The earring only being on the right side means someone is gay thing came from earlier decades in America when people couldn't be out publicly. It was a sign to other gay people that that person was also gay. My parents told me there was a saying back in the day: "Left is right (meaning correct) and Right is wrong (it's bad to be gay)" Thank goodness we are much more knowledgable now
Or you are Italian, i saw a lot of men/teenagers walk around with just one earring i thought they might be a little fruity but europe is a little bit diffrent i guess😅
My dad is straight had an earring on the right. (In the Netherlands in the 90s) It took him a while to find out why his colleagues always said he was "one of the girls" and other stereotyped comments 😂 He hasn't worn his earring ever since.
The butt hitting rule is hilarious to me because 90% of the straight (even birderline homophobic) dudes at our school do this and worse (nipple pinching, pretending to kiss, joking about sleeping with each other’s dads). It’s fascinating tbh Edit: By hilarious, I mean ironic to the point of surreality because so many guys who would actually (probably) perpetrate a hate crime against a gay kid here do things that could be considered actual gay activity, for jokes or not. Idk
It seems like in Korea, skinship is really common amongst friends of the same gender. In the states, it's usually only girls who do. But even then, it depends on the individuals. I know in my group of friends, we were never touchy-feely. We often hug for greetings and departures, but we've never held hands or kissed each other on the cheeks. I mostly use skinship with my close family members.
@Trinity M what’s your point here? Are you saying they used the term wrong? (They didn’t btw) Or just wanting to point out that you’re better than OP for not using the term like “a Kpop fan who doesn’t know anything”?
Skinship is common between same genders in most of the Asian countries so when I started exploring things about American culture it seemed very weird to me that every skinship is deemed "sus"
this is interesting to me because as a european I always saw americans as more affectionate than us. In every teen, high school and "girls" movie they hug, kiss each other's cheeks and say "I love you" easily to friends, but when I did that (because I wanted to be cool like the american movies) my friends were like "ew wtf" and I was called weird
I'm ukrainian, but same, except I can kiss my female friends on the cheek, but not really often 😄 Looking at K-pop idols I've never been so close with my friends in terms of physical contact
I think it just depends. Like for someone their age to share AirPods would be questionable but now a days the younger generation seem to be more open to being more affectionate with each other. If someone their age was doing it, I would think aww but if it was someone younger then I’d be like ok they’re just good friends.
And like they said it depends on where you live as well. In the states for someone their age to do it would be a bit different than someone younger or someone from a country where being affectionate between men is normal.
I'd love to see a lesbian version of this, especially since it's so hard to figure out when a girl likes another girl as more than a friend (for me at least...)
I just think it's adorable how the korean guy makes that "x" gesture with his hands everytime he says something like "that's not true" haha. It looks very instinctive too like he does it without thinking and it's just so I love it when people use their hands to communicate like this :)
As someone who went to a school where like 95% of students are guys, I'm just gonna say that I learned it's basically impossible to tell who's straight and who's not. You'd be surprised how touchy and flirty guys are with each-other, especially if they're all straight.
10:31 YES THIS IS SO REAL. I had a teacher in college that he never looked too much to anyone, but when the hot gay guy that studied with me was in the group this teacher paid so much attention to him that activated my gaydar
@@subliminalfalllenangel2108 I dont think so, cause the student already had a boyfriend. Also, there was an age gap, teacher in his 40’s and student in his 20’s, but probably it was most because he wasnt single.
The good thing I highlight abt men in Korea is that they’re close between them and if they’re openminded they aren’t gonna think if they touch, hug or kiss themselves they have to be “gay”, It’s just that feel comfortable between them. Also it’s good to know that some of the non accepted things they mention among guys are normalized in Korea.✨ Excuse my English, pls correct me if I’m wrong, thx.😅🌹
I get what you're saying. During my visit to India I saw a lot of guys out and about holding hands, or hugging (like little girls in the playground) but no one gave them another look, except me since I wasn't used to seeing that kind of interaction between straight men.
I remembered a korean variety show were Henry lau from super junior thought that all member of super junior is gay cuz they always hit the butt of each other .haha later on he realized that it's normal in korea
@@19nopeit’s very ironic cuz Korean guys have always been very comfortable with physical contact with one another, and mindful about things like skin care. They were ridiculed as “gay” in the US, not even that long ago. Really shows how close minded and homophobic the US was not so long ago, but never fails to be the first to criticize lmao
8:49 I think its called skinship. In Korea there's pda amongst guys and it's not seen as gay. They are quick to give compliments on appearance if another guy looks nice. Im American and when I first got into kpop I was so confused because I've never seen guys heavy into pda on camera. I would think 2 guys were gay in a group then I would see those guys all over the other guys. Now I realize it's the culture. In America the lines are CLEARLY drawn. Like holding eye contact for 3 seconds means your down for the get down.
I think it’s definitely in the eyes for girls too. I can tell when a girl is just complimenting me or when she’s interested. Their eyes linger more, especially if they start looking at your lips a lot. If it’s just a glance it isn’t a big deal but if you find someone attractive you’re more likely to gaze at their lips often 😊
Didn't expect to see Jeongro's boyfriend here haha... The content I didn't know I needed but that's actually extremely entertaining and educating Please do more
8:46 it's called groupism, and there's a lot of social closeness and lack of personal boundaries in many Asian countries like Korea and Japan. Not sure about China, but I'm sure it's similar there because it tends to have a lack of personal space too (population numbers and use of space for housing). I'm still always surprised at my J students (junior high) and how much they touch each other, sometimes the guys sitting on top of each other or hugging each other which is clearly not done in the US as much. Maybe it's more common in the US now?? There's also hitting among J students, even on butts lol.
