for a living, makes music for film and tv , this was an incredibly insightful and comforting episode.
So nice to hear two people speaking eloquently and not saying LIKE in every sentence. For those of you that do, please take note of how much better it is hearing speech like this.
People don’t know they are saying LIKE or YOU KNOW or AND THAT.
@@WeeScottishLass39 true but it’s a habit born from lack of vocabulary….
You are the first person I’ve heard speak to the reference to using the word “like” to describe their story. It just takes away from the sincerity of experience for me to understand and connect with the other person. Thank you!
Richard does actually say "You know" a lot. I read your comment at about 46:50 and started counting. By a minute later I had counted 6 "y'know"s which, by my calculation is one every ten seconds!
What an incredible interview. What a brave man to do it. I was fascinated anyway but when he said "i"m not fit for this world" I just burst into tears because that's how I've felt my whole life. For various reasons but I recently discoved I seem to be on the neurodiversity spectrum, and in your 70s that comes as a shock, but one that sets you free in a sense.
Going through life like you feel you don't belong anywhere or fit in. Uncomfortable, awkward and I wear my life like an ill fitting t shirt. I understand that feeling, hope you find peace of mind 👍❤
@@natureisallpowerful Thank you, I have found a level of peace, mostly by just accepting that I am different, and that I don't have to conform.. :)
Welcome to your herd 🥰 We have snacks! My mum was diagnosed at 62 and I was diagnosed in my 30s. It definitely gave us both food for thought
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I was going to comment the same thing. I'm in my late 20s, exactly when Richard said the earthquake comes, and I've realised I'm autistic. Absolutely agree with you; on one hand it's liberating but on the other I can't help but second guess everything I've done so far and wonder where on earth I am in all the masking. I wish you all the best ♥
What a beautiful man.
As a very tall woman, I have had people comment about how I look since I was 13. I find it strange that strangers think it is alright to just walk up and comment on how I look. I never thought of it as body shaming, but that is it! I was always embarrassed by how tall I was. I felt bad that I couldn't shop for pants or shoes like everyone else. Thank you for telling us about your feelings!
It’s quite ironic how tall women and short men experience a lot of the same struggles fitting into society
Ya, i get what you mean. I lost my leg in an accident. People point it out constantly, like I lost it on the way in the door. Some people 🙄
@fc7424 why don’t you try being tall actually - because no it is not “the same” . Clothes and shoes being a prime example. You will never know the lasting impact of shopping in big n tall specialty stores as a teenage girl, but still not being their demographic. (dowdy middle aged people apparently). Or having to wear clunky men’s / unisex shoes to high school.
You can hem regular things. Just ONE example.
I wish you peace from these comments and people. Best wishes.
@@EMMYK1916OMG I am so sorry. All they do is reveal how dumb they are. I’m sorry.
Richard is such a benevolent, emotionally intelligent and frank man with great self-awareness. An introvert with extraversion tendencies. Well done, Steven, for allowing your guests to really talk so we can actually hear. Another formidable and formative guest experience.
Real skill to allow guests to tell their story and interject appropriately. Many will relate to R.O. journey and his pursuit of happiness and contentment. Addiction is not always negative, R.O. made a fantastic living from his TV addiction and used his new found skills to sell an idea or concept to executives who so often forget what the guy in the street wants to watch or read. The HGV example is so pertinent, whatever industry or profession you are in and you have a passion, success will follow as surely as winter follows autumn.
The art of RO is that he can articulate the emotions of his own highs and lows in a relatable and pleasant way. Breaking the cycle of his childhood and giving compassionate support to his children will prove to be his finest work on this planet and you can't monetize that particular currency.
I love his books, but I was surprised by how much I like him as well! He writes so well and speaks just as beautifully.