This is so interesting! I think it possibly also has something to do with how a lot of western countries are very individualistic and promote independence and making something of yourself entirely by yourself and not relying on (or thinking too much about) others, whereas a lot of eastern countries have a more collectivist culture where you rely on others to help you out and in turn are also expected to look after and support others in whatever way, and group cohesion comes above individual needs or wants. There is obviously pros and cons to both cultures but I feel like this could go some way in explaining the differing behaviours.
as a asian american this is split split for me. i'm from myanmar ( burmese ) and with close friends ( from school or non burmese ), i am not at all touchy with. but with my burmese friends and such, i'm very touchy with ; its also normal to smack each others butts and stuff. it's very confusing, i didn't notice this difference until now. with non burmese friends, i would remain my space but with burmese friends we're always bunched up together without a worry or realization and do everything together. it's not like i prefer one over the other so..
I'm Caribbean-American so when I lived in Cape Verde and saw men walking hand-in-hand on the street, it blew me away. Yet, it felt really good when I tried it after a few months: beautiful energy flow. I think the local guy was actually straight too.
When I went to Africa on a mission trip, groups of both men and women would hold hands walking down the street. The people held my hands too. America is just a very cold, individualistic place. It was very lonely coming back. If I didn't have debt and family worries, I would live abroad.
Que legal, não sabia disso. Aqui no Brasil os homens costumam se abraçar, mas jamais andam de mãos dadas. No máximo, quando são muito amigos, colocam a mão no ombro um dos outros.
@@anonymousperson8259 Which country in Africa though? Cause in my country, that would get eyebrows raising. I don't think that particularly applies to the whole continent
I love y’all’s flow of conversation. It seemed smooth and like everyone had a chance to speak. The respect and lack of interrupting one another was refreshing. Thanks for the content 🤍😊
Weirdly, Asia is generally more conservative with like LBGTQ+ and other issues. But when it comes to friendship between men, a lot of things, i feel like, are more acceptable lol. In indo, my guy friends fixes each other hairs, go to the bathroom, hits butts, plays nipple pinch jokingly lol
I went into a shop the other day and some young guy complimented me on my T-shirt, I looked back at him and thanked him and our eyes met - yeah, he was interested. It's been a while, but I recognized that look. I'm older, not looking for a hook-up, or really anything right now, but it made my day. A lot of communication is exchanged when two gay men's eyes meet.
That's sweet, I do that a lot to people I don't know regardless of their gender. I wouldn't say I am actually interested, but definitely would only compliment people I like in any way.
It is kinda fascinating that most of Korean guy's experience and stereotypes he shared are common in India 🇮🇳 too. Like sharing earpods or going to toilet together or smacking on ass is fairly common. Never thought about those seriously but now that I do. I don't think the earring on only right ear means gay applies on India.
Thanks. This is enlightening. A few of the things they mentioned I had also picked up as a straight person observing gay friends and colleagues before and after they came out so back in the day I would say my gaydar was pretty darn good. Sometimes i can tell even from a video or even a photograph. Another thing is those who havent come out tend to have limited social media presence to their friends and family (meaning no soc media account or if there is one it is inactive or dead simply because they actually have another secret account where they conduct their secret activities and they tend to post very expicit sexual stuff in them too or meet others using these accounts. There is a network amongst their community and they tend to want to rent houses together or move around job circles using this network. Those who havent come out then to be opaque and vague about their social activities in regular conversations. At work esp in female dominated industry like mine you will find the male bosses hiring attractive younger male subordinates and that is usually an indication if other things isnt yet obvious enough. The checking other guys out, esp lingering eye contact is also a dead giveaway. Even for split second longer as generally straight men never catch each other's eyes nor do they tend to rubberneck other guys on the street. No matter how good looking or well built.
The random Teemo laughs trough out this entire video keep scaring me, Also the korean guy looks, behaves and talks the least gay, which says alot about american gay people lol, I'm also asian and gay and I'm really not used to the American way of "gay". Visually i wear baggy clothes, have a similar hairstyle as the korean guy and look like your most basic dude out there
Yeah, I Will never know if any of my friends are gay. The Asian way to joke is very different and not at all stereotypical. I always ask, never assume 😅
Are we not talking about that they put a pic of "yoo ah in" as a gay haircut resemble 😭😭 btw he is a Part of the community himself (not confirmed but everybody knows that he has a boyfriend)
I know the earring thing used to be a sign until like the 90s when it became a fashion thing, and then it became a norm to have both ears pierced.. The "signs" are so cute, definitely the delicate wrist and lingering eye contact cuz that's a pickup line no matter your sex 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
As long as it doesn't cross the line and everyone is in on the joke then I think stereotypes like these can be fun and silly but obviously it doesn't apply to everyone. Funny video:)
Almost everything they said is quite normal in Spain, everyone does it. For me is weird to say that depending on how you look like or what you do you are gay or you could be. Here you don't know anything until you ask, because even when you think someone might be lgbtq you could be so wrong
@Trinity M That's most places actually. At the end of the day though, if you're judging whether someone is gay just because they wear skinny jeans, have coloured hair or are affectionate towards other males, then you're an idiot
I think you guys should make this a series of these cause it keeps getting better and I also love this channel for supporting the LGBT people for who they are and have a good day!