My father shot himself when I was aged 12 (in 1983). No-one asked how I was! They asked about my mother, and I was told by one hospital doctor, after she had taken too many sleeping pills, that I had to look after her now (at aged 13)! No-one from school asked how I was; and yet ironically a teacher from my school went to my father's funeral! Other kids no longer wanted to be my friend. I was an only-child and had no other family members that helped. As to the question asked if you would like to have not had this negative event in your life, then YES, I BLOODY WOULD LIKE TO HAVE NOT EXPERIENCED IT i.e. My life would have turned out completely differently. SO PLEASE, IF YOU ARE A PARENT THINKING OF SUICIDE, DO NOT DO IT, AS NO MATTER WHAT YOU THINK, YOU ARE BETTER ALIVE TO YOUR CHILD, THAN DEAD!
@A. Fox Thank you for such a lovely reply; it means a lot x.
@@Threemore650 Thank u for your kindness It's really heart-warming that a stranger has taken the time to comment. Hope u have a good Christmas:-)
How horrible I hope that you now have found more understanding and support. Cruse is one further option. Xx
Wow, powerful message. Thank you for sharing that, but I am so sorry you had to experience that. I really hope you are in a much happier place now. I was almost the other part of your experience. I was married (to a fabulous wife), with two wonderful children, but I was planning to kill myself. I had become disabled (paraplegic), after having lived a very physically active life (which happens to be about the only common factor of people who end up with physical impairments later in life…not always, but often we have put ourselves in the position where we get injured. I had played rugby, parachuted, ridden horses and motorbikes, even raced motorbikes, I had been a farmer and lumberjack.). So when I became disabled, I thought my family would be better off without me, as I could not be that person I had been to them. I came really, really (scarily) close to doing it. I had it planned, and found that once planned, I was much calmer, as I thought I had the answer. I was days away from enacting this. When a friend realized or guessed what I was planning. Had he confronted me, I would possibly have denied it, because in my mind at that time, I had the answer. He just asked me not to do anything, and indeed I had to promise him that I would not do anything “major” as he wanted to send me something. It was a book about suicide, called something like Suicide; the final option, (not completely sure as it became a book I would happily loan to others, and it hasn’t come back. In it, there was a chapter about the “legacy” that suicide leaves behind to loved ones, especially offspring. Children of people who have committed suicide are 10 times more likely to commit suicide themselves as that is the legacy; that suicide is a valid option. I could not leave them with that. So, I had to learn a new way of living my life, and how I would interact with my two young sons, if hiking in the mountains, or such activities were not going to be an option for me. Instead I learned to play computer games with them, and bizarrely learned to properly talk with them. That was 20 years ago…still married; we celebrated our 36th anniversary together, and I am here to help her with her chemotherapy treatment as she was found to have Leukaemia earlier this year, after beating off breast cancer a few years ago. Both sons are grown up, flown the nest and are happy in their different careers, and I became a father again a couple of years ago when we adopted a teenaged girl, from a dysfunctional home. But I have to agree with your own message, and I am so thankful to this day that I had a friend who recognised what I was going through, and was I mistakenly was planning to do about it.
@@sarahh4458 I am so sad to learn that the warning in that book applied in your own circumstances. If you ever find yourself down that road again, then please try to find a copy of that book; I will try to dig out more info on it, or reach out to someone. I have lost friends to suicide, and the devastation that they leave behind is enormous, as we all ask ourselves how we should have noticed, how we should have done more… I am sure in each case where a friend did die, they would not have done so if they were to know the sadness that they caused us all. We all just wish they had reached out, said something. But, I know full well, that is not the way one’s mind works in those dark times. I am pleased to know you have a lovely partner now, and are more secure. We never know what life may throw at us. For much of the last 20 years it has been my wife to be the one sat in hospital waiting rooms while I underwent spine operations, and then operations on my shoulders as they wore out from wheelchair activity. But even that reversed, and I have been the one in the much more difficult supporting role, during my wife’s chemotherapy. I even administer injections for her for a week each month, as she is unable to inject herself. It is not enjoyable, but I am so thankful I am still here, and able to help her now in her own fights.
I really hope Richard reads these comments, he deserves to know how much he is loved and admired. The most informative one hour thirty six minutes and three seconds I've ever had. Lessons for us all.
He looks 20 years older since growing that silly beard.
@@reggiesmith3866 who cares? His choice right?
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This is my introduction to your podcast.....I love Richard Osman, which is why I decided to watch. I too have an eating addiction.....I had gone through a weight loss program run by a hospital in our area, in 2009 and sucessfully lost 70 pounds. I had my eating under control for 9 years, never realizing that all my triggers were just waiting to be invited to resurface. During the pandemic my whole mindset changed and I am back to my ill-advised eating habits. Richard, listening to you has helped me to reassess which voice I'm going to listen to....thank you!
Good luck Mary , you can do it 💪🍀x
Likewise Mary!! We have done it before (congrats btw,) and we can do it again! It’s about giving ourselves love rather than rubbish food to comfort ourselves I believe .. good luck!! 🙌😘
Good luck Mary, another victim of covid restrictions and not covid. So many people suffered so much but were denied a voice.
Vitamins, real 1s, & water & fiber with foods. I know all of these yet comfort foods like sugar feel so good. Eric Clapton said sugar is our 1st addiction when ppl said weed was. I totally understood SUGAR bc who can be unhappy eating choc. SECURE by Andrew Lessman Soy Choc Meal Replacement stops my choc craving or sweets. Alot of times ur body is craving something so maybe something like this could help u.
What a beautiful post!
Addiction doesn't discriminate. I have a new found respect for this man. It just shows that you never know what someone has been or going through. Only through suffering and adversity do we grow or change or die.
that last bit where he says 'if you arent being treated well its ok to quit and find something better' has really hit hard for me. Ive just taken a month out of Uni because they arent respecting my accessability needs and are treating me like shit. I really needed someone to tell me that its ok to quit that environment. so thank you richard and steven.
As a mother of my youngest child who’s at university, if she felt the way you do, I would say that you have to be true to yourself and do what you feel is right. It’s a huge cost to succumb to just to do what you think others expect of you. 😊
Don’t let anyone run you out of the university you have the same rights as the others . Speak out and push for your needs thru this situation your experiencing. Wish u well and achieve what you have set out to achieve from university.
Just make sure you find something better or the whole quote is meaningless. Don't just quit.
I've just quit my job because the new boss hasn't been allowing me to take holidays even though if I don't take them before the end of the month I lose them. Also she's just been being a dickhead about loads of other things. Felt like a huge weight off my shoulders so can totally relate.
@@rcaldwell7255 Bit heard that for ages women can be dickheads too. Have a 1 to 1 with her ask her straight out what’s your issue my holidays are mine to take at my convenience so what’s the fucking problem ?? Hope u sort yah issue out don’t swear though be polite Iv learnt over the years working life is about putting on a mask at times so many 2 faced folk . Wish u promotion so don’t let her run u out of yah job.
I’m impressed by the interviewer. He actually listens.
This man is an underappreciated genius. I had no idea of his contributions to Television until this podcast. His analogies and storytelling are immense. Great episode.
This conversation has been a lightbulb moment regarding the impact of trauma. The ‘true north’ analogy was quite brilliant. Thank you.
Glad this resonated with you Judith ❤
@@samuelhogan1324 why be negative for no reason?
@@samuelhogan1324 You are the exact guy Richard references in this interview.
What a fantastic guest. So honest ✅
I love this man, him and Stephen Fry I could listen to them all day ❤
You said “leave the world a better place than when you came into it”… and I agree. My worlds a little better after watching this one. Bravo Richard
This is one of the rare Diary of a CEO’s I will be watching on repeat; my favourite guest you have had on the podcast. Every word is careful chosen and profound. I wish I could read a script of this interview because he speaks fast and his mind moves so quick it’s hard to keep up on a first listen. Richard has an analytical mind but is also highly emotional intelligent. He touches on the big trauma of being abandoned and rejected by a father, which sounds deeply sad for anyone to experience. I’ve been a great admirer of Richard, especially his kind nature, great morals, not to mention the razor sharp wit. It’s been an honour to listen to him speak. You can see why being a writer is his niché; he has found his calling in life, which is a rare thing, but justly deserved.