LOL I JUST PICTURED the scene in my head: a straight friend going up to him, smacking his buttocks and he stops to say "Do you like it?" Full of pride lol LOVE IT! 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
This seem wild to me. Cause even as a bi guy a lot of these seem pretty normal to me and I see it between my straight friends, coworkers, and random people like online and tik tok who identify as straight. But it also depends on the setting. I've been called handsome at like church and stuff, but yeah among friends and peers its more common just to say "you looks good today" or compliment their outfit. Skinny jeans were a huge trend a few years ago and I even had a straight friend trying to get me to buy a pair for myself cause he said I didn't dress in style enough. My pastor even wore them sometimes. They just weren't for me personally. I see straight guys with earings in either ear or both now. I even see straight guys with the one dangly earing and eyebrow piercings. So I font think of it as a sign anymore these days. I don't really pay much attention to peoples bang so I don't have to much of a say in this one. I share headphones with my straight friends all the time tho. And I've seen my straight friends do it with each other, and straight coworkers do it. Pop music could be a bit of a sign like they said if there's a lot of like Arianna Grande, Lady Gaga, or like they claim to be a Barb. But just in general or mixed in with other types of music I don't think its anything particularly gay these days. Now asking a guy to go to the restroom sounds super strange to me and thats the only one on this list I agree with. But not even so much its gay, just more strange. And I can't tell you how many times straight guys have slapped my butt or talked about how big it is since high school and playing sport up to coworkers over a decade later. Some where gay or questioning, but most are straight and its like a joke. One time I even went to my friends party and was meeting his girlfriend for the first time and he squeezed my butt cheeks right in front of her 😂😂
Gen Z bromance confuse me because im not sure if they are gay or just very confident in their sexuallity. At work, i have male co worker whom tease each other flirtatious joking, but all of them have girlfriends.
the korean man IS FUCKING HOT he should be a model, an idol, or just someone famous so we can see his pretty face more often. I wish he'll marry a handsome boy in the future an be happy ever after
Just a thing want to say being a bisexual and gay is a different thing. If ur a bi u are interested in both men and women and if any boy is lookin at another boy it doesn't always mean he is gay. And also A boy can love another boy without being called gay and a girl can love another girl without being called lesbian. Love is love and love allows everyone to love. ❤and m also a Bisexual and i respect every gender ❤
When he said Colorful skinny jeans I knew right away he was talking about how SHINee made the trend of wearing colorful skinny jeans the "it" thing lol
I think American and korean gay culture is totally different this is y lots of Americans and other people r thinking some kpop guys are gays 🤷🏻♀️ i badly want them to watch this ❤️ they explained clearly ❤
About the air pods I think it's because people who are a bit older still think of it as sharing wired earphones instead of bluetooth. That would be more romantic because it's kinda like a literal connection and you gotta stay close and move carefully because of the length of the wire. Aldo it's been used as a romantic thing in pop culture ever since ear phones became a thing
Times have changed a lot. When we had to hide who we are, eye contact or secret smiles we signals. Now I have no idea, been to a gay club and accidentally hit on a straight guy, I was so embarrassed. He was definitely offended.
the earing one is so true! when my father was a kid in the 80s(Sweden) he got a earing at his dad and when he got home to his mom and showed her she was like, ARE YOU SURE ITS ON THE LEFT NOW!? because it was really seen as gay to have one in the right but really popular in the left, my dad didnt care but he did get it in the left
Nice, fun video to watch. Keep it up guys 🙌 I think it’s very relevant to know the queer culture cultural differences when in different countries. It’s also very interesting to think about them.
This is some quality tea right here; the kind you can pair with a blanket and be super cozy. Also, I LOVE that they used Teemo's laugh at 5:36. It fits the vibe so well!
A quick correction on your subtitles. To compliment someone is to say something nice to or about that person. To complement is to complete, as in "This new rug really complements the room."
Loool i'm from the north of Mexico and here the guys who wear skinny jeans are heterosexual, those who wear another cut of jeans are considered gay, it's completely the opposite hahahaha.
I think it’s so funny how different our cultures are. We worship individualism here in the US and we look down on people for being intimate with eachother. I’ve always been jealous of Asian cultures because of this. I’m hoping America can graduate to skinship in the future.
10:23 I had this happened to me once too at work. Im not out to my colleagues but I act a little gay sometimes, and this guy (who acts like typical straight handsome popular guy) kept staring at me and inviting me to team dinners and so on. Not to be narcissistic but yeah I’m somewhat forcibly good looking/average looking. But he always compliments pretty girls and checks them out in front of his colleagues. Then one time during a team dinner we sat together and he purposely placed his knee against mine for a good 7-8 minute and throughout the whole time he was throwing glances at me to see my reaction. But Im the type to be extremely shy around my crushes, so I didn’t really react much to it except to leave my leg there so our legs would stay in contact. After that night things didn’t really progress much though he did continue to pay attention to me etc. we were reshuffled into different departments (our company was huge MNC) and we slowly lost contact. 4.5 years later we’re both in different companies now and I still think about him from time to time lol
Por ésto a las que nos gustan las mujeres sufrimos tanto😭 jajas no tenemos muchas señales conocidas, creo que simplemente intentamos deducirlo de acuerdo a la actitud, o simplemente coqueteamos y si no nos rechazan y nos rompen el corazón entonces ya confirmamos que sí le gustaban las mujeres, pero la mayoría de la veces las chicas se confunden y creen que realmente sólo estamos siendo simpáticas💀 ajhsdhjd I'M NOT TRYING TO BE YOUR BEST FRIEND RN GURL I WANNA KISS YOU
Dated a guy with ears pierced, nailpolish and long bangs and I assumed he was a bit fruity but when we talked about it he said he was straight lmao my gayday was way off
@ThvGguk @Briana Jeongro is Sanghoon's boyfriend. He is very popular online (as is Sanghoon somewhat). Since Jeongro is well known, his fans know of his relationship
It's very interesting to learn about this kind of topic because so many of these "gay signals" were actual signals for queer people back in the days when you couldn't outright say "I'm gay" so it's a part of the culture!
As a transgender man who happens to also be bisexual, I feel like it's silly to automatically assume someone is gay because of the actions they do or things they say. Everyone can have their likes and dislikes no matter who you are. But this is me being me and my opinionated self.
As an openly BI person, I do recognize a lot of these things with gay men. I, myself, do the limp wrist, rolling eyes, skinship touchy feely, and also recognize longer than average eye contact. I have been doing that since as young I have one piercing on my right year only. I also have very long hair. I am very in touch with my feminen side. While I find men very sexually attractive, I lean most toward Asian women. I wound up moving to Korea and I now I am with my fiance (of over 3 years), who is a lovely Korean woman. But, listening and watching this made me chuckle. All of these gentlemen are very handsome and carry themselves well. :)
that Korean guy was sweet, genuine and honest, - he is natural and not feminine :). Von Usa is so big and there are many states that you can't speak for the whole Usa but from the eyes of your state and a small town boy. they are the opinions of your experience which cannot be said to be the whole of Usa. good luck there. Von has changed. looks like a Christmas tree. but his personality is nice. Being authentic and yourself is the best. at the end of the day no one can say for sure who is gay but usually gays are feminine and walking and body language tells a lot who is what but not always. good luck
I’m almost 33. I was a college soccer player. The straight boys were WILD in the locker room. Something about the clothes coming off and being with “the guys.” Free show for me. 😂
In Germany the right ear is also the "gay" ear. I found out about that because my boyfriend really wanted to pierce his ears and he first did the left ear, for this reason, but since the left ear got infected pretty bad he had to take it out and got his right ear piearced instead. He does plan on piercing his left ear again tho and will probably start wearing earrings on both sides then. Also he is actually bi, but since we are together he initially didn't want to provoke to get hit on by guys because of the earing xD
This was fun to watch. All are beautiful, but Von is just gorgeous, I saw him on tiktok a few times. US is more individualistic minded, versus many countries love doing things with friends. It doesn’t have to hold meaning Most of these have shocked me. I didn’t know some of them Sharing airpods? Come on. It is just a device. Earrings and specific placements have been part of many cultures. In ancient turkic cultures earring placement on men had meanings (he is an only son. He is an only child in the family and etc). Skinship is acceptable is considered friendly among same gender friends. Men or women. Depends on the culture too, some cultures are too touchy feely in general.
in the uk guys share airpods all the time especially in school because it meant they were less likely to get caught listening to music and especially here in scotland they would all listen to the exact same music so it would save battery and mobile data
That's why us lesbians struggle a lot :(
We do everything but they think AWW BESTIES
YES THIS THANK YOU
HAHAHAHAHAHA 100% correct
Adoo 😭😂
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Yes there's such a thin line. 🥲
The earring only being on the right side means someone is gay thing came from earlier decades in America when people couldn't be out publicly. It was a sign to other gay people that that person was also gay. My parents told me there was a saying back in the day: "Left is right (meaning correct) and Right is wrong (it's bad to be gay)" Thank goodness we are much more knowledgable now
I remember this in London in the 1970s...
Or you are Italian, i saw a lot of men/teenagers walk around with just one earring i thought they might be a little fruity but europe is a little bit diffrent i guess😅
@@cavibi7781 They're just friends or school mates, generally
My dad is straight had an earring on the right. (In the Netherlands in the 90s) It took him a while to find out why his colleagues always said he was "one of the girls" and other stereotyped comments 😂 He hasn't worn his earring ever since.
@@cavibi7781 either "gay or European" lol love that song
The butt hitting rule is hilarious to me because 90% of the straight (even birderline homophobic) dudes at our school do this and worse (nipple pinching, pretending to kiss, joking about sleeping with each other’s dads). It’s fascinating tbh
Edit: By hilarious, I mean ironic to the point of surreality because so many guys who would actually (probably) perpetrate a hate crime against a gay kid here do things that could be considered actual gay activity, for jokes or not. Idk
Like,, yall sure you aren't gay? Bc you sure do seem to be obsessed with guys,, just saying
@@sylve2474 RIGHT
This is literally the all the football boys from my high school
it's called gay chicken
@@AstridNyx wait... that's sus
It seems like in Korea, skinship is really common amongst friends of the same gender.
In the states, it's usually only girls who do. But even then, it depends on the individuals. I know in my group of friends, we were never touchy-feely. We often hug for greetings and departures, but we've never held hands or kissed each other on the cheeks. I mostly use skinship with my close family members.
@Trinity M what’s your point here? Are you saying they used the term wrong? (They didn’t btw) Or just wanting to point out that you’re better than OP for not using the term like “a Kpop fan who doesn’t know anything”?
Skinship is common between same genders in most of the Asian countries so when I started exploring things about American culture it seemed very weird to me that every skinship is deemed "sus"
When it comes to the U.S., i think it truly does depend on area/environment. My experience is vastly different when it comes to guys & skinship
this is interesting to me because as a european I always saw americans as more affectionate than us. In every teen, high school and "girls" movie they hug, kiss each other's cheeks and say "I love you" easily to friends, but when I did that (because I wanted to be cool like the american movies) my friends were like "ew wtf" and I was called weird
I'm ukrainian, but same, except I can kiss my female friends on the cheek, but not really often 😄 Looking at K-pop idols I've never been so close with my friends in terms of physical contact
I would never think anything of two guys sharing airpods and I'm gay.
Seriously some things they said is quite common in India, it’s just friends.
I think it just depends. Like for someone their age to share AirPods would be questionable but now a days the younger generation seem to be more open to being more affectionate with each other. If someone their age was doing it, I would think aww but if it was someone younger then I’d be like ok they’re just good friends.
And like they said it depends on where you live as well. In the states for someone their age to do it would be a bit different than someone younger or someone from a country where being affectionate between men is normal.
@@junejun8 I am their age and from the states... Guess it's just my perspective.
It's one of those things that could go either way, best friends or romantic. But thinking of it so the latter is cute sometimes.
I'd love to see a lesbian version of this, especially since it's so hard to figure out when a girl likes another girl as more than a friend (for me at least...)
I think the lingering eye contact thing is the same
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ok but they are all so chill and awesome and Von is simply beautiful and so funny
Yes!
thank you!! hopefully they invite us back for more videos! :)
@@vonnvoyaj big ups g
@@vonnvoyaj they 100% should ✨
@@vonnvoyaj oh hi, gorgeous!