Could not agree more, his tv persona I gave a wide berth to, but this interview is incredibly personal, honest and so relatable.Brilliant Richard I had you so wrong and thank you for enlighting myself personally 👌❤both highly intelligent and likeable, same goes to you Steven you produce an outstanding quality of work/ your interview technique is warm, personable and highly informative, thank you....
@@MrNypdblue911 100% agree
If you click on the arrow to the right below the video the show-notes will drop down, scroll down and you'll find 'Show Transcript' option for the whole interview.
@@caroldonaldson5936 how have I been on UA-cam this long and not known this? Thanks!
@@wonderwoman5528 I know! I use it all the time now because sometimes the dialogue is not that clear in parts and I'd find myself pressing rewind all the time. Genius idea!👍😁
Being from the US I didn't know who RIchard Osman was. Luckily Taskmaster has introduced me to a number of truly interesting people and Richard is absolutely one of them! What a fascinating, articulate man. This has been an incredible interview to listen to!
You need to read his books. They are great.
Richard Osman, what an amazing intellect, an amazing human being, I’m totally in awe.
Im a mum in my late twenties and I have struggled with a food addiction since I can remember. I love how candidly Richard spoke about it, everything resonated with my experience and it was refreshing to hear someone talk about it so openly. it is definitely an addiction but is never taken seriously. Its the 'nice' addiction that just hurts yourself primarily (to a point of course) and people always diminish it as not being 'serious' or real.
Richard touches on it but food addiction/eating disorders must be a total nightmare. Im definitely a believer abstinence is easier that moderation for addicts as a whole which is well and good when its booze/drugs/whatever. But when its something you literally need to live it must be one hell of s struggle to reach balance.
I’m 43 year old man. Ive suffered with a binge eating disorder since the age of 3. I can totally resonate with Richard. Thank you for sharing your story.
What would you eat in a day at your peak?
@@hmq9052 He was eating a whole pack of jaffa cakes, it was dark, man
@@FuuuckOffff Dear God. I had no idea things could get to that stage. Imagine if he smoked dope too.
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Taking the power back.
Mr. Osman just gets more and more interesting the further you read into him
So happy I listened to this. I have found a "friend" ... I may never meet Richard Osman, but he is now a friend to me.
I absolutely LOVED The Thursday Murder Club, I didn't want to put it down. Richard's style of writing is so fresh and original, it's like he's speaking directly to you and no one else is there.
What a beautiful human being, such empathy. If only the masses felt this way. It takes a lot of strength and confidence to realise i am who I am, I don't need to rely on another body to bolster me. Love yourself be happy every day with the world around you. I am 78 and have loved everything about this life. This planet is wonderful, physically and mentally. Enjoy every minute, please yourself just don't hurt anyone, be weird, who cares! I wake up every day and look at the sea in the south of Spain. Live in peace.
So brave, raw and honest. What an incredibly interesting man ❤️
Brave ? Hes a bit tall ! Wow big deal.
People make some silly quips about it wow big deal, there are worse attributes to have
@@jamesallen8917 Brave to reveal his struggles, which aren’t just height related! Always a good idea to listen to the whole thing before you start arguing in the comments boss.
I’m not sure brave is the right word but let’s not be unkind. I would say generous is the best word to describe what I feel about him.
I think he honestly wants to share the results of the treatment he’s received with the many that cannot afford it or who haven’t arrived at the point of decision making.
@@jamesallen8917 A bit of self reflection, would not go amiss!
Richard, you are already helping and making people’s lives a little bit easier. Just listening to you gives me joy and your books make me happy.
SAME, same.