I just think it's adorable how the korean guy makes that "x" gesture with his hands everytime he says something like "that's not true" haha. It looks very instinctive too like he does it without thinking and it's just so
I love it when people use their hands to communicate like this :)
yea it's a Korean body language, you'll see it a lot in Korean variety/talk show
Japanese people do the same X thing to say no.
I love Vons energy, he seems like a funny and cool person to be around lol. also he's extremely handsome, God has favorites 😭
lol omg I love you!
I concur! 😍
I think his name is Von
Ikr, he’s such a cutie 🥰
@@vonnvoyaj ✨
As someone who went to a school where like 95% of students are guys, I'm just gonna say that I learned it's basically impossible to tell who's straight and who's not. You'd be surprised how touchy and flirty guys are with each-other, especially if they're all straight.
10:31 YES THIS IS SO REAL. I had a teacher in college that he never looked too much to anyone, but when the hot gay guy that studied with me was in the group this teacher paid so much attention to him that activated my gaydar
So, did they get together? Did the ship sail?
@@subliminalfalllenangel2108 I dont think so, cause the student already had a boyfriend. Also, there was an age gap, teacher in his 40’s and student in his 20’s, but probably it was most because he wasnt single.
El radar Fujoshi jajaja
Would love to see more sanghoon, he is so lovely
His boyfriend Jeongro does a lot of UA-cam lives with friends and lately Sanghoon has tagged along! Look up Namgyu, he does an interview with Sanghoon
@@hoesuccjung7577 ik it, it looked so familiar lol
I I spent the whole video looking at Von, he's so beautiful and handsome at the same time. The smile, cheekbones everything ughh🤧
IKR.
lol daddy chillllll 😂 ❤
His eyes✨
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The good thing I highlight abt men in Korea is that they’re close between them and if they’re openminded they aren’t gonna think if they touch, hug or kiss themselves they have to be “gay”, It’s just that feel comfortable between them. Also it’s good to know that some of the non accepted things they mention among guys are normalized in Korea.✨
Excuse my English, pls correct me if I’m wrong, thx.😅🌹
true but at the same time homophobia is common in korea lol
@@19nope yeh ik…that sucks
I get what you're saying. During my visit to India I saw a lot of guys out and about holding hands, or hugging (like little girls in the playground) but no one gave them another look, except me since I wasn't used to seeing that kind of interaction between straight men.
I remembered a korean variety show were Henry lau from super junior thought that all member of super junior is gay cuz they always hit the butt of each other .haha later on he realized that it's normal in korea
@@19nopeit’s very ironic cuz Korean guys have always been very comfortable with physical contact with one another, and mindful about things like skin care. They were ridiculed as “gay” in the US, not even that long ago. Really shows how close minded and homophobic the US was not so long ago, but never fails to be the first to criticize lmao
8:49 I think its called skinship. In Korea there's pda amongst guys and it's not seen as gay. They are quick to give compliments on appearance if another guy looks nice. Im American and when I first got into kpop I was so confused because I've never seen guys heavy into pda on camera. I would think 2 guys were gay in a group then I would see those guys all over the other guys. Now I realize it's the culture. In America the lines are CLEARLY drawn. Like holding eye contact for 3 seconds means your down for the get down.
I think it’s definitely in the eyes for girls too. I can tell when a girl is just complimenting me or when she’s interested. Their eyes linger more, especially if they start looking at your lips a lot. If it’s just a glance it isn’t a big deal but if you find someone attractive you’re more likely to gaze at their lips often 😊
Didn't expect to see Jeongro's boyfriend here haha...
The content I didn't know I needed but that's actually extremely entertaining and educating
Please do more
Oh, which one is it?
@@kelvinzhang36 the middle one
Who's jeongro
I know right? Like Jeongro, what is your bf doing here XD
whos Jeongro?
8:46 it's called groupism, and there's a lot of social closeness and lack of personal boundaries in many Asian countries like Korea and Japan. Not sure about China, but I'm sure it's similar there because it tends to have a lack of personal space too (population numbers and use of space for housing). I'm still always surprised at my J students (junior high) and how much they touch each other, sometimes the guys sitting on top of each other or hugging each other which is clearly not done in the US as much. Maybe it's more common in the US now?? There's also hitting among J students, even on butts lol.
This is so interesting! I think it possibly also has something to do with how a lot of western countries are very individualistic and promote independence and making something of yourself entirely by yourself and not relying on (or thinking too much about) others, whereas a lot of eastern countries have a more collectivist culture where you rely on others to help you out and in turn are also expected to look after and support others in whatever way, and group cohesion comes above individual needs or wants. There is obviously pros and cons to both cultures but I feel like this could go some way in explaining the differing behaviours.
I’m from America (NY) and it’s not common to be touchy-feely with people. I wish it was. I always get all cringy when people try to hug me.
as a asian american this is split split for me. i'm from myanmar ( burmese ) and with close friends ( from school or non burmese ), i am not at all touchy with. but with my burmese friends and such, i'm very touchy with ; its also normal to smack each others butts and stuff. it's very confusing, i didn't notice this difference until now. with non burmese friends, i would remain my space but with burmese friends we're always bunched up together without a worry or realization and do everything together. it's not like i prefer one over the other so..
My gosh! I’m crushing on our brown king right there. He is so handsome! That face is amazing. And the vibe he’s giving me, very charming.
Thank you so much 😁 😁 that just made my entire day! ❤
@@vonnvoyaju er literally ethereal the way your skin glows my guy is amazing❤
@@Starstruck73 aww that just made my day 🥰
I'm Caribbean-American so when I lived in Cape Verde and saw men walking hand-in-hand on the street, it blew me away. Yet, it felt really good when I tried it after a few months: beautiful energy flow. I think the local guy was actually straight too.
Oh wow! I’m Cape Verdean too!!
@@vonnvoyaj é verdade? I lived in Sal which was more westernized but I saw this behavior in Praia. Love it! I was there for the Peace Corps.
When I went to Africa on a mission trip, groups of both men and women would hold hands walking down the street. The people held my hands too. America is just a very cold, individualistic place. It was very lonely coming back. If I didn't have debt and family worries, I would live abroad.
Que legal, não sabia disso. Aqui no Brasil os homens costumam se abraçar, mas jamais andam de mãos dadas. No máximo, quando são muito amigos, colocam a mão no ombro um dos outros.
@@anonymousperson8259 Which country in Africa though? Cause in my country, that would get eyebrows raising. I don't think that particularly applies to the whole continent
I love y’all’s flow of conversation. It seemed smooth and like everyone had a chance to speak. The respect and lack of interrupting one another was refreshing. Thanks for the content 🤍😊
Weirdly, Asia is generally more conservative with like LBGTQ+ and other issues. But when it comes to friendship between men, a lot of things, i feel like, are more acceptable lol. In indo, my guy friends fixes each other hairs, go to the bathroom, hits butts, plays nipple pinch jokingly lol
Njir..
@@kayosha_p2137 emg enggak? Wkwkwk gw sering nontonin gitu dah
Iyaa sih bener ...
I went into a shop the other day and some young guy complimented me on my T-shirt, I looked back at him and thanked him and our eyes met - yeah, he was interested. It's been a while, but I recognized that look.
I'm older, not looking for a hook-up, or really anything right now, but it made my day.
A lot of communication is exchanged when two gay men's eyes meet.
That's sweet, I do that a lot to people I don't know regardless of their gender. I wouldn't say I am actually interested, but definitely would only compliment people I like in any way.
Von is so beautiful, I can't stop looking at him
Does anyone know von Instagram name 😁
@@belzylucas7275 it's @vonnvoyaj
@@karolinatokarz7197 thanks ❤
and also thank you! ❤
Not that beautiful.....what is everyone talking about????????
Them: Talking about how certain hairstyles could mean someone is gay
Kpop idols: 👁👄👁
being a lesbian I still ask myself stuff like "did she say 'I love you' in a friend way or a gay way" AND IT COULD BE EITHER 😭
I really liked those three together. They all seem so lovely! I want to see more videos with those 3 together. ^^
Omg the blond hair guy seems so kind his soul is so calming
🤗 🤗 thank you! ❤
@@vonnvoyaj omg it's u hhh 😄🥰 I love ur personally plz stay like that 💗 all the love
He hot too
Von is literally the finest man on planet earth 😮💨😍😍😍😍
Stop I’m shy!! Lmao 🙈
@@vonnvoyaj Hey Von, you are cool bro. I like your style. Your voice is amazing too✌️
It is kinda fascinating that most of Korean guy's experience and stereotypes he shared are common in India 🇮🇳 too. Like sharing earpods or going to toilet together or smacking on ass is fairly common. Never thought about those seriously but now that I do. I don't think the earring on only right ear means gay applies on India.
Thanks. This is enlightening. A few of the things they mentioned I had also picked up as a straight person observing gay friends and colleagues before and after they came out so back in the day I would say my gaydar was pretty darn good. Sometimes i can tell even from a video or even a photograph.
Another thing is those who havent come out tend to have limited social media presence to their friends and family (meaning no soc media account or if there is one it is inactive or dead simply because they actually have another secret account where they conduct their secret activities and they tend to post very expicit sexual stuff in them too or meet others using these accounts. There is a network amongst their community and they tend to want to rent houses together or move around job circles using this network. Those who havent come out then to be opaque and vague about their social activities in regular conversations. At work esp in female dominated industry like mine you will find the male bosses hiring attractive younger male subordinates and that is usually an indication if other things isnt yet obvious enough. The checking other guys out, esp lingering eye contact is also a dead giveaway. Even for split second longer as generally straight men never catch each other's eyes nor do they tend to rubberneck other guys on the street. No matter how good looking or well built.
Please invite jeongro and sanghoon together
It's fun to see how things may change depending on where you live
I loved this video, guys were so chill but also funny, Von was so cool too, and a nice theme for today ☺️
I’m glad you loved it! 😁
The random Teemo laughs trough out this entire video keep scaring me, Also the korean guy looks, behaves and talks the least gay, which says alot about american gay people lol, I'm also asian and gay and I'm really not used to the American way of "gay". Visually i wear baggy clothes, have a similar hairstyle as the korean guy and look like your most basic dude out there
Yeah, I Will never know if any of my friends are gay. The Asian way to joke is very different and not at all stereotypical. I always ask, never assume 😅
Jeongro’s bf is so cute 🫣💕 i wanna see them together
Look up Joonyoung, he’s a youtuber and recently did a video with them!
Are we not talking about that they put a pic of "yoo ah in" as a gay haircut resemble 😭😭 btw he is a Part of the community himself (not confirmed but everybody knows that he has a boyfriend)
I know right, I died 😭
And some people continue to believe he’s straight. The heteronormativity is strong in Korea 👊🏼
Von is really God’s favorite. 💕
ya'll are way too kind 😂 but thank you 💞
@@vonnvoyaj WAIT ITS YOU FROM THE VID????
I know the earring thing used to be a sign until like the 90s when it became a fashion thing, and then it became a norm to have both ears pierced..
The "signs" are so cute, definitely the delicate wrist and lingering eye contact cuz that's a pickup line no matter your sex 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
As long as it doesn't cross the line and everyone is in on the joke then I think stereotypes like these can be fun and silly but obviously it doesn't apply to everyone. Funny video:)
lord they ALL LOOK GOOD :( the men you sent for us likes each other not fair lol loved this
Men are so beautiful 🥰 😜
@@vonnvoyaj yes like you I’m jealous of any guy you give a chance 🤣
@@armybby1 lolol
I have a bf
von is such a nice guy to talk to he seems genuine
Almost everything they said is quite normal in Spain, everyone does it. For me is weird to say that depending on how you look like or what you do you are gay or you could be. Here you don't know anything until you ask, because even when you think someone might be lgbtq you could be so wrong
@Trinity M That's most places actually. At the end of the day though, if you're judging whether someone is gay just because they wear skinny jeans, have coloured hair or are affectionate towards other males, then you're an idiot
I think you guys should make this a series of these cause it keeps getting better and I also love this channel for supporting the LGBT people for who they are and have a good day!