Love listening to Richard and iv just started his latest book, they are so witty and funny ❤
House of games is a show I watch every time it’s on . Its unlike anything else on TV . It’s a therapy session of kindness , relaxation and calmness . Being nice to each other in therapy chairs . While the therapist sits back and lets it flow . Sometimes just adding comments at the right time between questions.
Not all guests get it but that’s unavoidable.
Now I can see what’s behind the success of Richard . He’s just being honest and being himself .
Thank Steven .
Richard is so eloquent in explaining his traumas and personal problems some of which I share with him. A very impressive person and my daughter's favourite author 👍
We had a boy at our school with the same condition as Richard.
His was severe, but he could still get around and somehow managed to study. He was super intelligent and did fantastically well going on to university.
I so wanted to ask him about his eyes, but didn't dare, as I was brought up by a Narcissistic mother who had it drummed into me that you don't ask anyone questions about any disability or anything that isn't your business.
So I always chatted with Billy and hoped he'd tell me about his eyes.
Billy had a highly developed sense of humour, he was cutting with his remarks, and anyone who thought they could bully him got a huge surprise.
Your mother sounds compassionate, sensitive and insightful, the very opposite of narcissistic. A lot of the comments on this vid are from people so sick of being asked or talked at about whatever their experience is. Asking people is not always a win. Heed their advice on how to proceed: try listening.
I loved this interview. What a wonderful human being Richard is. Genuine and kind. And the best ever comment about monogomy ever!
This was one of the most compelling interviews I have ever seen. It’s made me look again at some of my own life with many similarities to Richard’s childhood. Fascinating.
What a wonderfully candid exchange by two lovely souls. Thank you both.
Holy crap I was looking for a light hearted interview but this hit me much deeper than I imagined. Thank you Richard Osman for your deep honesty!
This was a profound interview with a man I've never heard of. I started watching and thinking this is a non issue but the more I watched it I saw myself. I am a sugar addict which resulted in type 2 diabetes. The addiction started in childhood as a way to self medicate from family traumas. I am 62 now trying to break my addiction to restore my health. I never acknowledged the shame aspect because my whole family are sugar addicts so it seemed normal but I was quite stealthy in my addiction at times. I think food addiction is far more common than people know. Thank you.
Steven you are a great interviewer, perfect questions without intrusiveness. Kudos to Richard for being so open, a man of great character and integrity. Thank you, really enjoyed listening
One of the best interviews I’ve ever seen. Thank you, Richard, for sharing your internal world. Thanks, Steven, for having him on.
My daughter is 6 ft 4 ins tall & is also very tired of the comments.
What a lovely, sincere man & a fascinating interview. Thank you both x
I’m 77 and from the age of 14, I was 6 feet tall. In the late 50s , early 60s most girls were NOT that tall. I was alone a lot. Boys and dating was out of the question. I was never asked to go to the Jr and Senior Prom, for example. I was sooo left out of everything.
Just listening to Richard calms me and puts me in a happy place. Love everything this guy does
I love Richard, I love his presenting and his books. This interview is brilliant, honest and wise and I could listen to/chat with him for ever. It’s wonderful that he has finally found a romantic love that brings him happiness, he deserves it. He has not only survived his earthquakes but thrived.
I love the fact that he knows himself and knows what people love/want.
Genuinely likeable man is Richard Osman. Really Respect his candour over his Traumas and insecurities and a great Help and Support to everyone who has mental struggles. Amazing bloke.
Richard is such a personable and genuine man, it's good to hear from this type of person. I really enjoyed and learnt from this interview, I was engrossed throughout, thank you!
Richard has gained some very hard won wisdom, he comes across as a great guy
What a lovely, sincere man. Good on you Richard :)
Richard always impresses me when he's on panel shows like 8 out of 9 Cats. While the other guests are snarky, cynical and sweary (not saying that's not funny btw) he always raises the bar with his gentle, positive humour. I've never seen him put someone else down for laughs. The nice guy of alternative British comedy.
I so agree. I hate all that "you are the weakest link" nasty,humiliation type humour
The nice guys meet ❤
He gave jeremy clarkson some stick on HIGNFY
What a lovely way to describe Richard....the nice guy of alternative comedy . Bet he'd love that. ❤️
Yes,completely agree. His intelligence is scary,not unike Stephen Fry's who draws you in without patronising you.
That was a fantastic watch. Richard talks so much sense, and thank you for interviewing so sensitively.
Great interviewer, incredible interviewee. Honesty and respect on both sides. Thank you to you both.
what an articulate and personable man, glad he’s reaping the benefits of his success
What a wonderful, brave role model! I am guessing many people will gain a lot of encouragement and even solutions to their issues, in this interview.I am 74 and have understood some of my own problems much better. Terrific and so humble and kind! Plus love the books, and just his personality as it comes over on HIGNFY and his knowledge and wisdom.
He is absolutely right. I underwent a very serious trauma when I was 32 and I have never recovered. I am now 74. I survive, and outwardly I am successful enough, but I can´t say that I enjoy the successes as much as I should. I am too involved with and influenced by the failure, and the sheer injustice.
This country has so much to learn about mental health and the need to work through ‘difficulties’.
The nhs would save so much money by ‘treating’ mental health in early days. We need greater access to therapists. What a lovely chap and well done for sharing 😊
A very interesting, likeable and honest person. And relatable. I also think his (mostly single) Mother deserves huge praise with him doing so well in television and his brother in music for so many years. She must be without doubt be a very wise lady. Let kids flourish in what they love doing is the lesson.
The interview was great but the comments are so kind and helpful. It has really cheered me up seeing the kindness .the internet is usually such a nightmare so thank you everyone
I feel for him. Trauma and complex PTSD haunt you forever , and every day is a battle to escape it.
Having suffered from anxiety and depression I thank Richard for passing on his therapists tips. Being anxious about your anxiety is absolutely the way it is. I’ve read in self books about coping with anxiety and it always says just let it be, don’t beat yourself up and be kind to yourself.
Working on it
I wonder if our anxiety would have the power they do if they were on a whiteboard where we can see them.
Sending love to Richard....for coming through all your struggles that I too can resonate with family and friends. You are amazing...❤❤❤
Two clouds spinning outside my head and then they collide - woah! That has crystallised the process for me. Thank you - so much makes sense now :)
Richard has so many great qualities but above all he just seems like a genuinely kind person. I throughly enjoyed this episode and have taken a lot from it, thanks both!
Grew up in poverty. Single parent family. Diagnosed with ADHD in my early 30s. A lot of what Richard says resonates with me quite a lot and I really really didn’t expect it.
Thank you Richard, I love the books and can't wait to see the TV programme. I'm much older than you at 59 but always remember back in the early 80s hating my job which was abusive. It was during a recession in Ireland and my first job out of school and my family were poor, but 8 months into it my beautiful mam told me to quit, even though she needed the money. I did and have been grateful ever since xx
I think this is an extraordinary interview. Richard wasn’t just asked the correct questions, probing but gentle but given the time and space to answer.
So many times celebrities are interviewed about addictions or other negatives and the result is that they speak only about themselves.
There is a generosity with Richard. He seems genuinely interested in helping people who may not have the deep pockets or black book to receive help in understanding how or why they’ve arrived at a point in their lives.
Excellent. Well done.
Perfect response
What a nice bloke. I never would have thought his height would be something he’d feel shamed about. But it all makes sense in context. He explains it all so well on behalf of all people who are different in any way.
Very powerful to see how someone who experienced trauma and addiction make it out of the other side and go on to great successes!
Loved the interview. What I appreciated about your interview style is that you didn't interrupt him, and that you didn't do much 'yeah, me too'. Your audience wants to hear about his point of view, his trauma, not yours - no disrespect intended. Thank you.
A wonderful, warm & wiser person you'd be hard pushed to listen to than RO. This interview is also a fantastic example of doing great research on your guest & asking the right questions to get the most interesting, open & honest answers.