LOL I JUST PICTURED the scene in my head: a straight friend going up to him, smacking his buttocks and he stops to say "Do you like it?" Full of pride lol LOVE IT! 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
상훈님 나오는거 진짜 많이 기대했는데 드디어 나오네요 👏👏👏 상훈님 너무 귀여워요
This seem wild to me. Cause even as a bi guy a lot of these seem pretty normal to me and I see it between my straight friends, coworkers, and random people like online and tik tok who identify as straight. But it also depends on the setting. I've been called handsome at like church and stuff, but yeah among friends and peers its more common just to say "you looks good today" or compliment their outfit. Skinny jeans were a huge trend a few years ago and I even had a straight friend trying to get me to buy a pair for myself cause he said I didn't dress in style enough. My pastor even wore them sometimes. They just weren't for me personally. I see straight guys with earings in either ear or both now. I even see straight guys with the one dangly earing and eyebrow piercings. So I font think of it as a sign anymore these days. I don't really pay much attention to peoples bang so I don't have to much of a say in this one. I share headphones with my straight friends all the time tho. And I've seen my straight friends do it with each other, and straight coworkers do it. Pop music could be a bit of a sign like they said if there's a lot of like Arianna Grande, Lady Gaga, or like they claim to be a Barb. But just in general or mixed in with other types of music I don't think its anything particularly gay these days. Now asking a guy to go to the restroom sounds super strange to me and thats the only one on this list I agree with. But not even so much its gay, just more strange. And I can't tell you how many times straight guys have slapped my butt or talked about how big it is since high school and playing sport up to coworkers over a decade later. Some where gay or questioning, but most are straight and its like a joke. One time I even went to my friends party and was meeting his girlfriend for the first time and he squeezed my butt cheeks right in front of her 😂😂
Gen Z bromance confuse me because im not sure if they are gay or just very confident in their sexuallity. At work, i have male co worker whom tease each other flirtatious joking, but all of them have girlfriends.
Sang-hoon & Von are REALLY HANDSOME
This is just a backhanded way to say something about David
@@invalidname.pleasetryagain122 🤦🏻♀️ OMG
1)Von
2) Sang-hoon
3) David
* David also Handsome
The Korean "gay" haircut, Kim Hongjoong had it and I loved so I attempted to cut my hair and regret nothing
The bent wrist got me lol.... then most of my favorite idols are ummm 🫣🫣🫣🤐
the korean man IS FUCKING HOT he should be a model, an idol, or just someone famous so we can see his pretty face more often.
I wish he'll marry a handsome boy in the future an be happy ever after
Just a thing want to say being a bisexual and gay is a different thing. If ur a bi u are interested in both men and women and if any boy is lookin at another boy it doesn't always mean he is gay. And also A boy can love another boy without being called gay and a girl can love another girl without being called lesbian. Love is love and love allows everyone to love. ❤and m also a Bisexual and i respect every gender ❤
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When he said Colorful skinny jeans I knew right away he was talking about how SHINee made the trend of wearing colorful skinny jeans the "it" thing lol
I think American and korean gay culture is totally different this is y lots of Americans and other people r thinking some kpop guys are gays 🤷🏻♀️ i badly want them to watch this ❤️ they explained clearly ❤
About the air pods I think it's because people who are a bit older still think of it as sharing wired earphones instead of bluetooth. That would be more romantic because it's kinda like a literal connection and you gotta stay close and move carefully because of the length of the wire. Aldo it's been used as a romantic thing in pop culture ever since ear phones became a thing
Times have changed a lot. When we had to hide who we are, eye contact or secret smiles we signals. Now I have no idea, been to a gay club and accidentally hit on a straight guy, I was so embarrassed. He was definitely offended.
Uh? Why was he here then? That's why I don't like straight people going to lgbt bar
@@nancym3041 because straight girls and bi girls go to gay clubs so straight guys also go.
this episode is so much funnnnn!! Thank you so much for the sincere sharing!!!
i love this channel💅
the earing one is so true! when my father was a kid in the 80s(Sweden) he got a earing at his dad and when he got home to his mom and showed her she was like, ARE YOU SURE ITS ON THE LEFT NOW!? because it was really seen as gay to have one in the right but really popular in the left, my dad didnt care but he did get it in the left
Nice, fun video to watch. Keep it up guys 🙌 I think it’s very relevant to know the queer culture cultural differences when in different countries. It’s also very interesting to think about them.
This is some quality tea right here; the kind you can pair with a blanket and be super cozy.
Also, I LOVE that they used Teemo's laugh at 5:36. It fits the vibe so well!
It was really meaningful things and interesting stuff to share, thank you! I like it!
A quick correction on your subtitles. To compliment someone is to say something nice to or about that person. To complement is to complete, as in "This new rug really complements the room."
This video is exactly what I need in my life right now.
Loool i'm from the north of Mexico and here the guys who wear skinny jeans are heterosexual, those who wear another cut of jeans are considered gay, it's completely the opposite hahahaha.
The guy with the blonde hair is stunning
you're the sweetest ❤
this makes me feel better, thank you
I think it’s so funny how different our cultures are. We worship individualism here in the US and we look down on people for being intimate with eachother. I’ve always been jealous of Asian cultures because of this. I’m hoping America can graduate to skinship in the future.