Richard's childhood experience, how it shaped him & how he came to terms with it is something I relate to hugely, having had much the same experience. The due north analogy, as you would expect from him, is perfect in explaining how you have become the person you are. For me, it was going through a divorce, that saw me ask questions of myself & start that journey of self discovery. I'd have got there a lot sooner had this interview been available 20 years ago.
Richard, amazing analogy of true north and slowly going off course. I am 29 and currently going through this exact thing. I've spent years changing myself to be accepted. I'm trying to find my way back north. Thank you.
Me too, wasn't it amazing how he articulated it!
Personally i think there's a balance. You absolutely have to be true to yourself, but I've found going to the effort of looking 'normal' makes life a lot easier. Not that I'm trying to say "just fit in and youll be fine!" far from it. But if through therapy or whatever you can tackle your deep down problems by looking like you're 'normal' you don't have the additional pressure of trying to justify your existence to other people all the time. And it really is just looks, people can be super judgemental unfortunately. Guess I'm trying to say find that balance between "Fitting in" and allowing that lack of pressure for you to work on those deeper issues which are at the heart of things.
My daughter is 10 and has had nystagmus since birth, I had no idea Richard also had it, I loved hearing about the world from his point of view, feel like in some way this conversation is going to help me connect to my daughter in a different way and too see the world through her eyes ❤️
What an amazing episode and an incredible man!
Thank you for this conversation 🫶🏻
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I've been secret eating for approaching 50 years & am ashamed every time, every now and again I tried to deal with it & my wife tried to help me as much as she could or I'd let her but she had her own health issues we had to deal with...she passed away in March & I now feel so alone as she was everything to me but my shame is I couldn't be strong enough for her & try & get this sorted
Forgive yourself Mark. We are all a "work in progress" and none of us are perfect.
Start with self-love and daily work on eliminating that shame, which is a stumbling block in your life. ❤
Sorry for your loss. RIP to your wife. Be kind to yourself and try to find professional help to help you with your issues. Wish you the best.
Absolutely gobsmacked at Mr Osman's honesty and clarity!
He is uncannily succinct and deceptively nuanced.
Keen to give him a big hug.
This interview made me cry because it was resonating with me so much. I shared it with my boyfriend to explain him what I was going through in my life. Thank you so much Richard and Steven.
My god, that nine year old. So, so true. Wow Richard ,so very aware. Thank you.
I live alone and feel ashamed of eating a family pack of crisps. Thank you Richard x
Richard Osman, what a legend guy! This could well be my fave episode out of all the guests I've heard so far. Please bring him back for sure!!
Lovely man and I'm so happy he has found his new love. I love all his Thursday Murder Club books the best. So I hope he carrys on with them. 🥰
What I really like about Steven Bartlett's style is that he seems genuinely interested in the answers his guests give. The late Robin Day was like this and it makes the interview so much more engaging.
Ooh,I remember robin Day as quite abrasive or aggressive. This is the first time I've come across Stephen and he seems a much more gentle,empathetic person
@@lindalong5052 Ascerbic but genuinely interested. It’s the genuine trait that I’m likening. 🙂
what a lovely guy Richard is. Thanks for the very honest and helpful insights. It was a pleasure to listen to you talk.
I loved this interview, it’s the best guest I’ve listened too. Steven really enjoyed it and engaged as well. What a clever man Richard is. I intend watching this a second time, I rarely do that. I can’t wait to buy his book.
I've always been fascinated by Richard Osman. I've got to say, I absolutely adore the stuffing out of him after watching this. I hope the world has access to his amazing personality for a long time to come.
Richard gives me stephen fry vibes; both are loved by millions, both are highly intelligent and entertaining, both have sadness in their eyes when they aren't making jokes.
Definitely two people I would without doubt turn to for the truth about a situation or person or life.
I get Richard when he talks about binge eating. I recognise myself in this as I tend to binge eat, especially at nighttime. I try to not but chocolates and cakes, as I’m type 2 diabetic, and it works for a week then I buy chocolate. It is hard to change especially when you live alone as I do. Thank you Richard for being so honest.
Same
Like Jason said, don't eliminate because otherwise you'll see it as "bad" and if you do "relapse" to sugary stuff you'll end up just knocking yourself down and guilt yourself because you craved it so much. Substitute it into your meals, my friend uses chocolate milk in her cereal. Must be worse because the diabetes too but I hope you're able to control your levels too, have you discussed with your diabetic nurse (assuming you have one)
I discovered the Keto fitness club on UA-cam ( they have a website & are on Facebook, Instagram too ) they helped me to cut right down yet still satisfy my sweet tooth Jeannie. Their recipes like chocolate brownies, taste amazing & are all quick & easy to make .
You can even make your own keto chocolate from cream , cacao and stevia sweetener! 😋 ( I freeze mine , lasts a bit longer that way lol 😆)
This is amazing, I love how Richard is so open and honest and wanting to help others. The part where he says there are two people in your head and you have to listen to both but to give the good one more air time. Powerful stuff 👍🏼
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Ive always loved Richard for his gentle, but very witty humour. Even went to a taping of Pointless, travelled from Australia to see him “live.” Seeing him interact with the audience between takes, he was the same, funny and genuine. Best wishes to him.
This is one of your best episodes Steven! How lovely is Richard Osman. I totally get everything he said about being body shamed and the 'funny' quips people make about whatever the aspect it is that makes you different. I'm the opposite of Richard, being a shorty... It's actually taken me all my life to say that word about myself 'shorty'. I've had soooo many comments from strangers, family, friends colleagues alike about my height (or lack of) all of which I've heard daily. It does make you feel shamed and has a massive impact on your self esteem & view of yourself. I had to smile when Richard said he thinks about where he sits in the cinema as I do the same, only for the opposite reason. I didn't go to concerts etc because when everyone stands up to dance I can't see a thing. It's taken me years to accept myself and embrace what I can't change... 🤷. Great job Steven 👌
Haha. Yes,me too. I think when people buy concert and theatre tickets they should declare their height. I always seem to be sitting behind the 6' plus rugby players. Maybe shorties to the left, lankies to the right? We pay the same 🤣
Gosh, I’m a rare UA-cam commenter but just wanna say thank you Steven. I’ve never quite been able to put into words why I binge and the cycle of shame it creates - I’ll be sharing Richard’s experience of binging with some of my fam and friends. :)
I've no idea why I clicked on the video, I don't know Mr. Osman and don't know the channel (afaik). What a great surprise! So much insightful, wise and relatable content from two complete strangers. An unpretentious, down to earth and utterly relaxed conversation about some of the most important aspects in life. This is amazing!
I have the same problem with food. I'm overweight but not that much. Richard describes my addiction perfectly.
I'm glad he describes it as an addiction because it clearly is. It's a deep-rooted subconscious thing, nothing to do with hunger in fact.
My parents split up in the 1960s, before it was fashionable, then I moved areas and left my old school friends behind.
Maybe, half a century later, that's still the actual issue.
Richard is so well adjusted. We all know he's a genius. He has had the balls to own his anxiety and deal with it. I for one have less fear to deal with lifes crap because of this interview.
Get therapy, if you live in the UK its free. And go though the NHS cos despite the long wait you'll see an actual psychologist, not someone whos done a week long course on being a 'counsellor' .
Good lord….I don’t think I’ve heard an interviewer LISTEN so well. Bravo!! Subscribed
I really enjoyed that. On one level, we all feel like square pegs in round holes. Listening to how Richard has dealt with his struggles must surely help some. He's such an intelligent decent human being.
I could listen to Richard Osman talk for hours. Smart, insightful bloke. Great episode to light up my Thursday morning bike ride 😊.
Stephen you are a charismatic interviewer and your guests all seem to be so at ease with you. I’m so happy that I found your channel.