10:23 I had this happened to me once too at work. Im not out to my colleagues but I act a little gay sometimes, and this guy (who acts like typical straight handsome popular guy) kept staring at me and inviting me to team dinners and so on. Not to be narcissistic but yeah I’m somewhat forcibly good looking/average looking. But he always compliments pretty girls and checks them out in front of his colleagues. Then one time during a team dinner we sat together and he purposely placed his knee against mine for a good 7-8 minute and throughout the whole time he was throwing glances at me to see my reaction. But Im the type to be extremely shy around my crushes, so I didn’t really react much to it except to leave my leg there so our legs would stay in contact. After that night things didn’t really progress much though he did continue to pay attention to me etc. we were reshuffled into different departments (our company was huge MNC) and we slowly lost contact. 4.5 years later we’re both in different companies now and I still think about him from time to time lol
i'm living only for all the lgbtqia+ content here right now, only thing making me happy these days.. hope it never stops hehe
The American African/Black guy is absolutely GORGEOUS! Definitely the best looking on this panel. WOW!
Aye this really just made my day! Thank you!! 🥰
I love how they can communicate with each other in their own native languages.
Por ésto a las que nos gustan las mujeres sufrimos tanto😭 jajas no tenemos muchas señales conocidas, creo que simplemente intentamos deducirlo de acuerdo a la actitud, o simplemente coqueteamos y si no nos rechazan y nos rompen el corazón entonces ya confirmamos que sí le gustaban las mujeres, pero la mayoría de la veces las chicas se confunden y creen que realmente sólo estamos siendo simpáticas💀 ajhsdhjd
I'M NOT TRYING TO BE YOUR BEST FRIEND RN GURL
I WANNA KISS YOU
9:10 his English is soo cutee omg, love his soothing voice^^💖
김상훈 잘생겼다!!!
어머나
It would be nice if there is a lesbian panel too.
Dated a guy with ears pierced, nailpolish and long bangs and I assumed he was a bit fruity but when we talked about it he said he was straight lmao my gayday was way off
von is so cute and funny😂
🙈 🙈 oh stop
For some reason it did not surprise me that a lot of people tell Von he is handsome.
Love this video 💜 also is that sanghoon jeongro's bf?
Yes
Who is jeongro???
How do you know who his bf is?
@ThvGguk @Briana
Jeongro is Sanghoon's boyfriend. He is very popular online (as is Sanghoon somewhat). Since Jeongro is well known, his fans know of his relationship
@@thesaviour2319 idk really want to know him
Korean boys are encouraged to be actual friends and practice good hygiene and fashion style = gay in America.
It's very interesting to learn about this kind of topic because so many of these "gay signals" were actual signals for queer people back in the days when you couldn't outright say "I'm gay" so it's a part of the culture!
idk how to prase it properly but these looks like the calmest gay 😂 like they look really gentle and soft ...so cute
I partially agree that Korea is a good place for a gay couple, I loved the tips, I can't wait to apply them. SLAAYY sisters
what? Korea is super homophobic
From here, i now understand why some westerners always assume kpop idols to be gay.
We wanna see jeongro with sanghoon next time
This was a nice chat. Interesting things to know. I would not want to make gay friends uncomfortable. Sometimes communication like this helps.
As a transgender man who happens to also be bisexual, I feel like it's silly to automatically assume someone is gay because of the actions they do or things they say. Everyone can have their likes and dislikes no matter who you are. But this is me being me and my opinionated self.
As an openly BI person, I do recognize a lot of these things with gay men. I, myself, do the limp wrist, rolling eyes, skinship touchy feely, and also recognize longer than average eye contact. I have been doing that since as young I have one piercing on my right year only. I also have very long hair. I am very in touch with my feminen side.
While I find men very sexually attractive, I lean most toward Asian women. I wound up moving to Korea and I now I am with my fiance (of over 3 years), who is a lovely Korean woman. But, listening and watching this made me chuckle. All of these gentlemen are very handsome and carry themselves well. :)
that Korean guy was sweet, genuine and honest, - he is natural and not feminine :). Von Usa is so big and there are many states that you can't speak for the whole Usa but from the eyes of your state and a small town boy. they are the opinions of your experience which cannot be said to be the whole of Usa. good luck there. Von has changed. looks like a Christmas tree. but his personality is nice. Being authentic and yourself is the best. at the end of the day no one can say for sure who is gay but usually gays are feminine and walking and body language tells a lot who is what but not always. good luck
I’m almost 33. I was a college soccer player. The straight boys were WILD in the locker room. Something about the clothes coming off and being with “the guys.” Free show for me. 😂
"Free show for me" 💀😂
Saw sanghoon on thumbnail??? Omggg i was shocked 😂
In Germany the right ear is also the "gay" ear. I found out about that because my boyfriend really wanted to pierce his ears and he first did the left ear, for this reason, but since the left ear got infected pretty bad he had to take it out and got his right ear piearced instead. He does plan on piercing his left ear again tho and will probably start wearing earrings on both sides then. Also he is actually bi, but since we are together he initially didn't want to provoke to get hit on by guys because of the earing xD
Ok Sang hoon is the cutest 🥰
This was fun to watch. All are beautiful, but Von is just gorgeous, I saw him on tiktok a few times.
US is more individualistic minded, versus many countries love doing things with friends. It doesn’t have to hold meaning
Most of these have shocked me. I didn’t know some of them
Sharing airpods? Come on. It is just a device.
Earrings and specific placements have been part of many cultures. In ancient turkic cultures earring placement on men had meanings (he is an only son. He is an only child in the family and etc).
Skinship is acceptable is considered friendly among same gender friends. Men or women. Depends on the culture too, some cultures are too touchy feely in general.
you guys are awesome!
in the uk guys share airpods all the time especially in school because it meant they were less likely to get caught listening to music and especially here in scotland they would all listen to the exact same music so it would save battery and mobile data
Wow sanghoon! Nice to see him here. Please appear more often.
Now I know what he means by he looks tall when sitting down.
Why r they all so perfectly beautiful??😢😢